Muhammad West – Youth Khutbah 3

Muhammad West
AI: Summary © The importance of being a good father and mother is crucial to success in life, and the need for a culture of good behavior for children is crucial. The speakers discuss the negative impact of missing a father and the importance of finding a father to support one's children. They also touch on the importance of protecting children from harm and finding one's own success in public life. The importance of learning the title and its use in various fields is emphasized, and a news update is provided on a class inros for children.
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Oh we live in a shed on the regular man Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala I should have been more discerning inside Nam Hammond wider early he was a big man, my beloved brothers and sisters in Islam as Salaam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

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or president to Allah subhana wa Tada and a shadow Allah Allah Allah Allah we witnessed that man has the right to be worshipped besides Allah subhanaw taala We ask Allah to bless us in His work of Jamar to forgive us for the shortcomings that we've done this week. May Allah guide us into the week to come. Allah bless this OMA bless our parents, our our children and all those who are going through hardship and oppression May Allah make it easy for them. We ask Allah subhanaw taala to convey our greeting so beloved Nabi Muhammad so Salam, that our love and our Salutations be upon him and upon his pious and pure family, upon his companions and all those who follow his sunnah until

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the end of time. May Allah bless us to be steadfast in the Sunnah of Nabil, Mohammed is also loving this dunya and grant us to be in his companionship and gentle filled dose. Meanwhile, hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah. We continue and will conclude this week on the series, this miniseries, if you will, on on youth, but more so in terms of parenting, and like all of us here we have doctors, lawyers, accountants, engineers, artisans, whatever it might be, but the most difficult and perhaps the job that scares us the most is being a father and a mother. Ultimately, we wonder we think, how will we, you know, do this job and the this child that Allah these children that Allah has entrusted in us,

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upon us, what would we do? How will we perform? And Subhan Allah Allah gives a parable about this in the Quran about a person who has lots of wealth and Allah says, look to how you conduct yourself in terms of charity, because what good is your wealth? If you you leave behind you leave children of the week that are children that are not cared for? Allah subhanaw taala says, you know, ultimately, success for all of us. What is a successful life when we get towards the end of our life? It does. You know what goodwill our material gains be the countries we visited the holidays, we've had the cause we've driven if we look at our kids, and we feel disappointment, if we look at our kids and we

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feel we failed as parents went to what what happiness is that? Were Subhanallah a man that doesn't have much financially but he looks at his children. He says Masha Allah, they've grown up, they are, you know, on the deen, they are steadfast, they're good people, they are secure, we've done our job, we can be no greater pleasure than that. Subhan Allah Subhan Allah bless us as parents, great Amana. And we many of us, some of you are even prepared, you were surprised when you became a parent. And, and this is we don't get training for this. So Allah subhanaw taala has entrusted this in us. And we learn so we spoke about dads last week, we spoke about some of the great dads in the Quran, and from

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the great dads from the Gambia. And it's something that I reiterate again and again and again, for us in this in our country, specifically in South Africa. Many kids here, they grow up without a father figure, or a father figure, a male figure that they can look up to. And we see the detrimental impact on our society. And we should ask ourselves, are we good examples for our kids? If and I hope all of you are playing an active role in your kids lives. That even if and we didn't touch on this and something maybe we should talk about for a few minutes. You might even have a situation where you are divorced. And you don't see your kids every day as a normal couple that is

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married. How do you play a role in that life of that child, you should select Nabi Ibrahim, he's not there every single day or so salaam, but you must still be the role model of that child, that child must look up to you and say, Look, I want to be like my dad, my dad has left something good. And you see this people that had good father figures or grandfather figures, they will tell you the little life lessons that they've learned from them and how you know, the people that we are is from these, you know, you know, examples that we learned a conversation that we had from our dead we spoke about Imam Rahim Allah, you know, when he's kids speak to me about the legacy he lived in them as, as

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children. It's amazing Subhanallah and I myself, you know, I take my own grandfather as someone that I didn't look up to. And you learn so much from these people more than books more than lectures by ants from Imams, and therefore you, me, we all should should be those inspiring father figures to our kids. I hope one day I'll have insha Allah and I pray Allah that when our kids grow up, they can look back and think you know, I had a good dad. My dad taught me this when life gets difficult for them and life is gonna get difficult for my kids and your kids. They will think what would dad do now? Even if he's not around, I can ask pick up the phone. But you know, he left me with the tools I

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needed to get through this. So be good role models for your kids speedy and, and we said Subhanallah This is the biggest issue. Being an absentee father is the biggest one of the biggest problems that we have. And I get so many phone calls. And I'm not a very active imam in terms of marine work. I wish I could do more but I get so

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many phone calls about sisters whose want to know what is the responsibility of a father. He's not home, we've gotten divorced, I don't see him. Just from a financial side. What? This, it's so sad that we have this big issue about fathers moving on not worrying about the kids. And we are left with a community being raised by single mothers or even grandparents, even so, even if you find yourself, you're listening to this lecture, and you're a mom, that is raising kids all by yourself, and sometimes even those of you are married, and your husband is home every single day, sometimes it feels I'm raising these kids over myself. That's an exaggeration. Sometimes, they will say, you

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know, some mothers will say, if the husband was worth I'd be raising an additional child. Right. So it's better that I don't have this husband. Yeah. Right. It's okay to make those jokes, right. But the other way we can't make the jokes, this gender bias things. We can't make it the other way around. Now, hamdulillah sisters, if you have a husband that sees to the financial needs of the family, he comes home, and he's He's present. Take this as a great blessing. And if you grew up in that environment, you might have never said Al Hamdulillah Allah, they come home and have a mom and dad at the house. Alhamdulillah you are in the you're the lucky few that have that. But if you don't

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live in a household where you have a dad everyday, or you are a mom, but you're raising a child by yourself, what guidance is the Quran speaks about so many different family structures. It speaks about a situation where you have a wonderful father, but a horrible mother. Nobody know. Maybe you have a situation where you have a horrible father, a horrible male figure, but a wonderful mother. RCFE don't. You have a situation we very close with your dad and Abby Yaqoob you have another situation you very close with a mother Mariama, Lisa, salaam, Debbie Issa, you have some situations where you have no parents, prophets of Salaam, orphans. And Allah gives you guidance in every

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situation, every relationship, there is advice. Allah gives you an example of two wonderful brothers, Musa and Harun and other brothers who want to kill you. It'd be useful for so salaam, Cain and Abel. So you have these examples that everyone's sitting here. We have different family structures and these advice in the Quran. So today we're going to dedicate this lecture to being to the single mothers, I don't want the brothers here to tune out. I don't want you to tune out here and say, Look, you know, I'm home. So this doesn't apply to me and my wife, no, listen to these, these amazing mothers. And it's amazing how many of the greatest people in the history of this world

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were raised by single mothers we set up the president the five greatest Gambia Nabi Musa NaVi Brahim is that was a bad father figure. Nabi Musa didn't have a father figure, really, maybe isa didn't have a father, that'd be Mohammed Al Salam was an orphan. So these great men, they became great men without having you could say a paternal father figure, and they looked up to that they could turn to for guidance. And so they were raised up. So if you are listening to this lecture, and you don't have a father, you don't know what your dad is, or your relationship with your dad is estranged. This does not mean it's an excuse for you to go back in life for you to give up for you to fall by

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the wayside. Great men overcame this and we'll talk more specifically about some of the great scholars in Islam were inspired by the mothers. So let's look at the supermoms from the Quran. Firstly, we speak about Nabi Musa alayhis salam, so we all know we don't hear of Nabi Musa is dead. We know that in the most difficult time when he was at the most vulnerable when the soldiers were coming to look for these babies. You know, the policy of Iran was any newly born child from the bunnies or ill, they were to be executed those firearms policy and we don't know if you know we have Nabi Musa dad was so you imagine a mother with two older, she has two kids, she has a daughter, she

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has a son, and now she has his baby Musa a newborn baby and she doesn't know what to do. She doesn't have a man she can say help me we in the states and she needs to make do with in a difficult situation, how many single mothers are out there, not knowing where the next meal is going to come tomorrow, not knowing if I will have a roof over my head tomorrow. Knowing that there's danger around the corner for my kids things out of my control. All I can do is what can I do is offer love and protection to these to this to the children I have and turn to Allah. So in her desperation, the single mom this mother, that's all alone. All she can do is put a faith in Allah and Allah subhana

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wa Tada the advice the message, you turn to Allah, the theme, you're going to see a turn to Allah put your faith in him, do what you can do, and Allah will take care of the rest. As parents that's the theme we need to live by. You talk to parents and this and we all have the same feeling. I can't keep them wrapped up in a blanket and keep them locked in the house forever. We have to let go. Let them sit up. How do I know that they're going to be safe?

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The best you can do is like so take from Nabi Musa, mother or

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she could do she had no other option, but to let go and leave the kids in the hands of Allah,

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you do your part, you be the example and teach and protect them as much as you can. But then Allah will come a time Allah will say to you, is a time when you need to let go, you need to leave them and she putting moosari syrup in the river is even perhaps it's more dangerous for us now just to send them in the road. We'd rather put our kids in the river, it's safer than the environment, the jungle that we have out there. All we can do is protect them to a certain degree and then we let them go and Allah Subhana Allah said to me Musa is mother inspired in her, put him in the river, and do not feel sad, well, that has any Latta Hafi what that does any parents do your best. Put your

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faith in Allah and don't feel scared, and don't feel about it. Leave them part of Tawakkol is to believe in Allah subhanho wa Taala and make your DUA, ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada will be there and protect them. So we have one mother who protected Musa by letting go of him. And then of course we see we don't fit on his wife as he finds him. And now he's in a very dangerous position. Pharaoh knows this is not from the,

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from the from the Egyptian race, this is a bunny so I could see from the features. And then we know in another Surah

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actually salon was abused and she was scared of it. And she was in an abusive relationship. You think a man that kills children by the day is gonna come home and be all sweet and loving to the wife. We know the worst you are. Side note here, the worst side of us comes out with the people we are closest with our wives know, the worst of the worst in us screw. And that's where the inefficiencies, the man who's best to his wife is the one of the best about why it's easy for me to be nice and kind with my co workers at work. It's easy for me to be nice with friends and family. But when it's when I'm miserable, and I'm at my worst, and I can still be a good person to my wife,

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that requires a great level of luck. So can you imagine a man like your own who is horrible publicly? What is like in private? Most of us, our private life is worse than our public life. And that's if that's the case, may Allah protect us is not a good thing. So as here we know she makes us do i in the Quran. She says, Oh Allah save me, of me feed our family. He saved me from throne and he what he's doing and the evil of Iran, meaning she is in an abusive relationship. Yes, she has this boy and she's the only one that can protect this child. And she has the courage when she goes through to frown. She walks in and she says to him, don't kill this child. You're not gonna kill

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this child. She had the courage to speak up. As parents SubhanAllah. And single mothers in particular. You don't have a male figure to depend on. You don't have someone. Usually the dad is the one that predicts this is just normal human nature. The father is the one that protects but now you live in an environment you live in a society where your kids are faced with so many dangers, even perhaps physical dangers. It's your job to stand up and protect your kids. Think of Osiris Salam that goes to fit own and say SIS to the really the one of the worst people as Allah says if it only will be in a Shatila. He'll be in the lowest split one of the biggest criminals of all time.

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She says to him, you're not going to kill this child. No matter what you do and how you do but I won't allow you to harm him. And she says he will be brings me happiness, maybe it'll bring you happiness. And so Allah subhanaw taala used ICRS Salam, as a means to protect her children. This adopted child, that'd be Musa alayhis salam. Now what we learned from these two women, the one protects Musa by letting him go. The other one protects him by being there and keeping him and you as a parent, you're in a different stage in your life. If you have young kids, you have to protect them by keeping them and as you get older, perhaps the best way to show your love is to let them go.

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And Islam is showing this in this two examples. And the way they've raised him so let me Musa is a very strange upbringing, because Allah returns in his mom would still come regularly to breastfeed. His mom became Nabi Musa nanny because Allah made it such that no other woman could breastfeed him he would only drink from the nanny, we didn't know this was really his mother. But he grew up in the kind of man he grew up so this is success. If you want to know what a good child looks like when they're a teenager, Allah says Allah ma should know who was stellar when Musa grew up and he was a tall person being told is not one of the success we just happen to be Musa was tall, so even if you

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show it, it's fine to you now who took Manuela that we gave him hikma, hikma year, usually the wisdom but it refers to the ability D to deal with people. hikma you don't have to be booksmart have degrees to have hikma. You don't have to be an old man to get hikma hikma is how you deal with your friends, your colleagues, you teach us basic human etiquette Allah pointed Musa what made him a good person is he had a ticket when it came to people were ill. And on top of that, yes, he had knowledge. On top of that he was an educated person and all

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also workaholic magazine works in in and this is how we reward good people. One way of looking at it Yes, Musa was a good person. So Allah made him grow up to be a good man. Another way is his parents were good people. And so Allah rewarded them by giving the child to grow up a good person. And we know the kind of man he was. So if we're not going to talk about these miracles, and I mean Musa in detail have done that. But we know of Nabi Musa, the next ayah, Allah speaks about how he would go out quietly, and he would look for people who are being oppressed by fear, he couldn't publicly help them. So you will look for a man that was struggling to lift something, and he would go and help

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them, you would look for someone that was hungry, and you would feed them. Now this kind of learning, where did he get this from? He didn't get this on their own. Of course, he got this from his, his adopted mother Asya. And his mother, that was this nanny, and he learned he learned it being in the palace. Sometimes, you know, our situation, we look at our situation, and we think, How can I get out of this? Sometimes you're in a, you know, socially a bad situation, you come from a gang ridden area, and you think, how am I going to get out of this go to university be make something of myself? The other thing could also be true, how can I come from a very privileged

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position, and B, a human being that loves and cares for the poor, that loves and cares for the orphan that feels for the next person, the only way is to bring you down to that level, that Asya must have taken him and told him this is where you really come from. And that's all your privilege. You can either be like your stepdad frown, or you could be someone else. She introduced him to the different lives, the different parts in life, and be Musa al salaam from a very young age. He had this inside of him, of giving back to the community. That's why we said this, when he will, how many times we meet in the story. He comes in, he finds these two young girls, he doesn't even ask for

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anything, just the manliness in him. I find two women that are in distress, I need to help them. That's just who I am. I see someone in danger, someone that needs someone that needs help. That's who I am. I help someone. If we raise our kids like that Allah says this is what a good person is not how much they have to make, if that's good, also, not how many A's you get on your exam. But Allah first is hokhmah how he deals with people. That is success. Another example of a wonderful singer, a mother. And as we said, It's perhaps more difficult to raise daughters. It becomes more tricky and here, the soma tang of knobby knobby II says grandmother, the reasons grandmother, Elisa,

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Saddam, the wife of Imran she really really wanted a child and Allah had not given her child yet and so she made this deal with Allah, Ya Allah. If you blessed me with a child and you will be a boy. Then he will be in your service. I will donate him to the masjid and you will become insha Allah and Abby. This was a three it's called an impromptu Imran, when the wife of Imran is wrapped up in in la cama freebook, nimbahera, Muharram, photocurable mini I have made another means I have promised this child in my belly for you, this will be your sadaqa.

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So for them, what the attire and then when she gave birth, she found that this was not a boy, it's a girl. I mean, she says that the lace of the Kuru Calhoun, and the boy is not like the girl. She didn't say the girl is not like the boy she said, The boy is not like a girl meaning one way of looking at the month of series for a girl to excel is a bit more difficult. There are more challenges for the female in life than for a boy and the things that Diems that I had for my son. To achieve that to be a leader and to inspire and to to work for bunnies or even in your service is a bit more difficult for a girl. But Allah says and I accepted still, Allah says I accepted Miriam,

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she will achieve all of those things and more that Allah shows in Meriam that those ambitions we have for our sons, we can have those ambitions for our girls, doesn't mean it's exactly the same, doesn't mean we don't believe that. We are the same equality is not meaning exactly the same. So here we have a mom that raises Maryam to be someone that will lead someone that will be an example for all the nations and in fact, Allah accepted her meaning Maria winked and loved and spent time in the masjid. She lived there until Allah Subhana Allah blessed her with the visa and this dua is very powerful. Yeah. So the dua of Medina ve says grandmother, she says yeah, Allah, I asked you to

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protect her. The this is the dua we usually when we do the Duke Power here in Cape Town, this is the dua we do when we do the deposit part of the Sunnah. She says we're in Nisa made to her Miriam she says yeah, Allah I've given her the name of Madame we're in New York either ha. And I asked her have you here Allah to protect her bicker with you? Well do reata her and protect all her children, her children, I'm gonna shape on the regime from shape on and Allah says Allah accepted this dua that Allah keep Maryam safe and her offspring now who's her offspring? Isa is the power of this dua of this granny. The DUA of this granny is

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so powerful that it's safeguarded, Maryam, and Nabi Isa is this is something which you will find so many times comes up the dua of parents, the most powerful, one of the most powerful dollars that the DUA that is never rejected the dua of the parent for the children and the children for the parents.

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We should always have the least we can do is continuously make dua for our kids and make dua for our parents, especially if our parents have passed away. They can make dua for themselves anymore, continue to make dua for them. I always think about this, that imagine you have a grandparent or a parent that's in the cupboard, and you make dua for them, and they see the atmosphere of the cupboard improving. If they're being rewarded, that reward is increasing. If it's a light, it's even getting more light, and they will have a scene. So this is my son, my daughter, making dua for me. That's the added joy of the pleasure of knowing that my kids still remember me. May Allah bless him,

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Allah have mercy on those in the public. And Allah bless our parents that are alive, those who are with us and Allah keep them there and our kids as well. Just the power of this dua, this grandmother, and then of course, we won't go into detail about Maryam and of course, she's the greatest of all women. But what must have been like, I want you to picture this, this girl who's living your whole life in the masjid, who comes from a family of Zambia, all male relatives are like prophets, you know, and yet she comes with a child

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without a husband, and she has to raise this child all on her own. All he says is his mom. And we know what Naboo isa come when he grows up to be, perhaps the most the, as they mentioned, the most loved personality on Earth is Jesus Christ. No more than half the world's population reveals this man. And he was raised, as we know, exclusively by a lady by a woman by a woman, this leadership that he had he and what he learned is from his mother, and it's amazing to think, as we said, maybe ISA is salaam, his qualities of affection of softness of Kay, he learned that from his mother, he learned that from his mother, moving outside of the Quran, the amazing stories, sometimes when we

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talk about the Quranic personalities, we feel well how can I be like Maryam? How can I be like maybe this and maybe that it's possible I'm just a human being. Let's talk about the real people of the great Imams. The Four Great Imams of the modality of Imam Abu Hanifa Imam Malik Imam Shafi him and how many 103 of them were inspired by the mothers? Let's start with Imam Malik Malik Rahim Allah.

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Something know about Imam Malik of all the four imams in fact, many of the scholars few of the scholars reached the kind of fame and the kind of prestige as Imam Malik achieved his life in his lifetime. He was the undisputed king amongst all the scholars. If you ask anyone in Spain all the way for China, who is the greatest scholar on Earth, they will say Malik Malik is the man that the Khalifa in Baghdad when the baskets if he needed something, you would ask Mr. Malik a personal question. And if it really required assistance, they would many years the private person that this the Khalifa would ask for advice. And if the Khalifa needed something in person, he knew the policy

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Mr. Malik says too many many Hadith says I don't travel to meet kings. Kings come to knowledge so you come to Medina and the Khalifa is and these hottie first didn't know they ruled the world. This is the most powerful man on earth. In mathematics. I never leave Medina I only leave Medina to go to Mecca for Hajj and that's it if you want anything from me, you come to my class and this is the Khalifa is did that Imam Malik was so great that when he finished compiling his book,

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which really is the foundation of Imam Bukhari sahih every hadith of Imam Malik isn't so hurry. The Khalifa said, allow me Aruna Rashid said allow me to hang this book as the cloak of the Kaaba, meaning will please publish this book on the Kaaba and everyone in the Ummah must follow your map, this will be the map of the Ummah and your marriage is no don't do that. Because there are other modalities as well. And the is, you know, don't get restricted just to one. We don't want to be Maliki, the other allowances in that so this woman understand who this man was, that if we were to list the top 10 scholars of all time, from the beginning until now, you America will be top 10 top

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five, top three maybe in terms of what he's achieved. How did he get the chapter one of Imam Malik story? Imam Malik as we said his father was a scholar in Medina. He lived in Medina his whole life and Medina, there were many great chefs and Adams is that was an alum. And his older brother was following in the footsteps of that. And then he had his youngest son Malik. Now Mr. Malik's personality was one

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he was very strong willed. He was very rebellious, Mr. Malik love to to be entertained. In fact, he liked to dress nice as a young boy, you're still a young young kid, and you like to wear nice clothes, and he loves spending time with the entertainers and the musicians. So now you have daddy who's the chef and that is forcing his kids you must follow in the family law.

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And the older brother follows you know, the older brother pleases the father. And he follows in the tradition is successful. You know, Malik is not interested. And his father eventually sort of gave up on this Malik and he says, You know what? You want to really become anything in life, you're really not going to be amount to anything, you're playful, you're rebellious. You just carry on. The mom had something else in mind. Imam Malik tells us of his first introduction to knowledge, how did he start learning, his mother saw this nature of his other son, and he needed to be inspired in a different way, harsh words, it's not going to work. Arguing lectures, not gonna work, we must be

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another way to harness this child's skills. So Imam Malik says my mom took me to the shop, she bought me a very expensive turban, nice expensive clothing that only the scholars would weigh. So he dressed me up like a small ship. And then she took me to the masjid. Now, interestingly, this lady must have known all the scholars in Medina, and Imam Malik said she chose one specific scholar, his name was not the most famous of scholars. But there'll be a side note, also raised by a single mum, there'll be a district where there'll be a quickly Imam Malik's teacher Robbia. His dad left before he was even born. In fact, the lobbyists that didn't even know she is mom was pregnant. And he left

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some money and he left he comes back 2030 years later to the house. And he comes to the wife all these years follow Where you've been Where you've been? And he says, I got busy. Yeah. And they whatever. And they get into talk. And then after a few, you know, you know, after making up, he says to the wife, where's that money I left you. And if you have a credit card, you still have the credit card or how much money money's gone. So she says she doesn't know how to say this to him because he still sells her husband, federal, go to Nigeria, nubbly sit in a certain spot. Wait, listen to the lecture and come back and tell me what you think. And so he does this. He says he sees this young

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man is giving a lecture powerful by a man when he learned he comes back home. And so she says when you come back, I'll tell you where your money is. So Robbie, as dad comes back. Okay, so where's the money since that boy is your son Robbie. And I basically used up all your money to educate him. That is your investment. And that was that's the case I'm happy. So this is an idea raised also by a single mom. And so Imam Malik's mom chose that I'll be even Malik before he quotes from the Nabisco Salem as hadith is Hadith scholar. He gives this powerful lesson his mother told him his mother says to him Malik when you sit in the company of Robbia, before you take from his knowledge, take from

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his other take from his character learn from Robbia he is his character. And this man inspires Imam Malik as we seek to become the great Imam Malik. His dad, as we said was not his in his influence. It was his mom that understood this rebellious nature. He needs to be felt.

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Big Imam Malik had this very strong self

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image of himself. As we said he wanted to dress well, he actually had a good voice. He wanted to be a singer at some point in his life. So she made him feel special. And she gave him responsibility. She gave him leeway and freedom and then chose a good teacher that she knew suited her son. This teacher is going to work for my son and men that Subhanallah the beginning of his studies, the turning point in his life was his mother. The mother of young Shafi Rahim, Allah, Musharraf, he was an orphan.

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He put his dad passed away before he was even born. He lived in Gaza was from Gaza and Palestine, and Imam Shafi is mum, as, as the books of history mentioned, it's a very beautiful woman. She had lots of proposals. But she's immediately after her husband had passed away, and she gave birth to the Son, she made it she made the decision in her mind that my contribution to this dunya will be this child, I'm going to invest every minute I have for this child, my project in life is going to be this child of mine. They were extremely poor. And she thought to herself, what do I want this child to grow up one day, and she's been she felt I want him to grow up to be a scholar. The hodza

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was not the place of learning. Makkah was the place of learning. And so she picks up leaves. Now already, she's a single mom. She's already in difficult situations, she leaves her family as well. And she goes to Makkah, and she wants to enroll Imam Malik around the Imam Shafi in the scholarly centers of learning this is think of a university. But this is Mecca, the center of learning of Islamic sciences, you can't just get in the end there's a fee, you have to pay something's Viola, you must pay for your Islamic learning as well. I'd say you have to pay even though I'm Shafia, to pay to learn Islamic knowledge, but to get in there, he couldn't afford it. Now how many single

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mothers you want to give your kids I take this panel, you want to give your kids a better life and you understand that education is the tool to transform you that if I give my kids the education, they will go a step further than I could do. Allah has said this in the Quran that he raises people up yet we live in a time

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I know there are those who believe well I've been alternating with Raja Allah says I raise up two people two types of people get elevated in this world, people have Iman and people have knowledge even a person without Iman but has knowledge. He gets raised up in this dunya. So in my mind, Imam Shafi is mom understood if I can give this boy of mine a quality education, he can become something special, but she didn't have money. So she goes to the ships of the haram. The Mufti is the big Imams, and the only thing she can really bargain with. She says, you know the son of mine, and it's true, he's a Hashimi, meaning he's from the descendants of the prophets of Salaam. And when the

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Imams heard that said, How can I deprive the prophets of Salaam is great, great, great, great grandchild from learning the knowledge that we learned from the prophets of Salaam, every Imams, how can I turn away a descendant of the prophets of Salaam. So he was allowed to sit in the classes just by his name, his lineage. So even his father wasn't around. His father gave him something that allowed him to learn and then of course, we know Imam Shafi would grow up in the sky and quickly quickly had a photographic memory. He quickly rose in the ranks to become the most well known student in the Haram. This these teachers would say, when we wanted to cry in Salah, we will put

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Shafi in front he would recite the Quran when he lived in Salah, incited in a way that made us cry. And so Imam Shafi as he you know, his mum was his great inspiration. His mom was the one that didn't pressurize him, but told him that you know, through learning, you can you can become something great. And when he decided when I was a teenager, he had really passed all the courses in the Haram. He wanted to learn at the feet of the greatest scholar in the world, which was Imam Malik. And so Imam Shafi goes all goes to Medina and the Imam the Mufti of Marquez to write a letter saying please Malik I know you don't let anyone into your classes you need to have the highest of people only in

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only it's like a Ph. D class. Let this young boy Shafi into the into your class, and so Imam Malik allowed Imam Shafi to be in his class. Our next email Imam Muhammad Ali humble. His mother wasn't a great scholar wasn't someone who knew much knowledge like Imam Shafi. His mother didn't have the name, the name of Allah debate to put forward same story father dies before he's born, very, very poor family in Iraq, and Imam Muhammad.

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If we look at the end, Imam Muhammad, let's look into what he becomes and how his mother impacted his life. Even Ahmed is known for a number of things. Number one, he is the founder of the hamady

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humbly method, but more than that, he's a great scholar of Hadith. In fact, his book of hadith is perhaps the biggest one, the more Hadith and all the other if you put all the books together the six books of Hadith together, his book is even more compiled a lot of Hadith before Buhari,

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but he's not known only for that. What he's known for is he stood alone against the Khalifa when they want to change, not the Quran they called the Quran the creation of Allah. This was a new, the Khalifa change the thinking of the Ummah, the Khalifa, wanted to impose upon the whole Ummah, that you must say the Quran is a created thing, and not the words of Allah. And Imam Ahmed understood if we say this, anything that is created, is open to change, that this is the first step to changing the Quran. The minute we say the Quran isn't divine, it is a it's a creation. It's the first step. And every single scholar basically gave into the Khalifa either by force. And we know this upon how

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many places in the world now scholars can say what they want to say, but either locked up or they forced to say from the member where they don't believe the only man who stands up and says I don't care who you are, you can hit me in prison me. I will not I will not bend I will not break no matter how much pressure you put on me. I will not break away. Did he learn this? He got this from his mom, because he mentions when he grew up. They were so desperately poor. And his mom could ask for assistance she had in law she could ask, but she refused to ever ask for help. And she refused to ever allow her son to act like a victim. Yes, you don't have a dad? Yes, you live in the worst

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suburb in Baghdad. Yes, you don't have the money that other kids have. But you will go to school, and you will excel in your school. And if we don't have something to eat tonight, Alhamdulillah tomorrow we find something you would say that we would go you know, my mom had this thing she never allowed me to be like a victim. We would I would have to go to you know when the the fruit sellers or the guys were selling the wheat when they leave for the day. There's some things on the floor. Right? So you'd pick up those things and bring it home. That was okay, but you would never allow him to ask for handouts. Never allow him to be the victim in the class because of his situation. And

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this would serve him well. But what Imam Muhammad had that the other scholars didn't have.

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Allah Subhana Allah makes it to acquire knowledge requires effort and sometimes an obstacle comes before you. And Lisa means is this is too much for me and that's how far they go. Even Mohammed would go beyond what others could

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due, for example, he would say, I made the intention I want to learn. I've now have learned off all the scholars in Baghdad, I want to learn in Makkah, I'd never come. How am I going to get the so I decided I'm going to walk to Makkah. We walked from Iraq to my cases, five times in my life. I went on Hajj to Mecca, three of them walking, never come up. So I'm gonna walk Allah. Now, this kind of determination, this kind of never give in attitude. He didn't really learn this from the Imams, the scholars and the chefs. He learned this from his mom, that he would say, if my mom said something, that was it, I knew this is how it's gonna go. Mom was very, very strict. Mom used to hit him. His

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mom was and sometimes single parents.

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Sometimes single moms in particular, very, very strict, because you have to be mom and dad together, you have to love and be strict and stern. But it's possible. It's, you know, with everything going against you. These mothers have raised great kids, the loss of our mothers that I want to mention. And as Ron Allah, put myself, you put yourself in the situation, you have, that you have, sometimes you feel you've been given a road deal. You have a woman with a number of kids husband has passed away. The newest, the youngest, the newborn baby is blind, disabled. You imagine what will become of this child? So many times you hear kids, teachers say that learning disability, autism, whatever it

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might be so many new things that come up today. And automatically we feel that they will be limited in life, but they're not going to be amount too much. They will always be a handicap, they will always be disabled. So you have this lady who has a very difficult situation on her. Now she must have been a lady of Kurama she must have been someone very, very close to Allah. Because Imam Bukhari tells us that she was a woman that was deeply she was RB that she was a worshipper of Allah meaning fasting, praying. And when she saw that she had the son that was disabled, didn't deter her. She continuously made to understand a few weeks ago, this was years. Biharis was born was blind. For

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many years years, he was blind, and his mom would make dua that he will get his sight back and he will be something special and he will not be disabled, he will be something in the Ummah and he will do something great. And so happen Subhan Allah before Mrs.

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mahadi misses the biographies well known

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is a mom of the years of dua, she got a dream that Allah had said she saw Nabi Brahim in the DUA, Allah will return the sight of your son and he will grow up to be someone very special. And so we know Imam pod is site returned. And he is now as we know the greatest scholar of Hadith. You know, when you say it is authenticated by Buhari, what he did and what he achieved, is a service to the Ummah, that we cannot replicate and he cannot repay. You remember how the Rahim Allah

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would go on to authenticate

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to such a degree, that no scholar before him is contributed as much to the science of it that we know now the life of the prophet Salam has been preserved for many many generations about him that the things that he did just supernatural almost almost unbelievable. almost unbelievable. He comes to Baghdad, people couldn't believe a man could memorize Hadith to that extent. So they recite to you 100 Hadith all of them have a small years it once they said we're going to recite 100 Hadith to you and you tell us if you heard this hadith before and they it's well known Hadith Hadith that we all know but they changed the name so you know how a hadith is Mohammed heard from Solomon who heard

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from Mohammed who heard from zubaid who heard from the Prophet SAW Allah said really actions by intention. So you have five six names and then the Hadith so they recite 100 Hadith to him each time he says I haven't heard this hadith I haven't heard this and it's a well known Hadith and it's in public people's one love the Greek chicken party he doesn't know enough to be near the best of you are those who love the Quran and teach the Quran from these are so easy Hadith doesn't even doesn't you know it? How can't you know it after years, the hundreds Hadith one time, he says, If I can go through each one with a problem in this hadith, you said Ahmed, really it was Muhammad. As for this

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hadith, you you mix this name first and that name second. Even the guy who Imam Hugill who explains the Hadees book. He says it isn't amazing that Heidi knew these 100 How do you expect the scholar to memorize these Hadith? What is amazing is that he heard the Hadith once 100 of them, and he could memorize it and say back to them. And he knew where the error was in this. Now this is super, super human. It began chapter one with a mother who believed that just because my child is disabled, just because he doesn't have a dad just because he doesn't have the education. He was also in Bora Bora is like Uzbekistan, far from Makkah and Baghdad. The centers of learning but the son of mine,

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something good will happen. I believe in him, no matter how life kicks out kids

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Don't you know life is gonna tell your kids, they're not good enough, they're not good enough to play sports, they're not good enough to pass the exam, they are average life is going to make our kids feel inferior. It's our job as parents, to make them believe that they are special. And it's our job as parents to encourage them, to guide them to make dua for them. All these parents, these mothers, they raised great people. They had so much against them, but they did what is in their power to do they were normal people, they taught their kids, they gave them the tools, and they made dua and live the rest of Allah. For us as parents, perhaps our greatest, you know, we ask ourselves,

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I want to change the world. You look at I want to fix Palestine. I mean, it's good, good to have, I want to achieve this, I want to achieve that. Maybe you and I will not get to achieving those things. But perhaps the greatest contribution we can give to the dunya is to give the world a child who will bring about greatness in the dunya perhaps our investment should be in our kids, that we will have our kids grow up one day to do something great. And that's insha Allah is perhaps your contribution to the dunya to be the person behind the child that will one day change the world and Allah Subhana Allah grant our kids, as the DUA says Robin abdominus wodgina Oh Allah granted our

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wives and children be the coolest of eyes. What Jana luta Tina Imam and let us be the best of them with Ducane it has been our kids be the best, not just good people, that they'd be the best of people. May our kids be the your kids be the best of us. I mean, I mean, my your kids, our kids, my kids do something great for this dunya may they cure disease, may your child my child cure disease one day, find a solution to the problems in the world, make your kids my kids find a way to bring about harmony and happiness in this dunya your children, my children, be people that Allah Subhana Allah loves and Allah subhanaw taala blesses in this dunya and may Allah Subhan please all of us, I

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hamdullah we conclude the series on parenting and so much more to discuss. But in sha Allah, next week, we'll start a new series, we something very sad, something which needs to be talked about, we are seeing in front of our eyes, one of the greatest forms of religious genocide. A country actively trying to erase a major country actively trying to remove Islam from its from its lands all together, very planned, very strategic, very methodical. It's happening. You know, not just 1000s hundreds of 1000s of families, millions of people locked up children's being separated from the families, something we need to talk about. We talk about the plight of the wiegers, the Muslims of

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China will start a series in Sharla next week on that, just a few announcements.

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Our class in sha Allah, on Monday, we will put the class on hold in sha Allah Muhammad busy at work so our class with a full of our oceniane will be on hold for now. And we will reconvene in sha Allah when things get a bit easier. And then it's how much time so Corbon could bind at the moment the sheep being sold yet 2016 And Insha Allah we will talk more about that as we get closer to adhaar

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