Youth Khutbah 2

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The "has been praying for" crisis in South Africa has led to the negative impact on children, including parents and children. The "has been praying for" crisis is a result of parenting and lack of father time, and parents should be the ones giving guidance and sharing unique experiences. The "hasn't been good father" concept is a sad reality for parents, and parents should be mindful of the situation and be mindful of the situation. The "hasn't been good father" concept is a sad reality for parents, and parents should be empowered to make choices and not judge children.

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We live in a sheetala rajim Bismillah R Rahman Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala early he was such a big man. I beloved brothers and sisters in Islam assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh or praise me Unto Allah subhana wa Tada and a shadow Allah Allah Allah Allah would be witnessed that none has the right to be worshipped besides Allah subhanaw taala and we send our love greetings and salutations so beloved Nabina Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to his pious and pure family to his companions and the Ummah, those who follow his sunnah until the end of time. May Allah bless us to be steadfast and the Sunnah of Nabina Muhammad

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam May Allah grant us to be in his sunnah and this dunya and in his companionship in the life after death, I mean, we continue our series on on our youth and Subhanallah the prophets of Allah made a special emphasis on looking at his community and focusing on different demographics in in the in the OMA. So there's not one message for everyone. There's a message for the aunties and uncles there's a message for the children. There's a message for the youth and a big segment of the very important segments in the community that we depend on as an ummah, our young people, and not only that Avital Salem but even the Quran and we find Allah

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subhanaw taala himself, he honors young people. When young people do good, it is more beloved in the sight of Allah than an old person. So we know if a young man 18 Young woman 18 And they're on the deen we see a young man in the masjid five times a day and he's 18 years old, so much more, so much better than an 80 year old man that's in the masjid five times a day. This is just how it is. This is why Allah subhanaw taala gives young people who are conscious of Allah in the youth, especially would especial honor mention than those who are older. And the baraka that comes from young people when they do good, is so much more. And if you look throughout the history of the about Diem, the

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Ambia many of them were youngsters, the Sahaba many of the Sahaba were younger than the prophets of salaam Genovesa. Lamb was the most senior in terms of age amongst all the Sahaba is very seldom you find a companion that was older than an epistle salaam, everyone you mentioned any companions name, and you'd find that they were younger junior to the NABI SallAllahu sallam. And this is where there is the strength and the honor in Islam, that change when you look at the Ummah, the problems that we have in the Ummah, a big, big part of the solution is to activate our youth, our youth needs to our young people need to become active, the talents, the skills, the energy needs to be brought forward.

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While we said that when we look last week, we said South Africa has a major youth crisis. So as Muslims, we have a crisis in the ummah. And in South Africa, it's even more acute, that our youth seem to be unfortunately statistically doing worse than the rest of the world, unemployed, unskilled, no direction, our young people, many of them in this country are actually a problem to our society. And why Why should South Africa, why should we have this crisis? What is the root cause through this crisis? And one of the reasons behind it, if not, the main reason is because it lies with parenting. The problem lies with the parents or the lack, they have good parents. I showed you

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that statistic, very scary statistic, where we said only about 30 foot between 30 and 40% of the kids in this country know what it's like to have two parents in the house. The majority, the majority of the kids in this country grow up either with one or no parents. They're raised by grandparents. They're raised by step fathers are stepmothers, I come from a broken home. And naturally, this is going to cause long term damage to these children. And when they grow up societal problems. That's why our society is a bit abnormal. So a lot of good beautiful things in this country. But there's a lot of shocking things, the level of violent crime, the level of crime

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against children and women. These things are unique to South Africa, South Africa stands out. Only countries that are in the midst of a civil war usually have the kind of horrifying statistics that we have. So how do we fix it? And as I mentioned, the GEMA Yeah, most of you on Hamdulillah. Our parents, most of you here are very few youngsters are from Ghana. We see a few young faces today, but most of you are dads. So what can we do as fathers and a few mothers? Yeah, of course. What can we do to fix this because our deen is not just about the Masjid. Our deen is not just about our worship to Allah subhanaw taala as you know, Monet, as you know when he was here, he mentioned that

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one of the things that will be specifically asked and particularly the Father's will be about how we raised our family. But even if you will hamdulillah so you sought your own yourself. You make your Salah you fostered you gave all the hack Allah deserves in your personal capacity, you earn Halal money, but you and I we failed as parents

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as husbands as fathers, then that's going to be a problem for us on the Day of Qiyamah. One of the reasons you find in Surah Abba, where Allah says Yo my a federal mother will mean he will only he will be able to have any the Allah says in that day you will find the father running away from his children. Why? Because the children will be the ones that will be the reason why interest Janna use a good man, but it was a bad father. And so then that is the one that is going to be the complication on the day of Kiama. So this is one of those areas which we have to we have to get right. And from study after study. It mentions that good parenting in the formative years, if we

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can, you know, apply ourselves and be good dads and moms, when our kids are still young before they become McCullough really, we can inculcate in them good lessons that the rest of their life will bring about success or bring about success. And Allah subhana wa Tada blesses the children through the parents, if parents are good, ALLAH SubhanA wa, tada will grant them success in the dunya. And in the Ophira. in ways they cannot experience this past weekend, lot of conversations about people

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talking, you know, they listen to the lecture, and they will say, you know, it struck a chord because I have I had wherever father, or grandfather or someone who had passed away, and you're only appreciate a good parent, when you become a parent, you realize how difficult it is, or when your parents are no longer the to ask them for assistance to ask them for guidance. Only then you realize, you know, what a big impact your father, your mother, your grandfather, your grandparents had in your life, how the lessons they taught you it wasn't about the material things they gave you. But it was the guidance that didn't make sense at that time. It didn't make sense to you. But for

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the rest of your life, you actually benefit from that, or how Subhanallah people tell me, you know, I was in a predicament. And then someone I mentioned that my grandfather is so and so and the door open Subhanallah said, Oh, that's your grandfather? No, no, your grandfather did something for me 2030 years ago. So now I'm going to do something for you. This is how Allah works. This is how Allah opens the door for the children because the father, the mother, what they will pious. And again, you don't know how the good deeds you do today, you might do something good for somebody, and you won't see the benefit in your life. But your kids might benefit 20 years later, your kids might actually

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have Baraka because you did something good for someone else. So Allah subhanaw taala will either bless you or even and we are more happy, we're happier when Allah actually gives it to our children, long after we are gone. We take it like one of the things that we mentioned this the story of Nabi Phaedra, and Abby Musa is some Allah looked after those orphans, because those orphans, the parents, the father, took care of Allah meaning was conscious of Allah. So even when he was gone, Allah looked after his children, we will not be able to be there for our kids all the time. And the world we live in our kids, we have to give them over to the dunya dunya is not a safe place is a scary

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place. You and I we can watch just to that extent and then we have to put them in the hands of Allah subhanaw taala. The best we can do is we look after what is due to Allah am entrusted Allah will look after our children and in the end, that is one of the lessons we learn. So then we took a snapshot of some of the one of the super dads of the Quran, and very seldom lead when we look at the Quran. When we talk about the Gambia, we usually talk about them in terms of preaching and teaching to a community building a society, but seldomly do we look at them as fathers and mothers, most of us are not going to be duat give Dawa in the streets and, you know, be leaders or, you know, we

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shouldn't be trying to be all leaders, but more more relevant to you. You're all dads, you're all parents or children, all of us are children and all of you may be parents, you are parents and for those of you are not your parents, may Allah grant you to be parents. I mean,

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we look at the Gambia How were they as fathers and mothers, as you know, how are they How did they raise their children? In addition to doing all the things that didn't have yes to do, worshiping Allah, more than normal people being in charge of a community, how did they make time for family and how you know what, what kind of relationships they have with the children. So we spoke about Nabhi Yaqoob last week, and Elisa Sudan and we're going to mention some other super fathers and mothers as mentioned in the Quran, and lessons we learned from them. Today, we begin with Nabil Brahim Nabi Ibrahim alayhis. Salam, he had two wives, and your two families, one in Palestine, and one in

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Makkah. And it's complicated, it's complicated today. It was complicated back then, of course, the Gambia something to understand about the Gambia, who they marry, when they get married, how they should interact. They don't have a choice in this matter. Allah subhana wa Tada commands them even the personal life is not in my hands. So Allah subhanaw taala blessed me Brahim with two wives and two sons from the different wives. And from those two sons, great nations would come the bunnies that are in from the one for an obese Hawk

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and the Arabs and Nabil Mohammed Al Salam from NaVi smile. Now Nabil smile was in Makkah, he didn't get to spend much time with his dad. So some of us, we work in some of us. I even know some people in the Jamaat for some time of the year, they're not at home to three months because they have to work you have to search for your risk. Part of your obligation as a dad is you have to first make sure that there's food on the table, there's a roof over your head, and to search for your music might take you physically away from your kids, you might work extensive hours, and you can't spend the quality time as you would like. Now be Brahim is the same. He's not there. He's not there to see

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in a peace of mind he'll grow up each and every day of his life. But yet he was an amazing father. And you can see the byproduct, the kind of son and the relationship they had. One of the things that we find them to be Brahim the little time that he had with his mind was quality time. That that moments he had with his son he made it relevant he made about Nabil smile. So this time for Tao this time for Salah and when you make that Salah you know when we come for Salah we understand this is exclusively to Allah Now the shock must close. Now the work must leave now the cricket must leave your mind everything must leave your mind. This is Allah then when you do work, you should be

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focused on work. Now when you get to your family, it's the time I am preaching to myself more than anything. I can see my wife pointing the finger Yes, you should take that listen with the cell phone down that fatwa that masala that the crisis that is going to come the word Christ it it will be the tomorrow this is time for your family and that's what we should do give everyone the hug Libra him gifts quality time with a big smile that little moments that he had with him and they did things together father and son moment and what a great father and son moment they did is that they built the Kaaba together now the Brahim got the it was his responsibility to build the Cava not gonna be

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smile is my assume he's still young boy. He's gonna be but now we Brahim says I want to bring my son as well involved. I want my son to help me build the Kaaba we're going to do this together a father and son team. Now maybe you don't know gonna build the cabinet with your son by the three houses or a project or something, make some quality time with your children. And in fact the psychologists they say each child needs to have something unique with the dead. So maybe you have a son, the two of you your thing is, you watch cricket together you watch soccer together, your daughter you play chess with her together or you have something special that's your personal time with that child. If

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this is what the psychologists say that every child should feel that with my father or my mom, we had our own quality time together. Sometimes we don't want to share the limelight with our siblings. That was our thing we got through that. Maybe your thing is we go out for first you know when the rest of the family sleeping we you take the one child out he's the he wakes up early, so we will go out for breakfast. The other one is quite late so we will do something in the evening whatever it might be. Now you Brahim use this Allah says what is the edify Brahim will Kaleido male Beatty what is married Robin at Taco Bell Mina in Nikolas. I mean Eileen. So Allah says that when Habib Rahim

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raised the foundation of the Kaaba along with him was he smiled at me smile was the word not be smile, do still a young boy, his job was to fetch the stones. And Ibrahim is telling him the solubles this is the way this must be. This is how it's going to be. He's teaching his son through this do it. You know this father and son project. So make unique time special time with each child. Each child should have a special bond with a dad. And then as the baby is my child grows up. The Beast now goes up. Nabil Brahim is the greatest man on earth after loving Mohammed Al Salam, perhaps the greatest creation of Allah often I mean, Mohamed Salah Salem, yet he asks his son for advice.

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How often do we ask our kids when we have a problem? When we have an issue? What do you think I should do?

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Just think about that for a second. You might have now obviously, they're not going to solve your work problems, or they're not going to, but any issue you have in life, and you actually consult them and say, What do you think I should do in this? What would you do if you were in my shoes? Now we Brahim does this. Now be Brahim Allah says and when he received a WinAVI smile grew up now. So now it's my ILAs gone grown up. He's of a certain age. He's not a child anymore. is a little older is a bit mature. And maybe Ibrahim sees in his dream that Allah wants is commanding him to sacrifice a smile and Sunnah be Ibrahim says fondue mother Tara?

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He says to me is right. What do you think about this? This is a command from Allah. And Habib Rahim is asking you son, what do you think I should do? If you were me, what would you do? I'm giving you now Nabi Brahim is going to obey the commandment nonetheless. But just having that discussion with the smile, just having that matura with him is a big deal. It's something amazing. Remember, this is not a dunya a fee this from Allah when it comes to Allah. There's no matura you just accepted Allah commands you to do. Now what about Lissa issues? What should we do? What do you want? There are many areas in

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If we can actually consult our kids, and as they get older in life, they are going to have their own opinions as they become teenagers, they might become very opinionated. 99% of those opinions might be incorrect or invalid, but it's about actually listening to them, asking them what is your opinion, and it's a safe zone. If you said, there's no way you're going to sacrifice me, if he said to his father, no ways this is madness. If that's how he feels, then O'Brien has to address that now. bibra He must have consulted because it's in his mind, he has to fix it. Yes to explain to him, my son, Allah will never command us with evil and Allah will never leave us. Look at our history.

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He's always been there for us as a test. Allah is gonna be there for us. If our kids don't think the way we want them to, we have to first ask them understand and then address it if it's wrong. And if Alhamdulillah we've raised them correctly and to the best of our ability, they will respond like Nabil smile responded. And this is called a Liberty Oh, my IP is for these Yeah, birdie. You my dear father, my dear father, if Allah to do what Allah has commanded you to do, you will find me in sha Allah sabe and I will do my best to be patient I trust you. And I trust Allah subhana wa Tada. He knew and again, it's amazing. Now be Brahim is not the day in day out. He's the moments in his

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maquilas life, maybe months would go by you wouldn't see is that when he saw him, you are such an amazing father in those moments that NaVi smile trusted, whatever you say that I know you are my hero, whatever, you know, it's fine Allah, we all started as the heroes of our kids, my kids 100 are still on that stage, we, they think I can be part of the Avengers. They're gonna grow up and they're gonna realize it doesn't work that way. So our kids grow up seeing us as the heroes, and then somewhere along the line, you know, they don't want it, they become embarrassed, they don't want us they don't want to be seen what US dropped me, I don't need my friend see you something changes

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along the way. But we should continuously they should always know. And usually if you sort of come back in your later age in life, when you go through, when you grow up, you become more mature, you know, really a moment that you still might use whatever I need in life. You guys have been the you've seen it, I didn't fully appreciate it. Now I can understand what you've achieved. So we should have and it begins with having this dialogue. What do you think it's not a one way street? And the old fathers, maybe the the parents of my parents, so you might get our grandparents age, it was with dance, it was never caught this conversation. You know, it's one way dialogue you do what I

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tell you to do. You don't disturb me. It was sort of that kind of parenting? The MBR we're not like that. You look at the Ambia you said the Masonic and strict of people. They were not like that. They actually spoke to the kids. What do you think we should do? In this matter of Allah? What do you think the best course of action is? And the reason why you'll see is I trust you and I trust Allah subhanaw taala even more than that, Subhan Allah even a better example than that isn't me that would be that would have a Salam is a king. And like me, King is constantly getting, you know, questions, people coming in, coming to him, there's a problem. This one is fighting with that one, my brother,

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my mother in law, whatever it might be, obviously, he's getting a lot of factors, a lot of questions. And he needs to give judgment. He's a judge, he has to give judgment. And from a very young age, he asks his son to be Sulaiman young boy, sit with me in the court. And when I give judgment, I want you to sit there and listen. And if you have an opinion, raise that opinion also has a king

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and a king ARB. And he allows his young son who isn't here yet, why don't you sit here and get involved, maybe you're a family business, get your kids involved. Look at the quality and the skills is only going to come out when you expose them to it. So Allah says, and mentioned, Nevada wouldn't be Sulaiman when they judge concerning the field, when the sheep of a people over ran it at night, and we were witnessed, and Allah says Allah was witness to the judgment. And we gave the understanding of the case suit to suit a man, and to teach them we gave judgment and knowledge. So and to each of them to each of them with two nebulae man, and every doubt, we gave them knowledge,

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but now we Sulaiman understood the case better. So what was the case? Basically, there was a there were two farmers living side by side, the one had sheep and the other one had no whatever field crops and so the sheep of the one farmer went over into the crops, and he ate up all the crops of the neighbor's field. So now they come to us today, man, and are we gonna be dealt with? He's the judge, look at this, what are we supposed to do should not be diluted, okay, because your sheep completely destroyed the crops of your neighbor, you will have to give all your sheep to him, give the sheep to him by its fate. You lost it, so you need to compensate it with your sheep. So the

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beast is dead. I have a second opinion and be done with it. Okay, what's your view? So he says that you're giving the sheep to the farmer. Next year his crops will will revive. His crops will grow. Then he will have sheep and the field. Where's this man?

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left nothing or other, he should have the sheep and benefit from the sheep until his crops recover. And then the sheep should go back. And so Allah says maybe Sulaiman understood the case. Even better, maybe Suleiman's judgment was better, he's still a young boy. But this Subhanallah, the fact that nobody now would included him, allowed him to voice it. In fact, the widow is saying that you got it wrong. And I'd be doubt is, what you're doing is correct. Allah says, this is this was better. It's an amazing thing to think about. We have another example of an issue, I have to assume that this is an issue I've now be Musas father in law, and yet you have a unique situation of an old

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father, raising daughters in a very tough society, raising daughters in an immoral society. Now, that's a very diff This is more complicated. raising sons is easy. But raising daughters is a bit tricky. Because on the one side, you need to inculcate in our daughters that modesty that Hyah, that is part of Islam, Islamic tradition, in a very westernized open society. At the same time, they shouldn't limit them in terms of the skills and the confidence. Now be sure he does this. He's got two daughters, these are old men, they are the ones that must run the family business, because he can't do it. They still have to be modest. They still have to, you know, be ladylike, but they also

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need to go out and do the job when it comes to the work so that we know the story now being Nabi Musa, he leaves Egypt and he comes to the town of meridian. And he sees these two girls standing one side and they're waiting for everyone to water the sheep. And then he goes to them and this is why you girls waiting out by yourselves. And they say, look, these farmers, the shepherds are bad guys. If we go and water our sheep, they're gonna touch us, they're gonna make comments, they're gonna brush up against us. So we let them finish their business. And when they are done, then we will walk our sheep and the reason why we're doing basically a man's job because our dad is an old man, he

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can't do this anymore. So we're doing it for him. So Nabi Musa alayhis salam, the kind of chivalrous person he is he doesn't ask them any questions he just grabs the sheep from them before they can even say anything and he waters the sheep for them and then he takes gives it back and they go home. Then after a while now be sure I've invited him to the house. So what do we learn from this long story is now issue a raise his daughters so when they will when they were asked about when they came to business, when they'll be Musa ask them about what is the story, they're very confident they're very strong. So these guys are bad guys, and we will we are helping a father. Few minutes later off

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an hour later, when the situation became more informal, and the inviting Nabi Musa over for supper. Now Allah says she walked shyly. So in the Quick example, in the corporate world, our daughters should have the confidence in school to raise their voice to give their opinions to go forward. When it comes to business and work. Islam doesn't say that they should be so shy and so modest, that they can't voice the concerns in a respectful manner. But when it comes to outside of work, when it comes to informal relationships, now Allah says she walked in Abu Musa stay here, now she comes to shyly, basically, we inviting you for supper. This is now in a more social setting. Nowadays that hoodoo

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that we raise and this Subhan Allah is an amazing thing. And it's a difficult thing to balance, confidence when it counts, but higher and modesty when it counts. You don't have to be modest modesty doesn't mean you have to be meek and mild. The wives are gonna be so solemn, with the highest level of higher, Allah had given the wives going to be Salam, the highest levels of modesty. But when you look at Aisha, she was someone who's very confident, she was someone that gave speeches that led an army that if she heard someone making a mistake in the masjid said, what you said there was wrong. I have a second opinion. Modesty doesn't mean that you meek, mild, you can't do anything.

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And this is the balance and the NAB show as a good example of this. And then also often invites Nabi Musa into the house, and we Musa tells his whole life story. Now be sure you've asked his daughters, what do you think of this guy? One of them basically says, I like him, this is a murderer. He doesn't have a job. He's a refugee. I like him, I'd like to marry him. And so maybe she goes to W Musa and says, What do you think? Would you like to work here, and you can marry one of my daughters. And it's very difficult in some of us hamdullah my daughter's not at that level. But some of you, your daughters are getting the, to have the confidence to choose their own partner, to come

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to you just having that ability. And a snappy show is an OB of the Gambia of Allah. And we're not that level of Sally. But now the daughter is coming to him and saying, I like this guy, you know, I want him will you be able to make that proposal on my behalf? Have that relationship that when you do this grow up, because they're human beings, they're also going to they also have desires, that dialogue should be open with respect and with modesty.

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Time is going one super dead, very sad story. A super father that didn't turn out so well maybe know. Somebody we can learn from the view

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that we know we know spent almost 1000 years who needs people to Islam, and ultimately his people rejected so Allah destroyed them. And of those who rejected him was his wife of those who rejected him.

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What was his son?

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And so when I say how is nobody know how are you? Am I giving them a new honey son as an example of our good father son relationship should be. When we take from Urbino, his son rejected him for almost 1000 years, his son was over those who insulted Lebanon, who belittled him who was against him. And when he saw his son in danger, we didn't have enough time. And Allah says, and the ship the Ark sailed through waves that were like mountain to the storm was so big that it was like mountains and the ship was on it, and then there'd be no, so he sang in the water. And he said to his son, oh, my son, come on board with us and be not of the disbelievers. Now, how quickly are we do we give up

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on our kids? How quickly if our kids make mistakes, we say that's it, I'm done. We cut you off. Why don't you chose the wrong partner, you marry the wrong person, you're not doing well in school. And that's it. That's a deal breaker for us. This child did the worst of since Sheikh, he rejected Allah. And he is basically telling everyone My dad is a madman. My dad is wrong one, you know, He's insulting his father. And now his father is not giving up on him 950 years and he still says, My son, come with Come with me. You are welcome. Whenever you already come with, you know, even something more controversial. We have the issue of equity Democrats, people that either reject the

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Dean Amala protect our kids from Allah protect us from that, they turn away. And we have this concept that we cut them off. There is a place and time for shunning. But many times that don't inspect what we learned from the Sharia that don't have return should never be closed. And we should always let them know that yes, I can't condone what you're doing this lifestyle you're doing, I can't condone it, and I won't be part of it. But I will always be there for you, the minute you want to come back, the door is open for that, as parents, they should know that we will never give up on them. And this is Subhanallah our relationship with Allah, no matter how many times we sin, how bad

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life is, Allah is giving us a guarantee, so long as you still alive, you can always return back no matter how far you strayed, there's always a way home for you, as parents to elicit degree, we should do the same thing. How bad things are in life, and some of our kids made mistakes in life on drugs, wrong decisions. We're just human beings. But that dwarf parents should always say come back and if nobody knew who do this often Island 50 years, you and I can do that. Yes. Even even to that extent, let me know when you've been overwhelmed. It's just being a father. It's just being a father, where he says to Allah after his son had drowned off the Senate chosen, he says, Yeah,

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Allah, this is my son. Yeah, Allah, please. So Allah says, No, he's not your son anymore. He has ultimately made the choice. And yes, this also is a sad reality that you and I might be good parents. But at the end of the day, our kids, they will choose their own way. We can only guide to a certain degree, we can only assist them to a certain degree, we can only have the door open for them. Ultimately, the Father, the Son, each one carries their own burdens. No one carries the burden to someone else. Everyone must make that choice. But as long as we are here, we continue to invite our kids they should No, no suddenly is too big, that we stop being their parents, no son is so bad

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that we cut them off. That is a message that and if Subhanallah as I said, this is an OB of the Gambia of Allah. This is an abbey of the Gambia of Allah and his kid did worse than any of your kids have done. And yet, that door is always open.

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I can't only talk about fathers because the minute you talk too much about one's gender, then this is gender unbiased. We always have to balance it and they are great moms as well in the Quran and outside of the Quran. Great mothers won't get to all of them. But it's something interesting to think about the Google as the asthma the five highest Ambia that we know and be Brahim Nabi Musa and Isa Naveen Mohamed salah, so of the of the Gambia, they're the best of people and of those prophets. They are five that are very, very special, the five best of them, and four of the five. In fact, it might be oh five, we don't know. Nobody knew his parents whenever you brought him. He didn't have a

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good father figure is that was actually his big opponent. He didn't have a father figure in his life. That'd be Musa. We don't have his dad. And in fact, he grew up in the house of Iran are the worst father figure if you want the worst man, that he is, I didn't have a father. Let me Mohamed Salem didn't have a father either grew up an orphan. So these are the greatest people were really raised by women only. And in our society. More kids grew up in South Africa, just through a single mother than a mother and a father. I see it again, statistically, most children's of Africa being raised by single women. And even in that it's a very difficult job being mum and dad and worrying

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about bills, but even a single mum, with all that going against the Kennedys and amazing child can raise an amazing person and we see this from the Quran. You have have the full Imams, the 40 Imams, you have a Chevy Malibu Hanifa Imam Muhammad Malik, three of the four of them. They were inspired by the mothers

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Musharraf he didn't know his dead father passed away before he was born. Even Muhammad as well, father passed away two of the Imams. They even had a father, Imam Malik Rahimullah. His dad was a Molana Shia, and he's dead. Put a lot of pressure on him a lot of pressure on Imam Malik to become a chef. And in my mind, it didn't work. It actually pushed him away. He says, I don't want this Dean stuff, not for me. You want to be a singer, as they say because they're a beautiful voice. And he was his mom that encouraged him. And it's in a very soft way. She drinks the sun up in the clothing of the Imams and says, You know what, just go to the madrasa and He's a chef today I want you to sit

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with him. And if you like it, you can stay if you don't like it, I won't pressurize you. But it was because his mom gave him that, you know, space he needed because he was he was a child that was yet to express himself very strong personality. Mom understood that. And this is what inspired him even more than that. Imam Bukhari Rahim Allah Subhan Allah, disabled child being raised by single mother didn't give up on him. And we know what the human body becomes you blind as a young boy father passed away a mother I mean, imagine a single mother those days no welfare, no those kinds of stuff. Having a disabled child blind child and still inspiring that this child is gonna grow up to

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something amazing, never giving up hope. We'll talk more about the supermoms next week in sha Allah will talk about from the Quran and from the Sunnah about single mothers that did great things. But in summary, for our dads for us, you and me, the last two three weeks we spoke about points that we can take inculcate in our life. And just to summarize these 10 points, when you and I can do as parents as fathers. Number one, what's amazing, every single Nabhi that you I've mentioned, you find that they making dua. Now Zachary is making dua before he has a child. Miriam's grandmother will get to know she's making dua to Allah, you've given me a child, I'm pregnant, this is going to be and

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she thought was a boy, this boy is going to become an OB and she's making dua this is going to be you know, someone in your service. Of course, it became a goal, but that dua is the end she said, Yeah, Allah make dua for this child. And that child's offspring. Now who's the offspring of Maryam isa means this grannies do is so powerful that even the grandchildren benefited from it. We shouldn't underestimate the power of dua.

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Make making dua for your kids, your family, part of your life, that very special dua Robina habarana mean as wodgina was the reaction of Kurata Yoon with Jana limita Tina Imam make this part of your daily do as I see that you can make this to our insider fettled Salah before the Salim brother OS even in the fourth Surah yes you can you can in the funnel sada before you say salam alaikum before he says that I'm gonna come that's a monster job time to make dua and you can so long as it's Arabic you make the DUA in Arabic and this is a Quranic dua Robina habla Dominus wodgina We're literally yet in a Kurata ano Jana muta Canaanite you mama, Oh Allah, let my children my wives My husband

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always be the coolness of my eyes, meaning that they only bring happiness to us and it has to be Imam and it means to be the best of people in goodness. So inculcate dua for your family in your life. Don't just only make dua for the dunya make dua for the family. Number two from all the Ambia the all the examples we've shown some of the MBI had bad kids. But what they gave for it before they asked him for to do this and do that. There was love and prediction. They should they always knew my my father, and I focuses on dads because we have a big problem about dads in our country that my dad is loves me that my dad will always love me. No matter how bad things get, and we all do and we

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fight but I should know a child should always know that the Father loves them that the parents love them. Naturally the mother instinctively you know, even though mom sometimes he says more than that, right? Mom is smooth. Many guys smile a lot more from the mom than the dead. But at times we actually feel does my dad did he love me was this masculine thing about showing your love is not sometimes encouraged the Gambia were very open about the love, very open about the love with the children very affectionate towards the children. So be affection, especially in those young age those young days. Be loving, and even be physically loving with your children without a visa salaam

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would kiss his children. You'd carry them if you'd be like he couldn't resist when you would see them you would just like grabbed him and kiss them peace Hassan and Hussein and the young children that he that was in his household that this show your affection and your love.

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Number three be present and give quality time for speaking about the Rahim Allah Imam the previous imam of His Mercy my money

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what to do with Duke money in the family may Allah bless the the new addition to the family and like to know about Imams routine is a very busy man had a full time job and an imam of the masjid many times went out and you know doing the things I struggle with the mom at work going to visit people in the houses you know without WhatsApp and emails and those these devices send me an email I'll respond email

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How'd you do that? And then especially for the family, because you won't know, I just know a little bit about it, but how much patience the family must have when someone does community work. Because there's a lot of things that you must. You're not there when everyone else is at home, you're not there for your own kids. And I wanted to find out how, you know, someone so busy spends time, and it wasn't about quantity didn't get many hours, but each one had 510 20 minutes. You have your discussion each night, they will sit time you tell me about your day we talk. And that's it. And there was 20 minutes made more than 20 hours, because it was quality time. It was genuine time about

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each one. I know where you are at life. I know what is concerning you. Whether it's the youngest one talking about whatever it is in Serbians or B, whether it's the oldest one talking about, you know, friends and high school things. But I know we each of you are in life, and I can give input in your life. And I can give advice, and I won't judge you whatever it is that you're doing. I can give advice without judgment. It's very important that quality time with each child. And we sometimes believe that we are the busiest people in the world, right? We always believe we tell the wife, I'm so busy you don't know how it what it's like at work. It's part of the Gambia made sure they were

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the busiest people, but they made sure that everyone felt that quality time. Number four, teach our children.

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What's important is being a good person. It's not about easily report card, we're sometimes more focused on the academic results, we measure the success of our kids in terms of the report card, yes, it's important that we encourage them to, to learn and to study. But more important than that is to be good people that if your child is the one that shares his brain with someone that doesn't have even if he doesn't pass the exam, but he does something like that, then your child really is a special child. And if your child is the one that will see if someone is being bullied, he stands up for the child being bullied even if they can't pass all the sums on the exam. But hamdulillah Allah

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has blessed you with a good child. Sometimes we have lost what is important and and explain to our kids what is life what what really makes what makes you a good person. And they will only learn that through our example. So you teach them through your example of what is good teacher what failure teach you about your problems, the MBR shade they know that even shade the sorrows where the kids now be cool blue Ibrahim is telling the sons there's a very difficult thing Allah has put before me to test. What do you think I should do? Share that vulnerability with your kids so that they when they become vulnerable. They will not have to deal with it. Sometimes we need to show the ugliness

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of the dunya it's real, it's real. It's out the window to talk to them about these difficult conversations especially during the teenage years. This is the reality of life.

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Make them feel special because they feel they are special. The Gambia did this very well. You know when they may do ah

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it's amazing how many Gambia the sons were Ambia

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visa Korea now we are here maybe that wouldn't be Brahim Nabi smila The sons were Ambia because when they see their Allah know your stone over burden, don't put so much weight of expectations on your kids that it breaks them, but also aspire that you're not going to just be any child, you have the potential to be an A B of the envy of Allah, you have the potential to be an ally of the only of Allah, you have the potential to be happy to Quran you have the potential to be top of your class. If you focus you can do that. If you don't get there, and you tried Well, Hamdulillah we don't we always love you. But it is that you have the potential The Gambia did this, why shouldn't you and I

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do this when it comes to our kids, a spy inspiring them to be the best. Listen to them. They fears the concerns, they should always feel safe to tell you. And if you feel and if you especially have a teenage child, and you think well my teenage shell tells me about problems in their life. Tell them about the rejection about bullying. Do they feel like they can tell if they can't miss a problem. And you should have the dialogue even this evening. Discuss what is what's happening in school, our job as parents to advise and click them if they make mistakes. We can't always only be the friend, you and I have to correct them when they make mistakes with love and affection, the way the MBR

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predicted. They corrected without judgment. So for me to judge Allah judges, I don't know in your situation, or what I can tell you that's not appropriate. empower them. Trust him. At times, part of being like in Abu Dhabi, the example we gave, you can't just make NaVi Suleiman sit here in court but the minute he wants to say some things, you know, keep quiet. What do you know about this? I really love when I see for example, in our organizations, fathers being the kids, their sons, their daughters, and you sit at this committee meeting, big old senior Buddhists, Buddhists that I've seen done so many things, highly qualified people, but at that same committee, you have young sister in

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varsity, very green around the years, but still, they can get around the years and they still can give an amazingly give input. We should give that platform that a visa Salam was never scared to give young people opportunity. He in fact got criticized so many times the reasons are more criticized when you give the flag of the military expedition to youngster Sahaba How can you

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Give it to him. He's only 1890 How can he be the leader of the army when it came to the Quran? Zaid, we said young men, but in his teens, you will be the custodian of the Quran. We should not feel shy to give our kids empower them. And sometimes Farhatullah when we treat them, like children, they say children. Well, when you tell them, Okay, here's a budget for you. You decide what we're going to do I leave it to you. Yes, they'll mess up, I guarantee they will mess up, we'll be there. But also they will learn a lot more than us, you know, preaching to them. This is something in leadership and and hamdulillah at the masjid, for example, something that we we see we see the benefit, I'm telling

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you, I've seen the benefit. We've had many years of hamdulillah senior people doing good things in the masjid. But once we had few youngsters on board, we can see a big jump forward in many, many areas. That energy that idea is something that we don't have. I'm not speaking like an old person that it is fun Allah.

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So don't be shy to give your kids

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empower them to make choices. Be there for them when they mess up. Don't judge them. And they said at the end like be like no be no, never give up. No matter if your relationship right now some of you might even have estranged relationships. You're not speaking to your kids. Be like no be no pick up the phone. So you know what, I'm always your dad. I will always be your dad. No matter what you did that I love you. Come over let's talk. You're always welcome back on the ark no matter how bad things are. The Ark is always open for you may Allah bless you, bless me, bless our children, Allah grant him to grow up to be better than us, grant them to be successful, wonderful people in this

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dunya and akhira. Just a few announcements, the class continues on Monday, the caliphate will end with the death of Nabil with C NET Omar on the line this Monday in sha Allah and as soon as we can we'll send that back to basics. Any questions concerns was prominent shukran so much so don't worry