Muhammad West – The Etiquette of Disagreement – Episode 01

Muhammad West
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the challenges of disagreements between Muslims and non- Muslims, the dangerous nature of violence, and the importance of fixing things in one's personal life and community to see changes. They stress the need for patient and unity in addressing these issues, fixing the foundation to fix things on the macro level, and identifying differences between individuals and their families. The speakers also emphasize the importance of cutting for one's health and wealth, avoiding racism, and finding one's own mind and brain. They plan to continue discussing these topics and provide updates on hedge classes and their course.
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hamdulillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala COVID mursaleen sagina Mohammed Ali he was

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a beloved brothers and sisters in Islam assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Or Praise be to Allah subhana wa tada Chateau La ilaha illa Allah be witness that none has the right to be worshipped except Allah. And we've seen our love and our greetings and salutations to be loved and to be Mohamed Salah to send them to his pious and pure family and to his companions and all those who follow you soon until the end of time. We also Allah subhanaw taala to bless us in this walk of Juma We ask Allah subhanaw taala to forgive us our sins of last week. Allah guide us in the week to come mela Yeah, I will do us this Juma mela make it easy for this oma Allah heal our hearts and bring our hearts together. We thank Allah for the Bahama that he has sent upon us of the rain.

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mela granted our dams can be fooled. And Allah forgive us for our sins. Meanwhile, hamdulillah

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Al Hamdulillah it's been a week or two since I've presented a Juma. Last time we spoke it was Ramadan. And we were doing a series on the chronicles of NaVi Musa alayhis. Salaam.

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We've got to a certain point in that inshallah we'll pick up that series again. But with the events of recent times, something which is very topical, something which Monet has seen, discussed last week, and I think we'd like to take it a little further, is surrounding disagreement, the etiquette of St. Olaf, the etiquette of Hillel, the differences? How do we get across differences, because this is a major crisis, which you are facing as oma globally, locally, and even individually. This is one of the big problems, one of the big issues that are almost facing, and it doesn't matter who we are, who you ask, we are united in our agreement that we are divided. Every Muslim, black or

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white, learned or not learned or rich or poor will say we are no matter is divided. We are not one oma, but we are many little communities, six and groups. In fact, we have perhaps a community of individuals, 1.2 1.1 and a half billion individuals. That's all that we are. And we see the effects of that. When we look at how this issue of disagreement, our differences have become so bad and so ugly, that globally hamdullah doesn't get it no never happens. Globally, we see that the fighting in most Muslim lands are between Muslims, our differences have become so bad that we are actually killing each other. We are killing each other. Muslims killing Muslims, no need for our enemies to

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do the work. They just supply both sides and says you go on and you do the work for us. That's how bad our differences have become. Locally, we've got to a level and we'll talk about the caper code and everyone is wants to know about that we'll talk about that. We will get to the level of name calling learned or llama insulting fleet insults to one another I think things that we would not say is appropriate to speak to a person of you know the worst of character we tell our kids, no matter how bad he or she is, you don't call names like that. But we have learned or llama calling out names even in the worst. Worst of all, we said there's two key words in South Africa you cannot use one

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keyword will go to jail. And there's another key word worse than that confer the key and this should not be used and it's being flung around very easily very quickly. Very quickly. Just on that issue of clear. Are some of you know we have these when I'm our chat. So I said Is there any Hadith that you can find with the Prophet peace be upon him? Eva called someone a coffee, even in the sooner Can you show me an example I'm asking. I don't know. I've never in Medina, you had monastics, you had people who have lost it in the Quran. They don't have Eman don't make a lot of janaza on them. Don't make you stay fight for them. Allah said in the Quran. But no one says the Prophet peace upon him

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label any one who claim to be a Muslim as a cafe is not the suit of Nabeel Salim, so we shouldn't allow this thing. Because the next step above the fear is violence. Once you've taken a person out of Islam, now his wife is haram for him. Now he's not one of us. Now his blood becomes halaal and his property becomes halaal This is the natural progression. When you see violence ask those Muslims fighting another Muslim you ask them how can you kill this Muslim? How can you bomb this place? Let's say they are not Muslims like the first step to violence. So one of the steps before violence is the creed and it's very dangerous therefore, so we need to discuss these things. And of course as

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we said, we are a divided oma and that's why we are at war with ourselves and external enemies are easily as this pushed us over. And Allah warns us about this Iona as he mentioned last week. It is the words of a lot coming through. You know, when we look at this, I look at the wisdom of Allah. Allah said this 1400 years ago, when the Muslims were a few 100 people, they were strong. No one could

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pushed them over. They were one city against the whole world, but they couldn't be. They couldn't be invaded, they couldn't be defeated. And lots of Han says to them to law obey Allah wa sallahu and his messenger obey Allah and His Messenger, wallet and as part of Chateau de de hokum and do not dispute and argue, and quarrel, and defer. Why, if that happens, once you find a situation like that, you will lose courage, and your strength will leave you and what's beautiful and be patient, meaning, it's going to be difficult to be united, it's going to be difficult to reconcile. It's always easy to fight and argue, but to be patient with one another is harder. In a lot. Mr. Savino

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always be on the side of those who are patient.

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So Allah is really telling us what we see of violence and this and our weaknesses and oma, we get so frustrated when we look at Palestine. When we look at Burma, when we look at how come we we can do nothing when our mothers, our daughters are being raped, our kids are being killed. Why? Because we have no strength. Why? Because we are fighting amongst ourselves. Allah says that's your strength, your strength will leave because you don't have unity. We need to address this problem.

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So how are we going to do the schools inshallah it says bit of a series, we're going to talk about differences. And usually when we look at differences, the first thing is we point to the leaders, the political leaders, the King of Saudi Arabia, the ayatollah of Iran, we point fingers to our leaders, you are the problem. You guys can sit together and work it out, or the allameh MDC you the problem. And what we've always spoken about here at Brown Islam, we said, when we see things, and this is the son of the prophet SAW Selim, we don't fix things from the top down, we fix things from the bottom up. When we see things on the macro level, the global oma is in catastrophe. It's

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systematic, that is problems on the ground. If the ground is fixed, the top will be fixed. That's how it works. If the foundation is fixed, then the top will be fixed. And we know we know that we talk about unity, are we as individuals, we are more connected now? We checked a lot. But how much is meaningful? Ever homes? Do we, for those of us who are older? When you grew up? Were you more part of a community when you were younger? Now today? I see the older brothers nodding that yes, we were younger, we will move a community now it's so easy, we can connect with one another from all across the world. But we've lost that sense of community, homes have become even now we've become

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isolated individuals in our family. We live in a time we it's all about me. Before we take pictures of other people, we think of ourselves now like selfies, right? It's this time we live in, it's about ourselves to me and my objectives and my ideology and my agendas, and I need to make my own food my own goals. So as from an individual level, even this this disunity and this division, this this unity and division, how do we reconcile that. And as we said, if we fix things in my personal life, and we move it forward to our message in our community, we will see the changes inshallah. With time, the big things will fix itself. Once we fix the things small and small, we'll get to much

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laksa. But first we need to fix the masjid on the corner, we first have to fix our machine in the back next to us before we get too much luck. So that's how Allah Subhana works stage by stage. So we'll take it step by step. As an introduction,

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understand, conflict. Our fighting are all unique comes from differences. Because we are not the same. No two hearts are alike. And this is how it's meant to be. Allah subhanho wa Taala has made and decreed that we will be different. There will be differences. Always there'll be differences between husband and wife, between siblings, between parents, between Allah they'll always be differences. But these differences should not result in animosity, and fighting. And in fact, Allah subhana wa tada prides himself that there are differences. You know, how how would the world look if all the flowers were the same color? If there was only one type of animal. You know, what's

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beautiful is you have one animal that has a long neck, another one that has a trunk and another one is big, blue flowers, green flower, it's beautiful. This diversity is beautiful. And I love says this, I mean it and obvious signs that isn't a lot of the science is the creation of the heavens and the earth and the diversity of your languages and your colors. Allah says the fact that you have differences shows you that there is a lord who has creativity who creates things in different ways. It's not just one size fits all. This is a sign of a law of his magnificence. Indeed there are Signs for those who have knowledge. And Allah subhanho wa Taala says, had a low world. If Allah wanted it,

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you would have made you one oma, you will have united all of you on the truth you will be united but he also

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Our plan is to teach you in what he has given you. In fact, in many is Allah says, The people were on one, they were united until knowledge came to them. It's sort of counterintuitive. You'd have thought they were divided until Allah gave them knowledge, then they became united all says, No, they were all on the one way. They'd all say nobody knew. Now there was division. So even the truth, even the good will cause sometimes division can't avoid it, you can run away from divisions, and not all differences are bad. And when you have sort of an understanding Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah, we are former die, because now you will have four alternatives for solutions to the same problem. It's

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like having four tools in the box to fix the problem, if you only had them.

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Life is so much so difficult. Allah has given sometimes four routes four pathways to get to the same result.

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So for example, the Prophet peace upon him says,

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Allah has remained silent about certain things, there are certain things Allah has not discussed out of compassion for you, not because he forgot about it. So don't seek often. So do not question and see a church for that certain questions, certain massage, certain things are left deliberately, there is no answer. Why didn't Why didn't the professor just select the halifa? We wouldn't have all this big fighting. He lifted silent, but because he didn't know because he didn't think about it. This was his plan. Why is it Allah subhana wa Taala

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automatically, you know, preserve the Hadith 100% like the Quran, Allah lift certain things, quietly lift certain things for us to discover, as a mercy for us. Meaning that there are multiple alternatives. There's not just one way that the easy gray area and you're safe insha Allah because you've done the best you can.

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Omar Abdullah, he is the great killer of Islam. He says I am glad that the companions of the Prophet did not agree on everything. The fact that the Sahaba themselves, they were not the same, they a difference of opinion showed that we are also allowed to have multiple opinions that we can have multiple points of view that you can read the Quran, and you can have a certain interpretation, I can and both can be acceptable. But of course, there are limits. What are those limits? What are those limits? And how do we reconcile when we are different? The same Quran but we come to a different conclusion. How do we now live with each other? How do we get along and that's usually

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what we're going to discuss. It was a beautiful example from the seller. And look at this of Mr. Malik, there's something for us to think about. I said this before, Mr. Malik Rahim, Allah of the Maliki madhhab. He was in his lifetime, the number one scholar on Earth, that the

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that the hollyford of Islam came to him, and they would visit him for advice. And when they looked at his book, The motto halifa, Rashid, he said, I'm so impressed by this book, give me permission, oh Malik that I will make the cloak of the Kaaba out of the pages of your book. And I will announce that the whole oma must follow you matter. It will become the law man, everyone will be Maliki, would our life be better if we're all Maliki? We wouldn't have Shafi hanafy fighting anymore. We won't have to look at the calendar and say what we need. I said, Now, why can you agree with life? We say life would be simpler, but it wouldn't be better. What do you think Mr. Malik said, when the

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Imam when the halifa said, Let me make your mother the law of the oma? Mr. Malik said No, don't do that. Don't do that. I have my opinions. And I believe I'm right. But it has not made me you know, I understand that there are other opinions out there that might also be right. I am not I don't have the monopoly on truth. I am not the only one who speaks to the only one who has a monopoly on truth is Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, all of us we have our opinions, we believe our opinions, we believe we are right. But that doesn't mean we disrespect the other opinion that there might be truth in those words, as well. So don't do this, allow the other methods also to flourish. So we will always

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have differences. It is the son of Allah in His creation, there will be differences between husband and wife between pay. And these are people who love each other. Right? What about we don't people we don't love each other? How do we get before we can talk about how do we get along with the atheist? Where the person who is on a completely different mindset to us? How are we going to get along with the sinner? I just asked in the call. You know, I was thinking about this last week, how do we interact with someone who comes to the masses? I'm a Muslim, but I'm a drug addict who am homosexual. What do I do? reality of life? How do we learn to come to grips with these big

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differences? Before we can get the we firstly to learn to live with our husbands and wives, with our parents, our children, with our colleagues at work with our siblings, with our friends, people that we we love when we are on the same page. If we can't even agree on that. Then as a community, you won't get the

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mp4 as a golden rule

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as a golden rule, and the golden rule is misspelled on the screen right

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differences are inevitable, right? They are inevitable. differences will happen. We can't stop it. But it's how we overcome that. Just a few, you know, our guy was on the phone with someone in terms of marriage, marriage problems. And it might seem that look, we there's no hope for us. He sees life this way she sees life that way. So this is normal. This is how it should be. You will have differences of opinion, you will have, but this is how I was brought up. This is how she was brought up. Clearly we from different homes, we can't be together. No, you mean to be different. But the challenge is, how do you overcome that? How are you going to cross this hurdle? How are you going to

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cross this river? That's the challenge, you're going to have alama that have difference of opinion, one from that room, one from Medina, one from Malaysia, they're going to have difference of opinion. That's not the problem. The problem is how do you coexist with those differences? That's the challenge. And it's easy to argue and fight and to become separated. So the Sahaba showed this to us in many examples, that they had their own unique opinions, but they were never divided.

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They were never ever divided. Yes, they had their own individual opinions. And sometimes they even argued, sometimes they even even when they foods, vanilla, even when they sit for one another to a limit. They were still on the same page when it came to the big issues of the coma.

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One classic example is when say not with Mangalore, the Alon, it's the son of the province of Salem that when you unhedged, that you make the Soraka Salas to to shorten it, you know, you shorten the word and I said Anisha to say North Mandela when he when he was the halifa, he made it full again. And the Sahaba said to him, why the Prophet made to Abu Bakar made to me too, why are you making it for So Amanda Johnson in his understanding, there are many leavers who have come to Islam and they come in for Hydra now, I'm scared if I make the word and I certainly shy too, and they will go back home and they will think this is outside I must be all the time because it's just like that must be

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like that all the time. So I'm scared to make for just to be safe. Other Sahaba said, No, we disagree with you. And he was very, you know, many, many Sahaba very vocal about this. But when Sadat time came, did they make a separate Gemma? They made one Gemma behind say No, man. And so some people ask even even Massoud for example, you disagree with Madiba, but you stand behind him in Salah What did he say? That? Yes, that's we have a theological disagreement here. But our unit is more important. What does it say when I make a new jamaa? What is that gonna do? And the more people follow me now and I was not divided the oma we went from bad to us. Right, so this is the hikma the

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Sahaba. They didn't change the opinions, but they learn to coexist. So let's talk a bit about differences in our personal capacity.

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Think about people that you just can't get along with. might be your might be someone that you in your house might be a parent, a sibling, a spouse, your husband, your wife, might be co workers, or whatever it might be.

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might be the chairman of the magazine might be the Imam of the masjid. Right? Let's look at our thinking about someone that you just can't get along with. But this relationship always results in argumentation. Why? Why what's the psychology behind it? How are we do we beat these confrontation on a personal level before we get to the allameh they turn will come. But let's talk about ourselves first. And if you look at it, you know, just from a from a biological, very simplistic view. Look at like animals or children, children, very small children. They don't have racism, they don't have math hubs. They don't have these complicated stuff. Why do they fight? Why do animals fight?

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Have a biological reason why we fight number one competition over resources. Animals are fighting with one another goose every lions fight? Why? Because they want to compete for spouses or they want to compete for food, children, they all play nicely The minute you bring one toy, and there's five of them. Now it's world war three, right? Because everybody wants that toy. So one of the reasons why we fight on a personal level, why can't get along with the person next door? Is we competing over resources, we'll talk about that. Another reason why you find certain people just don't get along. Because they are created, we are created differently.

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Why the lion and the zebra can't get along. Because they were created differently, that we are physically created differently. This male and female and with that there's going to be our lives are going to be different. Our decisions are going to be different, young and old, white and black. These things Allah has created and from a personal personality side, we are different from personality side. And of course for us as humans deeper than that, our mind see the world differently. So let's just talk about these three things. competition for resources.

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being built differently, and seeing the world through different eyes.

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So the profit research talk about competition for resources.

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The number one reason we might think this is a very basic is animals fight with one another. For resources. The number one reason we go to war is for resources. The number one reason we killing each other in this dunya is for oil for land for power, isn't that so? We know much better than the basic animal. Most of us the world itself, the money, motive, financial reasons is the reason why we fighting. So Africa is a classic example. We're not we've moved Alhamdulillah to a degree away from racism, the big challenge we have is in our country's inequality, the haves and the have nots, how do we cross this bridge, the pie is just not big enough for everybody. And while it will never be

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big enough, even if there's just one person, there's never enough allocated like that, our resources are limited finite, but our wants are infinite, will never be satisfied until you go to jail, not only will they be enough for everyone to be to get is full. But in the dunya there will always be those who have and those who want. That's how it's going to be. So how do we overcome this conflict of resources? I want the job Why did he get the job? I want the woman Why did he get it that car which does for me, I want what someone else has. And because of that we are divided.

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The Prophet peace be upon him says but Allah, it is not poverty, I fear for you. In the Hadith in Bukhari Muslim prophecies to harbor I'm not scared that you'll be poor, that will go hungry that you stop. I'm not scared about that. But I fear rather that you are given wealth from the world, just as the nations before you were given wealth, then you will start to compete for it just as they competed, and it will destroy you as it destroyed them. The competition for the dunya competing for this wealth resulted in destruction. And today, why are we dropping bombs? Why are we killing each other competition for the wealth of this dunya number one reason why we are different love of the

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dunya. and respect and desire for the dunya valued more than the life of someone else, voila, a man will kill someone's father, someone's husband, for the 50 grand in his pocket for the 10 grand in his pocket, that life was less worth to him, like 10 grand. That's what we ask Allah. That's the reality. How do we overcome this? Also, Hana data for the believer, encourages the believer to understand that easic doesn't belong to the wealthy or the poor, it belongs to Allah. And it is Allah who gives and it's Allah who takes and it's only through Allah you're going to get and it's only with Allah permission that it will be taken. That in, if you ever unhappy with the result that

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you have, the one you need to complain in inverted commas is Allah to speak to Allah, cry to Allah, don't hate the man for what he has. And don't feel proud in what you have. Because it wasn't yours. It's unknown from Allah, because what law he you will end up like you started naked, owning nothing, you will go back to that. Everything you amassed, Allah gave it to you alone and will take it away. This mindset, once we think of it like that, that this brother got a promotion I wanted, this brother got a salary that I wish I had, when you realize a lot. He's only loaning it to this man for the reason. You realize, voila, there's no reason to really fight over it. But my reason, yes, I'm a

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search for it. But it's Allah who can open those doors for me. And there's so much out there that we don't know. Allah says that if you if you are obedient to Allah, then he will open for you those that you do not perceive Allah will give you more than that person. Because it belongs to Allah. He is the keeper of the treasures of the of the music. And we know that wealth is a taste. A lot only gives people money to taste them. It's an exam. It's not a it's not a it's not a reward. Ally assisting them, how are you going to use it? Because they're going to have it, if they use it incorrectly will lie on the deaf karma you will sell hamdulillah Allah didn't give me that money.

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How many people are destroyed through wealth more than that historical poverty? That's what the prophet says I'm most scared of the taste of wealth. I'm most scared for you, that you get all the things you want. Because then I was going to ask you, what did you do? How many people did you feed? How many mosques? Did you build? How many holidays Do you go on? Ask yourself this if you get the wealth that you so deeply desire, if I get that winning, I get an SMS that I've uncle that passed away and you know, I needed a billion Rand it's true. It's not like a fake thing, right? What would that do to my life? Would I be a better person to be honest with yourselves, yet we compete so much

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for it. If we actually got it, it might be our destruction. The believer Allah is asking you think beyond your 50 years of the dunya think beyond the 50 years of the dunya when you know once the Prophet walk past salsa lamb walk past a dead rotting carcass. The go to

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camel donkey rotten. So the property is only sent to the Sahaba. How much would anyone pay for this thing? I will sell it Who will pay for it? So the Sahaba said even forget for free. We don't want it What does I do with a stinking? What must I do with it? So the prophet SAW sentences of Allah He, in the sight of Allah, the wealth of this dunya the worth of this dunya is least worth in that that's really what compared to Jana, that's what this dunya is worth is a great price. But it's not on the rich one and the poor, when you can get your agenda, you can get your fortune, it's waiting for you. How you use your wealth, how you use your poverty, when that is in your mind, are you really going

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to fight with someone over funerals? And since? Are you really gonna undercut someone in business just to get an extra 100 grand? Are you really going to sell out your camera and fight and curse one another, for that nice distance? Will you then go to war or kings of the world and kill millions of people so that you can have more power and resources that will only last you 2030 years and then you go to the cupboard with nothing. I was asking you to think beyond the competition of this. Understand that envy as the Prophet says it destroys, it destroys you on the inside. Because while you spend so much time looking at this other person's life from the outside, not thinking that you

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can have more than that if you just raise your hands to Allah. That's what this Deen teaches you. The wealth belongs to Allah and he gives it to me once today, give it to somebody else. It's a taste. Sometimes he took it from us blessing. Sometimes he gave it to that man as a punishment. Tomorrow is your turn they need system. This is how Allah works. No reason to feel any kind of conflict or animosity, search for your music. Yes, work hard for your music. If it requires that you have Huck, you fight for your hockey, no problem Alhamdulillah. But at the end of the day, it comes from Allah and will be taken from By Allah, and we all end up in the same place. So the worst thing

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that we could do is to fight with our brother over money.

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How many brothers don't speak to each other out of inheritance? How many brothers don't speak to each other because of business? Business didn't go so well. We're partners and now we're fighting a lie, that business is not worth it. It's not worth it. Take that loss in the dunya to secure your Acura and you know, we know this is not something new. I'm telling you that if you lost 1000 or 18,000 million Rand, for the sake of my brother, Allah will give you tenfold more than that in the dunya and akhira. Allah will then you will cancel was on your decree. In a few months time you're going to get cancer but because you did that, Allah Allah is going to you don't get that cancer.

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Something else that you thought is going to come in your way Allah to go away and masiva you don't know what is coming down what benefit you have a bank full of money, but your body is rotting or your children on drugs. We have a biller. What benefit is it, then don't underestimate that all those blessings is only monetary. So when you make you when we leave this Masjid, and we go back to the dunya, always ask yourself is this firends and since worth when I'm losing out, Allah subhanaw taala, then that so that's first thing the biggest conflict is through money. This is why we fight and we kill until today we argue, don't let money be the reason why you are not friends or a brother

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to another Muslim brother based on money. So think of the people in your life. It was any person that you speak and I'm not speaking to, because he cheated me out of something. He never paid me back. SubhanAllah fix that thing in your life, fix that thing. And Allah will make life better for you. Allah will make your life better. You know.

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I showed the Allah Allah. She was slandered. We know that she was accused of committing Zina and Allah and revealed it at exonerating her. One of those who accused of Xena was a cousin of Satan abubaker his father, so his own cousin was of those spreading the word and this cousin of Obamacare was poor. And a worker used to give him money. Abubakar supported him. So when the IRS came down, Russia was innocent. abubaker said after today, I'm not gonna give you money anymore. You lied about my daughter national, any father would do that. I mean, Subhanallah if it was me, I probably you don't want to beat the guy accused my daughter of Xena Subhan Allah. Allah reveals if two of

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occurrences forgive him and continue supporting him. Don't you want Allah to forgive you? Don't do it for him. Don't you know what, don't take a cut in your money will take you know the the bottom side, the bottom hand, for the sake of that person do for the sake of Allah.

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Give in your point of view your Huck at times sacrifice that Why? For the sake of Allah. Sometimes calamities go in our life, you know, it's my right you ask yourself, at what level Am I going to how far Am I going to fight for this? What I'm going to say you know what, I sacrifice my my, my right for the sacred Allah gives me something better. That's what we should think about.

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The second and inshallah if we need to go

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Over time, we'll continue next week. But the second reason, as we said, that people fight, and we haven't gone much beyond this as well, why animals fight because they from different species, you know, it just it just happens when, you know, hi lions and hyenas are giving a fight because Allah put it in them. That's how they are. Of course, we think those are animals. But today it's the same. Just because they look different to us. They come from a different community or culture or language. We and them, it's us and them. And this is the first son, you know, was the first one of the beliefs. He didn't want to bow to Adam. Why? What was his excuse? I am fire is clay. I made

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differently better than him. Because he's not from me. I don't want anything to do with him. This is one of the most basic reasons why we fight. Our physical differences are how I'll look again. Do you have any control in how you made your color? Your gender?

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Is your how tall you are, how short you are. You have no say in that. Who is the one that is decreed that Allah subhana wa Tada. So Allah says, Yeah, you and so people, all of people, Muslim, non Muslim, in we collect now when we created humans, we made all of you from a male and a female was a commercial robot, wakaba elita foo, and we created you into diverse communities, Indians, Malay, black, white, we made you different. This is the decree of Allah Lita foo, so that you can get to know each other, that you can actually interact with one another, that you can celebrate the diversity. Allah doesn't want us to be one community we are all Malaysia fee, all South Africa that

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no one says to be diverse and different. In a Chroma come in the light, ultimately, is the best if you want to know is the best. The one with the most taqwa we know that beautiful Hadith, Allah does not look on what's on the outside, it looks on what's on the inside. So if that's a law, how are you cutting yourself off? This respecting someone based on what's on the outside?

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How are you dividing yourself based on how the man looks? Because he's male, and she's female, we are divided, that we fight because of our physical differences, how we are built differently? Yes, there are different rules. For the older, the younger, there are differences in the Sharia. But this should not be divided, it should be a reason we are divided. Racism is something which has come out of us as a community. In fact, the Prophet peace upon him says it said that one of the things will remain in this oma is the father bill. And so we will, we will boast about our lineage, one of the things of Jamelia that will remain is that we will boast about our communities, meaning it's not bad

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to be to live your culture. But when you use that, to abuse someone else to belittle someone else, then it's a problem. And we still do that today. We belittle someone how many of us that if a person and ask yourself this to be honest yourself, a man knocks on your door, his skin is darker than us asking for your daughter's hand in marriage. What are you going to say? You didn't ask what's in his heart? What kind of person is how are we going to react, how we're going to respond. We haven't even gone beyond that, to say, to see beyond the physical. We weren't allowed to judge us on what's on the inside. Don't judge me. But we judge everyone on what's on the outside. Our physical differences

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yesterday, you'll never get away. We can't all be one color, one gender. But this does not mean one is better than the other one. Unless is the only criteria. That means makes one better than the other one is taqwa. The one was the strongest connection to Allah, the One whose heart is the purest, the cleanest, this is the only one that can feel proud. But understand, you're going to live in a world where you have to interact with people of different different makeups.

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You should not make that a reason why you cut them off.

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I end up with this point and we'll continue next week. Beyond physical we are obviously we are creatures. Our brains are what's important, right? It should be right our minds is what makes us our personalities, and psychology. And Subhanallah we today, we talk about science first and then we look at the dean. But in psychology we know from psychologists that we are different personalities. You have about 16 specific, you know, almost kind of boxes, that you have different types of personalities. This person is loud, that person is a quiet person, introverted extrovert, whatever it might be. And because of that, because we have our minds work differently. we're wired

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differently on the inside, you're going to you're going to interact differently. So this is too loud for me. I can't, you know, be with him. This person they too quiet. I want to be with him. This guy's too emotional. She's, you know, too judgmental. We have different outlooks and makeups. And this goes back to how I look at this. Heidi is an amazing Hadith. The Prophet says souls are like conscripted, they're like soldiers, those whom they recognize they get along with and those who they don't recognize they don't get along with this. When we talk about psychology, he says but

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he's saying that on our soul

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On the inside, we have souls that are similar, that are alike and they like to get together and their souls will have different kinds of personalities and they get together. Ayesha says, you know, there was a lady who was a joker, she used to make a lot of jokes and fun is very jovial lady in Makkah, when she came to Medina, she found also the Joker, jovial, aunty of Medina, and we became best friends. So I should say, My beloved, many the provinces are lumped spoke the truth that souls search out people that are similar to them, meaning what I'm putting them getting here is Allah created us differently. We can even change what we are made, I will make up this also is a reason

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why we fight how do we overcome these differences? How do we get beyond? I'm a quiet person. But the guy sitting next to me at work is allowed person how do I get how do I get across this? How are we going to get along?

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Shall we continue this topic? We continue this discussion in the in the weeks to come. But I end up with a word of advice for all of us. The prophets of Salaam says

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that he guarantees you a place in general, the person who gives up arguing in the middle of Jannah he gives up arguing even if he's right, let this be your motto for the week to come. I will leave of arguing, even if I'm right for my house in general. Even if I'm right, I will give it up. Whether it's with your suppliers, your customers, your colleagues, your wife, your whatever it might be, you imagine, I'm going to give up arguing for the sake of my house in general. That's what we're going to do inshallah, we will continue on this issue we'll get to medical discord in perhaps in two weeks to come. But we'll continue on our personal differences. Just a few announcements. If there's any

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Once again, we'd like to just say hi to everyone during the month of Ramadan who supported us and for all the efforts

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Alhamdulillah from the committee to secular library Academy

A Major Crisis

  • We are unable to interact with those we disagree with.
  • Result is hatred, violence and even killing
  • Locally: Cape Accord, Name calling, Takfir
  • Globally: Disunited ummah

“And obey Allaah and His Messenger, and do not dispute (with one another) lest you lose courage and your strength departs, and be patient. Surely, Allaah is with those who are As-Saabiroon (the patient)”

Surah Al Anfaal 8:46

Part 1: Introduction

Diversity of Allah Signs

وَمِنْ اٰيٰتِهٖ خَلْقُ السَّمٰوٰتِ وَالْاَرْضِ وَاخْتِلَافُ اَلْسِنَتِكُمْ وَاَلْوَانِكُمْۗ اِنَّ فِىْ ذٰلِكَ لَاٰيٰتٍ لِّلْعٰلِمِيْنَ
“And of His signs is the creation of the heavens and the earth and the diversity of your languages and your colors. Indeed in that are signs for those of knowledge.”

Surah Ar Rum 30:22

“…Had Allah willed, He would have made you one nation [united in religion], but [He intended] to test you in what He has given you..”

Al Ma’idah 5:48

Differences are blessings

“…Allah has remained silent about some things, out of compassion for you, not forgetfulness — so do not seek after them.”

A hasan hadeeth narrated by ad-Daraqutnee and others

Umar ibn Abdul Aziz said: “I am glad that the companions of the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) did not agree on every thing”. He said the meanings of that is when you have differences of opinions, it makes things broader and so that people can have more flexibility in their religion.

Imam Malik refused to allow his mathab to become the official mathab of the Muslims.

Differences are a reality

  • Between spouses
  • Between parents
  • Between siblings
  • Between friends
  • Between colleagues
  • Between communities of people

Golden rule

  • Differences are a inevitable
  • How we overcome them is what’s important

Examples of good etiquettes

  • Disagreeing amongst sahaba
  • The times of fitna they would not call one another disbelievers of hypocrites

Advice 1: Personal differences (Differing on a personal level)

Reasons for personal conflict

  • Competition for resources
  • Conflicting physiologies and personalities
  • Conflicting views

Competition for resources

Amr ibn Awf reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said,

“By Allah, it is not poverty I fear for you, but rather I fear you will be given the wealth of the world just as it was given to those before you. You will compete for it just as they competed for it and it will destroy you just as it destroyed them.”

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī2988, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2961
  • Rizq is from Allah
  • Envy destroys
  • Wealth is a test
  • End up the same place

Physiological Differences

O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted.

Surah Al Hujurat 49:13

Conflicting Personalities

Imaam al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) reported in his Saheeh that ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: “I heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) saying:

‘Souls are like conscripted soldiers; those whom they recognize, they get along with, and those whom they do not recognize, they will not get along with.’”

Saheeh al-Bukhaari, Kitaab Ahaadeeth al-Anbiyaa’, Baab al- Arwaah junood mujannadah

Conflicting views

  • Different perceptions, values, goals, agendas\
  • Overcome the perception gap
  • “Walk in someone else’s shoes”

Seek means of reconciliation

It was narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said :

“It is the shaver, and I do not say that it shaves hair, but that it shaves (i.e., destroys) religious commitment.”

Narrated by Abu Dawood, 4273; al-Tirmidhi, 2433. classed as Hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

It was narrated that Abu’l-Darda’ (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“He is not a liar who seeks to reconcile between people and says good things.”

Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 2490

Allah is displeased with both parties

It was narrated that Abu Ayyoob al-Ansaari (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“It is not permissible for a Muslim to forsake his brother for more than three days, each of them turning away when they meet. The better of them is the one who gives the greeting of salaam first.”

Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 2757; Muslim, 2560

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“The gates of Paradise are opened on Monday and Thursday, and everyone who does not associate anything with Allaah is forgiven, except a man who has had an argument with his brother. It is said: ‘Wait for these two until they reconcile, wait for these two until they reconcile, wait for these two until they reconcile.”

Narrated by Muslim, 2565

Do it for Allah

“I guarantee a house in Jannah (Paradise) for one who gives up arguing, even if he is in the right; and I guarantee a house in the middle of Jannah for one who abandons lying even when joking / for the sake of fun; and I guarantee a house in the highest part of Jannah for one who has good manners.”

Prophet Muhammad (s) reported by Imam Abu Dawud

Final Advice

“On the authority of Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allah (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Do not be envious of one another; do not artificially raise prices against one another; do not hate one another; do not turn one’s back on each other; and do not undercut one another in business transactions. And be, [O] servants of Allah, bretheren. A Muslim is the brother of a Muslim. He does not wrong him. He does not fail him [when he needs him]. He does not lie to him. And he does not show contempt for him. Piety is here” – and he pointed to his chest three times. “It is enough of evil for a person to hold his brother Muslim in contempt. All of a Muslim is inviolable to another Muslim: his blood, his wealth and his honor.”

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