Steps to Achieve Internal Happiness

Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari


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The speakers discuss the definition of happiness in Islam, including the use of "frustration," and the importance of "has" in Arabic to describe happiness. They emphasize the importance of personal and psychological factors, as well as addiction and moderation in one's life. The speakers also touch on the negative impact of expectations and minimizing them, as well as a recent house fire in Ireland. They end with a statement about a holiday and a holiday message.

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hamdulillah Muhammad who wouldn't start up he want to stop Pharaoh who want to study.

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When are all we learned he died I mean surely and fusina Amin say you're at our Marina Maga de la who Philomel dilla who am a huge deal for her the

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shadow Allah Illallah who the WHO luxury gotta wash her do and say you don't know have you been our water and our eternal Mohammedan Abdul Rasool

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Allahumma salli wa salim were very careless uh you didn't know Mohammed who are early he'll pull up you know, but he didn't was heavy here marine or other complementary or whom did Allahumma aluminum and found out when finally Marlin tena was in Ireland on Subhanak Allahu Muda, or LinkedIn or in Cambridge

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the respected brothers, and also sisters listening was once again Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

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First of all

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it's a privilege. It's an honor to be here in Sheffield. At this Masjid. I would like to thank the organizers, the brothers, the young brothers who

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organize this event, the Imam of the masjid to community members, and all the volunteers and everybody and all of you, of course, for coming attending this program today, Sunday evening, tomorrow morning, you will have to go work. I actually wanted this program. Normally when I go to different cities I say should be Saturday night. But then I was told that Saturday night people in Sheffield are very busy. So

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I think maybe driving taxis Allahu Adam. So Sunday was decided.

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The topic today is actually very important. And I have some very important things to say. I actually have some steps regarding the talk from important notes. Normally I stand

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and put my notes on a stand but not me if you need to well, since yesterday, and today as well. It's a bit tired. But I have very important points that I would like you to and myself, of course all of us to listen to them attentively and see if we can act upon them insha Allah make dua to Allah that we can act upon them and then bring some sort of change in our life? Because that's what's important. The topic,

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how to be happy.

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Who wants Well, let me change the question who does not want to be happy?

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Who wants to be happy, everybody

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wanting to be happy in this life, and of course in the next life. But even in this life, there's nothing wrong in being happy and wanting to be happy. Somebody recently when I think mentioned this somewhere, that I have a talk, how to be happy. So somebody said, Why do you want to be happy for why do Why does everybody wants to be happy? I mean, how can you be happy in this world when people are being slaughtered and killed everywhere in the world.

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Our mothers and children are being slaughtered. And we want to talk about being happy. You see, the point here is that there's a misunderstanding of what we mean by being happy

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misunderstanding, you could be happy. And you could have every single person if your family members passed away, or monitored in the path of Allah, you could still be internally happy, you could be happy and not have a home to live in. You could be happy and not not have no money whatsoever. The real happiness that we will we are talking about that's what we need to understand. First and foremost, we need to first define happiness.

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Because in order to acquire an achieve, because I said I have about six steps, we're going to talk about six different steps of acquiring happiness. But before we talk about those six steps of acquiring, achieving happiness, we need to first define define happiness. What is happiness? Because happiness is something that every single human being Muslim, non Muslim, elderly, young children, men, women, every human being wants to be happy in this world. But the problem is that everybody has their own definition. Everybody has their own criteria. Everyone has their own different understanding of what is happiness. People have different meanings concepts of Islam has a specific

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concept. The Quran and Hadith has a specific meaning and definition of happiness.

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And that's why we need to first do is to define the meaning of happiness according to the Quran, according to the Sunnah of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and then we act upon those methods, those steps those means those levels those ways those manners of acquiring that happiness. So what is happiness according to the Quran, according to Islam according to a box.

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In Arabic, you have two terms used for happiness. Many times maybe more than two but two, I just wanted to bring up to date. One word that is used to describe happiness in Arabic is fun.

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What is it? What is it you

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know, some people have

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the name funny, for me happy

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for you have a female who is happy. So one word that is used is fun. Another word is Su. Both are words and terms and words that are used phrases that are used in Arabic to describe happiness. But there's a difference between the two. Farah refers to external happiness, external happiness, someone who's got a pair of temporary, external, temporary pleasure. Someone is in the mirror and somebody's eating some nice food. Okay, right now, when he's eating that plate of biryani, he's enjoying it, that external happiness, but in his mind, he knows that something's wrong at home, or he has to go, you know, somewhere in the gym in the morning, okay, or somebody in the prison,

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somebody, somebody's at the prison eating a hateful opinion, when he's eating reality,

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enjoyable food, this external happiness, but internally, overall, that person is unhappy. So for us refers to external, temporary Joy meant, and that's why whenever the word far has been used in the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala uses it in a negative way. Allah says actually God, the FRA, in the love.

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Don't be temporarily happy. Allah is telling us that because Allah does not lead to those people who are just externally

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overjoyed and externally happy.

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Whereas another term which is used in Arabic in the Quran, and sunnah to describe happiness is to rule. So rule is from the word sin, in Arabic secret is known as sip. Secret is known as sip. So pseudo is a word which is taken from sip, which means it's hidden secret happiness. What do you mean by secret happiness, internal happiness, happiness of the heart, the peace and tranquility of the heart, externally, you might have two pounds. Externally, you don't even have a house to live externally, you don't have no wealth, no property, but internally, your heart is at peace. You're in a state of tranquility, contentment, and this is what Islam means and describes as happiness.

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Happiness of the heart. That's why they say some of the Arabs, early settlers, early scholars, Nagarajan, Phil Berger, he was touring Farrakhan, that sometimes someone who's happy internally, you have a glow on the face, but internally, they are happy, the hearts are happy. And this is a real meaning of happiness, not external. That's why happiness is not in cars, not in properties, not in wealth, not in money, not in health, not in family members, not having, you know, luxuries in this world. That's not happiness. Happiness is the feeling inside. Happiness is the contentment of the heart. It's the tranquility of the heart.

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And this is what is happiness. And that's why we have to define this happiness, we have misunderstood what happiness is, we have misunderstood. This is why, I mean, you may have heard of this, all the time, people say money cannot buy happiness. And this is not just the phrase that we just say, just like that, how many of us really believe in the fact that money cannot buy happiness? It is actually true, not from an just an Islamic point of view, but from a psychological point of view from people who've actually carried out research on this topic, and actually wants to talk and I have a small article, which I'm going to just tell you some few things from there. There was a non

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Muslim, who was a massive equity investor. million air, you could Google this, this is online, this article, and his name was James morontia. What he said some of the things he said very similar to what Islam says he actually his visit, there's a article check it up online, the psychology of happiness 13 steps to happiness. I have six steps, which we're going to talk about. Some of them are very similar to his 13. We're going to talk about his 13 steps, but this was a equity investor. After being a millionaire, and

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investing a lot of money

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Having properties luxuries, you know, massive Corporation business. He says here that this is sometimes because when it comes from people like that, then we take it more seriously sadly, when it comes to we shouldn't be really like that it should be if it comes from the Quran, we should take it more seriously. But that's our psychology. So sometimes it's important to also mention this.

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Just some things that he said he said, many of us believe that money will make us happy, but it won't. This is a person who has millions after earning millions and millions, his writing this money will not bring us happiness, except for the very poor. Know what that means. Except for the very poor. If someone is extremely poor, someone who is extremely poor does not even have enough money to buy some food and eat, you give that beggar 10 pounds, that 10 pounds will make a difference between remaining hungry at night and eating some food. So yes, for that extremely poor person, many will bring some sort of happiness because he is hungry, thirsty, extremely hungry, he hasn't eaten for

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three, four days. But today he has a meal because he has some money. He's cold shivering on the road on the street, you give him five pounds will buy a blanket and cover himself, save himself protect himself or herself from cold. Yes, that five pounds will make that person happy. But those who are not extremely poor, or a person earning

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2000 1000 pounds a month and someone earning 2000 pounds a month not going to make a difference. It doesn't make a difference. Extra money once you eat one was more Musa Musa in Ramadan. twosome says, you know, pastries a bit more food, are you going to use to warm blankets, three more blankets. It's just mental and psychological mentally, psychologically, we think the way we think the extra money will bring us happiness. So more money will not buy happiness will bring happiness except for the extremely important instead of now, he says, instead of dreaming of a lot of worlds, we should dream of good things that we can do like close friends, close friends, healthy bodies, meaningful work.

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And then he he says that the human beings now this is his research 50% of human beings are search. That sorry, with human beings 50% of happiness comes from a genetic set point is divided, though in humans, you know, or happiness into three categories. Number one 50% of our happiness comes from a genetic standpoint, what that means is that this is something we don't have control over we have been created. Some people are naturally more cheery and happy. It's just, it's genetically, you're creative. We are all created with a certain level of happiness. Some people are just naturally more children than others. So you can't do anything about it. You know, maybe your father was very

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joyful, always joking. So then you're always joking and happy as your grandfather, it's in the genes it's running. You know, your your, your father was shorter. Your short people say I'm very short, I say my father, I'm actually an inch taller than my father. So this is genetic.

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This is genetic. So 50%, we can't do anything about it. Because it's something that we are created with 10% He says after that, so that's 50. Now 10% is because of our circumstances, again, we don't have control over that. Like, for example, the country we're living in the city we're living in, or the race, our age, age, you might be more happy when you're 30 less happy when you're 50 More Happy maybe when you're 52. So it's the age, it's your gender, it's your personal history, that what it brings happiness for 10%. So that 60% God, no control over 60% of our life in order to bring happiness. So it remains How many percent remains only focused 40% remains in this 40% According to

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this James Bond to non Muslim researcher. He says that this 40% is the area where we as human beings can change and bring some more peace and tranquility. And in this 40% It has nothing to do with money. It has nothing to do with wealth. It doesn't have nothing to do with properties and wealth. It's about being busy about building relationships are about being healthy about doing the things that you like, when you when you do service for community. And then he has you know, 13 steps. He also says you look what he says. He says a vast array of individuals, meaning lots of people seriously overrate the importance of money in making themselves and others happy. Study after study

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from from psychology shows that money doesn't equal happiness. And then he says here, if the United States is generally wealthy

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And then it was 3040 years ago, why other people happy, or more happy? Now people are depressed.

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More with more money, people are more depressed. Just recently, how many people we hear in the news, lots of people like to hear about football players and you know, sports stars. So many of them, there's actually a question, Somebody contacted me.

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Because there's so many sports stars, who are actually after some of them whilst they're playing over the career when the careers ending. And many of them after the career finishes, these are remember people who earn 3040 5060 7080 100,000 a week, how much 100,000 A week, some people who don't know about spoiling

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this crazy

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many of them are getting depressed. Many they are going into alcoholism, and drugs, and they just, they just have empty lives. They have 1020 30 properties 200,000 A week different, they don't have to work, they have a vacuum, to have a vacuum in their life, emptiness in their life. And that's why they actually there's organizations now being set up to help these people to remove them from the depression. And they are looking at who can help. They're actually looking at even Muslim people who are still alive, Somebody contacted me, they want to, they want to contact maybe some Muslim organization or some scholars, who would be able to sort of help from a religious point of view. So

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you have some Muslim players that want Islamic advice. So they want them to be helped as well. Just two, three days ago, somebody contacted me. So the more money someone has doesn't mean that they are going to be more happy. Because this is not internal happiness. It's not the happiness of the heart.

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And it goes on and many, many other things he mentions here.

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Why are Jewish people happier? Perhaps? Yeah, this is very important, perhaps is because many of them are workaholics? Why aren't rich people more happy than the average people, because many of them are probably workaholics, because they are more focused on money than on the things that bring them happiness.

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Very important point. Sometimes we are so engrossed in our work and our jobs than the reason why we are working for we overlook that. So we're working until we're 7080. And then before we even enjoy that we're in the grave. We're in the grave with all that hard work, a type of job or work where we don't even have time to spend with our sons, our daughters, our children, our families, no time whatsoever. workaholics This is not what Islam advocates, brothers and sisters. This is not what Islam advocates. There was a reading recently of a few years ago, maybe there was a like discussion going on one of the radio stations, I was listening to it. And they were talking about

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they did a phone asking people young, no, they actually talked about they did a survey. They went to schools, many schools from you know different backgrounds, white, black Muslim, Asians, non Muslims. And they spoke to children from 10 years age to 15 to 16 or 17. Asking them Are you happy? Are you at peace? What brings you most happiness? What your parents do for you?

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And they did a survey. This was a research. What they found was about 80% of the children what they said was not when they were asked what brings you happiness in life?

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The answer wasn't that we have a big house to live in. Or my daddy has a massive car so I can go in his car. Or because we go for a lot of holidays. No 80% of children responded by saying the thing that makes us the most happy is that we have a meal together as a family.

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We have a meal together. As a family at home, I able to see my father, I'm able to see my mother, brothers sisters, we're all together this week on fostering real relationships. This brings happiness. You could live in a rented house and spend quality time with your family far better than living in a mansion and never seeing your family. We're seeing them hardly every other week.

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So this is what this

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researcher is saying as well. And then he goes on to 13 steps of better life, you know, which he's mentioned and we have some steps. So this is what we need to know define happiness. According to Islam according to the Quran and Sunnah.

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Real happiness is internal, everlasting, not temporary internal happiness of the heart. This is also described as

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Hello proton as in Islam as CA, this is what we call corner corner unreadable, or sorry, readable code up.

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Corner means contentment, rebar bill, Allah means being happy with the color, the fate, the decree of Allah subhanaw taala. This is what, how happiness comes into HUD, being content, being happy, whatever Allah has given us, we are content and we are happy with that. Okay, so this is this is the definition of happiness. Before we go on to mentioning those steps, I hope you've understood that the definition of happiness and also the rule of law to say that this is sometimes it's, it's an error, it's a gift, it's a bounty from Allah, it's an autoimmune Allah subhanaw taala. It's a

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quality or an attribute of the heart. It's a condition of the heart, that Allah blesses some people who makes them happy, he makes their, their hearts happy. We have to also understand that there's a difference between you know, one of the other words used to happiness is raw, will do as when they say, right, in Arabic, raw, raw means, in order to around means what?

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What does it mean in English?

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Refer anybody?

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Sorry? Comfort? Yes.

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Raha comfort, there's a massive difference between raw and ASVAB. Right.

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There's a big difference between what comfort and the means of comfort. These are two separate things. What we have done, we've made them one, we've confused them we think comfort, is, does come in or comfort is the

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the means of comfort. Someone can have the means of comfort, money, wealth, property, cars, whatever, but not have comfort and peace and tranquility. Someone else can have comfort but not the means.

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Someone can have comfort and not the means somebody can have means but not the comfort. a suburb of Raha is something else. Comfort is something else. peace and tranquility is something else. And the means of peace and tranquility and happiness is something else. And that's why we see sometimes that someone who has all the means of happiness, yet internally unhappy.

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Internally, there are incidents that are so many incidents, there's an incident mentioned in one of the books by one of the scholars that once there was a person who actually this is related from some of the earliest source that and I don't know, the absolute authenticity of the record.

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Set up as money mentioned this, and I'm sure he must have verified the authenticity of this, but that somebody you met, and it's possible, we don't get over sort of enthusiastic or over happy and over zealous about this, these issues, but it's just the incident, somebody met. So you're gonna have your article that was set up, and it's possible there's a big discussion amongst them. What have you thought about whether it was the appropriate or not nothing's categorical. There's different opinions. hydras, colonialist. You mentioned opinions of the scholars as loads of opinions. Some said he was a prophet. Some said he wasn't something he was aware he is still alive

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or not. Some said yes. Some said no. Is it possible to meet him people I've met in some say no. So there's nothing categorical. And you know, it's not something that we should have a big debate about. There's just an incident that was mentioned that somebody

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he meant 10 And

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now, Sarah, how are you peace be upon him? He said to him that

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make a dua No, ask me, I'll make dua for you, to Allah, Allah subhanaw taala that Allah would accept. Do you have any need? Do you want to be like anyone in this world know you have a name or make dua and Allah will accept it?

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So he said, Yes.

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Can you please make dua for me and I will also make dua, that Allah makes me extremely happy so I have no sadness no sorrow, no hardship, nothing in this life.

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Nothing. So there are 100 say that's not possible. This is dunya you have to also remember dunya Hara, you know, we have an author we have Jana Johanna. Jannah paradise is just bliss. Hellfire, May Allah save a spoon. I mean, it's just misery hardship punishment Dunya is a combination of both is in the middle. You have difficulties hardships externally you will have we will all experience Allah says that what an affluent condition you mean or hopefully will jewelry went up similar and where he will enforce without permission or sabe will surely test you with decrease in wealth economically you will be tested and Michigan mineral health that we feel you might have walked you might live in

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And suddenly there'll be fear

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and you will be tested by your close family members passing away and dying to be martyred. People will die people pass away your son will die. So this is a test dunya is just a test. So what are the growing conditions email hope you will jewelry were not submitted and what will unfold, your golf will become decreased when unforced whatever rod you will have you'll be tested in this life, every person whether you're pious or not, whom this brother and sisters whether you're pious or not, every single person will be tested. You know, sometimes what happens. And remember, I was mentioning the story of credit. Before I mentioned that some of us we make a big mistake, which is that we equated

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practicing deem to being happiness life.

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So not being happy, because eternity will be happy. But with having no hardships. Like someone says, oh, you know, I don't know why I have so much marriage problems or trouble in life. Why I pray all my son since since when Allah give guarantee that if you offer Salah you're not going to have you're not going to have hardships, rather than there's a hadith here that I have below who I've done some validation. But when Allah loves his slave, he gives him more hardship to purify him to enter him straight into Gemina. So don't ever make this mistake that the more pious you become, that means you should have less difficulties hardships, nope. If we were to look at the messenger SallAllahu says

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our hardships are nothing in comparison to to the hardships of the messenger SallAllahu the most hardships anyone ever experienced was the messiness of Allah.

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And he was a prophet of Allah, why didn't Allah just make him rich and wealthy? Actually, he was given that choice but he said no, angel came and said if you want the mountain of work, to be turned into golden give it to him, he said no, he actually chose you know, he was pulled in so you said Allah who said was poor, we know that he's actually drop loving, surely if he zoonotic Misaki, Allah resurrects me with the group in the group of the poor people okay, but we have to remember that his poverty was a poverty of choice not a poverty which was forced upon him, he chose to remain poor, he did not want to. So this is a mistake that we should never make that if we are because what will

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happen is that we have hardships and difficulties then we will take Okay, now we don't want to know Allah is not listening to me that means okay, why should I carry on? Oh, we didn't fatal to Allah, Allah just giving us eyes to see is enough that we should be in sujood for the rest of our lifetime. Just this I just close our eyes for a minute. You know, we should sometimes do that. Walk around for 10 minutes with your eyes closed. And think just imagine if I was blind. Just imagine, just imagine just one site that Allah has given us. No hardship, just to pay Allah back for that. We could remain in frustration and sujood for eternity, still not enough.

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So this is a big mistake that we make sometimes that we are it's like we're doing the law favor. I pray my five time phrase, I give sadaqa I go for Hajj. I'm doing so much good deeds. yet. Why is this happening to me? This has nothing really much more to do. Because my prayers are not reading the way they should be. So anyway, this person when he came to Harare, cerambycidae, make dua to Allah. I have no difficulties, no hardships in life, no hardships.

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He said, Look, that's not possible.

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That's not possible. You live in dunya. Yes, Jana, internalized that will be the case. But in this life, it's not possible that you have no external hardships and difficulties not possible. You could be internally peaceful, but externally, it's not possible. However, I give you a suggestion. I can make a draft for you and you also make dua to Allah. Directly. We both need to Altova that Allah make you like, the most happiest or the most fortunate or the most affluent person that you see. He said, Yes. Okay, that's great.

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So how did I listen, I'm sitting okay, go and see someone who you think you want to be like, and then come back and we'll both make dua to Allah that you become like him. So the guy who went one or two days in his locality community looking searching went to one person, some people said this guy, he does everything. So he looked around, searched around and did some investigation. Then he found Oh, no, he's actually good. hasn't got an arm or something.

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Somebody else? This one definitely. But he has this issue. You went to third person, fourth person, fifth person. You couldn't just find someone perfect. Finally he came across one person who had a mansion property luxuries and children and grandchildren, you know home and everything you said yes.

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So he met this person, and he was

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impressed by this person

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met him. And then afterwards, he started speaking to him. So this person asked him, then what are you investigating? He said, This is what it is. And that's it. I'm going to other artists around when we both going to make law to Allah, Allah made me like you. He said before you go, Wait a minute.

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He said, Whatever you see here, you think I'm really happy. And then he told him his internal private life story. And he said this, everyone in the world thinks I have everything. But look, sit down. And then he spoke to him. And he told me a few things. And he said, some of these grandchildren, the illegitimate, so mature and illegitimate, my wife went and committed adultery. And then some of them are illegitimate, and have problems and have this problem, I have that problem. And he mentioned the problem that this person was thinking that I am in Jannah comparison to this person. And then he thought that yes, you know what, I made a mistake. There's nobody in

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this world who does not have external problems.

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We need to take this thought out from our mind that we will not have external problems. It just doesn't work like that. This is a test. Dhonielle is a test. It's a short, small, brief 50 6070 years of passing by, it's like Goodwill, dunya and the gallery, or other Seville the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, living this dunya as though you are a foreigner, a traveler and not just not even that, rather just a passerby, you're just passing you've just come to Sheffield, you're passing or you're going you're going away, you know, if I don't have you know, everything when I'm just coming to another city, or not even a city. It's like a service station on the

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motorway. This is what dunya is if you have a bit of hardship at the service station, no problem. They don't stay here forever, you're gonna go. So this is this is why

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in this world externally, it's very difficult, that nobody has any problems. But what we can acquire and achieve is that Islamic definition of happiness, which is happiness of the heart, which is sukoon, which is OMA Hina, which is

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peace, tranquility pseudo physical, and this only comes by as I said, What did I say? This only comes by

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Karna are this is the word that we need to remember golden principle Karna

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contentment being content with what Allah has given us. And number two, Rayleigh Bill Abba being riba rather, you know, it's like being happy pleased with the Kabbalah. Aruba will Allah with the Allah the decree the fate, the decision that Allah has made for me a new if Allah has made a decision for me to be very rich for very poor or tall or short, or healthy or not healthy. Yes, we take the means to bring you know, goodness into our lives. But then whatever Allah has decided for us, we are content internally. And this only comes brothers and sisters. This can only come if we meditate and think and reflect about the shortness and the mortality of this life. We think to

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ourselves, okay, this is just a short life it's okay. So from someone comes by has passed away. It's okay.

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How many years 1015 years? This is why in that verse Well number one, the Commission afterwards borders Allah say, Allah Dena is the father who Siva all in the letter he will England erasure Raja rune, those people will have hardship musi but calamity difficulties, what do they say? And it's not just saying.

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Another problem powers is that we only say things.

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The real benefit is to contemplate and understand what we say. We have a very beautiful poster here. I've got one minute sunnah, you know, to offer to recite after solid

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and very good that we have translation has all of us I'm sure many of you may have taken the time to go and stand and reflect and read the meanings.

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If we read with the meanings, it brings a massive change in our lives. That to us, the simplifications we read, we should know the meanings of them.

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You know, I have a young son, he's about four years old.

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He's just started reading so I may teach him two hours at home.

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Now with Eduardo, he's already full. So it's just about you know, he's not even he just started school this year. So I made him read and memorize it to us, but not just the Arabic da

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when I teach him I say to him memorize it, so he memorize it. When you enter the toilet, the washroom What do you do? When you read

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in becoming a hobo he will cover? What does he mean? All our PC will protect me from the man Janata shaytaan from the field

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will do nothing shaytaan please save me so when it goes before the entering the toilet has Allahu in near all the victim and hold on. Hold on please protect me Don't let the main shaytaan and the female shutdown come into it you know it's a dirty place inside here and they like to come here so please just if they want to come just protect me and make a door between them and me to say what I've done and the toilet. So while we're reading that hobos means a male ship on Abba, it means the female Chair of the cubby is a plural of kabisa however, it is a plural of Kavita. Kavita is one female Shavasana.

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And hada is a pool of female Sheltie. So, every Doha every dua, even after prayers, why are we reading what are we reading while I'm reading, contemplation makes a big difference. So when we say learning is when we have masiva hardship, in the learning in regular archery, in Manila, we all belong from my father has been taken away, my mother has been taken away, my son has been taken away my sister, my brother, my husband, my wife, they belong to Allah and I belong to we all belong to Allah. If something belongs to someone, and they take it away, then we can't complain. You remember that story of news today? The famous in Sahil Buhari and elsewhere famous story when his son was

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really ill, and he left for work. And when he came back, he said, How is the son met famous story and his wife actually prepared a good meal for him. And then really, in a nice way, explain to him and as I said, Look, you know, can I ask you something? If I was a borrowed if we bought some oil from our neighbor, and then our neighbor, after a week or so requested that oil back?

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Would it be wrong for us to do it wrong for us to feel bad that they want that coil back? No, of course, if they gave us something, it's a failure if they wanted to give it back, of course. So she said in the same way, Allah subhanaw taala had gifted us graduates as a man our son, actually elastic

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belongs Toba. In the law. We all belong to Allah. And the second part, we're in LA Raji, rude.

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This person has gone today, we will all be returning to Allah life is very short.

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Number one, we belong to Allah so Allah can test us.

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If you belong to someone, they test us, they can do what they weren't with us unto us. So we belong to Allah, Allah has the right to test us why in Nigeria, he robbed your own, and we will return to Him. So the test is very short. Will it's just 10 1015 years, it's okay. 20 years, 25 years, 30 years, but nothing in comparison to the eternal eternal 100 million billion trillion years in the next life. So life is very short. So the test is very short. So focus more on having a better hereafter, rather than a better here this will

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focus more on that's why the Hadith says it mainly dunya because the Rebekah What am I Karateka the country for coffee, coffee, her work for this life, as long as you need to live in this life, work for the next life, as long as you need to live in the next one. This life is 60 years. So work like it's 60 years, but we know we will be 60 years, 65 years. So seven to maximum satisfied, we work as though we're going to stay here for eternity. And the next life is eternity. But we work as though we're going to be there for 6070 years, we've changed it around. So this is what the Hadith says. So what we need to bring

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this is I'm still defining and then I've got these six steps. I'm going to do them quickly. Corner and the rebar We'll call these two terms. contentment.

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What this basically means is that

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what we do in the world three things number one is we take the means to have a blissful life. We take the means of course this doesn't mean that okay? This is life is short, so I'm not going to work from tomorrow. Okay, that's it no work. No, we take the means earning wealth and money is actually very important. Actually. There's books written. We don't know we don't need these books. In this day and age. There was this one great humbling Imam his name was Mangala. He was actually a student of Imam Muhammad Humbert or the article, he wrote a very good small book in which has to have a hassle ality jollity was saying it would encourage encouraging people to go and trade and do

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business and commerce with all great Hadith and statements of the Sahaba and artha. In his time, there was a book needed why because because there were some people who was too religious and they were saying we're very spiritual as a we don't need the dunya there we're giving the rose to the dunya and he proved that this is what Islam Ramadan is not part of Islam. The Quran Allah says what happened? He did oh,

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Ha now so rural Islam moneth monasticism is not part of Islam. So we take the means number one we take the means number two, we take the Halal means. So the first one take the means which I have done so we take the means because we had early for you and Brother forever as it says, earning of Halal wealth. Actually there's rewards and virtues the Hadith and Sunnah tenement the attacher of pseudoscalar mean manda Bina was a deeply no Shahada. It was a businessman, a tradesman, who is working, earning wealth, but who is truthful and trustworthy, very big conditions, saw the enemy, the two conditions of the messenger, sorry, the two qualities and attributes of the messenger

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who is truthful and trustworthy on the day of judgment, He will be resurrected with the truthful, the righteous and the prophets and the solid team and the martyrs. Barnaby II will say the lead was Shahada. He was sorry he is in the tsunami of volatility, but very important conditions truth. Yes, somebody gives you one penny extra to pay that penny back. Somebody gives you extra change, gonna pay that money back and trustworthy not involved in food in cheating in deceiving, observing the proper business model business ethics, that's when we become with the profits the marches and the righteous and the Gambia and on the other hand, if we don't remember there's no middle way this is

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very serious. There's no middle way there's no like middle is actually extreme right extreme left, the other had eaten the same champion on three dimensions the next one you

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have to juggle your Sharona your reality for John 11 and Taco world. All the tradesmen and businessmen on the Day of Judgment will be raised as sinners, Puja virgin, there'll be old sinful people, except the one who fears Allah and his business and trade, except the one who is set up who is truthful, and except the one who is righteous. So either we are righteous, and we are with the prophets and the martyrs or we are not righteous, we deceive and we commit fraud. We are in the hellfire. There's no middle way. So the first method of acquiring this internal you know this, this quality of the meaning of finance is to take the harder means of acquiring wealth and means of

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happiness. Number two with moderation. Number two is moderation. Remember, moderation don't become workaholics, like you know that researchers said that we work day and night work our socks off and we can't even share a meal with our family. Number one is taking the means huddle means number two with moderation. And then number three thinking to ourselves that whatever Allah has given after taking these means, this means and after putting in the effort, be content internally happy with whatever Allah gives us.

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This is what we call and this is this is the definition of this happiness. And this is why Hadith in Sahih al Bukhari the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Lisa Lavina and casseras is out of Kingdom, Lena Lena knifes. The real richness is not because of access and wealth. It's not because increase in poverty in property and in money. It's not because of increase in wealth. The real richness is linen, knifes. It's the richness of the heart. That's the real richness.

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And also there's a hadith of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, what do our customers look like when our nurse be happy with what Allah has divided for you made the same for you, you will be the most happiest of people. As soon as the villain sisters that day we bring this quality into our lives. What's the quality Karna remember this word, make heavy use of this word in Arabic, Ghana.

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The day we bring this quality into our lives, contentment, being content, being happy, okay, whatever Allah has decreed. I'm internally happy that's decided for me no complaint.

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That's the day you will be the happiest in our lives. And we'll have to that's the day when we will have this internal peace and tranquility. Because remember,

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corner we have to have corner because if we don't have that, what's officer corner?

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What's opposite of

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not being content, when you're not content? You could have a lot of wealth, you're still not content.

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If you have one property and you don't have the quality of another you want another property. If you're if you have two properties and you don't have gone out you want a third property. That's why the Hadith or Behati, loca Livni, Adam, worthy Amanda, leftover was the end if given Adam. Okay, not just me, all of us. If the son of Adam had one value of gold, he would seek to if he had to, you will seek three

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and Hadith mentions just to hear but this doesn't mean only two or three rather, carries on. If you have five you want six, you have 6171, Yom level jofa Ibni them in the Torah, you will carry on aspiring, wanting more, more more, until death comes. That's why because remember brothers sisters, none of our, you know, our desires in this world will never end, our desires will never end, we will have one thing we want another. So if we have an outlet, even less will make us content. But if we don't have been out, we'll have more. And we'll still want more and more. And this is what we need to do now quickly moving on to these six steps. How many steps so I've defined happiness? What's the

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definition of happiness?

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Not external, temporary joy. It's not far. It's not just external things that bring us happiness. It's not just a nice food. We've had a nice car we're driving for a nice cozy comfort, you know, bed of comfort and cozy bed. That's not that's just external, temporary, at the moment joy. Mentally we are not happy. The definition of happiness is the internal, the long term, the everlasting, the long lasting contentment of the heart. And that's the definition. Now what are these means? How do we bring this into our lives?

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Number one,

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what's number one? And even?

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Number one, this is taken from the Hadith of the messenger so

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there's a hadith in the SOFIA female Muslim say you're gonna go further or the above it relates to the messenger SallAllahu and himself, he says, All Nauru Edelman who was following? What are some guru? Men who were for Paco? I know.

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There's the Rudy amatola, absolutely authenticating

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of the Hadith, which is in the Sahih Muslim, look at people

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who are below you,

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who are at a low lower level, do you not look at the slot machines?

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Do you not look at attorneys or do you not look at people above you look at people below you do not look at people above you. Because if you do that, it is very likely the chances are the human not be ungrateful, to the boundaries and the normal form but he'll be grateful to the narrow.

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This is a golden principle given to us by the Messenger of Allah Azza mumbles Marley's center in worldly matters. In worldly matters, look at people below. If you have a house.

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Look, if you have a big property, look at people who are living in a smaller property. If you have a smaller property, think about look means think about ponder, reflect on the people who are renting houses. If you're renting a good house, think about those people who are in council rundown properties. If you're in a rundown council house, go into the streets of Sheffield and look at people who are homeless sleeping rough on the streets. And if you're that you can still carry on looking at someone who doesn't have legs. At least we can even sleep there are people who can't even sleep. Look at people below.

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If you are healthy, you can see in your eyes if you've got a problem. You've got some health problems. Think about people who are who don't even have legs,

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who don't even have legs, look at them. And if we can't think about them, then go and seek out these people go to a hospital where there's people who are hands are chopped off and cut off who don't have legs. The moment we think of people aspire more, we are being okay. And this is the greatest remedy. Yes, I have some friends that said the greatest remedy is the moment you feel a bit sad, you know, we should do go home, go onto the internet and put on a clip of family members who are tortured in Syria or burnt legs or burned, hands chopped off, pieces of the body cut off and some of them are still smiling. Just look, go on to YouTube or whatever. And look at a clip of someone in

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extreme distress. My problem your problem Ron sister will seem absolutely insignificant because nothing our problems are nothing.

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There's nothing

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and some of these people should have a life if you if you hear from them. Family members have been destroyed. Some of them say that 100 I'm still alive at least I'm see. My son has gone marching in the path of Allah and happy and happy Allah Allah accepted myself.

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So this is what we need to do. This is the Hadith of the Messenger of Allah. Because the problem is, the issue is that if we look at people above us, what will happen? We look at someone we have

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You know, 5000 pounds car, you look at someone with a Ferrari or a Lamborghini or a Porsche or whatever, I don't if you have those in Sheffield

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you're probably you do, but look at people in luxury of just bring misery into your life. It's just, it's gonna cause you misery. So why look at people above orders? Look at people below. Think about look at and think about the 1000s of people in prisons. We're free walking around can come up with them as you go home can see our children

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1000s in prisons, think about 1000s of people in hospitals, think about 1000s of people who have died. Think about 1000s of people who don't have legs to think about 1000s of people who don't have a home just

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so this is what we need to do. I'm Dylan Wallach. Hello, Imam Abdullah

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great Imam up at Target.

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He said, he used to say that in the beginning, I used to mix an interim and intermingle and interact and mix with the really rich people. I used to always remain very, very sad.

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Then I changed and I started changing my friend circle and I started mixing with the poor people. The day I started mixing with poor people since that day have become the happiest person

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because now I'm not looking at people with massive houses and properties and you know a lot of cars I'm looking at people who are far worse off than me. So now I'm happy

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there's another Hadith in Sahih Muslim.

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The question and that hadith answers this question. We said

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that we need to look at people

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people need to look at people watch those videos. Yeah, everyone paying attention

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is a part okay? T 9558 T Y and the sun Amira nice car

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the Hadith that this is the first step what is the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say, look at people look at people.

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A question might come, but okay, I'm not going to look at people above me. Don't look at people above you. But I live in a place where automatically I am seeing people above me. I'm not going to seek them out. I'm not going to read a nice Porsche Aereo Okay, who's got a nice car? Wow, beautiful house. Nice car. I'm gonna do all of that. I'm just driving in Sheffield and suddenly a nice Ferraris passing by or suddenly I see a person with 1000s I just come across someone who's very affluent or someone really good in worldly aspects. What do I do now? So the hat is another Hadith in the same chapter or sorry the next chapter Imam Muslim Reinbach mentioned the Messenger of Allah

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Medina setups as

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it relates again answering this question is another I have no commitment for delivery he will marry will help if you happen to by chance by coincidence, you did not out of your choice go to find these people but you are doing your normal work and you're you are going doing your normal business and you're going you know in your normal day in your life and you happen to buy chances someone better than you for someone given more bounties and now someone who is more fortunate than you in terms of wealth in terms of physical health

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if that happens so the Messenger of Allah Islam said if that happens and what you need to do is then now go intentionally go intentionally to the poor people and look for them and seek them out and think about that and look at the state this will bring about color and happiness and contentment

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like I said, Go and watch a documentary on really poor people if you happen to the this way needed

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and in this world, brothers and sisters, we don't have to go anywhere far even in the same city as I said you can go to the internet but in the same city in the same place

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you know, I mentioned this once before a few years ago to go to America California any everybody has heard of La yeah I've been about three four times this time the first time I went to the programs and conference going on essential because the first time every time I like to just you know

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like to see the world do you know like go and see some scenery and things like that actually send the Quran Allah school zero for all for guru for I am the rune evaluating the geometric neighborhood evaluator Samantha Sophia, so it's good, you know, just to show one of the days after the program finishes so let's go around so they took me around some of the friends were there we went to see the city and on the outskirts of the city. So there was some dunya

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Good things as well. So let's just see anyway no problem. We went you know, LA is where Hollywood is they said you want to go there's a big sign that's unknown. Have you seen this I'm gonna go. But we went through Elena in the streets and they were just driving me and showing me the city and area. They went to a really they went to the Hollywood area. And then there's there's a, there's a town that Hollywood town which is known to be a very affluent town and next to it is a small place called Beverly Hills, like mansions 4 million property, this house is seven to 7 million, 8 million 10 million, 2 million, you know, house prices are there just thought of like people million, this has

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nothing you can do like people cause and say, because they're not happens internally, most of these people are happy, you know, they will not have hardships in their lives all internally, you ask all of them, you know, if they are sports players, or golf players or whatever, they're all mentally psychologically unhappy. If we changed this focus in our mind, you know, we've seen this, I don't know joking, you look at his houses, whoo, kid, I didn't want to go into that house, hacking in a nice small house where I'm having my daily food, I'm relaxed. Mentally, I'm spending time with my family, it's just a short life under the law go into the next life. That's much all there's much

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more happiness in that. So we went to that market that sorry, that that city center area, downtown, we coded, and there's shops, there we went, listen, you said we don't wanna go, we just we actually parked and we went just two minutes, just you know, from outside just to see them some of the shops, because in those shops, where there are some shops, they sell a pair of socks for $2,000 How many $1,000 One suit is for $10,000. And a designer, you take you have to book a designer six months in advance, he will you have consultation with him his consultation charges of $10,000 for two hours, where he will come, He will give you advice you consult him on what suit to wear, on what occasion

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what type of tie what type of suit, you know, this is this is where the world is at. And people are doing that they're still not happy. Because remember, this is a Buddha, Adam, this is human beings, you have one you want another thing you want, you want more and more. These desires. It's like a it's like a you know, each on your body, you see, the more you stretch, the more the more the more you just keep on wanting more and more. And these people then mentally they're thinking about something else. You know, I sometimes think seriously, we as human beings, some of us on absolute different mental health, psychological levels. So human beings cannot even get to the level of

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thinking of other human beings. A person like that, who is buying the 7000 pounds worth of suits and $2,000 worth of socks for them to think for one moment how easy it is to live in a village in Somalia, for example. They just cannot think of that. They just will not get it. It's impossible for them those like maybe animals. It's like a different species. Because they've not experienced that in their life. And they are thinking their problems are like oh, no, you know, my socks. I bought it for 2000 pounds. It's not the right one gave me the wrong one. That's their problem. They're still unhappy. Seriously, those one brother actually wants, you know, it was when you four years ago

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invested to traveling, you know, we went to funerals and one and then you was up to salt in July and somebody was passed away and everybody was going to the cemetery. So he said, Oh, you will come jump in my first Okay. I'll come in your car. And this person may I don't know him that well. We just I'm just talking how this takes about 1520 minutes Lester cemetery graveyard is quite far. So we're just talking of humbler family life. Yeah. So hardship difficulty and suicide make dua make dua for me so much problems. Taught, you know, this was when we were all going through and people I don't know if they still are not, you know, economic struggle. But I don't know what that is really seems to if

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you just on a small level, it's the same, you know, these people are struggling financially. So he's saying I'm struggling financially, and you're

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meant to have for me and please ask your father to mentor for me and I need someone who really is so hard life is. So well, what's up? It's just so difficult. I have six properties, but you know,

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we have six properties, but he's going up. What do you just say in one sentence, I have six properties. I haven't even dreamed of owning one property without six properties. And the guy's talking as though he's, you know, his whole family has been taken, taken away from his life.

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Seriously, this is how he's speaking to have six properties. But you know how she was one property this business is so down, and he has a big business. So his level of hardship and difficulty understanding thinking is something totally different to someone who's thinking about, you know, what, when would I get my next meal tonight? I might have to sleep hungry because no food my son, my daughter, my young, five year old daughter's going to sleep hungry because there's no food.

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They're both unhappy. Kids, both unhappy. Whether you have six properties you're still unhappy because mentally

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You're thinking about something else. This person is also happy because mentally you're thinking about something else. This is why the only thing that will bring peace to that person as this person is kinda like we said, So the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, this is what he said, that look at people who are below you. So this is the first step, right? What's the first step? Always try to look for seek out people below in the matches. Look, the people above us, no doubt, try to be like the people above us aspire to be like the righteous people, the pious people, the good people. Dean doesn't only mean scholars, yes, people have no knowledge but not just that people who are righteous

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people have good qualities, good attributes someone of good deen and righteousness, someone who's raised up his or her family in a righteous way. Try to be like that person. That is a very good father, very good mother. This is part of the so this is what we want to be like, aspire to be like them in dunya matches worldly matters. Look, people below us. Number two. The second step, I have to do this quickly is to remove the love of dunya from the heart dunya is needed for the love of dunya is not needed. We have to take this out hobo dunya Rasulullah hottie the

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Reach for every single activity and problem in this life. This is a Hadith of the Messenger of Allah is the love of the dunya, we use the dunya we utilize the dunya. But we take out the dunya from our hearts, it's like being in a ship in a boat, we need water around us. We can't live without the water in a boat in a ship. Otherwise,

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the boats won't travel we need the dunya. But as long as the dune in the water is around the ship the boat. The moment the water comes into our boat, we drown the moment Dunia comes into our hearts we drown this love this heart that Allah has given us. You can't combine the love of Islam that of Allah His messenger and the love of

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you only have one of the two. When someone said I think it was again, because someone said that, you know, the love of dunya

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someone you know, it's like having two wives. You know, if you make one happy you will make the other one and half you can't make them both happy. Even dunya happy you will make Allah His messenger you know the love you have for them that will suffer if you have the love of Allah his Messenger, then you don't have the love of dunya you just can't have them together. Maybe some people can have towards together Allahu Allah. But normally generally, it's like you make one happy that no one gets unhappy. So this is the nature of our hearts, we have to remove this level of dunya from the heart, use the dunya particular level Donia out from the heart.

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Some of them also said make duniya

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your heart you don't become the Halim of the dunya

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let the dunya serve you you don't serve the dunya when we become alcoholics, you become workaholics and alcoholics.

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When we become workaholics we are serving the dunya we have become slaves of the dunya we are running after the dunya that's when the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Lorena de Nardi will outdo Durham Cursed is the Abdu dinar you know we say Abdullah this is a good enough the slave of the dinar and Dirham it's like Abdullah LB and Abdullah dollar. This is a Hadith cursed What do you mean by slave slave like the servant the worshipper of this from preborn

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worship do we mean that we are worshipping you know this hadith mean that okay, the person puts all the pounds in front of him for a while, but it doesn't mean that means what it means that the most important thing for this person in his or her life is when that thing because more important than Allah is messenger do in Islam and important things in life.

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Then you become a worshiper, and a slave or a servant to the world. And that's that's what we must not do not become the Cardium of the dunya not the servant of the dunya let this dunya service, okay, use it for a bit. Okay, see you later.

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Number three. So that was the second step. The third step of reading, according happiness is this very important. These are really important steps, cutting off all expectations from creation for boss final

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cut of expectations, expectations are only with Allah. Because if we

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build our expectations with the loop with the creation, we will always be disappointed. And this is actually one of the problems that we have in this world that we live in, is that we expect too much from people. We

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expect huge from human beings. When we are doing good to others we expect a return. We want to take a gift to someone. This is the meaning of sincerity in the Malama Renea the whole meaning of sincerity and if last is to do everything for the sake of Allah, you are bringing happiness to someone is because Allah is pleased not because even they please do not. It's not even for them. When we take a gift, give a gift. Don't even wait for Jazak Allah Hi Iran in return, don't worry. Don't expect it. If you do get a desert allow hidden return. Take it as a bonus. I wasn't even expecting you'd be happy. You took gifts now we knew this is a problem in our society is our rent in

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formalities. When we have a wedding, what we'll do, we'll take a list. They call this we have to call them they called us we have to call them they called us this is in the Quran known as riba interest on it Tommy ribbon Lior who have young Marinus Mirandola. These are these are, you know, problems that we have in our society, we do things because people will take it back.

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I have to go there that was taken back the moment you say that there is no reward in going to the house.

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The moment we say I need to visit them because they'll say good but no reward whether you go or not maybe even be sinful. I need to go there because Allah is pleased. There's a janazah let me go for the sake of Allah, there's a wedding let me go for the sake of Allah. There's someone who's come back from Germany from Hodgman. Let me go bring happiness to the heart of a Muslim for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. This is Story, this class is zooty cutting off all expectations from the moment, the moment the day we, you know, if someone is not good back to you in return, you don't expect it you will never be we will never be unhappy because we will we were not expecting it.

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We are maintaining ties. You know, lots of time, you know, so many times people talk to me, when they talk to me, they say, you know, I do this, I do this, but you know, I don't get anything written. Okay? This dunya is not about getting anything in return. You know, sometimes, you know, sometimes marriage problems, the wife speaks on the phone, I do so much, but he doesn't do nothing, it doesn't matter, you kind of doing it. You know, you kind of doing it when you go in Jannah and you'll see all the rewards that you've got, you probably really would wish more down there. But he never even did one thing.

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Because the return here is so much. It's not a transaction. Personal Relationships are not transactions. It's not a business. Okay, five pounds, give me a you know, a packet of five pounds or whatever give you you know, I'm paying you husband's not paying money to the wife, the wife is not paying money to the husband, parents are paying money to the children. Okay? You do something good for me when I'll do something good for you and tell you you know, you're good to me. I won't be good to you. This is not how human beings work. That's, that's why the Hadith says Lazar was proven McAfee Balakian Watson, Olivia Potier Terashima. Who was the real maintain of crisis when people cut

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your human ties? The one who maintain ties is not the one who returns good for good. That's just normal. That's just, you know, part of humanity. If you can't even do that, then maybe you're an animal. Here's what I need to say. If someone's good to me, and I am good to them, of course probably do. The real person of quality of attribute of excellence or virtue of high position and rank is when someone's but you, you're good. Now you're a gentleman. Okay, that's when you've reached a level of virtue. Otherwise, if someone's good to me, I'm good back. That's of course expected. That's basic minimum level. So this is what we need to do. Number three, cut off

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expectations, cutoff expectations, there's a dua unless you just sort of love what you said, I would make Allah who much and if you're going to be a real jerk, all I'll make all my expectations in my heart with you worked on Rajavi Anansi work, and cut off all my expectations with people besides with the creation. So when we will have expectations nobody expects from Allah, that's it, because you will never be despondent. Because when you see an alpha, you will never be despondent. So cutting off all expectations from humanity, that was number three, number four, and number five, and number six is very quickly. Number four,

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keep on and constantly, regularly and continuously remember that, remember the shortness of this life x zero.

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The hadith of Cyril

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vichara has

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continued excessively remember that which cuts off poor pleasures and not just level not just thinking about dunya about death. Think about that. But think about seriously the temporary nature of this life, every difficulty hardship will be compensated.

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You know I mentioned to you and most of you, if not all of you know we had an incident in Leicester a couple of weeks ago. You heard probably in BBC News and in the media where there was a house fire and the whole family passed away was basically just our Masjid mothers

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and the husband, his doctor Tofik. You know him very well. He actually lives in private. And he is actually originally from Pakistan, Karachi but

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he moved to Saudi Arabia. He's, he's a neurosurgeon, a brain surgeon. Seriously, if you look at it, it's so simple. This guy is really think he's winning a lot seriously. I mean, I haven't known him for a long time. My family knows him very well. But because I'm so busy, I don't get I didn't get to meet him. But I spoke to him on the phone once only but I've mentioned quite a bit after these incidents because he was the first at my father's house and my brother's house and very close this neurosurgeon. He moved to Ireland, he runs a masjid, on his with his own money, he built a built Islamic Center. He has aspirations. He has so much love for the he sacrifices family, because of

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Islam, his wife and three children, all of them came in different ester. And he was just for a short term. They were actually thinking end of this year they all were going to move back his wife in her mid 40s. She started becoming an island studying D Okay. Last year before Ramadan, she graduated as an RD minor 40s. Okay. His one daughter was in the final year of being an IUI. This year she started so here behind the six books of Hadith. One son 1917 year old Jamal, he finished heads of the Quran. And he started hiding first first year and the other son was in another room he did 20 pots Jews from the Quran has been harvest at night what happened? Holy Fire. Imagine this man, could we

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imagine? You come back you're in Ireland. You get the news, not just your wife has passed away. Your daughter's passed away and your two sons your whole family are wiped off the face of the earth. Imagined seriously when I saw him this was this happened on Friday night. These people were Shaheed martyred, burning fire. And you know, Friday nights, again, great virtue, to love with great virtue travelers great virtue. He was this was 12 o'clock at night he took he came eight in the morning from Ireland to the fight. He found out I saw him straight at the Juma he offered Juma Salah in the masjid I saw him seriously you see is you know, he's very, very sad. Of course, internally, I'm

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going to Inshallah, just count just two to three minutes until we give it after that because okay, just just tend to show this very important this, when I saw him seriously, if you saw him and the brothers, some of them we had a program on the Saturday, special program for him. Many scholars spoke and then he spoke. And his talk was far more effective than any of the speeches that took place. You know, he read it out of the Quran, he knows, he knows, he actually, you know, actually read from modified Quran and feeling in front of has a lot of knowledge of Dean and his family is always calling now

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to the aka.

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He said, Look, I could stand here and I'm going to call on and just see if I'm, I'm half dead and my life has finished and that's it. But I'm not going to do that. I am firm. This is the decree of Allah. Allah took them away. Allah gave them shahada, I sacrifice them for the year and Islam. And they've been accepted. This is what I want, you know, they've been accepted. I'm not going to sit and cry here. I'm going to carry on the mission of my family. I hear the way you spoke seriously. So much you murder your key and belief and conviction in the heart to the point that, you know, I was telling some of my students the other day that you know, when you see him, it's as though you know,

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what's the picture that you can paint here is that imagine him and his family. Were traveling, going from Sheffield to London, and you all stopped? Where are the service station in Luton? Okay. Are you there? Just for half an hour when our people want to use the washroom, toilet etc. You want to have a small cup of coffee or whatever tea and the father went said okay, I'm just you know, this train station or whatever. I'm just going I need to go and buy something. And he's gone down there and suddenly he comes back and sees by chance or mistake or something happened they will push it and they will take it. They've already gone and they've gone to London and he's missed the train. The

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train is gone. You mentioned Oh no, my whole family's gone. Would it be really really sad?

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To be slightly sad. I was enjoying the company Oh another 30 miles from here to London I could have chatted with them at another coffee with them would have gone together. It's okay next train. When is it that night or tomorrow morning? Okay, I'll go tomorrow morning and then I'll be with them.

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Are you happy? Are you sad a bit because you couldn't travel with them. But are you very sad? No. Because you know tomorrow morning even the next flight to go when the next train to go. You have

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They've just gone a bit early from you. This is the if somebody has that food, you think you'd be so absolutely upset when you have the pain of death of the next slide. When we have extreme amount of conviction of the next life, we have a strong human. We know and realize this life is so short that anything can happen in this world. Your whole family can be wiped off from the face of the earth up slightly sad, but internally you will be content okay? It's not a problem. They've all gone. You're actually happy they've gone and if you came with me, maybe it could be some problems here. They will Shaheed they've definitely entered powder, you actually more happy internally.

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So this was step number

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four, which is thinking about death, and considering this world to be very short, five and six just in one minute. Something very important is that we should try to start off our day, every morning, offers a lot of pleasure on time. After that, spend some time reciting the book of Allah subhanaw taala or, with the phone call with the world with reflection brings a lot of peace. A day started on a good way on the right foot. Early in the morning, don't wake up at 12 o'clock 11 o'clock, whether it's Sunday or Saturday, wake up early, this Baraka in the morning and start off with at least 2030 minutes of recitation of the Quran. In the Quran. Shula last time I gave a talk in Sheffield that

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plays on Quran you know, just how we should recite the Quran. So, this is very important. Quran is Shiva olema has to do with brings peace and contentment in the heart. Number five, just externally was number six. Number six, externally try to be happy and smile even if you have difficulties. Just try to be as much as possible. Cheery, this is actually the Sunnah of the messenger Allah says, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, there's a hadith sermon Dahar can use always smile always smile, always. And gentlemen, Altova budget he says, Never did I see the messenger sallallahu alayhi salam, except that his body in my face. So very important to bring a smile. And lastly, number

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seven, get yourself busy, do some meaningful work. Because you know when we have boredom in our life, that we have more time to fight and argue on Quora. She said this. He said, My sister in law said this, my brother in law said this, or she said this. Why because we are not busy. People who are busy, they don't have time to current and so have some meaningful, you know, have focused our lives. And this is the last line. Our lives should be such that every day we are fighting against time and struggling, we have so much work, that we don't have time to be unhappy.

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You bring that in your life just take our work seriously. Sometimes, I'll just give my own example. Sometimes the day is so short until I'm awakened to am I need to write this I need to check this I need to do this, I need to do that. Constantly. There's just so much work in your life. You don't have time, if someone swore to you don't find time to swear at them back, you know, okay, and he just wanted them back. But there's no time when you don't you don't even have time to reply to a text message, let alone you know, say something, you know, just yesterday actually had looked at my phone and there's about 20 text messages from two weeks. And then I just took that reply to all

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those 20 text messages yesterday after two weeks. There's one very important one but just struggling with time. Once we do that, because remember fights and arguments during what

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hardship in life because when we are arguing, quarrels they bring depression. So if you do that take meaningful work and he shows up with that happiness.

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I pray Allah subhanaw taala grant me you all of us the happiness of this life next life the eternal, real happiness, contentment of God