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Mohammad Elshinawy

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Khutbah 2.22.2018

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May 11

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to call it, whatever you want to see munia you

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never see what

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he will have in Nevada can Viva

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La La Whoo, oh that said either use

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all praise and glory to Obama, Almighty God, we thank him and we seek His help and his guidance and his pleasure and his forgiveness.

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And we turned to a lot and a lot of loan forgiveness for our sins and protection from the misdiagnosis within our souls and the evil consequences of our misdeeds. Remember, our love guides. This is a great gift that no one can take away, and whomever are loved leaves without guidance and offer guidance and a person. And we testify that none is worthy of our worship and our devotion, and our love and obedience in the absolute sense of those words of Allah and only Allah Almighty God, the Creator of the heavens of the earth and everything in them, and everything between them and everything we know and everything we don't. And we've ever witnessed a prophet Muhammad peace and

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blessings be upon him His Prophet and his servant and His Messenger and the seal of revelation before the coming of the our

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own people of event or buses in the battle, you will have believed have the tough love of law, keep mindful that dutiful to Allah as best as you can, to the degree that he deserves. And do not die Do not leave this life except in a state of complete and total loving and willing surrender to a state of ease.

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To begin,

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in a very famous tradition that's been authentically reported a trace to our profits on the love.

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He says that the prophets have a long way to send them swore to us and said one levy in FCV I swear by the one in whose hand is my sole, meaning I swear by God

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who owns my life and is in control of it.

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In the veteran movement, conventionally.

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Okay, let's play even what Waldo actually even while what locks whatever text you want them to see. He said, I swear that the believer is like the honeybee in that it only eats consumes that which is good and pure.

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And it's only offers the hugging reading offers, and it only offers that which is good and pure.

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And every time it lends it lends without breaking anything and without ruining anything.

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And so in this had eaten the profits of the law is drawing the resemblance and analogy between the believer and the ideal believer that everything that they seek out in their lives is good and pure.

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And everything they offer their in their lives is good and pure.

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And they do that consume good and offer good while being so light in that without breaking anything in the process.

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And of course, he was the ideal example of the beauty of the believer. He was the most beautiful believer, the ideal believer, our profits on the level I didn't do a sense of them. When you study his life, you find that he lived so gracefully.

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And as a result of that he was not just able to live a good and pure life. But he enabled others he brought the best out of them so that they can do the same thing.

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But how exactly did he do that? One of the biggest things we will focus on today's book, the greatest factors that the prophets of Allah

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developed his generation, a generation of excellence through

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was that he mastered a particular art

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That is the art of catching people doing the right thing.

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And praising them for that. Not the opposite. It's easy to catch people doing the wrong thing. And it's easy to overlook people doing the right thing. But he mastered the opposite artists are much rarer artists, that he would catch people and not overlook the good that they did. And he would amplify it in them through praising them for it.

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And so for example, with it and use it in the province of a local audience at lunchtime, say

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yes, have to be done overnight. Had did me I was reading I need to do for at least a mirror to

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read a few gentlemen.

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Okay. Tell me what did you do that you have the most hope?

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In front of God? Because I was made to see I was inspired as he revealed to me a scene I was made to see or he said to hear the rustling of your footsteps in front of me in paradise.

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And so he said, y'all sort of

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marry me normally. I will, Jeff.

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And the

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FISA activating Elena hadn't even level so late to be that he got to Hulu micucci Valley, Amazon is the messenger of God, the biggest thing I'm working on the most consistent and genuine thing I think I do, that I tried to do, that I dedicate myself to devote myself to is that I

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am most hopeful in the fact that every time I wash up as we wash up the floor, greater the ritual washing, every time I wash up, meaning every time I have to use the vacuum, when I need to walk up again, every time I wash up, I would go and I would pray with that purity, that purification that I did it, I would wait for the next grade, the moment by purify myself, I would go ahead and pray whatever I love permits me to break however much God helps me to break for that time.

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This obviously doesn't mean that the dad is going to be ahead of the Prophet peace and blessings upon

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this dollar seeds because the dad was the one that used to call to prayer. He used to make the advantage that we just heard to the prayers, even events in your prayers so he would always be ahead of the profit from above audio system. And so he was made to see that he was ahead of him also in Paradise, I'm actually see and he heard his footsteps.

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In another incident, the profits of above article saying that what

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is also in Bukhari and Muslim he said to him, lower a tanning bed he had that well, I sent me on the karateka law to teach me smile on him as a media editor.

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He says oh Abu Musa, if you would have just seen me last night, I was standing outside your door, listening to your recital,

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your prayers, and your voluntary nightly devotionals I was there listening to your recital, you have been given one of the voices, if you will, one of the flutes raising his voice meaning that the family of David David, the father of Solomon, that David had.

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The beauty of your voice resembles the beauty of the family of deep because when they would recite the birds in the mountains would sing their songs as well, the songs and celebrating the graces of God. So he pointed that out to him and encourage him so that he could continue doing it.

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And then another incident. And so it used to be the province of Obama is approached by a man bar and he had no place to spend. So he said to the people, which one of you is going to host the Messenger of Allah? Yes. And so a man from the unsought from the residents of Medina went home and said to his wife on bringing over the messenger of God's gifts

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of hosting his guests. He said, What do you have at home? She said, Nothing. Men just like one meal for my kids dinner is all that exists in the house tonight. I need to distract them with anything, make them forget about dinner, put them to sleep. He said no, I bring him I'm gonna make believe on eating. And then you turn off the candle so he doesn't get embarrassed to think he's eating alone. This is children's food. Only enough for one of those perhaps. And so I'm going to make believe I'm eating in the dark so he can eat his food and be calm.

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them

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and they did this in the privacy of their own homes and have revealed this to this prophet alayhi salatu was set up. And in the next morning he asked, Where is the man who took my guests last night? And he said to him, cuz I

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mean sanary Kuma daddy of all has marvel at your actions in last night's that will you pull the Paladin righteous conspiracy, you pulled up the guy for the good deeds for the pleasure of God, that is an art and our problems also the master amplifying the wounded people and focusing on that, compare it with the opposite end people

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who magnify who have binoculars to see nothing but the wrong that others do. And what kind of effect the opposite effect this would have on people that we find the faults in people like this such a person can never be a leader, you will not have a positive influence on the world. You will not be like the honeybee if you're acting like a fly, you know, flies only lead on on Rotten stuff, the only thing they like to land on, whereas the bee goes through the garden and it picks out the nicest nectar. And then it offers the nicest party from that after that.

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You will never be able to be a leader unless you adopt this personality trait unless we collectively as communities adopt this mindset of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, you know, even in the past, the Arabs used to say in verse in poetic verse,

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laser WBC, the only lack and see the only humans are lobby, that's a

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a dumb person

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will never can never be a leader. But everybody will get one over on you need to be intelligent to be a leader. He said, but the leader of his people at the same time, I'm not going to be a leader. But the leader of his people is someone that always plays dumb, meaning parts of being a leader is to know when to overlook, and that you need to overlook a lot. And to not focus on the negative so that it'll just get washed out, so long as you're amplifying the positive on the other end.

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Otherwise, if you focus on, if you have the fly personality, if you just land on the rocks and things that becomes your lens and becomes what you look for under a microscope. You know what happens many times number one, number one, you will start seeing things that are not actually rocks and not actually wrong. And people just maybe they were just outside of context, you took them out of their car, basically. And so you assume them to be wrong because you're looking for wrong to begin with.

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Or there could be something wrong that you notice in someone.

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And it causes you to forget the predominant good at that person.

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Our profits of a loved one, from the beauty of his personalities that he never fell into that

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he never became so judgmental of people that he was speaking from a high horse because he wanted what's good for them and human beings naturally. You're very defensive of criticism, even if it's true, right? And you're very welcoming to flattery and praise even if it's not true. This is how we are.

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You know, in a few incidents where the prophet SAW Selim does criticize people go read them.

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You'll realize it's not the same as the times he prays people when he sprays something in someone. Whenever lava came to him after making a racial slur, as a person,

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was forced to pass a verdict because they came to him for arbitration. He did a golf looking for this, they came to him. And then when they came to him, what did he do? He said to a Buddha, who chastise a man by calling him Oh son of a black woman. He said to me without he's not coming alone. He can gently you, you're a person that inside of you is not who you are. inside of you are remaining traits of the age of ignorance. The age before the light of Islam came that dark, ugly age, and its values and its prejudices inside you is JT.

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And so even when you criticize by really a great tip with your kids, make sure you're talking about the action or the aspect or the incident, not the person himself or herself. When I showed the alignment she slid. And she said it's enough that Sophia is such and such she just shoots out short. Sofia was the province of the world. Why is it very distant. He said to her, though it was a very serious mistake that she committed to back microsystem

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He said love Pulte, can you imagine level musi jet? Viva

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La Raza Jackson, you have said a statement about your sister that if it were mixed in with the water of the oceans, it would have spoiled.

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This is a very serious word you said. He spoke about the word. But when he spoke about it, in other incidents, the woman herself, he said

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that he can add

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up the virtue of it show overall good women is like the virtue of 30. It's a bit of a mixed dish that was very prized in their culture

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over any other sort of food, he brings her as a person, he amplified these things in them.

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And so you can do this as well, you know, many of times, our children before they are finalized in their molding, you can accuse them of being something because of an action that they commit every once in a while. And so you kind of staple it on them.

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So your child is being stubborn in something.

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They want to feel like they exist, so they defy you. And so you say you are so stubborn, such a stubborn pig. And so in that case, if I'm such a stubborn kid, I guess I'll never get them. And so you kind of predetermine how they're going to be and they didn't have to be that way except that you're the one that concluded that this person is being stubborn.

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You've labeled them that was their title. Compare that with the Prophet alayhi salatu salam who only gave positive titles to his companions. You're a beautiful Huggy sinner activity from the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam said, I would have met, he omits the other one.

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The one who has the most compassion in my nation towards my nation is I

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think it was dangerous to do. So praiseworthy needs an idea. Many he said what I said to him.

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And the one that is strongest in his commitment to God's religion is Roman.

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He said was the poor man and the one that is most genuine in his modesty and is honest James recommend.

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He said whatever whom did holiday what how many German and the one of them the one most scholar, the most knowledgeable, the lawful and the unlawful. The legal rulings of the snabb is more either determine what affordable homes add patterns, and the one who knows the laws of inheritance versus the estate divisions that Zig determines what for obey, and the best recyclable and the most skill is obey meaning over your recap. And then he said, Well, he couldn't he only had seen me, you know what I mean? Who had the illuma Muruga off.

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And every nation has an amine is a person that is most trusted with the most sensitive information that has to do with that nation. He says, and the person that is most trusted in this oma, we have our Alma, the trustee of our oma is a motivated observer. That is something you can very easily revive, with the uncertain with the adults

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ever done.

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And so catching people doing the right things, and overlooking the negative and don't speak about it, who speak about the action and not the person and titling labeling people with their virtues amplify them.

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These are some of the many things that our Prophet

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exuded to bring out the beauty of evil. And to produce the generation that he produced is,

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you know, this is

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if you contextualize what he did, it's something mind boggling. Like nowadays, we have studies that based on that we have education theories that speak about how people when they're

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excited experiencing positive reinforcement, they call it right, their physical energy rises, I am more motivated to do something. When I'm when I'm feeling this positive reinforcement. I actually have more energy physically, when I'm hearing things that are affecting the weight. My mind is my state of mind my sight. And for the profits. I'll send them to capitalize on that when you're born as an orphan that never saw your father and hardly had a relationship with his mother. She died soon.

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After, and you're in a society that is just rough and tough in survival mode. And then he pulls this out and lives by it

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in a way that transforms the entire world. This is something truly miraculous, mind boggling. But after we say that, though,

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so just start somewhere, be practical, stop trying to change the world. All we want is for us to change ourselves first. Number one, by overlooking the negatives in our circles, you overlook the negative, if you have to address it sign sensitive, it's so dangerous, find directly

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address it indirectly address it in passing. And then focus on the positives that are there and encourage them reinforce them. And when you reinforce them with positivity. Like when your child, the children, examples are always easiest, when your child has an ID, some of us would say Good job, it's not.

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Many people will do this, that's not know, all you need to do is that's a great job. Did you try your best, that feeling will make them want to get more of it by getting more of more than a minute. But when you try to reinforce the positive through negatives, by saying that's good now, but you need more, that destroys the whole thing that human being already has a system, just trust the process. I remember personally, with one of my children, I struggled for at least

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three years minimum. And one of them refusing to say thank you. Because they were being told Saiki what are you supposed to say? Aren't you supposed to say thank you? It was nerve racking, taking away nothing with work. Until we agreed that we're just going to encourage praise, amplify put the spotlight on the child that is saying thank you.

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What was a week Max, and he was a kick. So why did I put myself through that? And why did I put my child through that? You know, the most impressively mannered

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children I know, in the 1000s of families I've met across the United States, their parents are the most praising of them in front of others.

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Always I'm so blessed to have a child as well mannered as so and so I will disclose the name. And when I spoke to him about it, this father, he says to me every night, I go to my kids before they sleep, and I say to them, I am so blessed by Allah to have good kids like you, I guess.

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So I gotta live up to the image. And so instead of tearing down what's wrong, just let it get drowned out by just encouraging what's right by promoting what's right. You know, even adults have this thirst. It's not even just ginger, is it?

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Is it better to encourage your employees with promotions and bonuses and incentives? Or is it better to get them with the program by threatening them, they'll be fired.

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So no brainer.

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And so our profit is levels that have caused us to be like that.

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When you lead you lead by the things, you catch the good things.

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And our clothes. I've heard of Islamic school that adopted this as an added value of our profits.

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And you can do this in your schools or at home or even among each other. They have what's called coats of cards. They're in American school.

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College Board.

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When a kid gets caught, he gets one of these cards. Immediately you think this card is about towards like a yellow card that is guarded like if you're done cards right? Whenever a child would get caught saying send them to everybody that give them a quote card.

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This child cleans up after himself in the lunchroom caught card because you're doing the right thing, because we always catch people doing the wrong thing.

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And then a shopping cart goes around at the end of the week or the month or whatever it is in the lunch room was just really impressive gifts you buy them with the currency of the cost card.

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This is something that you can be creative with. So enhance your relationships and bring the best out of the people around one of their spouses, whether their co religionists whether they're community members or neighbors, whatever it may be.

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Our Prophet alayhi salaatu setups again, he said I swear to you, the believer is just like the beat.

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They only take what is good and pure. And they only offer that which is good and pure. And when they land on something, they don't break it. They'll those leaves are those standards, those

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love,

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love, love.

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