Anger Management #03, Abu Dharr RA

Mohammad Elshinawy


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Welcome, omega

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Lima, we begin the name of Allah old praise and glory to Him to Allah subhana wa tada lonafarnib partners. We testify that Allah alone is the one worthy of our worship time, and our devotion and our surrender and our humility, and our obedience and our love in the most absolute sense of those words.

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And we asked the Lord to send his most abundant his finest Peace and blessings upon His messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam only to testify that he was for certain the Messenger of God and His Prophet and the seal of His revelation and the best of examples bar none until the last day, whom Allah said as a guiding light and a living mercy for all of humankind, the jinn kinda like old people of EMA and have the tough of a lot remain conscious of him and keep your duty to Allah.

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Remain observant of that did not die, except in a state of complete and total surrender to a lot of state of Islam.

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To begin, a lot of lava with Allah says, will levena, jaha, delfina, nfdm and a homeschooler. And those that strive in our way strive towards us, we will surely guide them to our paths.

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And this is very interesting and very unique of a verse because everywhere else in the poor and the path of Allah is one. And life is one and darkness is plenty. And the path of Allah is one straight path. And the other paths that are crooked are multiple. But this is jealousy and those that keep striving, they will continue to get tested. So like I wouldn't begins with that. You think you're going to be left alone and the moment you become Muslim, and it's over, you're just gonna say we believe and you won't be tested. And then the very last verse, how the suta ends and seals is and if you strive we will guide you to our path meaning to the right answer to the right outcome and all

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those separate tests. Because the path of Allah is one that is perfect, it is balanced, it is what comes from Allah and Allah alone. But within this that path, there's so many aspects of that path that you need to excel in. And so we began weeks ago speaking about how Islam came to temper our anger, though validating it, but at the same time controlling it, so that we are in control and it is not. Today, I wish to begin by saying that Abu Dhabi,

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who was the fourth or fifth person to become Muslim, Katanga province of a Mumbai legal center, despite not being from Mecca at all, not being in his immediate circle. This was a man of intense emotions, strong passions and feelings, even before Islam.

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These emotions are what caused him to be this was his personality. This was his nature, someone that always had to say what he believes

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and always believed what he said he did not understand the dishonesty.

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It was a dignified it was cowardice. It was unbefitting of how he saw himself his own self image in his own eyes, those intense emotions that he had and that self respect that he had, and the courage that he had caused him to leave a thought and come to Mecca. He had to hear from him for himself, even though his brother and he is the one that said there's a man in America, call him two good things. People are saying he's crazy and a saucer and he's saying he's a prophet. He couldn't sit back and wait. He had to go by himself and he lands in Mecca. And he finds out about the profits of the law to send them and arrange 30 days there before he's able to meet him discover which one he

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actually is. And he finally embraces Islam and the prophets of love, love Allah who seldom tells him look to heaven. Just keep it secret.

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He said No way. I can't. I'm not that kind of person.

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Color law, he loves to have fun that we have been avoiding him, I swear by a month, I'm going to announce it at the top of my lungs in their midst.

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And so he goes out to the metropolis that is Mecca to the city center. And he says to that, listen up, I have embraced Islam, I testify that none is worthy of worship of Allah, and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah.

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He says family who are they? They all pounced on me with whatever they could get their hands up.

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Grab a stick, grab a rock something out with their feet, until he says, Oh, she I lay until I fell unconscious. And I woke up to find myself looking at me.

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As if I was a red idol, what do you mean says the items that they slugs or animals in front of them, they cover them and that sacrificial blood, I looked like one of them. I was covered from head to toe in blood.

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He couldn't keep it to himself. He had to speak of what he believed was right. And then he went back to his people, and his brother becomes Muslim from him. Even though his brother had seen the Prophet Allah saw those setup. He comes Muslim from how compelling he was, became Muslim. And then from the two of them, their mother becomes Muslim, and then half of the Father becomes Muslim. And the other half doesn't say no, but they say if Mohammed leaves Mexico becomes very now we don't know what's gonna happen in the snap, they can get the Run, run out of town, they can all get killed. And that's why when the profits of the Leviathan went to Edina, all of loofah becomes Muslim. And so he

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announces on a slotless salaam SLM on the phone

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mamula and then the neighboring tribe and Sulaiman says the father's like us, whatever they do, we're gonna do a second tribe becomes Muslim. And so the province I'll send him a draft for the both of them, may Allah grant forgiveness to default and grant security to somebody.

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Also, one last depiction to show you what kind of person that

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When he finally moved to Medina,

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and he missed the first few battles in the very last expedition, he went out with the province of a love audience among the weeks given the bathroom taboo to book was the most difficult battle because you're traveling for a month in the sun. And this was the battle that so many of the hypocrites that were just front runners and thus they accepted Islam Islam is now strong, so we're going to tag along. And so they went out with when they saw the road to book some of them said will not go. So often said, Okay, we're coming and they never left. And many of them on the way a day or two a week, they would fall behind the army and go back. And so every time they would tell the profits of the

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love or they will say love to have one man just he's not he's gone. He's still stayed back. Call it in Canada he in yeppoon fee how you firstly will triple love will be groomed

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way in Canada.

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He says if this person has any good in him, I'd love to help him catch up with us. Just keep going. And if he there's no good in this person, then a lot has relieved you of him. It's better for him to run now and to run after the fight starts. It's better for us to know who's with us now.

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One of those people who fell behind who's ever done.

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And so when they said 200, the province our seller said the same thing. He said if there's good in him, you'll catch up. And otherwise I was relieved you have. And when the Muslims finally stopped on their journey, of course, an army is not going to move as fast as the person. But this person had something extra slowing him down, that he's riding animals going out of service. The animal was shutting down, he couldn't carry him anymore. Without his emotions, his passions imagining being left behind, and the most of them are moving forward. He couldn't bear it. So he did something unthinkable. He unties everything from the camel from the horse and throws it on his back. He throws

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his luggage on his back and he starts walking.

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And so because the Muslims have slowed down one night, he was able to catch up and they see from afar the civil what the shape of a man coming.

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And so they say someone's coming, someone's coming barefoot chasing after us. And so they heard the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said he couldn't,

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couldn't. Please,

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please be I know I will

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be. He wished that it was up without a dismount. He was eager for them to see how truthful he was.

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And they said what law yet they know that this is a Buddha. And so the prophets of Allah hollyfield

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may have loved places mercy of one a Buddha, he walks all by himself, and he will die on by himself. And he will be resurrected all by himself distinguished.

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Walking all by himself is clear.

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being resurrected all by yourself as distinguishment, that's clear, he will die all by himself was not fully clear why that would happen.

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You're maybe wondering now what does all this has to do with Angular,

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we will come back to that line at the end of the whole bunch.

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Abu Dhabi, who was not the person whose fiery emotions gave him a smooth sailing journey throughout the slump, they were sometimes for him, and sometimes we trip him up. And we thought about the low life long war with his own anger, or with his own fierce emotions, he would win some of those battles in the war. And sometimes he would get the better hand on it would have the upper hand and this is for us to know that when we exert our so for the sake of Allah, you will come up out on top in the end, but that doesn't mean you have to win every battle in this war. What you need to notice about the Sahaba, which makes them such a real example for you is that they were so genuine, despite

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being human despite having weaknesses, despite being fallible, prone to mistakes, cloned prone to slip ups, prone to all of these notions, all of these sensitive elements of people's lives, that we each have our own weaknesses, but they're repetitive when they slipped was different than us.

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And that how they will take precautions from the future was different than us. And how they would compensate for the past was different than us.

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So for example,

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they say we met there, David's report did confirm that we met Abu Dhabi one day at the end of his life in a rubber.

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While at Boone, Walla Walla, he flew, and he was wearing a certain cloak.

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A boat is basically a garment, it's the only thing you're wearing. Okay, a cloak, you try to wrap it around the bottom of your body and cover with it, whatever is left.

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The prophet SAW Selim commanded the people to wear is especially hard, you know, to use these all these orders when you have two separate garments, one to secure the bottom half. And once the top that's called any level you have to the two parts of the Tsar and that he that the Buddha does just when you have one garment, it is minimal clothing. And so they saw a blue thumb wearing this book.

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And his servant, his slave, was wearing an identical blue. So why don't you get yourself something nice and let them wear anything? Like just master doesn't match. And so he explained to them why he behaves like this. This isn't the end of his life. He said, he said back to our jewelry for y'all to be on me. One day long time ago, I got into a

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back and forth, verbal altercation with someone cursing back and forth. And so I insulted him using his mother in some narrations outside of slavery, because this was beloved. And he said to yourself that Oh son of a black woman,

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he made a racial slur.

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And so news of this reach the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and so he called me for what it is.

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That you actually chastise him using his mother because his mother was a different color than you his mother's a black woman. You say, oh, son of a black woman, as if that's derogatory. You chastise him using his mother? He said, I didn't. Why is my

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father in the camera in the camera when

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you are a person in the room is generally our remainders remnants of je de that period before Islam when people were knee deep, or should we say neck deep in ignorance, you still have this issue that needs to be removed. This is the same elbow daughter who is the first to become Muslim. This is the same

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who is so honest, no one will honest in their faith in hate.

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But at the same time, you're not perfect. You still got work to do.

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And that is a lesson for all of us. His struggle did not end overnight. And so he said to me, not Cameroon Pika, Jerry Lee, and then he explained to him if one will come

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With whom, for whom he said, they are your brothers, the servants of yours, that Allah give you authority over so when you whomever has their brother under their authority, then make them out, have them wear what you wear, that's what they were in the same clothes. Have them wear what you wear, and eat from what you eat from same exact quality food and do not task them with something beyond them. And if you do so you give them something beyond their ability to carry out then help them help your sleeves helmet, you're serious.

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And so this was the reason why I wrote the lowdown on number one. He amended for his mistake very quickly. That's the difference he lost in the Sahaba. Right.

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And we remembered it for the rest of his life. And number two, he still struggled This wasn't necessarily the last time he slipped also with his anger about the low tide it was

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even another had even slightly Muslim. To give you a further the struggles of

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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Yeah, in the Iraq

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War in New Haven, Bullock a man good enough see fella

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named well as our land analogy. When the oceans are growing now. There's provinces to be taken care of and wealth can be distributed. He says, Oh, I see you to be weak.

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What weaknesses This is this weakness cannot be physical that we thought it was known to be very strong. And it could not have been like we can spirit like you're a coward because the bravery rebel daughter was known. He said this weakness must be a weakness in his discretion is wrong in his opinion.

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And it must have been a weakness in his forbearance, his restraints.

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He says because the prophets Allah says, I see you to be weak, and my love for you what I love for myself. So do not accept leadership over any two people. Because leadership requires him requires restraint. You have to sometimes take up, play naive turn a blind eye, turn the other cheek, put up with more things than other people that are not in the spotlight so that they get less criticisms than you. He says do not accept to be a leader over any two people meaning to write. He says while I tell him lay in America team and do not assume responsibility over the wealth of endorphins.

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That was why he said a weakness indiscretion. He said because I was out of the low I had so much passion for even the weak for the poor, for the hungry, that he would spend the money of the orphan,

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to take care of somebody else, at the expense of the person right in front of you that you need to take care of your emotions will get the best of you even with good intentions. And so again, these emotions were something that

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was fazed by throughout his life and he struggled with throughout his life and want to log on him

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and ask for him finally overcoming it a lot helping him get over that whole hump. When the test was the biggest test of his life. He still passed it in the end. After we left the break I shared with you we've analyzed some of bossa nova kind of being number one

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil slido cinnabar, lemon, Lana via Raja Delilah.

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It was evident from all those who read the biography of a move up of the Lone Star law, that it was extremely difficult for him

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to tolerate, to be silent about those who he disagreed with, or the things that he disagreed with.

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What he perceived as wrong, he could not keep silent about it. We've said this, there's one thing we have to keep in mind. Because he disagreed with the vast majority of the Sahaba at the end of his life.

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Their disagreements were not like our disagreements.

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Their disagreements were for a lot. He was certain he was confident that what he believed was more pleasing to Allah so he had to stand for it. Most of our disagreements are ego driven. It's really about me and because I'm standing here here has to be defended. Not because we genuinely believe this is what Allah Subhana Allah wants, because they are not like us and we are not like them and we to be honest about that. But still, why does he believe something

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was pleasing to a lot. It was difficult for him

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to be completely feel completely neutral about something that he felt I had too good of a reason to believe this is correct. And what you're doing is absolutely wrong. And this caused many hearts feelings, as you can imagine, because we're human, and they weren't human to. And so the Lord had a particular opinion about how you can use money.

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Try not to overly detail this. But when our allies though, just said, well, levena can zoom in and they have that one field button through malaria, Ebola have visibility Larry firmer shield will be.

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Those that hoard hoard means collect, keep gathering gold and silver, and they don't spend it in the way of a law for the sheer home give them tidings of a severe punishment or painful punishment.

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Believe that saving money was hard, hoarding was hard on

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everyone else. Among the Sahaba, he had this idea that he would find a few ideas of the virtues of not keeping money around. The vast majority of those who haven't said, this idea does not apply to those who pay there's a cap, they can keep what they want, so long as they pay, there's a cap.

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And all the I think he would finally say we agree those that it's recommended to give up as much as you can.

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But it is not mandatory to do that. We don't say no, it is hard. It's impermissible for you to keep money that you can get rid of. Not that we should you must. And he held himself to it. It wasn't just arguments. Many times you defend the position with such fire, then you look in your house, you're not falling in position to begin with. And without when they would visit him.

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They said we found no furniture, nothing, no belongings in his house. And they said to him, why do you live like this, why you put your family through this, he would say I have another house that I'm building, I'm moving everything there. He said to him? Well,

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you have to have some stuff here while you're here.

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God is

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the owner of the house will not leave us here for long.

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There's no point. He means Allah is building me a house in gentlemen. There's no point in investing here, because I'm not gonna leave me here. No matter how hard I try. He's not gonna leave me here. So this was his opinion. And this was his lifestyle. This was his practice. And so when the Muslims began to prosper, and prosperity has no doubt he will affect some, right?

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When the Muslims spread, and they move in to make a buck, and a sham and all of the riches overnight in a timely manner, the Lord come into the room, and he sees everybody changing, he couldn't handle it, he became furious to the point that he would stand up in the message and tell people he would cause discussion, public discussion in the method, all you're doing is wrong. You have no right to do this.

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And so while we are the author's demeanor, Michelle just didn't know what to do like this is I can't silence.

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At the same time, he's causing people to believe that they have a right to say that I'm a corrupt leader.

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And so he said to the grand plan, he said the turf man and earth metal demo and brings me

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to Medina. And as soon as he comes to Medina, all the Muslims come to me.

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And they ask him because people love scandals and people love controversies. Plus I was involved in the type of work and he was the most he could answer anyone, everyone's question that he could people will come to him as an authority. And so at the end of the day of love to realize what was happening because of his position, the people that were calling more Alia as a traitor, that they were just take, they were hiring their relatives, and they were in it for the money. They were finding in the words of Abu Dhabi statements they could misuse to destroy the room.

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And so he believed this was so wrong, and he had to change his condition of the oma. But to realize that this is going to harm more than it's going to benefit. I can't keep saying this. And so when our man pulled him forward, he said, I said, Tell him in whom do you think I'm one of them? Because he realized they were using his word, do you think I'm one of the people that's rebelling against you? And this must have been extremely painful for everybody to experience? Well, I have not with I'm not with them. But you guys can't live like this. You can't keep savings around. You can't have money left over for a rainy day. You cannot. This was not a profit promise to the profits of the

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love audio center. And so when he saw that there was no benefit and only harm, he realized it's better to stay where you are as an owner and not gain better than losing

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And so he went to Thailand. And he says to him, yeah, I mean,

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I've had an attorney.

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Will you permit me to just go live off? away from everybody, you know, please hold on a remote place. Caught a low sheeter than a height for quintavalle. But if you wish, go ahead, but stay close. We need we need your opinion is indispensable. And so you can imagine what that was all about your loved one. So sure that he's right. Everyone's coming to him for the answer if he answers the question according to what he believes it's going to cause the whole demise of the oma

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and humbly let them participate know that any of us will have ever fall into that which caused the assassination of man a short while later, and the assassination of olive lepen father thereafter does want to walk on Jimmy. And so he takes himself as he moves out of Medina, to a remote place called the Robert a wilderness, him and his wife and his family.

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Can you imagine how difficult that was for him? What makes this Abu Dhabi This is the first Muslim, that he's been Muslim for 30 years. And some 40 years, perhaps, I'll be alone Cylon. Imagine strapping up his candle and walking away from the world. Because if I stay, I'm gonna burn it down.

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The problem is with me not with the people.

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How many human beings have that honesty with themselves and then the strength to act upon what they recognize about themselves.

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Imagine how difficult it is for you to walk out of the city of the province off center. And he must have been thinking when he told the province I'll send them to give me a final advice elsley me he said to meet lots of public agenda, don't meet me. And for us paradise, he must have been thinking this is what the message is often meant when he said that I have to die alone. I can't be around people. And he did it. You know, leaving your home was like leaving your life behind.

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That's why even if you live in the most decadent place, and you move to a seven star hotel, you're not comfortable until you get back home in your hands.

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That's even aside from the people and the comfort and walked away from all of this have the alone time

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born. And this is

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not meant for us to take this home. Now with a minute left in the whole book. This is what we meant when the prophet SAW says do not become angry. That means you have one of two options.

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Either number one, it means don't act on your anger.

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If you can't do that without feeling like you couldn't, then you will walk away from the situations that will cause you to act on your anger. That's what it means you need to be honest and evaluate yourself, see what you're doing.

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You know, I was reading that one of the best things and this is a true statement. The best thing you can do for your spouse, for your children, if you love your children, is to show them that you love the other parents, for the wife to show that she loves the husband respected and for the husband to show he loves the wife and respects her. You know, a brother told me this week, it was very wise of him what he said. He said, I said to my spouse once do not anger me in front of my kids. Because if I snap back and become angry as well, we're going to ruin everything that we've done. We're going to ruin this whole project that we need to meet along with the upbringing of our children. The same

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thing, one of the best things you can do in a community even when we're all collectively together in msgid, is for you to remove yourself from learning about things that you will feel like you have to give your opinion on. Because what if you don't have the whole story? What if your emotions are intensely? What if your opinion is wrong and they act on it? What if your opinion is right and they refuse to agree with you?

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So you just back away a little bit. Human beings needs breathing room.

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You need to give yourself that breathing room is often the most important lessons for someone to be able to overcome their anger is to think about

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when Edina j had to feel at the end of the two letter, those who struggle in our way.

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We will surely guide them to our paths. May Allah be pleased with that move up and continue to give us from the lives of the companions, role models to learn from me I must have features that will benefit us and benefit us. He has taught us and give us life so long as life is good for us. The Buddha said that whatever he knows that that is better for us a lot more Filipina ohana Aloma Filipino

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caffeine, a lot of mahina not here that hands on learner but to offend a little later on Luna

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