Anger Management #02

Mohammad Elshinawy


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within and without our souls in around us and the evil consequences of our evil deeds, our misdeeds our sins, for remember of love guide to no one can lead astray and whenever a love leaves without guidance, none can apply guidance for them. And we justify that no one is worthy of our worship and our devotion of Allah alone, without any partners, the true supreme King,

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and the creator and maintainer of all that exists.

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The Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a deal with the Prophet

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and the surgeon and His Messenger through which he sealed revelation to humanity and fulfilled his name perfect in his favor upon us and fulfilled his grace to us by sending this guidance. Oh, people have email and oh, you will believe bla bla bla remain conscious of him, remain dutiful and obedience to Him dedicated to him, and do not die except in a state of Islam. Do not die outside of that state where you surrender wholly and completely lovingly and willingly to a legitimate gelato, ISO agenda mighty and majestic and exalted.

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To begin, we mentioned last week that our religion came not to do away with our human nature, but to refine it. And so Islam did not condemn that it's part of human nature that you become defensive, you become angry, you stand up when you feel violated, and you are burdened by that this is completely normal. But at the same time, our profits will allow it to send them attributed anger up to shavon, because she thought is an expert at using that natural tendency inside you are getting to ruin your worldly affairs to ruin your religious commitment to sabotage your dounia indeed, and we spoke about the dangers of allowing the tree of anger to settle in your heart, all the sour fruits

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that come out of it, all of the sins of the tongues and sins of the tongue, and so many of the sins of the job of deliverance. And we concluded by mentioning that our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam gave us a list of things, such as seeking refuge without modesty either and sitting down or laying down if you're already seated.

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And we added to that, to leave the gathering or look at yourself in the mirror, psych yourself out of this, remind yourself of the virtues of patience,

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and with and holding yourself to sensibility to self restraint, to forbearance and deliberation, all of that. What we wanted to do today, and I believe I promised to do with you now is to help you see that I will share the I did not just come to tell you anger is okay, but shavon will usually use it against you, and how to protect yourself from it, but that this roadmap has actually worked. And that it was from Allah's grace that this oma took off on the right foot, it started correctly. So wouldn't it be hard for us to pinpoint? Can this really be applied or not? And so, of course, our greatest example in that the most shining light in this regard is the perfect example of Muhammad

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Ali Salatu was salam, how he would react to be to anger and the incidents are so many of them and so I had Bahati they say that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was approached by a man

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can add

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forever love it to problem solving sentiment bar with an animal from him in odium arriving animal perhaps he used it for one of the companions that wanted to go with him on a military expedition or traveler on their wives and to the man

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came and he was very rough. He was very disrespectful in requesting his animal back

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until the Sahaba, almost attacked this man and he said to them there who

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helped him upon. He said, leave him alone because the person, the creditor, the person that has a right, he has the right to speak, leave him alone. And then he said, Give him another animal that is of equal age columella jednym in measly Sydney, we didn't find anything of the same age, when

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we found something of an even better, a better quality. This is a man that just disrespected you in front of all those who respect you. He said, aku for in love and clarity, calm, etc.

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He said, go ahead and just give that to him. Because among the best of people are those who are best, most Gracious in repaying debts. He dismissed the provocation, right? He misses dismissed the thought and he did not demand an apology. He did not even pointed out he just said give him what he wanted. That's all. This is someone that has a right he even did this Hello while he was sitting with people that had no rights whatsoever to do what they did. And they said nomadic

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He said to me, he might be some a lover I need to say llama while I'm at BU ninja Ronnie Yun lineable hashy. I was walking onto the prophet SAW send them and he was wearing a cloak. COVID something that sits on your shoulders, wraps around your neck,

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a cloak from Metro on from the police from a city of Medtronic that had a very rough colors. The fabric was very rough.

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For a doctor who are being fed Jeff, I

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mean Has she at that he jumped that's a shady that's when

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he says and then a Bedouin man and the Bedouins are known to not be sitting people to be a bit rough around the edges more coarse he came and he snatched the province off and a bunny scholar.

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Very roughly, he says to the point that I was looking

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for either for either an item or a two fee Has she had a piece of it it

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was a patch she had to bold, fearless

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woman she thought he said and then I looked and I saw the problem saw senator by time I look from how rough the man pulled, I saw a mark in his neck. You can imagine you're sitting here with Mr. Dark down. And someone from the robbery behind you snatches you just buy your shirt, right? A nice 100% cotton shirts and leaves a small mark in your neck.

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He says I saw from how hard he snatched he left a mark in the province all fell into the neck. And then when the problems are seldom turned to him, he said to him more lemon meringue, let the end give me from the wealth of God is not your money. Just because you're the head of state doesn't mean it's yours. You have no right to this. Give me from God's money that you that your story that you're holding back basically.

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So nobody can Thumma

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the prophet SAW said and turned to him. And like a human smiled. He smiled. And he commanded them just to give him some money.

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You know, aside from this showing that just the perfect impeccable character of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam.

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And then he responds to cruelty with kindness. This is someone giving somebody something they don't deserve. You say I'm not gonna back down right? Something they don't deserve just to warm their heart to protect them from their own demons if you will, to protect them from drifting farther away from Islam the guidance of Islam. And the examples of this are so many I would love to minister with as you all know, says I used I looked at the face of the province also love covered in blood, wiping his face and saying oh I love forgive my people for they don't know this was on the day of boyhood and in the famous incident on fire, but you all know that he was not in the middle of a fight. Like

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how do you forgive someone right after a fight? If you've ever been in a physical altercation, may Allah protect us and you? It's hard to come down. Like you just felt like you're in tensely engaged in something where your blood is rushing, the adrenaline is rushing. Your anger has gone through the roof. Even if you've won the fight, and he does this with someone who's fighting with and then you up a notch at a bar if where he wasn't even fighting. It hurts even more when you couldn't fight back when he was humiliated on insulin dose to them by being pelted with stones. They rejected his message and threw him out of the city of five besides electronics to Mecca and they had the children

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slaves stone him that's

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Why would I show them love unless she says, Have you ever seen a day harder than that they will you value unconscious and you broke your tooth, and your face was covered in blood and said yes, that they have a body for it. That was the only day tough for them. And even then, when the angel came to him, he was able to restrain his anger I used to love to set up and say, when I came out of junior, a new sled to him, maniago de la, la, you know, I'm hopeful this can still be resolved. People can still make amends with Allah and His Messenger, maybe not them. Maybe there's potential in their offspring. I'll wait one generation, an entire generation, maybe their offspring among them will be

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those who rise worshipping Allah hallowed, not worshiping anybody with him. So kind of over time.

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And you know, after the Battle of her name, a taboo after the bedroom was taboo at the very end of the province also lives life.

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A man by the name of lucroy, several people

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heard him saying that the prophets Allah lover, I didn't send them These were Muslims, apparently Muslims. The prophets on the model, SLM, had given wealth to the people from Croatia didn't give any money he gave people to those from his town from Mecca, he favorite them.

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Because he gave her a hillsman. He gave others 100 camels each to warm their hearts over to Islam because of the leader becomes Muslim. Human beings are followers by nature, they'll become Muslim. And so they said, This man is playing favoritism. He's not being just. And so one of the concerned Muslims, the sincere Muslims here should win long. I'm going to tell the Messenger of Allah and he runs to the province on law to send them the information of what was said about him. Someone says you're not being fair. One of your kids, you find out that one of your kids was calling you cheap. How's that?

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Mama's cheaper, Baba is cheap. He doesn't give us enough.

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And so he's the Lavalier to sell them. He said, Wait, how many are in the market? Like, what's wrong with you? Who would be fair if I'm not fair?

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Like if the Messenger of God is not going to be just an equitable, who is going to be just an equitable, who can possibly be expected to fulfill that standard, and it's not to me, and then he said, he saw to Ceylon urashima model Effie Moosa, who the actor amin had for Sabah, may Allah have mercy on my brother Musa. He was harmed way more than this. And he was patient, he did not exact revenge against people. And that was from his humility, galleon Salatu was Salam that he identified with the prophets before him and remove themselves from the situation. And likewise, we identify with our Prophet alayhi salatu was set up the same way that companions did, that was the trick. And

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that's why this whole hook was for this reason for you to see how the prophet SAW said and did it. And how the Sahaba found enough in the example of the prophet SAW Selim to do it as well, like, take it easy when someone offends you. You're not the prophet of God. And even if you were the prophet of God, this is how the prophet of God acted out, he was set up. And so what is mentioned about the workers to develop their level of anger that when he became the halifa, now, who succeeds the province also loved, a man came and just for a VA who label attention, he just made him irate, natural find you being disrespected and not moving is weird, you're supposed to be offended.

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And so I will notice that he saw this he saw the man like love on earth, He said that he's being a little buckler, his mother and threatened to kill you. He said to him, then only an elderly couple. Do you permit me to execute this man? Can we just finish him off?

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He says, forever habits. Can you mad at

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me saying that made me work and calm down when

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he went to his house?

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What did you so he went away. So before you get to 70, so model center in a year, then he sends me a message to come inside. And I came inside, and he says melody. What did you just say a few minutes ago. I said to you, would you like for me to

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kill him? Would you like for me to do that?

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He said I couldn't fit that low amount to could you actually do that if I commanded you to holla now he said, yeah, of course you say the word I'll do it.

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Mechanically eventually.

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He said absolutely not. This is not the right of anyone after the hundreds of above audio said the point. Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam said for those that right? So who are we to think that we have to executive edge against people.

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Above similarly,

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of the word novice or below Have you noticed one of the closest consultants have

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Chroma will keep them very close, if not best, isn't it? He says that the Hilson was another

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was a man that came and stayed with his nephew and who

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have another one that was very close to him. These were great scholars that were very young that are almost kept close because of their because of their valuable, indispensable advice and counsel they would give him so when

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he came to Medina and stayed with his nephew, the scholar Coronavirus, he says to him, Do you have good rapport with this? With this leader? Bob should Yes.

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That asked permission for me to meet him. I want to meet this guy

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So I'm gonna permitted him to have some answers. The first thing he says above is what he says he and given the hubbub from what he meant, or just what I mean, and I did it. He just goes off on him. He goes off on the president of the Grand Valley to him, he says is the matter with you? I swear you don't give us much you don't give us enough you owe it to yourself. He doesn't know that aroma bowl held himself to a higher standard than his followers, right? And leave the tighter simpler life than he expected of his subjects. He says what law you don't give us much nor are you fair with us in judgments. For having met a new Gary or Omar all the hubbub was this close to attacking. Almost Alma

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lived his life and dealt with so much out of fear that our love would say you messed up. And this guy is just completely dismissing all of that. And so the nephew jumps in place jumps in and says yeah, you don't need him. namaha Tyler coralina de code in Africa, what

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Allah said to his profit is profit, his profit and Susan are off couldn't take what is given freely. You know, it was what is extra right? And so meaning whatever they give you just take it. Don't have high expectations of people, just whatever they give out, settle for who they are what you have, and commend people with goodness, what

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you need and just ignore the ignorant, the foolish. The nephew says about his uncle what hasn't been in jeopardy and he's clearly one of the foolish, right we have to be very is clearly one of the foolish.

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He says if not best what the law says for law he managed that was a rumor. He let's Allaha what can our coffin in the determiner and what love your role model never move beyond the various he never violated the verse from the moment he heard it. And he was always like that he would always stop dead in his tracks when it came to the book of Allah soprano die.

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And many people have a right to this I mean,

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the Lawrence Muslim and I mentioned to you before this famous had he that he was beating one of his slaves as the institution of slavery was an ugly institution that the province of the Leviathan have slowly systematically exhausted, and transition them into the mainstream population.

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And so while that happened there were still in justices. So this slave owner was extremely angered by his sleep by the disobedience, defiance whatever it is, and so he kept hearing a voice he's saying he's

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the one who did this. The culprit at the time said I heard someone saying under careful illness what what are you doing careful, and I didn't know who it was. Until finally I realized the profits of the love audios and I'm talking so far that he owns a fella

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named Kevin Kenny. Allah is much more powerful over you are much more capable over you than you are over him.

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So when you another lesson is when you lose your temper, you figure out how can I fix this? the bare minimum is to admit I'm sorry, I messed up. How can I show you that I'm regretful right. And so he says, He Lavonia Rasul Allah. And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him, let him testify. Later he had skin now, if you had not just done this, the fire would have had access to you the fire would have scorched would have touched you. And then touching you is enough, of course. And so these things need to be made up for a person who cannot say or think I'm excused because I'm angry. We have to get past that obstacle in our life. And another thing that is very important that

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before we sit down regarding this howdy is how many people when they're angry. When they're angry, they can come to their senses fess.

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People, anger

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They say is the sister of insanity almost lose your mind if you let yourself get too angry, who in their anger can check themselves quickly.

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This as we said last week is the product of making a love the center of your life of much worship. You see, I've

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had that ready, he knew Allah was more capable, that was pre existing inside of him. He just needed someone to remind him. And so once the province I finally got close enough, got intimate enough and said to him, he came back to his senses. And that is the true safeguard. You already know how long the last days is actually shaping and working behind the scenes. And so when someone reminds you of this, it's easy to come back from it.

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a portfolio of stuff.

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Sato, Silla, marlim and then a B Avada, la la la, la, la La, la sharika Mohammedan abiteboul whenever you go solo.

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And so when people have this reality pre existing in them of the greatness of a lot, and subsequently the humility of themselves, and how shavon is working to manipulate behind the scenes, this makes your mission your anger management,

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much simpler of attacks.

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You will not be as easily manipulated when you realize all of these things. You're looking from the top of the mountain now, you know it was said that a worker so therefore the man said to him once the soup Ben neck hasn't been yet who macabre.

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I'm gonna curse you out so bad. It's going to enter your grave with you, meaning I'm going to humiliate you I'm going to ruin your reputation in a way that you're not going to be able to escape the rumors. It's going to stay with you till the day you die.

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That's how small I'm going to make you have a vodka soda for the low answer to him.

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But he had

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no no, it's gonna enter you're greeted with enough money. He walks away. That's it one statement and out. You are not willing to engage in such lowly behavior.

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And when a man had once angered I'm gonna knock that I love the great Khalifa. He jumped up and then he pulled himself back.

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And then he says he said to him, our annual stuff is any shape on the city so far. For an adult Minka met another woman named Robert Haldane in South Africa, ma Fenner hedges, Elena Fimo, politic at what he said to a man that had him on the verge of snapping, he says to him, you want him look and notice he's on top of the mountain, right? This is a mountain it's gonna take time to climb. Again, it's not gonna be the whole board. He says to him, you want to shape on to provoke me through the pride of the sovann meaning you wanted me to feel like I must have been How can you speak to the salon like that you want it to give shape on the access point to waking in me the pride on so far.

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He says and then I attack you in a way or take from you something violate harm you in a way that will give you the chance to harm me tomorrow, meaning on the Day of Judgment, you see, he sees the scene, he sees what's happening here. So that you will love it will never happen Get out of here. I have no purpose I have no interest in exchanging words with you. You're going to say something so I'm going to say worse and then you're going to speak about my pattern. So I'm going to speak about your parents and their parents. I I don't go for that point. It doesn't work with people like me.

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And other Aviva Nolan says that a man who once came to him as one and he said to him so and so is condemning you so and so is saying something about you and again put yourself in these scenes like I'm sitting here in the midst of someone says so and so says right

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so and so said something about you

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and so for lady because one says to him mlj the shape on I had yesterday for me he

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didn't shape on find anyone

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to use but you

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and he said another narration of the abundant lemon Mr. Ah who I'm going to spite The one who commanded him to do this. your loved one he will never forgive me and the man who spoke about me and they said who commanded to do this like who set this whole thing up? He's actually funded. So I'm going to spy tripod for charge despite the How am I going to spite shape on not by giving into his manipulation, but by refusing to get angry and by saying my love forgive me and him

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was the one that says didn't shave on find anyone else to use this toy? Yes Is mailman but you

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at a shabby, Rango Lowe's once curse in the shop you can imagine is like the head of the woman right at the time a scholar that was unparalleled. A man came and just humiliates in front of the people and so shabby says, and it's just so beautiful. Such perspective, such wisdom. He says to him in Quinta saw the plant falafel. Luckily, we're in Punta kariba for level. Like, if you're telling the truth about how bad I am, May Allah forgive me. It's possible some of what people say about you is true.

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And if you're not being truthful, May Allah forgive you.

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Even Ahmed de Silva, the second wife in

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Thailand, who was also known as a dog that a man came to her and said in the Fulani

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So, there's a person who's basically framing you with the halifa optometric the Romanian Khalifa. He's saying basically that you're calling him an illegitimate ruler, he's trying to get you in trouble.

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And her response was just above and beyond. She says in Nova Bella beam la Safina illuma, enode, bernadina, la Safina Safar lemon zucchini Imani Safina. So what's the big deal? If I'm being accused about something that's not really true about me, I have for a very long time been praised with things that are not really true about me. Like people are always saying, I'm so righteous and I'm so God fearing and behind closed doors, and I pray at night and, and of course, she's saying this about humility, out of humility. But this is our reality. If someone says something wrong about you, not something right, something even if it's wrong about you.

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They have touched many times, said things that were good about you that may not have been true, perhaps with a louder move is veiled from me and from you, people refuse to give us that up. If people will see us in the message source behind closed doors or in times of conflict, perhaps they will lose all respect for us. So she's saying that stuff's been said a lot, but good stuff. So what's the big deal, it gets countered with some of the bad stuff that's being said.

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And so let your project after the book, or add to your project that I need to do start flipping the ratio a little bit. We like one of these people one time it slipped five times. Okay. So next time, you'll do it twice, and you'll slip forward times. And then it'll become a three three ratio, it'll be fine.

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And slowly, it will become your norm.

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And you ask a lot to to help you throughout. Let's see.

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This is something that happens with training, even among the Sahaba. I wish to tell you the story, but without and today we're trying to not allow it. Perhaps next week, we will begin with a bit of delay. Tada. This is a person that slowly slowly took him decades to get this out of his life. But he was bent on doing whatever it took to get it out of his life. Don't just sit there and know what makes you angry and let yourself get into a situation every single time. I don't know I just flipped out. Man I must forgive me. A person or brothers who came to me that I cannot stop every time I get stuck watching these bad websites. And then I cry because I regret it so much. But I keep going back

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to it. It's been 10 years it's been 15 years angers the same way. You fearing Allah means you don't put yourself in the situation that you know you're going to get to.

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When he tells you don't be angry, don't be angry. Don't be

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mean. You can't control your emotions. Don't put yourself in a situation where those kinds of emotions that you can't get control will flare. And that's what we will take the next week from the story

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