Is Adultery permitted

Mohamad Baajour


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AI: Summary © The transcript discusses the importance of letting people experience the feeling of being in a situation and not just judge. The method "Art sallahu alayhi wa sall celebrate "," involves screaming and yelling to obtain good results and obtain safety and security through various techniques such as counting, counting backwards, and using a hand. The method also uses physical contact to make people feel safe and secure.
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah who want to get

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similar Al hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Allah Melinda main fauna when phonearena Londoner was IDNA Illman. Dr. hamre I mean, we ask Allah azza wa jal teachers would benefit us benefit from what you told us and increase us in knowledge. I mean, you're blind I mean, we ask Allah azza wa jal to bring us back to our masajid My dear beloved brothers and sisters, who used to come and attend the Halacha here in the masjid in sha Allah Tala are soulless. I seldom promised us in sha Allah that you will be getting the same answer because the excuse is valid in sha Allah Tala.

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Before we start in Charlotte, Allah make sure you subscribe to our channel in sha Allah, Allah and support epic during this COVID 19 pandemic and Sharla May Allah reward you immensely.

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Rasool Allah

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gave me the permission to commit adultery. Allahu Akbar

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of all men out of the Allahu Han

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narrated that a young man walked in while Salah Salem was sitting with his Sahaba

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and he said, Yeah Rasul Allah, give me the permission to commit adultery. Then Lee Zina.

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The Sahaba the Companions became furious

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vs. Yoruba. They start screaming and yelling, what are you doing? What are you saying? to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Ma Ma Be quiet be quiet.

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said would No

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Come closer.

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when the man came close, and sat down next to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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he Ali has salat wa salam he said

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a to Ibu holy Olmec

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at to him boo. Lian make Would you like that Zina done to your mother.

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So the man said, No, by Allah. Lau Allah. May I be sacrificed for you era surah Allah I don't like that. He said Ali has salatu salam. Neither would the people like it for their mothers. Would you like it for your daughter? The man said, love Allah. La ilaha rasool Allah Jaiden Allahu Fida UK. May Allah make me sacrifice myself to you. As soon as I seldom said, neither would the people like it for their daughters. Would you like it? For your sister?

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The man repeated the same statement and Rasul Allah says, Allah said, neither would the people like it for the sisters. And then he said, Would you like it for your aunts? And the man repeated the same thing, Lai rasool Allah, may I be sacrificed for you? And as soon as I saw them said, neither would the people like it for their odds. Then Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam placed His Honorable hand on the chest of the man. And he said, Allah, Mafia number Allahumma fifth number, what I hear Kalba waha sin Faraja SubhanAllah. He said, Yeah, ALLAH forgive his sins. Yeah, Allah purifies his heart. And God is chastity. And it was said that the young man never again, inclined to

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anything sinful. Subhan Allah, how merciful is Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam?

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My beloved brothers and sisters. First of all, we have to know that this young man had Iman he was a movement. He was a believer. That's why he came through Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he had the feeling of guilt inside of him. He felt that this is something haram, but the thoughts that are constantly coming to his mind, he cannot handle them anymore. He wants he wants the permission to commit this major sin. And we will have few stops today in sha Allah Tala some lessons that we can learn.

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As parents as teenagers, as Muslims in general, from from this hadith, first and foremost.

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Why did he choose Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to come and talk to

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Subhan Allah because

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He knew that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will be very understanding, building meaning in our own for Rahim to the believers he is very gentle, very merciful. He knew how that Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is not going to be the one yelling at him on screaming at him.

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So he came to him

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with a lot of hope.

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He came to him, because he saw from previous actions, how the daily his salatu salam react in situations like that.

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My beloved

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brother, the Father, my beloved sister, the mother,

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would your son or your daughter

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come to you, and express

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such problems?

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Do you feel that your relationship is so strong with your children, they can that they that will make them at ease to come and discuss such matters?

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We have many of us have created or built a major wall between them and their children, especially in their teenage years that they cannot they're always scared. What is my mother going to say? What is my father going to say? He's definitely going to yell at me. He's going to do this to me. He's going to let's assume that this situation happened to one of us. Are you crazy? Don't you know that Xena is haram This is the Rasul Allah Islam did not quote any AI in it. And and it's him when the Quran was revealed to

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he did not yell at him he did not scream.

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Subhanallah we have to improve the relationship

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between ourselves and our children to the level that will make them comfortable to come and express

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their feelings to us because they are going to express their feelings. But they might go to the wrong person that will direct them to the wrong path. And then we will regret it. So when my brother my sister, when I when your son

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or your daughter comes to you

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the first lesson you learn from this hadith Take it easy.

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Take it easy, I know this is very big. This is huge.

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In the masjid, in the masjid of another way, that he's telling us on Saturday give me permission to commit a major sin, one of the major sins.

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But his reaction Alia salat wa salam is a lesson to me is a lesson to all of us. How do we react when

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such an action is performed by one of the people who are dear to us?

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So Salah Salem felt the sincerity in that men felt that this man is really struggling with a major desire.

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My brothers and sisters, please listen carefully.

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This was 1400 years ago.

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Can you imagine now? This was 1400 years ago when there was no internet no videos, no movies, no magazines, no billboard no nothing.

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Can you imagine how the kids are feeling now.

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While the Haram is widely spread,

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why the Haram is very easy to access.

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So the situation is way tougher right now. way much harder. So you have to be as gentle as possible. Low quantify the value the local and subdomain Holic if you are harsh people are going to go away from you.

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So the first lesson

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from Rasulullah Salam is to take it easy and

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sit down and make

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the person comfortable to express their feelings when he approached you, my dear Imam, my dear share, my dear Molana when that person came to you, he did not come to you so you could scream at him and yell at him. This is a message for you to my brother, the dahlia, the one who's calling people to Allah.

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They come with complete trust in you that they are there searching for help. And they came to you that by itself that by itself is is amazing. You should appreciate it a lot.

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Rasool allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he knew that there was higher than this man just because he came to him

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He did not judge him

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is this is crazy this guy crazy. does not hear he doesn't know that this is haram and he's coming to me in the masjid in front of my Sahaba the Sahaba and asking for something like that he did not do that. How many times Allah He please listen carefully. How many times we judge people because the way they look

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how many times we judge a young teenager because of his hairdo. Maybe because he's wearing an earring. Or maybe the way he dresses Subhan Allah, Allah He that has always keyattr if you dig

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inside these people, you will see that there's a lot of higher in them. It's just a phase that they're going through. Inside of their heart. There's a lot of higher and they want to become better, but they are being bombarded day and night surrounded by haram. They want to become better so do not judge. Do not say oh this guy is going to become righteous. Look at him. Look at the tattoos. Look at the earrings. Look how he looks look at his hair. Look where he's coming from. Look what he's driving. Look at the music. Look at this. Yeah, yeah, okay.

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armor or the law one. From Allah, the Allah Han. People used to say, the donkey or farmer will become a Muslim and Omar will not become a Muslim Subhan Allah. And he became the second Khalifa, the MOBA, Charbel Jana, we all know Allah, or the Allahu Anhu.

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he saw the hair in that man.

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And we have seen him and his salat wa salam in other examples when the Sahaba became drunk, and the other Sahaba the other companions were yelling and screaming, how dare you how many times you came drunk? Or Salah Salem did the head on him and he told them do not assist the shaitan against your brother. He found something good in him. He said he loves Allah and His Prophet Subhan Allah. Look for the good. Look for the good of the people.

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He found something good this man coming to the masjid. He came to the masjid. He didn't go to a bar to ask. He didn't go to a club to ask. He came to the best man. He came to Rasulullah Salallahu Salam, he came to ask someone who's righteous. He came to the Imam of the Masjid.

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So do not judge the people by the way they look and give them a chance. You will be you will be amazed by how kind they are inside. Third,

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even though the Sahaba were all upset and yelled and screamed and Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he went

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against them all.

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He did not say because everybody's screaming let me scream also on what's wrong with you? And no, no, no, no, no. He used his intellect. Early his Salatu was Salam

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Subhan Allah

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that teaches us that solutions to madness

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does not have to be in harshness, how you're going to help you how many times we scream our our children.

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How many times we scream at our children and young and this and we noticed that many of our children are not even. This is not it's not helping at all. Yaquis try the method of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, which is the best, the best of methods.

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Think for yourself. That Sahaba screaming and also salam

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sticking to his Rama his way of dealing with the matter.

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It teaches us is that that some people make others think for them.

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Make your own decision Yaffe not because everybody's screaming and yelling. That means they are all right. It's not about who has the higher voice, who screams louder.

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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even though they acted like that

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just like the acted with the, with the men who urinated in the masjid sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He it wasn't come.

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Come close to me. Sit down Subhanallah which is our fourth lesson.

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When someone comes to you, my brother, my sister, my, my, my brother, the daddy, the Imam.

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Make them feel at ease, make them feel secure. And this is what they're so certain that come close to me. Sit down. So now the man feel at ease. He's not yelling at him from far he's not screaming. Come, come closer. Sit down. Let's discuss Subhanallah

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he gave him the feeling of security first. Then he spoke to him. This is a method that was was SLM uses are used many times

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when he wanted to give advice to

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a lot the hola Juan, what did he say? First Yamaha in the UI book, Allah.

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How lucky is wired? When? Or how did he feel when they

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told him

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I love you. And then he gave him the advice. Do not leave after every first salad by saying hola hola. Any other degree kosher Creek was named by the spatula. So Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. And this is the method we should deal with the people that are seeking our advice, seeking our help. Make them feel at ease. Listen, listen to them. Let them express their feelings. Make them feel secure, safe, and then listen to them. This is the method of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Then we're sort of lost on the mind. He was.

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He mentioned look at the intellect of Rasul Allah says, He came to him from an intellectual manner. He did not come to him. Call Allah colors, even though that should be enough. SubhanAllah. But he came to him and he said he covered every female in his life.

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Right? Would you accept that your mother to your daughter, your sister, to your aunt, he covered all females in anyone's life, because if this man does not have a daughter, this man does not have a sister. This man maybe he does not have an aunt. He definitely has a mother.

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he left no excuse for the man. Oh, no, I don't have a sister. No, I don't have a daughter. No, no, no, no, you must have a mother you don't accept that your mother Subhanallah This is a fair he showed that you will never accept anyone doing it to your mother. So how would you accept others? How would you feel How would others feel

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having been done to their mother or to their sister or their daughter

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SubhanAllah. So

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soon Allah salAllahu alayhi wa sallam, he knows how to talk to the to the people according to their level

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of maturity.

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another great method to have a great outcome of your conversation is physical contact

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Subhan Allah

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Rasool allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he could have made the dua for the brother without putting his hand on his chest. Right? That put that hand on the chest, all the Subhan Allah, the irony, the sincerity of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam in that dua, as if it entered into his body Subhan Allah, he put his hand and he he made the beautiful dua that Subhanallah changed the life of that man. Allahu Mugford remember, Allah McPhee remember what a hero caliber was sin Ferhadija Allahu How can you imagine how did that man feel? Ya Allah forgive his sin? Ya Allah purify his heart? Yeah, Allah. Yeah, Karim era but Allah media Allah. God is chastity. Subhan Allah, how did that man feel? You

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know, when there's so much

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in the Hadith we we want to give a hope about

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who will take these five things from me and Abu Huraira raised his hand. When I said the ACA the big difference. He took my hand and counted five things. He took his hand and started counting Subhanallah so that physical touch with the person you're talking to, of course, I'm talking about you know, a male with a with a male or female with a female. We all know that.

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It will it will give the person a special feeling that you really care.

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It gives the person feeling that you really care.

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And finally my brothers and sisters, when someone comes to us,

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stressed, have complained, going through difficulty through going through any kind of hardship after you speak to him, this is what we learn from this hadith after you speak to her

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the meeting with a DUA to the person. Allah

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Subhan Allah what a lesson from Rasul Allah, Salah Ison, somebody came to you that complaining about his

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he's going through financial difficulty, at the end of the meeting, after you expressed to him and you told him what to do and how to handle it and everything.

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May Allah subhanaw taala put Baraka in your life. May Allah subhanaw taala increase your risk? May Allah azza wa jal bless you and protect you Subhan Allah make dua to that person before they leave, it makes a huge difference. It makes the person feel that he really cared. And you know what, let me tell you something Subhanallah and I'm not saying this. But

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in general, anytime somebody comes to me and express their their, any kind of hardship, I usually make a lot of dark for them after they leave also, I make their presence and after they leave, I make a lot of dirt for them. Subhanallah

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so my brothers and sisters, you know, there's a lot of lessons from this beautiful Hadith Imam came asking to commit major sin, and he left with that sin hated the most his heart.

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I ask Allah azza wa jal

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al Karim a loving Rahim Allah, a criminal acremant acromion yada but Alameen or Hamra himedia Allah, I ask you in this blessed night of Juma to forgive all the sins of our young brothers and sisters, purify their hearts, and guard their chastity that the man made to that young man make to your door and to your son

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elfa remember, what the hell caliber was sin Faraja make that dua for your children. Make that dua to all your children. May Allah protect us all. May Allah make us from the people who listen and apply May Allah forgive all our sins May Allah bring us back to the two hour massage in sha Allah to Allah Zachman Maka Baraka Allah Subhana Allah Muhammad Rasul Allah Allahu Allah and the staff Utica on a tuba lick.