Burdened With Decision Making – Q&A
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The Power of Istikharah
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The importance of being happy with a decision and finding a clear process is discussed, including the use of signs and words to describe situations and avoid negative consequences. The importance of praying and staying true to one's values is emphasized, as well as the importance of praying together to avoid mistakes and negative consequences. The speaker emphasizes the need to be aware of negative events and finding the best option for the customer.AI Generated Transcript ©
You never know. So, here it's very important that when you make a staccato whatever decision you make, be prepared to be satisfied with it. To accept it and to be happy with it
will allow you to Allah Allah. Now if you have a question I'm sure you have questions about it. Especially about dreams.
Yeah, go ahead.
Sometimes you take
an example
for example, okay and once I got the job did interview everything I felt uncomfortable straighter after that.
And then I decided not to take that job
and that's what I got the feeling before it's something so in that case you do suffer afterwards and then go ahead and take a decision
the same thing you follow the same the brother Yeah, I know what you mean. Yeah, yeah, this is a common problem the or sometimes the opposite you like it and you're happy about it excited about it and you want to do it and then you say Oh, okay, let's do a staccato
the youth the brother is saying I got a job offer write a job offer and then he thought about it he looked into it and he didn't like it. He didn't feel good about it and then he decided to make his taharah so he got the feeling before was too hard. This is a common problem. What do you feel good or good or bad about it? Do as taharah offer your staccato prayer and then see what would happen after a secara if you want to go ahead with it go ahead with it and see what will happen Allah subhanaw taala will will inshallah guide you to the right thing it could be that you didn't feel good about it but you will find it turned out to be a good job. You know, cuz you don't know you
don't know the future
will give chance to other people that come back to
the length of the
the brother you're asking about the length of slotless taharah any you pray just too short rockers only pray longer guys like you're doing pmla two pages in one workout three pages. I mean, it's up to you. Ursula Salim did not mention anything. There are some aroma in some of the mentioned they said it's better to recite in the first Raka salted caffeine in the secondary class or a class and some other ruler may have mentioned some ayat that indicate the power of Allah to choose for his servants or a bouquet of lahoma Shatta Wale tar and so on. But many of them a majority of the family said actually there is no there is no proof for that these are steps and I'll tell you some mistakes
and minute rule number six any any they feel like it could be it could be good if you if you recite this the source but there is no delete. So Mashallah we said foliar karrakatta been invaded for either let him pray to orcas.
It's up to you. Now you want to pray it for one hour, it's up to you and I pray this toorak as in 10 minutes, five minutes, it's up to you. Allah will help you because I think the most important thing is the dua but also what is more important is your tower Quran Allah subhanho wa Taala
because it actually is the hora is is a very strong and beautiful expression for us to work with.
As he said, I hear you telling a lie sending a message to a liar liar, I'm weak, I need your help. I cannot decide for myself. So whether you pray for one hour we pray 10 minutes is too I will be there in sha Allah. And if you have this you come to Allah subhanaw taala with this attitude, this mindset the last panatela inshallah we'll help you beat me later. So there is no any read whatever you want.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I told you I answered this question the brother He said, when I make the hora, I'm supposed to go ahead and move ahead with my plants. This is one way you could wait for for a feeling. You could wait for a sign if you want.
You if you want to wait for a dream. It's up to you. I'm just saying dreams are not part of this process. But there is a possibility That's a lie. I got someone a brother here, who made his car about getting married with someone and he saw a dream and the dream was very clear.
Not to go
But not everyone.
He told me about the dream. And I told him this is a clear sign.
Go for it. But it didn't it doesn't happen with everyone. My my answer again, Allah subhanho wa Taala would help you in different ways. You might get a phone call, like I got a phone call here in my office,
you might see something, you might go to the job, you have different options, and you feel like the manager is not is racist, for example,
a feeling that he's racist, and you won't have a good time with this person. So you said maybe you do do a different decision or the other job, they will allow you to praise him as if the the first one will not allow you to presume or that could be assigned for a good Muslim who is who is concerned about his Yama. So Allah subhanaw taala would help you. I'll tell you about another personal story. One time I was planning, it was not in here. It was in Vancouver, long time ago, I was planning to do something, I think a business with some people.
So when I made this taharah and then I left my house, and I took the bus.
But I was not feeling well about that match. I didn't have a good feeling.
Without without paying attention, instead of taking the bus that would take me to that destination. I took the other routes that will take me to the opposite direction.
And then I didn't discover this until 10 minutes will I found myself that I'm going in a different direction without paying attention and that by the bus and I stayed in the same bus and they brought me back to the same place. I just decided to go home back
and said this is an answer from Allah that is my personal interpretation.
So Allah subhanaw taala will help you with something that is my answer. I don't want to tell you there is a clear process about how Allah subhanaw taala will guide you to the right decision. They are clear there is a clear process about how you offer your prayers and how you make your app recite the same words memorize the same do I say the same do I inshallah but how I must point out it will guide you I have no there is no one answer for this.
Is it clear?
So I might be sometimes you feel good about something and you go ahead
staccato secara the brother he said sometimes we need to make a quick decision is it permissible to just make it
there Emma said if you are taking a bus method and you are in the car and you cannot stop your car and pray the toorak as you can make it if you want and this federal applies to women who are having their monthly period they cannot pray and they need to make a decision. They said if they want they can wait until their period is over. Monthly period is over and then we pray this taharah properly and we make the dua but if we have to make a decision within that period, then it's okay for them to just decide to do our without offering the tour. The tour guys will love to Allah Allah yes
this is what I think I clearly answered this question brother but I will repeat myself
if you don't speak Arabic, you still have to do it in Arabic
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Translation transliterate A transliterated it's a very difficult word, transliteration but the transliterated text.
Yeah, you will find it there you read it and when it comes to the matters that you need to decide, because it is not part of the door It is part of the asylum service and everyone has his different his own matter right, his own problem. Then you have you can say it with a different language, English or older
Or whatever you mix between two languages. But the main body of these two is h in Arabic.
Just because of the statement of jabber Can I use the Mona Lisa hora de la Mona Surah tamina Can you read Quran in in your salaat in English
Can you say somehow not to be allowed him in your suit or in your record in English? They're supposed to say to Arabic right?
Yes brother
you could get a sign which you know this is not the arrow otherwise
for example can you go look for a sign
look for what
Okay, he said afterwards it's gonna be assigned. There could be I said it could be a feeling it could be a sign. Sometimes Allah will not give you any sign you move ahead with a plan and everything will be easy.
Faster than waiting
for a sign so for example, okay.
He didn't you didn't seek guidance in these things. No.
No horoscope No. No, stay away from these things.
I'll tell you something.
When it comes to signs
he used to love good signs. So good signs is okay. What what was haram at the time? What was Haram is someone who would see something bad and who feel bad about it. Bad luck and he will change his plans.
And the Sahaba came to us Allah says lm he said this is the practice for my people. Sort of Allah says Allah we said fella so Don't lie to me and don't change your plans based on these
these events when you see something bad and you don't feel good about it you change your plans. This is not but if you see a good sign a good sign Yeah, that could be okay that's fine. As long as excellent can we have good fat lol hasn't felt hasn't Good luck.
If you want it is a decision it's an important decision because you are investing your money with your brother.
Yeah, we never know. You never know. Could be good. Could be bad a lot of make a star
Yeah.
13
Yeah.
But Yep, means Yes, right.
If it is a good sign, it's okay. But 13 years we don't believe in the number the bad luck of number 13 if you want to be a second wife,
the first wife disagrees
and causes a problem is this a sign not to pursue
a loan? I cannot tell you about signs but most likely these days the first wife will not be happy about it. This is a given. This is guaranteed at the time for shoeless Selim was very easy. It was very simple, but people will get married with three wives four wives. It was very common for them
that time but these days
Yeah, any 99 point 99 a woman will not be happy with if if her husband would get second wife. But at the same time I couldn't say this is a sign but if you want to make us taharah and then you don't feel good about it because of this. That could be an answer. And whatever you choose whatever decision you make, then in Charlotte will be the answer of yours Dr.
or low to Allah Allah.
It's very hard to answer these questions.
Yeah, because you have to be in her shoes you have to be in her position then look at different issues, different problems surrounding that that matter and then you come up with a decision.
If you have a decision to make and Allah dislike it, how do you how do you if you don't see a sign, how do you do is the hora and what happens if you pursue it still? I mean, I said it I answered this question if Allah dislike it, if it is makuu are not supposed to mix too hard about it. If it is something mcru we're not supposed to do it.
Unless it is bollock
divorce, it is macro. Allah does not like it for a fact, but it is Helen. And sometimes it is a solution.
And you need to make her about it. Actually, divorce Yes.
Salaam Alaikum. How do you know a clear sign from your carelessness and natural occurrences? For example? If there is something I think about, I think about and minor accidents happen, tea spilling or things fall out of my hand? My friend thinks it could be because because that topic makes me angry. But what if the accidents are consistent?
Allow them I wouldn't give you an answer for this. If it is a bad bad sign or actually we're not. Yeah, I don't know. I gave you the example the personal example when the car when I couldn't get the key out. That was my interpretation, personal interpretation.
But this is a personal experience.
Don't take it as a rule.
So Allah subhanaw taala will guide you in in his way, Allah subhanaw taala will choose the right way to guide you to make the right decision. But I wouldn't say that this could be assigned to Allah Allah.
I'm not sure.
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because Eric, we're lacking in SF length akumina cv can a solid he ha in Kennesaw It was hard to focus even. So, the system they were back home and her brother her husband applied for a job
in he played his taharah and he did not get this job. So, what happened is this company declared bankruptcy after one year. So this sister is asking if the answer of this taharah would be would be seen or would be known after one year. Here is the answer is Tara is not this the company has declared bankruptcy after one year. The answer of this secara is that the last part Allah guided her has been not to take this job that is answered with this Tara. And it was there at that time after he applied.
But after one year, he knew about the heckler the wisdom in our last guidance that this company has declared bankruptcy. So this is the answer The answer he got it long time ago when he when he did not go for the job.
Or the job. Okay. Oh,
long questions.
You wanna look at it. I don't know if you can read it.
After you move, after move, you move ahead with your plan. Do not have to wait for a dream. Possibly you might get info from your dreams guide you.
Again, going back to the matter of the dreams. If you want to wait for a dream. It's up to you. But there are a number of commands that you move ahead. If you have one option, you feel good about it. Move ahead. Don't wait for a dream. What their message is, if you feel good about it, and things are made easy for you, you applied for a job in the call you met and he said we accepted you are accepted for this job. Are you going to wait for a dream? Tell them I went wait Can you give me 111 week I'll think about it. You like
Get the job you are happy about it you apply to praise God the answer. What are you going to wait for?
So this is what I meant or this is what they told me meant that you don't wait for this dream. If things are made easy for you go ahead with your plans. But if you couldn't you couldn't decide and you want to wait for a sign and one of the signs could be a dream. That's fine It's up to you
cannot praise taharah on someone we have on someone else on behalf of someone else. Sahara is sooner I don't know. I cannot read this sister is the only one you write when you
think we want you to
call by mistake maybe they brought them here by mistake. Okay.
Go back to the brothers. Yeah, go ahead.
No, they're not Yeah.
When you press the harder press the harder with intention forced her
to holla
decision factor
can you say it again? My understanding was always that the way to make decisions after praying is
the same as the way to make decisions before praying Is
that correct? Change it is the same way.
The same way.
What do you mean the same way?
Yeah.
This the hora will make you the brother is said he said after we praise the hora we will look into the same thing information about the job and everything it's like you're saying there is no point of making this the harder we are going through the same process consulting people
I want him to express himself
there's no point
like even if we do is taharah
give us the best outcome okay but the way of making decisions is the same remain the same but should remain the same.
And then they start waiting for a dream.
Use the same tools same the same tools you consult knowledgeable people and you look for information you think about it okay, these are all
this is due diligence you you use all these tools and at the same time you wait for Allah guidance you wait all you just go with your plan if you feel good about it.
Okay, you know, as I said, you don't have to wait for a sign but the law might give you a sign you don't have to wait for a dream Allah might bless you with a dream. But you have based on the same information, the same you know, consultation the outcome of the consultation and your thinking and your research. Just go ahead, nothing will be changed. The only thing is the staccato will give you some comfort suhara will give you confidence that I made the secara I okay I accepted this offer job offer after he made the secara you feel more comfortable if something happens bad happen, said hamdulillah I made this era whatever is there was written by Allah Subhana Allah and there is some
pigment in it, there is some good in it. So you will be as Tara will help you to be satisfied with the outcome. Whether it is positive or negative or low to Allah, Allah.
And he chose your trust Allah subhanaw taala even if you are not able to see the hikma because there is something that happened that you don't like for example, like the person got married with a lady and he divorced her after two years. And he made his taharah maybe I mean, if he's knowledgeable and wise, he will look at this experience from different angles. What did he learn from this experience? Okay, and then if he's not, he might he might think that he might, or even if he wants to think that Allah Subhana Allah did not answer his door. There is a possibility or one because the two alphas taharah is
if Allah Subhana Allah wants to ask you to do it will ask you
if there are some obstacles, some issues, your income is Hara. Your food is Hara. Your clothes are coming from heroin sources coming from heroin.
sources they may be a lost retailer will not answer your da and he will leave you. I mean, everything is under his taqdeer within his podra and daffodils subhanho wa Taala calusa in the corner Everything is under his control and he's stuck there but he will not help you with His guidance to the right decision because he doesn't or he didn't answer your da because it is a DA but as soon as Assalam said when you do it this way
you pray to workers and you recite this to our you increase your chances for you to add to be answered.
you increase your chances are low to Allah. Let me go back to the sisters because sometimes we complain actually most of the times they complain that we are ignoring them and
after I did this because I thought of everything as a sign which was problematic.
Can I just say if this is a good if this is good for me then bring it close. And if it is bad for me then move it away from me during my normal prayers because I do not know what are the signs
again
thank you thinking about signs and waiting for signs yeah when is not part of the process. You might see a sign you might see a dream but it's not necessary
but it's the hora is a sooner is a well established sooner, highly recommended. So the sister is saying instead of praying is the hora I don't want to look for these signs because I might be confused and everything problematic. I would just say these two are in my obligatory prayers No, you follow the Sunnah of Rasulullah Salim pray the Torah and recite the do and Allah will guide you along and guide you you need here they will have a problem of trust here trust to place your trust in Allah subhanaw taala after
Allah will guide you because this is a promise of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam nanea He will come back to you
this way, if a person for example does not return the person he applies to loss. Okay. So the first year that is the current projection first year second year to restore client or should or what this is not saying sign up is different saying would it be a sensible thing after doing this
for after being rejected twice let's say to stop applying for the thing and move on something else. Oh, we'll just keep going and going Is it the brother is saying your brother applied for law school he said a school for a course or
your field of study. And then he was rejected two times he was not accepted two times. So this is could it could be assigned for his data and he prayed is too hard. I mean, a lot of these are personal things. If I was in his shoes, I could be assigned for me. I would think about something else I shouldn't wait for for the school to accept me will allow to Allah and he rejected twice, two years in a row right? after praying his secara if I was in his shoes, but these are personal matters.
Even if you said I love this this subject and I want to study it I want to try again. Race the car again. I love Adam it's up to him but that could be a sign Well, what do you think your
personal very personal? Yeah.
Now,
okay.
at any particular time.
I clearly answered this question the brother is there is any specific time to praise the heart. I said you can praise the heart at any time except those times that I mentioned, between acid and Mahara and between fudger and sunrise and
those 10 minutes before the whole dinner. Did you asked asked you a question.
How can handle it because I think you raise your hand
if
you're sensitive to things that are happening. That's right.
I want the brother who. Okay, go ahead, Polish so we asked question before right go ahead.
Yeah, of course, yeah. amor, this matter. You mentioned your problem.
That's a blank. Yeah. In Quinta Island.
Yeah.
When you when you repeat the second part, you repeat it again. Yeah.
Yeah, the actual matter here.
No, no, no, no you repeat it, you repeat it. You mentioned you sent me fear whether you were to accompany me at the end and send me whatever you have to say it.
No, no, no, no in that park in the middle
of my marriage with X or Y. For example.
When I mentioned the word marriage, people started laughing and smiling.
They need help well.
Let's look for someone was given who was not given a chance before Yes.
It's optional. And he said if you want to combine, it's okay. To combine it make statement and combine choose formula. This or this will be pressed harder for the first one that you feel comfortable with. Because at the end you're saying and choose for me what is best for me. So obviously, if Alice panatela doesn't want to choose for you what you mentioned it he will choose for you the other option
if the other option is better or louder. So could we if we pray one time, it's gonna be fine. For one thing, or you pray to if you're for this and this that's fine too.
Yes, go ahead. Well
istikhara
Yeah, I answered, I answered this.
I said this in my lecture I said you can combine between the Sahara and tuna but the remedy said when you start the prayer, you have to have the intention of istikhara and so now at the same time, the mistake that some people make, he would pray some numbers and he would be praying sooner and the second Raka he remembers that he had to pray harder for example, say okay, let's make it stick on let's include this era with it, when he would finish is to rock as which were previously or initially done as sooner and then at the end of this talk, as he would do that, he would resign the door and the remedy said this is not correct. Now, if you want to combine then you have to start
with the intention of starting from the beginning or the combination of the two. But the perfect scenario is that you pray to separate trackers for istikhara that is my my preference will allow to Allah
unless you are in hurry, yes, we'll go back to the
even if you like it, if you have good feeling about it, you can mix the Hata
I will give you an example. I'll give you an example. These things are coming all the time and that's fine. I understand what you're talking about. But I'll give you an example. Someone wants to get married with a lady
and this lady is religious Mashallah
wearing full hijab highly educated, well mannered coming from a good family normal family is very happy excited about this mesh and he likes actually to get married with this lady. He looks at her she's Mashallah She's good. Suitable for him Yanni.
But he doesn't know is a human being. You don't know if you will have a good life with this lady or not. Even if she is like very, extremely religious. I know people who got who took that into
consideration and the thought that they will have a perfect life. Because the sister is very religious, very religious, it ended up to be a different story.
And that she was a different person, she was not a different person, she was still religious, but he couldn't get along, didn't have a good life.
They didn't know how to communicate with each other and everything problems. So she's religious, coming from good family, they have a good reputation while educated. You see all the things that you want to know this lady still, as a servant of Allah, you need his help praise taharah because you don't know what will happen in the future down the road.
Especially with important important decisions like method of buying a house, the house could be wonderful. But maybe there is a problem with one of your neighbors.
And your life will be miserable with that neighbor.
The life could be good house could be good. So Max taharah. What about Allah Allah?
I sent someone's
bio data to another person. for many purposes.
It didn't go to the right person three times.
This is coming from a brother right? system.
Okay.
When she tried getting in touch with the relevant person
who may have spoken to before, but the phone kept going to the wrong person.
He received this question.
And we didn't make a mistake with the phone number.
Is this the result of istikhara?
Allah to personal Allah, I'm
not sure. It could be. This is my answer. It could be. But I'm not you. Yeah, these are not matters of knowledge. Again, it's up to you as a person when you are in this situation to make a decision. If you think that this is a sign then make a decision based on it and Allahu Allah Subhana Allah, Allah subhanaw taala will bless your decision based on your
now.
One is enough, what do you mean multiple decisions.
The problem is the problem that you need to solve has to be mentioned in the
wall. If you mentioned all of them together, I don't know it will be difficult
to make you include the car and a house job.
To wholesale.
You can make two guys in five minutes screw allow ahead and then pull out the Gerbil fella and the second one will ask them the second.
And that's it. Problem solved.
should only be one at a time. So it's better to mention only one problem.
I'm just amazed.
I'm just trying to change the mood. Sometimes you are very serious. Sometimes we like to em, but that's good. I mean, I'm open to any question there any I'm just trying to make it easy on you.
So regarding the fact that you megastar and
being humbled
in any way maybe affect the quality of the decision like maybe
data wrote for you to get married or to buy a house
because it becomes veterans.
Well, if you are guided to the right decision, that means this is the best thing for you.
Right The brother is saying does the two out of the Sahara solidly Sahara would affect the quality of what you get. But then you get the best thing. Well, this is what we want. We want to be guided to the best thing.
When we talk about the right decision if you have options. We want to be guided to the best thing. If you have
Two cars. were confused about buying two cars. What do you want?
What do you want the best one right? terms of maybe I don't know, a lot of different people look at cars from different angles depends of your age. And maybe you are a man or woman or young adulthood a different different needs. You have to use it for a business or for personal use. So you look for different things in that car. And you have you're confused between two cars. So you're looking for the best option. So you want to Las Vegas to guide you to the best thing will out. Sorry.
Yeah, like if you get two options
for two businesses
could be better for you. So you look for a sign to appear.
The size the matter of the science keeps on coming back. And I told you it's very personal this matter. There is no clear process about how you're going to get the answer. There is no clear process. This is what I said. Let me let me explain it again. There is a clear process about how to make suhara. You pray to a cosmic Kudo greater has and then you do the athletes taharah either before seller or after seller. And then after that, what will happen after that is to personal very personal, you might see a dream, you might see a sign, you might get an answer a phone call, and the other person will tell you we accepted your offer common, we'll make the deal we'll make the
contract. So and you feel good about it and you go ahead with it.
I'll mention another another personal so you can you can hold on hold. I'm afraid that I'm gonna confuse you with these personal examples. But these are personal examples and they might learn from them alarm it's up to you.
I want you to buy a van. I still have it this way and I still have it. My wife drives it. So I wanted to buy this van.
And then I talked to the dealer and everything and I liked it. I looked at it and I told him Okay, I'll go home and then I'll give you the answer within a couple of hours. I don't remember I told him a couple of hours or within 24 hours. So I went home and I I prayed this to her
but this is a help from Allah subhanaw taala what I said Salaam and made dua within few minutes, I got a call from him saying that he is decreasing the price
decreasing the price. He was working with his dad and he told his that I think they had a discussion about it. And he decided to give me a discount maybe the price fell the price was expensive. So they decided to decrease it maybe to help you to make a decision aloud what happened I felt good about it. I said this could be a sign I went back I got the vibe
I don't have major problems with it. I'm still happy with it for two years talking very well. But the phone call I got it within few minutes he didn't say oh he prayed harder This is the answer.
He didn't tell me that. Basically we're giving you a discount a discount was a good discount I think 1000 I think it was 1000
so I said okay this is a sign of felt happy I went to him made the deal with the fact that it
you could get this kind of things and then you feel good about if you go ahead. So my point is yet when I deal with another question about science, there is no clear process about how you get your answer or how how Allah Allah will guide you to make the right decision will allow to Allah
Okay, we have one minute or two minutes This is a promise now 10 o'clock sharp we're gonna stop the halaqa and next Friday chicken Aveda will be doing the halaqaat be out of town and then the other one will be canceled because of the matter of course and then come back after after the other one shall on February 20. Will
you will later on you announced about your halaqaat subject type one question and that's it we finish inshallah
furtherly
Nancy
Carmen
because the nerves because
you said
That's right.
There is flexibility if you want to do it this way that's okay. But I would prefer that you don't add any other data that you do only do Atlas taharah this is what I prefer
because they don't have daily Yeah, they don't those who said you praise Allah.
Allah Allah rasulillah salam and then you make the do alpha staccato if you're doing it after Salah you don't have a clear delete because also law says Adam said earlier Kathy sumali
Allah says enemy say when he should say directly, right so that means the prayer that you pray will include praising Allah subhanaw taala and include, you know Salam ala rasulillah salam Jazakallah spanic Aloha, I'm Nick shadow ally. Let the suffering countable