Sabr is highly misunderstood. It is not a fatalistic acceptance of the status quo. Sabr in Islam is to do the utmost that you can do and then to ask Allah (swt).
Allah used the term Saabireen/roon for the mujahideen. The ultimate level of action is Jihad in the path of Allah. Spending his time and life for Allah’s sake. These are the people making Sabr. It is an action! Then after to stand before Allah and ask for help. At the battle of Badr – Muhammad (saw) prepared fully with what he had and then made dua to Allah!
Things that help us make sabr.
1. Make the ultimate effort and then ask Allah.
2. In any situation to look at those who are in greater difficulty than you – we are not the centre of creation!
3. Learn to forgive people to prevent taking revenge. Don’t we also expect Allah to forgive us?
“If you cannot laugh at the same jokes twice or three times how is it that a bad incident keep you upset for years? If a good incident cannot keep you happy for more than once why should a bad incident keep you sad for more than once?”