Blacksmith Or Perfume Seller Who Is Your Friend
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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
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The title of today's lecture is the perfume seller or the blacksmith. And that obviously denotes back to the famous hadith of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on the authority of Abu Musab lashari, which is collected in Sahih, Al Bukhari and Sahih Muslim that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam gave the example of a righteous companion. And the example of an evil companion, like the example of the seller of mosque and the blacksmith, as for the righteous companion, then he is like the seller of mask, either you will buy the mask from him, or he will give you some mask to try on. Or at the very least, you will leave with a beautiful smell filling your senses. And the blacksmith
is the one who will either burn your clothes, or he will burn a part of your body, or at the very least you will blacken your clothes or you will leave with a foul stench. So this is a very famous Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the title of this lecture has been taken from the Hadith.
So how do we choose our friends? What is the criteria and the basis that we use to choose our friends. And if we think about this, and the way we normally live our lives, we're normally people that put in a lot of thought to things which sometimes aren't very important, right. So for example, when someone wants to buy a car, people will go and they will search so many websites, they will look at so many competitive models, the prices, the specs, what they get, what they don't get, how much insurance will cost, the textbooks, price, and so on. And they'll compare all of this simply to buy a car, or to buy a TV or to buy a computer. And we put in a lot of time, a lot of thought and a
lot of effort. So how do we choose our friends? Do we put in the same time and effort? Do we take the same time to look into and analyze who we're going to be friends with or who we longed for the vast majority of us, our friends is a very natural process. It's like almost an evolutionary process. Most of us probably went to school, there were people in our class, or in the same year, or in the same school that we got to know we grew up with them, and they became our friends, whether good or bad. We didn't really think are these people good for us? Are they bad for us? Are they going to increases in Islam decreases in our Eman. They just became our friends. And we moved on
with them. Or we went to work. And at the same time, we have colleagues at work that we became friends with some people we became closer to over others. And so they became our friends, maybe others from amongst us have relatives and cousins at the same age, or people who are living on our streets, our neighbors who are around our age group. And so we would hang around with them, play football with them play on the PlayStation with them and so on. And then we kind of grew up with them as well. And so it's a natural process. We never want to stop to think, is he a good friend? Is he a bad friend? What kind of an influence Do they have over us, but we just accepted them, and we
moved on for good or for bad. And that's how most of us have our friendships. That's how most of us have our friends. And that's how we live our lives. Whereas if you look in Islam, and you look in the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, as well as some of the verses in the Quran, you find that a larger Virgil and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, do not encourage this natural selection process of friends, this evolutionary kind of process of just gaining a friend and then it just happening naturally. But rather emphasizes that you choose your friends wisely. You look at those people around you, who is beneficial for you, who will increase you in your Eman who
will bring you closer to the worship of Allah. And then you choose those individuals as your friends. And as for those people who don't do that, people will probably neutral. They're neither good nor bad. They're your acquaintances, people that maybe you'll spend some time with, but they're not really your close circle of friends. And then you have that third category. People who are a bad influence on you, people who want to spend time with
All they'll do is make sure you sin backbite lie, cheat and so on. There are bad influence on you. They decrease your Eman And so those are the people that you should avoid. And there are many examples of this throughout the Quran and the Sunnah, examples of Allah stressing the importance of having good friends, a lot as the Virgil mentions in Surah zakharov Allah subhanahu wa taala says
Illa Yama even Babu whom libero denardo wound up in Ramadan, Yama, Yama, the best of friends will come and allow uses the term hollein, which in the Arabic language is your closest friend, that person who is closest to you, that person that you spend all of your time with the person who when you have good news or bad news, he's one of the first people that you will tell the person that you travel with that you sit with, that you speak to probably more or less every single day, or you see more or less every single day, that person or those individuals that are your closest friends, and all of us have people who are closer to us than others. These people are known as Helene, or in
Arabic, the plural is Allah. So Allah speaks about them on Yeoman piano, on this day when people will flee from one another, the mother and the father from the children, the husband, from his wife, and so on the brother from his sister, and so on. What will the friends do?
Even better than I do? The closest of friends on that day will be enemies one to another.
Except for those who have piety, except for those who possess taqwa. So everyone will come and Yeoman to Yama, and those closest of friends will be enemies one to another. Why? Because they didn't increase one another in a man. They didn't bring one another closer to Allah. And so one will blame the other. Oh, well, it's because of him, his influence over me that I didn't worship you that I didn't increase in a man that I didn't come closer to you. It's because of him that I sinned, that I disobeyed and so on. And the other one will repeat the accusation. Except for those who have Taqwa, those who base their friendship, on piety, on a man in on fear of Allah subhanho wa Taala. In
surah Furqan. Allah azzawajal again, speaks about friendship. And it's amazing because the Quran speaks about the most important concepts that we need in our lives. And as humans, we are people who need to interact. We are a species who can't just live alone, and seclude ourselves from everyone around us, we need to have interactions. And so the Quran speaks about important interactions. It speaks about the rights of parents, and the rights of spouses, and even the rights of the guest and neighbors. And the Quran also speaks about friendship, because of its importance, because Islam is a practical religion ally knows that we have friends, that we will have friends, that we will have
these people around us that we use the company in order to make our lives more pleasant, more easier, more bearable. And so likewise, Islam will give us guidelines for them. In Surah 240 analyzer which again speaks about Yama, Yama, when on that day, a person will come to my volume or Allah day, on the day when a person an individual will come and they will bite and chew on their own hands. Why is the person biting on their hands on Yom Okayama? Why are they choosing their own flesh on normal piano? It's because of the remorse and the regret that they feel. And why do they feel regret and remorse? Why oh my octo Salima Allah de
la tanita han Tamara su de Sevilla, because those people will be remorseful and regretful and they will be saying, Woe to me. If only I had taken the Prophet of Allah salallahu alayhi wa sallam and his path as my way If only I had followed his way, if only I had followed his Sunnah, and that is in everything, not just in worship, but in the way I chose my friends in the way I treated others in the way that I dealt with my fellow brothers and sisters in the way that I looked after the rights and the duties of those around me, if only I had taken his way. That's the first rule. The first rule was not following our profits in the long run, and he will send them what is the second remorse
and regret? Yeah, way later, later, Neelam Fallon and Halima vote to me, if only I had not taken so and so as my closest friend.
Subhan Allah how Allah combines between these two resources, on the one hand, following the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And on the other hand, taking someone out as a friend, because that friend will determine your relationship with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, your relationship with Allah and with the Quran, whether you're close, or whether you're removed and distant. And so this person will regret taking that person as his closest friend, upon learning any victory, but his journey, he was the one who misguided me from the remembrance of Allah after it came to me. He was the one who when the time for prayer would come, he would invite me to go and do
something else. play football, watch your movie waste our time, he was the one who instead of encouraging me to go and perform how to go and take holiday somewhere else. He was the one who misguided me after I knew my duties as a Muslim, Lockwood, abalone and evictory. Bader is Johnnie Walker on the shell panel in sunny cazuela. And indeed, Chopin is ever humiliating mankind Subhana Allah how shavon doesn't rest, he won't leave a single Avenue by which he can misguide you, except that we'll use it. That closest person to you in your life, the closest friend, who after your most immediate family, is the closest person that you probably know and have. He is the one that you feel
secure with. He's the one that you know that if you probably get into a fight, he'll be there for you. If you get into financial difficulty, he'll be there to support you have probably sacrificed his life for you. So you feel safe, and content and peaceful and secure in his presence. But shaytan will use that individual that you feel so safe with to be the means of your destruction. How shall upon continuously and consistently humiliates mankind, he's always looking for ways to attack you from places that you can never imagine. And so a lot of xojo speaks about this in the Quran, over and over again. And there is reported that the reason why these verses were revealed in the Quran,
or one of the reasons why these verses were revealed in the Quran, about friendship was because of two individuals that lived at the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, two men from the nobleman of kurush, when the Prophet sallallaahu irony, he will send them at the beginning of Islam, he lived in Makkah, there were two men, one by the name of omega ebonylife, and the other one by the name of rapa. Even Abby married two men, from the nobleman of Polish both of them non Muslims, both of them, leaders of their people, people who are respected and honored amongst the parish. As for October a bit more, each one of those two, it was his practice, that he would go and listen to the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He wasn't a Muslim. He didn't believe in Islam, but he simply would like to go and listen to the words of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, because even the oration the Arabs cannot deny the eloquence and the beauty and the miraculous nature of the Quran. And so they would love to hear these words. So he would spend much time with him. He wasn't a Muslim, nor did he want to accept Islam, but he loved his company. And he loved to hear these words. Omega ebonylife was his best friend, this other noble man of courage. They were best friends together. One day omega Allah, the man who didn't listen to the prophet SAW Selim, he came to the
other leaders of Polish, the leaders of the other clans of Polish, and they began to make fun of him and mock him. And they said to him that your best friend, Luca has gone mad. He's been bewitched, by that man, Mohammed. And that's why he must go and sit with him every single day. He can't stay away. He's bewitched is mad, and his bewitchment his madness, it will, contagious as well. It is contagious, it will infect you as well. And you too, will be afflicted. And so they began to make fun of him, began to mock him and his friend.
And this is what best friends do for one another, they feel for one another. When you or your best friend is attacked, you feel for that person, because he's the closest person to you. So maybe he took this as a personal attack upon him, even though he never said when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam In fact, he was one of his most largest enemies. He was one of his most severe enemies, but he took it an attack upon himself.
So he went to his friend.
And he said to him, I swear by Allah, that my face is haram for your face mean that we can never see one another again, unless you go, and you spit in the face of Muhammad
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look at how he wants to preserve his own honor and the honor of his friend show these people have courage that you're not bewitched, that you're not mad that you haven't been overcome and possessed by his words, go and spit in his face, dishonor, and humiliate him.
he had a choice. The choice is either you don't spit in his face, the face of the profits on a lower than he will sell them. But you lose your closest friend, your closest friend, that person that is the closest to you. Maybe you've known him for 2030 years, you risk losing him or you do what he wants you to do. You spit in the face of that man, and you bring your friend closer. It is a choice that a person makes. And so by being a bit more, the next time he came, and he saw the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he spat in his face when he has to build up
and look at how his friendship influenced him from listening and being mesmerized by the words of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he went to humiliating him in such a way, spitting in the face of our noble and beloved prophet Sall Allahu alayhi wa sallam. And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him, that you and your friend omiya, both of you will be in the fire. And both of them died on the day of battle. Both of them were killed by the Muslims. Look at how these people in this dunya because of their friendship, not only do they disbelieve in Allah, but they died in that state. And they will be for eternity in how fire. These are the people and people like
them who will come on normal piano. And even though they went to such lengths in this world, to protect and support one another, on that day, they will be enemies one to another, they will be fighting one to another, they will be blaming one against the other. And so this is what these verses refer to people like them, that have this Township, this friendship, this companionship, which isn't based upon Islam and Eman Islam based upon taqwa, but it's based upon the dunya. And so my dear brothers and sisters, how do we choose our friends? What is the criteria that we use to choose our friends? What kind of an influence or our friends upon us? And what kind of an influence?
Are we upon our friends? Because we can't just expect to choose our friends and for them not to choose us? It's a two way process. How do you influence your friends? And how do they influence you?
It was reported by Abu Idris solani Rahim Allah, one of the great scholars of the tabin. He said that I went to Damascus. And I entered upon the mosque, the main Mosque of Damascus. And I went to the people, and I saw that all of them are gathering around a single young man. Everyone would go and stand around him. They would go and ask him questions, they would go and settle their disputes, any issue that they would have, they would converge upon this man. So I went to someone and I said, Who is this man that everyone seems to go to? So he said to me that this is the great companion of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam more intelligible for the long run, the great companion, the
scholar of the companions. And so the man said with recent kolani, that when I saw him, I loved him for the sake of Allah. And I want you to tell him, that I love him for the sake of Allah. So I thought to myself that I will come tomorrow, and I will be the first person to enter into the masjid before anyone else. And I will go to this companion, and I will tell him what I feel.
And so I went the next day. And I entered into the machine at a time that I thought that no one would be there before me. But I found that more iron was already there playing. He was already in the masjid praying. So I waited for him to finish praying. And then I went to him and I said, Oh, more in the book of law. Indeed, I love you for the sake of Allah. So what I looked at me and he said,
Allah, Do you swear by Allah, that you love me for the sake of Allah?
What I answer to this question, when someone comes to you this statement, and they say that I love you for the sake of Allah, he said, You can love him, or you make the desire that the prophet SAW Selim said, may Allah love you just as you love me.
But what I had said
Do you swear by Allah that you love me for the sake of Allah? So he said yes. And then a second time Wilde said, long Do you swear by Allah that you love me for the sake of Allah? And again the man replied, Yes. And then the third time What are they again said? law? Do you swear by Allah, that you love me for the sake of Allah? And again, the man replied, Yes. And then what are the Bujumbura the Allahu anhu said, then have glad tidings, because I heard the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam see was about to happen have Betty Phil Mota have been a fee. One motor generally seen a fee, while motor was more Mutasa V in a fee, one motor Ballymena fee for types of people allows love
is obligatory upon them. Allah himself says that my love is obligatory upon these four types of people.
And all of them are based upon friendship. Allah subhanho wa Taala said that my love is incumbent upon those who love one another for my sake, and those who sit with one another for my sake, and those who visit one another for my sake, and those who strive for one another for my sake. What a beautiful Hadith. Allah will love those who love one another for the sake of Allah, who sit and visit and strive for one another for the sake of Allah. And this is the criteria of friendship that we have in Islam that we have in Islam. And the condition that is the most important condition within this hadith is that it is for the sake of Allah.
Because everything you do with this Holly with his closest friend, your main option, or your main goal and objective from this should be to increase in a man to bring you closer to Allah, that it is for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Now this doesn't mean that you can't chill out with your friends, that you can't go out with a meal that every time you sit, you have to open your body. This isn't what it means, nor is it something which the companions did. But the main objective is always that they will bring you closer to Allah, that even if you are just going to sit with them to spend some rest time with them, then you do it for the sake of Allah, because you love that person for the
sake of Allah. And you know that when that person is depressed, when they're feeling down, when they have some problems in their lives, or you have some problems in your life, then you will be a support one to another, you will support each other. You will encourage one another, you will remind one another of Allah and His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and that's why you see that I've done live in Massoud or the Allahu and he would gather the companions around him his people and he would say, Ah, this Bina, Mr. De man and Sir, why don't you sit with us? Let us increase in a man for a short period of time. This was the goal. This was the objective. And you only need to look at
the friendship and the companionship of Abu Bakr and Omar radi Allahu anhu man to see the fruit of such a companionship, the fruit of friendship, which is based upon taqwa. And there are many stories of this from the life of the companions, or the Allahu anhu war bomb.
It was reported by Imam Anwar PD Rahim Allah, who was a scholar of Islam. After the time of the companions, he said that I had two friends, two friends who were very close to me, we would always go and travel with one another. But we lived a distance away from one another, we lived slightly far from each other, but we were close friends. So I remember walking distance that a period of time came in my life. When I became very poor. I became very poor, and I didn't have much money. And I had a wife, I had children, but I didn't have much money to support them. And the month of Ramadan was upon us, and it was around the corner. So my wife said to me, that I feel embarrassed that on
the day, I've read all of our friends, our neighbors, our family members, they will wear new clothes, and their children will dress in new clones. But because of our financial situation, we can't afford any for our children. I think with me, saddens me not like any parent, if under they have read everyone else in the community, all of your friends are wearing new clothes, and your children are still wearing last year's clothes. You'd feel sad. You'd want them to be equal with everyone else. You'd feel sorry for them. And so she felt the same way. So she said why don't you ask one of your friends for some money. Ask him for some money. And so Lima Manuel PD, he asked his
friend, one of the two friends he asked him for some money and so that caller or
A person that second friend, he sent him 1000 dinar in a bag, he sent it to him 1000 dinar. So emammal work with you received this bag of 1000 dinar.
And as he received it, he received at the same time a letter from his third friend from the third one, asking him also for money. He too, was in a dire situation, he too was in need of help. And so he also asked him for money. So remember, he has a choice. He's just taken out a loan, he's taken some money from a friend so that he can give it to his family, close his children celebrate it with the Muslims. And on the other hand, his friend also requires this money. And so he also is in need. So now this is a choice. And look at the friendship there is based upon taqwa. And so he decided to give the money to his friend. What a difficult decision that must have been. He decided to give it
all to his friend. And he went to his wife. In fact, he says in the narration that I felt so embarrassed that I slept that night in the masjid.
I slept the night in the mush, I couldn't go home and face my wife and my children. So I stayed in the masjid and I slept them. And then the next day, I went home, and I told my wife what took place. And my wife smiled at me, and she became happy. And she said, I'm glad that you helped your friend. And you gave him priority over us. Because you did a good deed. This is something which you did for the sake of Allah, I'd rather you have done that. And look at how the support of his family helps him
as he did this, his friend that loaned him the money. The person that gave him the 1000 dinars came and knocked on his door.
He opened the door. And he said to him, that I want to know what you did with my money.
memovox he said, why does it matter? What does it matter what I did with your money? He gave it to me, I spent it in a way he said no, you have to tell me.
So a mammal walked in. He said, Okay, I'll tell you what happened. You gave me the money. And then our third friend, he asked for the money. So I gave it to him. I gave him the money.
And so Mr. Manuel PD said, Subhanallah, that money that I gave you, I now have it in my possession. And he took out the back of 1000 dinars, mammal, Rocky said, how'd you get your money back? He said, when you asked me for the money, I gave you everything that I had 1000 dinars was all that I had saved. I gave it to you. But then now I was in need. So I thought I would ask my other friend to learn loan me some money. So I asked him, and he gave me he wanted, I asked him, can you borrow me some money, he didn't have any money. So he wanted you to give him some money.
And so each one is asking the other for that same pot of money. And so it goes from a mom and dad to the back to his third friend, who then gives it back to his other friend. And so he goes back to its owner. And so what they decided to do, because all three of them were in need was that they would split it three ways. And so each one of them took a third, the halifa of the time, he was an Ambassador halifa he heard of this story. So he called them all together. And he told them to come to the palace. And he said, I heard a story about you, which amazes me at your friendship for one another. Tell me about it. So remember when he says I told him my story,
and then the the holiday of the Muslims, he said, By Allah, it is a testament for your love for one another. And so he said to them, that I will give you each 1000 he announced for me as a gift, I will give you each 1000 dinars for me. And so each one of them left with an extra 1000 dinars. Look at how the scholars and the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam loved one another for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. It was reported that amount by Omar Abdullah one, that when Abu Bakar first became the halifa of the Muslims, he became the belief of the Muslims at a time when there were many issues in the Muslim Ummah, many difficulties which had arisen, the Romans and the
Persians were fighting the Muslims. people refuse to pay this occur. Other Muslims had apostates from Islam. There were other men who claim to be prophets after the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam many issues afflicting the ummah. So Omar came to Abu Bakar one day and he said, a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I know that you're busy with the affairs of the Muslims, I know that you're very busy. So why don't you make me an appointment as your judge in Medina, any issue that takes place amongst the Muslims of Medina, they come to me and I will settle their disputes. And as for you, you deal with the oma in general, forget about Medina. So Abu Bakr agreed
For a year, ama remained as the judge of Medina. After one year, one day he came back after a year had passed. And he said to Abu Bakr aboubaker, I want to resign. I want to resign. Abu Bakr was amazed. Omar doesn't resign, he makes others resign, but he doesn't resign. And so he said to him,
Is it because of the difficulty of the burden that you carry? The responsibility that you bear upon your shoulders, being a judge isn't easy to judge between people? It's a difficult job, Is it because of this burden that you want to resign? He said, No one lie, nobody Allah. But for the whole year that I have been a judge, not a single dispute has come before me. No two people have raised an issue before me.
Every single one of them, this Muslim community that we have, every single one of them knows the rights that they have for one another. They know the rights that others have upon them, so they don't fall short in fulfilling their duty. They know the rights that they have upon others. So they don't ask for more than that. They know the rights of one another. If one of them is sick, they will visit him. If he needs financial help, they will support him. If one of them dies, they will shroud him and wash him and they will bury him and pray his janazah they are a community they love one another for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So Abu Bakar I don't want to resign because it's
difficult, I want to resign because there's no need for me. You don't need a judge in Medina, the Muslims of Medina don't need anything Subhan Allah, we're a beautiful society to live in. What a beautiful community to be a part of. And that doesn't mean that the companions and the Muslims at that time now for different they will humans, they must have had different differences. They must have had issues amongst themselves, but because they knew their rights and the rights of others, because they loved one another for the sake of Allah. They could settle them amongst themselves. They didn't need to go to Ramallah as the judge or Abubakar as the halifa on to appoint someone
else. They knew their place. And so they would help one another. And when you look at the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and the verses of the Quran that I have mentioned to you, then you begin to understand and put into perspective, the Heidi's are narrated to you at the beginning of the perfume cellar, and the blacksmith and the other Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and moreover Allah Dini holiday for young Dora had to come in New Holland, each one of you is on the religion of his best friend, choose so choose your best friend wisely. Each one of you is on the religion of your closest friend, choose him wisely. And when you understand also the
Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when he spoke about those seven types of people who are normal piano will be given the shade of Allah on the day that there will be no shade except the shade of Allah. And from those seven is Roger learning to have Baffler each time Allah He was the former Akali to men, to individuals to people who love one another for the sake of Allah, if they meet, they meet because they love one another. And if they depart, they depart upon this love. And why does Allah subhana wa Taala give them this beautiful, beautiful and praiseworthy reward on Yeoman Yama because of their love for one another? Because it's based upon taqwa. And when you look
at the companions, this was what their religion was based upon their friendship, their companionship, their religion was based upon taqwa, their friendship to one another was because of taqwa. So, my dear brothers and sisters, in conclusion, I returned to the question that I asked you at the beginning. How do we choose our friends? What is the criteria that we lay out for our friends? What influence Do we have and our friends and our friends have upon us? This is something which we need to ponder over and reflect. And we need to surround ourselves. We need to surround ourselves with companions and friends that will increase this any man that will encourages us to
encourage us to worship Allah better, to learn more about this religion to come closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And once we do this, and we achieve this, we will find much more blessing in our lives, we will find that it is easy for us to worship Allah, that when we go down, we become depressed and sad. They will raise our spirits and strengthen our Eman. So my dear brothers and sisters in Islam, remember that some of the greatest rewards that Allah subhanho wa Taala will give to a person is because of their love for one another, loving one another for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala May Allah azzawajal grant his companions and friends that are true that are based
pinions and friends that increases in the man that brings us closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And may He resurrected all under the shade under the flag of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and normally the AMA and making interest into genital for those that Allah has Allah Allah. Allah has been a Mohammed he will be here