Manners make or break

salovaara are hamdulillah Alameen wa sallahu wa salam ala should be able to study and Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa early he was a human

from above Omada sisters every kind of knowledge has a fundamental basic requirements without wisdom knowledge cannot be learned.

For example, if you want to make use of the Quran or any hips, you know memorize something, then you need a good memory

they can be tools of memorizing in a systematic manner and so on, but basically a strong member is required if your

mind is like a sieve then nothing will stay in there.

Similarly, if you have if you want to learn, if you want to be a good lawyer, then a good attorney

then a analytical mindset is very important. And the same kind of analytical mindset actually is important and useful for many other things including if you want to be a detective for example, being able to

connect facts and sees in scenarios and create scenarios.

So, an analytical mindset is very important for these things.

And so on and so forth. I mean, you can I let you do the

magic for what other things

but with for Islam, to learn Islam then

the most important thing

is other

is respect.

In a sense of

awe and majesty, for the deen of Allah subhanho

These other bits is

expressed in different ways.

One of the finest ways in which other is expressed is through manners. It's like love is to how you is to her is to how you treat people.

Today Incidentally, I had a

close encounter of the third kind

I'm in Ithaca New Madrid and it's a small budget so usually falls over and massage and it's a it's a it's not in a maze not surrounded by

you know too much of residential habitation so Zola NASA generally are sparse sometimes there's nobody

today so time there was I was alone

and

just then

young man came in

beard

t shirt pants and he had some kind of a cap on his head not a goofy with some kind of a cap on his head. I'm giving you the description of description so that you know this is most likely a practicing Muslim obviously

he had a good he had the most beautiful name Muhammad

I'm using the just to give you an idea that the name alone is not enough.

But obviously you cannot identify him by just by this name because it's too generic.

So as he came in, I said

as he is interested in Samsung, so I said okay, so then I called the other

as soon as I finished here than before I could even say the door of a van

I discovered he's standing on my left which means that makes him the man makes me the most of the automatically and he says Allahu Akbar. He starts

so now you come.

Now

who would start Salah without a camera number one, if you're going to be leading. Number two, how do you just walk into a masjid and decide that you are the man

on your own right I mean nobody appointed you as the map.

A Quite obviously, between him and me. There is physical difference. I have a white beard he has a black beard. I'm obviously much older and more than likely older than his father

and so on and so forth the way I'm dressed yet, he has absolutely no problem of appointing himself Imam and starting Salah.

So I tell what I read behind him

when he finished Salah and as we turned out read he prayed like superspeed you know, I mean I could barely set foot on fattier, I could barely do the way the the does be in Rico and Sue anyway

as he finished, we turned around, he got up. I also got up. And I was about to ask him, on what basis he decided that he was Imam when another person walked in that person is a very good friend of mine, and apparently knew this other guy as well.

So I decided not to, you know, argue with this man or to insult him. So I just kept us kept silent. He left. This other person asked me, I asked him, Do you know this guy? He said, Yes. So I told him what happened? I said, this is what happened. He was shocked.

And then he asked me what do you do chair? So I said, I said Allahu Akbar, and I put it behind the one.

Now my point I'm making is that manners and o'clock and other

these that is such such short supply, that if you do not even know how to behave in a masjid, how to behave with elders,

what hope there is of

getting the knowledge of God in your heart.

When I say this, when I was thinking of this, I was reminded of the famous story which we have heard so many times of one of the seniors I have, who one day had a question he wanted to ask Abdullah Massoud Abdullah, Abbas, rodella, Anwar,

who was, of course much younger than everybody else, but he was a great scholar. He was very highly respected for his for his understanding of the Quran.

Mousavi went to the house of Abdullah when a bus or Delano or the Elana one. And it happened to be

the middle of the afternoon which is normally siesta time. So he went and sat down on the ground in in some partial shade of the house of Abdullayev neighbors just outside his front door.

Now, at the time was around we don't even know how long it was between the time this person went there and

at the time was Abdullah never saw the llama came out of the house and he saw the Sahaba here and he was shocked. He said Swan lava sea masala which Salah Michael, what I do here is I came to ask you a question. He's a swan Allah waiting to knock on the door. You are my senior Roma elder. Why didn't knock on the door? He said no. He said the need the one you need must go to the one

who has the answer. And the one in need must wait for the one who has the answer. To tell him the hours.

It is not his. It is not his

it's not the it's not the prerogative and the the right of the one in need to dictate when and how this answer should be given.

I'm thinking myself many times it's happened to me.

Somebody will send me a message saying, chef, I really need to talk to you about these things very important and so on. So on. When can I talk to you? So I tell them okay, tomorrow morning at 10 o'clock? No, no, no, that's not convenient for me. I cannot talk to you at this time.

And sometimes because you know, the international time differences on the time that's convenient for him is like two o'clock in the morning in my in where I'm living. But and he these are these are tech savvy people. And today to know the time or any place on the earth, you don't even need to be tech savvy, it shows on your phone, it's any of your clock apps have that?

No problem with them?

Can you talk to about two o'clock in the night? Your time? Right? Your sleep gets disturbed? No problem. It's my it's my need. Therefore, you must put yourself out of gear to fulfill my need.

How many times we'll have this many times, many times I have people sending me long emails. I mean, you know, like a practically a book, several pages,

and all kinds of complicated things. And after I write all of that, and I read all that I respond to that. Not even one line to say thank you, not only myself here, this person who has the time and energy to write all this

stuff in the email, but they don't have the time to say this I have a locker and to say thank you very much.

Sister, this is a this is an epidemic. This is a disease. This is a cancer.

And the tragedy is today that the people I'm talking to you about the people I mentioned you they are

in their 20s some are married, some have children. Now obviously if they if somebody in their 20s and somebody who's married meaning they're maybe early 30s has manners of this kind it means that even their parents have no manners because

his parents didn't teach them anything right or the manners was so secret nobody knows.

So, we are looking now at two generations of mannerless Muslims and manners humans and I must say Muslim because I do not see this in other people. To give you an example to close. I had a group of teenage schoolchildren these were these were 1415

all of them white, three Jews or Christians

who came to our Masjid at Zorro time we have an interfaith meeting and so on. So I told them

we have the we have a social hall and we have the masala right next to it. So I told them please go in there in the social hall with the chairs and everything I've been released and sit there and I will finish the Salah and then I will come and then the after the other people have finished praying I'll take you window, show you the this prayer space also. But I said to the teacher, and I spoke to only one person. I said to the teacher, I said only one condition and that is they must be

completely silent. Because we don't want people in we're praying to be destroyed. Believe me.

I almost thought that they didn't come

because there was absolute silence. When I walked into that hall, I'm seeing 70 Students seven zero teenage students sitting in total silence not even talking to each other.

Can you believe it? Or

not one Muslim among them? In the Lillahi wa Nyla here are my brothers sisters Time to wake up Subhan Allah it has been time to make over the last few 500 years right? At least do it now. At least do it now. Get rid of these miserable manners that we have.

Tara terrible, terrible, terrible. me absolutely no other No.

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we have a problem. We say bother Barnsey bear the better sleep settings are better. But but because of this, no other two they get no knowledge. They learn nothing.

The their worship, everything has lost meaning because it doesn't do anything.

What is the good of saying I read so much Quran and then your matters are the matters of an advocate. really seriously. We need to wake up and we need to wake up ourselves first. And then our children you can't just farm off the kids to America or Sunday school or something and expect them to expect them to teach them manners when they don't see those manners with the parents in their homes. Ask us about Allah have mercy on us. Well, I don't think anybody else will. Whatsoever Allah

will carry while he was away. Maybe