Making memories

So, Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala shortfilm Viva mursaleen Armada Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was a cylinder Sleeman Kathira

for my battle

my brothers and sisters

in my Arabic course, we have a story

that we read and we

work out the grammar of age and so on. It's called The Story of salad.

I decided that the younger brother

and

as part of the story, the younger brother says that he lost one year in his school

because he said

he said my friend died.

Now, I read this story about two or three days ago.

And I distinctly remember thinking to myself

your friend died Okay, so your friend died. How do you lose the whole year in school because your friend died.

And so one Allah

two days later

I realized how this can happen.

Alhamdulillah for Islam

Alhamdulillah for the connection with Allah subhanaw taala general

Alhamdulillah for being able to understand

the reality and truth of life

because without that

when your friend dies depending on the depths of your friendships

it's like you die yourself

but Allah subhanaw taala teaches us

and interviews that Allah is salon daughters.

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per month Zuzia and in the field on Jana forgot us someone had to dunya

and that's about that I said every living thing will die.

And you will get the real

the real reward

of your deeds on the day of judgment.

And then Allah says the one who has been freed from the hellfire and entered into Jana forgot first only that person is successful.

To do an AI llama down row, and truly the life of this world is only deception.

So the

last part of that is what is the truth.

So lies are Salam said to us,

that if you encounter

tragedy,

something tragic happens to you. You said remember my death

remember my death? Why is that? Because

Alhamdulillah

no tragedy can affect us can affect a Muslim who understands Islam and who is connected to Allah subhanaw taala in a way that is negative, because the biggest tragedy of all

a tragedy beyond which there can be no other tragedy

was the passing away of Rasulullah Hassan

and that has already happened.

So anything else that happens after that can only be lesser than that

my mother Alana

was the nurse and the caretaker and the great companion, great Sahabi also licensed Santa

who saw him literally from birth to death.

Nobody else

in the family of Rasulullah salah or among his companions among the Sahaba was with the Rasul Allah is through his entire life from his birth to his death, except for my man or the Alana.

After Salah

Someone passed away one day. Abu Bakr and Omar Alon Omar went to visit him Iman.

And when she saw them, she wept.

So they tried to console her and they said to her,

Yo Ma,

or Mother

Do not weep. They said, why are you weeping because also as a salon pastor, he said, they said, We are in the same situation. We are trying to come to terms with the grief.

She said, I'm not weeping because he passed away because I know he was a human being. And Allah subhanaw taala said that every living being will die.

He said, I'm weeping because when he passed away, when he stopped, Allah subhanaw taala no longer spoke to us.

The revelation stopped.

This is perspective that Islam gives us 100 Allah.

So, when my dear and dearest friend and my dear brother,

I've done my whole best away, it was a huge shock

to the major, major shock for me.

It was like a piece of me died, a piece of my heart died.

But Al Hamdulillah

unless Narada said, basically law, he thought my inner CoLo.

So I picked up the Quran and I started reciting it. And Allah subhanaw taala gave me peace.

And hamdulillah the,

the House and the sadness of it the grief of which I will take to my grave.

There is nothing that can replace that. But Alhamdulillah we come to terms with it, we understand it.

We analyze data, by the kalam of Allah subhanaw taala.

And the kalam of others. Valterra helps us to become calm and become collected, and to face grief, with dignity.

I remember I always used to tell people, I still tell people,

that the true legacy of a person.

And I usually say this in

in the parenting classes and raising a Muslim child, my book on it. When I do workshops on that,

I say to people, especially to parents,

I say to them, give your children memories.

Essential memories.

It's not it's not your material wealth, which will last or last material wealth is there. No matter how much you are, no matter what you leave behind for them.

It may be there, it may decrease in May, and it may increase whatever the case might be. But it's material wealth, and may Allah protect us from ourselves. If you did not raise your children properly, that material wealth will become the cause of conflict between brothers and sisters.

And that is truly truly tragic.

Your brother brothers and sisters fight over brick and mortar and mud,

and earth and land and trees and grass. They're no better than animals.

But this is what material wealth can do.

The whole world can see is this, where people forget the relationships of the womb, about which they will be questioned. And they fight or a house fight over some land. They will build a wall through the middle of a house and divided

and this piece is mine and that piece is yours and these two inches here and two inches there in the low end. So material well, this is what material does

give children memories.

And I also say to people and I remind myself that whether you want to give them memories or not, believe me you are giving them memories.

It's not in your control, you are giving them memories. What is in your control is to decide what kind of memories

How do you want to be remembered?

And what do you want to be remembered for? These are

I think the two most important questions that are critical for us to think about and reflect on. Because if we don't think about these questions,

how do I want to be remembered? And what do I want to be remembered for? Then you will be remembered for things that will not be a legacy of honor.

So when

I'm not passed away

I was thinking to myself, what was his legacy? What memories did he give us

in 2019 99/31, of December 1999, return to India from America.

And that's a story in itself, but we won't go there. Just know.

When I reached Hyderabad, almost the first thing I think it happened probably within the first two weeks of me being there.

My uncle Madras Hungary

organized a lecture in LA Palais Royale in government

and the title of the lecture was, am I a Muslim?

Am I a Muslim?

May Allah bless him hamdulillah it went off well.

Out of the lecture

was raised the question in the q&a session people asked me questions related with different kinds of

cultural and pseudo religious practices

and so on, which

were and my suppose are prevalent in Hyderabad.

And I answered them and I realized to myself that what was less necessary was a class or series of classes on occasion.

So, I offered to the people and I said, if you want, I will hold I will give you classes on Aqeedah. A bit heavier. And inshallah this will answer all your questions. You're asking me now questions piecemeal. And I'm giving you answers, please, Minister, that why don't I do a whole course, on the heavier the feet of the hallucinogens. And this is common to all the Muslims. So inshallah

people agreed.

And we started that session, the first session we had was a psychiatrist.

We had a house full of people there.

And there was a weekend.

And then I was requested to do a session also for women in a class that was being held in Bandar hills. So I agreed.

So the second day onwards, I was doing two classes, one in the morning, and one in the afternoon, of I think roughly about two hours each.

Same lesson, twice more in the morning, by the afternoon. And we went through the whole week. I remember the first day when we started the lesson, I thought to myself, who's going to come, I said, this has to be done with Excel. So it has to be done continuously. And it will take whatever time it takes.

And I said I guess it will take about a week. Because we can't do the whole thing in one day. So it will take work.

And there having said that, I thought to myself, who's going to come because this is the working people, the whole working week.

You know, people have to take time out. And this is the during during working hours. We had no choice. I mean, apart from having it to the middle of the night. So what people came, and Hamdulillah we had a house full in both places. The contrast in that. Now once that finished,

there was a request from different people to say, why don't you have classes on different religious subjects. And one of the main reasons was because

I also realized that everybody realizes that especially among the

Muslims who are educated in English medium schools. And I guess that now practically applies to everybody in Hydra.

Odo is almost non existent.

I even joke about this I mean joking. Unfortunately, it's not funny, but I mean I say I joke about it, when people say when they have these gatherings of

of protection for all though and support for odo and so on so forth. And then everyone makes big speeches about how the government of India is not neglecting although and not supporting although and you know, so and so on. Now, I always make it a point of asking a very simple question I asked him I asked the speakers as the organizers. I tell them I said I agree with you, the government of India should support or do and should protect although it's a it's an Indian language. I mean, you know, why why should the Why should the government of India not protect when it say Indian language, but my question is why

Very simple. My question is you are sitting here you are making this big speech about how they should be protected in our due to neglect, it tells me which order newspaper Do you buy?

Do you get? Do you get an auto newspaper at home?

And the answer 99% of the time is no.

Second question is Do your children or can your children read? Or do your children read? Or though? Do you read or do you read or the books? Do you read the the auto newspaper? And the answer once again, is no. So I say to them, it's very good. You want the government of India to protect rudo when you yourself

have no no

love for odo?

It doesn't doesn't even doesn't even make sense. So anyway,

what we this need which was felt was a need for the rules of Islam, lessons of Islam in English.

Unfortunately, as I said, our the younger generations, including Andrassy, younger generation, I'm not talking about the parents of children who are in their 20s. So we are talking about anyone from 60 years downwards.

We found that they don't speak although they do understand although

what they call difficult which is the mashallah beautiful although that our Alma speak, which I absolutely for me, it's a joy to sit in a in order to lecture by one of our Allah MA and just listen to the language, the beautiful flow and the cadence and the, the literally the music of the language. It's such a beautiful language. But sadly, our people, especially the youth, and the youth, when I'm saying us now I'm talking about people in their 40s and then downwards, they don't understand it. So we said, Okay, two ways, one is keep moaning and groaning about how they don't understand or do the thing in English. And that is how these English lessons and DuroStar

for that. And then by hired

biopolis,

he had the, the wedding hall there biopolis.

So we used to have them every weekend, Saturday and Sunday.

And then what you did was that in those days, electricity was kind of, you know, hit and go.

So

he hired a generator to sit there to provide electricity for us in the classes.

This was this was a none

any

requirement of the deed, he would be the first person to say, Lubbock, first person to respond to it.

And then he would respond to it in the best possible way. He didn't bring some trash on somewhere, it didn't bring some waste from somewhere, he didn't bring something lying unused and say let let us you know, he had the best, he bought the best he did the best. So those lectures we used to, we used to do in pakka Palace,

my dear nephew, and may Allah bless him side is to record them audio. We didn't have great recording facilities and so on those days.

And we went through that for a couple of years. And then we established the masjid in in Banaras.

And in the masjid, we said, we are going to have classes every weekend. Because that was the whole purpose of the budget. The hubbub drama would be in English, meaning the ban would be in English, and then the weekend classes. Now, in those weekend classes, every single weekend, every single class who was sitting in the first row of the midsection of the novel, with a notebook and with a pen and taking notes, who was sitting in the first sub first row of the women's section.

That's my hobby, his wife. Same way, taking notes mashallah the children all grew up in that environment

Alhamdulillah I used to think to myself I hear this man who's coming all the way from second Robin.

For this lecture is never late. Both of them Allah bless them, never late. They come with a seriousness and they come with notebooks to take notes. And may Allah bless us Mojave she also used to come with a glass of orange juice which is most appreciated.

Swallow I mean

every

requirement of the

same thing ethic if we used to have and so Allah Allah bless that mercy

and give us so much Baraka

May Allah is gonna tell me that mercy

It means of sadaqa jariya for O'Donoghue than for all those involved in the establishment of it and the protection of it and the and the running of it, trying to please Allah subhanaw taala alone hamdulillah it's a matter of great satisfaction to me that, you know, all of this work was done by all these people completely pro bono.

You know, no one ever took a penny for any of that. I'm deliberately not mentioning the names of all the people involved because there are so many of them. Allah subhanaw taala has always been very, very, very kind to me, and give me supporters, the likes of which I cannot even begin to dislike hamdulillah May Allah bless all of them and may Allah smart Allah Make me worthy of having such people

and my friends and supporters in this work of the so when the muscles were established in the ethic of Allah give us a lot of Baraka in that little place. There were times over years in which we had 8090 people making photographs in the night they would be sleeping like sardines. We just leave for a couple of hours after Father's Day for a while and literally like sardines. We have a very funny incident once with one of the older people he got up and he was groggy want to go to the bathroom and he stepped on somebody's belly

he had a big laugh with it. Now in that Intergraph constantly another

he called he was he had this beautiful name so people used to call him a Crown Prince and used to call MSA Martha Mujahid

so

he would say I'm a crown prince Whoa. caterer

series Why don't in English law two names Kabbalah Law School Butler Wilkie walkin he brought the same so for

two days in a row was asked him to change it and give them variety. How can they eat the soul two days in a row. So I think to myself, I need the same soul 30 days in a row

without exception hamdulillah but this was on that you know give the best give the best

couple of times.

I told him I say look, let us pay for this. We are staying here this masjid and Hamdulillah I mean that Masjid is you know, may Allah bless all those people who come there and bless their wealth and bless their families and bless their lives. There's nobody there who's hurting for money, right Hamdulillah we all have enough, we have enough and more hamdulillah so I said look, it is normal, it is acceptable. It is something which is good indeed it is good for the people also to contribute so that people contribute. They are they're here they're eating they're staying there we're using electricity we're using air conditioning, using water and so on and there is plenty nothing is

rationed. So let us pay and we can pay this is no problem to pay.

I told him that a couple of times then he tells me on the chest

we'll apply camera app about a che or have not yet entered I'm gonna click for him. He's with me. He said you know you are our chef. You do your job to teach us Islam I mean this is a live this is all our administrators Leave it to us don't don't get don't get into this. He never allowed anybody to pay he used to pay for the whole thing. Or the water for the food for the for the works Palace rather than to give him the reward for the ethika for all of us who were stayed in the Gulf and who

who benefited from his generosity. And as far as we equally our standard thing which we look forward to every day it was almost like we cannot break our fast unless we get followed up from the house. And this is not they didn't bite from some shop this was made at home and sent it would come from from their house. And our our dear and most beloved Amir is Who among

vulnerable so beautifully beautifully. Rachel May Allah bless all of them

totally involved in cinema.

We I appointed him they were totally always working for the people always do it quietly. No,

no, no, no. As you call it on the show and no fanfare, nothing quietly doing his job

giving more than anybody ever gave him. May Allah blessing all of the mashallah the chan and Farhan and Lavon and Amana and fatty my mom was beautiful, beautiful children who he raised. So how

Villa today.

This is what I say good memories.

I'm sitting here

editing to these memories.

Also because I want to honor my my brother and friend,

but also to show that this is an example follows. Give people memories. And I'm sure there are people. People have been sending me messages, our friends from new

and every one of those messages is full of such beautiful memories. He did this for us. He did that for us. He did that for us.

Horrendous by two final things. One is how do I remember I've done my work online. I'm sitting here today in this Barrington in Bennington College,

doing an intensive course as I said, in Arabic language. And I'm sitting on this

beautiful tree

at the mountains of Vermont.

And what do I see? I see you standing in front of me a

huge smile on his face. And none no signature didn't come from his pen. It came from his face. Maybe big huge smile from year to year. And a shocker hair on his forehead. So Allah Allah keep that smile always. May Allah keep that smile in his grave as he answers the questions. And I like

to keep that smile on his face when he's resurrected.

And give him the shade of the ash. On the Day when there is no shade, except a shade, a llama

that are shook. No Maya lower Yama, Allah didn't look lovely look.

And we also have to keep that smile on his face when he meets Salam on the hold and gets the water of

the blessed hand.

Man knows about it that I keep that smile on his face when he started before Allah.

Allah says to him, I have forgiven you.

Go to

Allah keep that smile on his face.

As you're sitting in Jannah

and Allah Subhana Allah gathers all together.

Those who have passed and those who will pass

at the feet of Muhammad Rasul Allah Sana Sana

and listen to him reciting the Quran, Allah Kareem in his beautiful voice, and well Swatara keep that smile on his face.

When he

announces and says,

Shall I give you something which is better?

And inshallah we will say,

You have given us all of this, what can be better?

And he will say what is better is that I now announce that I'm pleased with you, and will never be displeased.

My final memory of Anon, is his column

is

the foundation of his speech.

Something that repeated I don't even know how many times in a day and that was husband Allah when they were looking

for everything. Husband, Allah when they were lucky. I was going somewhere I'd say, you know, I'm going to this this other place. Husband, Allah on our lucky safe travels have come back safe. Husband Allah whenever lucky. Allah He, Allah does not let down somebody who trusts him.

And this dark hole of whatnot,

is my memory.

And something that is a sauce for me that is a support for me that is something that I hold on to husband Allah whenever I'm looking.

Now look, there is no one who is a better helper and a better advocate and a better

supporter of us than yourself.

And you are sufficient for us husband Allah Well, okay. You are suffering for yours.

Please make dua for my brother and my friend.

Salalah and

he was named after me