Mirza Yawar Baig – Living Islam – Raising a Muslim Child #06
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The importance of gratitude and forgiveness in Islam is emphasized, along with the need to teach children to use the phrase "istic your thanks," and to not repeat past behavior. The speakers emphasize the importance of belief in Islam and its use for children to gain insight into their mental health and influence others. A recent incident involving a woman in engineering college was also highlighted.AI: Transcript ©
Alameen wa salatu salam ala Sayyidina
Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sahbihi wa sallam to see when my brother, my brothers and sisters, the issue of being grateful for gratitude.
This is a very major issue in the raising of children, teaching children the value of gratitude, of being grateful, of expressing gratitude.
This is a the reason of course, for Islamically speaking, this is something that Allah subhanaw taala ordered us to do. Where instead of Rahim, Allah smart Allah said wasted hon they in shakar Tula zanaco, while Inca photoinhibition, Allah subhanaw taala said that when you remember, when you are proclaimed, the one who is grateful to me, I will enhance and increase my blessing, and the one who was ungrateful, let him be aware that my punishment is severe.
So, we are instructed to
be thankful and to show and express that gratitude. Now, sometimes people say,
but why what is the point of saying, Thank you, thank you all the time. Now, when we those of us who visit the west or live in the West, we know that there are two things that are here, which are very, very common, and unfortunately, they are not common in our in our cultures and our societies. One is to say, thank you. And the other one is to say sorry, you will see people for the minutus things, people will say this and third one another one is please, please, can I do this, please can I do that?
I think these are three very, very important values to inculcate in children, because please implies that the child does not have an entitlement mentality. The dad doesn't think that just because something is there, you can pick it up or you can just go somewhere and do something. He is when you are saying please, you are acknowledging that other people have rights that other people have, that the other people deserve respect, and that you are respecting their rights. And by then you're doing that by saying please, please can you please please can do that.
Sorry, again, very important, because we all make mistakes. And forgiveness is the essence of all good relationships, you cannot have a relationship, any relationship in the world, you cannot have one unless you are willing to forgive. We all make mistakes and therefore to seek forgiveness and to give and to forgive, to absolutely critical elements. This is so critical that Allah subhanaw taala mentioned that or sort of told us that Mr. Sam said if you do not speak to a Muslim brother, more than he said haram for him for Muslim not to speak to another Muslim to be offended with him for more than three days.
And he said if the one
in that period, the one who makes the attempt to reconcile by even if it just by saying salah, this person is superior to the other person. And he said if you if you continue this enmity over a period of beyond a period of three days and if you die, he will say he said you will go to Jana. I mean, it's as serious as that. So forgiveness, seeking it and giving it and this is what we also ask Allah Subhana Allah for we ask Allah to forgive us, not because we deserve it. But because we save a lot. You are the most forgiving Lama in the car for one to 400 Allah, you are the most forgiving. You are the one who forgives, you are the most forgiving, you'll have to forgive so forgive me. Now this is
a dua that was taught to Oman, I shot the other ships in the car of Delana.
When she asked him, she said yeah, so like, if I get
a letter to cuddle, what do I should I make and he taught her this to allow my nigga for one to Hezbollah for for it.
So that's the second one which is sorry. And third one
is to thank that. So please, sorry, and thank you.
We mentioned I mentioned the issue of tanking with the little Quran. And the other thing is sometimes people say, Oh, but you know, why should I thank what what is the need? I mean, he knows or she knows that I am grateful. Why should I say it all the time?
The issue is the obvious question is that doesn't doesn't Allah know that you're thankful? May Allah Allah knows what's in your heart.
So if you think that some individuals of human being whoever it might be knows that you are thankful, right? Maybe
it's somebody who's serving or something 70 years old, it was coke of yours, better Butler, whoever, employee of yours, your wife, your husband, your wife, your children, your parents, whoever it is, you are not thanking them.
And if you're not saying to the external, expressing your thanks for them, assuming that they know, the question, Allah knows, right? They may or may not know. But Allah definitely knows. Then why is Allah saying why is the last minute or not, not only is Allah instructing and auditing us to be thankful. But to express that thanks Allah say if we don't do that I will punish you. Lessen My punishment is severe, it's I will punish you by saying My punishment is severe.
The point here is to understand is that thankfulness to express Thankfulness is about you, it's not about the other.
Whether the other person knows or does not know, is not the question. The question is, do you express that thanks or not?
That very important, it's very important to teach children this, that to thank to say, please and to say sorry,
the other important thing to understand is, and always remind yourself is that you can never repay a kindness. Many people think, Oh, well, I'm, I'm repaying somebody, you know, you can never repay because the person who did the kindness to you the first one,
the person who did the kindness to the first time did that of their own accord, of their own volition, you did not do anything to deserve that kindness,
they were going to do a nice job, they helped you They did whatever they did for you. Now, whatever you may do, you are doing because of what you received.
The two are never equal.
What someone does, by themselves, voluntarily,
the first time cannot be ever equal to the repayment of that,
right? cannot ever be equal to the repayment amount. So by all means, do try to repay, do say, you know, do do express your thanks. But don't ever imagine that somebody did you a kindness, and you went and give them a cake or something and I'm done. No, you will never be done for the rest of your life. As far as your as far as that kindness is concerned. No matter how many times you repay, that it's never repeat.
And that's why it is something if you if somebody does kindness to you, then remember that you should always be grateful to them, and make dua for them and ask Allah subhanaw taala to help them and keep them in your thoughts and always be good to them and nice to them.
It never ends, it can never end. And that's a very important and humbling thing to remember that somebody is kindness the first time has no equal and can never be repaid, your whatever you do is a reaction. What they did was not a reaction.
Now, each of these things that I mentioned you the behaviors can be linked to one or more of the evils of our society.
Because our society is stratified according to economic circumstances, not according to knowledge or moral values or being honorable.
A society where people don't care for other people where the self is worshipped. And indulgence is a supreme goal, where freedom is defined as the ability to indulge your whims with impunity, even when some of that intelligence may be breaking the law.
Whether it's the law of Allah subhanaw taala, the law of the country, you can see the character of a nation reflected in the things they compete for,
as what you see Muslims competing for today, that is a very important thing to think about. The character of a nation is decided or is demonstrated
in the things that people compete for.
Because people compete for things which they consider to be important. And whatever people consider to be important is a reflection of their character.
That is a reflection in their culture of their character.
So ask,
what Muslims today are competing for the knowledge is it compassion is charity is it piety? Is it contribution?
Or is it playing crass consumption, ostentation bling, arrogance, satisfying animal lusts
and accumulating expensive garbage? Which one?
Very, very important that we understand this.
Even people who are not Muslim, somebody took a picture of
what was in Gandhi's room, when? Any day
he had a pair of sandals. He had his round spectacles.
He had a watch and eating bowl and a plate on a caddy God
The World bore witness to the fact that he went to meet King George in his 30.
Replying to a journalist, whether he didn't feel underdressed to meet the king in a dirty Valley response was the king Where's enough for both of us.
And this was a perfect
response. By keeping his wits, as well as his wit, about him, yada you showed the world
what is to be taken seriously, and what is to be brushed off
with a quick line, and supreme demonstration of self confidence.
Not only the world accept this, but Gandhi is the first non royal to appear on a British postage stamp.
He made it there before Churchill who refused to meet him saying, I refuse to meet that naked focus until he learns to dress properly.
The Naked fucker smiled when he heard the comment. Because he was looking at a future when he was about to kick Churchill and Chilean ways out of his country.
Muslim children must learn
that Islam is not just a set of rituals of worship, but a complete way of life. Where duties to people are mentioned.
Along with duties, Allah subhanaw taala.
See the
talking about the value of material possessions, but it was also sort of have in house when he passed away.
I'm not I'm not comparing yourself to Gandhi. I'm seeing themselves as the best example of all for all mankind for all time.
What did you have?
How many times have you heard the
the
the narrative about his last moments on Earth?
I just did the Accra dilemma with Elon, I said we didn't have lamp oil for a lamp.
They had no food in the house.
She said that he asked her he was in the state of secret state of Avina that
last moments, he was losing consciousness and he was regaining consciousness.
He asked for a bottle of water and the water was brought in. He put his hand in it and he wiped his face with it.
And he asked I just kind of Ilana, do you have any money? He knows.
He brought some drums.
He said give it away. Give it away in charity.
She said yes, I will. I will do it.
And remember she is sitting there he is lying with his blessed head in her lap.
She is about to lose her husband, not just any husband, this is the Rasul of Allah SallAllahu sallam.
So he asked to, so but then he lost consciousness when he got back consciousness again. He said I should have you given that intensity.
She said, Yes, I will. I will give it
happen a second time.
About a third time.
And he said Bring it here.
She brought it up, give it to me. He gave it to her. She gave it to him.
He took that money in his hand and he said Aisha,
do you want your husband?
Do you want the Rasul of Allah, the Messenger of Allah to meet Allah in this state? What is the state? A few coins
in his hand,
what is wrong with it?
He didn't give it to me.
The home of the one the best of all creation,
not just the best of humans, the best of anything ever created is the soul of Allah Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam
in terms of possessions,
what is the
nothing
in terms of contribution
1400 years later,
somebody like me, is sitting here
thanks to his message.
And talking to you and trying to convey the values that he exemplified
not my values, values that he exemplified, which I tried to follow and ask you tried.
That is a contribution
1500 1400 years later,
all over the world.
People really who did not know him in person who never seen him
whenever he sat in his bliss company, who never heard his bliss voice,
or to love him more than they love anyone and anything else on the face of the earth,
how does it happen?
It happens with a focus on contribution, not by consumption.
The number of winners, I remember Islam is not against money.
The issue is to change that
point in the heart.
As I speak to you today,
the
net worth of Elon Musk is $269 billion.
The network of Jeff Bezos has $187 billion.
The network of Bill Gates is $132 billion.
You add up those two, you add up these three, you get $588 billion
the net worth of abdur-rahim of the Alon
when he passed away,
just the
gold part of it
was in today's money $791 billion,
which is over $150 billion more
than the net worth of Elon Musk, Bill Gates and Jeff Bezos put together.
And that's not all. Because that 790 1 billion does not include
his properties is
they used to have Wildstar while it is to have livestock, so he doesn't include the literally hundreds of 1000s of sheep and camels and horses and what not yet.
All that is extra. And even more importantly, the network of people like Elon Musk and Bill Gates and Jeff Bezos and Warren Buffett and whoever that network is effectively the share value of their stock in their companies.
And in the case of
Warren Buffett and others, others as well, it would be struck by the off their shareholding.
The fact remains that if Elon Musk sells one share of Tesla, the stock value will drop.
So Elon Musk's network
will plummet and hit the road and hit rock bottom if he stopped selling his shares,
whereas in the case of dynamite enough of Elon 790 1 billion was the value of his gold which he had, which is liquid cash. He when He died there was in terms of the
he left 3.2 billion gold dinars which together amounted to 13,000 tons of gold.
Which in today's numbers, monster 790 1 billion.
There is a huge difference between notional value and real value
of liquid
cash aboard
you huge difference between stock value
shareholding and goat.
Now, I will tell you all this to show to you that Islam is not against money.
Islam is not against wealth. Islam is not socialism. Islam is not communism.
Islam is Islam.
The same observer now for the alarm.
One time
the caravan came, which belonged to him, came to Madeira. It had 700 cameras
loaded with goods
to obviously there was a big commotion and so on, you know, cameras coming and so on.
Say the IHS Delana heard this commotion she came out to her house and she said what's happening? They said Yeah, Omona is it on mother?
Abdurrahman, even house Carolyn has come and somebody said Ron has become money.
He has become
very meaning is is very wealthy and so on. I just didn't have the law and I said saw the console ma
she said was also selling spoke the truth.
And you she went she went back into house. Someone went and told of the Rama and now for the Elan Elan. They said that I just kind of Ilana came out or whatever
She saw your caravan and she said Rasul Allah spoke the truth.
So the merchant they were they were they were, they had gathered around him. They were saying, you know, how much will you sell this for? And once all this was over, when he heard this, so he said to them, he says, Wait,
let me find out what it is. So he went to her house.
And he said to her young when I saw my mother
what it was also something she said was awesome, said Abdul Rahman will enter Jannah crawling,
because of giving his job of giving account for his wealth,
I was invited over the land said,
I want to enter Jannah, walking, not rolling.
And he said, You are my witness. That whole caravan I'm giving it away in charity.
He came out of there, he came to the market. And so people said to him, you know, so I want to buy this. You want to buy this? How much? He said I've sold it already sold to
what rate?
He said I've sold it at a rate of one to 10 What is your tell me 1,000% 10 times the value? Yes sir, who is there to give you 10 times the value. We know we are the We Are The traders. Here we are, this is the market who will give you 10 times the value for this I gotta buy.
Don't worry about that.
He said I have a buyer, and my buyer is giving me 10 times the value wants to 10
that is what I'm talking about contribution.
The economic system of Islam is not capitalism
is not a combination of communism and capitalism.
It's a system which is based on piety on kindness and compassion, on truthfulness and justice.
And on giving more rather than less. It's an economic system that is based on the rights of the poor before anybody else.
That's why interest is haram in Islam.
This is what we have to understand and teach.
It's not the love for the dunya and the heart
value for Allah subhanho Turner's promises value for what Allah will give us.
And that's not only about talking,
it's about respecting and understanding that
the real value is this
our ancestors
dilemmas learn as I said before, that
Islam is to be practiced in our whole lives.
They must be taught how worship adds value in this life.
How it gives them a competitive advantage to win in this life. Because this day starts with
a seeker of Allah Subhana Allah
ideally teach them to wake up in the agitator agile then read one Joseph Cora once upon
then go to the budget was a lot of
praise a lot of budget with Java.
And then the day starts
and then the day should end with brings a lot of Isha by Gemma
in the masjid
and after that before the word wet
then the asker of the night reading sort of says that reading sort of book
and if I like is Davi reading certain vocab It was Mr. Salim said the one who reads, so the rocker, Allah subhanaw taala will not allow him to allow forward to touching
and of course as we know brings a lot of Russia and brings a lot of pleasure by jemar Allah subhanaw taala gives a reward for worshiping God makes
you praise other friends Saturday Shabbat genre in the masjid, you get the reward for worshipping have the right and you complete that by brains another feature also in the masjid you get the reward for praying the format's.
Imagine how beautiful such days would be.
Link the children to asking Allah
not asking anybody else.
Ask Allah.
I still remember incident that happened with me.
More than 25 years ago, there was a friend of ours who was
we were traveling with him in New York. And he was taking us from point A to point B and in his car was his little son
son was about maybe five, six years old.
So we were chatting. And then the son said,
Daddy did Allah Tala put in your heart.
So I thought that was a strange question from this little boy. So as my friend, I said, What is Allah supposed to put in your heart?
So my friend said that when I told him that I'm taking you from this place to this place, on the way is his friend's house.
So he asked me whether he can come along, and whether I would drop him to his friend's place. So I told him, You can come but make dua, Allah subhanaw taala, to put it in my heart,
if he puts it in my heart,
otherwise you just come with me and you come back.
So he's asking me now whether Allah put this in my heart.
And then he sent me a very interesting thing he said to me, that we have brought him brought him up.
Is that is my wife and his wife and him. He said, We brought him up to ask Allah for anything he wants.
So if you want a chocolate, his mother will say to him, ask Allah.
If Allah puts in my heart, I will give you
whatever it is, he wants, he wants toys, you anything he likes, ask ALLAH.
So he said, his liver has has little masala he actually is at home, he says, he goes and put his masala and he stands and he, you know in Zulu, stands on him, he prays for a cup of Salah and he asked Allah
that is the correct what you want indoctrination conditioning, you know brainwashing is beautiful, it is very, very good.
You need the brain to be washed in such a way that there is no Asmath and no greatness of anyone other than Allah and you're in the mind and in the heart.
And that is also it starts
raising of children start from the minute the child is born.
Because remember, believe me, whatever you say and do
these children, they pick it up, you will be surprised at what is the
you will be surprised at what is the bigger.
The literally literally saw the year that a year or two years old. You think they don't they don't understand it, they understand a lot.
And they pick up what they need to pick up.
And when they're very young, they don't even have the ability to clarify to just those impressions as fun. So be very careful what kind of impression that you are giving them
the whole issue of connecting with others
and how this gives them an insight inside as advantage
enabling them to infuse Baraka
into all that they say and do.
So that they get the maximum result with a minimum effort. That is the essence of leverage,
minimum effort, maximum impact.
And it is
our inability to interpret Islam and show how it makes sense today that gets our children disconnected from one another.
They are disconnected because we are disconnected.
Afterward you can only give what you have.
So ask what do I have
and then make the effort to upgrade yourself.
A candle does not light a room by doing anything to the room.
It lights up the room by igniting itself.
So learn to take from Allah subhanaw taala and give to your children
think about this if you can't even give to your own children what can we give to the world.
The way to do this the way to take from the treasure of Allah and give to the world is to follow the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu
rather than miss my brothers and sisters make no mistake. If you do not follow the Sunnah for Surah Salah you will get nothing.
Try it for yourself
and regret it when you die.
Or follow the Sunnah and be very happy when you die. It's your core.
All of these things they make
the Muslim child a walking talking example of the way of Islam
and will differentiate him from the rest of the word and we'll make him a benchmark and a role model for others.
As I speak to you there's an incident that happened in in Karnataka. I think it's in the town on Monday.
On the way between Bangalore and Mysore, the world knows this incident. That incident is that is one girl, one small girl
in engineering college wearing a burqa, and Anika
who comes in on her scooter, pox a scooter. And as she's going into the college to study, she's being heckled by maybe 3040.
anti social elements,
was screaming at her
because she's Muslim.
She continues to walk and she raises her hand and she says Oliver, luck, luck.
I imagine what kind of parents would have raised that girl
who in a man in a in a in a situation which can have danger,
a situation which would have frightened the delegates I mean, looking at that situation frightened people.
But didn't bother her. Because she is connected with Allah subhanaw taala and she's Allahu Akbar.
Allahu Akbar, Allah Allah. Allah, Allah is the greatest lesson of the day, the whole, our whole, elaborate.
And all of these rest
are dogs barking.
All of these rests, they have no power.
They can do nothing to me.
And while I they can do anything, and they did nothing
they could do nothing to
imagine if I think about this, I'm thinking of myself as
How fortunate is that girl to have parents like that? How fortunate are those parents that all they're raising and the training and the devices? They saw them bearing fruit in front of their eyes.
And what better fruit
than to see your child stand up alone against the whole world? And sick Lachlan.
That's gonna matter to give your children like this and ask them this data to make you parents who raised you know like
Robin has run for Santa Waylon Hamlin and Kathy Robin at the end of your dinner has an automobile
or southern island, rally us.
Salam aleikum wa
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