Channel: Mirza Yawar Baig
hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala
ala alihi wa sahbihi is my
mighty Brahma sisters, I want to talk to you about today a very important topic and that is the issue of friends,
why are friends important? And how to choose them what to do about it.
There are two kinds of people in the world
there are the sheep
and there are the shepherds.
So, the first thing that you need to do is to make a choice are you among the sheep? Or are you among the shepherds,
if you are on the sheep Can I suggest to go to sleep because I do not know the language of sheep. So whatever I say you won't understand anyway so you can sleep then at the time of the of the buffalo BBQ, but if you are among the shepherds or you want to be a shepherd, then please listen carefully.
I want to say to you the following.
And that is being a leader
means to take hard decisions.
Being a leader means to take hard decisions, and to like being alone.
Being a leader means to take hard decisions.
And to like being alone.
The Tiger walks alone.
Sheep have plenty of company.
The biggest reason and pool
for friendship is the need for company
which in psychology we have various names in psychology we call it affiliation need, we call it the need for approval, we call it the formation need for confirmation and so on.
I agree that this is a natural need, it's a natural thing in the human being
goes back to the time when we used to live in tribal societies, when without the tribe, the man was nothing.
If he lost the tribe, he was dead.
So one of the worst punishments that could be given to a person was to banish him from the tribe, effectively that means you are killing the person.
But this need still remains even though we no longer live in tribal societies.
There's a very interesting thing about this need and that is that it's a need which like all needs, seeks to manipulate you and to make you confirm to the acceptable norms of the group that you wish to belong to.
So, if you want to belong to a particular group,
and you have a need to belong to that group, then effectively you are manipulated to conform to the nones of that group. Effectively the group is saying to you, if you want to be with us, be like us.
If you want to be one of us, be like us
can't be different and be like be in this group know if you want to belong to this group, you have to be like us.
What does that mean? It means do what we do what we do like what we like dislike, what we dislike approve of what we approve or disapprove of what we disapprove of and so on work on our paths to our destination.
I want you to think about this very clear very carefully, what is the what is any group saying to you, if you say I want to belong to this group, what are the say, walk with us on the path to our destination.
But even in the tribal times,
if you think back and the best example is the example of Muhammad Rasul Allah is Allah and His
people who wish to lead
decided to take the hard decision, what is our decision to be different? to stand out to differentiate,
they refuse to go with the flow. Because only a dead fish goes with the flow.
live fish swim against the currents.
To be able to swim against the current to be able to go against the flow is actually a sign of life.
If you are dead, you go with the currents. So decide for yourself
whether you want to be alive,
or you want to be dead.
So I'm saying to you that to give this some thought and the thought is anyone who is driven by a need any need. Anyone who's driven by a need is someone who is at the mercy of the one who can fulfill that needs.
If you have a need, you are at the mercy of the one who has the power to fulfill that needs.
If you are hungry you are at the mercy of the one who can give you food if you are thirsty you are at the mercy of the one who has water to give you if you are poor, you are at the mercy of the one who offers you money.
If you want name and failure you are at the mercy of the man who has the TV station or weather or weather newspaper who is willing to put put your video up on the TV or willing to publish your article in the paper and so on.
I want you to think about this issue of dependency or need in the context of
what is it that Lai ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasul Allah does for us.
It cuts off our dependence on everyone and connects it with Allah.
It takes away the need, who is the one who fulfills the Sangha Allah, Who is the one who fulfills the need for life Allah Who is the one who fulfills the need for safety Allah, Who is the one who fulfills the need for power and wealth and Acoma.
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who gives? Who gives? The month who gives authority who gives the room a new president who makes you Prime Minister?
What is the world tell you people want us
come in Russia
we have the need for to be respected fine.
kadhi. Allah lot.
though it makes you free. So it takes away the dependence from everyone and corrects it Allah.
So I want to save you. Because we are talking about friends and friendships.
That when you seek the company of people, it does not come free.
It comes with a cost. It comes with boundary conditions. It comes with its own entry rules. It comes with its own conditions of inclusion.
Some of these are formally stated.
You can actually go there's a book called bylaws and the bylaws tells you what you have to do. And others are not formally stated information like for example, you have friends,
but those rules even though they are informal, they are equally strong and equally compelling.
And what is the basic rule that if you want to be with us, you have to be like us
So what's the implication?
What is the implication of this?
If you want to understand the implication, you must consider each set of entry rules and see what they are what they mean. For example, there are some entry rules to belong to certain groups. There are some entry rules which demand that we deliberately do things which are against the laws of Islam.
They demand that we pay large sums of money to support institutions that exist in order to propagate
institutions that are built and exist for the sake of horse racing and gambling institutions that are built and exist for the sake of the of the of the sale or alcohol.
at one point in time used to be bought saying women and dogs not allowed
to see those
institutions that are set and where you have to spend large amounts of money to join them, which are for the sake of dancing and music.
Institutions whose purpose is to propagate
and what is the boundary condition boundary condition if you want to belong then you have to spend large amounts of money in order to become one of us.
I'm not talking Swati here. You're not even talking lakhs you're talking crores
try and get a membership of the club and you know what I'm talking about. Try and get a get into the box. box has a different meaning at the end of your life.
And that's why I always maintained truly it is difficult to get into Ghana.
Java is easy.
All it takes is one Tavares everything is gone, everything is gone into the Java on a rocket. But Jana takes a lot of time, energy, money, effort,
you have to really
if somebody goes into janome, he will have his own accounts, you may give it to him boss, you paid for it
so many hours over so many years, so much money time you paid for it So, surely you deserve you paid for it
So, on the day of judgment, what will happen? Allah subhanaw taala said, all those sheep,
who follow the herd,
where to where to herds of sheep normally go to? Where are the nominee
So, those who follow the sheep, the herd of sheep to the slaughter houses on the Day of Judgment, what will happen to them, suddenly the self induced blindness will go
in this world self induced blindness me ask a very simple question, which of the Muslim members of the Hyderabad race club does not know that racing is and gambling is
which of which of them does not know that racing and gambling is hard?
So, it's not a question of not knowing.
It's a question of deliberately doing deliberately spending money, knowing it
is not rocket science.
To know that something is happening.
what will happen? That's why I call it self induced blindness. You shut your eyes.
You shut your eyes, then nobody can know Shakespeare said.
What did he say? He said, none so blind as those who will not see.
There's someone who cannot see but he's the one who will not see deliberately self induced blindness I will shut my eyes and put up put a ban on my eyes. Now what can you do?
Even though I have eyes no good to me, I can't see because I decided to shut
none so blind as those who will not see.
But what will happen on the day of judgment? As a matter of fact, when molecule Mark comes and says Salam Alikum self induced blindness will go away,
the curtain will be removed.
Allah subhanaw taala described that scene when this blindness will go and when the eyes will open. Allah said
mama Zhu Li serie
de la de la, la La,
La La La La La, la crema, di.
Honey, what can I say?
Allah said, on that day when the eyes are open, they will say and remember the day when the xylem will bite his hands, literally in the grid. The description of the Quran of human body language, you know when something you know,
said they will bite their hand all the way up to the elbow.
Regret regret. Yeah.
I wish I had not done this.
His birthday. What
what is he regretful about he says, remember the day when does animal bite his hands and he says, Oh, I wish I had taken the path with the messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Whoa, he's just cursed himself. He says Whoa, wood that I had never taken so and so funan and Haleakala, I wish I had not taken such and such as a friend of mine.
They will name the people which I wish I wasn't. I didn't have this man as a friend. I wish I did not have this one as a friend see what they did. Truly, they indeed led me astray from the for an asterick had come to me and shaitan is ever the desert to man in the hour of need.
take the name of the friend. I wish I had not listened to that person. I wish I had not listened to that person.
Our choice of brother or sister our choice.
Such people who lead others astray. They consider themselves very cool.
They're very cool. And is a funny language English. In English, it's cool to be cold and it's hard to be cooler well, man, that thing is hot, I mean what is good.
So, all these cool and hot people and so forth.
They consider the others to be squares and drags in the column, traditional Muslim,
and naturally, for the people whose reason to meet and part is self indulgence for people whose reason to meet and what is the personal pleasure, for their reason to meet and part is
not for the pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala
those people for whom the displeasure or the anger of Allah
is supremely for those people for whom the pleasure of Allah supreme for those people whose need to please Allah subhanho wa Taala outweighs every other need for them naturally.
These people the cool people will consider them to be drugs.
so they call them strangers that's what a train man
What a strange guy you know, he dresses like this he talks like this, you will he says Allah Allah Allah all the time. What is so boring all them Allah
strangers, you know strangely
the same language. He called him strangers.
You know what?
Baba al Islam or even
worse a yo or even Kama Baba.
And he said for Toba Buddha. He said Islam started as something strange.
He said Islam started as something strange. And he said it will go back to being something strange.
And he said, Give the glad tidings of the agenda to those who they will call strangers. He said give the glad tidings of tobacco buys a tree in general, is a guild the glad tidings of gentlemen to the strangers.
Western my brothers and sisters, do we want to be strangers? Or do we want to be the sheep?
On the day of judgment, what will happen to those who consider themselves to be very fool today and will lead others astray?
On the day of judgment, they will find themselves that those who refuse to listen to them and who refuse to be led by them
And that they will have a light running before them and by their right hand.
In that darkness of the of the of the horror of the Day of Judgment, these people will emanate light themselves. And they will have a light running in front of them and by their right hand, when the world is in darkness.
And these people who are trying to lead them astray dystonia will call out to them and remind them and they will say why are we not with you?
Give us some of your lights
that will not help them on that.
Because that time
for that light is over.
So they will be told Yes, you are with us. But you lead yourselves into temptation. And you look forward to our destruction.
What are the people do today when you when they want to lead you astray and it will stand out and you speak against that action? You're not against anybody. You're not against the person you're against the action you're saying this action is haram. You're not saying?
You're saying the action is hard. But how do they interpret it? They say he is against me.
So what is Allah saying what will happen to them on the day of judgment?
Allah subhanaw taala said, yo Ma, meanie Amina. Yes.
Allah describes and he says on the day, you will see the believing men and believing women, they are light running forward before
that glad tidings for you this day Gardens under which rivers flow to dwell therein forever. Surely this is the greatest of success. On the day when the hypocrites men and women will say to the believers wait for us, let us get something from your life, it will be set to them go back to your ear and seek alight. So a wall will be put up between them and a gate during and behind inside it will be LACMA and outside it will be. The hypocrites will call to the believers and they will say well, we're not with you. The believers will say yes, but you lead yourselves into temptation and you look forward for our destruction, you doubted in faith that you were deceived by by false
desires till the command of Allah subhanaw taala came to pass and achieved You see, deceived you in respect for Allah.
Now let us look at another kind of friend My brothers and sisters.
You know what these kinds of friends are, you know, Allah said about those friends Allah Subhana Allah says,
Allah, on the day of judgment, friends will become enemies, except that
he said friends will become enemies except the most of the people who fear Allah subhanaw taala. And you know why? Because one of the qualities of the good friend to the note upon is that they will not leave your neighbor on the table.
And you know why? Because Allah will protect them from the horrors of the day of
masala Salah Salim said Hadees narrated by imparare and Muslim bambora. Delano Hassan said there are seven, whom Allah subhanho wa Taala will shade in shade on the day when there is no shade except to shade.
The dog da da ma de la dee da da, yo ma la ville.
We are the same for all of us.
On the day when there will be no shade except
and who will be under the dash, there will be seven kinds of people number one, adjust ruler,
a ruler ruler with justice. And remember, the Hadees this does not only refer to the kings in the presidency, it refers to anyone who is in authority over anyone else, even if it is one person.
Adjust ruler, a youth who grew up in the worship of Allah
the umbrella of seeing many such in this world today number
three, a person a man whose heart is attached to the master.
Anytime you want to see the person where can you find it in the muscle?
for two people, two men or women who love each other for the sake of Allah, to men who love each other for the sake of Allah meeting for that and partying upon them.
And I'm saying men and women, I mean men meeting them and we were meeting women. We're not saying here you go and meet somewhere and say a meeting was a call. I know
that for the sake of time
Number five, a man was called by a woman of beauty an audition for Xena but he says I fear Allah
whose example I give for this in the Quran.
Number six, a man who gives charity a man or woman gives charity and hides it so that the left hand does not know what the right hand is
underlie it is permissible also to give charity and give it publicly in order to encourage other people. So it's not fun to do that. But
all of this is to give charity in a way which is hidden only Allah knows. And the last one a person a man or a woman who remembers Allah subhanaw taala in private, and his eyes shed tears with the fear of
crying for the love of Allah and the glory and majesty of online.
There are two eyes on which Allah has made the fire of
the two kinds of eyes on which Allah subhanaw taala has made the fire of Ghana Haram. One is the eye that weep for the glory of majesty of Allah subhanho wa Taala nobodies see. And it says the other one is the eye that remains awake to guard the Muslims.
The people who are guarding the Muslims, the other person who remains awake for the for the safety of the Muslims, Allah, Allah
and Allah will guard them and give them the shade of the ash.
Allah mentioned the criteria of a good friend and he said there are four qualities of a good friend. Number one, when you see him or her, he reminds you of Allah. Number two, when you sit with them, your Eman increases. Number three, when they speak, your knowledge increases. And number four, when you see their actions you remember
four qualities of a good friend
May Allah help us to choose friends who fit the standards, and also to become friends like that. For those who wish to choose us. The purpose of all of these numbers is not to give you tools to point fingers at people.
The idea is look at ourselves and say here are the four qualities of a good friend or am I a good friend to my friends? Or am I one of them, who's leading them to the jahannam along with myself
and that is the the importance of being a good friend. Allah subhanaw taala said about his friends.
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Hola Hola. como como la la hora de una highkey. Allah subhanaw taala describes the qualities of his good friends, what are the qualities? Allah says the meaning and the movement of the believers, men and women are? They are the close friends and protectors of one another? What do they do? move on and welcome, enjoin, good and forbid evil. And what do they do? They establish Salah Yukimura salah
and they give Sokka and they obey Allah Spanos, Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now what will happen to them? Allah says Allah will have his mercy on them.
My dear brothers and sisters, this is the promise of Allah subhanho wa Taala and Allah does not lie.
Allah will have mercy on people who do these things. Surely Allah subhanaw taala is almighty and all wise.
why must we freak friends for a very good reason. When you are in the company of the fast when you are in the company of the rebellious people when you are in the company of disbelievers. When you are in the company of people who go who disobey Allah, disobedience of Allah becomes easy.
disobedience of Allah becomes easy. Because whatever they do is disobedience of Allah if they are happy, they are happy in a way which which which breaks the rules of Islam.
If they are sad, they're sad in a way we break the model of Islam.
If they relax, they relax in a way which is against the laws of Islam. If they are working they will choose ways and means of work which are against the laws of Islam. with them. disobedience of Allah becomes the norm disobedience of Allah becomes easy. When you are in their company, obedience to Allah will become very hard. They will object to your face. They will object to your headdress, they will object to your headdress, they will object to your clothes, they will object to the fact that you have to leave a meeting for Salah because it's time for Salah they will object to the fact that you will say we cannot do this and we cannot take interest and we cannot do this in business and we
cannot do that in business. They will have objections and objections and objections for everything which is the obedience of Allah. Allah and His Messenger sallallahu Sallam to in their company
disobedience becomes easy, and obedience becomes hard, the road to jahannam will become easy and the road agenda will become hard. The The, the the doors of jahannam will open and the doors of general will close.
And when you are in the company of people of the opposite kind, what will happen? Remember,
even if you forget
they will only talk about Allah and His Messenger sallallahu wasallam and the Buddha's adonia and they will say how can we help the world and how can we do this and how can we help the Muslim Ummah and how can we
talk will be of good constant talk will be a reminder to Allah subhanaw taala when the time for Salah comes you will not read any reminder they will all stand to pray, even if you don't feel like praying you will pray because you are with them. That is the power of the company.
In their company if you are not following this universal Asana, you will be the odd person out who will feel odd.
If you are not if you are disobeying Allah in any way you will feel odd. And if you are in their company long enough, you will start becoming obedient to Allah subhanaw taala because of the of the power of the company,
but with the people who are disobedient to Allah the opposite will happen. My brothers and sisters
Allah subhanaw taala told us what happens to the people
who disobey Allah subhanho wa Taala and follow their desires exclusively Allah subhanaw taala said
in sort of, I tamani de la hora avanta de como la de la
in home in LA
which means he said Oh, have you or Mohammed Salah Salaam seen the person who takes as his God, he is worshiping that what is it his way and desires, his own desires? He is worshiping his own desires committing How is it ship? Because he's leaving what Allah has commanded and is doing what is desire commands. So it is shift of a particular kind. And Allah subhanaw taala called it shift. He said, Have you seen the one was taken as his ILA as his object of worship His own desires? Would you then be working for them?
So what is the meaning of that? Leave them don't don't make God for them. Do not intercede for them. You are not there again.
Will you be working? Allah say no, does not work. It is not allowed to work Allah.
So Allah subhanaw taala saying leave them and Allah says do you think that most of them here and understand? Allah says no, they are casual.
Allah says they are cattle. They are cattle, they are sheep, and cows and buffaloes. They are cattle. And then Allah says no, they are even worse than cattle.
They are even worse than cattle. And they are a stray from the path. And then Allah says, What will happen to such people whose idea of life is to go from sensation to sensation, trying to search for the ultimate height.
In today's paper, there is a photograph of a guy who's a big businessman. And he is going to a party and somebody is taking a photograph of his he is sitting in a singlet and obviously he does pumps a lot of ions. He's got some nice looking muscles, big arms, and he has on him he's put on female makeup so he's got lipstick and he's got all kinds of rules and got all sorts of stuff on his body. And he's sitting in the car has taken a photograph of this guy because I've seen the picture Yeah, yeah And the thing that big they've seized is all the you know big muscles and so on with women make up on his body and people are
the person who wrote the thing says this might look weird, but you know, it will the investors will be very unapologetic. This guy's investing in his company and he's doing things like this. But my question is, if the only purpose in life is self personal satisfaction, what is the what is the solution? You have to do all nonsense like this. What else can you do?
Because each time you do something, that's enough now I do the same thing I get bored. So what do I do I have to do something worse, something more, more and more perversity. So one understand one thing Allah Allah did not create this world to intelligent pleasure. There is no way we can indulge in enough pleasure.
Nobody can get enough pleasure. Another one in the paper today is a big Bentley. And he's talking about this guy who gets the best millionaire New York party and best billionaire beer party in the world.
And what did he do? He got some group to come in for fun.
Difference is only the name of the
group of dakka dakka.
But isn't a bionic happy
He gets approved he's got so many private jets and he's got so many yachts he's got three yards he owns the biggest privately owned boat.
Point this so what
a simple so what
because when he dies
he will go in the same six foot hole in the ground
just because I have a palace
supposing supposing I want Tama palace, would they would they bring an excavator and dig a grave as big as chamalla to bury me?
Where is the owner of chama bait you know that I know that
May Allah forgive their sins and Elijah Grantham Gemma we don't want to swallow whatever they did they are they are Muslims May Allah forgive them but I'm just saying I'm giving the example of Jamal or not because we want to malign anybody I'm gonna say that your house is not as big as a mosque
Where do you think you're going
to place the same hole in the ground? So what is Allah saying about these people who in their in their own life is to offer one sensation to another sensation? One sensation rather sensation
start with grass that is not enough stone to LSD does not go to heroin does not enough go to something else. Kick after kick after kick Swami we don't even understand our own language you know, what is it called? What's it called? A kick.
So what is gravity? If you just understand you know, your people who did it people like this are people who like to be kicked in daily life and you want to be somebody who likes
wish I was not standing here never really described as
to what is Allah saying about his people who like killing you like
Allah Allah. Allah mana Suma de la
di era for Evo Bhima. O.
Allah says that people who are like this, who are going from sensation to sensation want to spend money only for the sake of their physical pleasure. What is Allah? Allah says then when they had forgotten all that they had been told when they exceed every limit, to take to heart We threw open to them the gates of all good things. Please notice Allah is not saying we will. You know if they do this we will punish them no Allah says you want indulgence or as we give it doesn't give us so much money in 10 private jets buy 10 more.
You got 50,000 cars, buy another 100,000 cars
whatever whatever what is more.
Everything will be Your name will be yours.
Somebody was asking me the other day they said chef nobody knows you. I said al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen.
This is a no no but look at jack.
JACK and many people know Angela is a good friend of mine. But I said
nothing compared to Sri Sri
and Sri Sri Ravi Shankar is nothing compared to
So, what do you
want me to get?
Fame Fame for what For what? For what?
If fame is a criterion what you say but no one is allowed after 950 or less than 100 people behind him.
After 13 years of effort, 13 years of dedicated 24 hour effort, how many people have less than 100?
What is fin?
So Allah does say the people who are who are hunting for fame seeking fame and seeking money and pleasure and better what will Allah do you open the door
You are a global name. You want money you got money you want whatever you want. You got everything then what happened? Allah subhanaw taala says then when they are in the midst of that completely forgotten Allah, suddenly we catch them
Suddenly we catch them and then they are broken in spirit and this law. I did not even get time for
how will you get time
this is what will happen.
And Allah subhanaw taala warned and as
Allah says, Do not take we will believe. Do not take as Alia as close friends and protective helpers, disbelievers instead of dreams. People are disobeyed and Allah instead of people are waiting for Allah and Allah says if you do that is a Do you wish to offer proof against yourself?
Let's do you want to offer proof against
Allah you, you, you
you can follow me
whoa whoa Hades in a in.
In de la Jamuna Irina v Johanna Jamia, Allah says and it has already been revealed to you and told you in the book is that when you hear the Ayat of Allah being denied and mocked,
when you hear this deal being made fun of, then don't sit with them until they change the subject and the until they talk about something else, but if you stay with them, then you are with them.
Allah says then you will be counted among them. And surely Allah subhanaw taala will, will collect the hypocrites and disbelievers together in the Jannah.
Today, what do we say?
We give the examples of success when we give examples of success whose example do we give people who have no connection with Allah, Muslims who on the face of it on the surface of it whatever we could, we can see of their lives and their heart has no connection with Allah.
Muslims are deliberately disobeyed Allah Spano, de Muslims have completely gone out of Islam.
We are not making fun of it. And on anyone understand this.
We are following this.
Somebody came to
you and they said so and so but you know, his heart said an hour Delano said when the NaVi of Allah Salallahu alaihe salam was alive, Allah used to send him what he about what was in the hearts of people, he said the Navy is no longer alive We do not receive. So we will go by what we can see. So if a person is praying, they will say he is a good Muslim. You come and say no, no, no, but you see he has got in his heart is
that I do not make judgment on anybody's heart.
I have no idea what it is that whatever it is, I don't care. As far as I'm concerned, he is worshipping his brain. So
if a person does not worship,
His heart is good. We don't know this, but we do not know this. We know that he does not pray. That's it.
And so also other things.
So we give examples. We give examples of people
who are disobedient to Allah. They give examples of people who publicly say that I have nothing to Islam. And we give you examples as examples of people who are successful as role models. So Allah
so hello, brothers, sisters, I want to share with you my rule in my life, when I look at two things, friends, and situations, whenever I look at somebody and say, is this person somebody I want to be a friend with? I look for something. And whenever I look at a situation where somebody invites me as a piece of wisdom there, I look for something. You want to know what that is.
for friends, I asked myself only one question. And the question is, do I want this person to lead my salado janazah
somebody who's my friend, is someone who I would like to lead my salon
if it's somebody who I don't want to lead my Salah, that person
is that person, someone who I want to lead my Salah call janazah that is my criterion for a friend. And you know for a situation do I want to be in this situation? Do I want to be in that situation? You know what my criterion is? My criterion is, do I want to die in that place? Very simple. Because Allah, Allah Allah said death can come at any time. Any time when you are in a disco dancing on the floor, you can drop dead.
So do I want to be in a disco dancing on the floor? No, because I do not want to die in a disco on the dance floor.
Do I want to die in a box in malakpet? No.
And so on and so on and so on. Do I want to die in this much is giving this goodbye? insha Allah if Allah wills do I want to die in a Masjid? Yes, in July. I met God Allah, Allah. Allah, Allah. if Allah wills me, all of us get to get a depth in a Masjid in one of the huruma insurify
Our janaza will lead in the Harmon strip and shall
maybe die as his disability law in the past Allah subhanaw taala
I make this law for myself and make use of all of you and whoever wants it makes it i mean is the will of Allah to give it to us inshallah
We ask Allah to give us depth in his path as his visa visa.
So criterion of a friend is do I want him to lead my salado janaza criterion for place to be is do I want to die in that place? Please think about that before you go anywhere, because or do I want to die in that place? If the answer is no, stay away, stay away because you do not know whether death will come to you there or not. And if death comes to you at that point in time, there is no point in regretting because nothing is going to change. So Monica Monica lala land