Marriage Gems – What made you decide to get married?
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The speaker discusses their decision to get married and how they learned to filter their desire for a better relationship. They share their personal journey of being a father and how they were taught to be honest with their wife. They later discuss their father's comments on their religious beliefs and how they were taught to be liberal.AI Generated Transcript ©
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know, the decision for you to get married was not as straightforward as it is for a lot of people. And I think maybe if we share this story, it'll help those who are planning to get married, hopefully, to do it, right. So what was behind your decision? Well, the interesting thing is, I'm a product of polygamy, and the first of 26 children. And growing up, I think the minimum number of wives My father has had at one time is three, so and life, for us individuals being the sum of our experiences, that experience of growing up in a polygamy a large polygamy for that matter. With a lot of children, I learned a lot of things, some very good, some not so good. But that experience
essentially prepared me for the kind of husband I wanted to become for the kind of father, I wanted to become the kind of partner I wanted to become. So essentially, taught me the do's and don'ts of having good family life of relating with your wife of being a father, to your children, and so on, and so forth. So I started deciding on what kind of husband I'm going to be very early in my life, I should say, by the time I was maybe
10, to 15 years of age, I'd been thinking about the kind of husband I'd like to be and the kind of relationship I'd like to have with my wife. And I think this is such a reality for so many. We grew up seeing what our parents do, how they relate with one another. And you are saying that what you saw the good, the bad and the ugly, you were able to filter and take away the ones that you felt were not pleasant, you wanted to make sure you do it right. And you don't make the mistake of what you saw. That was an unpleasant, absolutely, not just in my immediate family, I had uncles and aunts, and I saw how relationships or marriages were not working as they should. And I was a very
curious child. So I asked my father a lot of questions, when I saw traditional things being done in the family of the asking me about his religious life that is traditional. And ultimately, it got to the point where I asked him, On what basis would Allah judge us? Is it going to be on tradition? Or is it going to be a religion? And my father just looked at me with a smile and said, Fine, it's going to be on religion. And I'll oftentimes ask him about certain norms that just seemed out of the ordinary, they didn't seem proper. And he was way ahead of his time. He was honest with me, he would say, you know, he called me being the eldest son, you say, yeah, that is not the way it's supposed
to be. So earlier on, my father gave me that opportunity to ask, there wasn't that distance between the Father and the Son, and he was liberal in the sense that I could ask him a ton of questions about what's right and what's wrong. And that really started me thinking, how am I going to relate with my wife and I decided very early, it's going to be strictly based on the teachings of the Quran, and the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam