Maryam Lemu – Introduction To The Premarital Masterclass

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Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi

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wa barakatuh. This is Mariam Laymu. Thank you

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so much for showing up and for trusting

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me to guide you on this journey.

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It's gonna be a journey of self discovery,

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a journey of personal growth and a journey

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into the past.

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Some parts of this journey will not be

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comfortable. Actually, they'll be quite unpleasant, but they

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have to be addressed and faced.

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Some will be an eye opener for you.

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You're gonna discover new things about yourself insha'Allah.

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But most importantly, I will be with you

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every step of the way. I shall give

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you everything that I feel you need to

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prepare you for what you need when you

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go into marriage.

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I shall be, during this course, sharing with

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you personal,

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practical experiences

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that I have had for over the past

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33 years. My experiences before I got married

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and those of my almost 29 years of

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marriage.

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Now I am absolutely passionate about seeing marriages

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work which is why I created this

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course. And I have interviewed those yet to

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be married to hear what kind of emotional

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rollercoasters they're going through,

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what kind of challenges they're facing, which I

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shall be sharing with you.

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I've also interviewed people who are married

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to hear what's working for them, what their

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best practices are, and things they wish they

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had known before they got married. And then

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I've interviewed those who are divorced,

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who have regrets of things they wish they

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had done differently,

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and what they would do differently if they

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go into marriage in the future. And then

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I've also spoken to those who are widowed.

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I will be talking to you about my

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own best practices and my biggest regrets.

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Things I wish I had known before I

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had gotten married. All the good, the bad

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and the ugly.

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The mistakes that I made, the best things

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that I've learned from my 29 years, and

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the most brilliant things that my husband and

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I have been able to do to make

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for the beautiful relationship we have today.

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This is going to be a detailed guide,

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hopefully to helping you get it right. It

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is my hope and prayer that what I

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share with you will be just that.

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We often put in a lot when we

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want to prepare for our exams and tests.

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I'd like you to treat this as one

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of the most significant

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exams of your whole life.

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The results of this exam are not gonna

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be instant.

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Sometimes it takes years before you know if

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you've failed, if you've passed or if you've

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eased your exam.

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There will be many impromptu tests that you're

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gonna have to take along the way and

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they're all part of this big exam.

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Those tests, if you fail them, will help

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you know what areas you may need to

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improve upon and become more proficient in.

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But if you neglect those areas or ignore

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them and allow them to build up and

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fester, you're gonna be in for a bumpy

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ride. And unfortunately,

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it's not gonna be pleasant. You're gonna have

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unpleasant results at the end of the day.

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However, one thing I know for sure is

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if you work hard on those areas and

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improve upon them, you will reap the benefits

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of your hard work insha'Allah.

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If you work hard and do your homework

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and ace your tests and exams, the rewards

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are priceless.

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Allah has said in the Quran that nothing

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shall be accounted unto a person

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except what he strives for. And in time,

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you shall see the results of your striving.

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This is from Suratul Najam.

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I highly recommend that if you have someone

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you are courting right now, you encourage them

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to also register for this course. This ensures

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that both of you are on the same

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page, that you both have a true understanding

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of what you need before you get married

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and what you're getting into. May Allah make

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it easy for all of us.

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Now I would like to make a disclaimer

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that this course is no guarantee that you're

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gonna have a problem free marriage. However, what

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I'm confident about

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is that if you and the person you

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wanna get married to

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finish this course successfully,

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do all the exercises

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and the extra readings, Insha'Allah, you're gonna go

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into marriage more prepared. You're gonna go into

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marriage with realistic

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expectations

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and the tools that you need to overcome

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the challenges

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and obstacles that exist. And trust me, there

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are many obstacles that exist.

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You will be able to utilize your gifts

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and your strengths to complement

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and build

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on the beautiful relationship that you have insha'Allah.

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I am sure that you have already done

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a lot of homework and a lot of

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research and you know a lot as you're

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coming into this course. So what I would

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like from you is for you to jot

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down in the box below, in the section

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below, your expectations

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for this course. Please share with me what

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you hope your takeaway will be, what you

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hope to have understood

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better or learnt about by the end of

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this course.

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Please also share your feedback at guttertalktomaryamsapital.com

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in the mailbox

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that you will

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find inside this course. This will help me

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improve on this course, especially in the areas

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that you feel you need more information on.

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And do not hesitate to reach out to

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me with questions or comments.

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What I would like from you, at the

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end of the entire course, is for you

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to review

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and check off 1 by 1 what you

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feel you have gained from this course, and

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if there's any area you would like additional

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counseling in.

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I will be reviewing your feedback regularly and

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give you everything that you have had hoped

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to gain by taking this course.

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Now by taking this course, you are part

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of a community and a tribe that I

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have created of individuals

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who truly want to do everything in their

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power to get it right. You will find

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this community to be a safe place where

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you can share your concerns,

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post questions that you may have to others,

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and also give feedback on what your experiences

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are on this course. So share your contributions

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and chat.

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At the end of this course, I will

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be asking you to share all your experiences.

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Please be sincere and honest with your feedback

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because it's gonna help me continue to improve

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on this course, hopefully for others after you.

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And I will also be asking you to

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upload your photographs with your testimony if you

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feel like doing that. Your feedback will also

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be used to promote this course

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and by uploading your comments and your photos,

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you're giving us full permission to use it

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on any platform and in any relevant literature.

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I am truly honored that you are trusting

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me to be your guide through this process.

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May Allah make it easy.

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So now it's time for you to share

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your course expectations with me.

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Please share what you had hoped to learn

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or what you want to know at the

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end of this course.

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I highly recommend that you take lots of

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notes throughout this course Cause there's gonna be

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a lot of information

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for you to gain from this course, insha'Allah.

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I look forward to having you as we

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move on on this journey. Assalamu Alaikum.