Channel: Majed Mahmoud
The topic of friends is in many times overlooked or underrated whether the talk is about having good friends or staying away from the bad ones. This video is filled with evidences from the Quran, Sunnah and real life examples of how friends influence you in this life, in the grave and in the afterlife. This topic should be learnt by every Muslim. May Allah bless you and gathering you on the day of judgment with Prophet Muhammad -salla Allahu alayhe wa sallam-.
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We ask Allah subhana wa Taala for this talk to be a benefit for you in this life in the grave and the afterlife say I mean, we asked lots of panda to bless this talk and bless everyone that is willing to spend that time and learn about the influence of friends, and about Islamic Studies in general. I mean, I mean, one time I was giving this talk, an older lady came to me and she was crying, she was crying, and she begged me to take the SD card, which I used to actually save the recorded video. Then I said, you want to show it to your son or daughter? Then she said, No, I want to show this talk about friendship to my husband, except panela. She's my husband has been
befriending some people that corrupted his ideology and his thoughts about Islam. My husband is on the verge of leaving Islam. So the talk about friends is important, the equal to the young and the old, male and female, very important. And inshallah, as we go through the talk, there are four problems that we're facing. Number one is many people are not appreciating the good friends that they have, did not single handedly enough for
the other group. The other problem that we may have is that many people are not asking Allah, Allah will have the giver of gifts to increase the number of righteous friends they have. Number three, many people, many of our brothers and sisters, they are aware that these friends are bad, but they're so scared and terrified to leave them. Why? Because they might get backstabbed because they're worried there's a lot of trash talking that will follow. They're worried that there'll be lonely etc. And the fourth problem is that many people that say Why are you making it such a big deal talking about friendship, friends, colosse, like when we talk about righteous friends, bad
friends, friends, and I will know what to do the right and the wrong and so on. So these problems, perhaps many of you may go through one or all of them or most of them. But with that being said, Why is that a concern to you? I mentioned one thing, and please pay attention.
Friends, have an influence upon your success or failure in this life in the grave and afterlife. One more time one more time. friends have an influence on your success or failure in dounia it will burst the grave. And
so the way we talk about the friendship topic and five components, number one, I'm going to tell you some evidences of the influence of friends, whether they are good or bad. The second component is our mentioned some supporting facts to prove to you how great of an influence a good friend may have upon you. Number three, I'll mention some supporting facts to tell you how easily influenced a person may be due to having a bad friend. Number four, I'll mention some small ways and minor and basically easy ways to categorize your friends and some advice on how to deal with them. Lastly, a conclusion so you guys ready inshallah. Number one evidences from the Quran and Sunnah about the
influence of friends 311 quote, number one, Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. And every time you hear this beautiful name, you say salani was Ella, if the least that you can get out of this Holocaust, the only thing you may understand is all I said, and that's good enough for you. So a lot he was alone. He said methodologies of silence was suit the example of a righteous friend, and a bad friend. common mistake when African kid the example of the good friend like perfume seller, and the example of the bad friend is the elegant blacksmith. And for the sake of our current issues, or the current times, instead of seeing a blacksmith which many might not relate to. I will say for
example, the one who works in a landfill or a dump site, landfill or dump site. So the province of Assalam tells us three things the good companion, the seller of the perfume may do to you and influence you with number one, he may sell you the perfume or give you a test and a small sample. Or the least that will happen is that you'll smell a good smell out of the place and the area around that Hammond.
Now the Prophet talks about the bad friend like the one that works in a landfill or a dump site.
We're not saying they're evil people, but as example, two things will happen. Either they will ruin your clothing, make it dirty, or the least the least that will happen is what is that you have a bad smell or you experience a bad smell from the area. So it also lays on a lolly was a lamp is giving us a concept and making sure that you base your life upon it, that your flat your friends have an influence upon you, whether you like it or not, they will influence you, they will influence you will influence you, no matter what level but you will still be influenced. So panela even from a science perspective, you guys know secondhand smoke for those that smoke and do that sit beside them
that even have an influence upon them. So don't say I won't be influenced by having bad friends that smoke shisha or Gila, as long as I'm not smoking, you're absolutely wrong. There's such thing as secondhand smoke. According to the US Department of Health and Human Services, they say that those non smokers exposed to secondhand smoke at home or at work, increase their heart disease risk by 25 to 30%. You see the influence. And don't also say after hearing this Hadith, I will I will benefit by having a good friend know according to a last panel data, when you sit in a gathering of knowledge or a gathering where people glorify Allah, and they do disappear to Allah and imagine
Allah is such a pure and clean gathering of lots of panel data at the end of the halaqa We ask Allah to make us amongst them see me and all those who are watching that Allah the activities that are Shinigami your mother and the father refer to the home.
But then an angel says yeah, Allah. One of them came just because bunch of friends are coming to this hanging out with them. So it's not really for the haidakhan so on, then Allah subhana wa tada says, Even that person who came for a different intention when Tomoko Mola, yes, kabhi injury. So this is a gathering, Allah says, an authentic hadith that no one amongst you shall ever suffer. Why? Because you're just by a close friend, you're by a someone who's glorifying Allah, because you know, gathering mentioning Allah subhanho wa Taala. You see the level of influence, the property is telling you, you'll be influenced whether you like it or not, and I hope the least you can get out
of this halaqa is that it flows in your blood, and in your mind that whenever you go out with someone, you hang out with someone, you talk to someone online, over the phone sitting by someone you have to know by default, I'll be influenced either in a good way or a bad way. And whether it was too much or too little. That will never be what neutral never ever had is number two out of three Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says a motto Allah Dini holiday, you are upon the religion of your friend, but many don't know the other half of the Hadeeth what's the other half? Right so lice ally seven says Phil young had to commend you, Harlan. The Prophet is giving you
advice Are you guys willing to take it young and old male and female I guess you're willing to take that advice. Apply it regardless of your age. He says pay attention to whom you befriend
other words 2013 Watch out to you follow on Twitter will lie just like that. Watch out what page on Facebook you like Watch out what YouTube channel you subscribe to. That's what the prophet advising you don't be little this these factors. Russell likes a lot he was selling his teaching me and knew that a friend might have an influence upon you to an extent that they would move away your Eman level, move away your taqwa. So one of the best things you can ever do is what have a righteous friend, that will increase a lot consciousness in you, they'll increase your email. And that also means one of the worst things. And one of the worst crime you can ever do to yourself is hang out
with a bad friend, the one who reminds you of nothing but the devils and say have been the one who never reminds you of Allah and tour the proper hijab, the one that never reminds you to respect your parents and do you pay your soccer, you avoid these people. Number three, personal license the license answers a question. That's a habit said the happiest moment of our lives is when we became what Muslims, some of the habits and the second happiest moment of our lives. When we heard the answer of the prophets acident following this question, as a hobby went to him, he said
what do you say about the group of people keep at the coffee Roger had back home and when I'm not happy him, What do you say about a person who loved a group of people, but he cannot achieve their level of righteousness? He cannot or she cannot worship as much as them What if I love abubaker and omada through laser Salah, but I cannot worship Allah as much as them but I wish to be with them yo mo pm in general. What a beautiful question. True lovers of the Prophet and also hava you would have this question in mind and they want to know the answers responsible. The Prophet answers in four words that guy's ready for it. He said a lot oh man man have you will be with whom
Allahu Akbar, this Hadees can either make you the happiest person alive. Well, this head can make you the most miserable person in life. This has told you that even if you don't have a friend and physically, but just because your heart is attached to them through a poster, through a picture, through some tweets through some Facebook status, just because once you saw them without even having a conversation just because your heart is attached to that person, you'll be with them. You'll know PM, a quick activity 10 seconds roughly.
If I were to ask you by Allah, you're given the option right now that you will be redirected Yokoyama, according to how and where your friends the closest one will go. If Allah with the judge them only externally will the answer be yes or no? Would you say yes, I'm willing to be resurrected with my closest friends right now? Yes, I'm willing to see actually thinking about it. No, not really. Of course not. I asked by Allah. The answer is no. Or if you're hesitating, it's time to make a change to your life. It's time to unfold to unblock to unsubscribe, it's time to put a barrier. It's time to start advising standard tell yourself it's about time to bust a U turn and
change my friends and see who I befriend. I guess what I'm saying? These were three ahaadeeth the verse from the Quran, Allah subhana wa tada and voila, you should never overlook this statement. A lot of panel what Allah advise those who are late someone law yourself sallam, two advices. Number one, he advised him to have good friends and do not overlook them. The second advice
is You shall not have bad friends. So it's not enough for you to come to the masjid five daily prayers. Wear your hijab have your good friends in the UK and then go back home and have the turbo friends online. No, you cannot do both at the same time should focus on one and no don't be isolated. What's my proof also life loss Allah, Allah to them suited calf algebra James will love him.
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Allah is ordering the Prophet. Hold yourself patient with those who remember a lot in the day and night befriend those people, when I tell them do not overlook brothers and sisters. This advice is for me and there's lots of them and all of us do not overlook the importance of having a good friend. When I tried to I know kind of seeking the pleasure and the beauty of his dunya Allah says Be patient with your good friends. Is that enough? No. The other advice?
Question Be honest with yourself if Allah advised the wisest and the most knowledgeable human being that walked the face of this earth, that you should have good friends and move away from bad friends, then miskeen magic and Miskin all of you brothers and sisters Don't Don't you think you should also follow this advice from Allah subhanaw taala.
To power something to comprehend the quote which will end in the first segment. The quote is not by a Muslim is by a person called Buddha you guys perhaps know him. It's been referred that he said it but doesn't matter who said it by the point that was non Muslim, he said and insincere, an evil friend is much more evil and much more harmful than a beast a wild beast. Why? Because the wild beast my wound you physically and my wound you your body, but the evil friend and an insincere friend will wound Your mind will corrupt your mind. Remember that sister referred to when her husband was on the verge of leaving Islam due to his friends, that non Muslim confirmed what
happened that he had to come and you have to pay attention to whom you befriend. This was the first segment to show you that you will be influenced by those around you whether at work or at school, or whatever it may be. Well, you're influenced right now by the ones sitting right beside you. If you're sitting by someone playing with their phone, you will be difficult, it will be more difficult for you to pay attention than had you sat in front row. Whether you like it or not, had you been with someone zoning away or just looking down or not focusing not paying attention, you'll be influenced by that. So identic you much more energy to pay attention to talk. Someone who's watching
right now opening another window, you will you'll be influenced by it, even if it's a computer that might be your friend. Now let's look at some supporting facts number two out of five in terms of segments, supporting facts showing you that having a good friend will benefit you in dunia in the grave. And in the dunya many of you know this Heidi, the one who killed 1994 Mankato South Zone and he went through a through a life that he didn't go through throughout the province of Salem was mentioned itself.
So authentic. The Prophet said that this man when he killed nine people, he felt that he wants to change he thought that what he did was not good. So he goes to a worshipper underlined the word what worshiper
he tells him I killed nine people only ever forgive me will only ever accept my Tobermory repentance. He said you killed nine people, you expect them not to forgive you? Are you kidding me? Of course not. So that men felt you know, it's hopeless anyways, so come here and he killed them. So you complete 100 kills. But still, he didn't feel too good about it. So then he went to a scholar to aim that I underlined the word islands color. And that's why you should ask your questions. He went just called me and said I killed 100 soldiers. Will Allah ever forgive me? Will Allah ever accept my return? He said, Who in the world would dare to put a barrier between you and our last forgiveness?
Who in the world will tell you no, Allah will never repent upon you. Of course you can. But there's a condition. There's a condition that scar that will give the one word then I pay attention to the condition. He said, but you are among people that are bad. You have bad friends create soon you have to leave. It's not enough to leave it back friends. But you have to go to a Korea, una sala home and righteous people in the other area. That's the island. And that man took the advice. And he walked the talk. And he was preparing his stuff and he was leaving the house. He does not mention but I'm pretty sure many people are backstabbing him.
I'm pretty sure many of them said, Oh, you think you're so holy. Now you want to change. You want to leave us you leave your buddies all these years we were together hanging out together, perhaps are gossip. They're gossiping, backbiting that that man that he went on, and he traveled to Duke and stuff and was traveling, as many of you know, he died in the past. He didn't reach that righteous city with good friends in it. What happened? Something very uncommon, something very unusual. The two groups of angels descend at the same time for the same person.
The angels that take the salt agenda and the angels I think assaulted Johanna Bo is confusing here. The argue, authentic ID. We said no, he killed 100 people he has to go to Ghana. The angels of Ramadan said no, you should go You should go to gender because he wants to repent, he feel bad for it. Then Allah gives a rule. He said follow this rule this test. Whatever he passes one of the guys or take them to what's that test? measure the distance this man when he died and from the city of bad friends and bad company and measure his distance where he died and the city with good company? And whatever he's closer to then take them. So it's closer to the righteous city? Why did he go to
gender and vice versa? So they measured and who was the closer to the righteous friends, the righteous city, pay attention this rule Golden Rule you'll never forget, which will confirm the statement I mentioned the beginning. Your friends have an influence upon you upon your success or failure in dunya Greven as if that what determines whether he'll go to jail or not, is whether he has righteous friends or not it getting attention. It's as if had he been having more bad friends would want to Jana. So your friends determine your activity and
you are upon the religion of your friend. So watch out. Will you be friends, we ask Allah to grant all of us righteous frenzy. I mean, we asked a lot of grants the courage to move away from those who have bad influence upon us more from the dounia I'd like to mention a personal example not out of boasting not out of showing off, but just for you to relate experience. I am a man who's married, I have two daughters. I got a full time job I teach on Thursdays I come here almost once one first Friday of every month, I travel around the world giving lectures. The Imam, he proposed a program to memorize the whole Quran within a year. So I heard the announcement and I was like, You know what,
this is gorgeous, beautiful. You know, I wish all you guys the best. I never even thought of registering because it doesn't even make sense. six days a week, two hours a day, six days a week, two hours a day. I have already seen my family. So even thinking to enroll doesn't really make much sense. But a friend, a brother and a group of brothers and the man himself, he came to me. He said, You know what? This is a lifetime opportunity. Make sure you register. I'm like, no, it's impossible. One of the brothers said, Brother, you have to take it. You have to register. This is a one time opportunity. You might never see it again. Use the amount that you have we have come on,
and it gives you a whole I know what I don't know if I'll be able to do it. Then I have said you know what? Okay, let me consult my wife.
That's cool. Right? I should consult my wife for sure. Because somebody was making decisions like that. No, should go back to our fam consultant. So I went to my wife and I told her you know what, there's a program. six days a week, two hours a day. What do you think? She said it had you asked me this question. Two days ago out of right away, totally. Don't take it don't register. But just because yesterday, I went to my friend's wedding
graduation ceremony where she completed the head of the Quran. And she was resetting through to NASA. The whole entire Hall was crying. And we enjoy the sweetness of completing the Quran. I wish the I knew finished memorizing the Quran. So I'll give you the green light go ahead and memorize the Quran, I'm going to sacrifice the time to see you. Now my wife hardly ever sees me. I swear by Allah Most of you see me more than my wife and children. Alhamdulillah we're about six years away from memorize the whole Quran, by the will of Allah subhanaw taala is not accepted by the influence then but the influence of my friends, the Imam, and the influence of my wife, friends on her that made
her say, you know what, go for it. Remember, as
you see the influence of friends, don't belittle that's got to accept and we ask a lot to allow all of us to be able to memorize the Quran. I mean, what about in the grave? in the grave?
Who here knows? How can
good company benefit integration? How's that possible?
type in a very long Hadeeth window through life a lot to say. He explains how the rule exits the body very long Hadeeth I will take the part which is really related to our friendship talk about friends. He said when the person the believer goes into the grave, and answered all the questions correctly my book Maddy knock Mama, look who's your Prophet, men, the men that do all correctly, our caller will call and so the Carpe Diem, a slave I said the truth, then Allah orders for crucial human agenda, give that person a mattress from gender, what will be SUV male gender, given clothing from gender and opened a door for him or her from gender. So that breeze and the wind and the beauty
and the majesty and the glory and all the amazingness from general you can see it and you enjoy it. Then all of a sudden, Allah orders for the grave to extend as far as your eye can see yes for the believers and won't be tight as far as your eye can see. And all of a sudden person walks in the grave.
A person who was very very, very beautiful, smells absolutely gorgeous, has an amazing piece of clothing on them. And then they walk to that person. And they say I actually have good news for you. This is the promise which Allah has promised you has been fulfilled. You're enjoying the grave. Yes, you enjoy the group. As you believe in me, I'll make you all amongst those who enjoy the grave. But I don't mean then that person says me ultimately amongst them. Who are you and tell you this is the face that brings nothing but good news. You look like you have good stuff for me. Who are you? He says and I
am your righteous deeds. He will be his friend, his good company until the day of judgment. Allah made that a blessing and a benefit and a source of joy in the grave and he tells you that even in the grave, you need to have a good friend you in the grave he to have a good friend, they will enjoy your company and you enjoy his company and to do more piano. What about in Anchorage? Alaska friends don't stop here. Friends will benefit you in academia lawmakers amongst them. Allah subhanho wa Taala
he says that My love will be mended My love will follow those people who visit one another for my sake. For those who sit and halakhah for my sake when zona de la Mota Ballina fee. Well metallocene a fee was a bit better than would have been a fee and all those I mentioned that Allah love will come upon those people and Allah loves you What in the world will you fear and just simply because you're in a good company, a lot of pay attention to this. Allah subhana wa tada mentioned in the Quran, we know how it is very scary. A lot of pilot says either
you saw a young male role model or when he when the camera comes and you run away from your own sibling will only be from your mom and that was our Hey Betty, he will be your spouse and your children will equilibria in minimum yoma even Sharon uni every one of you will be concerned about their own state nipsey nipsey but then Allah says in another verse
only about an adult even the friends will be enemies in La
ilaha illAllah ducane yamaki with all that terrifying moments, the righteous people will be with together helping Chuck together making each one feel more comfortable and with you handle everything will be just fine. Elon Musk definitely even after all that chaos, your mom and dad away from you, but their greatest friends will be around you so panda let me let me kiss amongst them and every other friend will be an enemy to another yo mo pm Allah subhanaw taala says even in Jeanette Do you think they'll go agenda individually for either No.
Your agenda with your group of friends with a group of people and with those
Whom you loved in dunya? Remember the image and model moment Have you truly loved the profit as a lamp, his father's footsteps will lie you'll be with me on a piano because that's why he said, the best of you and those the closest to neoma piano are those are the best of manners. You follow. He loves him he follows footsteps. You try your best to be amongst them and you'll be with Tim Cook Khurana among many other great sahami lawmakers amongst them the first vegetables agenda. Allah subhana wa tada mentions many other verses about the greatness of gender. But these were some points and facts I tried to prove to you about the great influence a good friend may have upon you. Let's
look at the third segment which was what
supporting facts to show you how evil and bad influence you can make you may have from the bad friends don't yet grieve and let's look from a junior perspective. What's the alliance of a law it was seldom when Abu Talib was on the deathbed Abu Talib was about to die last moments, he went into the house, this authentic hadith and he saw two people there. I began to live in Romania with these bad friends evil friends, Russell lace Latham came and he said I am Oh my uncle
ilaha illAllah c'est la ilaha illAllah Kalimantan, Ohio juliaca. Behind the law, something that I will admit a lot I can argue for your sake, I can argue on your behalf that y'all wanted Laila. Illallah Yala. I am [???] for him. I do shefa for him, just say that statement and they'll take care of the rest. What happened? The people on the other side. They looked at him every day. Hello, Omar.
Abdullah live in Romania. They said
are you going to leave the religion of your forefathers? I'm talking about uncles, grandfathers rasulillah is talking to him. And the evil people are talking to him at the same time, the good friend and the bad friend. She goes back and forth back and forth. province, escuela Ilaha, Illallah BJ, la la Mumia
back and forth, just like how we might have people that tell us, you know what makes you respect your parents. And the other bad friend tells you, you're old enough to make up your own decisions. What do you mean, respect your parents? The other will tell you sister, your pants are tight for your hijab is not right. The other one tells you why shall we change our fashion style because of guys that act like animals you wear whatever you want to wear, back and forth, back and forth. Then someone tells you you know what, enjoy your wedding, but make sure it's not mixed with all that dancing with both genders and so on. The other one says, Don't be an extremist, let the family have
fun. What's wrong with you? We got to lower our gaze, accusing us of being animals, what's wrong with you back and forth, back and forth, who will win the battle?
He heard that voice of his bad friends. And he died and he said I die upon the religion of abdomen. Bella let me let you live and he died. And another Hadeeth is authentic. He looked at also lice a loss of limb. He said I would say La La La La La Creme to be hygienic. However, as I see it now, the woman and the men of kurush will make fun of me will turn to me. Why? Because they say oh he said that now because he's about to die. So that's what he said lately and a lot. So even they had an influence upon that friends and courage. They were overpowering him and he died as did of Cooper also likes us and tells us the authentic it that the least of punishment yarmulke belongs to his own
where his slippers will be boiling, it'll be so hard to extend his own mind and brain will be boiling due to the heat from the slippers from the shoe. It's apparently not protected from it. You see how evil a bad friend has caused them? What about more in this dunya there's much more How about I tell you a personal story of how a bad friend can corrupt the person there is there are two brothers that used to pick up for Frederick. They were university students. So the relationship I had with him was salah and a bed and so we asked a lot accept from all of us. So every time he called me I called him and so we wake each other up. So all of a sudden that connection broke apart
and we no longer connect and summer time came and some of them went back home. Then they came back and they didn't ever call me again. And or never answer my calls. Or perhaps it's some shortcoming. But the point of it. I prefetcher by myself or with other people. And I live by a bar by a collect club. I don't know Wednesday, they have a party party going on. And it was too loud that my own sister was twins. They are unable to sleep for how loud the bar across the street is so loud. So I was so angry. I was so irritated. I was so upset. I did something that was wrong. I don't tell you to do it. That was wrong. I went with actually my pajamas took my car keys forgot my phone, my
wallet all at home just to tell the people to be quiet. But what am I doing with hundreds of people? What am I doing? So then I go to the bar and have a mini stories that happened there. You can watch another video The video is called Why is life so hard? You can watch it then something funny, something weird some escape and so on but the point of it. So as I walk there and I'm driving I think people drunk and woman naked and so on and people yelling out loud. So then I as I saw a car that will look very familiar to me. It looks like a car of a Muslim brother.
So then I actually it was reversing, I blocked him I literally blocked him. Then I came down with a hoodie imagine the beard look scary, right with my pajamas. And he see the man who was driving is a Muslim brother. And lo and behold, that's it wasn't important to me that the one who's sitting beside him, and the one who's sitting at the back with a two brothers used to pick up refrigerators. While life fetcher people were in the nightclub drinking and smoking weed and whatever they were doing, they smelled filthy. They look filthy. The guy beside them, we used to go with me to fetch our prayers, brothers and sisters, you cannot be little those who were not your cane cannot go to
fetch, it's the most difficult for them, to for someone to be like a believer going to fidget. And then all the way flip to that side. Look from that bad friend who was driving, then will light the moment we had eye contact. You know what he did? He grabbed his actual hands, and he was scratching his whole face. And he never want to even look at me. The other day back was crying like a little baby. Because the evil of a bad friend corrupted those two people. So Panama. You see how serious that may be from fetcher to so when we asked a lot to make those prefetch amongst the believers, and we already knew our intentions and the way that it fits his majesty in a way that he pleads with us.
I mean, so this is in dunya. What about in the grave in the grave, very similar to the Hadith we mentioned and the griever righteous also lies a lot he was telling him, he says that when the character or the disbeliever or the evil person dies, Allah subhanaw taala will order for that person to be asked the questions for questions, maggini, manga, books, etc? He says, Hmm,
I don't know the answer, even though his name is Mohammed Rafi metal, subtle harlot will use will not answer according to your name. What will answer is your actions. They're the ones who actually answer it. I can tell the answers to a catheter, and he might get it right but no, and the grave your actions will speak louder
than whatever knowledge they may have in your mind. So when the answers questions are wrong, the color will call that my slave has lived in Chula homina na Bab and then make him a mattress a furniture made from Hellfire and open the door of Hellfire upon that person. Let the heat and hot severe weather come into the grave and that grave will be compressed for the benefit of law then the ribs will be interlock from tiny the grave would be then a very filthy and ugly and stinky person walks in the grave is an upset. Lydia Sook. Be glad tidings for the horrible news that will happen to you and the horrible things that will happen to you. This is the promise of Allah has been
fulfilled. Then the person would ask him the grave men and two are you he says an American hobby. I mean, evil, filthy actions. And that bad friend, bad companion will remain with that person as a punishment will lie. It's a crime to continue befriending evil people. You're doing a crime to yourself, it's painful, and you will see at maximum and hopefully you will not in the grave. We ask Allah to protect us from it. See, I mean, now this is dounia great. Let's see an actor, an actor Allah subhanho wa Taala mentioned in the Quran that even when he got when a person goes to Johanna, we will not go individually, do go to Johanna, in groups or their best friends. Allah says,
out of love and morning, out of love, I'm advising you to have good friends and warning you from the bad friends. So they'll go and all of a sudden, they'll be captured in Johanna, we ask a lot protecting privacy. I mean, one of the pinnacle of stories about that friends, the alarm works in the Quran, talk about the 89th and omega, very famous story. What happens when Alpha and Omega were separated for some time because omega had to travel to a certain place, but was touched by Islam? Yes, he was even though he was amongst the most evil people. But because it's bad friend traveled and the Quran was being recited. He was touched by it.
And then he actually accepted Islam in one dimension that had some weakness in it some had some Dorf in life. It says they actually attended Islam when the Prophet sallallahu wasallam invited them over for food or actually he was invited. Then after that said have some food. The Prophet said No, I will not have food until you walk by say later Lama Rasul Allah soccabet says La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasul Allah and then the rumors spread around the whole city the Occupy became Muslim agonist HUD has some little dice
then the rumor comes and who hears about it or may Yeah, his best friend of Aqua may hears that sermon comes from said you know what happened to a friend? He became Muslim.
Then maybe you get so upset because opposite. Did you really accept Islam? So but he says no, no, no, no, no, I just said La la la la. So LA, just for hematological him to eat for my food and the people around Mecca, dosa, stingy etc. He said I will not believe you until you go to the property.
spit in his face.
Look at the backend.
Then of accepts, he goes into Latin and he spits in the prophets Allah bless it face, and Aqua becomes the most evil of people towards those who is not authentic Heidi. Aqua goes to the extent that he gets the disgusting filthy parts of a German of a camel, and he throws on the profits back with a profit making. The argument began when they were saying who would do something evil to the profit of McCain stood up and did it authentically. Another time he went and he tried to choke Russell laserlight almost to death and workers came to defend the soul as eliminated at the origin and
the killer prisoner says Allah, Lord, look how evil we became. No Allah mentioned the consequences in the latter.
Origins Lama Rahim.
Allah when the oppressor Raka with bite on his two fists, not one you might be angry, do this right. One finger, two fingers. Yeah, you might be insanely angry with one fist. But we'll be so regretful that he did not take the profit as guidance and took the evil friend as a friend. To the extent that he put both fists into his mouth. You can imagine how bad his mouth was ripped and how ugly it looked like. He says, Yeah, like, the customer was suli sebelah I wish I took the path of the Prophet T he
honestly said, Bill, I wish I took it with him. And dunia he was ignoring him. He was naked. I ignored him. But and now it asked me to manifest the Prophet. He was the Prophet. I wish I followed this path. And many hopefully none of us would say I wish I applied when I heard his halaqa I hope none of us would say this regretful statement. And it was 100 that I attended at Harvard. I applied what I learned, then Apple would say yeah, well you let her later Neelam foodland and kalila. He doesn't even mention his name, this filthy person, so and so he didn't even mention his own friend's name, that they were the friends will be enemies with ducane then he will say
victory budget journey. He that person moved me astray when the victory when the reminder was right there I was sitting in the actual gathering. I was hearing the reciting of the Quran. I heard also Allah and he moved me astray. May Allah make us say these exact sentences when Allah mentioned in the Quran, he does it for a reason. This lesson this story is for every one of us and tell you more
about linear decay. By the end what kind of shape or incentive cadoola will always take you towards loss, we asked a lot refuge from the time regime. Now we mentioned number one, the influence of friends, number two supporting facts of having good friends and how beautifully influenced you may be from them. The third part was supporting facts of how evil a bad friend may be to you. Number four was an action item number five was a conclusion number four,
the way to categorize your friends in a very simple way. But all I said is up to you to make up your mind. Is it clear? So whatever I'm going to add right now it's basically just a way of categorizing but you don't have to take take it by heart, is it clear, but just some advice? So now we have about 20 minutes left and by 930 roughly inshallah you have either good friends, bad friends or 5050
the good friends what should you do if you have them? Use hold so tight to them, you never let go of them. You appreciate me thank Allah insha
Allah for registering Allah give you more and more and more.
Tell you what if I don't make dua to Allah, Allah had the giver of gifts. Because having a stretches friend is a gift from Allah. It's an unmatched gift. Children are called him like like Cuba, right? So that
we don't say
they don't use Allah.
Because Allah will have is the one that gives unmatched gifts. And having a registered friend is an unmatched gift from Allah subhanaw taala. What's my proof of loss in the Quran.
Example of a righteous friend in my lifetime that witness we ask a lot to accept from both of us. I never really used to prefer a domestic. I never had a license, never had a car to drive there and so on. So I never actually tasted the sweetness of paying fudging the mustard, pay at home and so on. A friend of mine, he talks to me that you want me to start picking you up for failure.
Unless you went to go to federal prayer next to the masjid in Africa.
He said I'll call you 10 minutes before I arrive to wake you up. I will pick you up then drop it to the machine. And then we can come back home I'll drive you I want to share the cost of the guests. Don't worry about it. I will do all the work. All I want to do is come into the car. So panela with that being said for four months
To allow was my witness Not a single time he missed federal intelligence? Can I ever repay that person any money in my life like what he did was priceless to me. And today, I learned from him to go prefetch at the masjid. And for him I learned something, even if a greater reward was it, is every time you have a car, going to go to the method, pick up some people that don't have vehicles, to panela and that person continues to get reward. And I'm influenced by that person until the day was about about seven eight years ago, making that person may Allah bless them all those who seek to improve other lives they I mean, but what if you don't make do I like Prophet Musa alayhis salaam
Musa once a bit friend and he realized I cannot fulfill my mission without a good friend. What's my proof? He said to him I was in a crime.
So musasa next two kinds of da one for himself.
And the other one you pay attention to it.
Only for mentioned then now he makes the offer what to for our right to strength Allah but he realized I cannot fulfill my mission. I cannot do this alone. I need your company.
Shri Kofi Annan Emily and let him share my task y y k new set behavior Kathy? Whenever karaca kathira so that we may glorify You and praise you a lot more and more Muslims than realize I need to have righteous person I need to have the least side with me. I shall not do this alone. Allah Akbar. Allah gifted Moosa this wish and Musa fulfill this mission as you guys may know. So Pamela, how about brother give us some hints some points that we can tell this is a good friend. Now one of the things that I personally do where I get it from a hadith and Quran, two things I even get to use it whenever someone tries to propose to my daughters, even though they're still young, but I'm
preparing myself mentally. Number one, that person has to prefer on time.
A good friend has to prefer on time. Number two, that person had we asked the parents about him or her, they have to say they Mashallah they're great. They're absolutely amazing. So if I go to for example, for example, a guy comes from most of my daughter, and I asked the parents so Mashallah, how was your son with you? They say,
some of you guys make darker image. Then at that point, you see that this man is causing harm to the parents, you let go of them that's based in Auckland and Sydney in terms of the importance of respecting parents importance of paying federal on time. Now, it also lies a lot he says, at minimum, you are the mirror of the believer. So that believer is the mirror of the true believer, either fee if
that person sees a mistake, or a shortcoming in you, the true believer tells you know what shocked sister might be wearing your hijab and it shows up a little bit. A true friend of yours, will not be shy to tell you You know what, sister? Watch, I can see your neck make sure those guys around a true friend of yours asked you did you prefetcher today? Look what you're accusing me? No, no, no, a true friend will ask me to ensure your memory
is making sure you're you're working eight hours you're supposed to be working. Did you sign out when you actually left? Are you getting your exams you're supposed to do that advising the mirror of the other believer. This is a true friend. So don't be hurt. There's another quote by a person called Oscar Wilde. He did something similar to it. But in a somewhat in a rough way. He says true friends stab you in the front.
Two friends stab in the front. We say true friends actually wake you up. But they don't really stab you and hurt you. You have to advise in a very gentle and soft manner. Another quote by Arnold Laszlo, very nice one. He says a true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down. She only gets in your way as you're going down. So these were some points I want to mention about righteous friend May Allah grant all of us amongst people like them. Now, the other group evil filthy people that perhaps some of you have some names popping up perhaps people that all what they do is pull you away from the people that cause nothing but harm to you. People that you literally
see yourself actually changing and becoming a worse person. I'm coming so evil to my parents and friends. I'm actually dropping out of school what's going on with me so evil, they're destroying you. These people you let go on the spot on the spot. So late last time gives us a way to indicate them. There are many other hobbies or many other statements, but this one I want to focus on to tell you if you have someone like that, delete, unfollow, unsubscribe, so let's have a lot he was himself.
Wife and Elena Mujahedeen, every single one of my own that will be pardoned will be forgiven except those who are Mujahideen, the Sahaba said, who are Mujahideen? So what do you mean by that? He said we're in the middle mucha hierarchy and Yama Raja belay Yama from that category and trade is a person would do an evil act, a sinful act, a shameless act at night. And a wall has concealed that person cetera who no one knows about it. Then the next day, he says, you have
very high Yes, last night. You know what I did? I went to this website. I watched this video, as in this music clip. I did this I did that and he shares whatever Allah has concealed the battery and stood over abou behold, what used to be called reaction for Citroen lion.
You have a person like that you completely eliminate from your life. These people alone will never forget. How can you be with them? You should move away regardless of how trash talk to me. He may hear from them back but you gossip about you don't worry about it. will love him. I'm telling you this. And I just heard not too long before this helicopter someone and forgive me for this example. But it's true. It's a fact parents, please pay attention. youngsters. I know you already know this. Some people brag about adult video they watched last night while learning they shared that. And I'm telling you students that come to them. They told me the person grabbed the phone and showed me the
movie and the video watch last night. I'm on grade 910 1112 I flew me back here and they start sharing it like you know quiet watch last night for Lightroom story. So you got to be aware. And I know people the youngsters will hate this outdated because I love you.
Check their history
as you are and I'm sorry. I know. I know. You guys might not like you have to this telling your son and daughter can check your phone. If they hesitate for a second. There's something wrong.
There's something wrong wait hesitating to come up. Of course I was a bit of course we can check any time. But But how about this every Thursday? I'll come to you and give it to you. And how about this, you deal breaker breaker deal or promise with your children. You ask them to say we're lying, they will never delete their history.
Tell them that. Say, I know what I'll never check your phone except like once every once in a while. But I swear by Allah escala that you will never ever do your history.
And every time you check their phone with the history deleted, gives you a red flag. I'm not saying that accusing you guys. I'm telling you, the brothers and sisters will lie out of love. And then maybe there's consequences. They may never come again. But I'm willing to forsake disrespect of your benefit. So something to comprehend.
Your pop quiz, the teacher hates you and He gives you a pop quiz No, a pop quiz and hand like magic. Why? So you can always make sure you're studying, right? So you always be conscious and inshallah you will thank me for this. What do you think your parents are checking on you as you get older, and hopefully you think them from now.
So this is one of the ways to know I have a friend of mine. If I tell you a personal story. I was a very shy person in high school very shy, I was a junior in high school, I can't talk to girls, not because of religious reasons only because I never got to because I lived in Saudi Arabia. And then I moved here in high school. So there was this friend of mine, who we spoke the same language, same thoughts of his almost same country. So he said, you know, let's hang out together, because he's the only friend around me that was incorrect thinking. So then what he used to do is that he was a very handsome guy, whenever he used to go, he would like whistle, like all the old school stuff. And
actually girls would come to him and they realize what I'm doing is wrong. But the pressure, the peer pressure that wasn't High School many years ago, kept me like, you know what, I'll be lonely without having this friend, nor understand me. Second Language people make fun of me, and will be bored at home, who will I go to the mall with who I hang out with. So I said let's continue with him, but I will not participate.
He does not satisfy with whatever results were at the end, I knew what was his intention. His intention was to have a girlfriend to be to commit Zina. And I'll tell you how. All of a sudden we go to Tim Hortons or timmies It used to be like cool, we go to timmies and then he sits with me the same table buys me some coffee. Then there were two girls on the side but I never really paid attention to these girls. That guy stands up goes and talks to these two girls. And then he leaves the store and they come and sit on the same table as mine. It was so cold it was freezing. So I was wearing gloves I took them off and put them on the table and I saw the girls coming to sit with me
and they say Hey cutie pay this and that and all that and I've never talked to a girl before in the clinic this whole like a way of like love and so on. So it is I jumped off the table and I ran ran. They know what they called me Forgive me for any of you guys know Forgive me These are you gay? What's wrong with you? Like two girls walking right like coming right to your table running away. And it just ran away and it went out in the snow and so on. You know what I got so irritated and angry. You know I got so upset because I forgot my gloves on the table.
But also that man was about to make me fall into Xena. Imagine I responded back, said yes, thank you for coming and being sweet and flirt around, then she hangs out with me I could have had a child from her and have no idea what she probably would have prepared our house you don't have to do is we thank Allah The one who protected me from this. And at that point this person, so he has a green name and give him a second chance he came in, give him a second set, he was about to make a phone dinner, you can use the support of a friend to help them out, but you never go alone with them. The third category and last category in the fourth segment, is those are 50 which is the most people
that I think that are around those people that are like YouTube. What do you mean, YouTube, when you watch good videos, what happens in the recommendation list will give you good good videos. And if you watch bad videos, they will recommend to you back for the videos. So the friends I'm talking about are those when you go doing something good. Let's go to them, it should go to the piano. And when something bad happens is go to the club, please do this. People that are like that will have like like here and there jumping around. There are many of them. Many of them will lie there was one friend of mine in university and he never went to a club and he from a religious family without
mentioning names University of Windsor. And he said you know I really want to go to the club with my friends and go to the disco DJ and I see the stuff and dance. But I promise I will not drink. I'm like What are you talking about? So please, please don't go so bad. I'm like what you begging me? He begged me not to tell his parents. I said out of love. I will tell your parents will lie loudly in the library. He fell on his knees begging me not to tell his parents to do whatever the other friends were telling him come with us. Don't worry, you won't drink cool drink don't drink you know, how about you drive? A lot when we go home you drive. She said Okay, you know what y'all go. He's so
excited. And to friends. I see them laughing at him mocking him behind his back backbiting. Look at this idiot look at this person. Definitely 5050 Well, I maintain people to dementia together and now he's going to The Club. He said I'm talking about guys or whatever I'm saying. So then that person goes to the club. Lo and behold, he drinks gets drunk. The friends take pictures of him the post on Facebook that same night
and that person is exposed. These people would did that XML to don't even negotiate don't even get upset because when I say that people get irritated. Like no, give another chance. No, I don't give him another chance. No, no, no, no, I get one like YOLO you only live once right? Okay, I only have one or another right? So move away from me. But I will come advise you when I have a good friends with us to advise you, the other friend who was miscue with taking pictures off and make fun of this person, you can talk to him, advise him, look what happened to you. I told you, I told you to listen to them, etc. to these 50 people. Another example I'm telling you two stories about people in our
And I see a sister writing a comment. She says it's a girls party, right? But also there's our with the girls as well. You can go naked, you can go like I mean, ministry can show you a copy of phi and things are going to take a skirt right? So she says I bought a really, really, really short dress. And I'm a little shy to wear and the party just knew girls that put comments like that or wherever guys, right? Just saying whatever you feel. Another girl comes in in the comments that I'm not sure whether I should wear it or not. She can see the 5050 right, the other girl comes with the evil ones a little bit perhaps. She says Oh, don't worry about it. I already bought a short skirt. And you
know what we can don't feel strange about it. Don't feel weird about it. And I'm wearing it. The next comment the response from the first one. She said Oh, thank you so much. Now you made me feel comfortable wearing it. You see how evil a bad friend can do. You see how evil that is? These people need to watch out. And now 100 law were done. In conclusion, use this opportunity this talk. This video is ever watching the to make a decision in your life, that I'm going to take this step to do the three things that we mentioned at the beginning. And we're going to skip the fourth one. The fourth thing, the problem that we mentioned is that many people are not aware of the importance of
friends, whether they're good or bad. I hope I hope during this lecture we cleared this out right?
Number one Have you have good friends, thank Allah for them. Be thankful and hamdulillah being a board member is such a blessing. Being in the midst of such a blessing. Being in will is a blessing. No blessing is beyond this learning loss penalty at the moment we're done. Bismillah Allah will say
she took me a minute to allow me allow me to allow maximum. Number two had you not have good friends Mikela like mousseline, salam, O Allah give me a friend that will help me get closer to you. Number three and last and the problem that we mentioned
is that you need to now change your attitude to those evil friends to his bad friends. bad influence will lie. Don't be shy to start unfollowing on Twitter, unliking on Facebook and subscribing on YouTube, deleting their contact from their phone, completely isolating yourself from them. I'm telling you it will be painful.
I'm telling you from experience telling you from the Quran, from the Sunnah from the whatever Allah and the Prophet has said in the statements from Muslims and Muslims, it will be painful, you'll be backstabbed you'll be gossiped about people trash talk about you make fun of you, or you know, you're all holy, you're all righteous. And amongst the conclusion, and we'll end with this event, which is some ayat from the Quran, so we'll end with this. Allah subhanaw taala mentioned in the Quran
that there are a group of people in general
there'll be enjoying the gardens and the mansions and the beauty and the vehicles and powers in the food buffet. supervised by Allah subhana wa tada the chef is probably an angel. Something unbelieving never thought about he never jumped about and we'll be discussing with one another about a friend whom they had Indonesia and they will they will tell one another and they ask the last parent that says in the Quran for Aqua Bella Babu Mara body
fat they're asking one another Kala ko Ito Minh home in Nika. Nellie Corinne I used to have a friend in dunya I don't see in here. Where is he at?
What's what kind of friend are you talking about? Allah says yaku in a liminal You must not do either. mitzner work on
Ivana either mitzner work on
a bomb and in London. That friend used to mock him and mark the religion and make jokes about a piece to tell them. Are we really gonna die and be resurrected? And the Bible go to jahannam and the goodwill corrigenda blah blah blah you kidding me? A lot really watching us? Do no harm. Oh, I smoked a pack of cigarettes. Oh, Paul happened to me. cracking jokes, etc. See the quiz that man that he says
on your own? Check him out. You know, ask Allah to let us see where that person is. No one volunteered. Then he went for Allah and Allah like open the window. And then he saw his friend Where was he at?
He's somewhere for houfy Sawa ilja him his son burning and hellfire. You know what's the first thing he will say? The first thing that went into it was say call to LA he in key territory, Dean. Oh my god, I was so close to be with you. I was so close to accept the invitation to the club. Oh my god, I was so close to take your advice in accepting their friend on Facebook I handed in law and I want to fall into Xena and follow your footsteps and God agenda.
Today, I was so close to accept the invitation and the request is given to me. We seek a loss forgiveness from it. We take a loss protection from it. I was so close to attend this party. I was so close to respond to requests when we're playing basketball. My phone rang I thought it was my mom and he said bro just play the game finish the game then you call your mom back I was so close to listen to your answer my mom, I was so close. In guitarra to Dean races when I will be voting for Allah blessing to me during our fell in the same trap as is I would have been in jahannam as her or whatever she he or she may be, then you know what's so amazing, the last two verses or so. And so
the fact about the story that that person says the most beautiful thing, the two things he or she appreciates the most the one that Jenna forgot about the beauty of gentle about the palm trees about the fruits about the food the mentioned the spouse and the vehicles and the angels and the good friends. He says
we will never die again. Like Like we will not go through death and all that stuff. He already knows you will never die in
the morning, and we will never be punished like him. So the one thing I appreciated, I will not die again. Number two is I will never be punished like him. He says in
a loving this is indeed indeed the greatest victory
is not dying again. I'm not going to judge them for how painful it was. And for how painful that scene was to him. He thanked enough of a victory that I'm away from a bad friend away from such location and hamdulillah among righteous people. Now, during my time in general, I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to bless you all for spending the time learning about this. I asked a lot of pilot data to bless you to give directions friends asked you and asked a lot of panel data to help you and assist you in now stepping away from those that are pulling you to Johanna pulling into that which is evil is that Kamala Harris Monica la Zico, Santa Monica Monica Monica