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The speakers in this segment of a Islam curriculum emphasize the importance of understanding the first principle, avoiding confusion and misunderstandings with answers to questions, dressing respectfully, avoiding sexual behavior, and being the mother or father of their children. They also discuss the negative impact of slavery on women and the need for acceptance and motivation in their daily lives, and provide examples of how it affects employees. The curriculum ends with a recap of the agenda.

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Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem a kondalilla, that has begin the general principles with regard to answering questions by non Muslims about Islam.

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These are principles which I feel every Muslim need to always keep in the back of their mind when answering any questions for any person about yourself.

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And the first principle is to remain with good character, and to keep good character and good conduct at all times. This is particularly important when dealing with the questions by non Muslims about Islam. Because many times the person asking you the question might not be polite, they might not have good character. And it is very important for you in your response to respond in a way, which is kind understanding and patient. Because if you lose your temper, then you have lost the person who you're doing our to. So many times they will ask a question using such words which we regard as blasphemous and poofer. But we need to remember that we are dealing with a non Muslim

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who does not understand Islam.

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And accordingly,

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we need to be patient.

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Sorry about that.

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So the first principle is that of patience and understanding when dealing with non Muslims.

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The second principle

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is to understand the question, and why he or see he or she is asking that specific question.

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hopefully, that will sort out any voice prediction problems.

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So we're discussing point number two. Point number two,

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is that you need to understand the questioner and why he or she is asking the question. So what I mean by this is that many times, we just go directly into the question, and give it a very simple and basic answer, not realizing the reason why the person asked the question. For example,

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recently, I attended a lecture by a well known student of knowledge in which a person raised the question, does Islam allow slavery? And the student of knowledge, he replied, very flatly and openly? Yes, it does. Just say that he said, Yes, it does. And he continued to the next question. Now, the problem with this is that the person who was asking that Christian was asking a question for a reason. And the person who was answering the question, did not understand the reason why he was asking it. He just answered in a basic manner, with the answer, yes.

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This person was asking the question, because in his mind, slavery, something bad. And his understanding of slavery is a man with a work another man with handcuffs, and oppression and torture. This is what he's thinking. So when the student answered, Yes, it allows slavery, he now imagined Islam to allow you to torture people, and to work them and to do this sort of thing. So it is very important that when somebody asks you a question, before you answer the question, you need to first think to yourself, why did this person asked me this question? You need to ask yourself why? Once you understand why, then you go ahead and find the correct answer to deal with that

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person's question.

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Number three, don't always assume that the question itself is correct. This is a very important point.

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Too often, when we ask the question, we go on the defensive and we start to defend it. Not even talking to ourselves. Is this correct in the first place? Is

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This assumption they are making true.

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So for example, if somebody had to ask you, why does Islam allow terrorism?

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And now you go on the defense defending the act of terrorism,

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what you should first stop and think to yourself, does Islam allow terrorism? No, it doesn't. So this person has a misunderstanding. Let's meet him about that and find out what is his misunderstanding? Where does it come from and how we can clear it up. So it is very important that you do not just jump into answering every question we are asked, we need to see if this question is a valid question or not, and then adjust the situation accordingly.

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Number three, depending on who you're speaking to, you will need to adjust the way you word yourself. So for example,

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when speaking to a scientist, the answers you give will be different from an answer you might give to a taxi driver. You want to give them the same message, but the way you word the message will be on their level of understanding. And the professor level user himself, he was like this, when he was people who were simple in nature, he would give them the message in a very simple manner. And when he was with people who liked intellectual discussions, he will go into long discussions with them. So how you word your answer depends on your audience. You can't have one blanket answer with the exact same wording, which you give to everyone. It might be too high level for some people are too

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low level for somebody else, or not suitable to the person's culture or environment. So we need to use wisdom in wording our answers.

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And the final and main point for the general principles is that you should always bring it back to talking.

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The purpose of Dawa is to bring non Muslims to understand that there is no god except Allah. And Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah. Too often in our conversations, we forget about this.

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Too often, we forget about this, and then what happens? We end up

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Okay, I think the problem with the sound is from some of the students I do, everybody can hear me only one or two students are having a problem. That means that the problem is on site of your internet connection. Okay.

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Anyway, I switch the video off now. So even those of you who have a slower internet connection should be able to get in trouble.

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Okay, so getting back to the topic, point number five. Too often, when we are discussing and answering these questions, we forget the purpose of our and we end up having long philosophical debates about Islamic law and about women's rights and about many other issues. But in the process, we never conveyed to that person, the belief in La Ilaha Illa. We never convert conveyed to the person, you know, the truthfulness of the Prophet Muhammad's message. So it is very important that whatever topic you're discussing, you take it back to the heat and to the Shahada, and you link it back to Allah and His Messenger sallallahu sallam, so that the the, the main part of the Dawa gets

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I can give you a personal mistake, which I made in this regard. When I was

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just starting to do Dawa in my teenage years when I was 16 years old, I had a debate with an atheist about the issue of music for three days.

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For three days, we debated the issue of music.

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And I asked one of the local scholars

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How do you convince atheists about the prohibition of music? And he simply looked at me and said, You should first convince him about the existence of Allah.

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And that is when I realized my mistake, I had been so sidetracked into discussing this contemporary issue, that I forgotten the purpose of the dour. And so, instead of calling this person towards tawheed, we are discussing an issue which, you know, even Muslims discuss amongst each other. It's not the issue, which will determine whether he's going to go back to Hellfire forever or not. So it's very important to always

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Take things back to dog eat and take things back to La ilaha illAllah Muhammad.

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And so these are the principles which I wanted to convey with to you, as always keep in mind when answering the questions by non Muslims about Islam. And now we will go into the main portion of this seminar, the most important part which everybody was waiting for, how to answer the common questions about Islam regarding money.

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So before we do that, I want to ask a question. There are a lot of misconceptions about Muslims and the treatment of woman.

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Why do you think they are these misconceptions?

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Is it primarily because of the media? Or is it more because of us and our not practicing Islam?

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Some people say it's a combination of both. Well, I see if Muslims Practice, practice Islam properly, there will be nothing there for the media to misrepresent.

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That is the key. That is the main problem. Because there are so many Muslims out there who are not practicing Islam properly. There is enough juicy stories for the media to grab and to sensationalize, and to show Islam in a negative light. If Muslims had to be role models of Islam, the media won't have any stories to grasp and to show Islam in negative light.

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And so the issue I'm going to discuss today, you will notice that many of them leave alone the non Muslims, many of them the Muslim themselves don't be leaving. For example, we will discuss the issue of

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whether hijab or precious oppression is oppression to women or not. Now how can a Muslim convince non Muslims that he jabbed is not oppressive? If she herself finds the hijab of herself, it doesn't mean

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Likewise, the issue of polygamy, if a Muslim herself is unable to accept polygamy as part of the religion, how can you convey to other non Muslims the wisdom behind it and so, it is very important for us as believers, that first and foremost we understand our religion, we internalize it, we have firm faith and conviction ated everything is good, and you become role models of it.

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If we all do this, can many of the misconceptions of Islam will be cleared up again there will always be those shades that will try to lead people astray. But many of the misconceptions can be cleared up just by the Muslims coming on to the correct understanding of the need.

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So the issues we are going to discuss today and I.

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The first is how to explain to a non Muslim about hijab and niqab

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which they view as oppressive. The second is a very common question. The Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu, the Islam married Ayesha radula, and her when she was nine years old. And this is something that they have a major problem with. So how do we respond to this? The third question,

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why do you wish the woman the guardians of Bali or Mahara? Whether it's for getting married or for traveling? Why does a woman need a guardian? This is something which many non Muslims find oppressive.

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Number four, why did the woman inherit half the amount of men? And number five linked to that? Why are the witnessing of two women equal to the witnessing of one man? The question number six, again, really common Christian? Why are not Muslim men allowed to beat their wives? That is the question that stops us. Number seven. Why does Islam oppress women by giving the power of divorce entirely to the men and making it so easy for men to divorce their wives? Number eight, why do Muslim woman have so many children? Why don't Muslims practice contraception or have abortions? These are questions which come up very often. And number nine, the most common question with regards to women. Why am

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Muslim men allowed for wives and Muslim woman only allowed one husband? So these are the nine questions that we will go through one by one for the remainder of today's session in childhood.

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One of the principles you need to know to answer these questions is that many times the person asking the question the reason that he

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not understand that she did not understand is because of perception. We come from a different culture, a different background, he never looked at things the way we look at it. They don't think of things that we we think of it. As a result, they do not see the good that we see. And so in order to be able to answer them, and to bring them on to the correct understanding of this issue, we need to be able to relate to them see things from their perspective, and they bring them over into our perspective.

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And that takes us to the first issue of hijab and nica

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to the average non Muslim who is brought up in a western country and to the average Muslim

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girl was brought up without any Islamic upbringing, the hijab and niqab seem oppressive, they are used and accustomed to just seeing how they please and just seeing for sure.

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And so when they see a woman, with everything covered up, immediately feel sorry for that woman and think that this is something which her husband or a father forced upon.

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So the first point, we need to get them to understand about the hijab and niqab is that majority, again, not all, but majority of the Muslim woman who wear the hijab, or wear the niqab. They wear it out of obedience to God, not to any person, many attempt their own husband or father might not want them to wait. But they do it to please the Creator. And this is again, how you take the topic back to Allah. And you talk about the heat and the purpose of life that we were created to obey our Creator. And this is one of the laws he has revealed. And so women do this out of obedience to Him happily.

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And there is wisdom behind it.

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And of course, if you're of the opinion that niqab is not compulsory, again, this difference of opinion, the I am of the opinion that it's not compulsory, it is recommended as sooner, then you should tell the non Muslims that you know, I don't regard we don't regard we're covering the face as compulsory. Some people do the guardians compulsory and the weight of choice. And we do not the guardians compulsory, and we still made out of choice. It is something we do because we choose to do it and it makes us feel comfortable. So this question, particularly It is important for a woman to answer more than a man. Because if a man is answering this question, people will think that Oh, he's

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just justifying his oppression of his wife. But if his wife herself speaks up and answers it, again, it will make people realize that the woman are doing it out of your own world.

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And he job is really a small part of a bigger concept in Islam, a concept which has become lost in modern society, the concept of modesty and dressing respectfully.

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If you go back about 100 years, even in Western society, woman would dress modestly and respectfully. And any woman who would go out to the house with a skin showing was regarded as someone who is disrespecting herself. This same concept still exists in Islam. We are the same humans that we always have been. And so we believe in these concepts of modesty and respect. A Muslim woman

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is someone who wants to be respected by society, she does not want to be icandy. She does not want men to be looking at her and flirting with her. If a man looks at her, he must look at her with respect, not look at her as something to eye. And these are the reasons why Muslim woman wear the hijab.

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It is equally important to tell the non Muslims that hijab is not only for women in Islam, just like the laws for Egypt for woman, there are also laws for Egypt for men.

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And unfortunately, we find that many of our Muslim don't even notice. Now the part of the body that a woman has to cover more than the parts of a body the demand has to cover simply because men are visual creatures, and they are incited more by the sight of a woman than a woman is by the sight of a man. So a man's head is not always necessarily something a woman is attracted to. not normal. Okay, some Okay, there are exceptions, but a woman's hair. You notice women who don't wear scarf or hijab, they are always styling up the hair doing up the hair because they know it's attractive to me. So a man's body has less parts which women find physically attractive in the same way that men

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do towards a woman. Nonetheless, men are also told to dress modestly, what is between the navel and the knees must be covered with loose

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garments, not a tight fitting jeans or sweatpants. loose fitting garments. Men are not allowed to wear silk, or jewelry, gold or silver jewelry. Men are told to wear the pants above the ankles of humanity.

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Men are commanded in Islam to grow their beards.

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All of this constitutes a type of hijab for men, so that the Muslim man does not leave his house, wearing short pants, or a tight fitting t shirt,

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with gold jewelry on his hands, and a clean shaven face. Furthermore, even those parts of a man's body, which he is allowed to expose, he still has to dress in a modest manner, meaning a man is allowed to his chest is not older, but still islamically. If a man is wearing a tight fitting t shirt, to attract a woman, it is haram, because you are trying to attract the opposite sex, it's against modesty. So you need to explain to them that the hijab works both ways for the men and for the woman, they are just coats. And more important, it just goes with that there is the lowering of the gaze, and treating people with respect, and not flirting with people. All these things go

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together towards a bigger concept. That concept is the concept of modesty. And so that is how we answer the question of hijab. And again, you can go into a lot more details. I'm sure many of you might have more answers to this topic.

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The next question is one which we receive very, very often.

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This is the question

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of how could the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mellie

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someone who is nine years old. Again, we go back to culture. And we understand that in modern culture, we know people get married very late. And we know that also, marriage is discouraged amongst many people.

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we find that

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in modern culture, people are not ready for marriage until they are in their late 20s or early 30s. And some people not even ready for marriage to the idea late 30s. So for a person who only seems ready for marriage, when he's 35 years old, the idea of a nine year old girl getting married, seems preposterous. It's something they can't understand. She's just a child in the eyes.

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And so we need to take them back and make him understand that you are thinking about a nine year old from the 21st century.

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We need to go back historically. And look at the nine year olds of the seventh century. What was the culture like there? What was the norms there? What were people like that. And back then you will find it was normal. This was not an exceptional case. It was not that the average person will get married when they were 13 or 14. Oh, the average person who get married when they were 10 or 11, or 15. That was a normal society at that time. It wasn't something exceptional, it Ayesha Regina, one heart and the prophet SAW Islam that it was the norm, even amongst the non Muslims. That's why none of the non Muslims of that time, made it an issue. Dinner, we went back and I learned about it. It

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was something that was part of the society. If you go back in that time, people mature and were ready for marriage at a much younger age, did not have the distractions that we have today. Where people today are spoiled. They are told they are now teenagers, they have no responsibilities. And so they mature very late in life, no, back in the time of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. People were trained for marriage from the time division and violence and many of them were ready by the age of nine by the age of 12. Again, if you look at the other Sahaba he also got married at various ages. So this is something which we need to approach from a historical perspective. And we need to explain

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that the is really in even in modern society, there is no set definition of what age a person you can marry. What is illegal in one country for marriage is regarded as legal in another country. Some countries don't allow you to get married younger than 18. Other countries have 16 other countries have 15. Who sets these laws. These are all made up by people. Islam comes with a very natural law. When someone is physically mature and mentally mature and ready for marriage. They can get met.

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No. And I shadowed Yolanda. She was really at a very young age. And we know this, we know this from the effects of the marriage on her life. Because if this marriage was as many of the non Muslims claimed to be pedophilia, and to be something horrible, a man taking advantage of a child, then I sure would have grown up, to be traumatized to be, you know, physically mentally disturbed to hate Islam. You know, this is what happened, this is the result of such a relationship. But we find that is not the case. Rather, it was the opposite.

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It was the opposite of this, when I show Roger law and have grew up

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after the prophets that allowed you to though, passed away, she never married again. And she loved him, he passed away in her arms.

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In her house, he loved each other. She was the one who taught his religion to the world, one of the greatest scholars in the history of this world. And again, yeah, you bring the point today towards them, that how many woman Christian or Jewish woman back in the seventh century scholars,

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he can't think of any, but I share. Our religion is dependent on Asia, with its Tafseer of fake or Hadees, or any field of Islamic studies with dependent Ayesha, she was a scholar. Is this the result of something badly paedophilia? Or is this the result of a happy marriage of two mature people? So I shall Rajan has life and the results of the marriage upon a life of proof that this was not as they think it is. This was a normal marriage better than a normal marriage. This was the best of marriages in the sense that the Sahaba said this. And the Sidney Malik said that they did not know what was love until they saw Ayesha. And

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when you study her life, you see the life of a woman who mature at the young age, who became a leader, a scholar, even the leader of an army at one point, and someone who was a loving wife, and a loving mother to the oma. And so we need to bring this topic from this angle and explain to them from this perspective. And inshallah, once they understand that this is the different times different situation people mature differently, yet they will realize that this was not an issue.

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The third issue deals with the issue of guardians are the one

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linked to this is another issue there is why do we Muslims, segregate men and women?

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Why in the masjid? Do the men and woman have separate areas for prayer?

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Likewise, why in a,

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in a lecture, many women don't sit next to each other. Because remember, they are accustomed going to church and sitting next to you, maybe your

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best friend's wife, or your best friend's husband, if you're leading, they'll sit right next to you and they are completely accustomed to this. So for people from this culture, it is completely foreign for them to see people so segregated. Okay. And then the idea on top of that, that you cannot be alone would not Mohammed, you have to have a one he would you you have to have a guardian with you. And you can't get married without your father's permission. And you can travel out to family, a male family member with you, these are things which modern culture people who are part of a modern culture, they perceive it to be oppressive. In reality, it is the other way around.

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today because of modern culture,

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because of modern culture today, we find that

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the the world is become unsafe over.

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If you look at the rape statistics, and the harassment statistics of the world, it is scary. It is very scary. And very is it is are these statistics taking place in in areas where women are segregated with a job where people wouldn't have mushrooms, or is this taking place in the modern world. This is the modern word. This is the modern lifestyle because in the word lifestyle, when a woman grows up, she doesn't have anything to do with appearance anymore. She's living her own life, living by herself in her own apartment in another city or country. And furthermore, not only she living in another city or another country, but she is going to work in an environment where she

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might be the only woman surrounded by men, and she's going veiling the most high quality and attractive of clothing.

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And then they wonder why is there harassment. So Islam came to logically deal with all of these problems. Islam came very simply to

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restore society and to reform society. So we take them back here to a topic which many Muslims themselves are not aware of the maqasid, Sharia the higher objectives of Islamic law. When you look at the higher objectives of Islamic law, you will learn that all of the laws of Islam revolve around preserving five things.

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The laws revolve around preserving our belief, our demand, our lives, our intellect, our family, and our money, our economy. These are the five things behind which every single law of Islam evolves. One of those fight is what preserving the family.

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And this is the opposite of modern society. In modern society, there has been a breakdown of the family structure. People don't talk to each other anymore. Divorce is rampant. You know, sex also outside of marriages is rampant, illegitimate children has become rampant This is become modern society, there is normal family, you will find many people who don't know who the parties are. How can you have a normal family life you don't know who the father is up.

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So the issue of The Guardian in the bathroom is there to keep the family together. Islam tells men that you are responsible.

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Allah has given you physical strength that one might not have, he has given you monetary strength, you are responsible, you are not allowed to abuse it, you have to use it to care for all the women in your life, your mother, your sister, your daughters, they are all under your care, not under your thumb or under your roof, but under your care. And this is what makes the Muslim family structures who some Muslims who live according to Islamic law, have the most stable families and the most stable upbringings.

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So we find, for example,

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one of the scholars evening assure in his book McAfee the Sharia, he explains on this issue of a guardian, he said, one of the beautiful things about Islam, saying that we must have a macro is that it separates marriage from Xena. Because in marriage, the menu or wood has to be approved up by a father.

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So your father is not going to approve of something bad, he's only going to approve of something that is the norm. While with Xena, there is no

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Guardian involved, everything's happening behind your parents back. It brings shame to you shame to your family, and the guy who would could be bad for you. So therefore, you know, having a macro is something which is there to make the world a safer place for a woman can live their lives without worrying about being harassed. Nobody's going to harass a woman within a job whether one of her family, family members wherever she lives, nobody's going to harass a woman in this type of society with a no even after she married her father's could later on in life. And it needs to be noted, in case they ask the question, what about if her parents abuser abused their right of being a guardian,

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they don't let her marry anyone?

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Well, we say in this case, she the parents lose the authority of being the mother and the father loses the authority of being her guardian and stopping her from getting value. Because in Islam, we have a principle called consequences. That when something good is used for oppression, it becomes prohibited. So when a man uses his authority over a woman to oppress her, he loses that authority in Islam.

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Okay, and we'll come to that again later when we discuss the issue of divorce. So when a father uses his authority of stopping his wife, his daughter from getting married, to abuse that and to stop her from ever getting married, the Muslim judge can come in and say that he no longer has authority over his daughter because he was abusing it and the judge becomes the maharam instead, or maybe her brother or uncle, someone who is reliable. So, they are these laws there are the laws are there to protect women, and if they are abuse against women, other laws coming to protect a woman. So all of these laws are there for the protection of women and to keep them safe, nice and free society.

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So this is not for oppression, this is the opposite of oppression.

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Moving on to question number four, and sadly, we are so many Muslims today who are trying to deny this even though it is something

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that you

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issue of a woman inheriting half the amount of

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non Muslims have been saying that this is oppressive? How can Muslims do this? And sadly, this has gotten into the minds of many Muslims. And today young Muslim woman say I don't care what Islam says I want equal share to my brother, which is good for this is to deny, and to see that you don't care what the staff says you want to the opposite of what Allah has commanded in this manner. And to deny the laws of Islam in this manner can become a form of Kufa. Again, we've not seen individually the gospel, but you need to be careful of their words.

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So how do we explain the issue of women inheriting half the amount of men?

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Well, the first point you need to bring is again, you throw it back at them, that for the past 1400 years, Islam has allowed women as sin actually given woman rights to inheritance, they have a set share in the inheritance, be the mother, or the daughter, or the wife, or in some cases, the sister, they have a set share of inheritance.

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1000 years ago, did Christian woman having evidence the other one only have inheritance? In fact, if we were doing this course 1000 years ago, the question would have been, why does Islam allow me to inherit, that should be a man's only effect? Because that's how the non Muslim society was back then. Back then the question was the opposite way around.

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That then they found it oppressive to men and woman actually has a share of inheritance.

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And if only oppressive as well, why they were only allowed for wives, because the non Muslims in those days had 20 wives and 10 wives. But today it has become the other way around. So you truly back at them and explain Islam give woman set shares and rights through inheritance long before any other society, he had a right over the own money, nobody can tell them what to do with their own money. They don't have to spend your anybody besides themselves, and they have set shares of inheritance. This was way ahead of its time.

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Now, can you move on and explain to them that it is a misconception that women always receive half the amount of men. This is a misconception. This is only the specific case of brothers and sisters inheriting together, when it is the deceased person's sons and daughters, or his brothers and sisters. That is the only case where the woman get half the inheritance of the men.

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For example, if you look at your mother and father, your mother and father both get one sixth of your inheritance, you know, they get equal share to each other. So how is that woman getting half the share of men, they get equal shares. If you left behind, you know of your father, your mother, and one daughter, your one daughter gets half of the inheritance according to Islamic law, half of the inheritance she gets, that's more than the father's getting. So your daughter will get more inheritance than your father in that situation. So yeah, a woman is getting more than a man. So it's not set, it's not set, that woman always receive half the inheritance of men. That is only when a

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man when inheritance is going to brothers and sisters together. In that case, the brothers get double the fortunes of the sisters. Why? Because they are the providers. It is now the duty if the Father has passed away, it is now the duty to look after their systems. So if the man has to look after his mother, and his wife, and his

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if you manage to look after his mother, and his wife, and his sons, and his daughters and his sisters, and his sister doesn't have to pay for anyone besides herself, not even for myself, actually, because the brother is paying, you know, is it just to give them equal money. It's not just so out of justice. Islam says that this in this situation, the men get double the share of the woman. Why? So that they can support them. And they can support their families and the woman whenever they get pulled into their pockets, and they can do what they want with it. So in reality, it's a win win situation for women, and the men are the ones who end up with less money. In fact,

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many times if a man inherits nothing, none of which is winning. It all goes in spending on others, where the woman it all sits in a bank account and he grows. So this is the opposite of what they perceive.

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Again, let link to that is the topic of the witnessing. That is the witnessing of

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two women equal to one man, why does Islam say this? And again, if you have any questions what I've said so far, I'll save it for the end of the program. Okay, after I finished all nine

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questions and answers for my site, give me We'll go into an extended q&a inshallah for as long as we need to, like you said, we can go

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For maximum maximum two hours today, so save your questions for the end inshallah. So the issue of the witnessing, the first thing we need to bring to the attention is that this is not always the case, that a woman's in witness is equal to that of two woman's worth is equal to that of one man. Because there are situations where a witness or one man equal to the witness or one woman, and they are situations where the witness of two men is equal to the witness of one woman.

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So, particularly with regards to business, and numbers, and calculations, in these type of areas, the witness of two woman is equal to the witness of one man, Allah says that the woman can remind each other why, because this is primarily in Islam, this is viewed as primarily the man's view.

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If you look at the family structure of Islam, it is generally the men who are involved in business. And it is generally men who are more good at remembering exact numbers and calculations. And as a result, Islam has said in these situations, if they are female witnesses, there should be two witnesses to me to one main witness why, because this is the field which Islam regards as a predominantly male.

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If you look at areas which Islam regard as predominantly a female theme, for example, the issue of nursing, by nursing, we mean, for example, if a man and woman wants to get married, and our lady comes along and says, you cannot get married, because I breastfed both of you, when your children should that makes your bathrooms. Okay? Now she needs to produce witnesses, that she breastfed both of them in this situation.

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If she brings one female witness, it is enough. But if she brings male witnesses, she has to be two men. Why? Because this is a woman's field. Know, the issue of breastfeeding is a field where women will remember better, and women are more likely to witness internet. So you're the law is the opposite for that of business. So it's not something which is said across the board. It depends on what they are witnessing, the judge will look at what is being witnessed. Is it a male, female? Or is it a female field? Or is it something where they are both equal? And accordingly, you know, the issue will be raised whether two women are equal to one man or two men equal to one woman or both.

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So this is not something of Islam oppressing woman, but it's something of Islam, looking at the context, and who is more suitable to be a witness for context.

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Okay, moving on,

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to the issue of beatings,

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the issue of beatings and sadly

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the reason why many non Muslims rethink Islam gives me the right to beat their wives. Because in reality, a lot of Muslim men beat their wife. No, this is something completely wrong.

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Islam prohibits beatings, okay, for a man to beat up his wife as we see nowadays with a woman broke up late, or she burned the food or she burned his clothes when I need you know, these sort of things. For a woman for man to beat his wife is completely haha.

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And in situations, if he if he beats or she can go to the court and get a divorce, you can get the marriage and out and broken up.

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Because he has no right to do this.

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These beatings are not part of Islam.

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But then they will see but all but your ad has a verse, which is part two removal now.

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For the reboot, not so big.

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We see you're taking one word out of reverse.

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Firstly the word is taraba which is hit not beat, big difference between hitting beat, hit is once beating is multiple hits can be light beating a severe. So just translating dorba the verb Dada as beating is not correct. Each property translation will be hit. Furthermore, this is has a context diverse is that if your wife is guilty of new shoes, the Arabic word is no shoes. And scholars have default shoes. But when we are going to work with non Muslims, and the one which I hold to is it refers to a woman who is guilty of doing immoral acts

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or not wanting to keep the marriage together and to be part of the to make the marriage work in these situations, Islam says you know, speak to her if he doesn't

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Listen, in, you know, stop sharing the bed together, you know, and if she doesn't listen, as a last resort to try and stop the knowledge on breaking and to stop her, from divorcing you over the reason he took the hit over here, the scholars have differed on his exact definition. But they all agree you cannot physically hurt or loser. It's something very light, which, you know, some say it's like a tap with a miswak. Or they say to tap on the shoulder, or they say to grabbing and shaking or anything, don't do it, you know, that sort of thing. To get her to realize that she did something wrong. It does not in any way, justify

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physical abuse and beating upon this is something which Islam prohibits. And we know this from the sooner we know this from the life of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam himself, the prophet slowly Islam never hit a woman in his life of talking about beating a proper hit. Okay, when you hurt a woman and deliver in pain, the prophet never did this. And he would reprimand people for doing this. He was he in 100 is called men who beat us animals, he said, the other animals, and he even

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said in the DC D are not the best Muslims. So this is something the prophets lawyers did not approve of, once one of the females have wanted to marry a man who would beat his wife and the Prophet told them don't marry him, because he has a habit of beating women. So if he did something good, why would he stop a woman from marrying a man for this reason. So this is not something which is part of our religion is a misconception, even amongst Muslims, which has been abused by many men. And we need to put an end to it.

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Another misconception which has been abused by many men, and even non Muslims, you know, ammunition against us, in the issue of divorce,

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the issue of divorce, you will find that

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and this is a common misconception among Muslims, that divorce is entirely demands, right? He can divorce his wife, whatever he wants, but she has no way out of the marriage. This is completely wrong in Islam, woman have rights to divorce just as much as men.

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In general, she has two types of divorce, which she can apply for what is with him, where she can give him money in exchange for divorce, that is called a cola.

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And she doesn't want to do that she doesn't have to get another option. The other option is that if she wants to, she can go to the judge or to the scholar or whoever is in charge in the area, and explain to them the medical situation, and they will break up the marriage for so a woman is not forced Muslim, to stay in a marriage where she's unhappy. And this unhappiness doesn't have to be something major, even in the time of the Prophet salallahu Salam woman enacted the rite of divorce over smaller issues, didn't a one woman came to the property lawyers have told him that my husband is a good Muslim. But if I stay with him, it's going to be a picnic for me, because I don't like the

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way he looks. So I want to divorce the profit slice of the broken marriage. No, she didn't like the way her husband looked. And she felt that it would be a fitna for her to live with him, because she's unhappy in the marriage. So a woman was unhappy in a marriage has every right to break the marriage in Islam. And there is no such thing, as we are seeing happening in societies today, where Muslim men can tell the wife that I'm not going to divorce you and I'm not going to live with you. And then she sits on the sideline for many years, thinking that she can't get out of it. No, Islam does not put a woman in that situation. That is ignorance and a misconception, she has the right to

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have the marriage. And

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furthermore, regarding the man's right to create a marriage with

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one word, Well, again, if they do this in the wrong manner, then

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they will be punished, they will be punished by Allah subhanaw taala that they have been given a responsibility.

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The ability to divorce your wife, using one word is a responsibility and a mother on you, that you as the man of the house, Allah has given you this

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trusting you not to abuse it, to only use it as a last resort when the marriage is not gonna work. So if Amanda uses it in vitro, if he's if he's not, nothing happens to me this work will be accountable in the afterlife for what he did, because Islam does not allow oppression. So this is how we answer the issue of divorce. And really, Muslims need to educate themselves on this issue. Because Because we are an educated on this issue. There are many Muslim men are pressing their wives over this game. As a result. This gives the non Muslims ammunition against us.

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given c stamp oppresses woman Islam does not ignorant metal.

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We have two more topics to cover, inshallah, I'm not going to rush through them and they require quite a detailed explanation. So we are going to go over an hour today. The first one and this one yeah, I get have to deal with a lot, because I'm 25 years old and I have four children. So I get to some Muslims as well. Why do Muslim woman have so many children? Why don't they practice contraception and why don't they have abortions? So tissues? What about why we have a lot of children. Number two, the issue of contraception. Number two, the issue of abortions, all three are links for all three also need to be dealt with separately. So we started with contraception and it's

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the most basic to deal with is the issue of fake contraception in Islam, even though there is a misconception that is not permissible amongst many Muslims. And they seem to be a misconception of the modern Muslim that is compulsory.

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Because the modern Muslims, if you don't space out your children, they will regard you as something Haram, which is completely wrong. Islam has made this a choice. It is a couple's choice, if they wish to have the children one after the other, of the wish to space out each other. So contraception in Islam is permissible with three conditions. Number one, it must be a temporary means not permanent. So for someone to tie the womb, or for men to have a safe tummy, and to do these sort of things to make sure that you permanently cannot have children anymore is completely her.

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Number two, the means of contraception should not be harmful. Because Islam teaches us not to harm ourselves for others. So we cannot do any means of contraception, which is haram.

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Which is harmful.

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Number three, the intention matters. And this is something a lot of Muslims don't realize intention records. The only valid intention for practicing contraception is to space out your children or for health medical reasons. Either the validating it is a medical reason, a health reason or to space out your children, then you can do this or you can't have children yet. You know, you just got married, you're not sure the marriage is gonna work. So you don't want to have children in the first year. You did that way you can do it. But for someone to practice contraception, saying they don't want any more children.

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You know, it's not that they medically can't have anymore, but they just don't want anymore. In this many of the scholars have said it's not permissible. Likewise, for someone to practice contraception say that they can't afford any more children and they are going to become poor if they have more children. This is not possible. This is something clear in the Quran. Allah says do not kill your children out of fear of poverty, Allah will provide for them and for you. So to do this thinking that having more children will make you poor is this belief in reverse that Allah will provide for you and forget every individual's risk from the time they are born to the time.

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So this is not a valid reason.

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Now, I said Islam forbids permanent contraception, but you need to tell them that, you know, it is a medical necessity, like woman's gonna die if she had any more children, then, you know, then it didn't become the sort of thing become permissible.

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bigger issue Yeah. As to why Muslims tend to have the most children around the world. And why

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we don't approve of contraception because even though it's permissible, it's makuu. It is something disliked because the progress has always been has told us in two separate Hadees one was Tanaka, Tanaka who de casa

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get married to have any children. The other Heidi's was married women who are married a woman

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who are fertile and loving, so that my alma will be mainly on the Day of Judgment. So the issue here is that Muslims want large families to increase the amount of righteous people in the world.

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If practicing Muslim families are having many children, and the disbelievers are not having a lot of children, what's going to be the nature of goodwill Islam to get people in the world within the next 20 or 30 years, the Muslims are outnumbered. So this is a means of increasing the amount of righteous people in the world

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and increasing the amount of Muslims and increasing the oma further we Muslims believe that Allah will not give you a child if you can't handle that right now you call me for low enough that you know Allah does not test anyone what they can do to Allah has given you children can get

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means that you can handle them. If Allah has not given you children in Allah knows what's best for you. So this is what we Muslims believe, and we believe allies are rogic hydrolyzate. In, he's the best of providers, so we don't worry about it from a financial perspective.

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Furthermore, we Muslims,

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really God children as a trust from above, and a blessing.

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Furthermore, the mother has a very high status in Islam. So you will find that in Islam, the mothers, the prophets, law, Islam has given a higher status than the Father. And we all know the famous Heidi's about this. And obviously, any Muslim woman, knowing that if once she becomes a mother, her status is higher than her husband's in the sight of the children. She wants to be a mother. And so this encourages them to have many children. And so they can enjoy the high status that comes with being the mother of the household, with the treated with a very high respect in the practice English level. And the last issue is one which is very simple to answer, really, from a

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moral perspective, even non Muslims who are morally sound, know that abortion is wrong. Abortion is murder. In Islam, it is murder. And

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for a Muslim to do, I have to have an abortion. Unless, for example, the mother's life is in danger, or woman was raped. These are exceptions. But in general, for Muslim to have an abortion is the same, like how the giant Arabs used to bury their daughters a life. It's the same concept. You are killing an innocent child and will be held responsible for 80 of judgment.

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So this is something which is law prohibits. And now on to the final topic, everybody's favorite topic of discussion. You can't go to any conference, or to any get together without just topic popping up. Why are Muslim men allowed for wives, a Muslim woman only allowed one husband?

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Well, women who are married, know why they only allowed one husband. They don't want another one husband is too much for any woman to handle. Okay. But women don't understand why their husbands would like to have more than one wife.

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So, again, we go back to the issue of family. Remember, we mentioned earlier that one of the five goals of Islamic law is to preserve the family? Well, Islam believes everybody should be part of a family. And when you look at the world, that there are more women than men from those men, you know, if for example, it's even as a Muslim, the Muslim woman, the Muslim men, and amongst them, many of the Muslim men are not good husbands. So the Muslim woman they want to marry the good husbands, had they those are very few and far apart. And Islam says every woman deserves a good husband. And so in order for everybody to have this chance to have a good husband, Islam says men allowed to have more

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than one wife.

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Furthermore, that's from the female perspective. And we find this many, many women who are widowed, or women who are divorced is only that situation, they begin to realize just how what a blessing polygamy is for the oma. Many times women who are married

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women who are married and they The only way he can understand the wisdom behind it. So only if the husband passes away in order to be loved, or divorced, and you begin to realize that this was a blessing for over. But this is really something for women It is something which is beneficial. For men too, it is very beneficial because whether people want to admit it or not. Men naturally desire multiple women. Okay, this is something no one wants to hear anyone admits but this is something natural. And the fact remains even today in the world, everywhere you go, majority of the men are polygamous. Even those who have one wife know, Bill Clinton was polygamous. Tiger Woods is

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polygamous. Okay. These men are not men of monogamy, not men who are going to one woman.

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So what happens in Western society is what we would call polygamy without responsibilities and without consequences that a man will have one wife, but many girlfriends, many mistresses, do what he wants. You know, he doesn't have to give them equal treatment. He doesn't have to look after the children don't even recognize the children. He doesn't have to treat them well.

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This is what the western life is like. So they are deluded if they think that they have a monogamous society, because this kind of adultery and fornication has become the norm. Islam says this is complete madness.

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This is completely wrong. If a man wants to be with more than one woman, then both women deserve equal rights, and both women deserve to be treated equally. And as they become co wives, not first wife and second wife, but co wives with equal rights, equal treatment. And

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as a result, his dignity and honor the children know who their parents are, there are no broken homes, and there's no, you know, infidelity to society. So polygamy is there to keep a strong structure in society, it keeps our society stable, it gives everybody a chance to live happily together.

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And on the flip side of it, even though he's coming in, it's so much better for its fate. It's very rare, you know, about 20%, of the Muslim Boomer practice polygamy. Why? Because the rules are so strict in terms of justice and equity, that many men back out. Number two, the world economy today is just not suitable for it. The kind of economy we live in, where the price of everything is so high between one wife and kids has become so expensive, that men just forget about it. They don't want to even think about it. But nonetheless, it is an option and is something which is be of benefit to society. And what you will find is when you explain this to non Muslims, when those

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people convert to Islam, Bismillah they become the biggest practices of polygamy in the community.

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And the biggest propagators of it, too.

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Okay, so with that, we conclude the nine topics for discussion today. These are issues which non Muslims and Muslims raised very often. These are some of the ways you can answer them again, there are many other ways to answer them. The more you think about it, the more wisdom you find the more reason to fight for it, and the deeper your answers can go.

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So with that in mind, inshallah, I will now move over to the q&a session. To me this is going to work is I'm

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not too sure if you all are familiar with this program. If you look on your top right corner, you'll see an icon of a man, if you go over the icon of a manual, see the hand raising him raising his hand. So you click on that and proceed. That means you want to ask a question. So with a call out your name, can you type out your question and post it in the box? inshallah? I'll try to work this way for now so that we can work with subsystem each other. So I'll start off with Falak Katana, can you have a question? Can I have your question? as well? my notes on the board? I'm not too sure where I can post it. But if I can get it.

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I think I'll post it on this event in Facebook. Okay, I'll try posting something here you can download.

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Okay, while you're waiting for further questions, I'll take this one on the board, that some men in the name of polygamy for certain woman? No. Well, this is something wrong. I mean, whether the way you look for your second wife has to be the same as how you look for the first wife. No, it's the same thing in Islam, Islam. polygamy is not looked upon as something different from marriage, it is marriage. So just like the same rules apply when looking for wife. Number one, the same rules apply when looking for wife number two, three or four. And the same rules apply across the board in the marriage itself. So this is something which is completely forbidden flirting with woman whether you

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have a wife or you don't have wife, whatever the case is, this is something prohibited and these men need to be divided.

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Michael gela chambers, do you have a question?

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Okay, two questions for Michael. First one is a guardian loses his authority for music. What is the evidence for this? This is basically a pseudo fake. One of the principles of fake is consequences. If somebody uses something halaal to oppress people, then it becomes hard for them. Okay, this principle is applied to the guardian. If he uses his right of being a guardian to abuse and oppress his daughter in the ruler, or the judge or the mob can take this right away from him. This is something we're finding the books are fickle. pieces of principle. I shouldn't do that. How would the leader of an army Yes This happened once. And

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the Hadees you're talking about is talking about the position of ameerul momineen. The ultimate leader you know the not smaller

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Leader, which is leading an army, or something to that extent. And this was a one shot situation, based on something which had happened was circumstantial. It wasn't that the Muslims had chosen for it to be that way.

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I'm not going to call out names now as there are too many hands raised and too many questions coming through. So whenever we have a question, you can just post it on the board. And I will

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take them one by one. After a few questions are posted on the board, I will close on the box.

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I'll close the box now.

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Okay, I'm just going to answer all of these questions first, and you know, open the box again for more questions.

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So starting from the top, the Christian is, in the West, many people talk about Islam permissibility of honor killings. What are your thoughts? Well, there's no such thing. There's no such thing in Islam is on the killings. This is something completely an Islamic completely Haram. And it's barbaric Islam, you're not allowed to kill people. You know,

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the idea of honor killing is completely wrong. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that a Muslim, his life is protected except for three things. And those three things which he mentioned, is not for someone to kill, you know, you have to go to court and go to the court system, and only the judge after weighing all the evidence, he can judge and say that no, in this specific situation, you know, you have to be executed. So other killings have absolutely nothing to do with Islam. whatsoever.

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Can a man marry a woman without telling her about his previous marriage with another woman? There's two things here. One is from the perspective of whether this is permissible or not other usually prospective or religious right or not? This is not right, not the right thing to do. We can't say it's completely Haram, but it is going to cause harm to her or to the previous wife, then this would become something wrong based on the principle in Islam that you cannot have people.

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What is the ruling on artificial insemination that is a fixed issue which requires some detailed discussion. In short, it is the husband's semen into the wife's womb. And if there's no if the if there's no other way for the wife to become pregnant, then it becomes possible. Okay, if they've tried a natural ways and the wife can't become pregnant, can to activate. To do this, using the husband's semen into the wife is permissible, but not with anyone else's semen or to anyone else in the world. Can it becomes a form of cinema. So that again, is a lengthy discussion to get into.

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Okay, the idea that men are superior to women, they like you the statement against us know that I don't see men as superior to a woman is his original Mona Lisa, men are responsible for but men are in charge of men are the leaders of women. And in Islam, being a leader doesn't make you the boss, it makes you responsible. Okay.

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It makes you responsible.

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Okay, going back up. Next question

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is limiting the quantity of children Seeing no more three or four children due to reason couple cannot give enough time to more children, in order to raise them as proper wasn't acceptable in Islam. No, this is not acceptable. You know, if you could not handle raising more children, to become proper Muslims, and Allah will not give you

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the fact that Allah has given you more children means that you have the ability to reason to people Muslims,

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this is it, this is something you have to go back to everybody's bird and get to sit back.

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So if you have this intention, and again, this means that you know, it's kind of going against stuck with you trying to

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see that you know, better Allah. So this is not a correct intention. If Allah gives you a fifth or sixth child, it means Allah knows that you can use that child to be a good Muslim as well.

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Okay, good question by Nabila, if a woman wants to marry a good practicing man, but the father refuses because of his gut feeling,

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and asked her to marry other men, is he still considered holy? Well, they should take the case to a local scholar or judge and he will

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weigh both sides of the argument. And if she's right and he's wrong, the judge will take away his right of guardianship over her and allow her to marry that man. So they have to go to the judge and he has to listen to both sides of the story, and then he can do that.

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I said that men must treat women equally. Isn't there a verse in the Quran Allah says, Allah says men would not be able to treat women equally. To understand the verses of the Quran, we need to look and see, how did the prophets law Islam and the Sahaba understand it. So in one verse, Allah tells people to men to treat their wives equally. Another verse, he says that men cannot be treated equally. What are those two verses referring to we look at the explanation of the Sahaba.

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Islam says you should treat your woman equally in terms of time and money, but you cannot be equal to them in terms of love.

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Okay, you cannot be equal to them in terms of love. So this is something that Islam does not hold you accountable for that verse is saying that you're not accountable for loving one wife more than the other, or loving one child more than the other? are loving your mother more than your father, or loving your brother more than your sister? No, because these are things which you can't control. So it's something you can never be just when it comes to love, but you're not held accountable for it. So that verse is actually removing your accountability when it comes to these things.

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Next verse.

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The next question is he has

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Okay, this question, you're helping the sister that's really

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a very personal question to go into the actual footnote, find out the full situation, and then advise accordingly because the advisor issue like this in online class, it's something that requires some counseling.

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In case of witnessing with two men or equal to one woman, do you have examples of such cases recorded in parties? I'm not too sure if it comes to the Hadees. But it's in the books of, if you open to the books of thick or thick, this is all this issue is very clearly stated here. That's where God is.

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If a man is not financially sound, is he allowed to be polygamous? Yes, the Prophet says values Allah, he and I wives sometimes used to go in and tie a week without food in the house.

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So if that was the reason, then the prophet SAW someone that had so many wives, you have to treat them equally. So it can't be that you are giving one wife a good life and other wife for poor life? No, if you're not financially, someone who bought your wife need to be prepared to live a simple life. So, this is something again, it has to be something a man has to work up with, with his wife, you have to work it out together each other.

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Okay, good question. In gender, the man will get hold, and a woman will not. So that means the men will get more reward than you Why no, who doesn't equal more reward? Okay, because you might not get home, but you might get something else. What do you want? Remember, we go back to what we said that men naturally desire multiple women.

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And women naturally desire one man. So keeping that in context, Allah subhanaw taala, in terms of his reward, has given men multiple woman agenda, and even woman one man in general, because that's what you want. Now what he wanted is multiple woman, Allah gave him what he wanted. What do you want, maybe something else Allah will give you what you want in general. So Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran, that whoever does good, be there male or female, they all will have the reward with the Lord and nobody will be oppressed in the least to see what Allah has promised. And furthermore, Allah said, you will get the agenda whatever you desire. So be sure that when you get to Jenna is no

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oppression is no one.

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You know, jealousy and there is no such thing as you getting shortchanged. You will get what you desire. For example, Khadija De La Habra, la Sena came to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and told him that

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give Khadija glad tidings of a hell of a home in gender in which there is no work. So for Khadija that is Jenna. She has a palace in which she does not have to do any work so you don't have to lift the finger. She sits back and she has same voice because in gender, you only have hood. But you will have will Daniel McCullough do, you will have will not know mahana do boys, slave boys have eternal youth who will be serving you and you don't have to lift a finger. So you do get your reward as well. According to what you decide.

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How does a man's beard become a job?

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In the sense that women who are not practicing and who are danger for Zina, they are generally not attracted to men with beards. It's normally the practicing woman who are looking for a husband who are attracted to men with beards. Okay, so beard stops you from running into a woman and meet a woman who might want to come and sit with you.

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Can we hit the man if he does something around and when he's the opposite? And when it is the opposite way around? No, no heating takes place in the family. Discuss it amongst each other. Okay, obviously now he's hitting you, you can fight back. But that's, you know, don't don't go to let it go go to that scale to do we don't need to hit people to get any points across Islam.

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Does a man need any justification to take a second wife? Not at all? It is completely permissible. There's no need to seek any justification. It's just like taking your first wife. Do you need a justification to make it valid? No. Should likewise you don't need a justification to give value to get.

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Mothers are given very high status in Islam. How should one answer if someone tells a woman who doesn't have a child that may be you committed a sin? Allah is punishing you. Such a person has no right to say that you don't know what his intention you don't know why Allah is doing things. So you are claiming knowledge of the unseen and you are committing the major sin. Furthermore, Allah subhanaw taala did not give a shot Angela and her children and she wanted children. But Allah punishing, Ayesha No. Allah says in the Quran very clearly in a verse He gives sons to be wills, they give daughters two evils he gives both to who he wills and he gives nothing to who evils and

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Allah knows what is best for you. So we understand from there, that Allah subhanho wa Taala knows what is best for you. So if Allah Subhana Allah has given you no children, it because Allah knows that that is what is best for you. And you need to accept the appeal of Allah subhanaw taala and you will get your reward for that your reward will be for being patient with Allah for not having children. And then the work for summer is greater than the rewards for being a mother if you're depending on your level of support. So that becomes a chance for earning an award with Allah by being patient with you and trusting his decision.

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Can a man marry a second wife without the permission of the first wife, of course, by the way, no man will ever be able to marry a second wife

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is contraception allowed you to affordability? If you mean that you are afraid if you have another child, you will become poor, you won't be able to support her

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what the child is no, that is not permissible. Because every child already has a risk return. I can see every time I my wife had a child. I don't know the reason why but a better job or not since the money pops up.

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In which situations the woman gets more shares than men. That is a very detailed issue. To learn that you need to study the free copy characters. Okay? When you study the peak of inheritance, it's a five month course minimum can only be able to understand it otherwise, you know, you can't really answer that question in five or 10 minutes.

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Okay, this issue of denying Allah I'm not too sure what you mean by that you need to be more specific.

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In today's world is not permissible to find Muslim judge or courts whereby a woman can complain about the problems. So she can she go to the local Mufti and ask him, yes, she goes to the local scholar, when it is the Imam or the Mufti, whoever it is, the local scholar takes the place of the judge in these situations. So they have the right to another village or to help us the MACRA or whatever it is.

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Can the first wave dictate what kind of on the second way we've upgraded the hardware? My dad is someone who loves to dunia inside but shows people the opposite. Well, she can't dictate. But she should. He should take her into consideration. Because end of the day, she's going to be sharing him with another woman and he needs to be someone that she can get along with. Know so you can't really say she can dictate. But she can warn him if you know the woman is corrupt. She can warn him. That's the most she can do.

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The woman has to pay a court fee to meet Hola. No, not necessarily. She can go for us. She can speak to the Mufti and move to get another medical out any money. No, she doesn't have to be. That's the other way. She has two options. Either she wants to she can give him money to get out to the marriage. Or if she doesn't want to give her money. She can go to the judge, the judge would break up the marriage and no money is used in debt. Now obviously the judge that judge would that he might be taking her money for it, then you know, he's responsible

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Because he collecting money for such a thing

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Okay, remember we haven't finished discussing all the issues next week inshallah, you will have another workshop Same time, same place where we will discuss issues like chopping off the hands of teeth and executing apostate and stoning to death these issues we will explain next week inshallah.

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Let me just answer a few more questions.

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Again, we have the Christian here.

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How do we explain slavery in Islam?

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Well, slavery in Islam we go is a very long issue to go into. I think I will include the next week's topic. Okay, because next week, we are discussing Islamic Sharia law. So I will leave slavery for the so we can discuss the details, because there's quite a few issues that need to be covered here.

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Okay, the issue of a woman kind of a child is permissible for to adopt a child permissible to adopt a child whether you have children or not, either way, it's possible to adopt the child is no problem.

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Okay, there are rules related to that which you can study if you are planning to go down that route.

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Okay, so

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Okay, very good question. Many times Muslim women, when they talk about non Muslim woman, they see the the city address, they cross the Jews etc, they won't find it offensive. Now, again, we have to deal with doing that what we need to say things in the best of manners, because we have to watch our wedding. So we can't just say what it was in our mind. So

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when we talk about these issues about how the woman the West dress, you know, we need to use words which are as light as possible to get him to realize how the addressing is wrong without being too offensive. Okay, so how do you do that? Well, you have to work out the way you're looking at your audience and just try and find the best way to work it. This goes for any such issue.

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Okay, the issue the father said she'll he'll break ties with the daughter, she can still go to the judge and he will be sinful in the sight of Allah for making titled her for such an issue.

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The issue of right hand positions that again goes back to the issue of slavery, I will discuss that next week where we discuss the topic of slavery.

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Okay, the issue of if a will of a man doesn't priests Allah, what can I do about it? Well, you shouldn't imagine such a man in the first place. But now you know, you need to talk to him, take him to the mound, try and do something. You can you reject the husband's call, then for that situation? Yes, you can. You can, but I wouldn't advise going down that route. You know, there are other ways to try and solve it.

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Again, issues related to slavery I will discuss next week.

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Is every type of temporary contraception allowed with every type, which is not harmful? Okay. So whether it's a tablet or whatever it is, as long as you're not helpful.

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In a country like China, they have birth control by the government how to react to that. Make hijra a bigger country. Okay, sure.

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So, with that, inshallah

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I think I will end for today, unless there are any other urgent questions on any of these nine topics. Remember questions related to slavery and punishments in court, and jihad, those things we will cover next week inshallah in next week's session.

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So with that, inshallah, I think we will end for today, I hope that you all have found this beneficial. And

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