Refining the Self – 11
Channel: Isam Rajab
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Thank you for joining us in the class. This is the first class for the second semester in Sharla.
Today, before we move on, we I want to make a quick review for the previous semester.
If you remember, we focused on the practical aspect of luck. Because it's really important. You could cost money if you could caught many ahaadeeth. But what's the use? If you are not applying this in your daily life?
What's the use? If you are on this path, you are not doing what you know, many people they know what to do. But unfortunately, when they should do it, they don't do it. So
we have studied the book of heaven hasn't for like 15 weeks, for three months. What did you get from it? I expect from the students of Aris that there are changed
in a better sense in Sharla, which means if there is something wrong happens, they can deal better with it.
If they are criticized, they accept criticism. That's what we study, if they are praised, they are not arrogant, because of this praise. If they see people better than them
inwardly things, they are not distressed by that because they know that these things change, if they see someone better than them, in the religion, they ask Allah subhanaw taala to become like them or even better. So all these things are expected from you as students. And without implementing these things without trying to do them, apply them in your life. You cannot I mean, you cannot improve yourself. So you need to do that.
And you need to practice on daily basis. So I asked the students of the summer class and I did not ask the students of the first semester, what things attracted them most to this subject, what things that you saw in the book have been hasma hemiola that you feel you could apply. And it is nice. You did not see it in another book. Could you give me examples because whatever remains in your mind, that's most likely what you will do, inshallah, one of the things that are really important and it is practical, the method of advice, you may see many things that are going wrong.
And you want to change them. How do you do that? And hasn't rahimullah gave you practical steps? How to do how to do how to advise someone?
How to Treat people?
Do you waste your time 24 hours with your friends or you don't deal with anybody you isolate yourself from everyone. Even hazard Rahim Allah again give you a practical example, how to do that? Do you
spend much time on trivial things? What should you wear today? You spend two hours confused this thing? No, I have to wear this thing. Or you remember what the man has Rahim Allah said about the messenger sallallahu sallam, that whatever is available, you use it.
Whatever you have a food, you eat it. These things are practical examples from heaven has Mahima Honestly, I don't want to be disappointed. I don't want to see one of my students in a situation and he is doing exactly the opposite of what he studied. I mean, what's the advantage then what's the use of studying
especially this subject, you need to implement
and the clock the real o'clock will come
when you are
under pressure when there is a difficult situation in regular cases everybody is good hamdulillah you are nice to people, they are nice to you.
But how can you be better how can you improve yourself?
So, this is brief introduction and now inshallah we are moving to
the second semester.
Let me remind you with the definition of law, because we are continuing studying, what's the clock?
How can you say that he has a clock and he doesn't have a clock? She has good character. She doesn't have a good character. What's the definition of a clock? This is again from the first semester. It seems you forgot.
We said it's quality of actions
or dealings, dealings with oneself with others.
With animate beings and with inanimate objects, this is very important when we deal with people.
And when we deal with our own selves, this is a flag as well.
And when we deal with others,
it also includes the inanimate objects.
So you need to remember that and that's where we will start in Sharla.
Who do we deal with? Like on daily basis?
family members, that's good. Who else?
Before family members
your onself before your onself Allah subhanaw taala Exactly. So
we have a relationship with Allah subhanaw taala.
We have a relationship with our own selves we deal with our own selves.
We deal with others who are others. Others include
our children, our spouses, wife or husband, our relatives, our neighbors, and our community, everybody else.
All these people, we need to know how to deal with them.
First, our o'clock with Allah subhanho wa Taala.
Now if I asked you, how is your relationship with Allah subhanaw taala is it healthy, is it strong or it is weak?
Now of course everybody will say Alhamdulillah it is perfect. Now that's what you think. But when you try to apply the rules that we have the guidelines of the book of Allah Subhana Allah and the Sunnah of the messenger of science, you will find out we have we have a method to measure your o'clock. It is easy it is mentioned in the Book of Allah subhanaw taala
and the Sunnah of the messenger assassin.
Are you pleased with Allah subhanaw taala?
Or you complain? You wish or I wish if I was this, if I was that whatever.
Is he pleased with you?
Now this is the question.
Is he pleased with you?
Do you love Allah subhanaw taala? Of course we do. I mean,
the one who does not love Allah subhanaw taala even if he does everything, he scaffold is not Muslim. Loving Allah subhanaw taala is the condition of the man. But this Allah subhanaw taala loves you or not. That's the question.
Does Allah subhanaw taala love you or not? How can you find out?
In the law, you have Buddha?
Allah loves those who turn in repentance, you turn in repentance, dollars planetology repent to him.
Allah loves those who are patient, are you patient,
or you have a temporary Oh,
you cannot be patient. That's what we have in the Quran. So again, it's very easy to implement. You could have a chart, take a paper and write down everything that Allah subhanaw taala said about it, Allah loves it and see how many of these things you are doing. And how many of these things you are missing.
At the end, you will find out if you are failing, or you are passing
our flag with our own self.
Now it is really important. Are you peaceful to yourself or not? Now someone would say what do you mean by that? I'm not fighting myself? No, actually you may do this.
How to find out. Ask yourself,
do you serve your body
to serve you in the hereafter or you are causing destruction for yourself? Now I cannot expect from someone who drinks to tell me that he is
in peace with his self. He's causing diseases. I cannot expect from someone
who's abusing his body by disobeying Allah subhanaw taala that he is in peace with his own self.
Remember on the day of judgment as Allah subhanaw taala mentioned in the Quran, yo Mata shadow la alsina tau y de la jolla
Your tongue that you talk with and your mouth will testify against you on the Day of Judgment,
your hands and your legs. Basically your your entire body will testify
against you your skin or college, you know the mesh I hate to Marlena, and they asked their skins while you testify against us.
So are you in peace with your own self or not?
with parents? Now, of course, we are moving quickly, we will take each one of these qualities in details.
I could brief it in one question. As luck with the parents one question on if you could answer it. That's it. Are you dutiful to your parents?
Are you or aren't you? Now again?
The immediate reaction? Yes, I am. Well, you cannot judge. If someone asked your parents, what they will say.
Are you dutiful or not?
According to their answer, not to you.
So if they say you are beautiful to them, that's it 100.
o'clock with family,
Are you a good companion? Which means that if you are a husband, your wife waits for you until you come home. Or the moment you come she's upset and everything goes wrong.
Are you as the messenger Selim said, hydrocodone hydrocodone? The best of you?
Are those who are best to their wives, those who treat their wives in the best manner? The same thing for the wife? Is your husband pleased with you? And you will say yes, of course. But if we asked him what he will say.
Now that's the law.
That's the law. What about your children?
Unfortunately, many people think that
the good father is the one who provides for his children. hamdulillah I gave them the money today, I am able to provide for them. Well, that's good. That's very good. And that's your duty. But there is something else?
Did you educate them? Did you teach them Islam? Did you teach them how to pray, how to fast? How to Be respectful.
In the future, people when they look at your children, if they are good, what they will say
May Allah forgive their parents may Allah be pleased with with their parents?
Because they are the ones who educated them. They are the ones who arrest them. But if it was the other way, then Believe me before they say anything wrong about the children, they will blame the parents.
So where are you?
What about the relatives?
Your uncle, your aunt, your brothers, your sisters.
Unfortunately, I hear from time to time problem. And one of the brothers one of the sisters come for three years. did not talk to another brother.
I did not talk to my sister
for two months now.
I mean, what is this?
She's still your sister.
Regardless of the reason
remember what they've been hasn't said. He said,
quoting the Hadith of the messenger assassin light salwaar syllable McAfee, the one who joins the kinship is not the one who treats people.
The same way they treat. Like if your uncle called you you call him if your sister called you you call her she did not you say I will not call her because that's not the one who joins the kinship. The one who joins the kinship is the one who joins it one day.
This Lincoln one day Do not join it.
When they cut these ties, that's the one who joins the kitchen. So do you do this or not?
One of my husband said the one who mistreats his family, his neighbor is the worst among the people. Because that's the type of people
that your kindness is expected to be shown to them.
What about the community?
Islamic center the masjid your friends, Muslim friends, do you contribute? Do you add something to this community? Do you act positively if something happened or you are a burden, once they come they will know there is a problem will happen. You try to find the faults, the mistakes to point it out. Ask yourself
I mean anyone
All of us could be in this situation.
I mean, do you live in apartments or house?
Does it have like?
Are they Muslims or non Muslims?
Do you know them?
They know their names and very good. How about you, Holly?
I mean, sometimes you have your neighbor, whether he is
the second floor, you're on the first floor or the opposite is underneath and you don't even know his name. You don't even know who he is. And you're unhappy. I don't know anybody? No, you should not do that. Be kind to your neighbors. I mean, this is from Islam, even if they are not Muslims.
If they are Muslims, of course, they have a greater right. If they are not Muslims, they still have right.
Some people will lie. They lived for like five years, and they don't know their names.
I'm not asking you to be 24 hours there every day, but ask about them. I mean, what do you expect? Let me ask you this. Imagine yourself knocking on the door of your neighbor.
And you give him something, flowers, gift, food, anything? What will be the reaction?
if they were worse, the people on earth they'll tell you, no thank you. In general 99% of the people they will smile they will thank you.
If you did this again, they will start asking why? Why is this happening? That's the gift for them to ask about Islam.
mean even if you know they will not become Muslims, that does not mean you will not be good to them.
And then everybody else.
How are you towards everybody else? Allah Subhana Allah says Baku Li NASA Hasina.
Baku tell leanness to the people, nice people include everybody.
Muslims, non Muslims, atheists, snap, the good word.
The good word or any word in a good way?
Do we do that or not? I mean, what's the difference between a Muslim and non Muslim if we act the same way for abuse?
We try to do the same thing back to them. If someone attacked me I want to attack him again. What's the difference then?
I mean, these things are really important
and you need to focus on them. So we will start the details inshallah with the clock
with our luck with Allah subhana wa Tada.
In the first semester, I asked many students to write a paper about Allah subhanaw taala. What do you know about Allah subhanaw taala.
Knowledge is key for love. When you know what Allah subhanaw taala has done for you, you will love him more.
So you need to know Allah subhanaw taala first and Allah subhanaw taala introduced himself in the Quran many times. Allah Allah, Allah, Allah is the one who created you from Morocco when he provided for you, so me to come, then he caused you to die to me he come then he will cause you he will redirect you.
Then to him You shall return to melee hit of
Allah subhanaw taala and another is and that he is the one who created the heavens and earth and provided from all types of fruits for you. Many iron in ayatul kursi Allahu La Ilaha Illa Ohio, Lakatos in Atlanta, Allah introduce himself in the Quran. Do you know this or not?
What do you know about Allah subhanaw taala.
In order to have good luck with Allah subhanaw taala The first thing is, you have to be obedient.
We are servants to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So we have to be obedient to Allah subhanaw taala if you have a slave, imagine you have a slave and you order him, you command him to do something and he says No, he doesn't have the right to say no. Why? Because he is a slave. And he will be punished if he said no, yet both of you are creative beings.
What about our creators?
When he commands us to do something, do you do it or not? Again, how can you
Very easy question.
When Allah subhanaw taala says do do you do it? We have many commands in the Quran.
Many commands in the Quran, check on each one of them, when you hear it, do you find yourself doing this? And when Allah subhanaw taala says avoid it, do not be involved in it, do not do it, do avoid it, or you are doing
this thing should be reflected in your actions. I mean, unfortunately, we are good speakers. Well, I and sometimes we are good actors as well. You look at one of us, and I'm the first one Mashallah, he's he looks good. But when you check Subhana Allah we only ask Allah Subhana Allah to forgive us.
So this is easy. Check.
Asked herself on each command that allows pantalla says do do you do it? And check on each thing that you have you are prohibited to do you avoid it or not?
You have to be obedient to Allah subhanaw taala.
Now again, if you have a slave,
and you commanded him to do 10 things, and he did five
Would you say that's enough? He did five, or he will say five things they did not do? Or they think because he's asleep.
Many people, what do they say? hamdulillah. I pray that's enough. No, that's not enough.
When it will be enough, when you are perfect. The prophet SAW Selim all his sins were forgiven, yet he still worshipped Allah subhanaw taala. He did not say I am forgiven. So I will do whatever I want. But some people they do that
I have enough has enough to cover.
This is not guaranteed by law. It's not guaranteed, you don't know.
you need to be obedient to Allah subhanaw taala.
Many people give the excuse. Everybody is doing it. Or I did something. So it's the same. I'm doing this again. Just like whatever has been said about the people to excuses people are giving when they sin.
One of the qualities of the Muslim to improve his o'clock, he has to be sensitive.
What do we mean by that?
sensitive means, if you
committed a sin, you feel the heat of it.
You're not cold blooded. That's the meaning of sensitive.
You don't say if you committed a sin it is a small sin, there is a greater sin that I did not do so Alhamdulillah No.
These are the footsteps of the shape and if you follow them, so you need to be sensitive.
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He taught the people now, look when he said that. That's right after the time of the messenger sallallahu sallam, the second generation, the generation that the prophet SAW Selim
mentioned that it is one of the best generations after him.
He said you are committing sins.
We used to consider them
at the time of the messenger sell them as major sins and you don't even care about
he's telling this to the people in his time.
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It's trivial in their eyes, but they told them at the time of the messenger, as I said, we used to consider these things as major sins.
And again, the example of the true Muslim and the hypocrite.
The Muslim one he commits a sin. He thinks that it is like a mountain over his shoulders.
But the hypocrite it's just like a fly
and it flew away.
So where are you? You need to be sensitive.
One of the o'clock of the Muslim with Allah subhanaw taala is repentance. You need to be repentant.
You repent constantly to Allah subhanho wa Taala.
Look at this, I will add in a certain volume or emphasis on Victrola stuff rouladen ob, and those who, when they do an evil thing or wrong
themselves. remember Allah and implore forgiveness for their sins, who forgives sins, save Allah only
and will not knowingly repeat the wrong data.
I want to ask you one question.
Did you have any time flat tire?
Too many? What if you had a flat tire?
While you are on your way to your work
and you are late
and you reach
your work? Will you be smiling happy or
you will be upset? Honestly, what do you think? Usually what happens?
Are you pleased with yourself or you're upset?
Sort of upset? What if on the same day, you missed the prayer?
Will you have the same feeling or not? Honestly?
Let's be honest. What do you think?
So a flat tire will affect you more than missing the sprayer.
There is a problem here.
It's an hour of luck.
Now a relationship with Allah subhanaw taala.
I mentioned to you one story at the time of the messenger silent
from Celine rhodiola Hannah and Her husband obatala. Their son was sick. He was very sick.
He went to the prayer.
He did not miss the prayer. Although his son was sick, and when he came back
what happened to his son?
He was dead. He was already dead.
Because they knew the value of the prayer. They knew what prayer means in Islam.
So again, I don't want to go deeper. I don't like to take the negative aspect but it's it's tragic. Well, I it's tragic.
I mean, if it if it's a flat tire if it's if it's the car itself if you had an accident. So as long as your religion is okay.
But the problem we don't care about many important things and we care about many simple things, worldly things we create about them.
This is a problem that I asked Allah subhanaw taala to help us
Are you pleased with the last decrease panatela the Divine Decree of Allah Spano tala,
or you complain.
Now life is not
sometimes pleasing journey. You have this you have difficulties, you have hardships, you have all sorts of
strange things, bitter things that are going on.
What what's your attitude in every time something happens
modra the last one.
When he was on the deathbed
and he was suffering.
He prayed to Allah subhanaw taala
or Allah. If you increase, that's fine. By Allah, I love you.
That's what my dad said. He knew that it is from Allah subhanaw taala. Of course, we always ask Allah subhanaw taala to protect us. Of course we always ask Allah subhanaw taala safety in ourselves in our families in our thing, but if something wrong happened, Are you pleased with it or not? Under the law when
he was dying, he was on the verge of death.
So he knew that it is from Allah subhanaw taala. But he reached a level of Eman that he was enjoying this because it is from Allah, whatever comes from Allah subhanho wa Taala I accept.
It is from Allah.
watermelon. His wife asked him to purchase watermelon.
So he brought it home.
And when his wife opened it up, she found out that it is it is not good, it's bitter, it's spoiled, whatever. And she was very upset and he told her why you're upset. Are you upset?
Because of the creation of Allah or are you upset with Allah subhanaw taala you should not be upset at all. Allah is the one who created it. And it is the creation of Allah Subhana Allah.
So while you are upset, I mean these things, you may think they are simple, but when you apply them, when you apply them, you'll be very happy in your life.
In your relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala
one thing could cover all the riches.
And if you reach it, that's the best level
which is the level of sun as the messenger of science lm said,
on the de la Cana Katara for inlanta contura in Iraq, worship Allah as if you see him
for if you don't see him, he sees you.
Do you do that or not?
Many times, if you're alone, you do things that if people are with you, you may never do them. What about Allah subhanaw taala he's with you every day. Every second
it's very easy. If you apply ask yourself always.
Lots of panatela is watching. Is he pleased with what I'm doing or not?
We try to forget this.
Nobody's here Okay. Well Allah is there. Allah is almost there.
So this is an introduction. As I told you, we need
to implement to practice
that's the purpose of this subject. I don't want just to call to you if and the Hadith. I want to see a change and I hope inshallah, that you are changing. You are improving your character.
This will conclude our session, inshallah.