Death #03 After The Janaza

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The importance of burying individuals in burials for privacy and privacy is emphasized. It is important to avoid damaging the grave and burying in the presence of a grave. It is also important to avoid dislike a gravestone and visiting burial sites for a good ripple effect. Visiting burials in the presence of a grave is also considered offensive and may result in a death. The importance of not dislike a gravestone and visiting burial sites for a good ripple effect is emphasized.

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Bismillah Al Rahman Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Sayidina Muhammad Hatami lambier Even Buddha said in Salah to law he was Salah Moo hoo alayhi wa ala him at remain rubbish Raisa three via silly Emery. Well hello opendata melissani of Coco Lee As salam o aleikum, wa Rahmatullah heeta, Isla or Barakatuh.

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We continue from where we left off with the Janaza salah.

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We are currently looking at the salah for the absent deceased,

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it is permissible to perform the funeral pray for an absent person whose body is out of town.

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So this is not

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a funeral or janazah that is inside of Cape Town, for example. But if it is out of town,

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even if it's not far, so let's say it's in Wooster, or it's in,

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maybe even Paul.

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And even if the body is not in the direction of the tubular, which the person praying faces, so the body is not lying within your Qibla. But such a prey does not lift the communal obligation from the people of the town with the deceased died. So the the the Janessa sada for the law, for the absent person won't take the place of the forgive fire that is required, they must perform the janazah sada V.

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It is not permissible to perform the funeral pray over someone who is absent from the place of pray when the body is in the same town. So let's say there's a janazah in a different part of town and we add Joomla is so we couldn't make it to the Janaza can we then make salatu Janaza for the absent person year. According to the strict rule of the Shafi school, it is not permissible, though this is permissible if it is at the age of a large city, and is a problem to reach somewhat remote. Right. So we've had cases like this before, when somebody passes away in the janazah is, for example, immediately off the Joomla. So it's all good for people because they can't reach with the Janessa is

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so the perhaps want to consider playing solitaire janazah at the own masjid, but little ha ha for the absent person. According to the strict rule of the madhhab This is not permitted.

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Now what happens if you have part of a body, you have part of a body of a person who you know, passed away, it's a severed limb, etcetera. And this pot is found. In that case it is obligatory, to wash to shroud caffeine, and to pray over that pot. Even if the pot is a fingernail, or hey, as there is no difference between a little part of the body or a lot, however, provided that the part was separated from the person after death. So you can't find it say you found a toenail of a person who you know passed away but you don't have his body. So then you take that toenail? No, it must be something that was separated from the body after the person had already died. And provided that the

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rest of the person has not been prayed over already. So if you already prayed over a person, the person is buried already and then you find

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maybe after the hustle there was some Hey,

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you don't need to do anything with that you just bury it as is right because the person has been prayed over already. For if it has then it is not obligatory to pray over the pot.

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It is unlawful to wash the body of a martyr shahid. It is haram to wash the body of a Shaheed even if in a state of major ritual impurity, even if the person perhaps is a newlywed, as is the case with one of the Sahaba who was newlywed, he lived for jihad. He was killed in the path of Allah. And the prophets are some so the angels in the hood on AI in washing this person, of course in the unseen realm. So even if the person is in a state of Jannah, but you don't wash them

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a matar specifically means someone who died in battle with non Muslims because of fighting them as opposed to someone who died otherwise. Right. So for example, somebody died of a disease of the abdomen, right? Or they died because they were burned in a fire or they died because the building fell on them and the like. Those are categories of martyrdom, but it is not martyrdom proper. Like martyrdom proper, would be what our brothers in the front lines in Gaza is going through. They pass away they that's my

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to them proper.

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Otherwise,

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from fighting them as opposed to someone that otherwise such a person killed out of oppression, for example, when not in battle, or who died from fighting non polytheists like Muslims fighting with one another, it is recommended that war gear be removed from the body such as a breastplate and the like. Of course, we have different forms of armor in in this day and age, but it's basically that be removed. And it is best to bury the martyr in the rest of his blood stain clothes, for you will be risen on the dev gamma with the wounds, being badges of honor before Allah subhanho wa taala. Since it is the effect of a bad day, it is the effect of worship. However, the responsible family member

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may nevertheless remove the garment and shoot out the body before the burial. Maybe the family wants to do that. So they may do so. And that's completely fine. Now we move on to the janazah of a baby, particularly a stillborn

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a premature baby, meaning a baby born before six full months, that's what we consider premature in Islamic law.

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That dies would be treated as an adult, meaning you do the same thing that you would do for an adult. If the baby gave a cry, or a sneeze or cough, or it showed some form of movement, when it left the body of the mother and treated as an adult, meaning it is obligatory to wash shroud pray over.

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And baby the baby, since its life and death have been verified. If it did not, if it did not meaning if there was no sound, there was no cry, there was no sneeze, there was no cough, there was no movement, if that's the case, then if it reached four months in the womb, because four months, 120 days, that's considered the time of nursery row with the soul is blown into the into the fetus. So if it reached four months, then it is washed. And it is buried. But no Janaza Salah is performed if it reached four months. If it did not reach four months yet, then it is only obligatory to bury the body

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and not wash and not shut out. Which would be quite difficult in any case, because the body wouldn't be a fully formed body, it would be very soft and sort of fragile.

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The burial this is in general again. Are there any questions about the stillborn?

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Specifically?

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Yes.

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Well, the thing is, if you can establish it, it's not that it is your duty to go and establish it. But if you know somehow, you know that that is a fingernail from the disease. For example, if you discover a nail in the bill, that was you know, you're washing the body in the news house could be in earth, I mean, so there you have evidence that it belonged to that particular deceased. And then you know, but again, in that case, you wouldn't do you know, you wouldn't do anything.

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If it's doubting you leave it, leave it right you don't consider okay, this is maybe from that person, we don't work on doubts. We work on evidence and probability.

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You just give it a wash, it ends it just didn't it? You just wash it like that.

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Similarly, if you have a situation, this is a side note based on that question, if you ever situation with his body, that for some reason, or the other is fragile.

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Right? So for example, the person died in a fire or the person was in a car crash. And there's lots of open wounds or the skin is very soft and tender and the like when you stick to the bare minimum. So you just rinse and that's it. And if rinsing itself is going to cause damage. You can even resort to tire move in place of rinsing and if that too would cause damage then you just leave the whole process entirely. So this flexibility that you have your standard rule but this flexibility in cases of need. Okay

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none

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All

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right.

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No, so the question is, if you if you don't have the body, if there is no retrieval of the body, right, then do you still perform Serato janazah upon that person? No, you don't, you don't

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the burial should take place immediately. But okay, this is a good example.

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Because you may after a while discover the some remains of the person in the ocean, or that washes up on the shore or in the sharks belly, or whatever the case may be, then you would, you would have evidence this person died, there's some perhaps DNA testing what looks like this person's remains there you have a good example of okay, you do the hustle, do the caffeine, you do the cider. And, and then you're done. But in that case, you have evidence that it's probably this person.

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The burial should take place immediately after the janazah Salah and it should not be delayed to wait for anyone besides the responsible family member, the Wali so to speak, provided that that person is reasonably nearby. If it is not feared. That look here if we're going to wait for the wily, this body is going to decompose, right they may be a situation like that. In that case, you don't even wait for the Wali you bury the person immediately.

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It is best that the beer be carried by its poles, sometimes by four men, one pole on each shoulder, and the bolts being parallel with the bead and supporting it.

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Two ends forward two ends back and sometimes by five, the fifth man between the two forward poles, it is recommended that the bed is walk faster than the usual pace. But they shouldn't trot. They shouldn't run or Hastin in such a way that it's a truck, but they should walk faster than the usual pace. The idea is you're hastening this person to the after. If it was a good person, you're wasting them to the reward in the after. If it was not a good person, you

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are extending them to the after. Right. It is recommended for men to follow the bill to the place of burial close enough behind to be considered part of the funeral procession. This is also part of our culture, right?

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Men just somehow know that look these the beard going? Let's follow right.

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It is offensive Makrooh to follow it with fire or incense burners, which are likewise offensive at the burial itself to make a special Myung pot now, you know, do these type of rituals that are not part of the janazah that's considered my crew.

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Now we go into the burial itself, burying the body, then the deceased is buried, which is followed by the fire, it is best to bury him in the cemetery. So that gives you an idea that it's not wajib that it must be a cemetery. It is awful for it to be a cemetery. And of course you need to consider the law of the land as well. If you're just going to bury a body in your backyard,

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you know, that may not go so well with the council and you may end up having to dig the body up. So don't do that. Right?

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It is unlawful to bury someone where another person has been buried unless the previous body is completely disintegrated completely decomposed. Now, the grave diggers in the like they have the statistics and the standards upon which they they usually work and it differs from place to place the fist from country to country from climate to climate, how long on average does it take for the body to completely decompose the grave diggers would know that better than anyone else? Yeah, I know that people have buried as soon as 10 years of the previous person passed away I don't know the exact details but if there's any uncertainty you should rather avoid that

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and yes Miss Mina

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Yeah, now the bones do decompose

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Yeah, so that's I'm saying like 10 years year. I've seen graves being dug open. We 10 years ago, there was a body the ticket open today there's nothing there. So it differs from place to place. But again, it depends on the

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The climate and the conditions and the like. So the condition yet states such that nothing remains neither flesh nor bone, right? So there must be nothing. It is also unlawful to bury two people in the same grave. unless necessary. Right? You also the mass graves in the Huzar. Right. So people asked me at that time, like what's happening here, like, Is this even allowed? Obviously, they, it's a matter of Dora. It's a matter of necessity. And there's no other choice. There are graves on pavements, there are graves, outside hospital doors, huge graves, many buddies, because they don't have a choice, you have the luxury of having a separate janazah for each person.

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So as when there has been much killing or death, in which case, a wall should ideally be made in between the two bodies as a barrier. Did you see that being done? No. Because this, if you're doing 100 bodies in a single hole, you don't have that, that type of luxury. Right. And again, this is this is not something that you should be concerned about. Right.

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And Allah knows best if the bodies differ in gender, this is even more imperative, especially when two people of the same gender are not related. Suppose someone dies on a ship

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and it is impossible to bury him on land. In that case, the body is placed tightly between two planks and is released it says you're thrown into the sea and released into the sea to obviate bloating. The planks data obviate bloating

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so that it reaches the shore, even if the inhabitants of that land that's close by on non Muslims, since there's a possibility that the Muslim may find the body and bury it facing the direction of the of the Qibla.

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Now, just like we did for the Huso and for the kefan we spoke about what's the bare minimum? So you know if you in that situation, and you did that match you safe

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for the hustle what is the bare minimum?

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What is the bare minimum?

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Water over the whole body? That's the bare minimum if you've done that, you know you save for the caffeine, what's the bare minimum

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to cover the hour of the person for the male appropriately for the woman appropriately, that's the bare minimum. So if you've done that you save for the sila, what's the bare minimum, okay, the salah would remain the Salah, but it would be the fortec beads, the Fatiha the Salawat do after the disease. That's the bare minimum. Right? Now we get to the burial.

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The obligatory minimum for grave is that it conceals the odor of the body. So we have this impression in our mind, the grave must be six feet, right? But that's not the bare minimum, that's like ideal, we'll get to that. So it must conceal the odor of the body, and that it protects it from being dug up and eaten by animals.

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It is recommended to dig the grave wider than the obligatory minimum and that its depth equal the height of an average man with his arms fully extended upwards. No graves are dug like this anymore. The biggest of the deepest grave you're going to get is that you know it's the height of an average person's 1.2 meters or something like that. So I'm going to about two meters 2.1 2.2 That's the deepest that you're going to get that I've seen at least which is fine.

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Now, how should the grave be dug? Right? What you what we normally do here is the biggest straight rectangular hole the bodies placed on the side and planks are used to create a cavity for that body. Ideally though, Allah which is what this image is showing, I'll just get it on the screen for those online.

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This is slide number 60

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Okay, Allah

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is a grave with a lateral Hello

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right you see it.

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So, it goes the rectangular hole is this part here. And then you have the lateral hollow inside the so that's actually dug into the ground as opposed to using planks.

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Allah agree with the lateral Hello large enough for the body to be dug into the side of the bottom of the grave that it is towards the direction of the Qibla is superior, meaning better than a shock, what is a shock? A shock is the same thing. But instead of digging into the side, so you have the lateral Allah and then you have another deeper area with the bodies placed here at the bottom right and then covered at the top with blanks like that. So those are the two types that you generally find in the in the fifth books. Ours is neither this one no that one, it's kind of a combination of the left and the shock, where we use, we use the wall of the grave and you use planks to create

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another cavity, still fine.

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Meaning a simple trench dug down into the middle of the floor of the grave with low block walls raised along the three inch sides in which the disease is placed before the walls or ceiling with blocks or planks. And the earth is shoveled back into the grave on top of them unless the earth is soft, in which case the shock is preferable. So like basically digging a block of digging a hollow inside of the grave and then placing the body inside of it and covering it. If the Earth is soft, then that is better.

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It is this is an important one. You know, when I grew up, it was like a thing.

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If somebody left the fold of Islam, people would speak about a Latin a Kasparov or with

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isn't it that then if you've come across that before, it's like La La La Quwata illa Villa that is the the worst possible thing.

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So it's associated with with not being a Muslim.

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But this is not this is not true. Because it's not even haram to bury in a coffin. It is mcru It is disliked offensive, to bury bury the deceased in a coffin, or to place a pillow inside of the grave for the deceased. Why is it macro? It's got nothing to do with other religions. It's because it's wasteful.

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It's wasteful, I want to be an interesting exercise for you to do is actually going to look at the price of coffins. And you understand just how wasteful it is. Okay. However,

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unless the earth is soft, like it's quick to fall, or its moist, you have very muddy ground. Allah Allah knows where you live, right? Maybe you're living in in a place where the sand is not even considered normal. So it may be problematic to work with. In which case, it's not my crew.

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It's not my crew. In COVID, we had a kind of a debacle as to what to do with the body right? Must be wrapped twice must be in a plastic bag people got very touchy about this, you know, because this because it's not normal. People are afraid of what they are not accustomed to. And they were even such suggestions that the coffin should be used that must be sealed off and all that was an outrage for people. But yeah, you can see there is room for it. There is room for it.

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So the general rule is that it's my crew. I'm not encouraging it. But the point is, if there's a specific need for it, the ruling is the

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if otherwise, then even if a coffin was stipulated by the deceased in his wall, it will not be provided. It's another one of those things we did he says look, can you put me in a coffin rather I've got some non Muslim family, they would prefer that that would be ignored. Okay.

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Men should bury the deceased

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even if the deceased is female, in which case the best suited is the husband if able. And then for either six those listed in the funeral pray preference that we spoke about before who must lead the janazah Salah except that when two are on the same level such as two sons or brothers, then the most learned in sacred law the most knowledgeable in Islam is preferred to the elder to the oldest one and likely order for the for the sila, in which case preference was given to the older one.

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The purpose they are being knowledge of the rules of burial, which a learned person is likely to know better than others. It is recommended that the number of men that go down into the hole be an odd number. It's recommended that the number of men that goes down into the hole be an odd number for the lady. Generally we would practice on the following

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mean, but for a man you wouldn't really see people practicing on this. It is preferable the Sunnah.

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Actually, the word that's being used here is is not sunnah, but it would be ideal to conceal the grave of the cloth. So for ladies janazah This is standard practice, they will take a cloth cover the whole, place the body inside of that and work underneath for the man not so much.

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A blanket is reached over the grave about a half a meter above the level of the ground helpers holding each corner while another person stands down in the grave at the foot end, ready to take the body from the bead. This is especially necessary when building a female and is done because something might be disclosed of the deceased that is desirable to conceal

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the head of the deceased, that is desirable, sorry, the head of the deceased

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is placed near the foot of the grave foot meaning the end which will accommodate the feet, when the body is in place, and the body is slid from the bead headfirst into the ground.

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It is recommended for the person bearing the deceased we stand in the grave taking the body. And there may be more than one as we said to say Bismillah in the Name of Allah, who Allah miletti Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam and upon the method of the messenger of allah sallallahu ala Salam, and then to make dua for the deceased inside the grave.

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Number three, to place a block

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as a pillow for the person. This is I've never seen this being done the block, perhaps but not this next spot. It is it is recommended to place a block inside as a pillow. And to open up

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the shroud to open up the shroud enough to lay his cheek directly on the surface of the blocks that would be the right cheek. As this is more expressive of loneliness, you're going back to the ground, it's also symbolic of putting your head onto the ground throughout your life in Sajida for Allah subhanaw taala. So I haven't really seen anybody doing this. I don't know if you have, but it is recommended in our field. Again, all of these recommendations,

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if you don't see it being done, it's not something that you should insist upon. Because more than likely, if others they are not familiar with it, and you insist upon it, you are going to be the next one in the grave.

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So rather than

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the body must be placed facing the direction of the Qibla. And this is necessary. This is a mask this is not a recommendation. If buried facing the other way or lying on his back. He is this interred body should be dug up

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and re buried facing the direction of the Qibla. It's a serious thing.

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I wasn't a way until after my father passed away Rahimullah in we buried him in the museum Berg Maqbara

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99% of the bodies they are buried in the wrong direction.

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It's not buried facing the Qibla. Nowadays, some of the burials have shifted. So they've done that and we we used to see like one or two like that. But it never occurred to me that everybody's buried in the incorrect direction in that particular Maqbara until afterwards. Now, if you discover this afterwards, and the body's already, you know, most likely decomposed, you obviously don't take the body up then. But just so you know, if you are going to be buried in museum cemetery, it is generally reserved for those who love that site or loved that site during the apartheid era, for the grew up in in copei. Then make sure that you get your grave buried in the right direction. Right

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because it's a must it's not like a recommendation. The other the other Maqbara Xia and Caitlin I haven't seen an issue such as this, but that one in particular is problematic.

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The lateral hollow dug into the side of the grave. So in our case, the planks in that area inside for the body is walled up with blocks with planks in our case, after the body has been placed in it and before filling the grave and it is sooner to use nine planks or nine blocks.

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The person at the graveside this is for all of us when you attend the janazah should take three handfuls of Earth using two hands and throw it into the grave. Saying minha holla corner come from it we created you

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Fear no you do calm and into it, we return you Wamena no hurry to come down with an overall and from it we shall bring you forth another time scouting verse in the Quran

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and that's the reality of what's happening they it's not a permanent abode you there for a temporary time period you'll be extracted again. Then the grave is filled in using shovels of the which one stays for a moment for a while. Number one to instruct the deceased to make tell teen driver to call the tell team

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and italki in generally consists of the answers the person will need to know when Mancha and Nicki question Him in the grave. As to his Murghab book, our Medina Kawahara Rajan bore Ethafoam Who is your Lord? What is your way of life? Who is this man that has been sent among you. So that's generally what the contents of the tag team entails.

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If you've never done so,

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go open up your Elmo feeder at home or any other fit Kitab that you may have to read the Delkin and read the translation. It's a profound reminder.

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And if you attend the janazah Do not be from among those who stand and chat around while the burial is taking place. It's extremely disrespectful. People stand chat, smoke, laugh, joke about sitting on that side sitting on that side, you therefore the janazah sit and observe right because the purpose of visiting the graves is to remind us of of death.

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Then number two to supplicate for the deceased to make dua for the DCS Allah masa be to Allah, Allah Maliki nahi Jetta who Allah Allah, Allah, who and all of the other donors. And then number three to ask Allah for forgiveness for this person. That's what we do, you know, afterwards,

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one should raise the grave surface meaning higher than ground level, up to one span about 23 centimeters above the ground. So that it can be known, that is a grave day so that it can be visited, and so that it can be respected. Except in countries at war with Muslims weigh it should not be raised but rather concealed, so as to prevent tampering and meddling with grains to make it stop flat is better than to mount it in a hill. And no earth should be added when leveling it, other than what was excavated from it, you shouldn't bring other sand elsewhere and now add to it at the top.

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It is recommended to sprinkle water over the grave and to put pebbles on it. I haven't seen the pebble spot being done. Perhaps afterwards, yes, people come back and then they you know, to that, but it is that's a recommendation. So there's no recommendation of flowers. There's no recommendation of other stuff, but the people's is actually a recommendation in our film.

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Now, this is important, it is considered my crew, to whiten the grave with plaster to build a dome like structure or House over the grave. This is in direct contradiction with the practice at the grommets.

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The exception is given in our film, unless it is the graves of righteous pious people who are visited, who are respected and revered for various reasons. So an exception is given for that.

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But generally regular graves should be kept plain and simple. To put hollowcore perfume on the grave

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is considered my crew have stuff in scenes and stuff burning on the ad, Rosewater, et cetera, that's considered my crew. There's no benefit and it's a waste of money.

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So leave that what still about this notion of putting money onto the graves or under the gravestone and things like that, people do this type of thing. That is not allowed. Number four,

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it is considered Makrooh to place an inscription on the grave This is the original ruling, meaning to write something on the grave

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whether it is the name of the deceased or something other than that, on a board at the head of the grave or on something else, unless the deceased is a friend of Allah

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or religious scholar in which case his name is written so that he may be visited and honored. It then not being offensive again in the shadows.

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In the commentary of this, scholars add that this is the standard rule.

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This is the style

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Under the rule, however, if you are in a context where in without putting the name on the grave, the grave would be lost to grave would be forgotten and abandoned, then you may do what is necessary to the extent that is required. But this remains the original rule. So if you don't clearly mark a particular grave, after a couple of years, if it's not treated and looked after it will be erased, it will be taken away, it will disappear, somebody else will be buried, and there's nothing that you can do about that. So, to place a gravestone with a bare minimum for identification purposes, is permissible. It's possible you can consider the Corolla the disliked Nick nature of it. For anything

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that is considered going overboard.

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Don't have an elaborate gravestone don't have an elaborate inscription on the gravestone a whole message or by and written on the right, keep it as simple as possible. My teacher Rahim Allah Allah

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when his family members passed away, he never had inscriptions on the gravestone he kept it completely blank but it would be clearly marked. his gravestone is there's a blank slate as his name on it, but he's definitely of those who would be part of the exception in sha Allah. Or

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it is also my crew to put a pillow or mattress under the deceased. Okay, she thought you can align comfort. Your Sealy Posturepedic is not going to be allowed in the right no mattresses, no pillows they in

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now, every each method has worked yet.

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Okay.

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Visiting the graves, visiting the graves and consoling the bereaved.

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It is recommended for men to visit the graves

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specifically recommended as in it is encouraged for men to visit the graves of Muslims especially on Fridays. So visiting the graves of non Muslims, it is permissible because that question comes up a lot. It's permissible.

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The spirit of the dead person has a connection with his grave.

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That is never severed. But it is stronger from the mid afternoon as the replay on a Thursday until sunrise on a Saturday. That's when the connection is specifically stronger according to our scholars in filk.

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Which is why people often visit the graves on Friday and on Thursday afternoon. There is no harm in waiting one's shoes when visiting or walking between the graves. The visitor walks up to the grave as close as he would if the deceased were alive and says As salam o aleikum,

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wa salam alaikum, yada Raqami Comilla, meaning insha Allah who become lacunas Allah Allah Allah Allah Kumala Afia is supplication.

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Peace be upon you abode of believing people in sha Allah will be joining us soon. We ask Allah to pardon us and to pardon you to learn that DUA and you'll know what to say when you get to the grave.

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It is sunnah to recite as much of the Quran as is easy and to make dua for the forgiveness of the disease

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while facing the direction of the qibla, as dua benefits the disease, and they are more likely to be answered if made after reciting the Quran. And there are some scholarly discussions about whether the recitation of Quran reaches the deceased or not. But inshallah I will do a an online q&a session and deal with that vein.

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As for women, the strict ruling of the mazahub is that it is offensive for women to visit the graves. Specifically, as you can see the Shah quite harsh, he says because of the lack of fortitude and excessive grief. So I'll add a caveat here. Don't consider this as a prohibition. As in women cannot visit the graves. They should not visit the graves ideally, if it is going to cause them to become excessively depressed or in a state of grief or in a state of

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sorrow.

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Why? Why does the madhhab say that it is offensive? Because the prophets Allah sent him while he said I used to prohibit you from visiting the graves file and as guru habit now visited for inner to the queue calm and moat because it reminds you of David reminds you of the author. In a separate narration. He says that Allah is displeased

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With zawa, rattle KUBU those women who frequently visit the graves, they frequently visit the graves that is problematic, so as to avoid that the mother of regards it as offensive. But it is entirely permissible for a woman to visit the graves of a loved one, especially if she can,

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you know, behave as he's appropriate. Bearing in mind that the Prophet SAW SLM. I mentioned this hadith not too long ago, he came across a grave of a woman whose child had passed away. And she was not behaving appropriately right, as a Muslim should. He respected her nonetheless, and he just left. He spoke about it later, we should respect people's grieving process, right? The Sharia is not hard on people's grieving processes, especially when they are not in control of what is happening with, you know, within them. And we should respect it as well. Right? What is highly problematic is if people deliberately mourn and grieve and relive that grief again and again, you know,

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deliberately bringing up those feelings consciously and intentionally that's problematic.

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Any, this likeness does not apply to visiting the grave of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, which people should do

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in this

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is the visiting the graves of the prophets that I just end and learned as well. sha Allah so we'll conclude on that note, we have four slides remaining and a plethora of possible questions that may come out from this. So inshallah I would consider

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that but to cover this in a an online session, as well as your q&a be delighted to either, as for next week.

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We will be starting with the fifth of fasting because we have four weeks for Wednesday's left until Ramadan if my calculations are correct. So we'll start with the fifth of fasting next week with Mila there are four slides remaining here, which I'll do online. And please, I would encourage you also to ask your questions because there's a lot of potential questions that come out here as well. Three days seven days 40 days, practices after the people have passed away food at the janazah the grieving process what to say to people who have lost loved ones so we will cover all of that in that session. Welcome to the Awana annual hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen.

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