Preparing For Ramadan Part 1

Ibrahim Nuhu


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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Alhamdulillah. We want to say and we want to stop for one hour they will lie he mentioned we unforeseen I will say, Molina

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we shall only monitor to have our koulamallah Certain better, or collect the data and balena Alcala de la la tienen

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que vircle off equal urges Aquila, haven for

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granting me this opportunity to be with you to discuss fasting, sha Allah and Islam.

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So, what we'll be doing in sha Allah, we just focus on that which I believe in sha Allah benefits each and every one of us

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issues that matters related to fast sha Allah. So we're talking a little bit about the beginning of fasting,

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how it was started and what happened

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and then we move to the fast itself, definition of fasting and

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conditions. And then we talk about non advice or fastings. And then how to utilize Ramadan. What is actually supposed to be done in order to

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maximize the benefit shall

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I begin with the Saint of Allah subhanho wa Taala Yeah, you will Amal

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Kumar. Cotulla.

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To taco

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Allah subhanaw taala says, Yeah, you're Latina, amanu quotevalet COSIA come up with a novena.

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From this IR

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we learned that fasting is one of the

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obligatory deeds in the religion of Allah subhanho wa taala.

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And the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam explained that it is not just an obligation, but it's a pillar.

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A pillar means that which supports the building

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is called rockin, in Arabic.

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And rockin is defined as the general Bucha ilaqua.

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By the middle God he would, when Adam he, Aladdin,

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if something exists,

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pillar is a thing that when it does exist, then an object or

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an item or whatever the building would exist, and when you destroyed, the building will collapse.

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So fasting

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is described

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by the Sharia as this to be one of the pillars of Islam in which if a person doesn't believe in, in it, his Islam will not be accepted by Allah subhanaw taala.

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So there is nothing to be used in order to address the importance of the importance of fasting except this

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fact that fasting is one of the pillars of Islam is more than enough.

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The line of Dharma

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says Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Boolean Islam Allah comes Islam is built upon five pillars, shahada to Allah, Allah, Allah Allah, Allah to Allah Allahu Allah. The first one is the Shahada.

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Wanda Muhammad Rasool Allah, and also Tibet witness that Rasul Allah is the final messenger of Allah subhanaw taala.

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We call me Salah establishment of the prayer, where Eater is the cow and also giving the charity was helping me Ramadan. And the prophets Allah Azza wa said fast in the month of Ramadan.

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So is a pillar in Islam. Allah azza wa jal says it has been prescribed upon you just like the way he was prescribed to those people before you.

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We have learned from this idea that fasting was there in the nations before us. It wasn't given to us alone. They used to fast.

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One of the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said the nations before us used to

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fast, but they're fasting according to some of the scholars was based on the monthly basis. I mean, every month they fast for three days.

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And this is what remains at the beginning of Islam. Muslims are supposed to be fasting for three days. According to the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, or the ephah, narrated by one of the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that fasting passed three stages to people before it gets stable. Three stages before

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we will settle on one stage, the stage that we were dealing with now,

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the first stage

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it was

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the stage that allows for her to maintain the early attitude given to the previous nation. He says in the camera kuchibhotla lithiumion publikum. It is just like the way the last one to prescribe it for those who came before you. You also allows my hotel granted to the same thing.

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So it's up to the believers to untangle the roof selasa didn't have any problems because he enlightened them about that which was there is up to them to understand what exactly was there before. So we have learned from the Sunnah, that every Muslim in those days, used to pass three days in a month is a must fast JSON a month. And also according to this narration is the first stage right to maintain the first and to maintain the early attitude of the nation before us too fast for three days. And that always says Osama Ashura. In addition to this also the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam I fasted Ashura.

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Ashura is

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where it's actually

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when those guys beat themselves,

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they have the Ashura where they come and hit themselves to remember who.

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Okay, who is an incredible? Let's just say that, do you remember saying

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This is not the actual are we talking about? We're talking about the algebra the 10th of Muharram. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi, Simone, he reached Makkah, and sorry, he reached Medina, he found the Jews first in the title.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I said, Why are they faster? Why are they fasting this this day?

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So the Muslims informed the prophets Allah is telling me that they are doing that because they believe on the 10th 10th of Muharram Musa was saved from fraud. That was the day of the victory last quarter say

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Musa from fidelity. So they were celebrating, to show their appreciation to Allah subhanaw taala the Prophet sallallahu Allah who said, I said, Now I will have the Musa minnow, maize Musa alayhis salam belongs to us more than the way he belongs to them. We should celebrate this day of happiness by fasting. So he told the believers to fast and some scholars said it used to be obligated upon every Muslim to fast video of Ashura plus the three days in a month, because Ashura is repeated once in a year, right? That's three days in a month, every month, you fast three days.

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Nowadays, it is not well, these three days it becomes part of this part of the Sunon. Also now fasting that we recommend that we should be doing in Islam, we talk about that which Allah in, in the future.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam I told them now let me Musa Musa belongs to us more than the way he belongs to them. Because Muslims is not a Muslim is not allowed

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to claim Islam as long as he is rejecting one of them, messengers of Allah spirometer you have to accept all of them. So Musa is one of us, actually. So one of them, because they rejected him. And we did not reject Musa alayhis salam, so Musa is one of us. So perhaps Allah Azza wa said most and belongs to our community, more than the way he belongs to their community, because they claim

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the relationship to Musa alayhis salam. And this claim is just based on the biological connection.

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And this is useless when you compare it with the

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with the Islamic connection and the relationship between a person and another person. That's why the Scholars mentioned that the greatest of who,

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which is the real who actually is the one

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150 Brotherhood in the religion of Allah subhanaw taala.

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In a way when there is contradiction between this and the other one, the one that is based on the D will take the preference that other one will be useless

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as why no Halle Salam. He told Allah subhanho wa Taala this is one other glasses when I don't know him or on behalf of cholera in Lebanon, I mean, mean early. No hallelujah Salam. He called upon Allah subhanaw taala. He says yeah Allah in the Bunnymen.

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You remember the case of nobody celebrate. When Allah Sparta sent the to farm to destroy the people of Lu because they rejected?

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No or they rejected all of the messengers. They rejected all of the messengers of Allah Samantha although no was the only one who was sent to them. But alas, monta says the people who rejected the messages.

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He put it in the plural form, messengers Russell can pick Cago no hate, no hidden mursaleen they rejected all of them, messengers of Allah subhanaw taala why Allah subhanaw taala is using this form, to address the issue of their rejection, because no brought to them nothing but that which is similar to the one brought by Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, and all of the prophets of Allah subhanaw taala on the same message. So if you reject one of them, you're rejecting the rest. You don't need to call them by names. But if you reject one message, which is similar to the other one, you're rejecting all of them.

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So when Allah subhanaw taala destroyed them, after 950 years of doubt, they will go on all of them. Know Alayhis Salam, Allah subhanaw taala for wisdom, he led this ever to happen so that we will understand that the real connection between you and somebody is the connection of the tea.

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So I met his son, and he taught the son

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come with us.

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He said he told him come with us.

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And subhanAllah the sentry themes. You have a or Komodo. He says come with us.

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Well article,

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it says don't be with nonbelievers.

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Careless or illegible in their Simoni minima. It says no, I have that as a mountain. I'm going to go on top of that mountain to be protected.

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But then No, I told him Leon Simoni Amin amarilla, elaborate. Some you have to be realistic to yourself. Nobody can be protected from the punishment of Allah smarter to the except those people whom Allah smartair Show mercy for there is no way for you to get protected Just come with us is the only protection you have. It says no. Allah says wahala minimal module for cadmium Mahaki Subhanallah

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stroke wave those bubbles interferes and become a barrier between Luhan the sun and the sun was was gone.

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So this is a child, no his son, for sure. He has been thinking about him How come he's gone just like that. His wife was gone. The Sun Also was gone, you know, together with those people who are lost power to Allah destroyed completely.

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So no, after this destruction when everything cooled down, Allah subhanaw taala commanded the earth to swallow that which it broods because the rain is coming from up and down. So Allah told the earth Ibrahim Aki just take out take back that which you brought out.

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And the sky and the summer glass my toilet stop bringing the water plus fish that's after everything is gone. Animals human beings and whoever is not in that ship, or last monitor decided they will get destroyed they're gone. So Allah subhanaw taala calls that shade of blue to get stable on the mountain. Which mountain is the Aloha? But anyway, after this everything has cooled out a loss but before they even get out of the ship. No say the Allah.

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In a minute, well, I don't know how to Mahakala or be in the Bunnymen early We're in no other can help

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me. It says here Hola. My son is one of my families. He's part of my family. And you promise me to protect me and to save me and the family members. He says My son is one of

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very close relative to

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the most connected person even inheritance for those of you who are studying you

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Not the most connected person to the disease is his child, the children and so when he said this, Allah subhanaw taala says no in the whole place, I mean,

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he is not part of your family members

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in the way that can help what he says no less I mean Alec in the Harmon

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said he is not one of your family members. Why was he rejected because he did something which is not righteousness, and Subhanallah Allah because of this, he says in no lace, I mean, Alec is not your family member. And that's the reason why inheritance is based on what is based on the close relationship. You have, you are related to a person, you know, by what, by NASA.

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If you go out of this, then we take what we take marriage, okay, another kindness from the Sharia. But when a person, whoever this person might be in the religion, divorce, Islam cancel any connection that he has with that person, then they will not inherit.

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So that's the reason why most Alehissalaam belongs to us because the whole war between us and the Musa and Musa alayhis salam is a whole Fitty

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and that's the reason why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam I used to celebrate, celebrate fast in the month of sorry, the 10th of Muharram that's how he celebrates, doesn't become I mean, come on, do the party and do all of these things. No, the celebration is based on increase in the worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala an increase in the worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala to show their appreciation to come and cook food and do all of these things.

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They do not do that.

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And that's how celebrating celebration, I mean, exist in that manner. So that's the first stage to fast for three days plus the Ashura but then the second stage is when Allah azza wa jal reveal the ayah that talks about Ramadan, shahada, Ramadan and lagoon Zelophehad Quran hood Alina acid or by anatomy, Sharon Madonna lady on Zelophehad Quran orderliness, obey anatomy and Houda well for financial freedom ecommerce Shahara fully sold. The second stage is the stage when Ramadan was prescribed. That one was abrogated the first one, but then Ramadan was pre prescribed

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based on option. If a person wants to fast he fast

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obligated upon every Muslim to pass, but it is optional, if you cannot, if you don't want to. But if you cannot pass if you don't want to fast, you move to the substitute, you know, Allah is smarter granted to you another option which is to feed the needy person. So in the sole way Melissa, either you fast or you do when you feed in a person. That's why they said Can I mention some who Amit Shah upon whoever wants to fast Hey fast, whatever doesn't want to fast a feed any person. And that's that's more than more than enough for him.

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That's the second stage.

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But then this option, okay was removed also

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allows for her to remove it.

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Where Allah subhanaw taala make it obligated upon every Muslim to fast Ramadan.

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Except those people who are having excuses, such as the Messiah, an old man or woman, a pregnant woman, and a breastfeeding woman or a sick person, you know somebody who cannot fast these are the only people that are excused from fasting they can stay away from fastened and make it up after afterwards.

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But at the beginning of Islam,

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at the beginner of Islam, what happened was

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Allah subhanaw taala make it compulsory upon them to fast but during Iftar you know, during Iftar, that's after mongering.

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If you sleep, then you cannot eat until the next movie. You can eat and drink and approach your family. But if you sleep, you cannot wake up and eat again.

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Okay, you have a fast start from the moment you sleep.

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You can keep eating, eating, eating until further

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no problem and if you make a mistake,

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Margaret comes you sleep after Marguerite before eating food.

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Then we have to see you in the next

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next day.

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So they were like that and you can imagine how much difficulty is going to be those those people

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For, I mean, download the problems the last summer, the people are very poor. You're not sure when are you going to find the food. And they work. You know, they don't have gym that we have nowadays. Because they're always in the farm. They're always in the souk, they're always in the market, you know, a very active. So imagine you like that

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work in place, and then afterwards, you come back home, you know, when you come back home to eat, but unfortunately, it was

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it was mongering time, and you're exhausted, then you sleep.

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You cannot eat again after you wake up until the next. The next what you call next. Not morning, but next night, next evening, after sun,

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So they were like that, until the time one of the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam who was called Selma, or Salma, you know, he came back from the work. And then he asked his wife, do we have food? She said, No.

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But I can go and bring it for you.

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I can go and check with the neighbors. Maybe I can get something for you. So Subhanallah he was waiting for her to come back. He's left.

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So when he woke up, he was extremely exhausted.

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Maybe the other night also, he did not take I mean, good. So

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you know, and now also, he's going to do those good. So hold on now, so he's going to make it continuous.

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So he's left when the wife came back, she said hi, better luck. It's like definitely you are in trouble. You're gonna be able to pay the price.

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In the morning, he was badly affected. In some narration he fainted. They reported the case that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam are worried so much about that. According to some narration the prophets Allah Azza wa called him what happened to you. Then he explained to the profit and loss and what exactly happened. And at the same time, also, Irma, he slept. When he woke up, he has a need to his family members, he forgot and he approaches his wife. He also came to the process last summer to report that he slept and he woke up and he approached his wife. This is the reason why Allah subhanaw taala waived, remove that difficulty to

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ease then the fast became in the way we see nowadays Allah smarter revealed the ayah that says Kulu wash Rabu had title in your local hotel annual terminal haikal Asmodee manufacture, Allah smart Allah commanded the people to eat and drink and have relationship with their spouse from the rising of the dawn until Fajr.

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So, these are the stages of fasting

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and this is also the beginning of the fast we learned that it used to be with the previous nation and then the last one to ask the believers to maintain what used to be practiced by the previous nation and then Allah swatter move it to the second stage and then the last one to move it to the third stage, which is also abrogated in the way we see now nowadays.

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So, this is faster,

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what is faster

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who can define faster? Right Can I stop Yes,

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who can define faster

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this one

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what is fasting

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from sunset to sunrise, sunrise sunset, from sunset to sunrise.

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This is a cartoon

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so abdomin says avoiding eating and drinking from sunset to sunrise

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from sunrise to sunset right.

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What do you think about that? I think that will be so good right. Unless we this around Wait Wait no modification.

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And is that how you lead you lead people?

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Is it correct he said from sunrise to sunset right.

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Okay, what is fasting

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what is

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distinguish the wedge

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but how do I do how do I do that I got one of the companions he has his Allah said Why read write and read one so when did he do he bring the white thread and

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which colors are black and he puts the black and the red like this next to his pillow it kept an opening and watch he eats his food

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before he realized the sun already right.

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So, he told the promise and rightly so because this is what NASA is heptad 2 million and accommodate them communicate the last word when he told the province of law cinema he laughed he said definitely you have a very long pillow

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so how do I differentiate especially when you talk to people living in UI

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How do you see with this light always

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and then event come on the month and eat and drink and then call it and sometimes also they make mistake you know that there will be there will be two kinds of lights when they break the first one there will be like an horizontal and not vertical line that would be like the false light if you will the false Bay

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will be a practical aid break and that moment it was get more

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more lighter and lighter like it's like after fighting a fight when we go outside to see that behind the mountains you see that the day is coming and then there's the white bread that is distinguishing from the black bread because it covers the whole origin and not the political one that will be like maybe 40 minutes or 45 minutes before that that is the false one.

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Like this Like standing and the vertical one is the correct one and that's the moment that spider starts the moment that you

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I'm talking about people living with you right I'm not asking about that I'm talking about people living in the city where you have the daylight it's not easy for somebody to differentiate between these two things. If you ask them to go for that I'm telling you they will no way eaten until the time they see the daylight real daylight but if you talk to the villages explain to him like that he can tell you which one is what you know, because they don't have these distractions that we have.

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You said okay I will use the data that is not accurate especially knowing that these people sometimes they base the calendar on the first

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fajita you have mentioned and that one the professor last time I said is not the correct one. Okay, we will come up we will come to that inshallah. Not only your light your light, I just want to distract you also.

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Okay, until now I couldn't get what I want in the definition of fasting what is fasting

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kind of self gratification to avoid what

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gratification sense?

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Sense gratification gratification. What do you mean by that?

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Just assume that you are teaching and the students ask you this question. They said they don't understand since gratification

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gratification no problem we're also like that

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zeta is so perfect in English

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so don't worry about that just tell me what do you mean by in your own words in the way you want? Just want to understand

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you mean that a person stays away from commission of the sins right that's that's what you mean

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that's that's fast that's first thing is very easy right

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sensitive happiness life.

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A person shouldn't be very sensitive right cooldown patient you know or like this person is so nice according to

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if you have moved the most of the people will join your

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so because if I just stay away from sins, right, and bad manners and attitude, what is that? Firstly, so I eat and drink. I do everything that is halal. But the point is I shouldn't commit sin no line no cheating, no fighting anyone you know I have good manners to observe good manners This is fasting

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and he said yes

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mashallah, so this month we're going to Wichman is that next Ramadan inshallah you're going to start a new kind of fasting

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Thank you very much. Any I said if this is what how you define for

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as investments you never fast in the way we used to fast. So I've just given you good news that Insha Allah, this Ramadan will be your first, your first Ramadan, you know

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who can try again, last chance.

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I think fasting is you think

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thing is

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about keeping away from foods and from dreams and at the same time, major and minor sins. And the reason for that is

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to get close to Allah. So that needs to be more conscious of Allah, and you're fooling yourself in everything that you do throughout the day, and trying to be actually the best person that you can be to actually bother and try to like

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adapt to a

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better way of being a Muslim, like we have finished the Quran

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and try to uphold that.

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So that is keeping away from pushing things, even away from major and minor students trying to follow us as much as you can.

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Got it.

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And then because I forgot your name again,

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just I don't know, where exactly are you going to end? So I said, Let me sit down for us.

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That's the longest definition you ever heard, you know?

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Easily when you define something you put in a very simple

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your definition is more on what explanations and details about that's great, everything you mentioned is perfect and correct. But when it comes to when it comes to the definition,

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give this a big X and move it to explanation we tell you this one will come after afterwards.

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Okay, you know, what, what was missing in all of these approaches, he mentioned about things chef mentioned about stop eating and drinking and what else

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I thought you're going to

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they're going to say I'm the one who mentioned.

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So, if you look at whatever is mentioned by by whoever spoke we address of the mind is that the person who lost the whole thing we address almost everything that is needed to define fast to define fasting to stop eating and drinking and also to stop committing sins which I will not put in the definition at all scholars will not put they put it sometimes but the real definition of fasting we don't address these issues to avoid things and to avoid to be a point of good manner and all of these things they are those commodity yet those things that completed fast and if a person is not careful, sometimes they might make the fast useless the fast is there. Allah will not ask you to

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fast again afterwards. Let's say a person fast and he bites and he does does does the fast is there as long as he fulfill all of the conditions have passed in the last month I will accept it from him visa later. But the fast has no value at all.

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To get it the purpose a lot so massive millennia dark color Zuly will ama levy Felisa de la hydrogen he and Jada apama who worship

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we will address this inshallah who later. So what is the correct definition of fasting?

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Can we say I'm just asking before I finalize, can we say to stay away from eating,

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drinking and having sexual relationship with the spouse? This is what I think nobody addresses having sex relationship with the spouse from the rising of the dawn till sunset. Can we say that?

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Actually, that's wrong. So

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I just want to test you.

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That's also wrong.

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Okay, what is it missing from this definition? That is a key word that is missing, which must be there.

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Eventually we don't need to put intention in that place.

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We don't need to

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as a result in the effects.

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I want you to define that. This is one word is missing. You're not one word Yanis some something missing.

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Okay, that's what you're doing actually, if you

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would like to

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modify that one and put it in the proper place.

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And I can accept it.

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Yes. Increased

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no that's the side effects

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okay modify that you are taking from the head that's copyright.

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Plagiarism is wrong.

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K. Usually this is what is used by the scholars to define for us when they say to stay away from

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himself and move throughout our lives and an accumulation will be

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a one week from fragile until sunset, okay, this is what is mentioned by a scholar this usually assuming that the key

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or the core point in that definition is already known to everyone.

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But a founder some of our scholars, when they define it, they define it with the most accurate way is it a taboo to lay the in psyche and in authority, mental deficiency. So we're going to learn Fajr ala options,

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a tombola to worship Allah subhanaw taala by staying away from eating and drinking and having sexual relationships with the spouse from the rising of the budget until sunset, this word upward has to be there. Why do we need it? Because sometimes I might be stained from eating and drinking for health sake.

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Do we have situations like this? Yes. And a person is not counted as a fasting person Islamically

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why because he wasn't doing it in that in that nature. So a tumbled relay, billing cycle and Materazzi intuitions, I'm sorry, the oil factory motions to worship Allah subhanaw taala by staying away from a little mustard, anything that can nullify a fast from the rise of the dawn until sunset.

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If you look at this definition, it contains how many things

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maintain potentially have mentioned

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and three key elements to be used, one of them staying away from it.

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Second one staying away from drinking. And the third one staying away from having sexual relationship

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from the rising of the dawn until sunset. And these are the things that we're going to be focusing on when we talk about nullifies of fasting. So this is the meaning of fasting and the definition given

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to address fasting by the scholars.

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is one of the best months that Allah subhanaw taala

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in so many ways.

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One of them that it is the month that Allah subhanaw taala chose and even According to some scholars that Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam out was sent by Allah subhanaw taala in the month of Ramadan.

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Allah says Sharyl Ramadan and Lady Zelophehad Quran, who deadly NASCI Oba United minute hold up one phone call,

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the month of Ramadan

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the month that Allah subhanaw taala revealed the Quran in it, who the Linus as a guide to guidance for humankind's global unity minute Who that will for fun. And also it is attached with clear evidence from the holder and the phone call. So having the Quran been revealed in this month, last Martella chose it is enough to show the importance of the month.

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That's why we have learned from the scholars that the previous nation, they don't receive Ramadan without any preparation.

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They used to prepare for that they used to fast in the way the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam I used to do in the month of Shabbat as a preparation to

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if you can come and feel this

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for instance

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otherwise I'll be left alone.

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So they used to they used to prepare for that.

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Why was that so that they will become familiar with those attitudes and the manners that are supposed to be done in the month of Ramadan.

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What am I supposed to do to prepare for for the month

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I will suggest the following four things for a person to get ready for for them in which is an ally to Allah. If the month of Ramadan comes, you will be among those people who

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succeed in it.

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If the month of Ramadan comes, you will be amongst those people who succeeded. I benefited

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these things from one of the great scholars.

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And then I found them very interesting to be discussed in this platform, especially in the time we're living nowadays, of differences in separation.

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The first thing is the unity

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and the removal of the hatred and hatred between you and others. If you start from from now,

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because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said

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Monday and Thursday, Allah subhanaw taala forgive

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everyone, and the deeds are supposed to be taken to Allah subhanho wa Taala every Monday and Tuesday. And Allah will forgive everyone except Monday and Thursday. Except those two people who are having Shana and enmity between them then Allah subhanaw taala will tell them in through our own Guru haven't had time to study Ha, leave these two until they reconcile.

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So Unity is essential.

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And there will be no success for a nation without unity. That's where Allah subhanaw taala and Serato and I'm foul. It says what I do now must mean converting when we rebuttal highly to Hebrew wouldn't be I do Allahu wa helenium into large Alamodome. Allahu Allahu Allah subhanaw taala says preparing for, for the meeting with the enemies of Allah subhanho wa Taala must support as much as you can according to your ability.

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So Allah is going to talk about this preparation. But then after that in the next

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ayah Allah subhanaw taala says, wealthier Allah in the next place, while the Allahu wa rasuluh wallet and as a fact of shadow. He said obey Allah Subhan Allah to Allah

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and obey His Messenger, wallet and as FATF shallow, Allah azza wa jal says, don't have Nizza amongst you, because if you do that, for potential,

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you will be defeated by the enemy, whatever the Haku and your strength will be taken from you will spill. So that's why I really love this statement of the scholars that one of the most important thing for a person to do is to cleanse his heart from the enemy between him and and the brothers and sisters and fix the relationship between you and and everyone especially when it comes to the relationship between you and the relatives. That's very important. And this is one of

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the thing

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Ramadan is teaching us that's why the scholars said Ramadan is is madrasah, you're happy and try make everyone happy.

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And this differences among the Muslims should be should be taken away.

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The second thing is to fix the heart to make sure that whatsoever you are doing is based on the type of Allah subhanho wa taala. And this is the reason why Allah subhanaw taala says, Yeah, you have Latina aman quotevalet camassia mahkamah kuchibhotla dinamik publikum la quinta taco.

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Ramadan is prescribe upon you or fasting is prescribed upon you. Just like the way it was prescribed upon the nation before you leave the country to home. Maybe you will attain the Taqwa of Allah subhanho wa taala.

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What is the what

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Taqwa is Amazon can be one of the acts of the heart. And it means nothing, but to put between you and that which you are afraid of a strong fortress and protection to prevent you from it evil, you afraid of something, you put a barrier between you and that thing, so that you will not get affected by HMO. This is what TBWA is all about. In this sense, step one means nothing except the practice of the religion of Allah subhanaw taala based on the book of Allah and the Sunnah of Rasulullah. Allah described fast and he said it was given to you so that you can attain the taqwa which is the greatest act of the heart.

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taqwa in what sense, taqwa means protection.

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This caller said protection against the help and protection against the evil human

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desire. There's a reason why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, yeah Masha Shiva manasota Amin Cumberbatch affiliates as a witch for in November in masa was an old Ferengi from Allah Masada

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My father, he saw me fighting the hula hoop, which he says, is addressing the youth, whoever can afford marriage, he should marry

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for no another imbecile because marriage is the biggest factor that helps a person to lower his case.

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the vast majority of those people who are lowering their gaze, they don't stretch their eyes to do everything, you know.

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They are who they are those people who are married,

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you know, because they have a place where they can satisfy themselves.

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Others are not like that. That's the reason why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said whoever can afford marriage, he should do, he should do it.

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He says for no argument, the real boss only works and

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the best thing to protect and to guard your modesty and to protect your private private part with is to marry.

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Filament from Allah. Mr. de Falla himself is a minister of Amman coming back to whoever can afford ba what is well

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financially capable scholars defined Bob

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they said a person who is financially capable of marriage or when we say financially capable, we're not talking about the capability and the way people look at it nowadays. You have to be so unsolved for you to marry. No, we talking about that which is required from you in a marriage, you have that one.

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And in Islam, Mahara doesn't have a fixed amount, you know, there is no limit for it. But surely, I just advise you to be moderate, you know, to go to the lowest level as much as you can't, because marriage is not a business. It's not a business, you're not buying a product.

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You're not buying a bra. But unfortunately, nowadays is made like this, that's why the bulk is removed. A lot of fighting, you know, in the marriages separation, the wife is not happy, the hazmat also is not happy. It has a root from the beginning. So there is no limit for it, but you are recommended by the Sharia to catch it to the lowest level as much as you can. So that's what that means. The second thing to use in order to define bar is somebody who is sexually capable. Because you are married to a pro I mean to protect yourself and to protect who the one whom you stay with. And as a reason why

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you should stay with who the person who you feel comfortable saying with

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you don't stay with somebody anyhow. Okay, you will see a brother or a sister that you know, you don't feel comfortable staying with him, because of the way they look like we are talking about religion and the attitude, the manners.

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These are things that cannot be compromised, you know, you start with them, but you might compromise sometimes the beauty or the way somebody looks like

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is that okay? No, he's not.

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Okay, in most instances, this is not okay. Because marriage is based on what protection you're protecting your spouse is protecting you protecting her, you know, it's supposed to be something like that. You go out, you see something that distracts you, you know that you come back home, you find some somebody there, the promise that Allahu Allahu selama said Whoever goes out and sees something that distracts his heart, he will come back to his wife because the wife whatever that person has, he also has

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what does that mean? You have an alternative. But if you take somebody that you don't feel comfortable

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don't have any desire to that person. And then you are distracted outside and you come home what happens? You go back outside

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so that's why everyone came says is wrong.

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In RAM, the COVID says, Well, I think you had

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in context okay, this you should listen properly. Those people who are in the old age, say, Well, I think you had in contention, fatigue.

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tarnish, feed, there are ill Isshin alter the beverage. He gave a series of advice, you know, in terms of

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marriage and who to go with is is Latin to have incandescent confetti. He said if you're a chef

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and chef doesn't mean scholar chef means an old person you know

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is encounter shaken at it and if you are a chef, do not marry a young person.

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Why? You might say there is no talent This is not haram.

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But is it appropriate is not enough, unless in both of you get comfortable with each other but imagine a person is at the age of 70 8090

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if that person doesn't think of anything, and when he marries a very young person, the scholar said, do not do that, because you cannot satisfy it, you cannot satisfy. So at the end of the day either you will be disturbed because she doesn't feel comfortable staying with you, or at the end of the day you will be agreeing to see evil taking place in your family and you can do nothing, because you are the one who would make it in that way. So that's the reason why when they define but I mentioned by the proxy law, somebody said, somebody who is financially capable, and also can approach as follows. That's that's prophets Allah sama said, Whoever has this, he should marry, because it

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protects and guard his modesty. If he cannot, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam I said, Let him think fast, because it is the best protection he has. The prophets Allah Azza wa said we'll see I'm Ginetta cogen, Mattia, Haddock and of pitta faston Act acts like a shield. Just like the way when you go to fight an enemy you use the shield and armor to protect yourself from from the weapons of the enemies. Fasten also does that it protects you in two ways. Okay, one way it protects you from help. There is a light Allah as the Sunnah of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe, Salam I mentioned that fasting is going to intercede for you on on the day of judgment. And also it protects you to

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reduce this human desire that might go beyond the limits. Why is that? Because when you fast, you're restricting your attention. You know, you're focusing on the fast and the hungry deals you desire. That's why you find most of the people they feel more closer to Allah subhanaw taala when they fast

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in Ramadan, how is it almost everyone is righteous, even the bad man also come back to Allah subhanho wa taala.

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That's what fast does. And I will talk about this sha Allah because there are a lot of complaints nowadays that we fast, but still the human desire, the natural desire is still there. One of them told me that he has almost everyday but it doesn't change the reality. So it depends on the way you have asked him. You know, he fast according to the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but you will never be in trouble in this way. So a purification of the heart is necessary for somebody to make his fast, effective. And also a last one, I will tell you to accept it.

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Next, to protect your tongue. And this is what I guess most of you are talking about. When you're defining faston. You said a person shouldn't do this, a person shouldn't do that. Okay, these are the chameleons those things that profess the FASEB somebody that means no line.

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No backbiting.

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Do we stop line in Ramallah? No. People still meet and talk and backbite others and slander others. These are the attitudes which are rejected Islamically and they badly affect your fast and that's why you don't see the result. You know, we finished Ramadan. after Ramadan, we go back to the same situation who we were before before Ramadan. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam I said, Mala Mia da Colas Zuli Well, I'm gonna be here for less than Allah hydrogen near the Alabama who are shadow, whoever does not stop callers do what is called a zoo.

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Concert as one line called the zoo does like to say something that doesn't exist, whether it is in the form of testimony, you know, shahada to Zoo, a person is trying to witness an event which he wasn't there when it happened. You grant your testimony on an event that you do not see is very bad in the eyes of Allah smarter and it's also a form of lie. And you know, in Islam line has never been tolerated or never been tolerated at all. Except in those three places mentioned by Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a personalized the battlefield, but a person lied to reconcile between two people who are fighting each other, when a person lies to his spouse.

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And these are if you look at them in the way the person prescribed them they are not really really lying, the Tolia we call them using a word that has two meaning but the intent the farthest one which is not understood by the one who is listening to you,

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and that's why they said so even say

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Rahim Allah said Kulu them be Jarl hola hola hookah Farah Amaroo any sin that Allah's Watermaker Farah for that affair and the issue of this them is very simple.

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For the diary, Canon major Allahu Lille clinical file. And for this reason, there was no Kafala for for lying in Islam. And the lie in person, Allah subhanaw taala promise

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to the to the new date on Earth, it will never be respected in this life and the hereafter if he doesn't stop he might be putting himself in a great I mean very dangerous position with Allah subhanho wa taala. So protection of the tongue from line protection of the tongue from backbiting what is that right? But by tends to talk about your brother or your sister, you know mentioning that which they don't want you to talk about. So we do that we do up to date we do this we talk about them so that's why Allah I really advise you because these are the areas if you get involved in them you also you are fast cannot be concealed.

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Question. Is there anyone among you in this in this space? Who doesn't commit sin?

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Is there anyone that we can have a special interview with him?

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Yeah, seriously to get the clue? How did he manage to reach this position? Is there anyone among you who doesn't?

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Why do you keep quiet?

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That's been there is nobody right? Okay. Do you have secret things which I don't want you to mention the words you have, that we have secret sins that we committed, which nobody knows except the last one hotel, almost everyone's like that. I don't want to mention some muscles. It might disturb you, you know, but almost everyone is like that. There are things which you do nobody knows and you don't want people to see people like that. From time to time you have these weaknesses. You go against the law of Allah subhanaw taala and you are the last one to conceal your face or lie this is mercy from Allah subhanaw taala and one of the greatest blessings of Allah Swanton is this that Allah can see

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the affairs and Allah subhanaw taala make most of your tragedies hidden from the eyes of others. And when Muhammad was praising Allah subhanaw taala for that which he did, which is a lot for him, he says was a turtle on Amazon to him. I see and he says Allah one of the things you did or you were doing for me, he says that I've done outside in US ICME even let's people this is the one who wrote in there it's a company is an Eden II do not let people see my sins you know, most of my problems is not let people see it says Hola Hola, Ali, more kabhi hacer

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la Salama Alia Manuel Carnac. He says yeah, Allah, I believe if people are going to see

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these bad attitude that I have,

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nobody will say salam to me afterwards after this. So this is who we are. Allah is what is concealing your affairs. I want you to make connection with the giver. Because if Allah is concealing your affairs, this take place as long as you also conceal the affairs of your Muslim brothers and sisters. Do you know that?

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That's why monitor your life. Sometimes you hear your stories with others, right? Don't blame everyone. They're also committing sin, Allah is testing them actually. But who's who caused this? You know,

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that's why even Rachel humbly said, he said we saw and we witness a lot of people, nobody is talking about them at all. Until the time they start talking about others, then everyone also talk about that. Because people study I always put this and I'm making a sort of joke, but I meant what I what I'm saying is that one of the most critical moment is when you ask a person to talk about him himself, right? You apply sometimes they tell you describe yourself you know nowadays also we have a very professional way of looking for

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for marriage, marriage becomes a business you know, you send your CV for what for for employment, right.

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Nowadays, if you look for for marriage, also the one of the things they ask is what?

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To write the CV, who are you?

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How was the CV rated? And those that comes across? I mean, I come across, they're not like me in business. When you talk about yourself, you talk about those skills and you know, you have this you have that but the marriage what skills

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do you get is why you see the CV is like you just talking about yourself, sometimes one page or half a page, you know, like that, to just pass it. This is who we are. If somebody asked me talk about yourself, I'm telling you in few minutes you finished and then you'll be asking your friends question right.

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But give Abdurrahman the title to talk about the hit. Okay, don't fight

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each other afterwards, talk about the hate in his PhD.

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Can he produce a book like that? Yes.

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I'm telling you produce a book. He goes around and check about design. Right? Right, right that he can produce a book.

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What does that mean? People are monitoring our life.

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You know, but Allah subhanaw taala closed their eyes to see our weaknesses. And also they can talk. Why because we are decent in the eyes of Allah subhanaw taala. Usually, they are also eyes. I mean, there is also a closed.

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That's a reason why Imam Shafi says if you want to protect your honor and dignity, he said for Lion Commencal Lisanti be so 18 for Culicoides willingness, also SubhanAllah. He said, When you want to protect your honor, he said make sure that your tongue never mentioned something bad about others.

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He said for call Luca. So tune, he says every single part of view a SOA SOA means deficiency. And no, no matter how much I try, if I focus here, I just see the people here and some of you I can focus on the on some you know, I don't see the people if I focus on them. Also, I don't see what is going on here. How many eyes? Do I have to lead to? If you say three? I will I have only two eyes, right?

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And how many eyes you guys have, according to the number of the people, you multiply by two.

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All of these are if I see the deficiency, you can see in what I mean in yours, it's going to be very little, but you are watching that person who is watching you, all of you. And he is all about deficiency, how many how many deficiencies are going to see if I talk about your deficiency, I'll mention only a few of them. And then I keep going because I couldn't see all of them. But if you guys are going to talk about my deficiency, how many of you will mention a lot because you can see almost everything. So this is what emotional he wants to tell you. Keep quiet, don't talk about the deficiency of others. Allah sorta will close your deficiency they will not also speak about yours,

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they will say nothing and you accept the cool thing.

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So do not backbite or lie, do not walk by it. Because it's bad. Do not talk about somebody mentioned the evil or the deficiency of that person, even if he does that. That's why when the Prophet sallahu alayhi wa sallam I said, stay away from viva.

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And the Companions asked him what is the river? He said they call Luca haka. democra, to mention your brother to talk about him. Use mentioning that which he doesn't want you to talk about. They said he also the what if he does, which, what I'm saying

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that he's doing the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam I said,

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if you if he does that this is backbiting. But he wasn't doing that which you mentioned. And this is what this is like.

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What is he indicating? Just don't mention your Muslim brother or a sister except with good and the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam as usually cut the story short, to teach a believer what is the best formula principle to be used in this regard when he says mankind and you will Yamanaka Philippa? Hi Ron

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Allah I always imagine an environment whereby I work in this environment but then I don't feel

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you know, I don't feel what do you call insecure that I'm not secure in this space? Nowadays you go out of your house you pass up people you know the mall, indicate that they're talking about you.

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You know, idea. People will come there's also an animal also comes and tells me what other people are talking and this isn't about you. So we don't feel comfortable. A person pass we talk about it. That's the reason why the prophets Allah is a mindset in your commercial use Allah. He said, I want you from sitting on

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the couch, the side of the road, what is it going to happen because if I sit at the side of the road, people will be passive and I will be talking about them sometimes.

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And that's backbiting so that's why the best thing to be used to protect yourself from this is the Sunnah of the Prophet Allah sama he says whenever you open your mouth, say good or the word we keep quiet.

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And if I am to attach to this something which is also beneficial is to take the advice given to us by by a will has

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in his vocal o'clock was here he says Learn to call it the NASA Walter fighter

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even hasn't read it says let a variable let's call it the nurse

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for Medicaid I call it the home Mr. Wash I'm sorry, he the color term and oak will either fall October is the hashed

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He says lead to chronic illness, do not go on mix with people.

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Okay? Why do you stay, stay alone, but he doesn't mean do not marry means you and your wife stay alone while had to find a home and do not stay away from them

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by what to do half of you here and half of you there, it said Do not be with people and do not stay away from from them.

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All of a NACA either harlot term or the OIC SubhanAllah. It says, because if you are to be with them, and to mix mingle with them,

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they will definitely harm you. That's why in some other parts of his book, you know, it hasn't been nice, it's a bit harsh, you know, he says, Whoever thought that he is going to be mixing with people, and he will not get harmed by them. He said, for that he can no one minute general

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is that this is a type of wild madness and insanity. You know, you mix with people. Because by nature, people like that, sometimes intentionally, somebody will harm you. He knows that this is wrong, but he does. That's why one of the policies of will move means shear me originally for intelligent the effect in failure and letting life limb. He says oppression is one of the natural attitudes of human beings. If you find somebody who doesn't oppress others, you should know that there is a cause for that. Either religion, you know that Allah doesn't like oppression he doesn't do or weaknesses.

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He doesn't have power to, to oppress he wants to do. But he doesn't have the strength to do that. So that's why he said if you mix with people, they're going to harm you Rasul Allah Subhan Allah sama said, the best amongst the Muslims is the one who makes it with people and he is patient

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from that, which comes from them off of harms. So if it hasn't said,

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do not mix with them, because he will get harmed if you do that will add to Farrakhan and do not stay away from them. Because if you stay away from them is too harsh.

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It's too harsh means you will feel the loneliness you will be alone you cannot stay alone in Santa Maria new data, he said human beings are social by nature, we cannot leave a lot he said don't stay away from them because you're going to have this

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what he called state of loneliness. So, what to do, he says Ajahn whom can be tested for behind the

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real of this he said Egil whom cannot be tested fill in the hatchet make them like fire

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that you saw whenever you need

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people will look for fire when they need. So whenever there is need meet with people, when not when you need to know whenever there is a need to whenever there is no need for Allah is staying alone is better for you.

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You know most of the reason why and the causes of this backbiting and slandering is one

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for those little MOBA heart I go to the head on issue.

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When I finished discussing this issue, what happened was I cannot just sit with with him keeping quiet, I keep quiet he keeps quiet. What is the best way to do it when I finish the important issue? I tell him said thank you very much. This is what brought me go.

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Because if I stay with him and there is nothing important to be discussed, whatever it is, I will not keep quiet then I will start talking you know Abdurrahman was eliminate issue that happens. But I was told by Abdul Hakim that Abdurrahman was the one who's behind it, you know that? I don't know. He seems to be good. But unfortunately, he does something. Sorry of them. I'm just acting.

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I don't want them to have more the heart and your leadership afterwards, you know.

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So this is this is what happens. So that's why this principle given to us by him hasn't, I think is the best thing to be adopted in this life.

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You go and mix with people when there is a need, they need you go, you need them you go there is a need in the community. You won't mix with them. If there is no need. Everyone has their currencies for conveyancer waiting for a sitter that will stay away and remain and maintain your house. This is the best thing to be done. It protects your eyes cardio modesty and protect your heart also, you know, and protects you also from the dig in sets and groups because they don't even meet you for them to deviate you.

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And one more thing about this and then I will close this issue of Backbiting is to also remember the way Allah smarter put it in Surah to help you rot

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Sheikh Muhammad Sal in the student of Allah

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ammunition clearly the one who completed the book, you know, in one of his lessons that he used to attend he was talking about the beauty of the book of Allah smarter and how Allah azza wa jal tackled this issue of evil from the root.

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Why do we back by it?

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Because we don't have respect because if you do respect that person or law you will not accept somebody to talk against them.

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You know, usually with them not quite close friends, we don't back by a parent backbite brother sense except within the family members

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also happened, but easily if there is a risk factor, we don't advise. So have a look. Look at what alas vortices, Allah subhanaw taala says

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it talks about

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this backbiting but before then he said last Cutco men call me answer on your corner

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he says nobody should make fun of the other word.

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Because if I make fun of you, the level of respect is very low. It's a we shouldn't do that. Because you're making fun of this person who might be better than you

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well and is our minister so brothers are not making fun of the brothers sisters are not making fun of the sisters.

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And then Allah smarter talks about autonomous Villa

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because if I make fun of him, okay, and he doesn't like that, okay part of this is to also call him certain titles and names which he doesn't like.

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Allah says beats and is made possible by the EMA. So first Allah subhanaw taala talk to you in the sense that it shouldn't disrespect the Muslim brothers and sisters.

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Then after that, he says each Telugu cathedra minimal because if I make fun of you, you will be what

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you will react and that reaction might be negative.

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If you have this reaction, this will be his explanation right? You have this negative reaction then usually I will start thinking but why does he worry I was just joking but I think what is so much then somebody might say maybe he does and he wanted to because you saw that Allah says each Telugu cathedral Milan in the bottles and if

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that's one comes right, I see his reaction you know and then I will start having bad thoughts about that person.

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If I start having this but the balloon on him What do you think will happen after that? Subhanallah I will start spying on him.

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Allah smart Allah says is tenable. kufuor Milovan in the baba them if one to just sue them to spy can spy on us. So I disrespect you will act in the negative way and then what am I going to do? I will start having done maybe maybe maybe maybe maybe.

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And then after that, I will start spying which we do.

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Allah you are here living but people are monitoring you and spying inside your house

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inside your house for life if our monetary somebody told me what is going on inside my house which I never told anyone in my life except my house.

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How did they get it? Where did they get his spatula?

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But this is where we are long ago they told us that nowadays people study you more than the way they study anything else. We might not understand but we have seen it. All of these things are the thing that Allah smart Allah is saying whatever just do not spy on

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on others. While I often bother Kabbalah if I do too, just this is

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the point that you should think about it so much. Because if I do too justice, I spy on you. Am I going to find something wrong in your life? Yes, because human beings we have what we have weaknesses. Nobody's perfect. So what I do to justice on you, I'm going to find weaknesses in your life. And when I see these weaknesses, do you think I can keep them alone? With me? I will never keep them I'm going to share with others.

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Allah smarter says what I liked about Oracle Barbara. Chef Katya says, Look at the way Allah subhanaw taala stop you from the first stage. If you stop it. That means respect. The first thing to have is to have respect to every Muslim and sister and I'm telling you it will be very difficult upon you to tolerate backbiting against any Muslim or assister Muslim, male or female that you do respect. That's what Allah is for to talk about what respect for us

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And then he end up with backbiting. Because if I do respect my brothers and sisters in the light, I will never, I will never agree to them or to listen to somebody who is backbiting them.

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So my processes, I decided to go, I mean to take long on this, because we need it. And the prophets Allah sama said, either you stop these evil talks and you control your tongue, or the or else Allah subhanho wa Taala is going to have no need. Allah doesn't need your fast, but what it means is, what he meant is that your fast will be something that has no value at all. So stay away from lying. Stay away from backbiting, stay away from any sin that is committed by by the tongue, don't curse others. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said if you are fasting and somebody calls you and abuse you, you should tell them in the maroon. In this in Nimrod Simon in Imran Simon, she told them and

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faster and faster. So we talk about the unity and removal of the hatred which is part of the act of the heart. And we talk about the purification test kitchen knives in Ramadan. And we talk about the control of of the tongue. These are the most important attitudes and manners that a person should adopt to be somebody who is honest, who's been good in Ramadan and train yourself because Ramadan is what is madrasah so as I said Salah for Salah they used to make Ramadan alive which one which righteous righteous deed and there's a reason why Allah subhanaw taala says it is prescribed upon you. So that you can attain you can attain the taqwa. So, I will stop here in sha Allah to take some

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weight to brief and then grant you ability to ask question being the Lightoller then we move forward

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I said for

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When did I say four?

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When did I say four?

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Okay, I forgot.

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There are a lot actually to be just trying to mention the most important thing to be to be to be done.

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There more than that, you're talking about the manners and the attitude to me for how to get ready

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for points,

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I said four points. So I forgot that just forgive

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any question about what I said that we have to ask for the first point about unity and having no grudges amongst the brothers? Yeah, so how about let's say we had a

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disagreement with someone All right, and we have moved on from it. They say okay, I don't like you. You don't like me this is agreed to that.

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You tell him you don't like him and he doesn't like you.

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That's unacceptable. Islamically you have only three days to stay away from your Muslim brother or sister.

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Those ones that you have to deal with them you have only three days. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he make it prohibited appoint a person to stay away from his brother for more than three days. At first you're not supposed to do it but if you insist that you have to invite the prophets allow somebody give you a liquid days after three days you must cut up that critical separation and come back to him. He said the best is the one who begins with set up before that.

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But you cannot stay away from a Muslim no matter what for more than three days after that you will be competency

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many people in our lives that we are probably not going to see again or are going to take different paths. So does that still mean that

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that's that's wrong? No you do you do whatever you can. It doesn't mean you have to keep on calling them and do this. The same life that used to be before you'll maintain that one or less the life that will show to the people who are watching you will confirm to them that there is no problem between you and him.

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Okay when you meet him he says you smile irrespective but there are some other let's say he misbehave in a way you lost trust. You can trust him anymore.

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The Sharia will not force you to trust him. Because he he go against the trust you know, he betrayed the Amana. We don't tell you have to trust him this time around No. The prophets Allah Azza wa Silla devil moment major hermana tape. A believer shouldn't be beaten from one hole twice. Okay, somebody did something wrong against You, because You trust him but he goes against that manner.

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After not even trust him anymore. That's okay. But when you meet him, she says,

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You see him a smile.

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And listener immediately doesn't come from the heart but you smile, you know, show him that everything is okay. And that's good for you. Because to be honest with you,

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having clashed with your Muslim brothers and sisters will never benefit you at all.

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It's better to bring the one who believes he's your enemy, bring him closer to you. Then you know what he does?

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That's why Allah Allah says, infallibility. He has an inner lady Bella Cobain or either our tin can hola

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hola. smartisan says, always reply with the best your enemy, they will become the best friend.

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And having him next to you, you know what he's planning. And people already know that you are not his enemy. And now the battle will remain between him and himself. The community will support you they will not support

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ticket idea so

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you don't need it at all. That's why mama Shafi said I always only got relief, and I relax. When I forgive everyone.

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I try not to have any hatred or enmity between me

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and my sin brothers in society Forgive me whenever somebody did something, I just let it go. Thank you that answers my question. A follow up perhaps I want to ask, can we distance ourselves from certain

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brothers and sisters? Like maybe not like the company of certain person? If I meet him I would say salaam be nice, but I want to distance myself from someone. What do you mean by distancing as

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perhaps toxic people? Perhaps they're not a good influence on my life? Like how do you say that? Choose your friends and whatnot. So you are who you stay with? So I want to distance myself I don't have any grudges, but I don't want to be this company.

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How many people are there in this room?

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Maybe less than 5030 people somewhere around that amount? How many people are among them you visit and sit with them all the time?

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Very few very few.

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So, logically, we cannot force you to maintain that strong connection with everyone right?

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They will sit with

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Muhammad so much.

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Not so much right? When you see him How do you meet him? Shake, shake hands smile, you know how are you and all of these things and then if you get you get this is what we need from you. There has to be some people that you trust very close people to you who you share the secret. These are the people that Sharia was talking about when we asked you to choose friends in every Muslim is a friend.

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Everyone says a friend. But when you talk about cyber somebody who is next to you, you know, surely I ask you to be very careful.

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Do you get it to be very very careful because usually a Sahib takes the attitude of another side. The Prophet said Allah Allah has some I said luck in the middle. In this classroom, is there anyone that you go with? Okay, I don't know what I should ask this question or not. But let's just pretend that you go inside all the time. And the Hutus did nobody but

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so we can fight afterwards. So let's say you choose I hate you always go in with him.

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You know, so, report your salsa la semana salsa?

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Well, I called Tom King.

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He chose him to be the best friend and the one that you go with, you eat with you sit down, we discuss issues you have some secret to share with him. Ask him to advise you on what to do here that these are the closest friends you have, you know, so the prophets, Allah Azza wa said Do not take somebody to be like this to you, except somebody who is Mormon.

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Mormon, you know, not just Muslim. Because everyone is your friend among the Muslim. There shouldn't be any hatred between you and a Muslim. As long as the name is that you don't like his attitude and his manners, his approach. You know, he might stay away from him because of his attitude and his manners but you say salaam team whenever you meet him.

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Say salaam Timonium, if he needs you use a 14 because of Islam and you will never support his enemy against him because then Islam remains there. But you don't visit him. You know, you don't go and sit with him you don't invite him to your house. It's okay because you have you cannot invite every Muslim to your house. But that's one that you take as a close friends that you share your secret with and you go with and you live your life. The vast majority of your life with the Prophets Allah Azza wa said this person should be moving means very righteous person.

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Well, I have called Tamaki letter K. And do not let somebody eat your food except somebody who

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As Allah subhanaw taala,

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one of the contemporary scholars was constructing a very nice lesson here.

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You might disagree with him, but I found it very interesting. He said, he said,

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lay a kendama K letter K, nobody should eat your food except somebody who feels a lot smarter, is it there is a lesson we learned from him, because in the past, they don't have restaurants.

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When somebody eats your food, when they go, he goes to your house. And this is where your secret lies. If you don't bring somebody who hears Allah, this is when the spy comes, and they will watch. Interesting you come to your house and he sees things he monitored. And he's going to talk.

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So bring somebody who feels a lot smarter when he comes to the house, he can see you have so if you see something wrong, they will talk to people afterwards behind your back. So this is very necessary, I'm telling you, many people get destroyed. Because of what friends I was involved in cases like this

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group of people, the parents suffered so much, and one of them approached me we we suffered a lot to disconnect that person from those evil people

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the same goes to the company, you know, you open the door, Allah I still remember the person in one of the universities without mentioning that he

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his friend from the UK called me

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and that I remember that that that students who used to attend our classes, very dedicated person, but Subhanallah opened the door for the shaper. To get connected with some evil ones. They always talk to him about Zina.

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And I was like Subhanallah look how evil is Satan.

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I talked to him. For me to get him out of that. It was a battle. And he told me it's not easy for him to stop thinking about that.

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So companies is really dangerous. You have to be very careful who is supposed to be in your company.

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Allah says well my other volume Elijah here call at eight o'clock tomorrow, suicide.

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Yeah, Yawei retaliate and Falana Halina oppressor will bite his hand la you know, when we regret we bite one finger, but this one is going to bite all of the 10 fingers. You know what? I don't regret? He will say, I wish I did not know this person. My friend was not this one.

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Yeah, well tolerated. Falana.

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So before somebody regret, make sure that those people who are who you're surrounded by they should be the best people. And even if you're not like that, but you should try to get connected to them. Because these are the only one who benefit you.

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The good idea. So when we talk about the Osama, you should take the best one in any sense, friends that will be with you, the spouse that will be with you. Somebody has to qualify this worse. Don't you ever take somebody who is the loser, to be a friend, take you seriously. Do not agree with somebody and don't become emotionally because sometimes a person will tell you no, but I understand that this is a sin. But how to leave the front line. This is one of the things that I don't understand.

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You came to this life home with them.

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So you came to this life with them without a loan, right? And how are you going to go back to Allah subhanaw taala

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those friends, one of them when he gets trapped? You know, he fell into the trap of his since he said none of his friends who went with him to that thing was able to stay with him in that they all run away. They let him faced the problem here in this life. And exactly this is what will happen in the hereafter when you meet Allah in the grave. Nobody amongst those friends will agree to stay with you for a second if they even come to the graveyard to accompany you if they come.

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We have to think about that. You know and then somebody who will tell you that I don't know I know it's wrong but I don't know how to get this how to disconnect myself from them Subhanallah I found it the most easiest thing to disconnect myself from others. Very simple.

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Don't visit don't go to them and they come to tell them this is your path. If you guys are not willing to change let us take a different path. If I meet you I will say salaam team but do not expect me to be with you in those things which you usually do before.

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They will reflect me the law