Lessons from Surah Nur – Part 3
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The importance of intelligence and finding true success in work is emphasized in Islam, as it is crucial for hardworking individuals to achieve success. The negative impact of fear on women and the need for women to be informed about their work is also emphasized. The speakers emphasize the importance of learning the proper source of information and finding true success in their work, while also discussing the topic of sex education and protecting one's eyes and private spots during marriage. The negative impact of divorce on couples, including the loss of independence and the lack of social interaction, is also emphasized.AI Generated Transcript ©
Bismillah R
Rahman
Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
Okay, that is an interesting question
which I
wants you to participate also in confirming whether it is true or not.
The question says, Why is it in every community systems are more intelligent than the brothers?
One of them
I have been teaching ever since well, but
in in almost every place
especially in places where you don't know the paper you're answering,
if I see answers,
which are very quick to be marked, you almost end with zero, you know, sometimes
I always predict that this must be a brother.
And I rarely get disappointed, you know?
If you say Hi, Mark, you check, you see a sister uncle brother.
So my question here is, Is it because of what the questioner says in more intelligence or there is something else
which is depriving the brothers from
from excel in?
They get the question, right.
So, what is your face here?
There is a survey somebody read
I wish I didn't lose it or come to read it that I am afraid I will lose my life.
If I read the result, they also say the same thing.
They also say the same thing. And there are a lot of factors that cooperate in producing this result is not about intelligence. Both intelligence is my belief.
But somebody is using his intelligence to reach a conclusion and the other one is too much distracted.
And I don't think these take place in the places where you have a pool full separation
when you get the brothers tend to lose a lot.
So the sisters don't mind that much. You know, then in the present, they focus more.
I put it for you in this way. And then you continue the analogy.
And then complete them is
if there is football
then by by the brothers
in our stadium, okay. And everyone should come and watch.
Okay, sisters come brothers comes.
Who remembers what
everyone says remember who won? And who lost? But tell it the other way around?
The brothers comes to watch the football by this case.
What are they watching the sisters? What are they watching? sisters playing? And the brothers? What are they watching?
The sisters definitely watch the game. And the brothers do they watch the game?
If you want to know that after the game, asked one of the brothers who won.
So so it is like that.
This is one of the factors.
It's not easy to convince a brother to come to a place whenever you open a class in every community. The vast majority of the people who will attend the class will be the sisters.
Free to bring your brother to the class is not easy. But at the same time also there is another side of the picture.
Which is also true.
Among those brothers. Among those brothers who attended you find nine
Out of 10 for the heathen practice, and amongst the sisters who attend, if I,
one out of 10
could reflect upon it easy to come, and easy to lose. So the question remains, these ones don't come at all.
But if they come, those people who come by themselves, not the one who is forced to come, they usually they really, really, really focus and take notes. And I'm talking about experience. If you look at the other side of the picture, also, of course, there is an increased number of people come in, but you have also large group of people among
those people who attended, they come in for work, meeting their friends, you know, that's the best place where you can meet your friends and share thoughts and all of these things.
Yeah, so.
So all of these things are there. But in terms of education, who is more intelligent, I believe both are intelligent.
But unfortunately, the brothers are too much distracted more than the sisters, this is a fact. Brothers are too much distracted more than the sisters. That's why you find that sometimes there is no intelligence
came by that is hard working. I have two scenarios here.
Two students, I taught both of them, a brother and a sister, they belong to the same families to siblings.
Everyone who talks to the brother will tell them in terms of smartness, he's way smarter than his sister.
But he always lost in the exams.
Why? Because he's too much distracted, and she did not lose. Because she studies day and night, till night, and he has nothing except football here football there, you know, going with friends.
So she got what she's looking for. And he lost, not because she is more intelligent than him. But because she uses the little illustrata concept how to make an achievement.
But somehow, when it comes to obedience, you can see also the difference the little he has, you know, is created in this person, may Allah subhanaw taala, guide her and she's still alive, she wants to call her mother,
you know, I am studying in my life, so that I will not become like you in the future.
So that I will not become like you in the future.
What does she mean? She said what she meant you have nothing except being obedient to the husbands.
So you have this also is the you know,
so the best is somebody who is hardworking, and use the little ability last month I granted him and after he got it to put it into practice, and action, intelligence, and how much you got of knowledge, but how much you put it into practice and, and action. But it is true. This one you cannot deny it, that in the classrooms up to date, the vast majority of those people who score higher than anybody else, that the sisters the brothers along this time.
And even in and in the people who are more distracted in the classes. Okay, the brothers more than the sisters,
I don't think is that
it could be that the fear that's the environment also is imposing upon them. That if you don't work hard, at the end of the day, you will have no job. So that's why they working hard now to make sure that they can secure secure a job in the future. That could be one of the factors also, the brothers are not much serious in that regard.
To get idea, the one who is more effective in the community concern in these matters are the sisters more than the brothers. When the divorce happens, sometimes she doesn't know what to do.
Good idea sugar stack. These are all one of the shaytaan.
That's what I can tell you because is
we have to take Sharia as a whole. You cannot apply some part of it and leave the other part. Wherever she is applied properly. will lie I'm telling you assistant is the only person who can say I don't want to work in somebody has to provide her with that which he needs. is the only person who can do that. When you see a sister being forced to go and look for her all earning by herself. Things are not going good in that society.
She has to go out of the house and work day and night he was suffering, getting into trouble This one is correct.
This one is shouting This one is doing this old man, manly attitude
designed to accommodate that is supposed to be acting like queens, this how Islam plays them. So we neglected this part. That's why she's in need of getting something to protect our future.
So she already sees her friends and colleagues who get into trouble after a divorce, or when the husband dies, she doesn't want to be in this. So when she goes to school,
focus a lot. But the boys thinks that he has a lot of opportunities, you know, is the first choice so that negligence is there
to gather all of these factors and put them all together and come up with the reason why
I think
this sisters a woman are more intellectually higher.
So that's against the science nowadays, woman and more intellectually better than the brothers and then why the hell he says they have deficiency?
Ask them to come to Islam.
No, seriously, ask them to join the Islam with sincerity get inside they will understand
and tell anyone who says this. Okay. Ask them to go and read a book written by the trust my mocha, mocha demo macadam called outdated HR.
This book is in three, three volumes. Let them read the first part of it, and go do their research and see whether he is truthful when he made those quotations about the history of woman from day one.
And will lie if they have some, some actual you know, if they have alcohol,
they will never talk against Islam. They will never misunderstand Islam after this. Because go and see who was a woman before Islam comes
this or we can say it with freedom, with no regrets. And we're not exaggeration. exaggeration that woman never got freedom in their life until the time comes.
Give me one example. And if you leave that you will see a lot he mentioned a lot not only this
upcoming upcoming. So he gives you gives he gives you a lot
more than what I'm going to tell you now.
In one of the communities he mentioned, there was a time the members of the community are
having a meeting, you know, serious meeting. The agenda of the meeting is is a woman.
Okay, you might say maybe they're looking for some more right for them. You know, that's the agenda of the meeting.
You want to complete say yes, yes.
What about woman?
Is she human being?
The other part should be what gene right? No, or cheetah.
So hon Allah did you hear that? The agenda itself is enough for you to know how much this committee and this is not Muslim community, how much they insult.
God even that, that what is he?
Or the second option is she is not shaper.
But she always operate with Shabbat.
And that was the conclusion majority choose the last opinion that she always works with Shabbat.
You have almost no community that ever respect woman in this life. Only after Islam Islam comes with this huge amount of suspect. It makes them queens, which they don't understand until now. A sister from from Russia cried when somebody explained to her who is actually a woman in Islam. For law, one of our scholars said when he was talking to her, she cried. She cried, and she wasn't a Muslim, but she hears something that she needs to dream.
But somebody is getting it. Maybe this sister who is getting all of these privileges, she never went to secondary school
because she got them and this one went to everything but she's still suffering struggling to live and survive. So let them go and read all of these things and understand and then come on make a comparison, then they will definitely understand that Islam when he talks
there is a wisdom behind what last mortal I said and and there is no disrespect at all. There are many things like that. But the last one hotel doors
Reading. So when the Prophet salallahu alayhi, salam, I said, Mara, Jacqueline, what do you mean and how they lived, there hasn't been a condom, who created man?
Allah who created the woman, Allah hotel. Nobody knows us more than Allah. He said, this is how I created this. And this is how we create this.
And that deficiency that she's talking about,
is it something that will make her useless? No.
As a strength, actually, if you look at what the scholar said, That's his strength.
That's a strength.
And they participated during the professor lost.
His wife advised him and he took that advice. And it was a success, you know, and he used to come down to the wives and ask them, if they have that deficiency, that they understand the whys of the process, allow cetera, go into them and ask him consulting them below the Columbo regime, they go and consult them. They have these people will rush into it out of the large city in the heart, we have other competitors when they go to the
that's why Islam says in karma come into logic at koco currencies that are soulless law say that, that means in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala, we are equal, nobody's better than the other one, except with chop off a loss of a hotel. But are we the same, no one ever tells you the same he knows his line, woman is not the same as a as a man and man is not the same as a woman.
The way they think psychological is different. The physical anatomy is different.
Emotionally, they are different. You know, what a woman can, can can do, sometimes men can do what a man can do a woman cannot do. Allah created is different. But these ones, they want you to believe that everyone is the same in this regard. And they managed to convince some of our brothers and sisters, that assistant cannot be okay, unless if she does what man does.
Does deficiency in accom. If everyone is supposed to be standing his own position, things are going to be nice in the community. We don't need to do everything, a company, nobody does everything. You have a job, I don't interfere. And she has a job. Why when a sister has given a job and the brothers give him a job, then somebody will come and say this is discrimination.
So understanding the Suz correctly is really necessary. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, If boy baby boy up, as long as the baby boy did not eat food, he just sprinkle on it. Even need to wash it, but even baby girl does what? What would you do? You have to wash it.
Those one will tell you this, you see another? Another discrimination? You know, they make us worse than
and the scholars will tell you well, this is Sherry of last month, and the creator of both of them says this is what she do here. And the other one to do is here and then we stop here. That's why we don't explain. Why is it like this? Why is it like that we don't explain we just say Allahu Allah, but this is what last montilla says. And we believe that since last March, I'm making like this through the proxy last summer, there is a difference.
Do we need to know the difference? No, we don't need to know it. Our job is to apply what Allah subhanaw taala says, you know, the first community, none of them participate in these two villages that we have them nowadays.
The sisters live a very excellent life, highly respected by everyone. And they believe in these muscles. And they mentioned them and they circulate them amongst themselves. Everyone knows this position, a sister knows her position and the brother knows his position. Or we live in a time where somebody's convinced convinces that no, we have to merge everything. So what I'm trying to say is, we should understand that this is what I said we should we should invite them to come to the real Islam. I was I meant my words, actually, they have to come inside. They cannot just take Islam based on their own thoughts. You have to read it properly from the correct source. And they have to come
to school in the way everyone goes, they will learn biology, you know, go to the to the hospital or open your own hospital, you know, and start treating people and see what will happen. The next day you will be in jail.
The authority will take you to jail. Are they right in that? Yes, they absolutely right because you're putting the life of others in danger. And voila, he given fatwa or talking on behalf of Islam without having the knowledge is more dangerous than that.
We should give it more weightage than that one. So that's the reason why I said they should come and see how the suits are supposed to be interpreted not to use them in their own way. That's why in some of the classes I said, this one, you just have to tell them sometimes the container Kuma lady either need to either need to talk to them
to get idea, somebody have to finish this. Somebody married
a second wife. No, no, I think you already have the nisab he completed he got
group of sisters, they came to advise him affiliated to one of the groups, I will not tell you what groups, they came to advise him that this is wrong. And so holla none of them is wearing them in his nose.
He told them, the first thing for you to qualify given Missy is to go and fix your Islam first and then come back to me.
It says because, you know, I was last the last time I said on the last monitor. So Allah subhanho wa Taala doesn't want you to look like this, go and fix it first and then come. Let's have a healthy and peaceful discussion. After you fix yourself, forgive me she loyalty. If you can, if you like something you cannot give it
to somebody else. So that's my answer. Sometimes you don't need to waste your time, you know, because many of their statements you see, a lot of stupidities. They said we oppress them into hate. We oppress them in the language. You know. They said even though he you know that, what is that? Yeah, in the tauheed. They said we are oppressed and also the sisters into heat. Because you said you don't know that right? Are you ready for that?
They said because he said when you say shadow Allah, Allah Allah, is Allah.
Allah Allah, Allah illa Huwa. He didn't say here, he expresses a Why is he who?
What reply you have for this?
Yeah, they said, they said in the language Also, if you if you said a who is an empire? But if you asked about a woman who said he hated hyenas, the snake? Why did he choose this, this when you address how you address how with the snakes and
habla which Adam even is thinking like that. But I'm telling you these these people, they have no limits. The point is how to criticize Islam, and how to take a woman from this prestigious position that last month I put her back to the old one where somebody will make her like what, like a toy, nowadays is not like a toy worse than a toy collection. How long, you know, those images that are bad, sometimes I went to a place I see them on the ground and people are working on them. I was like, okay, is it? Is it good for those sisters to have the images, people working on it, you know,
as advertisements, right? The prison on the floor and people are working on it. And somebody says we're looking for freedom. But freedom is this
a lot smarter again. So that just
wanted
to give you this
How should your brother or sister prepare himself or herself during the period when they have a serious intention to get married, but a lot has not yet provided
patience.
They should be patient. Because having a spouse a good one is risk.
And I would advise a person who is not in a state of necessity not to rush wait for the good one to come. Try with a good one that one doesn't want to come wait. Exercise patience wait for them to come. Don't rush is better to exercise patient rather than rushing, especially from the society rather than Russia. At the end of the day.
It's no divorce, you know, he destroys your life. In some communities when a sister already married, it will be very difficult for her to get married again. She think wisely.
marry somebody who's not wait for the correct one to come. So my advice is patience. Right?
Does it
just say I will repeat when talking to sisters for business? When talking to sisters for a business transaction or any other important work, where should the glance be?
Where it is supposed to be?
To see the person that you're dealing with is okay after that. No, this is not like the marriage the way you focus.
You know,
the good idea this is not like the marriage where you fought so hard just to recognize the person who you're dealing with. And the one looking is more than enough. Okay. In this regard, other than that, you should always
Okay, that's better for you.
If you want to make it correct, if she's not married yet yes. proposed for the marriage halaal business you know, good company.
That's it That's better. So that we're looking for fatwa Yes.
Go for the
last month or so
where we
call a moment of silence.
Bismillah R Rahman Rahim salatu salam ala rasulillah Amina Mohammed
Salim Ahmed
colavita balcatta, Otto
Fuji Fuji, Xena, Xena Tony la mala homina
So, a lot of talk about the brothers when they
they are looking at the opposite gender How are they supposed to do it? So we have learned what to do and what kind of restriction we have is on this. So now unless wants to talk to the sisters also, colloquially mamilla to Google Domino's on him. So the same command last month that I gave the brothers and he gave us the sisters okay. And this is better for them although many scholars said the emphasis by Islam is more on the brothers and the sisters okay based on so many reasons because when you have both agendas in one place the one who turned to be lost is the brother and this is this is this is very dangerous because he uses the physical force that allows a hotel or granted him
to go to the hotel
that's why How many times do you have the case of the rape against the brother
sisters raping a sister raping the brother? How many times
maybe some of us never heard of it? Or he heard of it once in your life, but how many times we have the the opposite. Nowadays the counted with seconds or minutes. They will tell you after that I think all the calculation. Nowadays they have new one check and see what they mentioned. They talk about themselves a lot. That's old. I heard that one also when that case happened in the bus, they mentioned every 20 minutes and that but that's all so many years now go and see the new one the last one to protect and guide them to Islam first.
Allah had nothing can protect a woman other than Islam can have anything other than Islam.
So the emphasis on the brothers is more than the sisters. Okay, the emphasis on the brothers is more than than the sisters. I Shara della Han Hakeem and also Lhasa Lhasa mo was looking at the scenes they were playing their games in the masjid and the Prophet Allah sama allowed her to to see as he's watching the game and for sure she cannot watch the game without watching the one who is playing the game and I was okay so Lhasa Lhasa Milena.
At when it comes to the opposite Ursula cell, sama did not let his companion to watch him playing with his wife. I showered the llama
never told him to go and these are the components and the most trusted entities so that nobody can come and say no but he is trust worthy. There is not trust between the male and the female. Whenever you trust men, you're going to see that you're placing the trust in the wrong way. The good ones is the one that married they married.
The other one they look for other channels to go against the trust. So Allah subhanaw taala also commanded assistance the best for them also to try their best. But looking at the opposite person contained in the matter of the sisters is not in the way it is. When it comes to the brothers emphasis is more on on the last one to accommodate both when he says
what I have done is the latter one in Milan
that's why it's easier to have the presence of both in a place where the one who is delivering this is a male than having the opposite. The restriction is to still hide
kaanapali more minutes are hidden away from Naruto they should also lower their gaze were frozen or frozen and they preserve that
more to see the furniture
while I've seen it on a llama Amina and they are supposed to expose their Xena they don't make a llama ramita except that which appears which cannot be closed cannot be covered. And he is the place where you have a long battles among the scholars. What is the word Xena. You have the lion Massoud and I shattered the lava and some other components of the prompts a lot of someone who believes that Xena here is referring to the cloth because he cannot close it. He cannot cover the cloth. If you say she has to cover her cloth and whether she will and
he has to go in the room and close the room or so.
So they said what the last quarter meant here is the the cloth that appears
Other than that, she has to convert the whole body that's underlined, Massoud nyjah, and some other
companions of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. On the other hand, you have the linemen of bass who believe that face and the hand can be exposed. So you have many scholars holding upon this and you have many scholars also holding the other
ammunition. It says, it says if you look at the Koran itself, you might send the support to the first opinion because Allah subhanaw taala says live diligent.
They shouldn't expose the Zina. And he says sometimes you might have an opinion, which is rejected by the Quran, but the owner of this opinion would be claiming that he is interpreting the Quran but the Quran itself is refuting what he what he's saying. And they give this example he says because there is no where Allah, Allah in the Quran mentioned the word Xena and he meant the face or the hand, He always talks about the external.
I don't mean to that attachment, which a person is doing
in the seminar didn't have the masabi he
was in a co working in place, places almost in every place where last month I mentioned the word Xena, he's talking about the external factor. So if you come and say that Xena here is referring to the face and the hand he said you have to provide evidence for that, in order to take it from the original meaning.
To him, he said there is no such evidence because a Buddha old and a Razzie those scholars of holies they said the Hadees that says that a woman reaches the age of maturity is not permissible upon how to show anything except to the hands and the face is a weak eration.
So, the issue is based on this the scholars who believe that this is authentic, and they will tell you that was the exception
the scholars who believe that this is not authentic, and they will tell you that was not an exception, because it says we can you cannot extract a legal rule from a weak ratio.
So, you have this opinion. Anyhow, the other opinion I have two things to focus on here.
All the scholars believe that uncovering?
No, yeah, uncovering other than the face and the face his face like this, this side is not face faces, my
mouth was up and
inside is another face. So uncovering other than the face and the hand is wrong, and a sinful act.
I have never come across somebody who tells you that other things can be open.
Okay, most of them said, No, including the feet, except some scholars who said the feet is also like the hand in the face. So my point here is a sister to feel lost. I don't understand if she takes her opinion on those color Susie's face and the hand could be uncovered, then she should restrict ourselves to those
good idea and have something also that can help her to cover the the hands properly. Because when they say the hand, they're talking about wrist from here to here. So nowadays, I think have the law, you have a lot of
creativity and how to call it whereby they have some expressions that the sister puts unless even if it is uncovered, the color of the skin will not be cannot be shown. Because mistaken disregard. If she doesn't have that one is very easy.
Okay, and person has to be very careful because the angels don't care. Right?
Right or wrong. So taking a precaution at home from good before going out is what is necessary. So that's the first thing if a person take this one, they have to understand the restriction that we only allowed to open this other than that know that she pays a lot for hotel lobbies. And this is his opinion that she's satisfied with not following the desire because there are many who will tell you, I just feel that this feeling doesn't work here. They have to look into the evidence mentioned which one is is better. Or look if you cannot differentiate then focus on the scholars whom you trust and see what exactly they tell you and then go with that. And then that's it.
The second issue which is the last one is which one is the best all of them agree that covering like the wives of Mohammed Salah is the best all of the all of them hidden call it a cultural practice of the Jamia like some people say it is not. So last last summer that is my two assistants in that environment is to
say we are talking about Africa. This is Africa because this is what the last point I chose the wife of bahamasair Allah Allah he was. Sometimes there are issues which you have a lot of controversy among the scholars as well as a business one saying that, you know
The best for the believers to look at what was done by them. So by Rasulullah mercy, just hold on that this is the area which is safe. What was done by the wives of grace Allah, this is the safe area, nobody can blame you and there is no mistaking that one. If you take this take that everyone This one can see this. So what I'm saying is we should remind our sisters
to observe them don't take the opinion of those collars more than what it can
it can bear you know, they said face and the hand faces here, hello, how should you come? Sometime there are a lot of styles people are doing nowadays which Subhanallah the past also the professor lots of I gave some indications, you know,
come with the ham,
you know,
like the, like some attachments to heads, you know?
That's why
because he was in Bhakti Allah land.
This one also is wrong.
So what must she do the best is let it go down
in the way it will not be recognized. That's better will lie does better for her.
That's what Lance says in the manger levy in Nevada The following day, observed the property job the one that is not transparent, one is thick enough to cover
everything and also not transparent, transparent, and also it covered the whole hour is not attractive.
So all of these things should be should be observed. So as I said, she should feel a lot smarter to make sure that
she restricts herself to the correct approach. Or she takes this opinion of those callers who says hand in the face can can come then she should restrict herself to them. As I said no hair coming in. Sometimes they have this
fashion, they bring some part of the hair outside until the time it goes back and just write the same for
guys's face, not the hair. Okay, a lot of our grantees
and let the community be aware of the evil consequence of not observing the Sharia and be patient.
Okay, Allah says, Well, I've seen it on the illa hermina except what exposes you know, but they shouldn't they shouldn't
expose anything other than that Xena which cannot be cannot be covered like the cloth and the face and the hand according to some of the scholars colonias eliminate the Cobra analogy when and they should also put their thumb on their scarves, the garments you know, whatever they can cover themselves they should put it on their body do you mean here means the body especially the part of the chest and then I have in the heart of this is the multiple
where you slaughter a camel the sheep and the cow is law to them like this and the camels how do you how is the camels you see this this whole like this is the lumber you know the area of the heart is this so it puts the knife then cuts that place and then the blood will come to come through.
So Allah says Allah Do you mean that this the area of the chest so that they will not look like the Sisters of the area where a sister can come at some part of our chances is uncovered so she she put it put something from the head until the tour
came many scholars believe that the feet is also considered to be our most of the scholars actually the vast majority of the scholars believe that faith is not included is only face in the hands and feet is not included. So she should cover it with something that is covering. Okay.
Okay, well I will be hormone enology will be in so they put it
until they cover everything. I Sharia law Haha, praises the wives of the Mahajan.
They said she said when this verse is was revealed, they quickly go back to the to their garments and they cover themselves immediately. Really applied no question.
their husbands went and recite what the law said quickly apply. Everyone's looking for that which pleases Allah subhanho wa Taala well emptiness units only Illa Mahara minha Walia remenham informally knowledge he never lived in his in his own inland immorality. They are not supposed to show their adult meant which is close except for boletim who is bound husband,
okay, they show it to that to their husbands. Okay, the husband can see and he is the only person who has no restriction.
Okay, the only person who has nerve 16 to see any kind of other woman that is Helen is the husband. And she's recommended also to reach the peak of beautification and decorating herself, because we want her to participate in keeping him down in the house. Okay? Not letting him go and look for some other alternative in the community.
And we have a lot of statistics will tell you the percentage of the people who are having extra marital affairs.
The wife shouldn't be happy with that, but some Hanalei you have some who are happy with this,
she doesn't mind The point is not to bring somebody else to the house, but he can have any other person out of the house. So who's participated in this, if the wife does her job basalite Allah will be enough for him to to cool down a list of all his get his gaze, you know a bit so that you will not share his evil attitude with the community. Carnival Abdullah Zilla tone, the indelible rollatini except for the husbands in
all their parents, she's with the Father, the father can see the hair the father can see that the earrings she has a gold she make us American because we're not expecting something to happen in the father and, and the daughter.
But sometimes in our time,
it just happens when you take the attitudes of the West, you know, the prophets a lot. Some are similar to your own the sentiment kind of, you're going to be following the track and the path of those before you.
He said sugar, ambition blood sugar is like this, step by step. hetero the whole journey, the letter B Hmm. If one of them gets inside the hole of elation, you're going to follow so
in some narration, they said if somebody have a relationship with his mother, you have somebody else who is going to follow them in this era. Oh, is that Muharram you have somebody? Do we have these cases? Yes. Our JIRA server full of these things, you know, sometimes
Subhanallah it catches the attention sometimes you'll be asking why, why?
Those are good Also, sometimes people to to bring these things outside, but
sometimes people need to know. And the best way to know what to do is to come to the classes and learn how to dress properly at home,
how to dress properly as well.
So that's why anything that can remove this barrier between the Muharram shimmy should be removed.
So watching bad things in the presence of you watching it alone also is wrong. And sometimes they watch it in the presence of everyone and you think good is going to take place after that
hour by now.
Or the parent or the parent of
their husband, because the father of the husband cannot marry the wife of his child.
He as long as your son marry the woman then call us he cannot marry that. That woman
by Bruna Tina so that Father will become the Sahaba
by Ebola Tina so we're talking about those who assist I can show her I don't mean to to the husband and
illegibility. Now buy in or their parents their father. Our biology, no the father of the husband.
Oh is one in right or their siblings their brothers from every dimension. The brother who the full brother the one mother and the father the same or the one they share only the father, contender brother or the last one. sibling, this is the one that she only mother. There is no marriage between them at all so she can show him she cannot do and her son in his presence.
Our one him the Albany one he the other children of their. their siblings. The brothers when we're talking about sisters here we're talking about male who among the male can see that don't mean often sister came out when he nobody one in Albany aka Latino the children of them, their sisters, the male children of their sisters, they also can see them
not properly covered. albani aquatic in our design in or their sisters. This is where also the controversy lies when Allah says Nisa in their sisters. Most of the scholars said he is referring to to the Muslim assistant is not allowed to show her. I don't mean to a non Muslim.
Good idea. So if you're talking about the opinion that says face and hand could be covered, that's mean no Muslim
cannot see that non Muslim woman can see that if you go with the majority, or many scholars that says face and the hand are not included, she can uncover the issue if she was, then that's the only thing that
I'm sorry a non Muslim woman can see.
But she cannot see other than that the hair and the neck she cannot see other than that most of the scholars are upon this opinion, unless if there is a need,
this is the who is surrounded by the numbers in the family are all Cova
Good idea, there has to be something else this is where you can take the other opinion to reduce the impact. Otherwise lag will be very terrible. So since there are some or B and there is not that clear, saying that muslimah last month is a
good idea. So you have the other side of the picture, some of the scholars great scholars who believe that no is not only for the Muslim sisters, but the opinion of the majority of the scholars is the closest opinion to the truth unless there is a need for that. But there is no need and the devil has to be has to be close. Albania karate, notice that in our market, Mr. hoonah or the slave of a woman. She has a means Li Can she uncover her head in front of him? Yes. Fatima de la hora and how she was suffering when the prophets Allah sama came with the slave he gave her. She was suffering. The hijab is falling down. She put it back. Sometimes she's hiding herself trying to
cover us up the purpose of law. Someone said Take it easy. It just your father and your slave. You don't need to cover everything in front of in his presence.
Get it out of America, Mr. Honda, I will tell your innovator with an aerobatic or a tablet, those people who are the Tabby, they follow people and he allows Montez talking about those people who know before the before the children because children comes there are people who are ABA.
Okay. upheld means somebody who has some deficiency in his article. And at the same time also, he tried to imitate sisters.
And at the same time, also he doesn't have desire we show about that. And usually he doesn't differentiate between male and female.
Okay, I mentioned in this so that nobody can come and go and give those ones and say yeah, because nowadays they are saying that a person determine the sex he wants to be in, and they will use this Honey, you know, this is Mohan misuse to come to the sola salatu salam, and the process of not doing anything.
So this muqarnas somebody who has some deficiency in his Apple, you know, so people don't take him serious, because it's kind of emotional, you know, so he doesn't understand anything, but he tried to imitate the sisters, he put himself in the position of the sisters. So he's to come to the house of Rasool Allah, and sit down, and the sisters make jokes you think, you know, it because those don't become a character, you know,
actually tease him and then to talk like that. So up to the time, he started talking in their own way. And as soon as I heard that, he said, I visited a place I saw the daughter of so and so and so when she comes forward, she comes with four,
four thing when she moves, she goes with eight things. Tocqueville if you are Ba, and the scholar said, he is referring to the way the body, the body of that woman looks like especially the when a person is fat, you know, he has some meat here, lays here on the side of so
this is what he was describing. When Rasool Allah someone heard that is definitely this man noun and the standard one is there. And then he asked somebody to take him out of the house, never to return back again to the family.
So he lets him because at that moment, he doesn't know anything. But when he said that word, then he understand that this man nowadays noun he knows actually we were wrong in our assumption, and then he took him out because we can keep him in that place.
That's why if a person changes his nature to something else, you know, can we let him enter the bathroom of the sisters? Not around?
I think even in the Cooper country also is a debate you know, the sisters don't agree with that and they do have a right and these are not Muslim, but they still have the ankle embedded sub sub knees in there, you know? They don't let it happen. Otherwise, why do we have sisters toilet and the brothers
but he claimed that he changed but the mind is still is still there. Okay. The same goes to the sister who changed to the brothers Can she come and use the toilet which belongs to the brothers? No, she shouldn't.
They have to remain in the way they are. Allah subhanaw taala guide they really are leniency in our advice.
Last one to guide them and bring them back to the truth. So this is our job, you know,
those people who don't have any desire I
mean, originally from the brothers from the men, our
older children are Lavina, lemon harati. Lisa, those people who don't know the power of a woman,
but for what he knows, then the sister has to be very careful.
Which is that?
parabolic, in which age? In which
age, which which time?
The past Oh, now,
because when you read the thick, they will tell you that younger girl, which people have no desire towards Ha,
ha, we live in a time which this is gone, you know, how many times people lost their younger daughters, but when they found that they found them in a very critical moment.
That means a person should be very careful, you know, we're living in the wrong time, you know, where things have gone upside down?
In the past, in the past, believe it or not, online, believe it or not, when we not that not that pass, you know, not that possible? When we are young. Okay? When we are young, we don't know the difference between when I say young like 10, you know, 1112, you know, that age, we don't know the difference between male and female.
He will law never taught me with the friends won't be discussed, but how the child comes, you know,
it remains a puzzle, how does the child comes, you know, we don't know.
Nowadays, in the primary school, a child will give you a PhD in this
child will give you a PhD in this. So holla and you have some also some countries nowadays the debate is, can we introduce a sex education in primary school or not? So hardline one of the countries I see, before even the most simply act, one of the leaders of the Christian law he was talking very harshly. I was saying that this person, Miss, I mean, get everything except Islam.
cetera, he says is wrong. And 100% is wrong. You teaching kids at this moment, you think that you protecting them. Now. Chow is based on what
experiments,
always try to explore students like that. That's why your child will come. They will see a glass on the table. We just monitor.
Watch, what if I push it? What will happen?
He was just innocently angry, break it, and then wait and see what reaction
to get it these are children
trying to that's why they said Don't you ever do dangerous thing in the presence of a child? Because after you leave the practice, you slaughter an animal in the presence of a child, I'm telling you, if you're not careful, they might practice on themselves. What happened? You know, come here you come and they get the knife. And then so Hannah law of this course will not written a story like this, you know, it's happened somebody lost his child because of this.
So children are like that. So you bring this education and you let them learn it in the primary school. What do you think will happen?
They will explode. And then we come and talk, you know.
So we have in some modalities in primary school primary a focus on the primary school, I don't want to go into secondary school because they said palmerton Kovach,
he will not
have been teaching from the lower finger. So we have seen these things here.
You come to the primary school sees people becoming pregnant.
seriousness has to be taken over by the parents first, and then the authority call our mother on our agenda. So the child becomes mature and goes to school, then a sister should be very, very careful. The mother should observe good manners and the sisters also the siblings also should behave nicely in the presence of this. He didn't know what other children are teaching him.
They know in these days, they know what she didn't know. They know. They can teach you many things you don't know they have witnesses and they have seen it. They just sometimes keep quiet in your house because they don't know how would you react and naturally they know is wrong. That's why they can hide it. So our dilemma
artemisa Well, I live in a
pyramid Xena team and that allows them to, from hitting the ground with their legs so that somebody will know that which they are hiding off. That means in the past before Islam, they used to put the anklet, you know, so when they work slowly, nobody knows. So they used to hit the ground so that it will produce the sound, people will understand that there is something then Allah saying they shouldn't do that. A scholar said this is an indication to say that anything that can catch the attention of the opposite gender assistance I'm supposed to do. Like what the preview
was the last last summer said anyone who puts perfume that catch that smells and catching the attention of the brothers should be committed Xena and he comes back home.
So that shouldn't be done. But is there any need for is nowadays? There is no nice holla last quarter has given us a lot but you know shaytan will never let us Allah has given us a lot. k if if you don't put those
those things that remove this now. Would you smell? Yes, brothers and sisters? Are they different? No, they're the same. If she doesn't put she smells just like the way the brother smells, which is not. So what to do,
she put the perfume right. But at hamdulillah nowadays, we have things which she can put you can put and nobody will smell them at all and they remove the bad smell cases closer, no need to put the one that catches the attention because wherever you have the smell of a perfume naturally people look to see who who put it. And they made comment so
they can idea so in this is to protect assistance before the brothers in the community color to the lazy man and you have a lot to behold. And there are lots more colors as you should repent to Allah subhanaw taala all together so that you can attain the success because there has been a lot of negligence and negligence will continue to happen in the life of the people in terms of hijab, Allah is always repent and absorb tumor, because you're going to have mistakes in your life, sometimes accidentally, something will happen are going to last much lower, close the page between you and him.
Exactly. So I really advise the brothers and sisters to observe this is a very, very important message from a lot smarter for every community if that community wants to, to succeed, lower your gaze as much as you can. And also at the same time marry. That's why the next one says what, what Anki who i am i'm in Kumasi in a minute By the way, Mr. Echo,
lowercase if you can. But the best thing to be done is to marry
because it helps you to protect your eyes and your private spot a lot smarter says Why don't you will I am an income? Are you a Latina Zola, who
are you? Allah says let the I Am minko married Who is
the one that doesn't have a spouse, Allah says let them marry, suppose that marriage, marry them to others. You have a child who need who need marriage getting married, is wrong path that some communities are taking nowadays your child needs a marriage and they keep on pushing him. While life issues are happening in the universities, which only Allah smart Allah knows. And many of them, the people in the university know but the authority they might not know. Only Allah knows what is going on.
Go around the universities and see
is to go to a place almost every lecture and game I must receive a question that says What happened? What is the hook of the marriage of this university? Do not mention the name of the university. Whenever I go to that lecture that the university they will ask me Not this one, that university, the manager of that university, I used to ask them what kind of marriage you talking about. Do they have marriage? No they Islamic marriage, but what is the marriage of that university? They will tell you brother and sister they come from overseas you know or from wherever they come. And that is no presence of the parents here. So they live in one place here and how until the time they got Ciao
know managing for even according to those who says that we don't need the money. They don't go for that, you know, that was so baffled, you know, but they don't go for that.
They sit together they have children also together.
And sometimes they don't have the children but she sells her honor and dignity to others.
A lot smarter guy is the truth. So parents need to understand this a lot. As a parent, you have to understand. Once your child needs the marriage The best is to support his marriage getting married, sometimes he has to get a job. No, don't think about that. Think about preserving his honor. Don't let him go to the bad experience first and then engage in fixedness. This is wrong.
Sometimes to say they have to do jihad, you
You had a token about
the father's there enjoying his life here and the mother and tell the child to do jihad, jihad is that he put him in trouble and tell him to do yeah.
So support him in the marriage, even if he doesn't have a job, support him and guide him, put his hand on a job, guide him to the job, threatened him tell him that I'm not going to support you after this you have to depend on yourself, he will look for it. But at least you support it to preserve his marriage his responsibility. Many people after the marriage they come back to their consciousness, they became serious which they were not like that before. Last monitor says thank you will Mr. Ingram live the marriage marry assisted in marriage the father should get married. The brother needs a marriage the father should get him aside in a minute radical mind mind commandos,
righteous people amongst your slaves also when they need the marriage at them to
equal to Pokhara you're going to allow them in for the if they are poor, Allah subhanaw taala will make them rich.
And the poor Allah smarter will make them rich. This is that's why they used to say that if you want risk, married, but doesn't mean marry and go on sleep.
It means marry and then go and look for the risk and last month open more door for you. Because now your wife is under you control the risks that last month are prescribed for her, you most likely is going to come through you so you have increasing the risk. The same goes to having children whoever tells you that don't have a lot of children because it might cost you this and that. Don't listen to him. I don't care.
So So alas Martin says was son he the minute radical was a Michael he akufo Cora Ulema Levin, informally, if they are poor alas Mata is going to grant them from his from his bounties for law who was in it. Allah subhanaw taala has everything that was that means the one who, whose bounties have no end. And this is the last one who watch Allah. And then lastly, he says Happy? Well, let's start with the legendary Nick Maloney. Unfortunately, those who who cannot find Nika, the government's ability to marry, let them observe. SFR is the means to hold their breath, to exercise patience, to do anything that can protect their eyes and protect their private part. You know, that's what they
should do. fossilize allow some asset to the Shabaab, if you can afford manage, he said, marry, if you cannot invest, because marriage can help you to lower your gaze, and to protect your private part. If you cannot do then take the alternative, which is fasting. Fasting can art in this way. Or as I said, you should fast like Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam don't eat a lot. Okay, don't eat a lot, because eating too much can provoke desire.
All the answer I have to the question that usually comes to me about I first a lot, but still my desire is increasing.
One of the two things, either you put yourself in the middle of the fitna,
you know, in the middle of the fitna, and then you are looking for the protection, but you're still in the middle of the pfitzner, the medicine will not work.
It's poison, and you're taking medicine at the same time, you know, if you're this one and the problem will increase at the same time, or you're not fasting in the right way you eat too much as a whole is very much you know and the thought also is very much this is not fasting, you know, this is not fasting the way it should be, it should be done. So Allah says we'll establish a living legend and
follow the will of the inevitable Futaba So, I will stop here. inshallah. Next class, if Allah has said I wish that we are going to come for the next lesson, then we will start from anchor 1am amico asahina many vertical minima equal. So in conclusion, our last points are guided as various excellent and interesting guidance to lower case as much as we can. When you look, which you know that you have no evidence for you to go for that seeing the toga I mean repentance, I mean, forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala don't get inside the places where
the people are there in the place without taking their permission so that they can prepare for you. You can idea and how a person should behave when he is at home assistant, and when she is with others, how is he supposed to behave? We have learned that and the best of all, is to marry as the last one to advise everyone to go for that the best is to marry. This is how we keep the family life intact. To marry. That's the most important thing that can protect the community from these type of social ills. Is that clear? A question before you go to your questions. Is there any contradiction between
Study in a marriage
is there any contradiction between studying and marriage?
In which if you're married while you are studying, you will fail in the exams
you will never focus
is that correct?
I said no as our scholar said there is no contradiction actually is fixed the thinking we have seen people who exceed after after the marriage. So, it depends on you whether you are lazy or not even work 24 hours Can you have time which are not doing so, give you studying a time and give you family also another time and give you a job also another time, you have enough time. And then unfortunately, we don't manage our time properly. So, there is no contradiction, especially the life we live in nowadays is good to marry and continue to education. It helps a lot, right? You come to the University with your wife. If your eyes go to somewhere else to tell you what, don't forget, I'm
here
is really anywhere I've seen this a lot.
The last 100 grant is good. Okay, that's all for today If you have any questions, please do come up with
me
What can we tell a sister who does not cover the aura properly? What is evidence
for the whole body of the woman is clear evidence to convince someone
that is a hadith that says our authenticated by most of the scholars and he did not specify which part is on or which part is not. So that's the reason why I said the face of the hand is meant to be exception by those scholars who said can be uncovered. Other than that, it has to be to be covered. And if you look at the statement of last month and so it has
a hinnom Angela DB hinder
Okay, even
then liberalist you know, they understood this to be covering from head to toe I had one of them saying this
you know trying to reach his own goal, but he mentioned that this is the best cereal.
So that's the indication of the Quran, the Sunnah of the Prophet Allah also said that and the practice in the time of Rasulullah sallallahu also said, said that next question. See, we're going to go like that just said I repeat.
For clothing and accessories fully covered and her clothes are loose, can she wear loose trousers with a long upper garment that reaches past her knees? Doesn't
say it again, for the clothing, if this history is fully covered,
can she wear loose travels with a long upper garment that reaches past her knees?
She has a slide that goes to the ground is there a difference between the cause and
the point is to have the hijab according to Islam, there's no specific kind of hijab that she has to wear this is no specific.
The point is should be loose
with
the commissionership the shirt is up to the knees, you know, he has a trouser that's big, which covers everything.
And of course the best is to let it go down from because this is the indication of servitude. So
the point is to cover what is supposed to be covered with something that is lose that doesn't show the size of that part okay. Something that is not transparent is something that is not attractive to them to the opposite gender, is it
attractive or not? Even if it's modest, we have to go to the cultural practice how can assistant decide whether the dress is attractive or not?
I think the culture decide here
there are certain type of dress which the culture will tell you this is attractive and this is not. Okay, we go with that. And I don't think here we
Yeah, we. This is the nose and the brothers sister knows both of them. She also wants to dress he knows what she she wants
to get it so we're dressing for others.
Our system
doesn't cover in front of cousins, the husbands of the aunts etc. Patients and educates them could you advise how a sister can deal with the community welfare system
doesn't cover herself in the presence of cousins and all of these people, right? She should observe patients and try to educate, educate them observe the proper manner you know she's going to face a lot of things but she be patient. And so she teach them because Allah Allah sama says wrong is wrong wrong.
But what does she do engage in educating them teaching them until they understand she's going to face a lot of battle but exercise patience, she shouldn't fight.
Resist, maintain how full hijab according to the Sharia, but at the same time, educate them
if they push to shake hands, etc. Do we prioritize keeping family relations? There is no family relation in that.
house doesn't bring family together
cause them to get separated. So if somebody who's not supposed to shake the hand the question is about it. They push hard to shake. If somebody is not supposed to shake the hand the sister shouldn't give him
if a non Muslim
By the way, wait, can you wait?
The uncle
can a sister uncover herself and stay the wishes sit next to the ankle like the way she sit next to the
Father?
How uncle
Pachi
Pachi is her uncle right? The Father's? father's brother right?
auto mother's brother.
mother's brother isn't it like
the anti
virus in
practice my malaise became in the wrong way.
So
Can she do that or not?
Okay, can originate according to the SU scanner, but almost all of the scholars okay. At least most of the scholars said she she didn't do that.
Why they say she she didn't do she shouldn't do that because ankle describes her to his children. And the professor Lucha de Silva said assistant shouldn't go and see another sister or haga so that she can explain to somebody who can marry anyhow. So most of the scholars she can sit with him because he's my homie cannot marry her forever or when it comes to staying in the way she said next to the Father. They said most of the scholars said she'll do that in the presence of the of the uncles because they will take the information and talk about her in the presence of their children
which a person shouldn't do that and that's the reason why a majority of the scholars actual rejects the number seem to see the Muslim woman they said because they don't have restriction. They describe what they see to others a Muslim sister will not go to that
Allah Allah
since you mentioned they cannot
they cannot see our
non Muslim tattoos
it doesn't
it doesn't it doesn't according to the best opinion touching a woman doesn't nullify the law
they said is harmful and is it possible for her to walk without having that thought.
Okay, um and also I just see what I talking about high heeled shoes right they said is harmful for the health is unhealthy for them so even from this dimension they she didn't do that. Again it and is it possible also for her to work without doing that which allows one to say this shouldn't happen? I think it's almost important it's possible the high heeled shoes for a person to walk without having those sounds
Yeah,
it's possible
to work now.
So is it possible to have the system working without having this a sound
but how?
Okay, so let's let's just make it like this if it is possible for her to present to talk without having the sound
and also it is healthy, it doesn't harm her health. Then she'll be okay. Because they're in law in which a lot smarter said they shouldn't do is gone doesn't exist.
Okay, and wearing shoes in general is okay.
But which one is majority? I think it should be right all the Harlem rare cases.
Where she does that without producing the sound that catch the attention of others. And the scholar said and Nando de la comida, who wouldn't have come for, for rare cases, we always based on the general rulings, we closed the door, the rare cases they have to be included.
together because we cannot control we don't know when is it going to happen on Wednesday. And it's very easy for the mistakes to take place in that regard.
So closing though is is the best x?
No.
Draw the line between trying to attract attention rather than seeking knowledge. For example, asking questions in class where the brothers will notice.
This Okay, inshallah, as long as he needs to ask you, as they used to ask in the presence of Rasulullah sallallahu, Sallam and other companions, it's okay. Good idea, though. What allows maturity quite hard to do is to talk more destiny, not to beat if I have voice talk normally the way a lot smarter, credited help. But there are some who naturally their voice is really, really, really determined the others, the young people talk about that, to get idea. So that's listening to that. There are people who are going to listen to the news just because of the voice of the system itself. The other one will tell you all of these things. This is part of the Zener being committed by the
ears. So if a sister already knows that, I think this is very clear. And in this case, she has to protect herself, because it might put her into trouble.
Newspapers everyday we see this nice things.
A lot smarter protect, but in general, can she ask question, of course, yes. It is to ask in the presence of a solicitor also in the presence of the other brothers. And also law solidarity, no.
Sisters might treat brothers who are only attracted to other men, differently from some sisters, that are brothers who are attracted to brothers.
They treat them separately saying that they're not really attracted to us. The sisters?
No.
attracted to the women?
Oh, no, that's wrong. That's wrong. To have a sister have a person who is attracted to male and been attracted to the male over the law. And a sister will say since he's not attracted to the sisters, then then
I just leave with him as if I'm living with another sister. No, he doesn't go like that. She should still treat him as as a brother.
Seeing the increased divorce rates and other stuff happening in society today.
Is it fine?
leaves everything else and focuses on righteousness.
Again, seeing the divorce rates,
it seemed like she just canceled the marriage and focus on a brother. Oh, that's wrong. She's asking about now that the rate of divorce is increasing. You know? Can I just don't marry?
Right? Yes, that's a question.
So So is his correcting can know is wrong.
The way she should be thinking how to protect the marriage. If I do it from a divorce, she should study what is going on what is the cause of the divorce so that when she married she should protect herself from the divorce.
Going against marriage deficiency. deficiency in thinking.
Allah says we, we send the prophets which anonymous version.
We make them married, we'll give them wives and also children. So she shouldn't think about this, you should think about the solution. You can there is a cause for divorce.
The most, the biggest one is lack of patience. Number 10 is lack of patience. So many people will tell the woman that she is so submissive, you know to the man, or like whoever calls the woman and talked to her in this way, you know, as worse than she abandons me.
You should tell him if you live in environments like this, you should tell them like
like that port who says
what's wrong with me these days in poetry's? It says the one who is coming to my family to destroy the relationship between me and my wife to tell her something which will destroy the relationship between me and them. So most likely he's living in a community that does this. It says Casa in in the shower yesterday.
He said this, he should know that you are equal to somebody who is going to a lion to extract the urine from them.
You know,
it is you have to know that you're working on the fire,
anything can happen. A woman will kolani or one of them he came back to his wife and then the the mood changes. And then the wife he asked the wife What happened? She says, because you have a good relationship with the ameerul momineen and you let us live in in this life What is this? A sister went to her and told her that you was done with you Your husband has a very good relationship with the leader you know, and you have in this life so much when she when he came back she turned against him you know, life was not like that. It's when he comes to his house even Mashallah he makes daycare and the wife replied you know, but now know the kid no Salaam know anything. It gets into
the house, he finds different boot.
Why did he say? He asked her what happened? Is everything okay? She said, I am told that you have this good relationship with the Sultan. How can we live in like this? He says Allah Huberman epsa. Allah is OJT for army Bizarro. And that woman he became blind, you know, just a
design. They said that woman he says, Yeah, Allah, whoever destroyed my wife, yeah, Allah make him blind.
And it happens like that.
He deserves will lie somebody who destroyed the marital relationship and go and tell the wife something, and this is happening a lot assistant will go and talk to the wife, and then the wife will change. And wife will be very smart will lie she should be extra ordinary smart. Because this person, they will cause her to lose her husband. And at the same time, she has to face the challenges of the next life.
My advice is, if a person marries tell you why the wife also should tell the husband, let us design our life. Don't accommodate other people's life. Let us design our life and live like that. And why it should be very smart, whoever comes and talk to her about how she she lived with the husband, she shouldn't accommodate this at all. Sit with the husband, if you have any comment, discuss with the husband, and plan what exactly you want to do in your marriage. So patience is needed. And that's why I say that shouldn't be a barrier between the husband and the wife, you know, it should be very tolerant to each other. And whenever somebody needs, though, don't listen to anyone who tells you
that you're very submissive to the husband is not about that.
I heard the sister from one of the countries are not mentioned the name. She was interviewing the sisters in some universities to see
whether they agree with this current system or not. She is telling them Don't you feel that you are a slave? Wherever you go, you have to tell your husband whatever you do, you have to inform your husband. And so Hannah law that young sister that she thought is going to give her what she wanted. She said No Actually I don't take it as slavery or putting restriction but I just believe that naturally since I'm his wife, he needs to know what am I doing you know? And this is somebody who is studying in the university is supposed to be brainwashed but still with the fitrah he said no this is I think partnership necessity say that.
And I don't take it I don't take I enjoy it actually.
Do you know that a marriage was destroyed? This one I'm telling you No, I don't manage what that was destroyed. Just because you know, just because the husband interferes when they go to the market he do the bargaining.
The wife doesn't do
he will law
and there was nothing to be said in order to advise a woman one of the justification for that divorce is that you shouldn't have a freedom to do whatever she wants in the market. Her job is just to park whatever she wants. And he goes on to the bargain with them with the cashier was like I thought this is something interesting that was enjoyed by this instance you know,
me the game says the brothers become a slave.
Is that true? Go to the shopping malls who is moving the trolley. The brothers
you know, if you go there when you marry you're gonna see that you know you go with her like the queen. She opened the door or the kids if you have kids they open the door or sometimes also you open the door for them to come out. Okay, let's go go into the market just take and
take and take and put a new other one who is pushing you know, when you reach the cashier, the cashier What did they do?
Just watch you know, your your pocket is going to get burned after you finished you tell him Thank you very much.
When you go to the car, he knows sometimes can I help you? You know? He said no just go into the car and enjoy she's there enjoying the air conditioning and you are there packing the things and when you reach her also give her the key. I will see you that you're the one who pack all the things
Thought is something that they should enjoy. But this one says no, it is deficiency she wants to go and fight also like anybody else. Well, I so silly, you know, Hubble will actually you know, and it should be the cause of a divorce, you know,
it was there. So most likely, in these type of things, you see, somebody will tell her that you're highly disrespected by by your husband. So a person should be very careful, your house is your house, it shouldn't entertain any other thing. you design your life with your husband, whoever is happy, let him be happy in the way you shouldn't go interfere somebody else's life. Nobody should bring their life also to the house. Otherwise, you're going to lose your partner, and those who will do nothing but love him. In the last quarter grantees will so that Sister, I will advise anyone to check and see what is the cause called what are the causes of divorce, study them and avoid them in
your marriage, but don't stay without a lot of marriage.
This question,
for example,
gets easily influenced by one.
And because of course others say they subconsciously tend to think about the negative things they'll say and if expectation So, and they feel bad about it, they don't want to think they know that it is wrong. But subconsciously they're thinking about
what can he do? Yeah, yeah, stop that. If that's why as a husband, you should be very serious in your life at home. If you realize that some sisters are coming to destroy the life between you and your wife. Even if these people happen to be part of half relatives, you do have a right somehow from dealing with them and she has to follow
to keep the marital relationship she has to follow you please This one, I don't want you to visit him and I don't want them to visit us.
They have to do this because they're not good. They bring back to the family. She should tell them he should be very strict. Otherwise at the end of the day, you will pay the price you know so even if this person is a family member you must have something to block them from entering your family at all. It's very dangerous to lead this person and the premises.
Good idea. You have to be very strict in this you're going to be close by the community that you have so many rules in your house. Tell them yes I don't care about that. I did not interfere your life It shouldn't come to the house and take
a look around
what about observing
mentally disabled people who have like Down syndrome
they need that right?
Yes
or no out I should be covered in front of any anyone that I lost my Ted Turner give me permission to uncover except those people who don't have desire
and they are not part of umehara Okay, this other one the last one which Allah says you can see next to them in the way you stay in front of the mahari other than the magenic machine but you know it
except if the Magellan understand
there are some magenta in this there Majnoon in everything except in this
next
age
in front of the age in which was history tracked to tell some scholars who said starting from seven and myth
the age is there any age for the boy in front in which the sister she's trying to start covering themselves right.
Now it depends on the if the boy understand things even if he is little, she should cover
but he doesn't understand things. If he studies in the school, I think after primary three
you know after he goes to primary three, I think boys nowadays they know whatever you know.
You have to be very careful.
Okay, any question at least one or two questions from the brothers and then we close the class.
And it was any question
no question.
asked that it will be the last question.
In our country.
The houses are made in a day there's an alternative
inside
So
because the outer door people usually don't stay in that place, and they don't usually come to that place uncovered.
Many communities like that.
Many take permission from the place where people usually stay negligently.
That place people know that everyone can comes safe assistance, in a way is inappropriate. That's a false.
That's a false you shouldn't, because anyone can come according to the culture. So the place where you should take permission is when you reach the second door.
Then,
is he the last one?
Of course.
Of course, a person should know what is good. This is not an add an exception at all,
is received questions from younger brothers with me that we don't really focus on the class because of this?
Seriously, maybe didn't talk to you, but it does have somebody who can we they can ask what to do. But they asked, What can I do? I can't focus. Especially when it happens and the one who's teaching is young.
They also get distracted.
So they should they should load in case you happen to be in that place. Especially
if they're applicable, it's not an exception.
Happy.
Okay. In conclusion, the sha Allah says you're a lot smarter. Grant is good.
My advice, as usual, is please you have heard what you heard. Islam or knowledge is all about action. Without quoting what you have learned into practice and action, your knowledge will be useless. Okay, so let's engage in to
practicing that which we learn. Let the manifestation of Islam take place in you be a good representative, a good Muslim, upon a good manner, and be patient. You know, being a righteous person in these days is not easy. Okay? maintain your good manners, and engage in abnormal group, whenever you see somebody who's doing wrong, go and fix it, you know.
And they shall lie. I believe, if I fix myself, you fixed yourself and everyone is doing that. And we extend the what we learn from our scholars, to others be the light, Allah, the world will be a better place for everyone. You shouldn't just sit down and become happy with that people with what people are doing which is wrong, it will come to you so
it will come to you one day. So fix whatever you can fix according to your capability. You know, and also make sure that you fix yourself first before extending that I want to try this. So whatever we learned, put it into practice and action. Be good. don't participate in evil in all of it policy. Last month, protect us allows multiple barkai in new and guidance in our last part to increase our email and our knowledge subhanak a lot more vmdk shadow, Atlanta central control, relate