Gardens Of The Pious #268 Mar 13th 2017

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Salam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu Bismillah AR Rahman Rahim, Praise be to Allah alone, we all praise Him and we seek His help whomsoever Allah guides is a truly guarded one and I'm so over Allah leave to say non can show him guidance. My dear viewers everywhere Welcome to another edition of our program Guardians of the pirates. Today's episode is number 322.

With the 85th chapter, which is known as the chapter pertaining to keeping the secrets or Baboo have the cell.

You may remember that we started in the last few minutes in the previous episode, the idea of Surah Al Israa. And number 34, in which a lot of mighty says well for Bill ID in Allaha Kenema schooler fulfill your covenants, because you will be asked about the covenants. And one may wonder the title of the chapter is keeping the secrets

the command of keeping the secrets, but this I have sorted Israa is talking about fulfilling the covenant, what is the relationship, there is a very strong relationship between both because when somebody

shares a secret with you,

or private informations, and he requests you not to share it with others, then you agree by nodding your head or by being silent. That's an agreement. That's a covenant and you must keep your covenant and you must fulfill your promise. It is a divine command well fall below it in the ladder Canada's ruler

to the point that the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam has said in the Hadith and majali Su, Bill mn

in some meetings,

it is known that this meeting has

some confidential information is not to be shared with others, then I don't have to renew my covenant with every attendee and say please, this is very confidential and not say to anyone, because we really everybody acknowledged that once or in the beginning. So that is sufficient.

And the prophets Allah Allah Allah selama said,

Whenever a man speaks to another and the word man here covers both men or woman, any person whenever a person speaks to another,

so multiformat for in her manner,

in a hadith or Raju, Hadith, or Raja Hadith, so multifactor in a manner what does it mean? It means the old LTF it means turn right and turn left. Is it fair to turn around?

Sometimes I don't even have to

take a covenant from you to keep my talk confidential

or our conversation to be secret. Why? Because the indications, so negative it means if somebody is talking to you, and while he was talking, he was looking right. And he was looking left, like he's making certain that no one is using you, what do you understand out of that, you understand that you also keep it confidential, he wants to keep it between you and him. Then that set you must keep that secret and you must not share it with others. There is a difference between sharing informations which are very personal and confidential. Like taking a matura of a person.

A man came to me and he said that my wife had

AIDS.

Okay.

And

I got tested, and the test came positive. So I came to know that this person who is talking to me right now is AIDS, positive. Okay, so he is carrying aids. Now.

He trusted me and entrusted me with this secret, told me something very confidential about himself and his wife. I must keep that secret and I'm not

does not publish it, or must not tell others about it. But what if somebody came to me and said, You know, I want to repent. Why, because I've committed a murder, I killed this person. And I killed them deliberately. I can keep that as a secret anymore. Because this is confessing a crime. And now somebody else has been invited.

And he's not the actual murderer. I know who is the murderer, and he confessed to me. This is the Shahada. And I'm not supposed to wait until I'm requested to give the shahada if I know, I should go forward and present my Shahada and Mike this morning. So we're talking about keeping the secret in the area of personal information, something pertaining the individual himself,

his life, his wife, his children, his business, that it does not involve the public, and it is not for the public interest to know like, I know who committed theft. I know who did this. I know who did that, as a crime, you should come forward in order to spy because you have managed who did this, okay. There are some crimes, which even if you have seen that by your own eyes, the testimony of one person is invalid, the neglected such as the act of adultery. It must be for men

are dual, just men who have witnessed the act of fornication completely. Not the foreplay, not the introduction, not just seeing them in the nude. No. So if one person

have witnessed that, or two or three, they're not supposed to deliver their shahada because it will be punished they must be for. Okay.

So the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam has said and measure and issue Bill Amana, especially when the person requests you to keep it between you and him or you on her, then you're not supposed to share it with anyone else. Because if you share it with another, it will be soon public informations. You did not keep the secret and you did not fulfill your covenant with this person.

The first Hadith in the chapter, a chapter of the command of keeping the secret or keeping secrets is Hadith number 684.

Narrated by Abu Saeed Al Kadri Radi Allahu Allah, Allah, Allah Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

in them in a Shara denuncia and Allah him and Zillah 10 Yo Malkia Anna piano. Our modular youth de l Marathi were to de la Su Mei and Sureau Silva. The hadith is collected by Imam Muslim.

So I will say Eid al Cordray, may Allah be pleased with him narrated that the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him said

among the most evil of people in the sight of Allah on the Day of Resurrection, will be a man who has an intimate relationship with his wife. Then he talks about it in public and he shares it with others.

So he shares the very private, confidential relationship with others. This is such an evil act.

And this act is condemned by Allah Almighty, especially when it comes to the

sharing the intimate relationship

and the introductions to the intimate relationship.

When a person speaks about his wife before others, even if this person happens to be his blood brother, his best friend, this is cursed. This is condemned by Allah Almighty. The Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam assayed Lattanzi full murottal Moratalla is algea.

You know, it is forbidden for a woman to describe another woman to her husband. This woman is wearing hijab. I didn't see anything of her. I don't know, what kind of hair does she have? And what kind of complexion does she have? I don't know anything. The color of her eyes? How thin is her nose? I don't know anything about that. Then Subhanallah she is friends with one's wife. They're talking, they're chatting, and she goes, and she keeps talking to her husband. Oh my friend so and so she's very beautiful. She's very fair and she had blue eyes and her hair is long up to her knees. She is like exposing her. Why is she wearing hijab? She's wearing hijab a veil in order to do so.

it to cover herself up so that men who are not related to her men, or a man who's not her husband, or her Muharram will not get to see her. But out of foolishness, another woman whom she thought that she is a very close friend. Now she describes her, you know, she describes the details about her, like the man can actually see her. This is also forbidden. I don't have to tell you that's a secret or didn't tell anyone about it. It is understood

in lemon assuredness, the word shark means evil. A shark means most evil, but because the word mean which means let's debate amongst the most evil people before Allah Almighty. So there are even before Allah yarmulke piano on the Day of Resurrection, the world do you have the and if not, is when the two epidurals when the to the skin of the male and the skin of the female, the skin of the spouses come in direct contact.

And that doesn't happen. But between the couple the spouses, the husband and wife, no one can sleep in the nude next to another one, but a husband and wife, I'm talking about what is legitimate. Otherwise, nowadays, it is a big mess. We're talking about from an Islamic perspective, from a religious point of view, halal and haram.

So because of this very private relationship, which Allah Almighty described as Han Nelida selecto. Well, and to me, vassula Han, the word laborers means a garment.

When you're wearing your underclothes, there is nothing beneath it. So it comes in direct contact with your skin, your spouse to you is like that, like you're close. And you to her like her sleepwear, in a sense that nothing comes closer to her body than you, and nothing comes closer to your body than her. That is the meaning of home any best of luck, OMA and tomley, Barcelona, now we understand this metaphor.

Because of this very close relationship.

A man once had a conflict with his wife. And he was in the process of divorcing her. So somebody asked him about her, and why he said, shame on you, the only to speak about my wife and her faults. She's my wife.

And when he divorced her,

he asked him again, about it. And he said, shame on you, you owe me to speak about a woman who one day used to be my wife, and now she's the wife of somebody else. You This is a man of honor.

You should treat people the same way that you like to be treated. I don't have to remind my Close Brothers, my close friends, my wife, and your spouse, you don't have to keep reminded them, you know, don't talk to anyone about this private relationship, or about our secrets. A secret is a secret and it is forbidden to share it will others because it is a manner.

And that's why the verse which the Imam mentioned in the beginning of the chapter is alpha will be locked in aleida can masala and this is a divine command

to mentor Salah. So this kind of relationship is a secret. Unfortunately,

you know, it was a very bad habit in the past,

that a woman may talk to her close friend about the intimate relationship with her husband, and what did they do together. And now, it got even worse, where they talk about it on the social media and she shares that with others and in no time it goes viral, it is shared with hundreds with 1000s Especially because of the sexual contents. You know this is a major sin and one must avoid that one should be a man of honor a woman of honor and keep their private relationship with their spouses confidential not to share it with anyone else. Sometimes in the cases of I have to talk about it before the physician, the doctor for the treatment, because of you know the the nature of the

disease or the sickness, otherwise, you should not be talking about that to anyone else. Also, it is very important to learn how to ask questions, if somebody is having a confidential question about the nature of the relationship between himself

and his spouse or herself and her husband, the best way to ask it in writing, or present your question in the form of a third person like somebody is asking, I know of somebody who's having this problem or asking this question, so that you destined the question from yourself, you don't appear like you're revealing the private the nature of the private relationship between you and your spouse. The following hadith is kind of long Hadith but it is very interesting and it is full of lessons. It's a sound Hadith. collected while enamel Buhari Hadith number 685 Narrated by Abdullah ignore Omar Al Khattab Radi Allahu Anhu man

and now not all of the Allahu Anhu Hinata yet been to Hafsa

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It's a very interesting Hadith, in which Abdullah ignore hamari Malhotra may Allah be pleased with him and his father narrated that my father Roma in superb Radi Allahu Anhu said, when his daughter Hafsa

Radi Allahu Anhu became a widow.

This is what Omar is saying. I met with Austin I live now fan and I offered Hafsa for marriage to him. But off man said, Let me think about it. I waited for a few days, and then off man are all the Allahu Anhu met me and said, well,

it occurred to me that I should not marry at the present time.

Then I met every veteran of the Allahu Anhu Abu Bakr Salim and I say to him, if you're willing, Allah to give you my daughter Hafsa in marriage, but Abu Bakr, Radi Allahu Anhu remain silent. And they didn't say a word to me reply. Well, I was more upset with him than with us man.

I had waited for only a few days, then the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him asked me for her hand in marriage. So I gave her to him in marriage, that after I met a veteran of the Allahu anhu, who said, perhaps

you were angry with me, when you offered half saw to me and I said nothing reply. I said yes, indeed. That is so. So he said to me, nothing stopped me to respond to offer except that I knew that the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him, had mentioned her, and I couldn't disclose a secret of the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him, had the Messenger of Allah lift her, I would have accepted her. The hadith is collected by both Imam Bukhari Muslim and the word there a year not means she became without a husband. She lost her husband. And what that Allah means is angry with me. As I mentioned earlier, number one, the hadith is a sound Hadith. Number two, it is full of lessons.

The word am

means a single person and it goes for both masculine and feminine. So, if a man is not married,

he is called a him. If a woman is not married, she is called a yam. The same name whether they have been married before, whether they are divorcees or widows

in Surah a nor Allah Almighty says, what n keahole

mean qu masala Hina mean equal more equal A Akufo Cara Yoni him Allah hoomin fugly and keahole Ayana marry the singles amongst you. So li n means those who are single, whether they had been married before, or they have never been married before, okay.

In the previous episode, we learned the word as the law

okay.

The Prophet sallallahu sallam was a shared the higher and mineralized Allah if he had that he was more shy than a version girl in her veil.

So as raw is for a female or a girl who have never been married before, she's version

while l am plural of AM, it goes for both a man or a woman who's single whether they had been married before or not divorced, or they are being widowed.

Or madam hottub Radi Allahu Anhu narrated that and his son is narrating the Hadith from him, he said to Yemen, been to Hafsa Yanni, his daughter Hafsa lost her husband, her husband was honus ignore therefore, a Sami may Allah be pleased with him, who is the brother of the very famous companion Abdullah even for their first semi.

For now it's even harder for Sammy

was martyred on the battle for her. So when Hafsa lost her husband, and after the eight day period for a widow which is four months and 10 days as Allah Almighty stated in Surah Al Baqarah.

While letting you know what our phone Amin Kumar dharana, as well the interrupt does not be unforeseen or Bata assuring wa Sra. For months and 10 days, that is the need for a widow.

Her father started looking for a good mate for his daughter. Is it permissible?

Is it something accepted? Or acceptable for The Guardian? To propose to a man? Would you marry my daughter? Would you marry my sister? Is it okay? It is okay. Provided that you find a trustworthy person who would not keep that in mind yours there are key blaming her that I never wanted to marry you. It was your father. It was your brother. It was your uncle who insisted on me and never proposed you. I never even was interested in I was never interested in marrying you. That's an evil attitude.

And this person is not worth it. He doesn't deserve this honor. We're talking about if you know somebody who is a man of Deen as Al Hassan Al bossley. May Allah be pleased with him was asked a man asked him to whom shall I give my daughter in marriage? Is it the word her lemon in a hubba Kurama. We're in Ababa Lam your hint?

You better give her image to somebody whom whenever he loves her, he would honor her.

But if he happens to dislike her, he would not disgrace her. He would not hurt her. Let me Hannah, he will not humiliate her. He knows and he maintains her rights even though there is no emotions anymore. He doesn't like her anymore, but he understands that she have rights upon him. So if you find a person, some women came and proposed to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, can you just go whenever some sisters call and ask Allah this person? Can I ask him to marry me? I say no. But this woman proposed to the Prophet Salah Salem, but he's no prophet.

And you never know. You know, problems between the couples happen all the time. But if a man is not a man of wisdom, a man of religious commitment, he will take advantage of that and he will keep reminded her. Do you remember it was you who was dying to marry me? You remember it was your mother who proposed to me or my father and so on. So but if you know that there is a righteous person, then there is a way to do it. Admit some families. Maybe the girl liked somebody, a classmate

or a colleague work

a college. So she did not speak to him. Rather, she shared her feeling with her brother. So the brother befriended this person, as he told me that he made friendship with him only for this reason. And after they become very close friends, he invited him over, and they started hanging around. And then he happened to see his sister. And he said, if you're interested, I can talk to my parents, I can make it easy for you and so on. So this is how they made it seem to be perfectly associated, okay.

But a girl would go to tell somebody that marry me. I doubt that there is that many people would appreciate that and understand that

the girl or the woman

is an OB woman. And she is seeking modesty. So he would appreciate that. But there is another way have your guardian really? Or another woman? How do you draw the Allahu Anhu I spoke to another woman who proposed to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and immediately the Prophet Salalah said and accepted the proposal and they got married. In sha Allah will continue with this very interesting Hadith and the many lessons that we may learn out of it but after we'll take a short break, so please stay tuned

Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh and welcome back. So when Hassan may Allah be pleased with her loss of husband Her name is

Sami may Allah be pleased with him as well after the Battle of

her father Amara pub, spoke to us many daffin are the Allahu Allah and wealth management firm was also the Prophet son in law. He was married to his first daughter Rukia then when she died after the battle during the Battle of bed, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam neurone give him his second daughter Omu Kulsoom in marriage

so I'm hottub offered us money now fan to marry his daughter he's looking for Alright, yes ma'am.

But was mad enough fan said give me some time to think about it. Then a few days later he came and said, I think I will not get married nowadays. I'm not thinking about getting married now. Sort of Mandeep. Now fan made it clear that he declined the offer in a nice way. Okay. So how about him heartthrob went and spoke to the other great man, Abu Bakr Sadiq are the Allah one. By the way, Abu Bakr Salim, almost the age of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and he was his best friend, and Hafsa was 20 years old. That was very normal.

So Iboga crystal said nothing and Hamid waited two days, but Abu Bakr so they never came back to Omar with any reply. And that hurt, almost feeling at least of man. Say no. But I will work did not say anything. Then Subhanallah A while later, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam proposed himself to Hafsa Radi Allahu Allah. And Omar pataw obviously was the happiest and immediately he gave her in marriage to

the Prophet sallallahu Sallam obviously with her consent, half SOG married to finance before the Hijra and the accepted Islam and they made his last year she was a great believer, even before migrating to Makkah, and what an honor to be one of the wives of the Prophet peace be upon him. She was the fourth wife to Prophet Muhammad Salah Salem, after Khadija Saudi Arabian Desert Emma Isha, then have sorrow the Allahu anha. He murdered her during the month of Shaban on the third year after the migration that was after her husband passed away after he was martyred on the battle of and he gave her the Slovak the dowry 400 Durham or the hola Juan and as I said that she was at the time 20

years old Radi Allahu Allah, which also means that she was almost double the age of Aisha Radi Allahu Arnhem.

Then, a while later Abu Bakr Siddiq met with her Madame hottap And now he wants to, you know, clarify something with him that he never not showed any interest in Marion Huff saw nor did he neglect the proposed

Oh, no, there must be a reason. So he wanted to share the reason with Amara Papa this is when he said that perhaps he got mad at me because I never came back to you with an answer. He said yes indeed, I get mad with you more than even with of money now fan, which means also as a human being, I want her Tom was kind of offended because he proposed his daughter to have man but was men decline in a nice way. But in the case of Abu Bakr, he didn't even answer me said the only reason I didn't reply back to you is because I have heard the Prophet sallallahu selon talking about her, like you should interest in her. So I did not want to give in reply until a see what would the Prophet

salallahu Salam decide about it? And he said, Well, Torah can never you lack Kabil to her, had the Prophet sallallahu Sallam married her, I would have married her myself. So where is he catching the Hadith?

The catch in the hadith is the fact that Abu Bakr Al Sadiq heard the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him talking about his interest in Marian house. Obviously, when you look at it, that the Prophet salallahu Salam, the busiest man on earth, have lots of things to worry about other than getting married, and he's already having a shot of the Allahu anha. And so debit is Emma. But marriage is not only to form a family and to have children, you know, marriage has also many other benefits such as strengthening the ties and the bond between two families, the family of Prophet Muhammad and his best friend Abu Bakr Saudi. The family of Oman, Qatar is second advisor minister

and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and similarly have managed now fan and he gives his daughter Fatima to leave. The Authority and the become lira are only Four Rightly Guided caliphs, Abu Bakr, Omar Osman, and ally

and each one of his wives have enrich and the history by many a hadith many lessons that she have learned from the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, as you know that every one of us have their own private lives. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam would go to his house and would spend some time to rest or pray at night in the masjid or deal with his family members. So all of that because he is not

a man was just living for himself. He's a public figure. He is the most important figure in the OMA locker the cannula goofy Rasulillah. He also worked on Hacienda Toliman canal De La Hoya on yo melesa, Kerala Kathira the very famous a of Surah

indeed for you in the Messenger of Allah you have the best role model and example to follow for those who meet Allah on the Day of Judgment. Okay, so how you should have the Allah Han Han narrated to us 1000s of a hadith

many lessons we learn from our Aisha Radi Allahu anha, that without her Isha, we wouldn't have an access to know what used to go on in the privacy of the house of the prophets, Allah Allah Salam. Did she reveal his secrets? No, sir, she didn't. So what did she do? She shared with us what is beneficial for the OMA for example. It is known that before Islam, in Medina, where the Jews used to live, they have some traditions, whether they perceive it as per, you know,

religious Jewish traditions or cultural traditions, such as that a woman during her menses will be totally isolated and she would not buy in with the family she would not even cook because she's impure. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam explained to his own mother, this is not true and Allah explained in Surah Al Baqarah Soluna can in my head. Call who Adam Fateh Zillow Nisa, Phil Mahalia Wella Takara buena, Hatha at home. The only thing which is restricted during the woman's menses is not to have sexual intercourse with her. But other than that, everything is lawful and she is not impure. It is through that she doesn't pray she doesn't fast. She doesn't enjoy a complete sexual

relationship. But other than that, she is pure. And she is permissible to sleep together on the same bed to cuddle together to kiss and hug. So I she teaches us

that while she is in her menses, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam would let her drink then he would hold the glass the cup or the vessel, the pot and we'll rotate it so that

He will put His lips on the same spot of hers, and he will drink right after her. Okay? This is practically teaching the OMA without having that many wives in the life of the prophets, Allah Salam wouldn't have even gotten that much richness of knowledge to teach the entire ummah. So Hafsa have narrated me a hadith

OMO Salah Radi Allahu unhand. When you look into the wives of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, this is a widow and this is a woman with bunch of kids and this is why

because the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam number one marry in any of them was a matter of guidance from Allah subhanaw taala. And

okay, in order to complete the picture,

in order to for each and every one of them to benefit the OMA was something that she have witnessed, especially in their private lives with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he also had narrated many Hadith and had benefited the Omega deal. She have shared with us how the Prophet SAW Selim dealt with his wives, how did he deal with them whenever they have upset him, whenever the there is a conflict between the CO wives, all of that had been explained in details. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam married to have son and she became his fourth wife for the Allahu anha. And now it is time to clear the record between Abu Bakr and Omar and Qatar. And that's why he opened up the

subject by saying that I don't want you to get upset with me, because there was a reason why I did not even say yes or no, because I have heard in our private meeting with the Prophet Salah Salem that he was talking about her like he gives a hint that he's interested, okay. So if I say no, that means I will give you a fuse or not.

Okay. And I must explain to you, why not. And if I tell you that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam has shown interest, you will take it for granted. And now you think that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam wants to marry her? What if he changes his mind? What if our have come to him? And he said, No, you know, so that's why I paused I didn't make any remarks just waiting for the Prophet sallahu wa salam to finalize his decision. It is the kind of wisdom concerning keeping the secret or not just rushing to share everything with everyone, especially in a situation like that. I doubt that anyone would do like Abu Bakr Sadiq. Rather many people would say it's a privilege to be the first to share the good

news with Omar to tell him that forget it man will walk wrote of man, the prophet I heard him talking about her. Then the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam till Abu Bakr not to share this news with anyone he didn't or at least, we have not been informed that the Messenger of Allah have requested him to keep it confidential. But we know for sure that I will backwards so they're dealt accordingly. He dealt with his information as confidential, even though how much just needed this little hand. So this is how he cleared the page and remove any confusion between him. And Amara and hakab Radi Allahu Allah

we actually, the following hadith is a very long Hadith. And it would take us in a journey with the incident of the death of Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi salam. So I definitely prefer to save this hadith to be discussed in the beginning of the next episode in sha Allah and until then, brothers and sisters, I leave you all in the care of Allah who Lokali head, West Estelle Fulani, welcome masala Allahu ala Sayidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa Salam wa Salaam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

Allah Allah God is the greatest

glory to Him. He

has to be the best, gave his best religion to Allah Our God has been greatest

glory to Him.

To us used to be the best and give his best religion to them. So why did they know that forgiving God about and in paradise? We're shipping cows fire and stones, sending the rescue the cheapest one day ignore that forgetting all about bad guys will shipping cause fire and stones