Lessons from Surah Nur – Part 2

Ibrahim Nuhu

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If you have any question you can ask Let's save some time.

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Yeah, this is islamically when a Dave comes to you, he has a right to state

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what is the question?

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When a guest comes to you Do I have a right to reject him?

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islamically they have

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a right to stay with me for three days

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islamically philistia em let me select some our B of their for our the ffls

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This is their right at me. Some scholars said they can take their right for these three days if you don't give them the right

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right as I said, these are all applicable in terms of Rasul Allah sama and also applicable up to this moment, but looking at the circumstances and the environment you are living, you know, legally, you might not have a right

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to find somebody for this right, which is given to you by Islam. So a person should understand the nature of the community he is visiting and the life if he is in a place where she has fully established then he has imminent the case which the courts The court will impose. And it will force him to give you that right for three days. But after three days, as he has a right to stay Can I tell him to go? Yes. Can tell him masala

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is not with Adam but after three days is right is for PT.

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So that's why even some scholar said even in places where exactly when

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the

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let's say the house owner tells you you cannot accommodate anyone. You can keep your guests for three days.

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That's right, you can keep him for three days

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by the machine this is what he used to

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say in Islam has given him this treatise and nobody should deprive them from the

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last one.

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Okay, this is asking when there is a normal conversation between the person and I mean two opposite gender. Is it also Xena? No, unless if they do something that can lead to it.

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Okay, just talking to a sister or sister talking to your brother it doesn't. It doesn't mean that they're committed Zina or something like that.

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But when they engage in things which might lead to it unnecessary things,

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these are the doors that they're going to open after that then messages and letters

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and Allahu Allah, but having a normal conversation if there is a need for that. That's okay. There's no need to stay away from it, you

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know, inshallah This one is asking about homeschool attendees or houses, which nobody's living in that place. It's not the house that people are leaving, but they left the house for some of their needs. I have my house and then I go out and then somebody comes he has an eighth in the house and get inside. That's 100% wrong. And this one we will talk about this inshallah and the last part of the surah but this place available school, it means the one that doesn't have inhabitants. No people are living in it. Because when we live in a place it is not necessary that we have to live in it 24 hours. The moment you go out, you're still living in the place and the house is still yours and you

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are a second fee. inshallah

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Allah grant us protection can be similar with either hemocytes or

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Ballymena, the vino or have you been to Mohammed Ali rather, and he was happy to sell him on the right.

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He's asking about this ruling of St. Nan. Is this. Is it still applicable? In the case of friends in the university? I come to the room of my friends in the university. Do I need to take permission or

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I just go in right.

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Yeah, but you

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know, you're coming back right. Then he says, You say Sam says Salomon take permission if the room is open for both of you.

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But let's say

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it's designed in a way everyone has his own territory, covered and fully closed. In this one, he just says salami getting inside. Okay.

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When you decide to get inside his own territory, then you take permission, but you can just disallow

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Get inside because everyone has his own place he shouldn't come out an inappropriately

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big ticket

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Can I come in?

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No setup

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this one permission yes

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because the reason why we shouldn't get in without permission is not to see the hour of summit

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and send our eyes our eyes from non Muslim

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otherwise you will say okay then men sit down look at the opposite gender unless if they are

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non Muslim and nobody says that at the same always Allah so if you live with me take permission but you cannot say Salaam

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because the last time I selected the seller

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the seller they certainly reply them with wallet

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keep repentant.

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Don't live in that can open that is intensive amounts of repentance and Toba.

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Keep making tilba tilba tilba tilba inshallah lasma Hotel, because Allah opened the door.

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And he invites you to come no matter how much you go for, come back. He delights other repentant to lock the

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thing that is depriving them from seeing the truth.

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Can you go?

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No, you can't

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just say since the last module says, if you have a need inside

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the house which belongs to others, and you have a need, that means the house is open and everyone goes in and out.

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Somebody has a house and he locked the house. And then he doesn't live in that husband he lives another house, you know, you have no right to go in into into that house is a crime.

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Legally and islamically? Also,

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no

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question is about.

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I have two houses. I live in one of them. The other one I don't the state. But it is my house. Can somebody go inside the other house without my permission?

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I said no. As the house is closed, a person closes his house, then I shouldn't go to that house without his permission.

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Because last month until I see when you have a need inside and usually your need arise when the door is open for everyone. Otherwise, how is it possible when somebody close his house for me to have my need inside?

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In Islam? He's asking about authority when they read a house

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in Islam

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and out of nurofen al Mancha you only command people to do maruf

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when they don't do the model,

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and you talk to them to stay away from munkar

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when they do the mock up

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if they're doing the model, you don't need to tell them to do more because they already do.

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If they're not doing the moon correct. Why do you bring it up? Because they're not doing it.

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So the scholar said you don't do it justice. You don't spy on others to see whether they are doing monk or not.

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But if the mukil appears, then the authority have a right to interfere in this regard.

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Apollo's policy here.

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Somebody's screaming and realize that this person really is, is in trouble. Can they get inside the house? Yes,

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they shouldn't wait,

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the house is burning, you don't need to take permission, you can just go inside

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anything that would be considered as mo kerbin

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I mean, present or apparent to them, they do have a right to read the house even without taking permission. Other than that, I think legally unless if it is big cases even legally, they do you have to ask for permission first for them to step inside.

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So we don't we don't they don't go until they take the permission unless if it is in a critical moment in situation then they can just go out without thinking they can go in without taking the permission of the world.

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How about entering the house, the houses of the

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the parent

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come back your mother Your father is there do you need to take permission something really get annoyed? Sometimes

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they will tell you, this is us, you know, just come You know,

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the same is applicable. That's why many from the syllabus will say that the most hated things to me is to see the hour that belong to me

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that's really painful and really painful. She herself was your mother or your sister or your daughter, or whoever they will not be happy for them to to be seen at that moment, you know,

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because you're gonna live with them unless a stranger when he goes they might not meet him again, but you every time they will see you and every time when they see you, they remember that you saw them in this situation.

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So the permission is is also applicable to take it at any moment and inshallah in the future also last month is going to talk about who takes permission, and who takes permission. Who doesn't take permission and who takes permission when

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and when do we take permission, there are some who are supposed to take permission. Anytime. These are the people who are mature, they reach the age of maturity, they have to take permission every time below them that allows monitor specified 363 moment where they are supposed to take function and inshallah and then in the ayah after this Allah will talk about certain people that you can stay

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in their presence not covering properly talking to their sisters, the brothers talking to the sisters because the sensitivity in hijab on the sisters is more on the brothers. What is your last question?

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Then can you help?

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A brother or sister is alone in the room? What is

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a cover? Or what can be uncovered?

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There's a question says or?

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Or?

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And which one?

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No, my question is brother and a sister alone are separated brothers.

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So when you have a brother and a sister,

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I only have a brother alone in his room, you know, let's say a brother

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and a sister alone in her room.

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What can they do?

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They should observe also the modesty

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for the brothers, at least that part of the body should be covered from the knees to the navel.

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And he stays in the way he wants.

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But you did commit sin when they they're in that in that house and nobody's that there is no sin on him. We just tell him it is inappropriate against the man and

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that's why most of the scholars said even when the person is having a relationship with the spouse,

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they shouldn't take off everything unless if they put themselves under something to cover them. Most of the schools go with that although some scholars said no that is nothing specific that will say is wrong. Although is against the miners,

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against the miners but if that is the only thing that can restrict the brother You know, his house without doing things which are wrong then they go for that. in both situations there is no sin Israelite Allah on the

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US why the culture that says if a person goes to the toilet he has to remain with his growth and take shower in them everywhere people get this but there are some who says

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that you cannot go to the toilet and take off everything and this is your house. But if a person is taking a shower in the river where everyone is there for sure

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that's why the way people are swimming, is it right or wrong? Wrong

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very long. When we go to swimming even the cloth is designed to show the size of the hour of the meal. That's wrong.

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So what do you do? You want a tight one and then on top of it you will fall another one that is thick, you know and it's covered from the knees to the navel and then go see

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as a brother study okay Other than that, if a person wears something that is so tight his show in the hour that's how long he will be sitting he can only swim in that way in the presence of who his wife or the wife seems in the presence of who her husband because that part of the body is a very critical place anything can happen husband no problem wife no problem because we want things to happen.

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That's why she puts jewelry and and all of these decorations because Islam wants things to happen so that she will cool him down and he will go down the community will be protected from them. They will manners

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they get it so if they're sitting in their house, even if they're alone, okay, they should cover at least the critical hour it shouldn't say like that unless if they need it they have injury in the place where

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they are supposed to be covered. And then you tell them the observed minus which minus minus is to open it so that they can heal quickly so when they are in the house they open the place and sit down this is their house

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I recall one of the seller facade I can't remember who was that but somebody looked inside his house and he saw him sitting inappropriately

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and he was saying he will shake also us also do that he say yes you Why'd you do that? You look into the hour of people that's why you see that you know you should blame yourself first for looking into the house that permission

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so I do not know what really happened to door opens and then he didn't close his eyes he watch

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that's why it's very dangerous very dangerous lie it can cost you your religion it can cost you your life to look into the house without permission

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never you come to the place where the houses are open. Louise can look inside in some communities you come to the place you see the houses open and you see the sister Mashallah line down and the first part of the door you know,

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what is that? So and then you come and then you see that image will remain This is bad attitude and bad culture. It shouldn't do that. But since people who do it you know, you cannot deprive them from doing it so you control yourself you cannot control them but you control yourself you know

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May Allah grant is good. You know, it's all about you protecting your heart first. Okay is all about you protecting your heart first because it helps the community to stay away from any evil that can come from from your side. Exactly. Are we done with the questions? Okay.

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How do you know the South doesn't go?

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They complain as usual.

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Okay, and

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Manta Hannah Minh Nicola momento de monopsony

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came in similar manner, when I was talking about the Hadees of Abu huraira it says, what region or region it is near, and you have also the the the legs also they commit,

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they commit Zina,

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but then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam I said, well Pharaoh Jew is sadaqa Delica we can do who the one that confirms that is there for the private part. All of these participates in provoking the person you know, to engage in the real act. So these are the initial steps to Zener of the line numbers call them lemon, you know lemon, these are survival n

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minus n zero, but they lead to the to the bigger one.

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They lead to the bigger one. So that's why the purpose the last time I said at the end of the day as far as you said the canonical you can remove a person should be very, very careful. That barrier that last one's output must be maintained. That barrier last month output must be maintained if a person

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is willing to preserve Don't you ever deceive yourself

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or lie eventually ever deceiving?

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salvan say that I'm strong, nobody's like that.

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Nobody's like that.

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If you claim to be like this, then I will say you have to check

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your health.

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Seriously, because naturally we're not like that. But I like that a different and

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each one of us get attracted to the other one. That's why last month I asked you to keep the barrier. If you open it, anything can happen. So don't say that are you are

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you or is this malarkey and you're righteous you're valuable last Mahalo to Allah

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says lattice Luhan de Mirage Isla de kabiri but lo Quinta Finn the second mithila banality any image you have in the peak of righteousness.

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So last last summer said don't stay in a place where there is nobody except

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you and and a woman that is not your wife or your Muharram that you cannot marry forever

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those ones in sha Allah if there is a need for you to be with them alone in a place me is in light Allah protection is always there although we are also living in contaminated environments, those are also going to attack

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or attack themselves

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in a good domain I'm sorry. So Allah subhanaw taala asked you to lower and to close some part of your gaze some part of you eyes.

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So, the scholar said the reason why the mean is mentioned is temporarily or some part of it.

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So we can say is this bar is not decided. So it will be

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most of it

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and as the truth close most of it

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looking is not permissible. Unless if there is a need for that, when there is a need there will be a

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need like who

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like the Catholic

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somebody who is looking for marriage,

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it is always good and better for him not to marry before seeing that person who he wants to marry.

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So you need to take her permission, he doesn't need to take permission.

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When does that happens? Can he look before he proposed? Yes, he should see first if he agrees then he goes straight forward to the proposal. So search first about if I am to advise our search about righteousness and

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good manners and then go to the look at

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it get it Are you listening you know don't rush online and rush because sometimes you will rush their power says done go like that Ron Russia look he says you're going to see something la anticoagulant Allah Kula he alleges

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yeah

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Subhanallah sometimes you might see something that you cannot be patient you know

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throw us

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throw drove us through you know, he said through it said through

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you might see something that you cannot be patient at all.

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So how long do you have to go through Barrick for you to get it

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in my attic for each year?

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Okay, that's easy to go for the marik but sometimes then you see that person and you lost your consciousness you know? But then you check about them the attitudes and the manners is zift

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mean I was Billahi min ash shaytaan

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How do you convince yourself not to go for that? It's a very difficult this is when you tell the person and be done go but every time he comes to you for fatwa we

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can we can we can meet Allah no Islam says you have to look for righteousness and good manners. But but but so many but you know

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that's the reason why if you take my advice, if you go to the look in verse check about the attitudes and the manners who they are. Okay, somebody told you that is a sister in this environment called

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Carrie Kereama fallen okay.

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Call for letter that was called

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that anyway.

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So you asked about her? She Okay. Yes, they told me she was okay. Very good. The family okay. The family are fine, and we have no issue with her and we never heard anything about this. How about religion? Yeah, and hamdulillah she prays dress nicely according to the Sharia and also she praised the last one. So she thought she fast and

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Nobody actually has an issue with her.

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You're done with this, then now we move to the next step, try and see who she is.

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Know, if if she is disqualified from the beginning, then you don't even go and look, he doesn't know then let somebody go and see who fits how to go and take you know.

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Anyway, this is my advice. I know people rush, but it shouldn't go to that check first, if you heard about that one check first. Unless if the thing has just come

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see them. And then you think he should go. So your privacy, in this case, try make jihad, check about the oxygen and the manners. And whatever results you get, try to follow that one don't follow what you have seen.

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They're going to lose it. I know you're not listening, but

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yours, you will remember

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what is the presence of Corona Mako.

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We didn't reach that way, you know,

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lie that, you know,

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there was a case, you know, if you know it, you will understand what I'm telling you.

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I always tell myself why people reach

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this person stays with two people, one after the other. Each one of them reach the moment of curse to them.

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None of them is looking at the physical parents because I believe they are going to look for that. Nobody will say go. And nobody will talk in the wrong way. But it became a useless I'm telling you it becomes useless after the managers became useless.

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So it's really, really something that you guys have to listen carefully, you know, didn't go for that manager comes first. Always mentioned this, because Rasulullah saw some focus on that. He said, take somebody who has religion, you will succeed in sha Allah. But it takes somebody because of who they are because of the way they look because of the position they have. sooner, they're going to lose that and will lie you might not see the

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what he called the presence of that thing, which was the thing that motivated you to marry them, you might not see it after the marriage

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that lasts until a grant is good. So caught him, the person who was intended to marry if you have intention to marry, you can look at the coffee bar. And she also can look at you if both of you have intention to marry. But you don't forget, Allah says will allow them to do not overtax your mood, because these issues are between you and Allah subhanaw taala or otherwise to be playing games. Whenever you decided to enjoy

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the waiting marriage. Go and look, look, look, look, look, look, look, cancel tomorrow, say you wanted enjoy knowing how to manage, you know.

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And there we go. But alas, manager knows what is in the heart. intention has to be yes, we are serious that if you see that, and you have intention to marry and you're looking for a potential suitor, you know, then you can look other than that. No.

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You get idea. We have a lot of students when you ask them, are you willing to marry not not? Now? What does that mean?

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They have to close your eyes and do it fast. Like that.

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He didn't open your eyes and say that I have intention in the future to marry after you become a professor. No.

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You're not allowed to do that. When you have intention to marry. Now you have intention to marry now not in the future. Get it you're looking for somebody who fits you, then you can look

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to get idea. Issues like this could be permissible. The judge in the court, somebody who is selling or buying you know, the scholar said they can see

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Mufti, someone who's given fatwa, they can see what necessitate to recognize the one who comes so that it should take place in the future. They know who is who is who

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is, I mean, narrow situations. And the last one is the medical doctor, when there is no same gender to tackle the issue.

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As my sister should go to my sister and a brother to go to a brother, but if we didn't have the same person, then one of them can go to the other one if there is no Holla

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Holla sometimes it's so funny. We said that halwa is wrong. Yeah, that's true. But then when it comes to the medicine, in the hospital color as well.

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Hello.

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That's a joke. Somebody has written a book, he talks about these things that are taking place between the medical doctors and, and recently we heard a case

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woman was discovered to be pregnant. And who is the culprit? The doctor was taking care of her in the hospital.

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You

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know, we talk about this people will think that you are exaggerating, too conservative, you know, this is a medical doctor has written a book, you know, and he talks about these issues that are taking place in the hospitals. Are those allow other heroes?

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So that's why they essentially has to go with one of them at home, she cannot be alone with a medical doctor in that place.

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Okay, can he look as he looks at that, which he needs?

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Only what he needs. Other than that he's like anybody else? Because we think we always think that, you know, these guys, they have permission from a lot smarter to look in the way they want to know. So like that.

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It's not like that. They have the permission to look at the place where they need to look up. Other than that, they can't

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you have the midwife

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the color in Arabic.

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The Roman life, which is good, he says a second wise, you know,

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is the midwife

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The one who receives the child, right?

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No good experience.

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Now, let him say you're feeling a little murkier.

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Anyway, so

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this one is one who receives a child, how can she receive the child?

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It said, her golden moment at a given moment.

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And then you tell her to also close her eyes. How does she receive the child and she put her hand like this?

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And the child was down in the wrong way, you know, who to blame? We say Carlota.

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No, nobody says that. She's going to look at the one that she's taking care of. And she's going to look at the place where the child is coming. That's the reason why that's called a sector communists in Hilda Hanover, Navarro. Illa Mahalia will edit in this little lady. She's also supposed to restrict herself to the place where the child is coming other than that no.

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Again, it's so the Aurora tocado de de cada This place is not supposed to be validated accepted when that is under attack under de cada

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is unclear. So we have to be really really sensitive concerning these matters. They sound simple, you know, but people take them lightly but they have big matches and problems are taking place in our society.

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And there is nobody to tackle them so last month already reminded us what to do he says pull in more meaning and good domain I'm sorry him where photofunia home. So when there is no need a person should close his eyes. When there is a need. There is no problem for a person to restrict himself to that what she needs for the thought and how many times he can look.

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Karthik the the person who proposed to marry how many times you can look

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Okay, wait, wait, wait, why is it permissible for him to look? What can he see?

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No, there is no opinion here Don't even mention

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limits

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what is he permitted to do?

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The face and the hand and their feet? This is the majority's view because they say whatever you're looking for these three can give you that looking for the beauty Where do you get in the face? Looking over the softness? You know where do you get it? The hands you're looking for the smoothness of the body where do you get it the feet they say these things can give you a guideline I mean can guide you to toward that which exists which is covered. So the according to the best of Indian Allah Allah according to the best opinion you see what

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usually appears culturally.

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Okay, don't forget we are talking about when it appears to you.

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When a woman is at home, when does she open her neck, hands, you know, usually be covered from the shoulder to the to the knees. These are the critical areas that a Muslim shouldn't go to that place. Even those ones

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I don't know, how did they manage to talk about to say that a person can see beyond that? You know?

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I don't think they do that, but

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but these are the critical areas. Can a person asked to see the hair? No, he doesn't. He shouldn't.

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But when, let's say, it appears to him, he can look at it.

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Okay, she shouldn't take it off for him to see that's very wrong. Bonnie comes out, can he see Can he look at that place? Yes, other than those things which are culturally open when she is alone with them Harlan, if he sees that when it is open, then he will be sitting

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he will be sitting

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according to the best opinion of the scholars and this should be the only opinion because you cannot protect the community from having evil thoughts. As long as you legalize that area, the person can see other than those areas and controls himself. Other than that, it might if it goes beyond that, it might lead to evil which cannot be controlled at all. The last one to guide us to the truth, how long can he be looking?

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The first time they meet

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somebody says until he makes his decision then he delayed his decision.

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Every time he comes, however, he now still Boca inshallah.

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And this poker will never end, you know.

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Anyway, that's the correct opinion as caller said Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam I said yonder in Mid Atlantic haha. But in all of these things, honesty is needed. You have to know that you're dealing with a lost moment. The moment you see what convinced you then that's it. That's why one of our scholars said indicate Cannavaro in doctor can another. You focus so much to see. It's not like you just look and turn away. No. Look so much is like somebody is going to tell you, you just look at the other side. But you look and you focus in that looking for both. When did he get that?

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When did he get it? Because our sewer lines that Allahu alayhi wa sallam at all?

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What did he say?

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He forgot. So realize a lot of them I said Did you see how he said no. He said go back and see how because there is something in the eyes of the Sisters of Ansel. He said mentioning that there is something inside the eyes then it needs to focus for it to see that will go to the eyes and see that there is something inside the eyes.

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These are all the correct thing to be done because you're going to be seen with somebody who is supposed to protect you from sharing your evil attitude with the community.

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That's why focus is needed in that.

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But as I said a person should remember that Allah subhanaw taala is watching he knows what is in the heart seriousness has to be the

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only moment of sorry my photofunia home Danica has gone home in the law saburo

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beam is now Allah subhanaw taala knows whatever people are doing, whatever you do, so Allah says we follow Buddha

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let them preserve and protect their our because our is not supposed to be granted to anyone except through through marriage or milk. Maybe

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a person has a slave the female's name he can approach her as a wife. Other than that are supposed to be protected is the issue of our is very sensitive. That's why it adara Emerald, our tea binal Hindi wilhelma and Hokulea.

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When you have

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the issue of the hour is going between halal and haram. We go with what? Hello.

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I give you one example that the azula unis to give okay estaba hats off to who be as an obeah

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you come to a place

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and your parent tells you that your sister is in this country.

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Okay, whatever country you wish your parents inform you that there is a sister who came from us and she lives in this country.

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When you reach that, can they tell you honey?

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No, they don't tell you how. But anyway, I'm trying to get you lost. You know that your sister is here. But then when you reach that country you want to marry and fortunately only two sisters left.

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Just

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Just listen, you know,

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only two sisters left in that city

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and your parents told you that your sister

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there

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and according to their knowledge, your system did not marry yet and they lost contact

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with her but she did not marry it so now one of these ones is is your system and you don't know who she is

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what to do now

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and you really want to marry What did

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you ask her data she does she doesn't she doesn't know and in some in some have differently you know i mean just listen and believe you know they said example muscley

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that one also might make a mistake you know

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but but the scholars have also says now that you doodle and Robin and Helen will help you go with what how to charge him you know to have the you know in most instances in these cases you have an agenda you have hella tie him you know you are confused you don't know which one is correct which one is not you do what you need to have

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you observe carefully one of them

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either one you expect more to be tired you go with with it

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but in the case of our art no when you have this doubt you have to stay away from both of them go to another country

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or key faster

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these are just example in our time I don't think this can ever take place but if you study also they have this HTML halaal bit Hara

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you will slaughter a chicken

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and you know those people will take care of chickens you have other chicken also who died sometimes almost every day is lotta chicken

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and your child comes he monitored the way you slaughtered or sounds interesting. He went he found the one you put in the garbage to under his dead his law to that one also Allison in the way you do

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and he came and put it he makes them you know and then he tells you that

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well i i help you you know I saw the way you do it then I don't want you to

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to tire yourself so I slotted the other one also for you. Where do you get it? I wanted to put it in the garbage I think you forgot his latte

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and he makes them so now you come you couldn't differentiate between the two which one is

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so what happened?

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Hara killed me You know?

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So you have to stay away from from both of them. Because when it comes to the our art and also the food Shinya is a bit sensitive

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more than other matters so this caller said I'll farraj cannot be permissible in any situation except with marriage or or milking me.

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Now his alpha is the fact that his a woman is Xena protecting the products a person shouldn't commit Zina shouldn't do anything that allows martyrs no one knows no masturbation no all of these stupidity that people are doing to protect the urge is it only this? Oh, you also have to protect it from the eyes of others. The second one was so okay. The companion tool the bros Allahu Allahu Allah May Allah sallallahu aracena mad at you another? He said our please tell us which one are we suppose to let other people see

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the progress. Allahu Allahu Surma said a foul. Our article in lemon zoetic is it protects and preserve your hour? Do not let anyone see you all except your wife does it?

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Other than you find your wife, nobody is allowed to see your mother is not allowed to do after a person becomes mature. The father, the mother, and brothers and the sisters. None of them is allowed to see that person. They're just like anybody else. Some people might tell them but this is Oh

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no, it doesn't go like that. I mean, if she's messes up, even if he said our eyes is our last one. So guys the truth. So he says we follow through to the end if you ask Allah so Allah subhanaw taala I'm gonna pick up the muscle.

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So, you know, he started with the bicep, because Buster is the one that goes first. Nobody wakes up and find himself in the middle of zero.

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Nobody, except in few cases, you know, but it usually it happens when a person is awake. And there has to be a lot of messengers before the Zener happens first. That's why they say this first is what looking thinking, planning, sending messages, conversation meeting, and then the actual thing will take place. So a lot more hotel a block the means to the first one, it is targeted, then a person will protect himself from the subsequent evil, a conclusion that might take place in his life. Okay, after the alarm, we can

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Continue

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to love our country.

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Okay, couple of questions here. The first one is about

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you in the presence of somebody who is the opposite gender giving you a lecture

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is it is discount

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for looking he can just look?

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No, the barrier is still there, lower in the case is necessary, even

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if he purposely looks at the woman's hair

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and they are not married, and if he decides not to marry them.

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No, every if you go to that she's asking about why is he what he can look at the hair, if you talk from that dimension that the hair is our face was like that the handles was like that. But just Shelia give you permission to go and look at it because there is a big

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any objective which is greater than

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nothing, not looking at the harm that will take place in the marriage in which the husband doesn't know who he is married, or the wife doesn't know

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is so big enough in

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divorce. So Sharia legalize it for you. So when the Prophet Allah said made erhu In any case, let him see that which can attract him

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to marry that woman. That's why it's called a set what is whatsover is exposed culturally to the Muharram when she is with the Muharram then it will be it will be a crane shot. And we said they should be restricted to

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other than

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the shoulder to the to the knees. And that means hand and hand the neck. So when they when they come out accidentally and the husband sees that's okay. Sure, another husband that the person sees, that's okay.

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He's not committing sin at all. Because the process a lot someone asked him to do that for the sake of marriage if he sees it.

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When someone tells me that they love me for the sake of Allah, this question comes to my mind that if it wasn't for Allah, will I not be loved? When I tell the person that I love them for the sake of love, wouldn't that mean that they are not capable of being loved?

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Just because of Allah that I am loving them.

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Okay, no, that's, that's wrong understanding.

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Somebody says

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to you, I love you for the sake of a law.

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So sometimes the person might think that because of a law, he doesn't like me, you know.

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It is the efficiency and understanding. There's a peak of love when you love somebody for the sake of Allah, because it's the one that remains, and is the one also that helps you to receive good from that person. If you just have the normal love to the person, what does that mean? you overlook mistakes.

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They need you to remind them but you don't.

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That's why this love for the sake of Allah Sheila exists between the husband and the wife. When he does something she takes him because they don't love them just because of the way they look. They love them for the sake of Allah. And this carries what the price is paid.

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You have to be sincere in your love. And you have to make sure that when they make a mistake, you fix them. This is the true law.

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So it shouldn't understand

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that somebody is not loving you. Or he only love you because of a loss of a hotel. But in reality, he doesn't like him. It is not like that.

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The problem is a lot of selama praise somebody who loves somebody not for anything except for a last man who was so saying that I love you for the sake of our last our challenge. It doesn't mean you are hated. But just because of the last quarter that person has given you some some risk five, it doesn't mean that at all. That's the peak of love if that person is sincere. Okay, that's the peak of love if that person is insincere. Last mahalo Tilak brantas

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proposals. If a man comes to see a woman, can they be left alone? No, they shouldn't. They cannot be left alone to sit down in a room

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to act

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like guidance. They shouldn't.

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They shouldn't be

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chatting on the phone brings a lot more

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Ask those people who will get trapped by these things and at the end of the day, things happen so they shouldn't. And as I always say that

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it is a joke for a person to understand his spouse before the marriage.

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He will never understand

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after lunch