Channel: Ibrahim Nuhu
Have you ever wondered:
How do we build strong family values and community ties?
How do we uphold our honor and integrity?
How can we, as brothers and sisters, work and interact with each other while staying within our limits?
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smilla rahmanir rahim
salatu salam Ala Moana Rahmatullah alameen and abena Habibi, now Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was suffering he was sending him
okay first of all sorry for
Should I probably
I have already informed the hidden
yeah and the one whom you sent.
That is going to be very difficult today to make it on time but
we both accept the challenge. I will have the large lists We are here to have some few seconds in sha Allah Allah with Baraka in in the evening like
so far I'm not mistaken we are dealing with Sora to aloof and they told me I was
I reached I am number 27 that Medina am an electrical Abuja, Nairobi, Chico, have data and if you were to send him all
that he can Hi, welcome Lala come to the Kuru.
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sort of to know,
deal with deals with social issues, social issues.
It's a very important tool for the community to
It deals with many issues that our currencies and environments are dealing with.
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many of the issues that
our society is suffering from
the solution is found in this surah
it's especially the first part of it.
Especially the first part of it. And the lesson that we're going to be dealing with today Sharla it needs from you strong heart needs from you strong medication and a strong understanding that Allah subhanaw taala never prescribed something for you. Unless if it is beneficial for you.
That is the wisdom behind
the actions of Allah subhanaw taala anything Allah subhanaw taala did is for you.
It's just up to submit. So matters
that we're going to be discussing.
They need submission.
A person to just understand that this is for his own benefit.
Don't do it.
For the sake of trying they are doing it for the sake of faith. Allah subhanaw taala says is okay, he does believe is in it to be okay.
after our last talk about the purification of society and how to create a good
relationship between the members of the society and to work for each other, okay, I look at my brother or my sister like part of me in the way if
they got affected I consider this as myself getting affected.
That's why Allah subhanaw taala says
while hola hola hola a coup warahmatu Mazda coming coming ahead in Aveda, you know, in the lessons
we dealt with last session for the suta knows we have recited this ayah Allah says if not because of the favor from him.
Nobody will be okay. Is anyone who doesn't have problem in his life? Nobody everyone has. But alas, martela close the eyes of others and he conceal offense. He says if not because of him, nobody will be okay. You know.
As I always mentioned the statement of Abu Mohammed who says was the telethon. I'm sorry him. I see any Allah Hello
was the third and I'm sorry him siani Allah He.
Me and him also forgot, but he says a lot smarter. You are the one who closes the eyes of the creation from mice.
They don't see them.
What's the third time outside him outside of him a CLE
if they are to see cubby hemiptera T. The evil part of my secret is his lover Salah. Alia makani. He said I believe whoever means me after that will never say Salaam, Tanzania, but alas, want to do all of this. So here lies in Lola for the lion aleikum wa rahmatullah Mazza, coming from Manhattan Abba, one of the righteous people was asked Allah subhanaw taala make you more than what we expected him to.
To be. why some people are so good, they're so excellent. But sometimes they it feels a bit.
It said, maybe they did not show appreciation as one, or it's happened throughout their life. They met somebody who has deviated and they make fun of them, then the last 110 tests, and then because of that,
you know, it's very dangerous for somebody to be on the wrong way and you're making fun of them. You're saying something bad against them? That's if they go in the wrong direction. What if they did not do that which you are talking about? A lot smarter might test to you. So Allah says, well, Allah father Allahu alikum warahmatu Meza, cominco Minh had evidence. So the community has to be together, you conceal the affairs of the brothers and the sisters, we hear something evil about them. If it is something that they need advice, you go to them and advise him.
He didn't spread it.
Nowadays, we do the opposite.
Even spread, we won't talk to them first series of discussion series of naseeha after they don't listen. And they kept on spreading the innovation to the people, this is the time when they cross the bridge, they cross the line, then you have to inform others to be to be careful.
But before this happens, and you have to make sure that you have gone to them and increase them to see how because if a person is making down to something that is wrong, if I start with the community, reminding the community about him, what do you think he'll be doing, he will intensify you will get angry and also make it increase and for sure you have some people who are going to listen. So if I can go to him in secret and discuss the issue and curb me stop the thing from the root, you know, that's the best thing to be done rather than rushing to the community before tackling the issue from the root. So,
Allah subhanaw taala after all of this and he prays I shall have the law on hand he talks about the righteous people and he talks about the importance of the good ones, because this is a sign that you are also a good person when you go with the good ones because bad people doesn't like go in with the good ones is very difficult for a bad person to stand connecting himself to the good ones, Colossus and habito little hub if you know have you thought
about let me know let
So after this, there are lots of how Rotella start to talk about one very important issue.
Heart of a believer has to be preserved.
Anything that can affect your heart can destroy you
completely, if your heart get affected, you will be gone.
And you remember in this surah inshallah, in the next lesson and after 10 years, when
it comes then we will be talking about the ayah that says Allah who knows similar to follow
method only he can be sketchy and fee her mitzvah. I will miss by Hafiz widjaja as the judge who can come on during your condemnation dirty Mubarak kittens a tarantula Shaka to La Via Acad to say to her you v well in terms of who now is a very excellent, excellent description of a man in the heart of a believer, the light that allows multicast in your heart. We'll be discussing that. So some scholars try to make connection because he or last monitor is talking about the heart. And when you disturb your heart with disease that light given to you by loss of heart Allah which is placed in your heart only gone and if that light is gone, you cannot see. Allah sees fmsc roofing or the
federal condyloma colluvial Yaki Luna via either Yes, ma'am. I wouldn't be here. But in the Halla terramin Episode What I can tell it is to do Allah says why can't they travel on earth go to so many places, you know, they can see a lot of signs a lot of eyes have a lot smarter which will cause them to reflect. Allah says fetta cornella home kulu Boone Yaki Luna
as the reason why we believe with no doubt that the place of the heart
The article is, is what the heart No doubt, alas, Martin says collusion, he actually want to be Hamilton tackle is here is the heart is is so that we can have the heart that can reflect and understand and ponder and come back to the truth. Because when you travel, you see how to deal with those criminals, you know, and you see a lot of blessings of the last month which doesn't exist in the place where you are recited, that will cause you to increase to have an increase in the email, Allah says spettacolo Olivia and Olivia.
Yes, Melania might reach a place which
you might not see things, but your ears can hear about it or you read about the place. Because traveling
might not be necessarily a physical, when you read the books about those nations, like you're traveling to their own dimension. So hear about them.
You don't see but you hear about them a lot for heart disease for in the halacha Mela sorrow, Well, I can tell them an Illuminati pseudo. Allah says listen, the real blindness is not the one on the eyes, that the real blindness is the one that is in the heart, but allows me to remove the lights from the heart it cannot see. When the heart doesn't see a person will go astray what
Allah says in Ghana, Allah pulumi him, I can mention If, on the other hand him Walker
to do he then Abba, look at the expression, Allah says we put something to, to block the heart from seeing the truth. So he removes the light, and he puts a metal to block to block it. Allah says what
you need is to hear to listen to the reminder that it gets to the heart. Allah says we close the heart, and we block the ears even if the ears is open, the heart is blocked.
How did you get through? That's why last month I make that conclusion. He says what entered the room even even
if you are to invite these kind of people to righteousness, they will never be guided. But then because how can he get the guidance if the heart is closed? or lie it is impossible for you to get the guidance as long as your heart is no.
That's why we have to be very careful. I mean, from reaching this conclusion whereby our last monitor will lock the heart of a person this is one of the most dangerous situation a person can be.
Allah says Allah pulumi aquafaba
It is like take the heart covered with the that paint the rain,
you know, and then after that, put it in the lock, lock it in that space. You know, even if you don't put it in some places and lock it. It has the paint, which is a reflection of the things we're committed to your last monitor protect us. The most things you have, the more I mean darkness you're going to have in your in your heart.
So one of the most senses part of humankind that is 100% correct connected that I mean that is deeply connected to the heart is the eyes.
His eyes, once you see a thing, it will reflect to the heart. The heart will reflect over that which you have seen with your eyes A message will be sent very quickly.
And if a person is not careful, those images that you see they will remain in the heart then you reach the situation of alleged
it limited article in a letter Eric LaHood inside Colossus called Eva last monitor doesn't show mercy upon the person who leads the situation would never come back.
I don't think in this time we're living you need me to talk about
this in detail.
Today before I come here I'm receiving a very disturbing thing about these social issues. Somebody was asking me what to do and there was nothing there is nothing to be done for us. The damage to the last the I mean the peak of the damage already take place. Why? That was nothing except not observing the man has mentioned that last 110 zero to noon.
Muslim should act as a Muslim you know Muslim should act as a Muslim all the time. This this
appearance you know you should be representing Islam. The manifestation of Islam has to be in you we are different. No matter how much we try to accommodate others ally will not work because we are different and we cannot meet together you know, Allah subhanaw taala says luck on the local one lady you know we cannot be together you know the past they are very sensitive in these matters. They are mentioned that aroma de Laval it doesn't want those others living with the Muslim in the in their own territory to dress like the Muslims. This is our territory. They have to be different. We have to be different you know they focus on this personalized Lhasa segmentation
By becoming a woman who you follow a people you will be one of them shuffled Islamic says, For who among whom, he said the least you can say about this text, this expression of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is to say that it is one of the major sin for a person to imitate a non Muslim
is a major sin.
Other than that, he says, if you look at the text itself men who means what one of them, one of the means, is this one of them.
But he says, if we avoid that interpretation, then we come to the least that a person is not supposed to do that. What does that mean? We have our own rituals, we have our own culture practices, we have our own things to be preserved, which are connected to our religion, they have to be preserved. But nowadays, nobody's saying, by the way, that we cannot benefit from them.
If they have something which we don't have, which I doubt
in terms of social life will lie when we teach them. oxen will be law, we should teach them and those people who are very concerned about among them, they will tell you this, in terms of social life, Islam voltage,
terms of DNA technology, yes, we can benefit from them because we lost it.
If it is, okay, it's good. If it is true that it came from us, we lost it because of our problems, but manners and attitudes in social life.
We teach them somebody says one of their president says if you want your family structure to be intact, you have to accommodate the Muslim family life. This is where it lies. There has been understand that he's living with a wife and a wife understand that she's living with a husband. And parents understand that they have children, you know, and children, they understand that they have parents. They don't have this, you know that currency or as somebody who's living in that place, they don't have this. We do have. So where the enjoyment and relax and relief lies is in Islam. But unfortunately, you can see the Muslim Ummah nowadays they are, they are amazed. Our children, if you
mentioned those countries, they are like
it's a mecca, Medina, was that
I mentioned one of those countries, you know, it's like agenda is mentioned
Allah but this is the efficiency we're like, it has to be fixed, you know, we're losing, we're losing if you get connected to the community, wherever you are, you'll see these things coming out.
May Allah subhanaw taala grant is good and help us to understand the seriousness of this issue and to come back to the truth which is nothing but the book of Allah smart and the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam so hot has to be preserved and any means that can destroy the heart must be preserved and one of them is the ice they mentioned that another room Salman so many museum even this
is a by a very poisonous arrow that a police use to attack the heart
and as it
that's why if you exercise more or lowering their gaze Allah have the moral if you get from the heart You will not understand this but do it for the sake of Allah hotel you will experience what I'm telling you
a lot smarter garrison so so a lot smarter says yeah, you have Medina armor so he started with the smallest one, the one that can reach that can lead you to reach the big one we are lost 410 protect.
What is that? Taking permission not coming to the place to meet people who don't want to meet you at that moment?
Allah says yeah, you have Levine Armando latur Hello mutant vailable he had to test me so you want to sell them Oh Allah Allah very comparable la comme la la come to the code. Don't get my if I miss something you fit scripture.
Allah subhanaw taala Allah put to the right stop sleeping. I already said that. Okay, yeah, you have Medina amarula Abuja Chico. He says do not enter houses that does not belong that don't belong belong to you.
You have a house with doesn't belong to you a lot smarter says don't go inside this house
had an issue, what to send him all.
The best interpretation of this the interpretation of the components of the process a lot some other things, as commonly seen as
salam comes before the hastiness what is the Salaam as salaam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh are a Solomonic
so that's the first thing you should do is you say I said America. And also the scholars also
reminded us that based on the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a person is not
Not allowed to say the salon to the people in the house while looking at the door.
We do that.
Nowadays we do that sometimes you you'll be wondering how am I going to open the door you know, because the man is just like this, you know, face in looking at the house.
And that's wrong. The premise a lot someone said you shouldn't stand in front of the door, he should step aside and then say this aloud, because if the owner of the house open the house, open the door and the system The house is not know that somebody is there they remain the way they are because this is their house. You can tell the woman that she has to wear hijab every place because there is expectation of somebody to come and say Salah
she can do that. So she exercises have freedom inside the house. So if you open the door and this person may Allah guide him is there hanging around standing and then sometimes also look into see whether you come out or not? What is he going to see?
there see our art.
And that one is not easy to be deleted, you know that? It's not easy to be deleted.
If my leads are in bed for a lot.
So Allah smart essays had data and it's what selama data so we learned that according to the Sunnah, when you come to the house, you don't stand in front of the door, you step aside, at the right side or left side, the prompts are lots of acid and then you say Assalamualaikum.
Again, if you make a Salah
if they reply Alhamdulillah
if no reply, or did you
say it again?
If they reply Alhamdulillah if they don't reply, anyone say it again.
Don't get annoyed, say it again. And some sometimes the person is like is going to break the door. They have to listen, okay, this is their house, not yours. And you come to them, you're looking for favors, because you come to them, you know. So you have to knock it gently according to their oath. And also say this aloud three times you raise up your voice, not shouting, but raising your voice in the way they will hear.
Get it? So that's what you should do. If nobody reply you then you go back.
And what was the luxury underlying Luca is he came to the house of Mr. Milan is that I said armonico nobody replies. said again. Nobody replies, sir. Nobody replies he left.
After that, Omar said, I heard some voice. And it looks like up the libel case, saying Salaam to me. Can somebody go and check? They went, they found him already left. They call him back. He came back to Omar Omar said How come?
You came to me and you left UC Santa Monica out and then he left?
He said because I heard the resume realize that Allahu Allah who said Am I saying if you will say Salaam three times and nobody listens, you go.
Omar said you have to bring somebody to to confirm this. When you get it salsola say you have to bring a witness. Otherwise, you will pay the price. Protecting the sooner of the law so that nobody will lie. You know. He said you have to bring a witness to confirm and to tell people that it's really sensitive for somebody to talk on behalf of Allah subhanaw taala or a pseudo law without having evidence of what was actually went to look into because Omar is going to punish he knows that. He went to down south looking for somebody to support. They told him how come over doesn't know this. We will not even go ourselves we will send the youngest one among us.
Either Mohammed Hussein and Houdini one of them left and he went to Toma Yes, I heard the professor last summer saying this. Omar said you pass the test. He says Subhana Allah I how I missed this one. I became so busy with the farm and business and I missed this habit. Omar used to go to the province of Allah Hollywood cinema bit to know he and his his friend from downtown.
Today I go to the market. You go to the dentists and say whatever sala de la sala when you come back you come and share with me whatever you got.
And tomorrow I will do this is how they do they understand that there is a right
of Allah subhanaw taala upon them so they don't get busy completely with a business contrary to
Allah CCR the Mona Valhalla middle hair to dunya woven man inocula to hope Garfield la smartasses. If you ask him about dunia, he knows
Everything. What do you ask him about? accurate, even how to fix his prayer? He doesn't know. And he doesn't care about that also, because if we can see we're gonna learn about it.
So when I say Salaam three times and nobody answered, I go, based on Hadees of Abu Musa and Ashley, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I came to the house of Allah even alongside or one of the competitors of the firm salatu salam
and then he said As salam o Allah
The man said
he said a seller wallet the man says
it says a seller wallet
the man says
okay, it happens with that and also it happens we started mineral via
the last time I left where the man did not hear the fart Salah went out and he got the zillah zillah zillah so last last summer oh yeah here he said yes, yes. I was there and it says will lie here so like the first time I heard it
I heard the personal but I intentionally said this reply to Salaam silence so that you will say it again because this is asking for a lot smarter to granting me peace in some narration. He told the House members let's get most and I'm promising myself nobody should reply loudly you know, just keep on saying Salaam replying because Allah says you have to reply is a also lie. Well, I just wanted that Salaam because the more you say are not last month I will accept. So whenever azula says Salam Alaikum he will say and he told the house also nobody should raise his his voice because he will I will keep saying and then he says he also like please make dua for me. And the professor of law
Holly who said about me, there are four for them.
Can I do that?
But don't forget you're not dealing with a serializer Larissa right. Last month, I guess it was so you should reply the person loudly then reply him silently Okay. That was Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam on your side.
So, his idea okay. He says her data scientists at that time is what is the lamola idea. So two things a lot more than I asked you to do. The first one is to say Salah The second one is Alice, Tina's Alice Tina's means Alice Didn't
the whole and the components you can see the components were caffeine and the muscles.
Pamela even this word they have been fixing people when they use other than this they will tell him say at home
when they say any other words they will tell him no say at home can I come in as the status add hood?
Why do you need to take permission after a person already granted you the reply?
I thought reply should be enough to know that the permission is granted for you.
especially nowadays also when you stop and say I can can I can people get annoyed you know that
when you ask some people when I tell them Can I come? Yeah Come come
to Panama events of dams, scholars or less student of knowledge during this.
So Allah subhanaw taala asked you to do is train us because if I say salam to you, this is a must have for you to reply.
No, why do you have to reply? But you are replying me at the moment. Allah subhanaw taala asked you to reply he sets up as an
attack if you do the reply as quick as soon as he finished the Salah, you reply him.
But you might reply him at the moment you already for him? Because you're replying because Allah says reply.
That's why it's good for him after he hears your reply to say what can I come in?
And wait for your permission.
Okay, there are some people they don't go for, Can I come in? What do they do? They put their head inside first and then said, Can I come in?
He tells him what you're already in.
But actually, because the last time I tell you what to do, we will talk about that challenge.
So as soon as is like this, Can I come in? So sometimes also the people of the house they might ask you who who is that?
Sometimes we get annoyed? Why.
And what what do we usually say?
How are you
jabil came to realize a lot
Sara Sara Vallejo, sala de la siwalik wasallam he said Who are you? He said I Anna Anna.
Of course a lot of someone said Anna.
You think so, the scholar said you have to mention your name in the way you will be recognized by the members of the House.
You have to mention your name and the way you will be recognized by the members of the House. If you have lockup
you have to mention the lockup.
For instance, we have so many of the Romans one of them visits you currency of the Roman say abderrahman for the ramen Villa, he has to mention something that you will understand, you know, do I have a right not to open the door? If he doesn't? Yes. Who are you? He doesn't want to mention I told you I have drama and okay stay which have drama.
Okay, anyway, so, this is what I should be doing. You tell your name in the way you will be recognized by the members of the House.
Wherever person gets inside the house without your permission.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said if somebody comes to your place without your permission, and you hit his eyes, you destroy the eyes
who had the other means free of charge, you are not responsible.
The somebody was trying to get inside the room of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam
Rasulullah saw so much he just came back from from the bathroom. And he was fixing his hair. So the man was trying to cover so last last summer, I said I wish I knew you were coming. We'll get ready for you with this, this comb he was holding. So if I know you're coming, I will prepare for you is what is the point of making is to either why Allah has wanted to ask you to do to ask permission is even as minimally as possible because of the eyes. Because it's very dangerous at that moment, the eyes can see something which will be very difficult for you to forget.
And that's the reason why he said if you destroy the eyes of somebody who comes to your house without permission, that will be free of charge. But as I said, it should also look at the time and the environment you're looking you're living in nowadays, even dogs have right you know, more than human beings in some circumstances, it is through the eyes of somebody else also is is gone, you know, so shout at him, scream at him, tell him not to come back, do anything that will rip remind him you know, in the way he will not do it again.
But then go to that unless if you're in a place where this type of reaction could be accommodated. I don't know a place which accompanies this right now. But this is what the professor last summer said, to warn the oma that this is very valuable in the cyber hockey market. That's why I said you should tell him whatever words you can tell him to let him understand that he has done something that is that is wrong.
Allah says, had data and as to what to sell him on an area so still we're trying to protect the eyes, which would enter by protecting the heart. What is the limonaia Allah says Allah Coco, loco, La La come to the Quran, this is always good and better for you.
is always good and better. He will say in the second ayah Allah says
that apparently political lesson surah to Allah has an app Heroku mokulua him when he talked to us about having a conversation with the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he says up Heroku become popular.
So it's more purification bring brings more purification to your heart, and the hearts of those who you're you're conversing with? Allah say daddy como como la comme la la come to the curb. And then he says file and digital file MC GDP Ha ha, ha ha ha ha ha. Done.
If you come to the place, and you couldn't find anyone in that place, then go to the house, even if there is nobody who is inside. You have to wait and look for permission first.
Allah says we're in peeler community, furniture who has Calico, okay, that's what I'm looking for. If you are told to go back, it is always better for you to go back.
We get annoyed. You come to the person and the person tells you Well, I am very sorry. I really didn't know how to say but at this moment, I cannot receive you. I hope you will accept my apology and you understand my circumstance.
As a Muslim Oh, did you tell him relax? That's okay. Actually. I thought
You're free to receive somebody that's why I come now, but inshallah I will come later, if you can just let me know the time I should visit again inshallah you will see me at that moment of time, even though
we will get angry nowadays, if he tells us I come all the way from this place, and then now you rejected me, you know,
especially in the in the universities, sometimes you are just busy with something that you have to complete, and then somebody will just knock on the door
and hear, can I have five minutes?
And it doesn't go back. Now, he was saying that, though is so harsh. How can you reject me already come to that place?
We have to understand that this is also part of Islam.
A person who you expect him to be busy take an appointment between you and him. Then just to fajn who submitted Zima who be Mr. Mallika, you can just like that, and then you, you you force him to accept you at that moment. Come on,
you should know that people are not living for for us they have also their own personal issues.
So that's, that's it. So thinking of the time to visit this person should be very smart. Sometimes
we visit people in the wrong time. Or when we then get also the good reception we we complain
they have to think look at the cultural practice when exactly people used to visit others, he brought that moment when exactly this person, I'm expecting him to be less busy. You go and visit him at that moment. And if he tells you no I'm busy, a lot smarter says NGO who was Calico that's better for you, because it will protect your heart you know from having any thoughts negative thoughts against him and also he also will not engage in that
further who was Calico and then
will la habima Tama lunarlon the last one which is aware of whatever you do, then
less La Cucina enter hello there moscowitz if we have Metallica. So, we are done with the places where people reside. But now in the last one, the last one or two that says you have no problem in entering places where there is nobody living in those spaces.
Nobody lives in that place can I enter a lot smarter says no problem because there is nobody who has been in place. If you have something that will take you to that place, then you go if you don't have done go because although they don't live they might be keeping something inside that place and people so you get an inside you know, if something happens you blame also Allah says if you have something inside that you need some needs inside the house where there is nobody who is recited in there, then you can go No need to say Salaam because there is nobody there no need to take permission because there is nobody there to grant you that that permission.
Allahu Allah to do know about. So he says
you should go right?
You might know that that is you don't have a need but then you go Allah subhanaw taala says he knows that which is in the heart. You have to make sure that the between you are the last one Rotella there is something that can take you to the to that space that allows you to like run to school. So this is the last Ayah concerning getting permission or how to get to meet somebody at his home.
First and last quarter said don't get inside the house without permission. Don't get inside the house without solemn and then you take permission and you have to wait for the permission to be given. And also last allow someone asked you to step aside first and see the permission and ask the permission first. If you are given the permission when you come on, enter, don't stand in front of the door. And this is also applicable to the husband and wife is not just a stranger
is wrong for you to come back home. Unexpectedly if you have a wife
who will like you no problem go to your house at any moment. But if you have a wife is drawn for you to come back unexpectedly. Why? Why is it important for you to let them know you're coming?
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam I used to
send somebody to inform the people in Medina that we are on the way back.
So holla sometimes after you reach Medina, next to Medina, he has to have a transit to wait for a while people to get ready, you know. And also back there people can get ready to receive their loved ones who have been
And as a very good singer, and he mentioned the reason why this should take place. He said had
some tissue paper a show
what does the head demo
it says so that a shelter a shelter is the sister who, whose head is not prepared.
The shower is messy, dusty, you know?
Why does she live like that? Because the husband has done that she's beautified herself for who? for him? Actually, in some places it is opposite. husbands are
Why is he complaining
because he doesn't see the beatification unless if there is an event.
That's why they always pray for the event to come.
If not, they have to see the normal life. And somebody was making it in a very excellent way I really appreciate this instruction. It says sisters have to be very careful at home, the sister who married she has to be very careful, because you always tell him, please, you're supposed to be here, please, you're supposed to be here, please, you're supposed to be here. But she forgot that the environment also is fighting for their own interests. What is the I'm talking about this bad
attitude of the Western community that we accommodate in our own place, sometimes
pictures and images and people are going out without proper dress, you know, everything is there outside, there is a strong need for something to keep his eyes at home. If we couldn't find what he wants, and the environment also is fighting for his interest to gain him to detach them from the house, what do you think will happen like one of the two things either he got to look for the second pillar or he will go and look for what the other alternative which is haram. Allah is taking place I'm telling you it is taking place up to date today also I heard something like this,
we contributed to this, we contributed to this, it is part of I mean responsibility, that husband and wife to make sure that they observe this, what can keep the other partner calm,
to restrict him one of the most and the main objective of marriage is to satisfy this natural desire, so that the person will not cross the boundaries.
Some of the suit says if a person sees something outside
What does he do? He said he go back to his family, because they also have the same thing that one has.
So Kerala and then he will come back to the family members he anything except that him listen, but you smell nothing except
onions and garlic and all of those things that you know.
He will wish that he did not come back to the house. And then tomorrow, we tell him, it turned out
he will say go on top to the household tequila first.
Seriously, these are serious matters will lie You know, we have to take them seriously. That's why patience is needed.
I always say that as a husband and wife. There shouldn't be you know, Allah did not put a barrier. If one of them puts a barrier against the other one problem is going to take place in that marriage, whether we like it or not.
Be very careful. My verses take you seriously is not a joke. When you marry last hour did not put a barrier this either we're going to be talking about we're talking about this no barrier between husband and wife.
This these are the only two entities that can see each other in the way the last one decorated them. But then if the husband is going to look for his wife, and then she tells him she's busy, or she needs him and he tell her is busy, what do you think will happen? If they feel a lot smarter, they just be patient cry, talk culture a lot, you know, other than that, the environment is telling them what welcome come
is easy to commit to one line is very easy for a person to commit sin.
The sinners who repented they will tell you this very simple in order to commit sin.
Somebody lives in the community he was selling their righteous people several Cavalli keys I don't know why did they worry trying to pressure the government to let them bring their wives he says to satisfy yourself is very easy in that place, you know,
so that you can understand that yes, there is a strong need for something to be done inside the house so that a person will restrict himself or restrict himself in the house to the house
and he will not share his energy to the community. The professor last summer said shouldn't come Lathrop Allah Katara Toka means you just come at night just like that without further notice. He said don't do that. Because you might see something which you don't like it come and see you wave like this.
What do you think will happen?
You are so happy to come back. But at the same time, it's not, it's like you're not welcome
to get it. So that's why I shouldn't do that. Wait First, let them those people who can fix themselves decorate themselves, just to hit that. And mageba is talking about removing those hair that are not supposed to be in that place, remove them to get ready for the husband to come. That's what Rasool Allah said, shouldn't come like this, you have to send somebody to inform them that we come in. In our time, we don't need that much, because everyone has
to have them on the way
need to come to your family at the moment. So this is not just applicable in the cases of Germany. It is also applicable when you are around whenever you come to house. Let your family know the time you are coming. If you're coming at a time, which you don't usually come to the house at that moment, call them and let them know. Because now they're not leaving with you, they leave the house to remain in the way they want. But if they know you're coming, they will fix it in the way you want.
In the future time you come and see this whose fault is that as your fault. But we usually hold them accountable which and this is our fault. inform her first that you're coming if the house is not fixed, then you can talk.
So it's really simple things you know, but it keeps the good relationship. Because I'm telling you even see that something that you see from your wife or she sees from you can create a bit of distance. And that can affect the relationship between your heart. That's what Islam is trying to block to close all of these means, and the worst that can lead to this kind of detachment between the husband and the wife.
We are lost montella granters good some of the tabla in some of the companions when they come to the house, they see a Solomonic group and when they reach closer to the place they they the
things you do an ecology fix your breath
it doesn't have a name
no clearly this is explanation.
It means your next house you know it's not like you are you having a problem no you want them to know that you are coming
a signal cables good
send some signal you know that you are here They will be happy if you are good.
If you are a monster when you say that one is hollow it will be like Kampala and there is no
last one to protect us from this kind of life. Some people when they reach home, the family will be in a state of calamity there will be thinking of what to do.
They will be thinking of what to do.
That was a story.
Okay, this one is a story. I don't know whether it happens but one of the our our
seniors in the Islamic University of Medina was narrating This is authentic or not, but people sometimes comes out. But the story, just forget about the content. But take the message.
Okay, this person went to the hospital. And don't laugh until I finish. If you laugh, I stopped okay. This person went to the hospital.
And medical doctor asked him to provide urine economic comilla for the test. He provided the URI
and all these you know, technology you have to bring it from home, you know, he provided the urine.
And what happens? One of the wives was sleep sweeping the house, she kick back.
The urine was spilled. She knows that class holidays are numbered. This person is
going to act like module.
What did she do? She put hers inside.
And she was pregnant.
I said the love but I also loved it.
So he took it to the hospital, you know, to the hospital for the test.
And the doctor check. They told him your format.
Anyway, you get the message right? The guy cries a lot he criticizes What's wrong with you? This is from me, you know,
they do it again. They do it again and the same result is coming.
And then of this story, he went back, you know he cries because the wife says to keep quiet because nobody wants to say I'm the one you know, she wants to keep her manager.
I mean they told him at the end of the day and then he was so happy and the no Vita nowadays because
Realize that he is not carry the baby.
But anyway, whether it happens or not happens, but I take it as a lesson will lie if you are lenient to the family in the house, and you forgive, people will speak the truth.
You hold them accountable what they did the simple, simple, tiny things, they are going to lie.
You know why people don't lie to them, they tell them even if they don't like they tell the nurse never wanna do
because he doesn't punish us even Malik says, Rasool lies a lot. Someone never told me why. Why didn't you do this? or Why did you do that? I'm not saying you should do like this because sometimes you have to ask for why. But be moderate. Always act like this era, when he was asked many RP Carlin phenomenon motiva fill our motor, Bobby, somebody asked him who is a smart person who's asking somebody who has Apple, he says unfettered is somebody who is very smart. And also at the same time, especially when it comes to the family life, motiva Finn, he overlooks a lot. He knows their mistakes, but he focused on the main one.
Kids can play around him, the wife can do so many things which might say out of negligence, just overlook, focus on the big one, there are big issues which are taking place in your life, you know, this should be the focus, but then every single thing you talk about it, that sister from the hedis of Missouri, she was describing how her husband, she said what well is Alabama, our head when he comes back home, he's like fat. Fat is what? The Cheetah, right? Okay. They said it's these animals leaves a lot. What does she mean, she doesn't mean that he leaves a lot, but he is in the house, but as if he is not inside the house, that's when people in the house have their own freedom. And will
lie I'm telling you, my brother says, I see this in our children, you know,
remove the punishment, a person will come to you and tell you that I did this
when you were absent. And I remember that you told me not to do it.
Compare this with the previous slide, when you punish them when they do something wrong.
If you're, the more you punish, the more they lie, until you finish all of your punishment. But still, they will not tell the truth. You have to find it by yourself.
But the moment you stop the punishment, don't you ever raise up your hand on your child, you know, I'm saying the child and not even wanting to say the wife, no, even your child, don't raise up your hand on your child. Unless if it is really necessary. Always for me, you're opening the door for them to be smart, given them chance also to speak the truth and to stay away from anything. And I'm telling you, you know,
you beat them a million times, that will not be as harsh as you disconnecting yourself from them. If your relationship with them is good. You forgive, forgive, forgive, forgive, they enjoy that kind of relationship. They're living with the Father, they live with a mother or live a day you show angry face, they cry, you beat them, they will not cry, and they don't care. But if you have to disconnect yourself from them, they will worry about this. And their life will change. You can see the change and everyone's gonna see the change in that environment. So that's more powerful than one and beaten. That's why Islam doesn't recommend you but it makes it as a last resort for sola sola sama
said what? Keep the
the stick in your house hanging on the wall,
you know, isn't hanging on the wall. It is there. So when the child decided to do something, he always looked just like the police. The police, whether they stay they hide, no, is wrong for police to hide.
They have to be present, because we want their present to be
apparent to the people so that the cuminum when they see them, they don't do the crime.
Either they don't hide until the crime happens and then they come and catch the criminal. No, their presence is good. Because they are not looking at everyone but everyone is looking at them. And you will be thinking that if I do they're going to see me they might not see.
But that will deprive the evil from taking place in in the community. Allah smartsolar grant is good. And ability to observe this man is taken from the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So Allah subhanaw taala says in the next
column what miniato mean upside him where photofunia
Allah subhanaw taala now so we're done with this right? There are lots more to say it's only movement in a good domain of sorry, Wherefore do puja tell the believers those people who have emailed your will do min I'm sorry
to lower some of their gaze
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they should lower some part of their gaze where photo Fujian Allah did not say where photo min Fuji
to close your eyes from looking at the opposite gender. Alas montilla asked you as a believer should do that.
Is it a sin for a person to look at the opposite gender?
Is it a sin?
We all agree with that.
Is it a sin? No, not
the first is okay, right. Okay, so when you have the first just look, don't turn your head because
you just move aside then Colossi loss isn't like that.
So then don't say the first one you know?
Although the nurse says that can oola right? Well luckily all i mean the one that happens which comes unexpectedly all without any need for that allows mahoto will grant you forgiveness for this.
What I said like a failure, but it's not in the way we understand that you just go ahead don't turn your
underlying asset. Ma iascaigh and ash bahaman ashba dilemma me Minh had Ethan rojava he said I have never come across something that is closer to the lemon the last point I mentioned in Serato
even and memorize more than you know any of my support.
is Allah vnh Santa Monica, if you will, for Shayla and lemon law smartasses what is llama? They stay away from Kabbalah isn't one for one, accept them. What is lemon?
So this of the line of Napa said the best interpretation for lemon is to use the headings of Abu huraira
these are the minor since especially since that are related to this issue of over essays in the law of catabolism. Any item hover over Minnesota at the karate calahorra
Allah smarters has driven upon a human being his portion of Xena and he's going to reach that level as long as you live the time will come you observe one of these
he says a line and it has near the two eyes committed Xena was in Oklahoma another
he says well Donna Annie the IRS also commit Dena was in Oklahoma as seven
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listening to pressure right okay. Talking to the woman which is not Hello upon him and he is enjoying you know
he is also is receiving you
1001 listen he isn't he was in
the tank also when he speaks also he is in the process of law. sama said undertow Walia Danny Tasmanian he was in a coma and
number he says better so lesson as it was in bash. You know, but she
but she means to hold somebody hardly. So if you just say salam because that's not about you know
it's a problem sometimes you know, to use Arabic language in the wrong way.
So he says was in Oman and we complete after that.