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Rahmani Raheem
in Al Hamdulillah in the middle who understand you know when a stock a funeral when we lemon issue Rudy and fusina was say, Medina when you had in love Allah Medina or my youth Lin follow her Deanna shadow Allah in Amman the hula Sherry Kana. What a shadow under Mohammed Abdullah who were a solo. Oh see Kumar er yeah olan Mitaka Lapa Mata Khun Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.
sha Allah and we're going to offer all of you the second Salam because the first Salaam is not responded properly. Everybody must have the spirit to raise up their voice when you are responding to the greeting of peace. Islam on a calm or rahmatullah wa barakato
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all praise due to Allah Rabbil Alameen for his blessing, His mercy
and for all the provision that Allah had provided for all of us until today
and we still hope and pray that Allah will keep on providing for us until we depart from this world.
Razzaq is his attribute the provider.
What is important brothers and sisters, is we as a believer must always try to upgrade our iman to the level of Taqwa
because only then Allah subhana wa Taala is telling the Medaka when he's talking, addressing the MATA pain by seeing one my Allahumma Raja or your home in Heisler your tetsubin.
Allah promise those who have Taqwa not just a believer, the believer have upgraded the man to the level of Taqwa.
When you have Taqwa Allah say whatever problem you encounter in life, I am there to shoe to show you and guide you
and you will solve your problem very easy. We all have problems.
But Allah knows and he is telling us talking
that I am going to come and guide you and show you the way out.
There are many ways to solve problem
not only one way
and sometimes the problem may come because of financial issue.
Lack of this neck of den and Allah continuing the same IRC. We are a Zuko min Heisler yet I am going to provide for you.
So if Allah is coming in to show us the way guide us and are going to wait for us then who can stop?
I will provision no one who can sabotage as nobody.
So that's why every classes we always start with you. Hello Jean Kula Oh, you
Who believe
upgreat your iman to the level of Taqwa.
When you have Taqwa to all the brothers and sisters
when children have Taqwa pattern will have a lot of peace. They don't have to worry and him wherever they go, the Paragon will always have peace because they know that their children is always connected to Allah.
When they are connected to Allah if you want to know whether you are connected to Allah or not, you don't forget your parents.
When you go to a place you arrived and you will communicate with them Papa Mama, I'm here. I'm saying
you always have a very good relationship because you have a good relationship with Allah. Then Allah we put this good relationship between you and your parents. And your loved one.
The same time Allah Allah Allah mean remind us, he said,
The Rebirth la hemos Zilla to
at nama
I used to
elaborate Abdullah will have blimp Nana's.
Wherever you
do, you will have a lot of challenges.
Up and down. Good time, bad time.
But except those who have a connection with Allah,
when you have a good connection with Allah,
then ensure that you have a good connection with fellow human being. Today, anybody who like to talk bad about one another because they don't have a good ratio Allah.
If they have they will not do this.
They try the best to show good example. They try their best to help one another. But not gossiping, backbiting, condemning attacking one another.
This is what family is in Islam.
Brothers and sisters is very important.
The Prophet also said it papilla haoma Kunta
have Taqwa with Allah, wherever you are.
Where you are.
Anytime Daytime, nighttime when you are alone when you wish your friend. When you at home, you're in the mall. Taqwa is very important.
A person who has Taqwa is a person who is very aware that wherever he goes, whatever he does, whatever he say, Allah see him.
Allah knows Allah hear him,
then he or she is very careful.
Now,
Allah will Allah mean, who love us so much keep on reminding us the important
to go back to the history
that have happened. And in the history, you have a lot of lesson to learn.
Whatever happened to the early nation, will happen again is a matter of time.
So we hope that Allah will protect all of us from any bad
thing that is going to happen.
We have been talking about the fragile vessel, the book.
And I just want to bring all of you back to page 106, a very quick 1106 I think 106
As far
go back to 106.
Now being a human, nobody can say that they are the best, the perfect nobody.
We start this few example, about the wife of our beloved prophet, the prophet Alhamdulillah they are protected. But other than the Prophet, family of the Prophet have no guarantee that they are protected.
By the Prophet Allah will protect him injured Gabrielle will come and remind him
bye but not the family. There's no guarantee Prophet Abraham did pray May Allah bless him and his offspring and the coming family or
Law never promised and except this prayer is up to every individual to be good or bad at the end of the day, you have to choose.
Because religion and faith is not something you can inherit, property you can inherit, but religion and faith and knowledge is support those who seek for it, those who follow up.
Now,
Prophet no are you can see the son disobey Him, Prophet loot the wives disobey Him, Prophet Abraham, the father rejected Him,
and so many other prophets, if you go back to the history, they have no guarantee that their offspring is good, neither their wives,
their spouses.
Now, let us focus on a very quick one, about the mother of the believer. And one of the
unique
attributes of Asia we know who is Asia, Asia is the youngest among the wives of our profits and masala very sharp, very active, very alert.
There is Asia. So a lot of companion will refer to her when the Prophet have passed away. Because she learned very fast on the profit. And she remember
young, energetic, very active.
Now, even she the profits and loss alarm used to remind her
not to be too jealous. Jealousy is normal.
There are two types of jealousy when you have a husband who have more than one, the jealousy multiply.
You have a reason
to be jealous, but there are some times people don't have.
They only have one wife. still jealous.
Jealousy will come from all angles ie when you have only one while there was the jettison that you do in an essay, why are you jealous about
they feel insecure?
Sometimes.
So this is part of the fitrah
there's nothing wrong to have jealousy is okay. You don't have jealousy is not a good feeling at all. You don't care. There is no shyness anymore. When you don't have jealousy. You don't like your wife
to be touched to be hurt by a stranger.
But for people who don't have a man
they don't get free for all your wife My wife
is just wise.
You can help her I can hurt your wife
but in Islam No.
The only thing that you can have among
your fellow Muslim or fellow non Muslim is your family.
If you are Muslim your family not yet mostly they're still Yamaha
your brother your uncle?
They're still Yamaha Yes.
But the non money your old friend you will always call a friend. We will friend from young primary primary.
Now secondary.
Now no more schooling all graduate at Hamdulillah.
But Haram is haram Halal is halal.
Now one day when I shall keep on complaining and something very suspicious.
Just look at this patient. 106 Aisha herself reported that one night she could not find the Prophet next to her.
Know the time when the prophet should be with her. Suddenly, she will come and then she don't see that the prophet is next to her
husband and wives obviously very close to each other.
Then she found him nearby she saw the Prophet was making his prayer. The 100 example that night prayer
she passed her finger to his hair. You see how how. How
alert
with Aisha is she just trashed her the finger and try to touch the hair of the Prophet
why? To see if he had a shower
whether
she have a wet he have a wet hand
normally you take will do your while you're over your head but there is very fast it get dry off. Yeah. But then if you take above that mean there must be a reason why you take about you didn't have intimacy with Me. And if you want to pray you just wouldn't Why must you take a household
maybe while I'm sleeping, you may have slipped out
and go to the other wives and have some religion and come back. But this night is my night.
You're not supposed to just abandon me even when we don't have any relationship but this is mine.
Everyone have their knives and they've been arranged
then the profits and also
address
the profit new way she come and passion, his hair.
Then the profit set Paja RP che upon
your devil has surely come to you. That mean, the Corinne in you is working very hard.
created great, this suspicious feeling from the wife to the husband.
And your suspicious feeling is not just any husband is a profit.
You shouldn't have doubts anymore.
By being human.
They are not Prophet.
The wife or the prophets are not prophets.
Bandit Ayesha very sharp.
You said how about you Yara Sudama. Don't you have the Corinne? The genome?
Now she's a very, very very,
I would say defensive.
Yes, the prophecy I also have a curry.
Every one of us have a gene inside you.
Either he is in very active or in active
is that everybody have cancer cell in the body.
Whether the cancer cell is active or not?
Is there already
we hope that
it's not active at all.
Now,
then the process is I also have these
but my gene have accepted Islam he become
a Muslim ready. Your gene is not yet and mostly.
There is the difference. The Prophet also have all the Prophet have knobs that all of us have desire, have feeling everybody has been human.
But the different he will never say or do anything based on his feeling anymore. or million people and how you will never utter anything based on how he feels. He will just say what Allah want him to say. When we are then a prophet. We have a lot of feeling.
We like to see a lot of things.
We are not guided by the Quran. No. We are graded by our how're our witness?
So the Prophet said, yeah and answer to Aisha.
Anyhow, if you go back I'm going back quick one. And then now you go back to page one zero, base one zero Jama.
The Profit and Loss drum is a very fair man. If he have decided that this is the time for this wife, this time for that while he will never break his promise. He will never betray anyone. Unless
unless the wife said to him,
I offer my day my night to the other wife.
Yeah time the wife the Prophet, other than Aisha was very busy with children.
and so many other activities LBD specialize in different different areas, then I offer my night for Asia,
then the profit will go back to Asia and
then there was a dialogue.
Whatever people hide, Allah knows, then the Prophet said, yes, very Jeeva Allah came to me. Look at the dialogue. Gabriel came to me came to the Prophet, when you saw that
he called me when he was looking at something. He called me without letting you hear. Gabriel is calling and talking to the Prophet without letting Aisha hear the conversation. I respond to him without letting you in though. I'm also responding to Gabriel, and you don't hear me.
He was not to enter into your house after you have laid down your clue.
Gabrielle also we're not enter.
When we don't dress
decently, I thought that you had slept. I hate to wake you up, fearing that you would feel lonely if you knew that I was leaving.
The Prophet was instructed by Gabriel to Allah's command
to go to Baghdad to visit
the graveyard.
That's why Gabriel said Your Lord commanded you to go to the people of baka baka is nearby to the house of the Prophet with Aisha.
If you go to the masjid Medina, after visiting the grave of a prophet, if you look at on the left, outside the Moors, you see burqa
and that is where the graveyard of all the Companions majority of them and the wife of our prophets similar
except Katya, Katya was buried in Mocha
why Gibberella said Allah commanded you to go to back
to ask forgiveness for the disease never once in Islam
that Allah or the Prophet call us to seek help from the date no
even you and visit the grave for the Prophet Jesus spiff Salam
but today use see there's a lot of Muslim doing nonsense, visiting grave and cry and asked for these Asada we call the grave worshipers is haram.
To visit the grave is encouraged
to do what to ask them for 18
errs to seek forgiveness for them.
Not for days to help us. We have to say something pray for that.
One's a anybody pass away. He's gone. He or she is helpless. He cannot help us anymore.
He can't even hear you anymore.
So the only thing that they hope from us is our prayer.
And guess why
Aisha was us?
Also, what do you say normally said Salam wa
salam ala Ali dia minimum meaning we're mostly men are your hammer more Hello, Mr. Demain Mina almost appeared in our in the insha Allah become law he could.
So the salam The only thing that we have to do when enter the grave.
Sometime we are when we enter we are so busy talking to each other. We don't even give Salah
we don't learn
from visiting the grave is to remind us one day we are going there too.
So when you see enter any career, you don't just entertain your family member or visit and pray for them. Only you can go and visit the grave of yours
Family your loved one. Do some cleaning, no problem. But the minute you enter the 1000 of people who is buried there is Salam. Salam Wa alaykum
hallelujah borro Hara Dr. Are the people of the grave, made the blessing the mercy and peace of Allah be upon all of you
is our duty to offer prayer for them. May Allah have mercy upon the earlier and the later among you. Certainly we will follow you soon. Sooner or later we may come to the grave, whether you are ready to go, people carry you there at that time, you don't want to go that people have to carry you.
So, it's a reminder for all of us when you go to the grave, or when your pass any Muslim graffia only morphers slim grip. Yeah, you do this prayer.
The non Muslim graffia is allowed for you to visit to if you have family, who are not yet Muslim, but no prayer is allowed.
And you still can go but no prayer is just fizzy. You leave the matter of our loved one, our family, to Allah
to have the final judgment in the Day of Judgment.
Allah is very jazz, he don't punish anybody
without a reason.
If they do not know anything about Islam,
then the Muslim who was very close to them when they are alive will be responsible.
Allah is going to ask them
that how our Prophet command his OMA, whatever you learn from Islam, you must share with others have you convey the message?
Have you talked to your neighbor, your friend about Islam?
No. Why?
Why why you didn't do this.
You keep on sharing so many information with your friend were the most known about this world.
And you talk to them about the here after
why what happened to you? We will be questioned. But
then if they really don't know anything, nobody talked to them or Islam.
Or the Muslim authority never organized a session to talk to the not yet Muslim of what What is Islam? What is who do and they have no knowledge except fear.
Fear of what
is or Islam is
too hard.
Not a loving religion.
Islam is terribly because the media the media is so bad. And until today, not only the not yet Muslim are using the media again as even Muslim believe it then
that is the worst thing to happen. We believe and respond to the media so fast.
By day, one of the work of the Satan
twist and turn everything against the truth
may Allah subhanahu protect all of us? I mean,
so we must be very alert.
So when you visit the graveyard, please don't forget give
a major salam
to everybody who is there. And then you can visit the particular grave that you want.
And you're into extra prayer May Allah McPhee law who is a male Allah Moffat Maha, if a female if you cannot recite in Arabic.
That means you know there's something lacking yo
you if you have been praying for the disease, you should pick up a bit. Some of the Arabic prayer simple Allah McPhee Allah Who for the mere Allah McPhee, la
Wareham how our fee of at least minimum you have found that
and that's why the Prophet love honor for us to participate in the funeral prayer so that we keep on reciting and we read
Remember this and while we are praying normal prayer, yeah the follow do prayer after that when you are doing is to, don't forget to make dua for the disease.
Don't just think of yourself. Think of them. We are here because of them. Our parents who have passed away
Don't forget their sacrifice. Don't forget what they have done for you.
The minimum you need to do is pray for them. They don't need money from you. They just need your prayer can you Josie May Allah forgive the soul of my papa my mama, my uncle my auntie
and we do it.
You're so busy with dunya
you forget. We are going there to how do we pin if you are there and people who are leaving remember you and pray for your soul? Allah
anyhow brother and sister
it's important for us to have this awareness.
As a Muslim we are not just family here. We are family until
the hereafter. We are family.
Only the situation over there is very different than the situation here.
Remember what Allah is telling us? Yo Yo Firo yo maya federal Moromi nappy, were on me he was he was off a birdie he were bunny.
That day when the Kiama start
the day of resurrection.
When the cameras that everybody will run
and look for their own safety. They have no time to even thing for their loved one. Your father or leave you Your mother will leave your father your children that you love so much your grandchildren will leave you LD Jers run from each other just thinking of how to save themselves. That is the day
because that day is so
no one who can really share what is going to happen. Now at least you can call your friend bah bah mama son like calm. Now you'll.
But when the Doom day really happened.
Nobody thinks of anyone else except themselves.
But the believers after that, if you own who always pray for one another.
With Allah's mercy and blessing
he may you in my as in there is what we want.
So don't forget
those who have passed away among our family members.
Now page 110
About Xena
and now the wife of our Prophet
is good for us to understand the wife of the Prophet and how our prophets Allah Salem
treat the wives
today we have a lot of family problem because we don't know how to treat our wife
even only one wife we feel
we have problem
a quick one Zane that been to Azima been a hurry has been Abdullah, Allah healer Leah.
We have all this long name because all the name before the link with their tribe, their family,
their family trees in
was also known to every one among the wives of the Prophet. Everybody know that? She is a more Messiah kid, the mother of the needy.
She always have this passion love to help the poor and the needy.
This feeling is not in everybody. You may be good here and there. But the love the passion to the poor and needy is also a gift from Allah to certain certain people.
And among them the wives of the Prophet
Xena, Ben Khuzaima is known for
By that,
every time he would just think about the poor and the needy.
This way, when she passed away, the poor and the needy can feel
that they have lost a mother figure who thing and care for them, who is a loving mother. He's not just a mother to the believers, or the wife of the prophet or the mother, the believer, but she's also a mother figure to the poor and the needy.
Allahu Akbar.
If you look at her history,
she and my Munna or methanol sisters,
how many times she was married, she was married to fail,
after his death to his brother
in law, you can marry the brother in law with a condition that's why brother in law
in Islam is very dangerous sometime.
To the extent that the Prophet one is about the brother in law,
especially when you're staying together,
because Eve, they get involved
in the relationship in the mercy with a sister in law
is going to see the bad punishment.
We are so close brother in law,
but you must protect the sister in law not to do so because you are going to destroy your relationship with your brother. How can you do this to my wife, my wife
for us is very normal.
But Islam is here to protect because the brother in law
is a Muslim to you.
As long as you are still the wife of the brother,
one, your husband passed away, that brother in law can be your husband.
There's a different
brother in law can be a husband, Sister in law can be a y.
The only in law that become my mom for life. Father in law and mother in law, that one you cannot
know in laws can marry their father and mother in laws cannot. They are your mother and father in law for life like your own father and your own mother.
It's important to have the right understanding.
Then she married with the brother
and data on their brother obey the Binta and Harris was killed in the Battle of Ohio.
That is the second battle for the Muslim The first is brother. Second is who who later on there more that follow up.
After her Ada, of course, at least four months, 10 days, anybody whose husband passed away, they cannot remarry to anybody until the end of
the data for a widow is for more than 10 days.
And this number is fixed.
Time limit is big.
Even they say oh I mean
the doctor confirm she cannot bear any children. She's not pregnant because we have all the DNA and all the the new equipment. You had to check whether you still are pregnant or not not unknown whether you're pregnant or not your ADA, your mourning period. The mourning period is four months 10 days
after that,
then if they're ready, the profit Yeah. married her. If you look into this is not easy. It is not a tradition at all for a widow to be remarried again.
At that time a widow caught us you will be
A widow for life because to the pagan culture
any woman who is married
if a husband divorced her because she's a useless, lousy lady.
If the husband die must because of her, she had made her husband die fast. She said lousy bad housewife, everything happened to the male the blame is the opinion.
That is how the pagan treat the female
have no value at all. You are no body to the man the man can just use us chuck you you're just a GM when they replaced a new GM and colors nobody can fight for your right no right
is more honorable when your husband died, you also die with him.
This culture was picked up by another group.
There is a group among the
among all the different races I not the code. But there is a group if you die, the husband die, they will burn criminal disease and with the leaving wife
of God, the dead cannot Scream by the living hardware screen.
But it's an honor.
If you're ready to die with your own dead husband
is an honor in the community. But Islam cannot.
Those whose time have come to go those who are still alive, you should prepare yourself.
So the Prophet
offer himself and then married
she remained with the prophets are only for about two months.
And then died at the age of 60.
At the age of 60
dimensions also a very elderly lady
just two months she was the first among the wife of the Prophet, the mother of the belief to be buried in bucket
so anybody who normally woman they don't allow
only men if you want to visit back here when you go to Medina at anytime
you try to pray
near to the gate near to the door the masjid don't have back they got a door called Babel bucket.
Or you can pray is somewhere around in front the gate of baboon Nisa.
Or you can pray somewhere in front of bubble Jabra aisle.
These are the three Bob. In the case of the masjid number we're where if you pray outside,
immediately after the follow to prayer, there'll be an announcement and that is the funeral prayer. Every announced one after the fall do obligated to pray of the Imam is only for funeral prayer. You may not understand the announcement in Arabic but you must know is if you just get ready and pray with the Imam. Immediately after your pray with the Imam, you just walk further in front. You can see the
funeral is coming out. They're carrying the dead person coming out towards a bucket.
Just example, this is the most of the Prophet
either you pray inside the malls, but near
to the grave of the Prophet all you pray the extension one or outside the most from this angle because back is there.
The main gate is from here and and then here is where the grave of the Prophet
and then you got the gate here. And then you got the extension of the new wing. You can pray somewhere around there. Immediately after the funeral prayer you just walk out and stand by because in front of the most of the Prophet today, there's an extension and there's where the disease is
won't be brought in to that extension
is not like in Maka, maka, the grave, the date people will be in the middle of the most near to the Kaaba.
But in Medina, they don't enter into they just come in from the extension. And then after the prayer, they just come out from there don't disturb anybody.
Yeah. So you when you see them, you just only mirror, try your best to follow them or try to give a helping hand because it's very fast.
But please remember, you must
be strong if you're not strong, don't carry
squat heavy
and they move very fast.
And then you're coming to the buffet, before you enter the gate of bucket to the graveyard.
There is a slope going up.
Yeah, I have tried many time. But there was ones.
Now over here, look about the weight.
After that, I feel the pain on my shoulder because you can move and you can run very far. If you participate or just be together close to this group of people who is carrying the disease body. They allow you to enter bucket
if you don't do that, you cannot enter because they don't want people to make a mess and go in and unnecessary and go in and cry here cry there. They don't allow this to happen. Then you can witness how the burial according to the Sunnah of the Prophet SummerSlam and how simple the grief here
of
the Muslim according to the teaching of Prophet no trees no flower
zero
no marble is a grave yard.
The Malay core graffia Abba
Tana Tiburon, Tana Tana just Tana Tana no break No. Border nothing
Yeah. Yeah. Our is Tom and now our Cobra and Tana Kubo is Taman coolroom
Why? Because the caretaker of the graveyard in the middle is scholars
they know the do and they don't they don't allow Nonsan our caretaker or business commercial people.
They will come and ask you what package you want and what stone Do you want what kind of in the grass you won local and or you won some important marble from Italy and all this nonsense. The business people what can we do you put the wrong people
in charge of a very important area
that is what happened to all of us today brothers and sisters.
Then you have almost Salah man
almost Alana name was him being the ABBY Oh my ear.
She was from the max zoom branch of the Quraysh tribe meeting with a prophet. Yeah, also linked with the Prophet tribes.
She was a more the most beautiful woman and was among the first Muslim women who migrate to Medina.
Prior to the prophets Muslim she was married to his poster brother, Bo Salama bin Abdul
Asad Alma. Zooming in almost Salah ma reported that she was hurt the Prophet sallallahu sallam said meaning whenever an affliction strike a Muslim and he say, as Allah command in the lie he was in LA he arrived your own first thing.
Almost Allama heard that Allah's Prophet Muhammad
Salam, Salam say any more Seba anything happened to the Muslim The first thing we should remember is Allah in Lillahi wa in LA he wrote your own then continue with a short prayer
Allahu Magette Allah my journey Fimo see but the world If Li Cairo minha
then we say oh Allah. Yeah, after we say in La La he were in a rage or de Raji on
to Allah, we belong we came from Allah and to Him we will return or Allah reward me for my efficiency. The prayer is very positive. I have been tested. reward me for this. If you want our world to reward you, you must have patience. You must learn how to accept Reber what happened? I accepted kodra bhamashah
You don't scream? Why, why this happened? Why this? Why that don't do that.
One your radar, Allah What do you want you for your patient and replace it for me with that which is better.
Have hope.
This was taught by our Prophet, to own Salah motto, if anything happened, you must have hope and keep on moving.
And Allah will then surely replace it for him with that which is better.
When you see him is when the middle is praying her when the female is praying, asking Allah
someday you will see
just one example.
among the companions
after their friend passed away in jihad,
now left the wife was a widow. And sometimes they have a lot of children who are often now
but they never give up. They have hope in Allah.
When any of the companion who feel that they are ready to marry them,
they except
they are not like a lot of us know more, but most of the time woman
would like to be alone with their children because they are worried. If you married the wrong guy, the guy may love you, but not your children.
Then of course you have another trial and challenges.
We have problem too. Sometimes people will love you, only you. If you know that is the kind of mentality
then you'll better stay and look for after your children.
More reward.
If not more problem.
Just an example.
But you can have hope. If you don't have children.
If there's another new person come in,
how do you feel?
Are you ready to move forward?
But you don't force yourself, of course
is it's not something that you can pause No.
But you must have an open heart and open mind in case especially when you are still young.
Because we do not want other fitna to come to you.
These are things that is not easy for normal people to understand.
And sometimes because of the first marriage you have a bad experience may even stop you from thinking for the second one callers.
Once bitten, twice shy
but some time live is not what you think. How you feel
to your patient. You are closer to Allah now.
And you keep on praying for a better future alarm is sent a better man than the first one.
The same goes to the men.
You can choose not to remarry. You can choose
Just to map again,
live move on what Allah is trying to tell us the prophet is showing a life more on all this not been bypassed something that you are ready for anything that will benefit you
your Eman
and the future generation
so the prayer is very important number one, we say in Allah except the facts all came from Allah. Sooner or later we'll return back to him and ask Allah to reward you for what
you have been tested
and to replace for you
a better future.
Maybe you by staying with a children on a is a better life for you hamdulillah nothing more.
But you don't close
your door and everything, no, open. Allah says something is better coming in Alhamdulillah and we have cases I'm 10 children this is a family matters that eg that LBD can do it.
When the father passed away,
or the mother partially
the pity their father, their father needs somebody to take care of
the children is the one who will look for the father
some children and that they take care of the love their father to the extent they know that their father is a good man and
the mother was a good mother but now the mother had passed away left the Father alone they don't want the father to be alone.
They will look for their father
and up to the Father to choose yes or no
thing happens
we cannot see it. While Father
I have very bad father waiting for my mother to die and then he go for the second one.
Sometimes we have all this negative feeling but in Islam, don't entertain.
Death is not something that you plan allows it come home come home
but if you feel that your father
still Yes.
Strong,
very energetic. He may lead
a partner
that they go by sometimes children will stop them.
We disagree Papa.
Let us interview her.
Over always in the we'll feel
oh she's not the right woman.
No, sometimes it'll be protective.
No, you must have that feeling to.
It is the alive. They need somebody
to be close to them. They need somebody to them most of the time. The men
need more care from a woman.
Most of the women they know how to take care of themselves better.
That's why you can see a lot of
family.
If the father passed away the mothers will just move on by herself and take care of the children
but when the mother passed away, the father also have to take care of the children. But the father normally wants somebody to take care of him.
Most of the time that is not everybody is like that most of the time. But don't talk negative
and make bad command.
When anything that is Hello. We must be ready for it. And that's why when you are ready is not easy sometimes to accept
a new person into a family. But you have patient radar. As long as our father is happy. Our mother is happy. We are happy. Is that easy?
Not only you are happy
you must ask them.
You are okay Papa.
You're okay mama.
It is it yours?
We give them all the support.
If they say no then we also help them.
They may not dare to say no. Then we will talk on their behalf. No problem.
A family in Islam always help one another, discuss matter together and find the best way to move forward
and don't fight against each other.
It's not healthy at all and
very important for us to have the right understanding.
So if you look at all this, that is happening before us, does when Abu Salama died, she thought, Who among the Muslim can be better than Abu Salama?
He is from the first people who migrate to Medina to meet up with our Prophet summit Salaam. Yet she said the above supplication
she pray with a prayer that the Prophet taught and Allah substitute him for her with the Messenger of Allah.
Allah messengers 10 Hattie been a Ba, ba ba, to represent me him. In seeking her hand in Mary. She told him I have a daughter to look after.
And I'm a very jealous woman.
Now she make it very clear to the representative of the Prophet.
And she know the Prophet have several wives.
So the prophets and the Psalms respond. As Paul, her daughter, we ask Allah to Sufism from an IRS, Allah to remove her jealousy.
The Prophet would just hope,
Prophet also cannot force even his A prophet is not a dictator. No, he's not like the time when Prophet Abraham was still alive with his first wife, Sarah.
And there is one king
among the num, Ruth
kingdom, who cannot look at beautiful woman
when they saw a beautiful woman
then the officer
either will take this woman and present to the king and the king would just
keep her or
so they came to Prophet Abraham they do not know that he was a prophet
and asked Who is this lady beside you?
Because Sarah is a very pretty lady.
And Abraham known what is going to happen to Sarah Eve he said this is my wife they don't care wife or sister or mother.
We want to take her to the king
because this is
something be known to the people the king cannot know that there's a pretty woman around there and nobody report to him and he will be very sad. So everybody wants to please the king
so when he approached Abraham, Abraham said my sister
so my sister Okay, follow me follow the Zara has a follow either she follow all your force and dreck.
Abrahamic see nothing he only pray only Allah can protect. Sarah not me.
How can you protect you know that you are hopeless? This is the army coming to you
but he made prayer
and Zara was very upset. Why you say that your sister and your wife
because if you see a sister for them to take your sister
is a bit different but you see my wife you had to fight already my wife No, no whether your wife or not.
As long as pretty lady colors
you belong to the king.
But Allah protect Salah with the prayer of Prophet Abraham aced them when they're when the palace and they
To clean her arm dressed her up extra beautiful.
Prepare for the king. When the king
came to her way he tried to touch her. Allah protect Zara that his hand image delete just
got paralyzed.
No, she was he was what happened to me. Normally I can touch any woman, but this woman is 10 When I touch my hand now paralyzed
is like a stroke.
So he wants sorry, maybe this woman have special power. No. So he asked her.
Please forgive him. If I'm hurting you. Please pray for me.
I will leave you alone.
And Zahra pray and the strength came back. Now not one hand to hand now.
At first just want to touch now not touch is going to come and grab you and now we will hear the King who did you say anything?
Now with the will of Allah both hand
the straw and para after that
he had
he cannot play with this lady no he No.
This is really
maybe a wish and you cannot touch her anymore. And because sama also keep on praying
and the King got better. And the king free her
in return that King
give her a present. What is the present? What is the gift that King offer to Sarah and release?
Anybody remember?
What is the gift that the king gave it to? Sarah?
Yeah.
Yet what is the name of the female
Hotjar
Hotjar actually is not a servant. He is one of the princesses.
But there are so many woman no one really remember.
It keeps on having woman and then have children.
So one of the princess was given as a hadiya to Sarah.
And Sarah knew that Prophet Abraham me, her beloved husband, love to have children, and she cannot offer him or children.
Is a better inches or Abraham is all Bova old age now. Ben Shanna, more than pension.
According to the normal situation, both will not have children anymore because of their age.
So Saira offer Hotjar. The proper
she knew the proper loop children.
So this is the best thing that she can do for the husband.
Is that easy for us to offer our husband or wife?
Or my dead body?
I'm not encouraging you and no, don't worry.
I'm just relating the story is important to learn from the story.
And there's how a Brahim of calculus or a lot
is not going to say yes, yes. Thank you Sarah. No, he don't have the feeling of Sarah. He just quiet and don't want to respond.
But Sarah keep on
telling BranchCache I know you love me. She gives you some children
at the end of the day, Abraham except
and they got the first baby.
What is the name of the baby?
Is my first bond. But in the Bible say is hot. Now is hum is the second when Allah give
the Prophet Abram boy from Hotjar later on with the willow
Hola, hola make Sarao got pregnant.
Now one plus one now, from zero, you get one one plus one one plus one. Allahu Akbar Allah Allah he'll have just an example. This is just an example. You see the reward of Allah's greeting her sacrifice in return Allah bless her with a baby
and is hot from Easter.
Now all the new generations that
the Bani Israel the tribe of money Israel started from there is Huck young cope and all the 12 children of the APOE
there's where the Bani Israel's tribes that
started from there
but hamdulillah been a woman again
after the first bond
from haidara
You know as a father, who is so old now men are husband now a father.
The love towards
the new one
is tremendous. And now he he have to spend more time with hijab, because
hijab to have a baby
name for Hotjar time for the baby.
Now the time for Sarah is a bit less than now.
Being a human do Sara feel jealous now?
Yeah, the jealousy creeps into Sarah.
My husband was always thinking her jaw is my hair is my hair is brown here Sarah, Sarah, no children.
And there is a time Sarah said
these maps please proceed Abraham bring them far away from my side.
There is the beginning
of the history that
Abraham is not from the Arab tribe.
So he brought his mom as a young boy and the mother hijab to the middle is
where we call Moca today
that LAN is known as ca in the Quran, sit back
and that was the beginning of the history
of Ibrahim is my air and cover
and zum zum all started there. That's why when you go to heart you have to sign because that is what happened to Hijra keep on running from one hill to the next hill to look for help because the full drain on is gone.
And Prophet Abraham brought her and the baby put them in the middle of the desert no one out No well no water no food is a barrel is a desert.
And you said stay here I'm going back
but how do Hotjar respond? Of course when Abraham was walking away I gotta follow
carry the baby and follow Then Abram stopped them No.
Is it you are leaving us here you are. You're serious you're gonna leave us here we thought you're just bring us for a tour around and then we go back
to the world called Palestine at a time.
But no.
They said no. You must do and then Hydra is the command from God.
ramsI Yes. If this is a command of God, I have no more complaint except see the fit of hudgell
No one else except she and the baby. How would you survive?
If we were there I think you want me to die or die in front of you.
But notice if these are the Pawan our stay on.
So to
Allah
Give risky to whom he won.
With the will of Allah when the food everything is gone, Abraham he went so far away he comes, see the child and Hajer anymore their hip, make a prayer, protect them,
protect my family,
and bring peace to them
and bring peace to this area where he live Hotjar and Ismail.
And there's right the beginning of zum zum took place. When there is water, there is life, there is bird flying over landing. And then a lot of business people traveling from Syria to Yemen, when they saw the bird flying land, they start to follow. And they found the place which is known to us, mocha today.
They just stayed there to get some water and move on is like a stop or RNR at that time.
Well what happened? Because the prayer and the promise from Allah that He will protect nobody cause harm to hijab, lady, young lady. And we will why they can just kill both of them and take control of the well.
But none of the people were passing by have that intention. Why not? We just take over and control this area. No.
They came and asked permission, can we have some water, in return, we'll give you some food
is about the tree at that time, no cash.
And then now the news spread now get water in this year. So anybody who wants to travel from Yemen to Syria, pass to this valley.
And they start to build 10 to stop over, take the break water, feet dead camel
horses and then move on and live more food. And that's how these areas start to grow.
And the only thing that Allah promised there is to take care of Makkah that whoever come in, would have peace, and they will never create
unrest in this area. It happened the prayer was answered.
Nobody had any intention to cause any problem to hedger and Israel. And the only thing that had just said to all the stranger, this well
belong to me. I am the care taker.
You want to build a small 10 Here is up to you. But this
I will be the caretaker
and so we agreed.
And Abraham came back on some of the went back to see Sarah later Ansara had baby Allahu Akbar.
Everything is in the will of Allah horrible Allah and
what I like to Chevron's is about this family values.
For a man. Don't forget.
The wife is an Amana it's very important for us to understand
what they need from you and give it to them.
This way, the Prophet said Cairo calm Pyro calm the Cairo combine the best men and the men who take care of their wife. Take care of your wife.
Be kind be loving to them.
That how a good wife always take care of you in good time bedtime.
That how a mother take care of the children is very different than the Father will take care of the children
even both love their children, but the care the sacrifice, there's always some difference.
Lastly, before I end this, some story here and
every man have a responsibility to their mother.
Take care of the mother.
Respect on their mother.
But when you have a wife
you must know how to take care
Have both of them.
If the wife
or the mother in law can stay with the wife or our wife stay with the mother in law. It's good
and hum that they are together.
But they had time.
is very difficult to stay with mother in law
for a
wife to stay there for
husband to stay with the in law is easier because they know the HA man must go out. Don't be lazy.
So if they are also lazy they go out and be lazy. I will say
some men are very lazy but they go and they park outside. They know they cannot just keep staying at home and the novel locating What are you doing now? So they go out and stay with your friend and the Atari in the hours.
And the y have to work very hard but in general
is better is easier for a son in law to stay with in law than a daughter in law. You can try by a good man is very wise. They try if not mother is mother.
You cannot stop the mother from taking care of the son even the Son is your husband now.
The mother always want to have some control because the mother loved the son.
So the mother will always want to cook you have no right to cook. You want to cook for your husband.
Your mother in law said Nana nana no. My son left my foot not your foot.
is now your foot now I cannot do I have no freedom at all.
Everything mother want to do for their son not about the daughter in law the son you like or not is your problem. As long as my son that happy?
Then you have problem. But one the wife feel that
I need to have my privacy because a mother is a mother of some men their love to the sun they meet us and so much they miss their son more than they miss their husband.
Especially when the mother
don't have a husband and alone.
They can interrupt the cannot the door anytime they like
they can call the sun anytime they want. So you have no more privacy at all.
difficult
if the mother who are very wise is good.
So happen that you are staying together and your room and the muddy knows room next.
Side by side
and sometimes your mother can just call the sun
anytime and then the sun can hear and the sun is going to leave you now.
So there's a lot of trial and challenges with a mother in law know how to behave properly. Know the limit. And know the right of the STATA Know is good person then the overall.
Mother is mother
and your son said we i Mother. Respect member the correct you must honor by you also have a right
response a to it your wife and your wife have right upon you you must honor
so you play your role. If your wife said I think it's time I want to stay outside have some privacy.
I love my mother in law but I just cannot be in the same house. What do you see as a husband?
No know
when you are not a good husband.
You have failed. You must use your wisdom.
You take care of your mother fan. You also have to take care of your wife.
Very important.
There is what they call a family is very fragile.
If you do not know how to take care of it properly,
then you are going to create a lot of
normalcy peasy. You want to please your mother you forget that your wife also have the right upon you.
The wife can come anytime is different. You can
Then visit the mother in law, stay with her for a few hours, then you go back you have your own privacy is different than your stay there.
Yeah.
So we just want everybody to have this understanding
and make sure that we are getting our response with the
in well balanced environment.
So that don't I will end with this chapter
that the Prophet said As for her daughter, we ask Allah to suffice her from her and I ask Allah to remove her jealousy towards the other wife. In another report on Salah Ma said that when Abu Surma died, she ran to the Prophet
and told him Oh, Allah's Messenger Abasa has passed away. That means
he instruct her to say Allah, fiddly Walla wa kidney Minho, Akbar Hassan Oh Allah forgive me and him and succeed him for me with that which is good.
Pray for
the late husband. The Prophet married her in the fall egeria for your after hijra, migrate to Medina, and she was 30 years old. All three of our children, Omar, Salama and Zane became Sahaba companions of Prophet Muhammad samosa and she became one of the most knowledgeable woman of Islam to who, almost Alana.
This way there's one Hadith I shared with all of you about the night prayer
that had these come from salah.
Yeah, when people ask almost a llama, how many raka do the Prophet perform the night prayer in the month of Ramadan? So Ahmed Salah Ma said, the prophet never increased more than 11
that is Trump on Salama.
The Prophet never increase more than 11 Raka
and then the azil 11 How do he perform the 11 from this Hadees ohms Allah Ma said he performed for
and don't ask how beautiful the prayer the profit and how long and then he performed another four and don't ask how beautiful and long the prayer or the profit then he end with three with 443
This hadith is the most authentic Hadees about the night prayer and the way she responded was very beautiful. Ma Tana rasa yes ziet fear Ramadan wala Fie, Allah Musharaka the Prophet never increase
whether in the night of Ramadan or outside the night of Ramadan more than 11 rocket
there's where we tried to implement this Hadees
when Ramadan come in, and outside Ramadan is Tahajjud prayer, the same. But then there is another general Hadith The Prophet said Salah to lay Mesna must not night prayer can be performed to to this why you see a lot of people are doing the to to also based on authentic Hadees
that means show you both the for and for also one of the Sunnah of the Prophet to into also a sunnah of the Prophet but don't try to
be very unfair and be judgmental is it only to to is correct or for Paul is above is correct because you got Hadees don't try to miss interpret the Hadees by yourself a four four means to to decode the four and a two to four
you don't try to play around with the word of the Prophet some of us
if for also is to to consider for then the Prophet
Osama don't have to set for for his et tu tu tu Why is it for
is that when you praise or hum neroca zohore
fall Do you pray to Sam and then to Salem? No for means Paul.
Do means to
don't try