Funerals – Regulations And Exhortation 17

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This lecture was given on May 23, 2017.

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Rasulo to see comm one year old.

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Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

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Charlotte The Odyssey says let's begin the day with our morning dose smilla rahmanir rahim

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al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen

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Allahumma salli ala Muhammad,

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Allah Allah Mohammed kamasan Leighton Ebrahim wa Ali Ibrahim in Naka Hamid Majid

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Allahumma because Bana will become Cena but we can hear

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what we cannot move. What la can assure Bismillah hella de

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la yet dororo massumi shape and fill out the water for summer he was semi clean and ready to build a hero.

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Or bill Islami Deena

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Bobby Mohammadi. nebia

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Allahumma zlatni illman afia

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What is country Eva? Wa mala Mata Kabbalah,

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mo kaliber loco lube, stop bit kulu vana. Allah de Nick wa antic, Allahumma Atkin Genentech, Jelena Mina na robina

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Tina Dania her Santa

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Clara de hacer una joaquina azova na

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sama Allah Mohammed wa aalihi wa sahbihi agma in an Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen

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oppressed you to hon Allah Minh for his blessing, his guidance, his forgiveness for the help that they have given us. Until today and we hope and pray May Allah give us a healthy mind, body and soul to prepare ourselves for this coming on Ramadan. Insha Allah

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for those who are not

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healthy, we pray May Allah give them good help as soon as possible. For those who are healthy, and those who are traveling, we ask Allah to make their journey a safe one and to get back home to continue with the fasting inshallah. We have sisters families are Gemma who have left for Amara, maybe they would like to perform Umrah in the month of Ramadan and we'll be back soon. May Allah give them a good Amara. And also may Allah subhanho wa Taala cram them in on the reward that Allah had prepared for them in the month of Ramadan. I mean

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to other sisters again Before we continue, allowed me to convey this Salam from our brothers that Yama on the sister in batum in Malaysia and also from Philippine in the conveyed a Salam from the F m s a federation of Muslim Student Association from Philippine they have been very active.

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They just finished the conference, pre Ramadan conference, preparing for Ramadan and mobarak

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this is what we always do in our classes before the big event is going to take place in

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Ramadan is a big event for the oma it's not just like a normal

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month is a man where every Muslim in the whole world is waiting for this man. For the believers. We have been waiting for almost 11 months already Alhamdulillah with Allah mercy we are able to fast again is a blessing.

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But what allowable Allah mean always remind us as believer in certain Hashanah. Just my mocha Dima yo yo Allah Gina Amano katiba la camassia kamakoti balilla gentlemen publikum dalla comm Tata Kuhn and in this sort of Bukhara in Sahaja, yoga Gina Amano Taka LA, while tons of love Suma de Malaga de la in Omaha probieren Bhima Tama loon

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the first ayah Allah remind us about

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as a believer to prepare yourself for Ramadan, then Allah have Makita

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compulsory upon the believers so that at the end of the day, our demand will increase. We are getting closer to Allah, Allah Allah mean physically, mentally and spiritually insha Allah Ameen. And other if Allah said, are you who believe in me, be faithful to me, then always prepare and look into yourself. What have you prepared for your tomorrow? Now this ayah involve everything in our life. Anything you want to do in life for the future, you must prepare today

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all the good deeds that we want to do. Normally sometime the test from a lot of blood I mean, are you going to wait until Ramadan on yourself to do good thing? Are you going to wait for Ramadan only you want to be a better person.

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If we know that we are going to live until Ramadan.

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Fair enough, you can take that race if you know but no one know when we are going back to Allah. So you must be alert. When Allah said look into the same What have you prepared for tomorrow is not until the month of Ramadan. Only you want to do all the good things. The minute you know that you can do something good today you do it.

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Because tomorrow we do not know what's going to happen.

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There is what Allah always

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let all of us in under ayah Allah first who clear up anything that please Allah behistun

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do it as soon as possible.

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It's just like fasting, if you have missed your past for 2016. If you do not do it fast, the best time is in Sha one, Sha one will be the best because the environment a Sha one. Still, the fasting and environment is still very strong. Because a lot of people are still fasting sooner Sha one for those who have completed the Ramadan. So it do help by SEO prolong you delay, you'll find it more difficult.

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So anything good please don't delay. Because a lot of a lot i mean is testing all of us, the state then like us to delay. Take your time, don't worry, you have good heart, you have good intention, no problem. That the shaitan gives you that kind of idea just to delay on the good thing that you can do today. So tomorrow you'll be busy again you forget and then there's what happened in life. Anyhow.

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A lot of people are Lamin who love us so much. Keep on reminding us. Keep on encouraging us to do so many good things. But remember anything you do if your intention just for that particular reward, if your intention because you want that reward, you will only get that reward

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in the time of the companions, they don't do for the reward by the prophet encourage them, but they do just to please Allah

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empathy law, he merpati law that is the highest

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intention, MT la mirbeau Tila, they mean everything I do, I only want to please Allah, how much Allah one to give it to me, he accept my this or not, I live it to a lot of blood. I mean, I know among will never

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ignore any good deeds that we do. That is been done purely to please Him.

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So the real reward actually is up to the level of our intention. If you do purely for Allah without thinking of that, Allah can reward you without any limit. What is the best reward that we want from a lot of blood? I mean,

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what is the best reward?

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Jana that's all

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there is what we want.

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Because when you enter Jannah helaas

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even the 100 class Alhamdulillah

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even you get 100 class Allah

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is more than the world and everything you have in this life

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because we have been trying so hard

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to get the best one and allow we're never, never ignore it.

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Our intention, he just want us to make sure that we have the right intention.

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So May Allah subhanho and make it easy for all US brothers and sisters. Yeah.

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I mean

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just a little reminder because passing is getting very close maybe

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this coming weekend, we are going to start our pm if it's come from Saturday is our fasting day then Friday night will be our first pm the night prayer will start on Friday night.

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So everyone can prepare themselves in the office you have done what they have to do a con is been services APA is being clean Yeah. And they have a total cleaning

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to make every day comfortable inshallah

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but at the end of the day is our spiritual intention and our mental preparation

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a lot of Milena mean actually left people who always prepare themselves it's like when you went too far you want to pray you prepare yourself you don't wait at the last minute then you

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take your word Do you have your widow earlier. So, this coming Ramadan few thing that I like to let the

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first thing Don't miss the opportunity to make

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the best dough

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that will not be rejected by Allah is 10 to find minutes before breaking fast, there is a crucial area because there is a time we are preparing for the breaking of fast we are preparing for it.

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So if you want to prepare Of course we have to prepare for it. But all of us are aware is if tar is not dinner,

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you are not preparing for dinner you are preparing for if and if that is so simple, dates Ramadan is known for dates in Malaysia, and the Prophet is everyday we eat this in Ramadan. Now mine because there is when did become very popular. So you have dates. If you are not used to date you take fruits something soft, sweet, soft and sweet. You can take bananas, papaya, anything sweet and then liquid during desert that is the spirit of Iftar

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when you go for masala marmorata bomb and all this. You are knowing you're not if Tara anymore, yeah, you're having a pre dinner.

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Don't do that. Just adjust yourself because you need to spend five minutes or 10 minutes before it's time to pray to ask Allah for whatever you want in your life.

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And what is the important thing when you want to ask something that is simple? Like what I just shared with you in the beginning of the class sometime Yama kulu

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kulu bana alcalde Allah Dini, voila,

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this is also very, very important. ask Allah to make our heart dress

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to have inner peace with Allah.

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There's always a lot of trial and problem in life.

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But when you have peace in your heart, you have peace

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in your life in Sharma, you think very positively. You don't have time to entertain a lot of bad things anymore. Negative thoughts you have no time.

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Why? Because that is not going to help you. You all have you know, if you keep on entertaining thing is negative is not gonna help you.

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And it gets worse and worse.

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So why must you torture yourself? And why don't you have faith in Allah

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that control everything. And if you keep on asking, he will not answer your prayer. Everything is off.

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That's how he will solve our problem.

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The second thing that is also important

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that the Prophet also encouraged us to an alum, Tim Lana, the hostname, calm Thema

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we have to have that in mind. We will

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Want to have a good ending? We want to have a good ending.

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But to have good ending, you must have good thoughts, good feeling.

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If you always have negative feeling and thought, do you think you can have a good ending?

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Even to Allah,

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one of the criteria of a true believer the prophecy is we have host Nissan biLlahi to Allah always have good feeling good thoughts with Allah.

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Sometimes we do have bad thoughts with God.

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We say Oh Allah even give you give

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is up to you.

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I was reminded him by a group of brothers who are very alert.

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Because I was so used with this insha Allah insha Allah. So say, don't forget to ask Allah for this insha Allah know, he will respond to me that what insha Allah for this sentence is not correct.

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That mean, I still have doubt. And I don't have that doubts, but the way and no there was a hadith the prophets Allah say, when you ask Allah you don't say

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inshallah.

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inshallah, you don't say injector, if you wish.

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if you will.

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Know, you just ask and then you stop and hope that the ending or there is what I mean.

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They're like said,

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Do you know you're asking from somebody? And then after that, you end? If you wish, then it's up to me.

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No, but you say, I pray you give it to me. I mean, I mean, they mean you really want that thing? Is it?

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Your vision,

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when your vision and some that they

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they wish not to give you

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this is very important you ask Allah for a good ending, but we have been asking Allah for good ending. But sometimes we contradict

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ourselves, because we don't have good thoughts and good feeling.

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Just have good thoughts and good feeling inshallah. Allah loves people who have seen me.

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And again, when we talk about funerals, the beauty of this topic,

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my nation, my people don't like to talk about this. They say when you were alive, don't talk about death. No, no, just thinking about living. But because we know that is akin.

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What would Rebecca

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directly Akin in the Quran, Allah say, worship Allah means be connected to Allah because worshiping is to get you connected to Allah. Worship you're not with unlockable element until your team come to you. Means until death comes.

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This way we are preparing ourselves every day, learning the deen and also preparing ourselves and the beauty part of our religion all of us are aware Allah subhanho wa Taala have stayed Allah Yama, Kemal Tila Khun Dena co

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Yeah, Allah have said, yo ma C'mon telecom Tina comb. What mundo la comunidad Mati hora de la cama de Medina, today I have perfected my religion for you. So our region is so perfect.

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Everything is ready made. We just learn, understand and follow this.

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But we know the trap of Satan. Satan has a lot of planning.

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If he wants to stop you from passing, you insist too fast, then he know he can stop you from passing. But now he is going to encourage you to do a lot of things that will

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that will destroy us that would invalidate your pass.

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Now the Prophet didn't mention

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when you are fasting, it is not that allow one to stop us from eating and drinking and torture us.

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But this way the prophecy is Alameda Colorado, Amanda B. Lisa de la jolla and Hydra Jada Mahara.

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If a person just stopped at

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And drinking in the fasting man. Only they fast without food without drain with their head in relation with their wife or their husband and data, but they did not stop their tongue

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from lying, cheating, gossiping, backbiting, and do all the Haram words speech, Allah have known me to that kind of pass.

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So fasting is not just stay away from that. But the most important thing is control your tongue.

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Yeah, now you don't use tongue you use your finger. Because you have all the internet. Yeah, all the messages going on. Internet is green. So you also make the new technology. You say, Tang, nostra, thank you for it. You are not using your tongue anymore. You're not talking finger finger finger. Yeah, you must know how to use your finger and use the finger to read to look at the Quran. Read the iron hamdulillah then just ping all the messages that alone only knows what is happening to all of us today.

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We know that brothers and sisters, one of the things that can destroy all our deeds without we're realizing is when we involve in innovation.

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You know us innovation. Good. The Prophet has said man Avila amalan laser Allah He am Runa for hawala, don't, don't take this command the Prophet lightly who ever do an act of a bada

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an act of worship that was not taught by me.

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Neither I thought my companion, neither my companion does it. And you try to be smart. And you say there's nothing wrong, I have good intention. That is what Satan loves most.

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Like how he has misguide the People of the Book, Yahoo and nosara.

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This what happened to them, they have abandoned their book, they have abandoned the teaching of their prophet.

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And they come up with a lot of innovation, a lot of new things that was not written in a book and they say is okay is okay. And is happening to this nation again.

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And that's why the profits are some say to us that we will come to a time that we will follow the footsteps

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of others. If they will jump into a lizard hole, you will jump into the lizard hole together. So the companion as Who are they are they the People of the Book, NASA, if not them, then who?

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If you are not being guided from the beginning, you just follow the tradition.

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You are not included in this Hadees

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this hadith is to those who know

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who know what Allah want them to do what the prophet have taught us, but they still ignore

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and entertain what is not been recommended. This is the way Satan trackers give us the good feeling you are doing something good, no problem. The important thing is your intention. Your heart is good.

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your intention is good to not give you the license to do anything that is not taught by Islam.

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If you want to consider it Islamic

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anything Islamic is must be guided. It must have reference if I wanted to teach Islamic where's my reference? If there's no reference, this is my opinion.

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This is my feeling no problem.

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We know what is happening to us lately a lot of messages going on about you do this you do you get how many? How many? All that how many only Allah knows.

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They give you all the encouragement, recite 810,000 time

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do what the proper one is to do. And hamdulillah now let us come back to the book. We are preparing ourselves for many things. And this is also telling us if something happened to any of our beloved one, our family members, we are still talking about what about

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mourning.

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Now we'll go to page 54

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That's why I'm saying Islam is so beautiful. Everything is been mentioned Islam

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Allow us to move on to feel statements our beloved pass away, you should feel sad.

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But there is a

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limit in everything.

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Grain the bit as a sign of mourning.

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growing the beard is an obligation for all men. Sisters must remember that

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some young men have to shave their beard because beard because they want to get married. And they don't like

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a marriage. Beard son in law. No,

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you should be very happy if he wants to be a real man.

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But if he have no beard, then he don't have to put

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any in anything, he just be himself. But if he has the beard, is good for them to keep the beard in

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is an obligation for all men. However, many men use their beard in a controlled manner saving it as a sign of joy.

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saving it as a sign of joy is something is not right, that feeling is not correct. But if you have some skin problem, you want to clean it and cure this clean problem, then it's okay. But the rescue must be keeping it in a proper manner, keep it clean and tidy Of course, and letting it grow for a few days as a sign of grief. Now somebody has a problem when a problem they forget to shave their beard

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and then they look a bit down with the beard coming out. That kind of beard is not as big as that kind of beard is. It's not why did the beard that's what it is you keep it in with the knowledge that you follow the command of Prophet Mohammed samosa lamb but there are people who when they have their down there problem they also keep their beard

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is that there are a lot of people who have problems they also fast protests the protest fast in the prison they fast to protest that kind of pass is not one alone one in alone you did pass for his sake. This practice is an obvious deviation from the prophets teaching.

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When you say the Prophet, Sunnah brother and sister always remember you, you have prophets had this is his saying when you say prophet Sunnah that mean his action, his command and his silent on his his son. Furthermore, it is done as a form of mourning, this would be clarified and the shifting the hair, which is prohibited in the above Hades, you are not supposed to be able to shape your hair shape your bit, just because of morning, no.

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Now, when the Prophet is telling us about this, this show that before Islam, you have this tradition,

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people are so used to a to show that they are not happy, they are very sad. They do all these things. And that's why the Prophet came and correct. They are doing if you do for the sake of Allah, then isn't it better. If you do because of following the pagan then you will become like that.

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So we have been a Muslim we should do the way Islam one has to do the morning that is allowed for a woman the wife is how many days

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How many days for the wife to mourn for man 10 days

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meaning you are not supposed to go for any entertainment party vailima and you are not supposed to just

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go for touring here and there. But the normal thing that you have to do, you can you can go to market to buy the necessary things. You can attend classes, and but you must limit your social kind of activities. You go to class and learn that yourself more prepared, get closer to Allah and then go home. And you don't like to just sit down and laugh

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away with a lot of other sisters now this is the thing that we have to do.

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We know what is allowed and what is not allowed. Then we do what is allowed and stay away what is not allowed. The condolence now is what you are consoling the Muslim. That is why when somebody passed away, the first thing that we will say is what in the law he was in

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La arogya so today if you can contact them sometimes when people pass away, their phone will be very busy for you to visit them is too far away. So at least you can use your finger and this time you can use your finger and know and send a condolence that Ignalina here in LA he Rajan, then you make a stiffer, a lot more fit now

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May Allah forgive his soul and May Allah increase your sabar and we want you the family who have the patience to go to bed time. This is some kind of Xia that we do feel for for them.

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Now this is very important anybody who you receive any info that some Muslim pass away even you do not know them but your friend

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informed about them immediately you send this

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and just send condolence kind of idea to show that you are responding evil you don't know that person I obviously do that too. You can save that actually in one of the in the phone that the door is there today you just save it is time we have this kind of messages you just copy it and send over yeah is a prayer is good for you because they remind you about death.

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Each time when you make this kind of condolence it also remind you about death and also remind you about your responsibility towards a fellow Muslim in because why the prayer from a Muslim to another person without them knowing they do not know who you are.

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They are not your normal friend, just a stranger but almost in a like a family will not be rejected that Ophelia will have a plethora

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of Prophet did mention the prayer from another Muslim to another mostly without their knowing who they are. It's not that they are friend will not be rejected.

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It's just that today you know, somebody is not where you hurt. And you pray for them.

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That pray will not be rejected.

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But normally, the normal Muslim, they only pray for people who they know

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and that's why when there's a funeral you don't wait for an invitation.

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Yeah, there's a funeral prayer is no no no. Why you know there's a funeral closer just go

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and participate in the funeral prayer.

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There's one of the way you saw your your your tashia not just by word, but you participate in the funeral prayer and funeral pray is not only for the meal for every Muslim the more people who perform funeral prayer for a disease the more blessing from Allah horrible army

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and less and less

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is in a house and you know that that person don't like you to come to the house. So you don't think that now he's dead I can come no no no no no

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no if he's alive again he said get out. No, so he don't like you anymore. House is a private property that you have to own but it is in the must it nobody can stop you.

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But house you have to honor the right

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of the owner. We have the right not to allow you to come in

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that's why we want to go for Riah or anything also you must check

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you cannot just enter house without giving Salam if you give Salam you know people is inside. So I want to go no response. Santa Monica no response. Salaam Alaikum. That time no response. You go home.

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Don't force yourself. Can you can you imagine? People were so happy then immediately you walk in their face just turn sour

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is like a poison. Why must you do this to people? Are you happy to make people unhappy? No, don't do that.

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Now it is recommended to console the family and close one of the deceased. Yeah. The close ones of the deceased to reduce the pain, sorrow. Yeah, raise their hope that they are not alone. Yeah. We also missed that person and help them be patient and submissive to Allah. So if this person is close to you, what do you do?

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The minute you visit them

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as a sister to assist so what do you do?

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Yeah, you help them.

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Man, you'll help them

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and make prayer for them. Yeah, may Allah

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strengthen your Eman. Allah live that person more you know it's time for him to go it's not that Allah hit him I love him

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you just talk about positive thing

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but some of them you may encounter

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the person ending was not a good one.

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He was doing something

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drinking or gambling and he die.

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What are you going to say to the family?

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Neither you want to be judgmental.

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Leave it to Allah. Just focus on the family members. Know Me Allah protect us.

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And also we never deny praying for forgiveness. May Allah forgive him because we know there's one thing that Allah have mentioned in the Quran, that he will forgive all the steam that you have committed. Except sherek

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he may die it's not a good ending. But we pray he do not commit sherek

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then the hope for Allah forgiveness is always there.

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Yeah. Now, just recap you remember the history of a person killing 99 and make it 101 you remember a woman a prostitute? Whose profession is and doing all the Haram thing?

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But she has a good ending?

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You remember a guy also was some torture the cat some do not. Yeah, no show no mercy to the dog and so on. But they have not been a good person but because of the good thing they have done

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a lot just forgive all their sins. And Allah promised them Jana Allahu Akbar. Can you imagine how can we be so cruel and be judgmental?

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Where this guy may be, only Allah knows what really happened to him.

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We leave it to Allah, we don't have to talk about it anymore. Be silent. And that time maybe the family is it you know, you know where he died or not?

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Is it May Allah forgive him?

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May Allah protect us this?

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You don't go in and plus plus again. And then you go into you know that guy? He died like this. No, no, no, no you don't talk anymore. You just because the Prophet said let the Superbowl and what you're not supposed to talk and gossip

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about the dead person finish. His life has been

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whatever he has done, leave it to Allah

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is not good for us. But ness, nothing good to recall.

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Or the bad thing

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and nothing good to the call. Just try to talk about the good thing if you remember.

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Everybody have some good side. And also they have their bad side. And is that easy systems that are about good.

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Do that anything you can remember the good thing just talked about the good thing?

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Is that our children we love them so much if they are doing something bad?

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No, we also do not want people to talk that about them.

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That is not the wave to sit asiya

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now you're gossiping, you're hurting the leaving now.

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That's why even not yet believer pass away.

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You cannot show your dislike, leave it to

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white because you want to save the one who is leaving. Show them that you care

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that now they love they trust you. They are close to you. So later on you can do that or to them.

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You can do that to them.

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Yeah, it's not yet a Muslim, even the Prophet when and not yet Muslim passed away. If the funeral will pass in front of him he will stand up

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to show some respect

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For what? So that he can get closer to the family members.

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We are hitting not to curse anybody. No.

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No

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help them to have patient help them

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strengthen the idea the man must remind everybody is from Allah.

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We have to go back to them to Allah sooner or later.

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This is best done by saying things from the Sunnah, but may also be accomplished with any good words that serve this purpose. Without conflicting with the Shara.

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Sometimes we will be with a family member will be very down to you know, when he passed away, do you know what happened? You don't prolong that discussion. Cut it off.

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Just say to them, Allah knows best.

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We must have good feeling now you have children to take care.

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We don't want your children to remember that too.

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Then later on, you must try your best to find a better way to share that

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news.

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You can just make it very clear. Actually we do not know maybe so happened that he was there.

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Maybe he was

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at the wrong place at the wrong time.

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Maybe he is don't do anything. He's just be there.

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something may happen.

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People are dead because a law that you have to die there.

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so happened that your friend was doing something bad. You may have the good intention to go and advise them talk to them.

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They don't come to you you go to them. And then you die at that place. Can you say that? That's a bad ending.

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And you say that there's a vending, when there is intention to go there is to talk to you is trying to do that. What is trying

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to say is that ending if you don't know you become judgmental, you say bad ending.

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This way in many things in life, you have doubts. If the person is still alive, just

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if you want to know, you just go ahead and ask that person.

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If not, you don't create doubts.

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I normally inform my student before remember, I have a lot of friends who are not yet Muslim. My family members who are not yet Muslim, my cousin brother, my nephew who are not Muslim neighbor, they may be in one bad area. And suddenly they call me. Uncle, can you come? We need some advice when we have a friend here like this. What would I do? Normally?

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It depends in my free time. I may go

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and Saturday I went into the nightclub.

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So I had fun y'all was walking around that area.

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And you were talking to your friend about the Maya stars mesh study. So they said Come on, stop.

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By Are you going to say

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Wow, you don't know what to say any more.

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Nancy, you're set to hire a VA in the US China. Maybe you come and give salam to me. You just had an issue

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and then I holding a young lady there yelling is my knees.

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No, I went there to save her from the problem. But you do not know

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what is going to happen. So there's some that you have no right to talk bad about anybody.

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Either have right? If you have doubt you clear the doubt with that person don't go and ask other person a yoga. You see that thing is going to wire again.

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Why are you going to do that? Why are you going through an SSL you see me you just give Salam

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or maybe there is not me and then the person look like me?

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Oh, no one knows something.

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This is just example is very, very important. Very, very important example. I know we feel sad, but you have the right to us.

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Yeah, just example.

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It's not easy. Sometimes. People can be very judgmental. You must know why I go you can ask me then this man is

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I gave one simple example. When my daughter was staying in meta

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learning and helping the jelly and helping the non Arabs who become a Muslim, the Filipinos, the Thai, they have the Juliet in charge a woman and in charge of the meal.

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So my daughter was with the female group.

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So when I when for O'Meara hash, I'll call her and then they'll come and see me.

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And when they come, of course, you know, my dad is a loving daughter. She will have to me when we walk with a whole hand

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and suddenly my Jamal's with me.

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So Gemma, I went into the leaf. Yeah, we are going after to our room. And then now the Juma just came in.

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They just look at me.

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There's an example. The acquire is so easy for them to just ask.

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But I realized, like how the prophets time when he was with his wife, and then suddenly, some Sahaba just pass over. And then the Sahaba just feel shy and quickly run away, no, Prophet, call them back. This is my way.

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So but this when I sit down to this demand, this is my third, I thought it was to have the second one here.

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That's what will always go to my second home for Miranda.

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You see this a wash shaitan can come in very easily. So please be very careful here.

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We have the right to console everybody. And that's been Molly reported that Allah messengers said, the meaning whoever console his brother in an affliction that befell him that mean the test deaf or anything along with him with a green suit, with which he will be delighted on the Day of Resurrection, be when you console a person, you'll have them, give them all the good, positive feeling,

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to have good thoughts with a lot of people and a mean and move on here. Then a lot of blind men will close you with a green sheet with which he will be delighted on the Day of Resurrection, you see the reward that Allah gives us when you are positive.

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Know when you are positive.

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I know some time been human, if something bad happened to someone that we know is bad and but still we are not supposed to talk and gossip about them and then

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give encouragement for the living to move on. If they are not right. We hope that the children are right. Because the children can get sharper onto the parent. This is important

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because if you keep on talking about the negative

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is like you are motivating others to do negative thing No.

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That's why the Prophet said always follow up something that is negative with one with positive it it tabula say Allah Hashanah, anything that is bad, you can be something better.

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He already respond negative negative, it will work

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negative and positive.

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In the Quran, also Allah says in Surah Hood in our hashtag Nan,

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in Allah Hashanah, user headedness is indeed good things.

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Good thing will push away will erase that is bad.

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You must have that thing.

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With the help of Allah everything will become good.

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Is that easy to have brother and sister

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Shana when you

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when you ask Allah to help you.

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You're feeling very difficult.

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About our feeling that difficult to control. Only with the help of Allah that's why we must ask Allah for help.

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Don't think that you can do by yourself been human? We have all this word uncertainty. Here we have all this doubt and we love to entertain all these things. Even we are learning but we still entertain

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The next one, a show of kindness and concern.

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Offering condolence to the afflicted Muslim is an important expression of kindness and concern among the Muslim.

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This was best displayed by our Prophet sallahu wa sallam.

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karamo zanny radi Allahu anhu reported and when a last Prophet Solomon Sallam said in the masjid for teaching when he was giving a class, the steerer limb, a group of his Sahaba will sit with him, normally, the timer will come close to him. Among them was a man who had a little sign that will come from behind him and sit in front of him. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam asked him, Do you love him? to him?

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The father replied, or last message me Allah love you.

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Like I love him.

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I love you, I love him. Later on, the boy passed away the father grieved by his loss stop coming to the halaqa that means stop coming for classes, because of the

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the grief the father have

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a loss messenger missed him and us man de la falana

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Why don't I see so and so,

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he was told, or last messenger his son that you saw has died.

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So the purpose of some con, the summer the call for him summon him, consoling him and asked him you have fallen?

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Also and so what would you like better enjoying your child during this live or that tomorrow? The hereafter you will not reach a gate of Jana but find that he has preceded you to open it for you allow. You see that good feeling.

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You know that you love your son, your son is a good son. Suddenly Allah came before you normally you are prepared to go before your son. Normally, for a father to die before the sun is very normal common because the eldest gophers,

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but sad, then you'll see when the

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our children go first before us That really hurt us. I should have gone earlier.

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No, normally we feel that. That's why there are cases people were so close. When the daughter passed away, the mother passed away the next day.

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We have one orange.

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And this is the daughter of my old Jamal will be know each other from the early 70s. We were together with their family and their children are with us now. Alhamdulillah with the grandchildren.

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We are very, very close now.

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Suddenly, one day they was driving on the way to Colombo, they got involved in accident.

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And the father was hugging the mom. Because of the impact.

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I forgot whether the father is the one who passed away first.

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Then after a few hours, the next follow

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this kind of death from them

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is a lack of data again.

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Maybe the love is so strong.

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That they have been asking all the time only Allah knows.

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And they have that kind of ending. You know the level of Fatima to the prophets alone was so strong. The rest of the people do love the Prophet. But they didn't have that kind of feeling today

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earlier, so that they can we be with the Prophet. But Fatima asked the Prophet,

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only Fatima whispered to the father as a father, you have to go back to Alma please make dua

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and that alone will let me fully you as soon as possible that after you will be me.

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And because he she asked for it.

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So the profit made the prayer. And among the family of the prophet who passed away after the frog is Fatima

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but I'm not saying that you can ask your husband to do that. Yeah.

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I'm just taking this up people

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righteous people, good people.

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But you cannot commit suicide is haram. We have people who love each other so much.

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So the one who they love pass away, they also drink poison and die.

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That kind of love. Yeah, it's not Islamic. And because issue, they die as a normal death, you commit suicide, you will never be together,

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you will never be together, because you choose to have a bad ending, and just to have patient and move forward in.

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So the profit center, some is saying so and so what are you like better enjoying your child during this life? Maybe you left that you want to spend time with your children, or your grandchildren that can make you happy, or that tomorrow, you will not reach a good agenda, but find that he has preceded you to open it for you.

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I think that is what we all pray for. That's why in this life, if your children is busy doing all the good things, then do

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let them go. They want to seek knowledge, let them go.

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Encourage them, motivate them to do all the good things. Because if they will die by doing all the thing that plays Allah, they will also act as a shield to us to go to Paradise.

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What more important than seeing your own children in a day of judgment in paradise.

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Allah

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so you must always remember, you don't just stop doing what you have to do. carry on doing all the good thing when your child have a good ending?

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No, you thank Allah, oh, Allah hamdulillah me you accept all his good deeds, and gave him Jana.

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That's what you have to do. And then you know what your son like to do something your son have a good friend, he has a good teacher, you must connect yourself with the good people.

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So that when the teacher is teaching the teacher, remember, or this is the father of so and so

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is right today know a lot of the children and also the grandchildren who came to our class here. When I look at them, I remember the father, remember the mother, and I will talk about them. Do you know maybe you don't recall.

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We get we know your parents before you were born.

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Then we talk now that also is very important. You motivate the children so that the children will be very proud of their parent because sometimes children forget what their pattern is doing before. grandchildren totally don't have any info. Now, we will talk to the grandchildren sometime when they join our camp. Do you know who is your grandfather?

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We have to connect them back to all these family values so that they always feel good and proud to be the son the daughter the grandchildren of so and so.

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This very important thing that we have to have that kind of info. Now he replied. That day he is proceeding me to the Janna gates to open it is dear to me.

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He told him this will be yours. Of course the father when heard that the Prophet said that he was very happy. Okay, he will prefer the son waiting for him at the gate of Jannah

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this will be yours there so the answer of the prophet to this guy men have unsalted aos

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Oh Allah you know what is the insomnia?

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And some of the other people from Medina. Oh Allah. May Allah make me arrange some for you.

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Is that specially for him? Or is for all of us? who lost their children hearing bollock the color?

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The color of red is for all of you. As long as you own have that radar.

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You must have the radar. You cannot just grieve hate yourself. Complain why my son wine my daughter? Why am I you cannot do that

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is for everybody. That's why when we have children,

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we always spend time with them. Remind them of all the good things. I believe all of us love to see our children.

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If the children is old now we love to see the country

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No, they are just like flower in the garden know

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me so happy and

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even they are not that

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they have been naughty

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to us we is they are just active but don't use the word natya na, na da don't

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say they're very active, hyper active.

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Because something we are very disciplined people. We have grandchildren, only Allah not because the food they're eating no the junk food become so active that they just don't listen to you anymore. But you still have to have patient their children. And may Allah Subhana Allah make them righteous children. I mean

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and that's why when we want to be together as husband and wife, don't forget to make dua Allahumma gennep Nash jednom Nisha Tama deadness hi Tamara zatanna as a lot of protect all of you, so that Allah will give you righteous children with a Satan cannot whisper to the child.

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Because you ask a lot to protect

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you and your wife to have a good offspring. And what Janina shaytaan maharatna protect us from the Shaitan if you give us children so that our children would be protected from the Satan in Dubai is very important when you ask Allah will give you know, but if you do not ask, you just want to have a handsome by blue eye. brown eyes will not give you blue and brown.

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But then you have other problems.

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Then they have blue blue hair know that you don't know what to say anymore. know

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what to say is important. When consoling a Muslim is important to remind him of the triviality of this line that this life is full of tests, nobody can escape, up and down good and bad is part of the reality of life, that everything's belong to Allah and that one should submit patiently to his other

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revealing the beginning of this chapter and you talk about Canada and Canada, we have talked about that before. It is also beneficial to make him hopeful of Allah's mercy to what the belief one that he lost and that insha Allah, He will be united with Him and the day after which there is no partying a day that you will not be separated anymore.

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This will you are going to be separate sooner or later whether you like it or not, either because of work either because of other things. No.

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Because this word is temporarily. So everything is temporary, because the world is temporarily your time with each other is temporarily you know your food is temporary. You're fasting also one month in a year.

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Over there no more fasting hamdulillah.

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In Ghana no fasting in Ghana, no mana mass five times a day.

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In Ghana, no more Guinness record. No one need any soda from you. You don't have to worry. In Ghana, nobody will make you unhappy anymore. Because anybody who's in Ghana will be just smiling and happy. not sick anymore. In Ghana. No headache. In Ghana, no tooth ache in Ghana. No stomach ache. No. no toilet Can you made it

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that is tender. Aloha.

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So beautiful place. Osama bin Zayed reported in one of the messengers similar sandata send someone to summon him because a child of hers was dying. He saw the last cell I'm told and boy to say salam to her and tell her in Alabama he ma katha in Allah Hema occurs while in LA he Mountie wakulla shade in the holy agile Muslim

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family yes this video for this bill were

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accepted

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to Allah belong what he took in Allah Hema Casa

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and to Him belong what he gave and he is the one who give Marco Polo shade in the Holy ajilon masama everything is recorded with Allah

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At a point that the Muslim so let her be patient for the spirit and seek a last reward for her affliction.

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Now somebody went to call the Prophet none so that Prophet was talk to

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the person so he just make prayer. He just say someone said to Allah belongs what he took, he had the right to took back what belonged to him. And to Him belong what he gave. Whatever he gives you also is from him is not yours. We are just trust this just become a caretaker.

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Everything is recorded with him for a pointed term that mean your death and everything is been fixed by Allah horrible, Allah mean the time for you to go you go. So that's why it's important for us to prepare, why you are prepared when something happened. You are not that.

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I would say that you're not caught by surprise.

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Lately, today's

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video been viral is good. What people was talking in the office, he collapsed and gone. When people are talking to his wife, he was tending the wife was stressed in the walking. And then Sunday, he just fall and gone. And one there's a guy who was checking in the hotel with the family waiting, he was at the counter. And suddenly the counter was talking to him. Suddenly he just collapsed and gone.

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There people were just walking into the office for another meeting. Everybody was there and he just walked in half a near to the child where he wants to sit. He just lost control. And then he dropped and gone.

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And there's the last one that they show, musket ball player, he was moving around, you know passing the ball and then suddenly he just dropped and gone. Have you seen the viral?

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Yeah, a lot of thing is, is is been chatting in, just to remind us that we have to prepare ourselves

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because death can come at any place at any time.

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Now on hearing this, she sent again to her father,

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insisting that he must come.

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The proper son of some mentor with some of his companions, including being obeyed them as being Jabba obey being compensated in Sabbath and others. The Chow was put in the messengers lab is breathing, echoing as if in an empty water skin he's I shed some tears and so on exclaim How is that you are whipping or allowance messenger when you have prohibited as to cry, but if weeping is allowed to cry also is allowed. But there must be a limit, he replied, in iCloud, a cry of mercy for her and not to Vale. Allah only instill this mercy in the heart of whom ever he reveals of his sermon. Indeed, Allah does not grant mercy except to the merciful among his servants of Mahatma were

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in namaha melamine Abadi ahead Rama

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now if you cry just because of that feeling. It's not that they're wailing. It is a noun. And now the Prophet is telling us is a gift from Allah to put that feeling of mercy in the heart of every one of us.

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There's another Hadith The Prophet said in either hum mantra or hum Comanche sama. If you want the one and the heaven to shower His mercy down upon you, you must show mercy to the creation of Allah. That's why we must show mercy to the creation of Allah, especially human.

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If you look at what happened before

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people worship heroes, they should these are great leaders, but these leaders have killed millions of people.

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And we say they are heroes.

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They have destroying

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all the innocent children, mothers, or the old people, they just kill them without showing any mercy.

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And they even say that because they are

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black. They don't deserve to live. We are white, this world is only for the white. These are leaders where we learn about their history and talk so good about them. But later on you go back to the history again, you'll find how cruel these people is. How inhuman these people is.

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But those who do not know for sure

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They are heroes.

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They are all killers,

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the terrorized country, the week

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and we, as a Muslim was taught by our prophet

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to show mercy

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even to your enemy

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one day surrender, you must show mercy to them, dress them fit them attend to their needs, if you can't serve them anymore free them

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so that they know how to survive

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Yeah, is that any months

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you can fit them fit them you can fit them the animal in the zoo

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no sponsorship anymore, but they have to survive what do you do?

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much we do

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bring them to their nature to their fit Petra

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and then let them free to know how to survive by themselves.

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This is an exam you have no right

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to just keep them and you can fit them

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and then you let them die

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in the best not in the best manner in the worst manner.

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You remember, somebody will go to hell just because of that because of what dog cat because of adopt a cat. Can you imagine if you will torture a human

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you deprive them from food and drink you prison them, torture them?

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Even to anyone you go to hell, how about human?

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This is an example in show man see.

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If we have helper at home should you show mercy to your helper so much?

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give them enough food.

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Enough friends

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shoman si

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si and the prophets of Allah does not grant mercy except to the merciful among his servants.

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Commenting on this Eman nawabi said the Prophet sumsung consoling statement here is the best to be set for consolation always be positive in

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bowrider been

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reported that Allah messenger used to look after the unsolved people in Medina visit them and inquire about them.

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One day he was told that an answer woman was extremely grievous over the death of her only child so Allah messenger ran with some of his competitive visit and console. And he said to her, I have been informed that you are sorrowful for your son. It tequila in fact tequila was Berry, have Taqwa of Allah and be patient. That's what the prophet always remind the people who have been afflicted with all this masiva now see what she said. She replied, how can I not be sorrowful when I am now childless, having no other children. The Prophet said a true Charles was a woman is that whose children remain alive, not offering them for a lost cause. Whenever three children of a Muslim man

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or woman die and they say a last resort for this, allow them into Jana because of it. That means the Prophet is trying to to Charles woman is that those who have children who are still alive, but they are not faithful to Allah.

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These are traveling because the child is not going to do anything he can help you.

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Neither you can help them

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because they choose not to follow the right way. Do you have children sometimes people have so many so many children but these are doing haram thing this one thing or the bad thing? Now are you proud to have all your children with you, but they are very dis obedient to Allah.

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But they give you money.

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They give a driver they give you a big house, but they do all the Haram thing. How do you feel? Are you happy with the council?

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Normally sometime Yes, you are proud.

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My son is doing so my daughter is doing so but they go against a loss. They are against Islam. they disliked the Islamic rule.

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What can I do this is the worse. Even you have physically they are your children. They cannot live with you. If you are

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Good mother.

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If you are good mother is really a big trial. You may cry but they don't care.

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I don't know whether you're happy or not with that kind of children, but they give you money.

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They send you the tour and I'd be very first class first class first class.

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My evil team that is what times the children you want them. You are the poorest.

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You are the poorest in there you have children that children cannot benefit you anymore.

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And that's what Allah did mentioned. Remember that your property and your children will become a big test to you and they will come your enemy

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in

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profit no have one child who go against him. And

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now he's very tough.

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But three Paulo and hamdulillah

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Amara de la Anna who was sitting on the messengers, right side us,

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me my father and mother be a ransom for you. How about two children dying because the property about three children? How about two children? The profit if I was Nan, also to no problem to also can in admin, yeah, and help you to go to Jenna to be a shield. We have also said that elated Allah messengers somos somos state to console on Salama when Abu Salah Medina and we present it in the next section of what he said in consolation to the family of his cousin Jafar.

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Now there are many other Heidi's talk about this even a one child if you have only one child in a lot of blood, I mean is going to bless your child. He died as a righteous child, he will be a shill for you not to go to Ghana, because he would say Oh Allah, I cannot go to Ghana without my panda. Oh my I cannot go to Ghana without my mother.

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So your upbringing must be good inshallah you will not regret

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teach your children how to read the Quran pray teach them how to fast and if you know their children is very hard to wake up for project you have to wake them up.

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Something you have children that after training them, teaching them reminding them still you have to wake them up.

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But you have to do that.

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And you had to wake them for support. Yeah. Remember when you wake up as a whole even your children say I don't wake me up mom. No, I'm okay not wake them up. Why is a horror

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there's a lot of blessing, we hope that they will also get the blessing and that's why we encouraged people to bring their children for classes for activity because in that environment, they're a special blessing. So we want not only we receive the blessing on our children have the blessing together. Yeah.

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inshallah so May Allah subhanho wa Taala prepare all of us for this coming Ramadan Brandon sister. Don't forget two things. Number one is if data before if the main prayer and always when you ask Allah for thing brother and sister. Don't be selfish in your da don't mean me me all me? No.

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It's not good for you. You want your family? You want them to be together if you are here together in a class you want to see all these beautiful faces again?

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Yes, I didn't say oh my shall die. Sharon is right there and see the cottage see the poverty and all the good sister Mashallah.

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Then you recall a lot of good memory

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in Sham

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because Jana is huge. Jana is huge.

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And we all try our best

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to forgive each other for the best. Pray for the best. Prepare for the best.

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And always prepared to do more in the month of Ramadan. We have a lot of activities coming up.

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Whatever like to join us in this activity just let us know. We are sending our team now out

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to check

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the background of the poor and the needy is with their name has been sent to us

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Just to make sure that we have full record on them that they are genuine people who receive

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who can receive h band one and so on inshallah.

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So we keep everybody informed about the big days, but in the earlier formatting you will see if you're here in the morning, there be a lot of people coming in already, and whatever we can contribute, we try to contribute

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to make their life better inshallah.

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So is there any question now we open for q&a for

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any question from Nancy's aroma?

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There's a question from a sister who is breastfeeding.

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And she wants to know if he's paying philia for the Ramadan that she's not fasting, can he pay? Does he pay the whole month? Or can she

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days she normally Will have her menses?

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The day when she has what medicines.

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Now we know when you have mentors, you cannot fast anymore. But while breastfeeding, you can still fast but you must ask us check with a doctor whether it's recommended for you to pass and you can still produce a meal for the child because the baby have right upon you. This is the time where Allah subhana wa Taala is showing us His mercy that when you are having that kind of situation, you can break your past and you can redeem because breastfeeding is not only one man, you will have to breastfeed the child if possible for two years.

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So that means that you need to be healthy to produce healthy meal

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for your baby.

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So if you think that you will know about your body better that you have to break so you break the fast and you pay the fee do

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you pay the video? Yeah.

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It's like traveling those who are traveling. So pricing if we go for camera in Ramadhan example while you're on the fly if you want to break your fancy Okay, you are traveling but we feel it so difficult to pay back outside of Ramadan. It's better for us to fast my islamically you can break your fast

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yet as long as we're traveling.

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Yep.

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Normally when you are traveling, you break your pants when you arrive and settle down then then you can continue with the local

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yen because you're asked quite stable that they're ready.

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Yeah, if the time is now is somewhere in Europe that mean the day will be longer. So and if you want to consider yourself as a traveler, you can still consider that travelers. Then you can bring your funds how you pay back when you come back to Malaysia.

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No, there is the opinion from scholars Some say three days some them two weeks, from three days to the maximum of two weeks.

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There is the opinion no nothing from the hotties

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from the Hadith the Prophet become mama Sophia for even 20 days. Some companion was a moussaka even for three months. So it depends. It depends but always remember sister that's why we have to plan for our traveling here

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whether we should travel at that particular man and we missed the Ramadan

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there's a lot of different you pay back a demand then in ramadan

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ramadan have a special kind of blessing

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in need for a journal for medical treatment and nice okay then you can break your fast when you're not well you should not fast that's why fasting is not the torture as is to train ourselves. But when you are not wearing the prophecy don't pass even allows it

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whoever are traveling maarit are suffering to determine am in occur. If you're traveling and you are not well don't pass

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Yeah, no problem. You can travel

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past the man is the man in the tender profit the engagement

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In war because the enemy wait for that man they know this the man the problem the Muslim don't eat don't drink, then they become weak. They are not strong, but they underestimate the spirit of the Muslim

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and Allah give them victory. Yeah, obvious because they are doing everything for the sake of Allah

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when you go there for a mission you go there for a reason is okay no problem. But the thing that is not good if the intention the intention, I know as a traveler I don't have to fast I can break my heart so Ramadan I like to travel

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so that I can break past that knee your intention is not to train yourself

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is training power our own self

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is like the people say first among those who have money they just want to travel so they don't have to pay Vidya No. intention is for the nuns who suppose Yeah,

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go salam wa

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Salatu janaza take the mic

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Serato janessa

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you know that somebody or a Muslim or so called Muslim doesn't do the five prayer Islamia

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when he or she dies. Can you do you join the salado genizah or do you reset stay away?

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In Malaysia

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you have some reminder some time. Yeah, it is past the old road. Normally the older signboard. So my hands bloom Commodus mountain,

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my endless balloon Commodus Empire say pray before you know if one people to pray for you, you start the fray now. Example. Now as a Muslim.

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We keep we pray a strong dear Muslim, we pray

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unless you know that person has inform you. I don't believe in Islam anymore.

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You have some children will tell their parents don't call me to pray because I don't believe anymore. I'm not a Muslim. This religion is nonsense.

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They mean they have that mindset that they don't believe in Islam only they don't change their name.

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No. in public people still call them with a Muslim name. But deep inside they have make it very clear with you. They inform you don't come into play I don't believe this is nonsense. This is this is nothing disgusting. What is this? He don't do all this in front, you know this, then you stay away.

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You see, the time the Prophet those who are monastic. That mean the outlook, they are like Muslim, they like us pray, but inside, they don't believe there is the monarchy.

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So the Prophet was given the knowledge about the trauma. So the Prophet never performed the prayer for them.

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When they somebody died, and Allah Allah give the info to the Prophet, that he is a monastic, the prophet will not pray for will not attend the funeral, but he did not stop others people who do not know

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that is the rule.

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So if you know for certain that this person doesn't

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perform the five minutes No, doesn't pray, because of what they are lazy.

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Or because they are ignorant, ignorant, not interested to learn. Yeah, then the ignorant but not not interested to learn. Yeah, they are still ignorant.

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Those who are ignorant, they don't

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know when they learn they are no more ignorant. Yeah, they prefer the life of dunya. Sometime you have this tip. Now there's two kind of sin a person who know the law and they do not follow, but they do not deny the law. I know. But it's my own weaknesses. Maybe one day not now. I'm still young, maybe maneri 17 sharp.

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I will start to pray. No, I didn't go to Makkah yet. When I start to go to Makkah, then I will change my life. But they do not deny but if he or she said to you, this praying is nonsense.

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is a coup for denying one of a last command in the Quran is like denying the Quran.

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When you deny the Quran, there's no money man.

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So, that is why we must know whether they do not pray because of laziness. They got the wrong information. People say no problem. You know when you start to pray in the future, you can make other you can pay back pay back pay back, no problem.

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And then they got misguided.

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They got the wrong info. And that's why you see now there are people you go to Makkah, they put on the leaf sometime near the floor, before you enter the lives, they say wherever you want people to come down for the Miss prayer, no can contact this number, you know, then

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we can negotiate how much no problem they mean if you want to say, I have not been praying for 10 years. So what to do now? And they will if you contact the number they'll tell you how long how many prayers No, then their markup and then the calculator the computer, their smartphone, or for this kind of prayer thing, but these people are Liar Liar, cheater You know why? You know why what they will do the account to their own calculation, one prayer in Haram is that 100,000

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so they collect here they collect they collected

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and then they see you I must you must pray for December to them. Because they are business minded. They are so easy. This is just one prayer. Count 100,000 Yeah.

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Reward colosse

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big business going on. You see religion become

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a business today. May Allah protect us. As long as they do not deny

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only their witnesses.

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May Allah forgive. We know that Allah said he will forgive all sin except sherek

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nom and now the last question, Nam sisters are two more okay.

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salam wa Taala

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the husband of a friend of mine has just passed away

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not yet Muslims. And

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the week is at it's not at the house but at

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the Divina memoria Okay, so as Muslims

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Can you bear busy can we pay visit to the new one not the house but

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Victorian area yeah the Prophet never stop us visiting but you don't have to go there alone god there's no value by going there alone.

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If they need your company I was thinking of visiting after visiting the living one yeah the show that then we do feel for them No, but we are here for you in case you need any help No, we're here in case I would like to go and visit if they don't drive you know how to try Can you drive me then track them no problem. Okay second question is with regard to the risk ratio the flowers because friends are collecting you know money for for wreath you know

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to

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to give to her to her family

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as a Muslim can we contribute to the living yes go to the roof.

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Oh, okay. Okay, all these flowers and so yeah, no, we don't do that okay. Even amongst me Don't do that

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if you want to give the money to them for the leaving the family, so this is some small contribution from the collection is now what they want to do is leave it to them we can give it to them and to show that we do care because the leaving have to keep on leaving you know when somebody pass away something you have a problem about property

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or whatever property the bank know they are going to freeze it they frozen in so this is the time they need money

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and there is a time the law

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in the frozen that they are the property so that's why we have this problem men problem is always there. And that's why the profit obviously might help them so we should try our best to do question pass don't go and buy on other things. You know that way? Yeah. Correct. Yeah. But that the first thing is very important. Can we visit the grave because the Prophet visit the grave of his family? Yeah, and also the companion also when and visit the grave of their family who die and they are not Muslim.

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The only thing the Prophet said that a lot do not allow me to make prayer for them. But a lot do not stop me from visiting the graveyard.

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Because visiting graveyard also remind us about there.

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But when you talk about people who are not yet Muslim, if they need your company, you can bring them along. No problem.

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Yeah, that's one of the way to do Deus sisters right now.

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When it comes to lambda, I was just wondering

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for the death of a child in a miscarriage, is it considered same as a child who's died? Yeah when there is a soul, okay. Yes, when there is a soul. Now,

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when is confirmed there is a soul living, then only that Allah Kadar that he will not survive in the third world. He and the second part of the world from the download

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from Allah Allah. He goes to Archie, then he transferred the LM Rahim. Then he he or she and then those who survived that Rahim then the alum dunya then Allah marusia then alum, Akira, your five year stages Yeah. Allah

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Alam, Rahim alum dunya alum barossa or alum Kubo then you have alum

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the final alum Yeah, one day is a soul yes

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Sharla May Allah make it easy for all of her sisters and today is that unique we have all the sisters hamdulillah normally we have some brothers around only we have one Mashallah

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but the one over here to the hamdulillah. Anyhow, please remember you can alert your husband to that

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do understand the spirit the importance of if time the prayer before if they are so that they know that they should honor your right to have some privacy to make prayer and then the Sahara don't miss your soul. And remember, remind your parent also or remind your your your loved one not to have heavy if someday some fruit water repair and always prepared before it start

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to do before or after.

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Because after installing then you're gonna pre migrate.

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Yeah, so always prepare we don't want people to just we join the wait is window then the food is ready for you ready? You just go and take your word do and then sit and make one. The third song is on the Anson Margaret and Daniel Bismillah.

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And remember the do I remember the days of breaking the fast? The Hubba dama obatala the ORAC was Sabbath sabbat Elijah insha Allah make that in. So May Allah help us brothers and sisters, and we will accept our this forgive all our sins and make this Ramadan the best for all of us. will be later victory woulda, coulda. hamdulillah Allah Subhana Allah.

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Allah Allah Allah enters Dr. Kawa to Bala salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.