Ramadan 2017 – Save Yourself – Part 2 – Episode 2

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Lecture 2 of the Ramadan Series of 1438H 2017

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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smilla rahmanir rahim In the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala Most Gracious, Most Merciful Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah He was happy.

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We praise Allah subhanho wa Taala we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire household, all his companions May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless them all. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala bless every single one of us, grant us goodness, in this beautiful month of Ramadan. May Allah accept from us the fasting that we are engaging in as well as the standing at night in the voluntary prayer known as tarawih. It is indeed an honor to be standing in the midst of 1000s of people with such a melodious recitation, wherein the time is not looked at because it is in contact with Allah subhanho wa Taala. This is indeed something unique. And I find that every time

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there is a recitation, that is correct, it actually is hair raising, and it actually affects the soul before anything else. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the true impact of this poor on me, my brothers and sisters yesterday we spoke about how important it is to save ourselves from falsely accusing others of committing adultery and fornication from spreading rumor about others, that which is false about them, because not only would we take the sin of what we have engaged in, but there is a chance that we will also be taking some of the other sins that the person may have committed in his or her life. And where do we get this from? None other than Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam, he

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says, Do you know who is a bankrupt person at aduna? Money Muslim? Do you know who is bankrupt the Sahaba. They used to know a bankrupt person just like we would no one who doesn't have cash, no savings, not at all. So one who doesn't have gold and silver? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, that is not what I'm referring to, I'm referring to he or she who comes on the Day of Judgment with a heap full of good deeds, a lot of good deeds, they have their Salah, they have their Sokka they may have many other good deeds, their recitation of the Quran, their voluntary prayers, etc. But as they come on the Day of Judgment, they have bitten this one, they have slammed that one,

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they have eaten the wealth of this one, and they have wronged that one, you said something from this one. So their good deeds are actually given to those people. So panela Initially, the bad deeds of those people come to this particular person, and the good deeds of this particular person, go to that person. Imagine you come with a whole pile of cash, and that cash is given to those you owe the wealth to and once it is depleted, you collect their debts until you are a person who's totally bankrupt. May Allah subhanho wa Taala safeguard us from this. This evening. We'd like to look at those who accused their wives of immorality, and they don't have witness to bear that particular

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witness. They have no witnesses. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says it is extremely dangerous. You don't just accuse your spouse of something. However, remember my brothers and sisters, if someone makes an accusation, based on what their eyes have seen, because they no longer want to live with that spouse, then they need to bear witness through the correct channels. The idea is never to disgrace an individual. But the idea is to get the justice that is followed and deserved. So it is not good enough for us to go out and expose our spouses though those whom we've shared a bed with, and those who perhaps we have children with, and we go out and say the worst things about this

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particular person in the public. What benefit does that have absolutely nothing. If we don't want to live with them, there is there is a respectable way of doing that. And that is known as bollocks it is known as divorce. Divorce is something that is very very frowned upon but it is permissible as a last resort. It is part of the mercy of Allah. There are some cultures that do not allow divorce. Some faiths do not allow divorce in Islam. It is permitted as a last resort as the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So, Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about this in Surah a no which is the 24th surah of the Quran and he makes mention of a very interesting fact. And that is

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A person bears witness four times, using the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala, that he has seen his spouse, engaging in the act with another person. And he swears that he is truthful. And he's and then the fifth one is where he takes an oath, that if I am a liar, then the curse of Allah subhanho wa Taala be upon me, upon Allah. and thereafter, the female would be a witness for times that he was a liar. She did not actually do that. And the first time she would say, if I am telling false or if I am telling that which is not the truth, then May the anger of Allah subhanho wa Taala be upon me or if he is being truthful, may the anger be upon me. This is something known as Leanne. We don't

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have the time to go into details, but it is showing us a respectful way of parting ways. If you feel that there has been promiscuity or infidelity from a spouse, may Allah subhanho wa Taala protect our homes. That having been said, my brothers and sisters, it is only correct for me to make mention of the disease that has spread like wildfire in society, the disease of doubt and suspicion. Doubt has no cure. It is like a cancer that eats into the best of relationships, and you destroy the best relationship just because you're doubting, you're suspecting that doubt and suspicion has no place in the heart of a movement when it comes to the dignity of another person more so your spouse, may

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Allah subhanahu wa taala safeguard us from doubting people break up a beautiful relationship just because they are doubting they are suspicious. So their character changes their conduct changes the way they speak to their spouse changes. That's not good enough. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us all that having been said, Let us not give reason to our spouses to doubt us. You know, you're sitting late at night chatting with someone and sending all these hearts and these hearts that blow up and start pumping on WhatsApp. You know what I'm talking about? And it's two in the morning. And then you tell your wife Didn't you hear what the chef said? He said stop doubting. But you are

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giving me reason to doubt you. That's the thing. You are doing something that is so foolish, and you are using this as a password to get through your sin May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us all and grant us all the elevation in status. I mean,

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then there is a very interesting thing that we need to protect ourselves from. When rumor is spreading. Be careful whom you are talking about. Sometimes it could just be a friend of Allah subhanho wa Taala that you are spreading rumor about and as a result, you may be cursed by Allah subhanho wa Taala. I want to make mention of the story of our Sharia law that is made mention of insurance. And no. It is known as hardy that will lift the story of the great fabrication in verse number 11 of the sewer comes with a clarification of the name of our Sharia law, the purity the chastity of this great lady, our mother, Sharia law is revealed in the Quran. And we read these

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verses to this day Sudoku. So what had happened is after the Battle of

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam was moving with the army and they had stopped at a certain place and I was in this hole that she was in the covering on top of the camera, they normally would remove that and put it aside for the women not knowing who was inside so that they could perhaps relieve themselves or they could perhaps take a little bit of a stroll, etc. As she was seated there she realized that her necklace was missing. So that necklace that was missing she went to look for it. And as she was looking for it the army had got up, they lifted this holder, they put it on the camel, and they began to move not realizing that she remained behind when she found her necklace or

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when she realized that this army had now progressed leaving her she set foot in her position until one companion came by a beautiful man. He who was known for his dignity and his responsibility, truthfulness and trustworthiness. He was sworn in.

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As he came by, he noticed this black cloth and he realized this is a female, he stopped and he realized also that this was a Sharia law. with utmost respect. He offered her a lift back to Madina munawwara and as they had entered Madina munawwara the hypocrites were waiting because they knew that I was missing and when they saw the two of them come together, although he was not on the top of the ride with her he was

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actually holding the camera out of respect and working with it. They spread the rumor that these two stellar federal law I don't even want to say what they say. But they accused them of immorality. And this word the the family of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. The father was Abu Bakr Casa de

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Masha Allah, Abaddon ambia, the best to click the earth after the prophets of Allah subhanho wa Taala acidic, and the person they were speaking about was known as acidic a two minute acidic.

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The most truthful or the truthful, the daughter of the truthful Subhan Allah, she was

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the wife of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what an what an accusation. Allah subhanho wa Taala did not reveal revelation clarifying this immediately. And the reasons made mentioned by Allah, that Allah subhanho wa Taala wanted the people to fall into the categories that they would fall into, just like what would happen in our society, there is a rumor before the clarification of it, there are some people who don't believe it.

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There are some people who believe in there are some people who believe in and spread it. And they were those who created the room. These are all categories of people. So we need to ask ourselves, which category do we fall into? Whenever rumor is being spread? So Allah subhanho wa Taala then says, In surah, a new verse number 11, in Allah v. nyjah. be excused, excuse me.

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While Larry Java Lang Kiba. Who loves

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me, Allah says, Indeed, those who have come with this fabrication, those who had fabricated against it,

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they are a part of you don't think that it was bad for you. In fact, it was good for you.

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Why does Allah say that? I don't think it was bad for you. It was good for you. Well, let me tell you the goodness when rumors spread point number one, you know, a few days ago, I heard someone spread a rumor about me. So I told the brother who came with the tail, my brother, I don't want to know, because I have so many sins, I need people like this so that they can carry my sins for me. So Panama, because I learned in the surah, that it's not bad for you, it's good for you. You might struggle in this world for a short period of time. But what law he in the long term you have only gained because if you've had since you've committed by them spreading rumor about you, they will

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carry those sins. So don't we need people like this? May Allah subhanho wa Taala, grant us ease, let's not carry the burdens of others. And we should realize when someone spreads a rumor about you there is goodness. Secondly, you get to know who is genuine and who is not. They say you have so many friends, they all smile at you, they all greet you. But the genuine ones when there is a difficulty, you see who defends you behind your back. And who doesn't. And this is why I say if we want to improve the condition of the law, one of the ways of doing it, and talking of the social community, meaning the social relationships that we have, one of the ways of doing it is to speak

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good about each other behind our backs. And I promise you if we do that, and we promise that we will only say good about one another behind our backs, we cannot go wrong, society will improve our relationships will improve, it will become worthwhile living in community and society because each one knows good about you. But today we have the opposite. You have 99% of goodness, everyone only speaks about the 1% of bad that may be in a person. Let's change that my beloved brothers and sisters. So Allah says it was not bad for you. It was good for you. And we want you to know that every single person who participated in this rumor spreading and in this accusation will bear that

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portion of the sin. proportionately they will bear the sin. And the one who created the tail Allah tala keeper who minimum The one who had actually ignited that entire room and the entire accusation, he will bear a great punishment. That's what Allah subhanho wa Taala says. Now one might ask, you know, what should we do if this has happened? Like I said yesterday, we need to seek the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala. There is always hope the doors of Toba are wide open, and we need to be bold enough to go to those whom we have wronged and seek their forgiveness. Don't let it just be a wholesale WhatsApp message. I do know that people send WhatsApp messages. But when you have really

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wronged someone, then you can do better than that. You can call them you can visit them you

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can see them and so on. You don't need to just sin if I have done anything wrong to you, then triple m, you know triple M stands for make me laugh. Have you heard that? If I have done anything wrong to you then triple m. so karnala that could mean anything. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us is that means you don't even know if you've done something wrong. Yes, if you have not done something wrong, and according to you, you really have not heard the person, then indeed, you have every right to say look, I haven't heard you knowingly. But if there's something I've done unknowingly, please forgive me. That's fair. But if you know what you've done, two things you need to do seek forgiveness and go

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and unwind whatever you have wound in the past. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make it easy for us. So Allah speaks to us regarding saving ourselves from this type of rumor. by mentioning to us the response of a man like Abu Bakr on sorry, on the inverse number 12, Allah subhanho wa Taala says Luna is Amira to move on.

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Obi had the believers when they heard it had you when you heard it, not uttered the following words, thinking good of yourself that this is indeed a fabrication. What does that mean? You see the wife of Abu Belen, Saudi Arabia? Lavanya. She asked him, did you hear what other people are saying about it shall be

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immediately he said, remain silent. Would you do that? She said No, I wouldn't. Well, she is cleaner than you and hire Subhana Allah, would you do that? No. So then she would definitely not do that. Imagine one movie and foresee him Hi, Ron. They thought goodness about themselves. If I can do it, I'm sure she's cleaner than me. She's harder than me. She's better than me. She's closer to Allah than me, then definitely. It's out of a question. However, if they said this is a clear cut fabrication. That was one category of people Allah praise them in the Koran. But my brothers and sisters, we have a problem today. The problem is, if you ask someone, would you do it? I don't even

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want to say what the answer would be in today's community and society. And this is the reason why we think that others perpetrate crimes similar to us, because we are guilty. That's the problem. We are guilty sometimes, you know, if you sit and you ask someone about a religious person, they would say I wouldn't put it past him. And the reason is, because you wouldn't put it past yourself as well. May Allah subhanho wa Taala Forgive us, it's just reality. It's a fact check my brothers and sisters, when we improve ourselves, and we develop a link with Allah, you see another man automatically, you're going to think that he probably has a better link with a loving you. So you

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think goodness of him. You see a man walking into a nightclub, the first thing that comes to your mind is Whoa, what is he doing? I had a feeling every time I saw his lips, he did look like he was on drugs. first thought that comes to your mind. And later on you find out Subhana Allah, that that uncle must have gone in there to remove his son or his daughter, or for some other reason. And then you say no, that was just an excuse, even after you hear it. This type of thinking is very negative. It destroys society. My brothers and sisters, if you really want to help, don't think bad go up to him say Uncle, I saw you in the club.

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SubhanAllah the uncle might say, Well, what were you doing in the club to see me later?

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So my beloved brothers and sisters, remember Allah subhanho wa Taala says, those who accept this type of statement with their tongues accepted with your tongue, meaning you heard it and you spoke about it immediately. And they thought it was light.

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They spoke about it, you hear it and then you receive it and you give it and you think it's light. And Allah says in the eyes of Allah, it is very, very severe. Listen to the verse, verse number 15 in tala Kona ob I will see nothing Kumar, taco,

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and remember when you received it with your tongues, and that means that when you actually got hold of it with your tongues mentioned it with your mouths this rumor and you think it's something like and in the eyes of Allah, it is something great. It's a huge crime. And this is why we all know on the Day of Judgment, they will be the scales of justice. Allah says one about only now as he noticed

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What can I miss Carla

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Akina Bina waka Fabien CB and we have placed the scales of justice on the Day of Judgment. We shall be wearing absolutely everything. Nobody will be oppressed on that day. Even if it is a mustard seeds wait with the dean it will be brought to the book. And Allah subhanho wa Taala says,

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Father talamona sushi, no, so shall be oppressed, even in the lease. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease on that day, so they will be the scales of justice. So we are taught that the mercy of Allah dictates that if your good deeds are more than your bad deeds in weight, you will go to gentlemen, how's that? How is that? Imagine you have the scale, one side tips, the other the side that tips the other side, if it is bad, the other side it will be ignored. If it is good, the good is not ignored. That's the amazing Mercy of Allah. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, from takuna.

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Those whose right hand of the scale is heavier, those are the ones who are successful, you did more good deeds than bad. That is success. All of us seated here. All of us listening to this later, every one of us who will view this later, we all have skills, none of us can declare that we have no sin. But when your good deeds outweigh your bad deeds, you have succeeded. This is why keep on doing good deeds. A young man came to me telling me I'm hooked on to pornography. What should I do? I really don't want to do this. It's dirty, but I find myself addicted. Every time I go back to him. I told him one of the ways you engage in is to increase your good deeds because it's like a seesaw.

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The minute you increase your good your akara increase your Salah is increased your mo Do you read the Quran, you are in good company, your bad will automatically decrease because it's like a seesaw. Remember this. So if Allah subhanho wa Taala has told us about these scales, we have one major issue that we are unaware of sometimes the weight of the DS, we don't know or we take for granted. Why do I say this? Because Do you know La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam is a very small statement, but very, very heavy v heaviest statement on the scale. There is a hadith known as Papa where a man would come on the Day of Judgment with 99 files filled with sin. Each file

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is from the east to the west since and suddenly as they are placed on the scales and justice is being served, one card will drop out of one of the files. And on that car it would be written La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam and Allah subhanho wa Taala will ask the angels to place that on the right side, because this person has attended with complete conviction and belief one time in his life Subhan Allah and when it is put on the other side of the scale on the right side 99 files on the left side, guess what will happen? It will tip the scale Subhanallah it will tip the scale that's the power of the statement. But the level of sincerity differs from person

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to person. The level of sincerity differs from person to person, you never know what Allah loves. There are conditions upon which a person may be in that make it difficult to wear a scarf on the head, but they still do it against all odds, they are not equal in reward.

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With that person who finds it so easy and still does it when some is in front of you, and it is so easily committable and you still do not committed you deserve a feather in your cap. You deserve a bonus and extra reward. Because there is another person who abstained from sin, it was not even present in front of him. There is a big difference, vast difference when you want to do something wrong. And then you say Oh Allah, I fear you, I'm not going to do it, or I love you, I'm not going to do it, then you deserve a special status on the Day of Judgment. SubhanAllah. So when we accuse people, Allah says you think it's light, but it's actually very heavy. It actually can change the

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balance of the scale. This is what it is. I give you one more example. One day one of the wives of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam commented about another one that she was a little bit too short. Now this was in her absence. And you know, we say shorty that's even a name. It's somebody's name also, you know, and they don't mind. It's a short he says yeah

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You know, we even call people fatty subpanel I have a cousin, we call him fatty and he says, yo, Allah, that's how it works. But remember, if the person doesn't like that name, it is a crime. While aterna zoomobile

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do not call each other bad nicknames, you're allowed to call nicknames, but they need to be good and they need to be loved by the person whom you are calling, using that name. So remember this, my brothers and sisters, when that wife of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam uttered the statement, it was sorted out immediately the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says, Allah He, if you are if what you said, was in the form of ink in a droplet, it would change the color of the ocean.

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And what was the statement? Short Subhana Allah, may Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us imagine how many oceans we would have changed in color? May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. So these verses are dedicated to us in order for us to be able to save ourselves from calamity and disaster in the dunya and akhira. by protecting our talents, how beautiful is this? So Allah subhanho wa Taala says quite clearly,

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while Allah

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Subhana

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Allah says and had you when you heard this rumor said that, indeed, this is a lie. It's not befitting for us to say such words, it is a lie.

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So sometimes people say dirty things, you should tell yourself, you know what, this is too dirty for me to talk about.

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You know, I once saw a person who was Mashallah looking quite religious. And I heard them use a bad word. And I called them and I said, you know, my brother, this word doesn't suit your face. He said, What do you mean? I said, Your face is so mono or you know, your face looks so beautiful. It looks like it has some more in it. And the way you are And the word you use, the two don't go together.

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And this is what happens with us dignity and self respect is something that is called for when it comes to a Muslim May Allah subhanho wa Taala. grant that to us, I want to end by making mention of something that happens to all of us. You know, nowadays, we are living in the age of social media. I spoke yesterday about Photoshop and video shop, etc, we receive a message right? Before we even think dictated it, it's forwarded already, we have a dirty clip, you know, what's a dirty clip, it could be pornographic, triple x rated, double x rated, or just x rated. I hope you know what that means.

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And what we do is we laugh, because it was just a joke. And we forward it to someone and they forward it to another person, not realizing it was so sinful, because it had in it immorality. Don't spread it. The power of deleting,

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develop the power of deleting a message that is immoral.

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And you will develop a link with Allah subhanho wa Taala. Again, I challenge you, when you see a bad message, a dirty message, do two things. The first thing, develop the power to delete without even thinking delete. The second thing, you need a little bit more power to do the second thing and that is send the message to the sender to say please don't send any such messages Done.

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Done. If you're ready to do that you're linked with allies punished up you have saved yourself from great calamity and disaster. But you need to know this. My brothers and sisters listen to the verse. People were spreading tales and they like to spread things how this person committed adultery. You know what she did? She went here, she went there. And he did this and he did that and they got together at this place and they did this and that one did this to this one. And all the moral stories Allah says it's not good enough. It's not the sign of a movement. Listen to the verse, verse number 19 of surah Alou in Lavina you're a boy buena Tashi insha

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Allah

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dounia

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those who love to spread immorality among the believing males, females, for them, there will be a severe punishment in this world. And the next

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we just say Come on, I was only joking. Allah says no not about that. You joke but there are limits to joking. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us all. inshallah we will continue tomorrow aku Kali hada Rasul Allah, Allah subhana wa barakato ala nabina Muhammad Subhan Allah Subhana Allah.

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Allah, Allah Allah