Islamic Manners #14

Hussain Kamani

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Today we continue from page 66 shift on to Fatah border akmola with Allah titles this the manners of offering condolences. Yes

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Marine Corps love the manner of offering bonuses when offering condolences about the plight of a relative friend or acquaintance is Mr have preferable to make dua similar to the following graph for your deceased brother. This is a two hour which was who loves them. Allahu alayhi wa sallam said it. Almost Selena audio was

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at the death of her husband in summer the Love on Her was one of the wives sort of lost a lot of money.

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When her husband passed away, she was devastated and very heartbroken. And in her heart, she felt that she would never find that same love and peace again.

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So nobody said a loved one he was sort of taught her a particular dua to read. And

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lots of Hannah mourtada had a will that later on, she would become one of the Omaha's meaning. And she was honored to be the companion on a sort of loss that a lot of money was sent. So the DUA that visa llamada he was sent them reciting at the passing of cinema, yes, love the sentiment about fat diligent

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enough to tip.

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But for now, we are not allowed

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to review in our level D or love for him to set on the low on living status among the guy that people and look after the family that he left behind, oh Lord of the universe, forgive us and him comfort him in his grave, and let him stay there.

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So the law is so comprehensive, that we sort of love money with certain focuses first and foremost on the disease, the one that has passed away, oh Allah forgive us who sell him elevate his status among the guided people, then there'd be a lot of sort of makes dua for the family that he left behind.

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When the disease leaves the world, there is a whole group of people that were related or connected to that individual whose hearts are broken, who are trying to figure out how to live life now that their beloved is not with them. In mother or father, a friend or relative. So there are people so many people that are impacted, maybe said Allahu Allah He was sent a mixed laugh for those that are left behind. And after that sort of loss and along wanna he was sent in,

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he makes dua for the congregation or Allah forgive us and him. It makes as it closes, he says, comfort him in his grave, enlightened state in the grace, yes.

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It is desirable that your conversation with the grave person be aimed at lightening the effect of the calamity. This could be done by mentioning their work, patience over that time, maybe the transitory nature of life on Earth. And then here after is an everlasting book. When you do convey condolences to a person, if there is someone that is experiencing loss, and you decide to convey condolences to them, it's important that you show empathy first and foremost.

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Sometimes what happens is that you go to convey condolences to an individual at the loss of a family member.

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There's no empathy you're making do as for them, but that person almost feels insulted.

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They feel insulted because you're telling them to be patient. And they're thinking you're telling me to be patient without any empathy. It's as if you're dismissing my emotions and my feelings? Do you not understand what I'm going through?

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So when you're giving doulas and before you convey your condolences, the first thing is that you need to convey some level of empathy.

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Whether it's saying a few good words about the disease, that I've heard great things or have had great interactions. I remember uncle would come to the mesh that he was one of the first people to establish the Muslim community in America in the city. So and So person was a regular at taking care of the orphans. I remember this person when I was young, he used to give candy to me, you know, so you show empathy you show them

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that person meant something to you. And if you don't have that relationship with that individual, then you can say that I can see that person's legacy in you, I can see that person's legacy in your family. That individual, even though I didn't meet them, must have been someone very great. Say a few good words, then the next thing that's very important is that you acknowledge and maybe verbally even say to the individual, that the reality is, I can't imagine how heartbroken you must be.

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This is a great time to maybe reference something from the seat of your suit and mouse in a long while, and that even the messenger of Allah was heartbroken when his dear family members left this world. And that was a prophet of Allah who was spiritually so strong and it was so connected to Allah subhana wa, tada, I can't imagine what you are going through.

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At that time, if you think appropriate, maybe you can even ask that person. Is there any story that you feel comfortable sharing regarding your deceased relative friend, is anything that really stands out?

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That person now has an opportunity to open up their heart and share a story that you know, Bob, I used to come home and hug me everyday after a long day of work. Baba had a temper. But at the end of his temper, he always embraced us and told us how much he loved us. I saw him working hard. I saw the sacrifices that he made to put us through Islamic school or get us in the environment of Islam that will be needed so much. While we didn't understand it, at that time, Baba understood it, you know, these are stories that are perspectives right? Now that person will have a chance to speak, you've shared something from the CETA you've asked that person to share a story or two. So now the

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hearts are soft. And there is a bond of empathy there. This is now your opportunity to share an eye on on or do other sort of masala memes and

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that the Prophet of Allah Umali Salam was also tested by Allah subhanho wa taala. And Allah subhanahu wa Tada promised him this, this and this, so many MBR he's adding some more tests about Allah. And this is an opportunity for us to reflect over that period in their life, and how we can now bring that into our lives. A word or two very simple, very brief remember makalah waka Pharaoh Maka Torah? Well, Allah, that which is a little insufficient, you don't want to start giving like a whole two hour by two hour lecture, to give like a timer to yourself, whatever, I'm going to say I need to get it done within four minutes. Within four minutes, I need to pack in everything that I

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wish to say. And then hand it back over to that individual, and let them say whatever they want to. So this is a sort of rubric, some framework of how to give condolences to someone that has lost a family member when you go to sit with them. Duck try not to step out of this rubric that we're offering you. Because when you venture off unless you are very good at communications, you're going to botch it up. Chances are very high, and you're going to cause pain and hurt to that individual, you're going to be an inconvenience. So Sheldon fatawa continues to offer us some advice on how to carry out these gatherings. Yes. In this respect, his desire to reiterate certain verses

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that are connected to that are some of the well spoken condolences of our ancestors. You may mention virtues such as the following

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give glad tidings to those who patiently endure who give bad tidings to those who patient within there who say one afflicted with a calamity to Allah subhanaw taala we belong and to Him we return they are those who descend blessings and mercy from their Lord and they are the ones that receive guidance not to say

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in words I will never do rock on young women. The men Jersey Hannon Nereo the

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man higher hire

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every soul shall have a taste of death, and only on the day of judgment shall you be paid your full recompense. Only those who are saved from the fire and advantage paradise Jenna will have attained the object of life for the life of this world is called good and shadows of deception. So the iron rod warning

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all that is on earth will perish. But Allah subhana wa Tada will abide forever, the Face of your Lord, Most Gracious, Most Generous. So I'm on 26 and seven, he presents these ayat of the Quran as a great reflection in these moments. When you offer condolences, you need to kind of ask yourself at what point in this person's grieving process, am I speaking to them?

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That this individual just lose someone half an hour ago, maybe, depending on how close you are and how think how you think they may be willing to listen to you, quoting an IRA or two could be beneficial.

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Usually, when someone close and dear to me passes away, I follow up with them twice. The first is, within the first few hours, when I hear the news, I usually prefer to send them a voice note that way they can listen to it at their own luxury, whenever they feel is appropriate for them to listen to it. It'll usually be three or four minutes long with some laws and some notes.

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And then, one week later I follow I try to follow up with them again. And that's where you can sit down and quote these ayat of the Quran and help them make sense out of their emotions and and channel what they're going through to Allah subhanho wa Taala that's where these ayat of the Quran are very fundamental. They're very important. Because

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when you experience so many emotions in your life, people are generally trying to find something to hold on to something that makes sense.

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And when someone else comes to them and quotes in I have the Quran and gives it the correct perspective.

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It changes their mindset.

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In Islam, grieving is very important. Yet at the same time, we don't encourage people over grieving. There's like not grieving at all, which isn't a good thing, but overdoing it is dangerous. And it's actually very dangerous. If a person doesn't limit how much they agree, people just sit there and soak and allow that water to just stay still, not only where the water spoil, but anyone that drinks from it will also be spoiled. The society the impact of people, prolonging their grieving period is not only limited to an individual, but it impacts the society. This is why in Islam, when you look at the jehadi practices of grieving Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for the most part said

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Allah and Allah, Allah and Allah, Allah Allah, Allah has curses upon those practices.

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It I mean, someone's grieving in a particular way. Why would Allah is Lama go to them, it's a best an individual sin, someone would assume. But in reality, these are not individual sins, when they become custom. Society shuts down, people are no longer function, they go into depression. A lot of this was a big thing. When someone passed away, they would read these manavi This is the type of poetry that would be the mafia. And the concept was that you would read poetry that would describe the pain at the separation of the beloved one, and they would read these poems again, and a week later, they'd read it again and a month later, they'd read it again. And the wounds that these

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people were trying to stitch up would be ripped open. Women would come and hit themselves and they would cry. They summon maneuverable food or shock culture you what the Aveda heylia That person is not from us who hits their cheeks. This is something they would do they would hit their faces, while shuffling Zubin tears open their collars. They would do this to show their pain. What the Aveda will Jania and this person makes it diny pre Islamic calls of of ignorance, the days from ignorance. So maybe Soleimani was gonna prohibited all of this, that he WIA that people commonly quote regarding the recent Allamani was sitting prohibiting women to go to the graveyard. Most people don't finish

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off the WIA. He caught the first part, we're gonna visit Allahu Allahu wa sallam says Allah and Allah was that your

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last curses upon women who visit the graveyard. But that's not where the narration ends. The narration actually continues and it says when the TV in LA has Soulja Allah's curses upon women who visit the graveyard, and they place candles on it. This was a practice among the Arabs that after someone would pass away, they would almost camp out at the grave. And then the pain of their separation from their beloved one would become so heavy on their heart. So now you had a whole society of people that were just soaking in pain, maybe sort of Lohani was said, I'm teaching this to you the Islamic approach to how to deal with the pain of the love and the closure is real. It's

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not just in words and celebrated falsely. That's what you have to be

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Careful when it comes to looking at pictures of those that have passed away. If you're able to look at a picture and just serve it, that picture just serves as a memory and then put it away. I can see the utility to that. But for most people, when they look at the pictures of their deceased friends or family members and carers open those emotions again, and for the next two days, they're crying. For the next three hours, they're crying. You have to be careful of how you balance this. So

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maybe Sinhala, Holly was sort of teaches us in Islam, how do we find closure at the departure of our beloved ones. The first thing is we do something. When someone's passing away, we encourage them to say lie, lie lie a lot. You don't necessarily instruct them to say it, but you softly say it in their presence hope, hoping that they say it too. After that individual passes away. In Islam, we have a concept of deceit where the family members wash the body closure, that theme, you shot the body, some more closure than salata janazah for the whole community and opportunity for some closure making to the scene everyone again, closure, walk towards the graveyard for your beloved Muslim

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brother or sister and participate in the burial. After that person has passed away stamina has given us some days that you can utilize these three days or so to mourn or be you know, kind of deal with your emotions. And then after that, you need to get back up on your feet and continue with life. No one's saying it's going to be easy. But sitting around isn't going to make it any better. This is where now if you want to continue to build, you know, work through what you're dealing with. Islam offers you this beautiful gift, beautiful opportunity of Esau with Allah, where you make dua on behalf of the disease, you give some of on behalf of Trustees. So everything's very practical, it's

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very real. And if someone needs they can speak to a therapist, speak to a counselor, someone that can help them deal with those emotions. And it's at this point, so there's that first face, where the southern occurs when the calamity occurs that a little word or two of condolences go a long way. And then it's at the second phase, where they're now at that four or 567 Day marker, where if you come back and say a few words, the impact is profound, too. So the point that I was making is that when you do offer your condolences, you need to ask yourself at what point in this person's grieving process and my offering these condolences and then cater your words accordingly. Yes.

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Here he shows us a beautiful dua that will shortly be read. If you recall a few moments ago I said when I was selling my passed away from Selma was very sad.

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And she felt that she would never find love again like that. So it'd be so long Lonnie was said and

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he said to her read this dua and ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada will give you what's good for you. And this is a beautiful blog to read anytime you face any calamity. You know, we're in the middle of a pandemic still. I don't know if this is the beginning, middle or end of it. We don't know. But we're at some point. In this pandemic, somewhere along it we are and every day there's a new calamity a new story we face

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this was one that we should have at the tip of our tongues and they were constantly reading

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it God read it.

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You may even mentioned a hadith

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such as

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love imagine a female slave that you are it's a firearm in all reward me my calamity and replace my last with a veteran. This is the cinema for the ALA Anaya a long journey a long journey if you will see but he was lovely Koyomi yes

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if you recall I shared that this was the dog and the Beast Allahu Allah. He was set in red when his grandchild passed away in the house of Xena but of the

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Zenodo the Allah Han has child was passing away she called him he said Allahu Allah and he said him. Maybe you said Allah who it was sent him sent the messenger back. She then told the messenger that I want my father here. So the messenger came back and said a messenger of Allah, Zainab is insisting that you come. So at that point, I sort of lost that a lot is sent him even though it must have been so difficult for him to be in the room that his grandchild was going to pass away. He enters and then when he greets sir, he says this. He says this statement here in that Illa Hema, aka for Allah is what he took.

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Whatever you're in pain over, you're in pain over it because you temporarily built a relationship with that animal with that belonging with that human being whatever it is that that person loss. It's because for a short period, you built a relationship. But ultimately, that soul belongs to Allah long before you even knew it existed.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala place the righteousness in that soul before it even entered into this dunya for Allah Maha for Judah with the law

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and this soul was beloved to Allah and Allah subhanahu wa Tada sent it to the dunya.

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So that some people may interact with it, and so that they can benefit from it.

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But at the end of the day, since it always belonged to Allah, one day, the soul will be the body and that body will fall in that beloved servant of Allah will be turned back to his Lord or her Lord. So the people in the world feel pain, that it's not every day that you meet someone that you can love and someone that loves you in return. There's pain there, serious pain there. But it'd be a lot while he was sort of teaches us through this.

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The right mindset in that Illa Hema, aha well Aho

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Mata and whatever he gave belong to him, what he what he took belong to him and what he gave also belong to him. Well, collusion and the whole big Riemann sum and everything is set in it's a lot of time with the muscle panel. You know, how a project manager will tell you everything has a fixed time, that everything has to be done in this time in this time frame during this timeframe with Allah subhanaw taala everything has a timeframe to

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this teaches us that while we have those people with us, who love us and who we love in return, we should benefit from them.

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Because these souls are given to us in this dunya so we can benefit from them. Allah subhanahu wa Tada allow us to benefit from them. They say at the passing of a scholar, Mozilla Alimi, Mozilla ilm, the death of a scholar is equivalent to the death of the world. Because a whole generation of people are now left deprived and thirsty at the passing of one individual. Sometimes a person can have such a great impact. Yes.

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Anyone else Allah gives the taste belongs to him and everything is predestined by him. Super variance comes in line at Mount

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St. Paul Rohilla Agha Yoruba baboon our VP erotica yeah go Rocky.

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This two hour was read by Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when his own son Ibrahim bin Humbert passed away

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Ibrahim bin

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Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he I mentioned that he said Allamani was Saddam was looking at Ibrahim and he was a small baby struggling to breathe in a sort of loss and Allamani was sediments crying, someone said, O Messenger of Allah. Are you crying at the death of a child? They thought that crying altogether was a giant thing as if Islam doesn't want people to have any emotions when someone passed away.

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So to be said, Allamani he was sent him said in a line I said Ma well tell via that indeed. The eye cries in the heart reads well and a photo Illa Yerba Buena Oh, in Euro the Euro burner that we do not say but what pleases our Lord.

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We're in beef erotica. Yeah, even Rahim. Llama Zulu. No even Rahim, your departure has surely previous we are very sad at your passing away. Yes, go ahead.

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Also, it is very appropriate to use some of the sayings of the pious predecessors in this regard. So yeah, I'm gonna offer some scenes of the set of scholars the past things that they said at the passing are regarding death. Some of these statements can be used in a situation like this.

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Say dinner I'm going to go up on the low on used to say every day we are told so and so has just died. Most definitely. One day will be set on that alone. Yes. Sunniva. I'm gonna

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love it said the person who has none of his father, forefathers between him and automatics. And I'm alive is indeed deep rooted in depth. That's every one of us.

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You know, your ask yourself, Is your grandfather alive is your great grandfather alive, your great grandfather alive? All of these people have left the dunya so you as an individual are also deep rooted in death. You'll find people who share stories of the passing away of their parents. And one day you will also share this story that Baba is no longer around or mom is no longer about. Yes.

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illustrious dad Harry has invested a lot

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Donna said, oh son of Adam, you are nothing but your days, whenever a day passes away, a part of you also pass,

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you are a combination. insaan is a representation of time. Because that's all we have. And every day that passes by every moment that passes by a part of us leaps. If you are an ambitious person, if you have a dream, to do something big with your life, if you have a desire to serve the deen and to bring change to the world that you live in and leave behind a legacy, you can't waste your life doing silly things. There are 1,000,001 distractions that are out there.

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There are 100 and 1000 things that you can do. Just pick up your phone and you can lose a few hours just by looking at your screen.

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By one of these gadgets and a few hours can be gone there. Pick up a camera, start taking pictures, yours will go away.

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Right? This is basically the world that we live in that for everything there are distractions and distractions and distractions. But as someone who may be ambitious, if you have a dream, if you see people around you who have done something with their lives and you say that I want to do this too, you're going to have to take all these distractions and go put them in the box and lock that box and ask yourself what can I do with the life that almost has given me? How do I become a better human being? So what if I'm young people will tell you you're young you will learn when you grow up. Don't wait on those people. Right? You want to learn when you're young. You want to develop yourself while

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you're still young. People talk about how senior scholars at some point in their life experience the love of Allah experienced that love in your teen years experience experienced that love while you're still in your 20s and then build on that to unlock with the laws and build on that relationship with Allah subhana wa Tada. Why wait till your 50s and one foot in the grave? Who knows if we'll even make it that far. People talk about stolen so became an alumna when they were at an older age. Become a scholar of the game when you're young. The famous Hanafi jurists, Imam Muhammad Hassan Shivani, he studied with the Mambo honeybourne body and became a much the hidden the mother had been

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one of the greatest fathers in Islamic history. Muhammad Ali, how old was he when he studied with Imam Hanifa? Anyone know?

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1718 years old. He spent no more than one or two years with the model. And even with the money. He didn't spend that long. He didn't spend years and years with him. It was a few years that he spent with maximum three years. This young man though had a mind. He was very committed. You think he was goofing around and killing time letting it fly by No, every day of his life structured, he had a purpose behind living in this dunya. So you are nothing but mere days, whenever a day passes away,

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a part of you also passes away. It's as if there's a mini Naza that should occur for yourself everyday.

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Right? I mean, he didn't. And that is for you to say stuff for law stuff and a lot of stuff and a lot because a part of you is lost. With every day that passes going.

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He also said well are day that the ultimate resting place of the believers will be paradise no less. person invested in a love of God a student not in the not behind Allah. God said, the wedding of the one fears love will be on the day of what didn't hear him in celebration. Right? The wedding here means celebration that their celebration will be on the Day of Judgment. There's another famous word of the poem.

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He says, Joseph the gig was our regard Amazon Kitara most IQ score he eat kitchen Anita

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that the one who spends his entire life like we spend our Ramadan. You know, people are very particular and punctual and Ramadan, the one who decides to spend their entire life like that. Joseph, the Eagles Ortega and Amazon Ketola want to spend their entire life treating every day like it's Ramadan, most ideal score eighth good chance, at the end of Ramadan. On the 30th or 29th night when Eve is announced, you know that giggly exciting feeling you have that's very difficult to even express. You're just really happy that it's here. So he says the one who spends their entire life as if it's Ramadan, their death will be the announcement of aid for them.

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As they're leaving the dunya there'll be a little bit of joy there. They'll be a little giggly and happy that it's time for me to leave this thing. Yeah, right things wait for me tomorrow. Yes.

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Oh, it said, We rejoice at the passage of days. Whereas each day that passes brings us closer to that.

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Another poet said in this regard, we don't offer

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Elon says to you because we are serving on life, but because it is the practice of our religion for the console and the consoling may live today, tomorrow, though they'll manage

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a suitable poem in this regard as we die and every night and they are sleeping. One day we will die and oh boy. Another poem describes how oblivious humans can be of death. We in this world are like passenger past passengers on a ship afloat. We think it's still running is the book. I have quoted all these appropriate morning quotations, because I've witnessed many people engaging in discussions that do not suit such a sad occasion. This adds to the distress and anguish of the brief. This is also contrary to the style and etiquette.

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So this Chicago to put up with the close off the chapter

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of passing on condolences.

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Your words mean a lot, or they could mean a lot.

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You have to be selective and careful and thoughtful.

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Don't be dismissive. Yet at the same time,

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support people and help them understand that to every calamity to every challenge, Islam offers a perspective.

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And that perspective is that we are all on a journey through dystonia.

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And today we hear someone that's passed away tomorrow we'll hear another person that's passed away. And it's only a matter of time before we will hear that we have passed away.

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When a person leaves is dunya maybe said Allamani he was sent him says that we either fall into one of two categories. Miss study one almost a homerun

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either You are Miss study home or you are

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Miss Tara home. Meaning mystery home means that when this person leaves his dunya they are relieved of the pain and anguish of the world all the worries, all the concerns, they won't have to worry about another alarm clock.

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They won't have to worry about another meeting.

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No more IRS tax payments. No more electric bills will study. This person is not relieved. They don't have to worry about anything. All the Khalif all religious obligations are now lifted from this person. You lift your you live your life in the leiomyoma. Well, you've completed that Rama, if completed the world where you were given the opportunity to do deeds. But then there is a second part to this, which is that as a person leaves, some people might be Mr. Romney. Which means that when they leave, they're not relieved themselves. But as they leave, they are relieved other people, people feel comfortable, not that I'm humbled, that other has gone. That punishment that torture

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that human being who brought nothing but pain and misery wherever that human being went, we are not relieved of that person. This is what the Hadith refers to as misstara Hmm, I mean, some of that now people say I'm not sure

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that so so on. So human being left to dunya. So this is a once we hear people pass away, it's a moment for us to reflect

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Which group are we? What legacy has been left behind? If we were to pass away in this moment, what will people remember us for? For a good voice for a lot of wealth, for having beautiful features for dressing very nicely. Having a nice car having a nice home. No one's gonna remember you for any of this.

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Maybe one day or two days, they might say something,

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if even that, by the way, but then there are other people, those that time in history seems to be unable to forget are those who touched the hearts of the people.

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That Allah subhanahu wa taala gave them the tofield to bring change in humanity.

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And this doesn't necessarily require a lot of knowledge. It requires humanity. It requires insomnia. It requires empathy for you just to sit down next to people and listen to them, show them some love. Be there for them in their times of joy, and also in their times of sorrow. Opening up your door, your arms, your heart, your wealth for such people.

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You have to learn to do these. You must learn to do these things. This is how you leave an impact. And if you don't reach out to millions of people yourself, you must know that you might just touch one person who will then touch the hearts of so many people.

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This is Mr. Young, that person

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Who in that elite dunya. They are now is Tara hominess a bit Junior. Now this person has been relieved of all of the pain and burden

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that this world offers.

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One advice that I'll give to every person in this gathering.

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Most likely we will all be spoken to by someone for the sake of Tassie meaning we will all lose.

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But before you lose someone,

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know that the day that you are tested by Allah is the day that your eemaan will be tested. Every son of yours will now matter. Every liquid you did your entire life will be brought into question will be under spotlight.

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Everyone in the heavens and also in the earth will begin to look at how do you handle the situation.

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So long before you are ever tested by Allah develop a level of loyalty to law

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where you submit all of your affairs to Allah and know that every small calamity you face in life is just a small little warm up for the big game. For that big challenge and you're Allah protect us and never test us beyond our abilities. But it will happen.

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It will happen. I don't know in what form but everyone's gonna get tested. You must build a relationship with a must

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learn to call out to Allah and your moments of being alone. Learn to say to words to Allah before you go to sleep. Learn to remember a law when you wake up in the morning. When you see someone facing a calamity in your mind, just check in and remind yourself that this is the reality of life that today someone is tested tomorrow someone else's tested. Keep saying that statement. In not in not in not in not in not in love or in not in a rod your own. If you learn to deal with calamity in your life, and you somewhat become like an expert at dealing with it. I'm speaking from a spiritual perspective. Tomorrow when you get hit with a big calamity, you might be able to stand strong.

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Otherwise most walls come crumbling down or the waves come crashing against it. Or they come slamming against it. Those walls come down. We've seen many people spire

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some losing their Eman, some losing their Deen, the water has smashed into them with such ferocity that they couldn't even stand on their feet. And

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so the whole journey of life is understanding that loss of Hannah Madonna is founded on a condition. He's capable overall. He is Ollie one big Coalition, a hot topic coalition. His knowledge encompasses everything, he knows everything. But so you don't be conditioned. So me, I'm a politician, he sees everything, he hears everything. He is a showerhead. He is the now that a lot smarter than I was aware of everything. And every interaction in this world, every single interaction in this world is an opportunity for us to commit spiritually once again, in our loyalty to Allah spawn. That's what every interaction is, as you're sitting here, right now, there's an

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opportunity for you to attest your loyalty to Allah. That's what Vineya is. That's what life is, at every moment, there is an opportunity for you to be loyalty.

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That loyalty may come in the form of liquor, it may come in a physical form or you do something for someone, it may come just through your heart by acknowledging that there is a duty to Allah in this moment. And as you continue to go through this very dense and complicated path in the world, there are some moments that are more difficult. So we ask Allah subhana wa Tada to give us patience in those moments to

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this thing that he's saying here, learn to give good condolences. This is very important. Because dealing with a masiva a challenge on your own is not easy. Therefore in Islam, we are told will also be in Santa Fe. Allows Miguel says when asked to be in that in Santa Fe that indeed mankind is and last when it comes to time in Medina Amanu Well, I mean Solly Hart, what also will happy what's the last one?

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What the loss of his southern except for four people mankind isn't lost when it comes to time except for four people in the last of these four. Who is it? What are also some of those that are there for one another in times of patients?

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Yeah, you were living at Amherst bureau. wasabia sabinillas babymel fanarts mean Johnny bean. Yeah, you're looking at I'm gonna speedo, wasabi wasabi. Yeah, you're looking at commonspirit Oberholzer believe Be patient, wasabi, but a sabido me

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encourage one another to be patient. Stand by the side of one another. Go look at sudo to Baja, ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada says,

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familia tema ferrata Amasa ala Ferrata. Go look at cinema

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or Italy you can even be Dean fatale calorie. You don't really write all these verses that I'm referencing. A loss mantra is speaking ill of people who turn away from others that are neat.

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Believer doesn't do that. When you see someone struggling, you don't walk past them. Every time you see someone being tested by Allah, whether it's a car accident that you're driving past, or someone that's standing at a traffic light with a cup in their hand asking for

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some food or some money, or maybe it's just someone camped under a bridge, because they don't have a home to live in. So they're living in a tent.

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Or someone in a busy Downtown Center, that's probably just pushing a trolley with all their belongings. And every time you see someone that is tested by Allah, if you do not feel anything, you must know that you've lost a part of your humanity. There is a part of you as an ensign that no longer exists.

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Doing something is another level, doing something for that person or giving a Contribution. That's level two. We'll talk about that later. But whenever you see someone struggling there should, there should be something that happens in your home. I always tell the children that are with my kids, when we're driving on the road. If we ever see an accident, I always tell them make dua, stop whatever you're doing 10 seconds make dua for that person. If we drive past someone who was injured and we can't make dua for them, there's something wrong with our insomnia. We're not human beings in

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what the loss of an hottie mother was so.

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So that's why the Muslim that's the author here is speaking about advocates of dassia Giving condolences because we will need to be there for each other.

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When women in the community have miscarriages, other sisters are going to need to stand up. When we have domestic violence in our marriages. Unfortunately, people are going to need to be there for support and help each other out. We can't walk away. When someone loses a job you need to go and support them.

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Support them doesn't necessarily mean give them money. Maybe that's when you can do

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but at least going to say two words to them.

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So when you do go to fulfill this responsibility, the author gave us these beautiful guidelines on how to fulfill this duty while ensuring that we don't offend anyone or hurt anyone in the process. Pray that Allah Subhana Allah without grants also feel and makes us from those that are there for our brethren in their time of difficulty. Enjoy. What sort of law without that sort of employment, somebody can work with life. I don't