40 Ahadith of Imam An-Nawawi 35 – Brotherhood The Bond of Humanity

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Today inshallah we are starting with Hadith number 35.

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I'd be Hodeidah are the Allah Han Allah. Allah suit Allah says Allah Allah he will send him a

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The hadith is narrated by a Buddha or the Allahu Allah and the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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Do not be jealous of one another. And do not inflate prices for one another and do not hate one another and do not turn away from one another. And do not undercut one another and treat but rather be slaves of Allah and brothers. A Muslim is the brother of a Muslim. He does not oppress him, nor does he fail him. Nor does he lie to him. Nor does he hold him in contempt. That law is right here. As a preface to the law, he was appointed to his chest three times. It is evil enough for a man to hold his brother, Muslim in contempt. The whole Muslim the whole of a Muslim is in a in is haram is prohibited.

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For another Muslim, his blood, his property and his honor. The hadith is narrated by email Mr. Muhammad Ali.

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So in this hadith as you have heard, just do the translation.

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It's full of so many messages in so many lessons. It's a very powerful Hadith, few and words. But this one Hadith in itself, if implemented, our lives will change our communities will change. And we'll examine this in today's class. The first thing the prophets of Allah, Allah he will send them starts off with and you'll notice one thing in this hadith and also the next Hadith, in these two a hadith enamelware Allahu Allah is focusing on different elements of brotherhood, how to establish proper brotherhood because establishing proper Brotherhood is the necessary ingredient for a successful society. If people can't be brothers with one another if they can't get along, if we

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can't have sisterhood.

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Societies internally will collapse. The foundation itself will fall apart. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam teaches us these very important and invaluable lessons. The first thing he says a lot to hustle to. Do not be jealous to not be envious of one another.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam starts off by telling us the one thing to stay away from, which in reality was actually the first sin ever committed.

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The one thing that really pushed Jai THON off from being a worshipper from being an obedient servant of Allah subhana horadada. He saw the creation of other monies that I'm in jealousy fell in his heart. How can someone who came after me be better than me? And many of us get caught with this. Someone comes after us someone may

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be younger than us, someone who hasn't been in the community, as long as we have someone who hasn't studied as long as we have. And all of a sudden they're got ahead of us. And jealousy starts. So here he starts off the prophets of Allah Holly was salam reminding us of the very first sin, and also upon for us to reflect over how that ended. How that ended, shaytaan became Energien. How that ended as an element of his jealousy. He then tempted either Molly's sedan which took him out of Jannah and brought him down to the earth. Jealousy never ends well.

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So I'm Gianni Allama Janica, who took it early in his body fat, while defining the word hassad. He says, it is to desire, the decline or the loss of the blessing for the one that you are jealous of. So if a person is jealous of another person, jealousy in its meaning, is for you to desire that that person loses that bounty, that favor is gone away from them, that blessing of Allah leaves them.

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You see someone who has a nice car, and in your heart you think, I wish that person loses their car, you go to a wedding, you see someone getting married, you look very happy on the stage. In here, you are still single, you think yourself, I hope their marriage falls apart. You don't want to see someone else being happy, someone's engaged. It bothers you that one of your friends got engaged before you do. And in your heart, you start thinking you can't tell anyone, because that's the nature of jealousy. You know, that if anyone knew of what you carry in your heart, you would lose all respect and anyone that ever respected you. So Jealousy is a dirty little secret that you keep

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in your heart. And you think to yourself, my friend got engaged before I did. They got a job before I did. They graduated before I did you know they got into college before I did. So I hope that they lose what they have. This is the definition of hustle. Allama What are you doing to La eonni while talking about hustle he says that no that indeed Jealousy has a is a very disgusting and blameworthy characteristic. Not only does it harm your religion, but it also harms your body as well. It also hurts you as a person. Physically it hurts you. It'll mentally distract you. It'll play a toll on you.

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He says it is enough to know that it is so harmful jealousy that Allah subhanho wa Taala in the Quran tells us to seek protection. Woman shabby Hassidim either hustle, I seek protection from the one who embodies jealousy who is a jealous person when he when he is jealous.

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The person who is jealous, in essence, has a problem with Allah subhanahu wa Tada.

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And the problem that he has with Allah is He is displeased that Allah subhanahu wa Tada gave someone more than what Allah gave him. or Allah subhanho wa Taala gave someone something different from what Allah gave them. Allah so kind of without it says in the Quran, or some VEDA whom it shut down, that we are the ones who distribute and it's not your choice that who becomes what, who becomes a physicist who becomes a physician who becomes an architect and who becomes you know, a biologist, this is all in the hands of Allah subhanahu wa Tada. You ask that Allah subhanho wa Taala gives peace in your life, you ask that Allah subhanahu wa taala gives you contentment with what you have

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in your life.

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Now, there are different types of people when it comes to jealousy.

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There are those people, many of whom and yes a few knucklehead Alika LFC. There are some people who will see a bounty and they will want that bounty. Okay, so they will want the person to lose it. And in return, they would like to gain control if I wish that that person gets divorced, and loses their beautiful spouse their obedient, kind, loving spouse, so that I can go and marry that person. This is an this is a type of hesed that another type of hassle is well, I'm going to whom and yes, our fee is added to here I will Massoud the fact that mineralia nakulan Ilana FC the second person is someone who wants to be Massoud muscled means the one who you are jealous of the one who they are

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jealous of they want them to lose that bounty, but they don't want it for themselves. They just don't want you to be happy. So the scholars they say both of these are bad, but the second one is very bad. For the first one you can see there's an element of greed there and the human being became weak to greed. So that's why they wanted what they saw on another person. The second one is just outright evil. You don't want it tears for yourself. It bothers you that another person has it. So this is self discovery. As I say this is the worst of the two. If you're I'm gonna be Allah one there's an air

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ratio narrated to a weak narration that at least partially know that at least set to new heights and if NuTonomy Hema oblique bunny Adam, that there are two things that cause the destruction of the children of other monies Sarah

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and hazard, or Bill has a deeper into what you need to say Thailand ojima. The first of the three is jealousy. And then he said it is because of jealousy that I was cursed. And I was expelled.

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Well, here's the second is greed

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will be Adam agenda to Kula Adam Ali salaam was given access to everything in Jannah, except for one free and shaytaan fed an element of greed into the heart of Hala and Adam. And then they went after the one thing that they were told not to go after. And as a result of that, they were sent down to the world soldier who even ever dunya dunya narrates this particular narration. Now, there are another type of people that they experienced jealousy, but they don't act upon it, they fight it. In their heart, they feel bad that another person is more successful and other person has more. They don't act upon it. They fight it off. They keep telling themselves I have to be content with what

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Allah subhanho wa Taala has given. I shouldn't be happy with another person in their heart. They keep thinking that let me go put a few nails in that person's Maserati. It'll be so easy no one will see me but the fight enough to say No, I won't be jealous and I won't hurt that person.

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For this person, hustle and bustle. You don't have a hula hoop God I said Latham will be Delica he will have no cinema. Rather, he may actually be rewarded by Allah subhanho wa Taala for fighting off that desire. In one case, Hassan Vasiliev mo Allahu Allah said, every human being experiences Genesis, from the scholars, to those who are illiterate when it comes to their Deen to the wealthy, all the way to the poor. You would think that that a person who wants their wealthy they won't be jealous anymore. Is that true or false? It's false. Wealthy people have jealousy in their heart. You would think that a person wants to have the knowledge of the deen. They won't be jealous anymore.

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Wrong again, because of what their hearts are plagued with jealousy. So it hasn't been possible anymore. Allahu Allah says every concern has an element, every human being has some jealousy of their heart. Now the question is, whether you will act upon what that jealousy provokes you to do, or whether you will withhold and hold yourself back, and you will ignore it. There will always be that classmate of yours that you're jealous of there will always be that friend of yours that you're jealous of that teammate of yours that you're jealous of. Sometimes your own sibling that you have jealousy in your heart, like the brothers of Yusuf Anisa. Now you have a responsibility to hold

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back.

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The next type of person is someone who experiences jealousy. But in this jealousy, they don't have a desire that the other loses what they have, they just desire to have the same.

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So you see someone dressed very nicely. In your heart, you're not thinking that I hope this person's clothes get burnt. Rather, you're thinking that only if I have clothes like these, now, this technically speaking, in Arabic, is not hustle. It's called a zipper. Line, bah, bah, and Tamil gotta write. That's what it's called.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, LA has said that he left a laugh with nothing, that there is no jealousy. Jealousy is not permitted but in two things. What are these two things? Roger atta Hola, Marlon. For what up? Lady what?

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What are your thoughts Allah, Allah Quran for who your phone will be available and

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the first person that it is permissible to be jealous of is one that Allah has given wealth to and he spends it day and night. In your heart, you should think I wish that I could be like that person. And the second person is the one who Allah has given the Quran to and you think to yourself, only if I knew the Quran like this person does. And if I can read the Quran day and night like this person does. Now even though in this hadith, the word hustle is used, the scholars AC that have a villain was a victim. This is not hazard. Because hazard would entail that you desire. That person forgets their Quran and you become half of that cannot be permitted in any way at all. Or you desire that

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that person loses their wealth and then you become wealthy and give charity that's not permitted either. In this hadith, what we're actually being told is that you don't desire for that person to lose it rather you desire to gain it so you can do equivalent to what they're doing with somebody who has it and when Babyliss Tiara however, the corset Allahu alayhi wa sallam used the word hassad, borrowing it to kind of connotates to implement the meaning of being envious and having that element not complete, but an element of jealousy. Now this type of jealousy, which which we are coming

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hooked up can be for two things

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either incompetent for what you do need a Ouija philosophy dyadic

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either you are you have zipped up you have this hello jealousy envy for another person in terms of worldly issues, that you think yourself that I hope that this person maintains their mansion but I get a mansion like they do. So he says that there is no good in this sort of done and it's actually something looked down upon as Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks in the Quran thought Alladhina you need to hire to dunya yeah later on with nama oto Tharun in the WHO that will have been only when Koto was from the people of masala salaam, he did not accept us now. He was related to musante Sinha. He came out amongst the people displaying as well. And there were people who saw his wealth and they

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said only if we had similar to what he has, they didn't desire for him to lose it. They just wondered what he had. And Allah subhanho wa Taala did not state this idea or state the statement of theirs in praise of them rather it's actually showing how short sighted they were. Because in the next ayah Allah subhanaw taala tells us that the people of knowledge said we're looking for love Allah say it only matters ammo, Amina Saudi, Ha, that forget what you're saying, having wealth in this world. We look forward toward ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada because you will find more benefit in that for those who believe and those who do good deeds.

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Then the second type is Lifta when it comes to Dini Oumou religious affairs, you see someone excelling in the deen someone accomplishes something and you think yourself, I wish one day that I can accomplish that too. When we were in Madras, memorizing the Quran.

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Students would graduate from their tactical Quran, they would memorize the Quran. And as friends and as fellow students, we would always participate in their graduations. And when we would sit there Allah knows in our hearts, all of us that hadn't finished yet, what would we what would we be thinking?

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Man, I can't wait till the day that I'm sitting there. I can't wait to become a half of myself. And there were those students that would be in tears because they would be struggling. I recall once many of my classmates that we had joined together with, they actually all excelled and finish off before me. So I went to my teacher, and I was sad. I wasn't sad that they finished off early. I was sad that I hadn't finished. So I went to my chef and I said to him, Chef, why is it taking me so long to memorize the Quran.

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So the shifts is something very beautiful, Allah reward him. He gave me the energy that I needed to finish off. He said some people, some servants of Allah are beloved to him. So Allah keeps them in the company of his Quran longer than others.

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And then he said, There will never be a day in your life after you become half of

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that you will read this much code on a single day.

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months will pass by yours will pass by you won't read as much as Quran as you do in one day here.

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It's a blessing of Allah ask Allah to lengthen this process, and about a new perspective to memorizing the Quran taking a little longer and this is, you know, a little motivation for those of us that are trying and struggling, keep at it, know that you being connected to the Quran in itself is the blessing. You know, that's the blessing being connected to the economy of Allah subhanaw taala an example of looked up the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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the Sahaba were martyred in the battlefield and the prophets that Allahu Allah He was sent him within make dua for Shahada. He would see his brothers who attained shahada, and then he himself would make dua for shahada Amato, the Allahu Allah and saw his fellow companions attaining the high rank of Shahada. He himself they may blog for Allahumma, Nisha habitant, fee Sabina ki himself made dua for shahada, and there are examples of this too.

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Then there's another type of person who experiences jealousy and this person, rather than being affected by the ills of jealousy and taking the harm and implementing it and trying to hurt another person, they go the opposite way. Rather than doing harm for that person, they recognize the disease. They acknowledge that they have a problem with themself and they decide to counter it by doing good to that person. This is the highest of all of the people who experience jealousy. Either watch it if enough so you have Sofie is Allah teehee affiliate Hassan el Marsudi. B is dialects en la, what do I you know who will actually follow ad or feasibility my words that are who Phoenix to

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him and it has said that this person he makes to offer him, he sends gifts to Him. He tells people how great of a person that individual is the one that you feel jealous that you feel jealousy for you tell others that so and so person Allah has given him up, but he's a very kind person. So once a person is wealthy, don't you know that he works with his hands?

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ends and through Halal means to earn his money that's why he has so much Baraka that's why he's so happy so and so person is getting married before I am Don't you know this person did pick them up their parents and took the dua of their parents.

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You guys understand? So now they flip it rather than speaking ill of that person they speak in favor that's the good of that person

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haha you bet dealer who we will have the Vemma Huberty until a point comes at the praise that person make dua for that person, you know, have good intentions towards that person, that that jealousy then turns into love. And as weird and twisted as that may sound, it happens. There are some people that you're jealous of. And you don't give it to the whispers of shaytaan. You fight it out, you go against you go against it, you go against it, until finally your heart opens up. And the walls that you've built out of insecurity come down, and the person who was your enemy, I don't know why you would have been that person then becomes a friend of yours.

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There are many a hadith and many verses of the Quran in dislike of jealousy. One hadith of Imam Abdullah Abdullah Ali that he narrates from Abu Huraira with the Allah one that I'd like to share. The messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Jaco will hazard. Be aware of jealousy, stay away from jealousy. Final hazard. cooter has an Atty. Kamata, Columna and Hutto of Tala ership that stay away from jealousy for indeed jealousy, eats away good deeds just like fire eats away dry wood, firewood or dry gas, dry grass, a little fire and some dry grass and you're going to have it's going to eat it all the way. dry wood it's going to eat it all away. That's what jealousy does to your

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good deeds. And unfortunately, jealousy exists in the hearts of the righteous to in our community. The people who read the Quran, the people who attend the machine for Salah who attend the Halacha to wear the hijab who are practicing and observing of the deen we've excelled in some places that are in our hearts we still harbor that jealousy. Ask Allah subhanahu wa Tada to purify your hearts from jealousy and hypocrisy Allahu Matahari Bhutto, banana Minam de facto and acid Oh ALLAH purify our hearts from jealousy and hypocrisy.

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What are the causes of jealousy? Allah mama what is going on with Allahu Allah says, There are three causes of jealousy. In another way you have said that there are three things that cause jealousy, the first thing he says is Boogaloo in my suit, to have enmity of the one that you are jealous of, you already have a problem with that person, you already had a disagreement with that person, you have a history with this person. And because you have a history, naturally, jealousy will set in if they excel in life. So if you have a disagreement with someone and then you notice that this person is ahead of you, this person is doing better than you are. This is from amongst the the lie the

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causes of jealousy. The second thing that he says is, you have failed to accomplish what another person has attained in life. Someone has attained something, you yourself have tried to attain it, but you constantly fail at it. You've been applying for a particular college, you've been trying and trying but you failed repeatedly. Now, some nobody comes in, they apply and they get the job or some person who did and try as hard as you did and they got the job. Someone who Allah subhanho wa Taala you know, open the path for on a particular thing. You know, they got the job. So naturally now jealousy comes in. How did that person pass the MCAT without putting in half the effort that I did?

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And again, always remember that I have a Quran, Nicholas Beethoven, Manisha Allah subhanaw Matata is the one who distributes. And just because you don't have what you want, it doesn't mean you lost out in life. Sometimes the hard truth is med school isn't for you. Sometimes the hearts the hard truth is that being a lawyer isn't for you. Sometimes the hard truth is that being an antonym of the deed is not for you. And it's not that someone's trying to tell you not that I'm trying to tell you that you can't accomplish. It's that you have the fitrah you have a nature that is better suited for something else. You guys and he said, Look at the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam, were they all identical in their abilities?

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Yes or No?

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Not at all. You have Hassan and target was good at one thing. You had some modifiers he was good at one thing you had ever heard of your loved one who was good at something you have, you know, how to deal with lead who was good at one thing, I'm gonna be honest, was good at something else. Saudi mod who was a master in something else. Each companion has something special, there was something that they were good at something unique to them. And when they couldn't accomplish what the other had accomplished, it wasn't a matter of humiliation for them. It was acceptance, that there are some things that I'm good at, and that there are some things that are difficult for me. The things that

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are difficult

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For me, I can continue to try. It may take me maybe quadruple the time that someone else has accomplished it and, but my journey should constantly be compared with another person's journey. Because when you see people accomplishing what you failed to accomplish, it will without doubt, lead to jealousy.

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The third thing that Allama ma working under the law he mentions, is not being able, not desiring, not liking to share the spotlight.

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You've been the center of attention. Now someone else becomes the center of attention. You were the one who gave the whole robot in the masjid. And now the masjid finally hired a real Imam.

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Now what happens? Your foot was aren't as desirable anymore. You always give the Holika to the sisters. And then now there is an audit my father, a chef, ah, who has studied and he comes in the community. And now you're not allowed. You're not You're not You're not invited for the events anymore. Jealousy is going to come into your heart, because we have a tough time sharing that that spotlight. And I've seen this within blots, unfortunately, I've seen this within people handle people online who say, you know, I've, you know, there was a particular institution that was doing some fundraising, and they wanted to, they asked me if I knew some people who they could ask to

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repost their Facebook post, and get some attention online. So I named a few people. And I said, these are a few people that I know they have a decent following. If you ask them to share your posts, you'll get some you can you can get some outreach and cover some ground that way exposure. So that brothers he then told me later on that I reached out to those people, and they all said that they didn't feel comfortable sharing the spotlight with others. And that online following the hat was based around their personal brand. These are language this is the language used. These are people that I'm talking about, who on their social media are talking about Quran and Hadith, and

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they're saying that my efforts to build my social media following it revolves around my personal

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my brand, I don't feel comfortable sharing the advice of another chef with my social media followers. I don't feel comfortable sharing a fundraising cause for another institution. If it's not my institution. What a hola Quwata illa biLlah what a hold on what up what the level? How can a person avoid the harms of jealousy?

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I met a young Rahmatullah Hailey, he lists.

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Sir certain things that a person can do to prevent themselves from the harms of jealousy. You notice that someone is jealous and someone is insincere when it comes to you? They're constantly trying to cut your legs off. You know that person who always contradicts you was always just hateful spiteful to you. They don't like you. You notice that there's jealousy coming from a particular direction you can feel the dark side. So what do you do? So favorite Hola. Hiya, Ali. He lists out a few things. The first thing he says is a Tao will bIllahi min Shani. That you seek protection and Allah from that person's evil.

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The second thing he says UCLA. Focus on developing taqwa in yourself.

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Fulfill the commands of Allah, stay away from what he has prohibited you. Because the one who is conscious of Allah, or Miyatake Allah Allah Who Maharaja Allah will make an exit for that person from every difficulty in their life. The third thing a Sabra Allah do we need to be patient with your enemies, because there is nothing that annoys a jealous person more than the one that they are jealous of being patient.

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There is nothing that hurts them and Kindles that fire even further, you shouldn't do it with that intention. You do it for your own benefit, just be patient. The fourth thing, a thought cannot Allah know that as much as that person tries to harm you, they cannot harm you. Because Allah subhanahu wa taala is the one you rely on. When they get the work cut out a lot he for Hua hospital, whoever realized that Allah Allah will suffice them, Allah will take care of them. The fifth thing for our will Toby Middleditch, Divali be he that to empty the heart, from being consumed with that person. When you find out someone's jealous of you, all your mind thinks of is that person, that person is

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trying to hurt me that person is doing magic on me, that person is doing that on me. This person wants me to fail. And because you're so obsessed with that person now, you are no longer able to excel in life. You be that person, you've allowed that person to become the barrier of your growth. So empty your mind from being obsessed with that person. Don't fear that person. Don't let your heart be full of thoughts of that person.

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And the scholars they say well have been unfairly other way this is from the most beneficial, most effective medicines that a person or cures that a person can use. The sixth thing is to remain sincere. Don't let that person choose

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ain't your motive. If you are doing some fun something for the sake of Allah, and now you see a jealous person that wants to compete with you. Don't start competing back with them. Because then you will lose battle kind of what you're doing. If you were doing something for a good cause if you were being nice to your mother in law, because that was in your nature, that's something your parents taught you to do. And now you have a sister in law who was angry and jealous that you're being too kind and they try to chop your legs off. You just keep doing what you do. That's it. Maintain your sincerity. Do it for the sake of Allah.

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Number seven,

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to always make Toba to Allah subhana wa Tada. The reason why the Scholars recommend tilde is because they say every calamity in life, there's always a possibility is or it is a result of the sins that we've done. There's always a possibility there. So you should always start off by making Toba to Allah Ya Allah. If the difficulty I'm facing is due to a sin that I committed, I asked you to forgive me and be sincere. If you sincerely ask Allah for forgiveness, it is impossible your Lord will not forgive you.

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And then you are hopeful in the Mercy of Allah and Allah subhanho wa Taala without any doubt, will take care of your affairs. The eighth thing the scholars they mentioned, and this is also one of the most effective things that you can do to deal with jealousy, to prevent and protect you and your family from jealousy is to give Suffolk on a daily basis, every day give a little stomach and this will protect you for a novella. Elia. calamities cannot surpass cannot overcome this wall of sadaqa sadaqa becomes like a wall number nine.

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And it will play around with Allah Allah says, Well, who I mean us I will ASVAB alumnus and this is the most difficult thing that was difficult to cure on the knifes on the inner self.

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And what is that?

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to be kind to that person.

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Because if you want to save yourself from the harm of that person, think long term, this person is jealous he is not going anywhere. What you can do is go on the offense and start being kind to them, win their heart, remove a misunderstanding and come to common terms and help them defeat their jealousy.

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Every time he increases in his hatred and jealousy, you should increase in the see ha love and asset. And the eighth thing.

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It will play Muhammad Allah Allah says, Well, who did you read to he'd never lose your sight. From Tawheed believe in light, light Allah believe in one Allah. And this is similar to the one. But it's a little bit more broad in its in its message. And what's that? Sometimes there are some people who are so paranoid, by the jealousy of those that are jealous that they stop living life. They're terrified. They believe more in the power of the jealous person and their harm than they believe in the power of Allah to protect. If that person has a desire to hurt you, they can hurt you until Allah subhanaw taala allows that to happen. So your reliance should be on Allah subhanho wa taala.

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Now this doesn't mean that you should be careless as well, that you should start flaunting yourself and you know not be protective. You know, I'm not in favor of people posting their happy marriage pictures on social media or their you know, happy children pictures on social media. The reason is because, you know, there are people out there who are hurting, and not every jealous person.

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You gives the evil eye because they're evil themselves. Sometimes people become jealous. Due to their personal circumstances, you know, they don't have to be ill intended. Someone may have just broken out of a relationship, or maybe their child has passed away. And you post a child, you post a picture of your own child and you're having a blast. Now mother who might see this, who might glance at this, it might cause her to her, you know, and there's precedent for this. If you're wondering

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if there's any precedent for this there is the province of Allahu Allah, he was set on forbade children from eating fruits publicly until they shared it with their neighbors.

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Right, if that person has a fruit, he's gonna love it was said, I'm told kids, you shouldn't eat it publicly, unless you're willing to share your foot with other kids. And if you're not willing to share it with them, then eat it at home, in your private house where no one else needs to see you.

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Because if they see it, that their hearts are going to desire to battle increase them in pain because they don't have what you have. Why do you want to flaunt it in front of other people? Right? I know that just literally flushes down the purpose of social media, because that's all people use it for, to show off. You know, this is what I'm doing in life.

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Well, that's not all people use it for, to be honest with you. Many people like to share what they're doing in life because it

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People who are friends with them, they consider them as friends and they want to keep them updated, you know, handed out my child just graduated. It's not necessarily a bloke boasting or flaunting. Again, they're innocent, too. There's a level of delicacy, you know, in the issue, and you have to be careful when walking this line. If someone can ask me, what's necessary, what's absolutely necessary is for you not to be ill intended, and to what other people to feel the pain of not having what you have. You understand. That's not a good thing. You know, when the

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when this is still ongoing, but some time back, I read this article, that while the bombing was going on in Syria, there are two groups within the Syrians there are those who are pro government. And then there are those who are anti government, those who are pro government, and they're pro bombing, they were flaunt, and they would show off in the face of those who are being bombed by you know, posting pictures of them partying, or posting pictures of them eating food, or drinking clean water, that's a very messed up thing to do. Because you're ill intended and know that Allah subhanho wa Taala is flooded. Allah subhanho wa Taala is the one who gives you Allah who you have to be, well

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you have sort of Allah is the One who gives it Allah subhanaw taala is the one who takes never get too proud of yourself. So don't be ill intended. Firstly, the second thing, in addition to that,

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always seek protection with Allah subhanho wa taala. From those who have intended and many enmity towards you, and there are a few things that you can read for protection. I'll suggest a few things the first thing, make a habit of reading the last two suitors of the Quran every morning and evening. And so the last the last three. So the last sort of follow up and sweetness, make this a part of your daily read. The second thing that scholars recommend, is also reading AYATUL kursi every morning and evening. As protection. The next thing in the morning, it's desirable for a person to read the following blog Bismillah Hilah de la guru Ma is me he said shaitan fell out of the water

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for summer. What was simulate it

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in the name of Allah with whose name nothing in the heavens or earth can ever harm but was sent me without him and he is all hearing that Allah subhanaw taala is all knowing.

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And there are many other doors like this that can also be read.

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The next thing mentioned is Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam after saying latter has to do, he said while at an age issue, what is Nitish for in also the legacy if you look at

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the root of this word, not just it means language, a thought or to shape a bill mercury will heal at one Mahadasha to provoke something

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through deception

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through Macker through you know,

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very sneaky planning

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and bahagia are through cheating other people. That's what measures means to cheat people.

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will either here he says lays the dunya elaborate in what he said Dino Illa Makari malarkey

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the this world has no value unless you accomplish religion. Your religious values in this world ladies of dunya elaborate in the thing that you need to accomplish from this dunya is your deen what he said when he said Dino Illa Makarem Allah flat and you haven't accomplished the Dean until first you've accomplished

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good character, excellent character and character in them and lucky oh well Sadia to fanatee Houma middle he saw the URL in the Falcon. As for deception and treachery. They are both in the fire and are the characteristics of people of hypocrisy. What does not just mean? So I gave you the literal definition. It's to provoke someone through deception and treachery cheating.

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What does it mean? Technically?

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The scholars they say

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not just is a type of transaction. They call it bay or Nitish bay or Nitish.

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Bay and notice what is it as either facility manleigh you redo Shira? Eman, inevitable buyer by Lucia de femenina. Who OB that audit which study protected with exceeded 70 Honey.

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Have you guys ever heard of false bidding?

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Yes. If you remember if you remember this was very common on on eBay back in the day.

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What was that? In auctions and auctions people still do it. This is very common in auctions. But in eBay, people should do this law back in the days. This happens basically in auctions. Bail net is something that happens in auctions. What this means is that

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There's one person who's selling a car, for example, we're going to run an auction example, a person selling a car. Now he knows that the car is worth $3,000. So he tells the person that you come to the auction, and you bid 3500. If you bid 3500, someone might see you showing interest, and you pushing the value of that car above market, and they might try to beat you. And therefore my car will go for $4,000. This is what you call eBay or Nitish, where someone places a bid without having the intent to buy it, they have no intention of buying, the only reason why they're doing it is to push the price of that higher. So on eBay, what would happen is that when the bid will be closing,

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let's say there were a few minutes left, a person will call five of his friends and say, Hey, place a bid place a bid place a good place a bid, five people will place bids very quickly. And now an innocent person, a naive person would come on, and he would see that this product is growing in price, you know, greatly it has grown into the last five minutes. So what does he think this must be a hot product? So then what does he do? He then outbid the other people, and ultimately he takes a loss. This is called valen Nitish. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that and add your shoe. Don't do this with one another. Not only should you not have hassad, but don't cause

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financial harm to one another.

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Now Nitish is done for two reasons. In Mind enough ill buyer Lucia to determine the level Oh, we even ordered mystery. It Akita feminie Ali, sometimes a person places the false the false bid bid to benefit the summer.

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You understand to benefit the summer, that I'm going to the I'm a friend of the seller, I'll place a false bid to raise the price just enough, I'll I'll paste a bit 3% in access to what he's offering right now, knowing that someone will offer 5% and access, and therefore he'll make 5% more than what he was already making. Or the other reason why someone someone might place a false bid is not because they want to benefit the bat. Yeah, sorry, not because they want to benefit the buyer or the seller, but rather they want to harm the machinery. I just don't like that guy. There's a guy that I look at, and he just doesn't look at his face looks bad to me, you know, so what I'm gonna do is I'm

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increase a higher bid, because I know he wants it. And I'll make him for another $10,000 for the same product, even auto mistake.

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Now there is a discussion a difference of opinion amongst scholars on what's the ruling of the product sold as a result of beta Unmesh is the transaction itself sound or not?

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You guys understand the transaction, someone placed a false bid to raise the price up, ultimately, this person came another person came purchased a product. Now what's the ruling on the transaction, he finds out let's say for example, he finds out he sees there's a guy in the back, you know, and they're both giving each other high fives and here's the these two are in on together and they pushed me above market rate they the economy. So let's the willing of that transaction.

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So there's a lot of others who say that in the WHO facet that the transaction is void. It doesn't count. It's a raw transaction.

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However, majority of the FDA,

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they see actually started there's a condition, they say the transaction is void. If the person who placed the false bid was asked to do so by the seller.

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You understand if the seller incentivized or asked a friend to place a false bid, then the transaction is faster. But if that person placing placing a false bid was not put into place by the seller, then it won't affect the transaction. That's one opinion. The second opinion and this is the opinion of the majority's, the honey Fiamma. dymanic, He's a chef and he's also what opinion of him I'm gonna come up with Giuliani, almost all them without him around his position, they say

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that the Enel Baos,

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that the transaction will be okay. It'll be a wrong thing they did, they will carry a sin there Scott AHA and that translates into transaction but all in all, that transaction will be complete. Because the outcome of a transaction were met, there was a result there was a person selling a product and other person was willing to purchase it. And the there was a product on one side and it was both on the other side. So all of the icon all the components required for our transaction were met. Even though one of the parties was being dubious or they were cheating, they carried that sin and they will be accountable with Allah subhanaw taala

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there is an opinion from monogrammed Allahu Allah and also the wire from the company.

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They say that the transaction will be okay. However, the one who purchased the one who got cheated will have Fiat car means he will have the option. If he wishes, he can maintain the transaction or

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If he wishes he could announce and break the transaction. Then in a minute Rahmatullah here it says, The one who purchased and he was cheated. If he was cheated, what she calls, well, whom he knows about and fashion, that he was cheated in a very bad way, meaning this person was ripped off, the product was supposed to sell the car was supposed to sell for 5000. These guys, they did pay unnoticed, they placed false bids, and they took it to 50,000. That's what you call a horrible ripoff. Okay, as a result of this, so they said that if there was a, it was a bad rip off to this person,

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then he will have the right to get a refund on the extra money and bring it down to market value.

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He will have the right to ask for a refund for the extra money and bring it back to market value. Now what is love and package? What does that mean that he's ripped off? Because that's very subjective. What does it mean to be ripped off? So that Imam Malik and also what are the romantico badass Javi Ahmed, some of the companions of Muhammad, Muhammad, Muhammad, Allah, Allah and Imam Malik, they say, we thought of within that Anything over that 1/3 of the market value, it's considered a ripoff. So let's say for example, that car was just supposed to sell for 6000 and they made him buy it for 9000. Now, is 9000 more than 1/3 of the market value? Yes or no? Yes, it is,

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right 1/3 of the market value of 6000 would be 2000. So that would mean 8000 is 1/3 more. So 9000 is more than 1/3 of the market value. And because of that, he will have the right to to to ask demand the return of that extra money and bring it down to market value before allowing the transaction to continue.

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Okay, then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the Hadith he continues, and he says, What at the vows of end do not have hatred for one another.

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Something to reflect over. Imagine a society where everyone was jealous. Everyone was cheating. And everyone had hatred. What joy would there be in being alive?

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If everyone around you was jealous, everyone around you cheated you, and everyone around you hated you. And I'll be honest with you, Allah protect me for Allah forgive me for saying what I'm about to say. Unfortunately, this is the reality of some of the Muslim countries in the world.

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I feel I feel bad saying it hurts me, it really hurts me that your brother, who you stand side by side with insula is the one who's jealous of you.

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Your brother, who you do lie with is the one who's cheating you. He's the one who hates you the most. Go to the Muslim countries and look at the market stare and look how much they cheat. How much of lying happens there? How much deception for a few dollars. And as a result of that, our countries will never move forward. When I say our countries, I mean, the countries of our forefathers, our countries, America, this is where we are, you know, but those countries will never move forward. Now, unfortunately, many of these countries are shaped let's say that successful countries aren't always built on money. They're not just built by strong armies. They're built by honest citizens,

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they built by black people. You can say whatever you want about the government of this country, but for the greater part, the citizens are honest. People are honest. Yes, there are people who will cheat you don't get me wrong here. You know, those who will cheat you and who are who are ill intended are everywhere. But put a ratio down. And you'll find more honest people here, you go to the you go to the government office and try to slide the person you know, 100 bucks, what will happen? You'll get arrested for trying to bribe a government official, and you will get away with it. You go to, you know, many of the countries that some of us have visited in our life, and if you

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have a problem with the government, what do you do guys?

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side 100 You know,

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you get pulled over, you're getting a ticket. What do you do? Slide 100? You want to get into first class in the train. What do you do? Slide 100 That's all it is. It's just depending on how many hundreds you have what happens? You make it through life.

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These sorts of societies can never thrive. The human being has to be built as an individual, not to have to do well at an audition. What about

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Allah subhanahu what Allah created us as brothers in law, we are as mankind, we are as brothers, we have a bond of humanity.

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And if we hate one another, if all we can do is be angry at one another. If our hearts can't love one another, then what kind of brotherhood is that? A mother hates herself, carry shame on her shoulder, because our children hate one another. What kind of society are we? If we can't just love one another? We

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There's a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he states, the truth. I mean, those are both that's basically all the Hadith. But this hadith in particular, it's so straightforward. I love it. I love it about this. I love that thing about this hadith. It's just so straightforward. It's a simple equation. And it's a hadith that applies to every single human being what is that? He said, Allah it was centum said OneLogin fcbd Laughter The following agenda the Hatha took me

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by the one who's had my soul lies, you will not enter into paradise until you believe what took me to heart that the heart and your belief will never be complete until you love one another. I didn't look Humala che in either fall to move with the habit. Should I not tell you of a thing that if you do it, you will start loving one another.

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They said O Messenger of Allah of course tell us what was the solution? The Prophet said a long while he was sort of offered upside down on

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say some one another. If there's someone who you had an awkward conversation with in the masjid, at home at work, do you really care for that convert conversation so much that you're allowing it to take you to the punishment of Allah the anger of Allah, does it really matter that much? Is that where your ego is now? That you can't just go and see San Antonio the person when a hold of

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Allah subhanho wa Taala warns us that this hatred and musty animosity between the hearts of people is the triple Shavon in a minute either St. Paul in the mining industry, or use the Aveda kumara adata. Well, above all she thought it wants to do is please enmity and hatred in your heart for one another. Don't fall for that trap of shaytaan. In one narration as narrated by my mama Dima widow Dyneema I'm Timothy from Abuja, the Allahu Allah the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, and that was beautiful and be awfully mean Verratti salatu wa Seon, your sadaqa Should I not tell you of something that is greater than saw? Greater than prayer? Greater than Seon, greater than fasting

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greater than scimitar greater than giving charity of Allah they said of course messenger of Allah tell us it's laughable that in vain. The Prophet Allahu alayhi wa sallam said, mending bonds between people, joining religions, bringing hearts together, were in the facade that that in vain here he Al Khalifa as for causing corruption and hatred between people breaking the hearts of people. It is hot as what is harder for me.

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Like it will shave you it will wipe away your good deeds it will it will rinse you clean you will be destroyed. Right by causing corruption, hatred, enmity between individuals between people. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam In another Hadith as narrated by Muhammad the company

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from the narrations of Esma Vidya z through the Allah Ana, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Let will not be open Be sure Oracle should not tell you the worst people from you globaleye Rasool Allah He said of course a messenger of Allah Tala su are the worst people caught up, and Masha all have been Lemina those who carry me man me my means tail bearing that you take one person's story you shared their take another person's story, share it there with the intention of causing hatred between people. You know what we also call stirring, stirring between people, you know, Michelle would have been the minima and Waterford una vida Himba and their ultimate goal is to

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break the hearts of those who love one another.

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And this hatred, you know, another trick of shaytaan is that he causes us as good human beings to hate one another simply because of our differences. You have a political difference with someone, you start hating them, you will follow another madhhab from someone, you start hating them. Someone doesn't press a law like you do, you start hating them. They don't fold their hands where you fold your hands where they want to raise their hands and make dua for Salah you start hitting them. These are all issues of SDF

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legitimate differences of opinion.

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And should this be a reason of causing hatred? That's why chef, Muhammad Allah Muhammad Allah, he wrote in his book, other Buddhist enough, that there are two things if the love and hate if, if the love is a healthy difference of opinion, where you disagree on an issue academically, but you still love one another. And it's enough is where your hearts are broken. He says the first is not only permitted, but it's recommended in the D, we promote academic differences. But the second where your hearts are torn apart. This is my move and dislike, it's my clue that your heart should never break because of an issue. If you are in front of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, do you think he

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would ever allow you to hate another brother because you tie your hands in a different place than where he tightens His hands? Do you think that prophet of Allah would ever approve of that sort of Imam Do you think Allah subhanaw taala whatever approve that sort of approve of that sort of Imam? Absolutely not

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However, the scholars have said that it is permissible or it is permissible and permitted to stay away from speaking to another person.

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Actually, I'll come to that in a moment. Let's cover the next part of the Hadith. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, Latin as a shoe. Well, a lot has to do let another shoe let Abelardo ladapo ladapo means don't turn away from one another. Okay?

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What does it mean? obeyed? He says double masama well, who giran Mfu man, are you? Well, Leah Raju Sahiwal. Who Sahiba who will do that a person turns his back on another person, he walks away. Two people aren't talking to one another anymore. And this is the result of the Balclutha. When two people hate one another, they will break apart. They won't talk to each other anymore. The promise that Allahu alayhi wa sallam said that it is not permitted for a believer to not speak to his brother for more than three days. And the better of the two is the one who initiates with Saddam, the one who brings that wall down and sets it up. There's one Hadith that I always think of what I

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have a disagreement with someone. And it motivates me and helps me to overcome that disagreement. Should I share that hadith, beautiful narration, some of the best. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, I guarantee a person, a house in the middle of Jannah, who gives up an argument even though he's right.

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You understand? I guarantee a person to house its fee whilst loss can either mean middle or it can mean the highest as well. That's the ultimate agenda first. And for those

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that also can also mean was can also mean the highest or it can mean the middle linguistically. Elizabeth means the pocket of Allah says I promise you a house in the middle of Ghana. If you apologize, even though it wasn't your fault, because what does everyone say?

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But it wasn't my fault. The Prophet of Allah is saying I'm speaking to you go to that person, say salaam to them, smile at them.

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Similarly, in one Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, as narrated by a widowed

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man ha ha who Selatan for who aka sepka kosofsky kosofsky dummy that the one who does not speak to his brother for a whole year it's like flowing his blood as if you've killed him. You know, what's the benefit? Why are you staking? Why are you why are you going to carry on with this? How long will you continue on with this? Now however, the scholars have given permission for a person to discontinue speaking to another due to religious reason. And their proof of this is the prophecy of Allahu Allah He was said I'm not speaking to those three companions who stayed behind from the battle of the book to Allah ferocity Latina, holy for as the Quran mentioned, the Minister of Toba.

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These are a few people who the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam himself stopped speaking to until Allah subhanaw Matata revealed verses regarding their forgiveness. So there are certain circumstances that have become permitted to discontinue speaking with one another.

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What is necessary to do in order to end this dis communication?

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You understand this disconnect between two people? What do I need to do? This is a common question.

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I had a breakup with my friend. And you're saying that I need to avoid not speaking to someone for more than three days.

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So I want to say salaam to them. But is that all I have to do? Or do I need to do more? Sometimes someone will say that I've had an argument with my parent. Do I only have to say salaam or do I have to do more? I had an argument of my uncle. Do I only have to say salaam or do I have to do more? I'm going for hydrogen and I did someone wrong? Do I have to apologize or a saint Salaam for them enough?

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Because understanding the scenario. So always remember the rule one thing I'm going to tell you guys.

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Okay.

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Going back to the hutch example, that if you're ever considering you know that question comes up a lot, but I'm going for how much do I have to send so and so person at apology? Do I really have to send a soul and so person you know that one person that you're avoiding, and you have a reason why you don't want to apologize to them. I always tell people that everyone else you're thinking of sending that template email to don't send it to them. Because they're going to be confused. They're going to have no idea where you're asking for forgiveness. They're going to start doubting you, maybe you took something of theirs. That's why you're asking for forgiveness. What you need to do is

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you know that person you're avoiding that person you're thinking 10 Times up before you want to send that message to them, go to them and send them the message. And don't send them some, you know, some template email, send them a personalized message addressing the issue to the best of your ability and trying to hash it out, talk it up.

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Then you'll see but it's very hard to do. But so is the hunch that you're going to do. So is the reward that you're trying to accomplish with this how much you have to put extra effort into it and burn down you know

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Those walls break down those walls that you've put between yourself and other people. So, what must be done in order to end Hadron? The break or the this this the miscommunication between two people.

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So the first group of people they say that saying salaam will suffice, all you need to do is say,

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I said Emma Monica, my saying a Salam aleykum That's it. That's good to go, you're good to go.

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Another group of scholars they say,

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actually the base that the first group of scholars say salaam was enough, they base it off a hadith that Imam Abu Allahu Allah inherits. Now he'll only move meaning a Yatra minimum thought that if it is not permitted to this to stop communicating with another believer for more than three days for a metricbeat that often fail to who for you Salim Ali, he further up the Alehissalaam for traditional coffee. While I'm Eurodollar he forgot about

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that. If you meet that person after three days, you say Saddam and then that person says salaam you both share the reward. But if he doesn't say salaam he cares if he doesn't reply to your sunnah he carries the sin and you are free. You will be rewarded by Allah subhanaw taala for initiating for taking that step.

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Some scholars as attribute or team and Malika hunt Allahu Allah ruya American EndNote via Latin Katya al Hijra to be do allow the T either Masada which is a very difficult position to follow. In my mother, I'm Nicola how he says in order for you to overcome this break of communication, saying Salam is not enough, you have to return the relationship back to loving one another like it was previously.

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Now you can imagine how hard it would be, in particular, if there's someone that you had an argument with, and it went so far that you didn't talk for three days. So it's it's a very difficult thing.

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The best opinion on this issue

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is a more nuanced position. And it's a third opinion. And the third opinion will will follow the Bible and beta Accardi be well attended. They've differentiated between your relatives and people who are not your relatives.

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For five years old Hijra to be in a home be majority center. As for people who are you're not related to saying salam to them is enough,

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be falafel upon him, as opposed to those that you're related to. You had an argument with your mother saying salam tour is not enough. You have to return things back to how they were. You had an argument with your sister saying Salam is not enough. That's not enough. You have to work on that relationship until you can bring it back to where it was. That's where the third position I like it a lot. It's more nuanced, where you appreciate who the person is, while a while working with the issue.

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And the next part of the Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam prohibits us from placing an offer on another person's transaction.

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What I do what I observe Roger Lu, Allah Bay, he he what I have to admit, but you'll see this is another narration from the last one, where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, Do not place an offer on another person's transaction. What does this mean?

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Does this mean we can't

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go to auctions? Because in auctions, what's happening,

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people are placing offers and other people's offers? Is this hadith saying that we can go to auctions? No, no, that's not what this hadith is saying. What this hadith is saying is that there are two people who've met

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the agreed upon a product and a price, they've shaken hands on it, the only thing left is changing. Hence, this person says My money is at home, or it's still in my bank, I'll transfer tomorrow on the weekday. And this person says, I'll mail it to you in two days. So they've agreed they've shaken hands, the only thing left is for the actual transaction to occur for the money to go and the product to come. Now, in the interim, in the meanwhile, someone else finds out that that house was on the market, and this guy has agreed to sell it for 300,000. And that's a steal. And the market value is 350. I'll pay 340. So you're badly beating that person's price, while keeping yourself

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still in benefit, because it's 340. And you come to this person, you try to lower them, you try to sway them that give me the Give me Give me Give me the property. Forget that person. This is what the hadith is saying. Once two people have agreed, don't come in the middle.

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You understand?

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In order we call this kebab mahadi. Right, that you become a thorn in something that should have a form. You know,

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I don't know how to pass that around in English. I can't think of a good translation. I mean, I could think of it literally a bone in meat. But that's really mean much, right? You know, when you're eating kebab. Do you expect a bone in there?

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You're eating it. Everything's going good. You're like, oh, there's a bone here. What's this doing here? So the transaction was smooth. Everything was working out and all of a sudden there's a third guy who came from nowhere, and he jumps in is is claiming the transaction. Now the other example when I asked about our settlement, yes

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See, what does that mean?

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That

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a person has made a proposal.

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And the boy and girl and their families have agreed on the proposal. They've gone into an engagement phase. You know, people say engagement is nothing in Islam. That's not true. There is something as engagement. There's no such thing as engagement parties and stuff. That's true. But engagement is actually something that's established where two people make a commitment that we will get married to one another, they mutually agree as individuals that we will get married. So two people are engaged, if you may say, now, in the meantime, there's a guy who comes in, he sees the girl and he says, subhanAllah the mother of my children is right there.

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He starts asking around and someone tells him that there's a guy, he just proposed to her and they've families have agreed. So then he comes to the Father at the masjid. He says, How are you doing? You're doing well. Hamdulillah you know, it's hard to come for HS law but I, I get out of my my rotations and I come directly here.

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The funny thing is, while this guy's doctor,

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there was a friend of mine, he's story, a true story. True story. He would wear scrubs to the much of every day.

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I asked him, Why do you wear scrubs when you go to the machine? He said, It makes me more desirable in the community. When I get married, I'll find the right person.

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So that he starts fishing until he puts the hook in the right place, and hooks the Father. He then Mr. Guerlain says, Do you want to eat dogs for the rest of your life? Or would you like Brioni

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that's the Dow and the video. Now what he does is he uses this charm, his personality, his education, or whatever else it is that people use.

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And he lures her out of the engagement. This is what the Prophet said along my name is said I'm saying don't do and as absurd as this may sound, unfortunately, this happens a lot. It happens quite frequently. And the other person who gets cheated out of what they've agreed on, it hurts them, you know, because they had a commitment. They have something that was there as if someone else comes and steals it. The profit of artisans sit, don't do it. However, in the narration of a Muslim has never been better off Lebanon or the Allah one. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, what I asked you about our suitability a fee he had never He puts a condition. Hatha Yoga, Hatha Yoga means

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unless, until he pulls out

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that person who says I'm no longer interested in this girl, now, someone else can come and make a proposal, or that person says I'm no longer interested in the home, I'm going to move to California instead, someone else can come and place an offer. Now one thing I want to mention, while we're at it, just as we said,

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in the transaction that multiple people can place an offer at once, multiple girls can place can make a proposal to a man or multiple men can make proposals to one woman.

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Are you guys following? What it's not permitted? When

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two people have gone into agreement? That's what's not permitted. So you can reach out to the shoddy auntie, the restante and ask her to extend your 10 bio data's alright. So basically, you go to the restaurant because when it who knows everyone that's getting married and everyone forwards their their brief bio to that auntie and she carries all of them. She was like, she's like a fault she is, you know, matrimonial she is the matrimonial website. She's the OG matrimonial website and everyone starts sending her their bios and if anyone's interested, you reach out to them and she says, she sends 10 at once, like passing out candies, or like you know, you know, Pokemon cards here sent here

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Go, go play with them, if you go through 10 of them, so you find the right person. I don't know if that's ever going to help you find the right person. But anyway

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there's a little fear associated with this muscle but I'll leave it for now. We'll move on the crops that a lot hotter you will see them then said be brothers have one or another be brothers. You know, learn to love one another. In one Hadith the Prophet Allahu alayhi wa sallam said, The Hado that give gifts to one another fading that hadith

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to the Hebrew Wah ha ha ha Saturday that give gifts to one another for indeed gifts removes what what it means heat. It removes the heat in the heart meaning enmity and hatred that's in your heart. Don't remove it by giving a gift to another person. And one narration he said said allow them to hide though the hot boot that give gifts to one another and your love will increase. In one narration as narrated by Ramana bin Abdulaziz he narrates it before on to the props that along when he was sitting on

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the sofa who fame know who you are he was Shana. What the Hado that when you greet one another shake hands. It'll remove that animosity you have in your heart. Hustle and bustle. You said Alamosa Alamosa to the Z the Phil would that indeed shaking hands increases in love. Your love will increase for the person that you shake hands with. Which I have the famous professor he says baloney a no either

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Para motor hub Bernie further he

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was the Safa ha the heart that SATA Yahama cannot the heart and what a combination that when two people see one another and they smile at one another and they shake hands and they greet one another, their sins fall off just like leaves fall off from a tree.

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The POTUS Allahu alayhi wa sallam was telling us to be brothers, and the responsibility of brotherhood is that you desire good for your brother and you save your brother from evil. And then this explains the next part of the Hadith. Now the Prophet SAW Selim says in the next part of the Hadith, you will oppress your brother, you are not fail him, you won't abandon Him, you will lie to him. And you won't belittle your brother, because you are a brother. You never oppress another person. We already talked about oppression, I won't go into that. You won't fail him for the land he uses. What does failure mean for the man who are political neutrality? What a honor, it is to not

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help someone in their time of need.

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The first one is don't do vote. And the second is don't abandon him. What's the difference between volume and Federline? They say, vote is for you to initiate the oppression. So the plan is for you to leave him when someone else is oppressing him. You have the ability to help you walk away. That's called abandoning your brother.

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Someone is struggling in their marriage, you just walk away rather than trying to help them. You just abandoned your brother. Someone is struggling financially, you can help them you walk away. You just abandon your brother. There are they saying

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that for a person who has honor and wealth does that God that that honor is that you help people who don't have it. People who are struggling. People who don't have that position that you do if you can write a recommendation letter and get them that job, then help them don't abandon people. You know,

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in a hadith, multiple villa in the home, you know, whoever is present and they see his brother, a believer being disgraced for Lemurian Zulu and he does not help him Well who are you after Allah Yasuda who and he is able of helping him. Avila who law who is also the highlife to Allah will disgrace him in front of the creation of the New Testament because you can help someone and you didn't help. Similar the narration narrative at members. Allah Allah from Rama center, the Allah one, the prophet Allah Hi, my name is Adam said Manasa AHA who builds AB Well who is Dottie erroneous Rahu NASA NASA hula who fit dunya with Assad

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or whoever helps his brother and he is able to help him he has the ability and he doesn't help his brother. Allah will help him in the dunya and Allah will also help him in the Hereafter. And the next part of the Hadith process I'm saying Don't lie to your brother. In one narration, have you said Allahu alayhi wa sallam says a couple of weeks Fianna turn unto Harghita a haka, who are like me he was subjected to Antara, who he gathered. Who had a common subject wanted a hobby he kind of how great of a treachery is it that you say something to a brother? You say something to someone, he thinks you're speaking the truth or you're lying to you just you've just cheated this person. Never

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lie to another person. And then perhaps it Allahu alayhi wa sallam says, We're not the hero who and don't look down upon others don't belittle others.

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This hadith is so beautiful, because it's a long Hadith we've covered so much. But this is beautiful Barraza beautiful elephants Allama they say well how the Olden Allah but that right now the purpose that Allahu Allah was set up just took the Hadith back right to the beginning. He started off by saying don't be jealous. And as we close off the Hadith, he brings it to the point where he says, and don't belittle another person

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bringing it back right where it started. Have them SIV min Sid Bill Quran Kareem assume that in Abuja, fade out all matam your audit the key to be metadata, that when a discussion becomes long, at the end of the discussion, you always connected back to the beginning. That's when you know the person that speaking knows how to speak, they know how to deliver a lecture, they always take you back to the purpose. The conclusion will always be in line with the the introduction, there'll be a synthesis between the two that just, you know, just divulging here and there and at the end, you're in a whole different place from where you started. And he gives an example of this in the Quran and

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Sunnah Bacara cinnabar as the biggest sort of longest Surah Correct. Allah starts off with Olivia you're gonna believe and finish the Sunnah off with Amana Rasul.

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So it starts with Imam and also at the end of the whole Surah it ends with what

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hundreds of verses later it ends with emaan to true mind you, that's where your focus needs to be. This is what the actual message was. So the Hadith started off with hasip and it brings us back right there that don't belittle another another believer.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala says in the Quran regarding belittling others don't joke and mock on other people. Because sometimes you may think you're better but they are better than you last platform woman Amina Aasaiya Kunal Herman, whom Allah DISA minister and Aasaiya panna Jairo minha

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You may mock someone and think that they're nothing but they may be better than you. And a group of women, we mock another, another lady or a group, another group of women, and they might be better than you. Someone might say, black people are criminals. How do you know they're criminals? Have you met every black person in the world? You know, white people are racist. Have you met all the white people in the world that you're saying white people are racist? You know? So all all Indians? Are IT people? Not that that's an insult? We'll take the 100k salary any day, but

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you have you met all of them. And you ask them what your profession? That's an insult. Why are you generalizing. Generalizing is never a good thing. It's a bad thing. And unfortunately, in our communities, this is very common. chiffon has plagued our hearts with our job and given self obsession, and pride. And we have created false ways to identify ourselves being better than others. We don't carry substance to make us better than others. Because if you want to be better than another person, as this hadith is going to tell us next. It's through Taqwa. And we don't have Taqwa. So we make ourselves better than others by saying, I'm from so and so race. That's why I'm

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better. I'm from so and so country. And it's so petty and silly. You know,

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I want you to think of a country right now. Can everyone think of a country choose any country in the world?

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In that country, one region of that country looks down upon another reason. Is that true or false? whatever country you're thinking of. Then if you go to one of those two regions, one city looks down upon the other city shortfalls.

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Choose one of those two cities. One part one village looked at, it looks at apart another village, true or false. You go to the same village. Now, one part of the village looks down upon the other part of the village. True or False? It's true, that it was in that part of the village, one family looks down upon the other family. This is all shaytani this is all satanic. This is these are whispers of shaytaan. How can a person's value be determined on the color of their skin or the language they speak? This is silly. This is not meaningful. This is absolute nonsense. And unfortunately, in our communities, each and every heart, you know, is plagued. There's always that

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one of people, people that people look down upon, there was one person I gave a football and he came to me and he said to me after the hokhmah shift, I agree with you all Muslims are equal. I just have a tough time accepting and then he mentioned the country.

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And as a team, will you even listening to my football?

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Did you miss the football that you think it's okay for you to come and just you know, and then I'm sitting with people and throwing racial slurs around, you know, as if nothing's happening, until we don't fix our act.

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We can't teach the world about unity. Malcolm X rockin Mohalla he said very eloquently, that America is plagued with the disease, of class of separation racism. And I found the solution to this within Islam. And it's true Islam is a solution to racism. Everyone is one. No race class, no nothing, no gender difference. Everything everyone is equal. However, we can only talk about it if we act upon it yourself. If we don't act upon it, how are we going to tell the world that we have the solution to racism, because at that point, our words are empty, and they're not necessarily meaningful.

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The proximate Allahu alayhi wa sallam then says he encourages a study of Taqwa. He points towards his heart as a stepwise here, and this is where you need to focus. So tabla will help you accomplish everything that was mentioned above you will stay away from jealousy through patois. You will not cheat one another to talk well, you won't turn away from one another through tequila. You won't be angry with one another toutefois you won't oppress each other through tequila, you will look down upon another person through tequila, you will abandon your other brothers without the wall you will lie to one another if you have Taqwa. Now, the prophecy allowed us to look at the eloquence of the

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Hadith. He closes off by a new solution

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focused on building consciousness with Allah. If you have a bond with Allah, you won't desire to harm other people. You won't want to harm anyone you'll always want to be there to help others. And you might know we don't have to lie here any further proves this point for the next week which we'll cover next week inshallah.

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So focus on it reflect the Prophet Allah Hi, my name is tenemos Assmann economic mass who is the most honorable of people. He said a lot of students for whom the lions are legit. The one who was most conscious of Allah. That's the person who was most honorable. There's a hadith and say in the body, that the Prophet of Allah hottie was said it was sitting and there were two other companions sitting there while they were sitting, one person passed by.

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So one friend said to the other friend, Mara, if you haven't What's your opinion regarding this person?

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So for all Roger Minesh raphanus He said, This person is like, he is from the creme of society. He's a respectable person. How about Allah? How do you earn in haka and unica when chef Ah, are you chef ah, the he

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He is if he ever presents a proposal to anyone they will accept it. And if he ever intercede on behalf of someone that intercession will be accepted.

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The Prophet Allah hottie was sitting heard this. He didn't say anything for psychotherapy hear me inside. So to

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sum up medulla Raja, then another person passed by. So his buddy asked him, you know, actually the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said this time now the Prophet jumped in. The Prophet said to them, what do you think about this guy?

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They both looked at him.

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Pollyanna said, Allah, He said, the Messenger of Allah, how about Roger Fukada immensely mean? He is from the lower class of society, he is from the poor people from the Muslims. How about how do you impart about Allah Yuga He is worthy that if he makes a proposal, no one will accept it. And if you intercede on behalf of someone, his intercession will not be accepted.

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The Prophet of Allahu alayhi wa sallam in response to this,

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he said

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had our phaedon Mill in our the Mithila hada that the second man is better than an earth full of people of the first man. Because the second man had tequila and that's what really determines your value. Not the way you dress not which neighborhood you live in our school your kids go to an average car you drive, what kind of suit you wear, these things don't matter. What matters is the heart that you have.

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Mohammed bin gobbler put it while doing the seed of opening of ayat of surah walkie talkie battle talking about Dr. Lisa liver Katya, God diva that Allah describes the day of judgment as half eaten raffia Sofitel rocky I mean, it will bring down some and it will raise some. So he commented by saying that filthy Jalan counterfeit dunya Martha Corinne were thoroughly Jaren counterfeit fit in Yama fully, that it will raise some meaning those people who had no honor and no respect on the road, but they have Taqwa Allah will raise them on the New Testament, and Hafi that it will bring some people down. Those people who thought they were everything they were, you know, they thought

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they were arrogant. And they thought they had the whole world's attention. On the Day of Judgment, they will have no man's attention, they will be washed away by

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the prophets of Allah while he was sort of pointed towards his chests. And that's to remind us that the true value of a person is in their Iman, how did it how they develop themselves internally. It's not here, it's not in your face. It's not in your bank account. That's not the true value of a person. It's what kind of individual you are in your heart. And the owner might also write the prompts that allow him to sort of pointed towards his heart, when he stepped up was here to indicate that no one can ever see inside your heart so no one would ever know whether you are conscious or not. And you'll never know if other people have done or not so never belittled another person.

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Because whether they're conscious of Allah, whether they have Taqwa or not, you'll never know. Only Allah knows. And they know that's their secret with ALLAH SubhanA Muqtada. The true essence of tequila is a several monkey. It is a hidden secret. No one can ever really know of your tequila ALLAH knows and the person involved in us. So don't don't belittle other people you don't have the right to mock other people.

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The Prophet Allah Hi, my name is something closes off the Hadith by saying that the blood of often honor of a brother are prohibited without his consent. You can't hurt someone kill someone, you know, spill his blood, or steal his wealth or harvest honor. You can't do that. Because his honor is protected his blood, his wealth is protected, his blood is protected, every individual is protected. So you have to be that that for them. And we know in the process that a lot of sort of said believers are not there to hurt one another. They're there for supporting one another, establishing Brotherhood

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rvng If you study you'll see that this hadith really manifests itself in Islamic law. Because in Islamic law, there are five mocassin that are known as the McCloskey, the Sharia. These are the ultimate goals that the Sharia Islamic law is trying to accomplish. What are the five goals that Islamic law is trying to accomplish? Here the deen protecting the religion giving every person the freedom to practice their religion? Here's the neffs the protection of life. No person should be harmed, killed, robbed, I mean, not harmed, killed or bullied or pushed her hit unrightfully it's not like someone is trying to hurt another person's body in any way. It's Donald stepping right

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away. Surely I will say you do not have the right to hurt another innocent person.

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Here's an attempt to protect the human intellect. Here's one man protect human wealth if there's any cheating or that happens in the stock market or in the trading area in the markets in general. It's not we'll step in and say this is hard as hell. There's no cheating. One of the goals of Islamic law is to protect the human wealth

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and have the vessel to protect lineage to make sure that the family structure is safe. Children are looked after parents are looked after spouses all look after brothers and sisters and look after the family structure is preserved.

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I like to finish today's hotdogs

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his discussion, today's Hadith plus with one function, and I want you to think about this deep at heart.

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And I want this to be on your mind tonight.

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That if

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we as societies and communities, Muslim and non Muslim, were able to implement this particular Hadith.

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What kind of world do you think we live in?

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What do you think the Romans look like?

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If the Muslim countries, the Western world, third world countries, first of all countries everywhere in the world, if people were just implement this one idea that we discussed today, I want you to think of what the world will look like. Then I want you to think

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and understand

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that where we are today, in terms of the stunting our growth as a society as a community,

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maybe the result of not practicing these important teachings of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam pray that Allah subhanahu wa Tada purifies our hearts. Allah subhana wa Tada strengthens us. Allah subhanaw taala enables us to be brothers of one another to be sisters for one another. Allah subhanaw taala strengthens us as a community and purifies our hearts and instills our hearts with contentment and love. Also Allahu Allah has a ceremony with Allah who will work out