Children Around The Prophet 5 Develop The Morals

Hesham Al-Awadi

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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim al hamdu lillahi wa inna Stein Honister de

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la mirada unfussy Nancy rt armanino Maria de la hufa, mustard woman Youngblood phyllanthus della Julio Machida

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Chateau La ilaha illAllah, wa ala Sheree kala, Mohammed Abdullah, he also,

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Allah bless us today with the second day of this course, and make us all sincere and able to listen and apply

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rather than to listen for the sake of education and

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intellectual luxury, but to be practical and apply what we could. And all lawmakers love the stories of those related to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam and the children

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bearing in mind that those children are companions, and any respect that we have for those companions

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does not just go to people like Abu Bakar, or Mr. Othman or the line whom but goes also to the children that are 10 years, seven years, five years.

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People that we might look at as children, we have to say and moloko their line, we have to say Abdullah, Jaffa toe the line.

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And this is something that I should have said and stated at the beginning, this course could have been accurately called companions around the Prophet,

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even when we talk about women companions around the Prophet.

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So why, then children are not looked at as companions, bearing in mind that they seen the prophet SAW Selim as Muslims.

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Brother brothers and sisters, what have we been doing so far? Well, we have been looking at a builder,

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dealing with very sophisticated living beings, children, children who are not always rational, and reasonable in their behavior and attitude in their questions and queries. And imagine this builder is not just designated with the responsibility of talking to children. This builder is building a nation, a community, a society, building humanity. This builder is not just dealing with you, he's dealing with the unseen, he's dealing with the jinn. This builder is not just dealing with people on earth, but he is communicating with living beings in heaven. He is receiving revelation, he goes to Islam and Mirage, he goes and visits Heaven, he looks at health from a distance, he speaks to

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gibreel. And he looks at the angels, yet he has time to talk to children, yet, he has time to address their concerns, even if they were minor concerns as minor as a dying pet.

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And this builder is not tasting things. This builder is building blocks. And the first block was the block of emotionality, the block of love, the block of mercy, the book of building a bridge, where it could be then later used to build other blocks. So this bridge of emotionality love mercy between the child and the parent, the Father, the builder, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is the bridge that is going to transfer the other blocks.

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And if the block of aqeedah is heavy, as its accurately is, but the bridge is weak, the block is going to fall in the middle of the river.

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If the bridge is weak, the block of data is not going to sustain itself. And the child will pray for a while when the parents are looking at him. But when he goes outside the house, he goes to do other things that has nothing to do with a bat up because this bridge was weak from the beginning and also sanlam spent a lot of time

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more than 17 minutes that we spent yesterday to build that bridge.

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Today we are going to talk about the rest of the blocks. And inshallah today we hope to argue that now the building is complete, and the children are grown up. And they are adults. And they are doing exactly the same mission that are so seldom did with them with their children. And there there is this process of a continuous building, building building.

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Now it's unfortunate

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in our case that we have to destroy buildings to build new ones. It's double the effort and that's why

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Selim said that

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I miss my beloved ones, the Hadith, famous Hadith, I miss my beloved ones, and the Sahaba said the Rasul Allah antwi, your beloved ones, he said, No, you are my companions. You are my friends and Thomas hobby.

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But I missing Bobby. They said Who are the Ababa Kira? Salalah? Who are your beloved ones? You know, who are they? It's you. You are the ABAP or Selim, if he saw you say your hubby become my beloved ones come.

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They said, Yeah, Rasul Allah, why, why bother?

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He says something that explains exactly what I'm saying, destroying the building and building a new building. He said, because they believed in me, without seeing me.

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And they attempted to do whatever I ordered them to do without any help from my side, you found me to help you. But they found no one to help them. They haven't found a decent

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parent or a decent school or a decent community or a decent friendship. They haven't found, yes, books and talks and conferences. But this is not like the profits are seldom. And what is the result of all that absence? Well, good news. Good news. Good news, or beloved ones, to the resource are seldom good news for you. And the one who loves always gives good news. This is a gift. What is the good news? The good news is that who practices the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu, as if he was alive, he gets 50 times the reward of the companions. Can you believe that?

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And the Sahaba, were shocked as you might be shocked now.

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They said Yara Salalah 50 times that he would have us or do we get 50 times the reward of them.

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Because they thought that because I saw the Prophet is honorable. And indeed they are honorable. But also Solomon is wanting to give them a new twist to this feeling of honor. He wants to

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make them feel that others could be also honorable. And he says no 50 times the reward of you.

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So this is the good news.

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But the point is that the process of building continues, and you have to build. But before building you have to read you have to educate yourself, brothers and sisters, I cannot hit it harder than that I cannot hit it hard by saying please, please, please read. Even those who are not married, read, read about your life, read about marriage, read about children. This is your destiny. This is your future. I have two daughters.

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And I was fascinated when I read this hadith where I saw Selim said to the Sahaba, whoever is blessed with three daughters, and he takes proper care of them.

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He will go to gender.

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That's the mission. This is not a suicide mission. That's not killing yourself to go to gender, there is a longer route, but an enjoyable route. What is more enjoyable than taking your children to swim or to bounce a cup? This is an enjoyable route. And it's going to take you to the same destiny gender,

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the Sahaba it seems one of the Sahaba had one one of them had two daughters. So he said, what about those jasola? Who have two daughters? I think he's asking the question on behalf of me and their asylum. This is the beauty of having lots of intelligent companions, that you don't have to say, Oh, I wish someone asked this question because indeed, there was someone that asked that question.

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So also salami said, as that kind person, kind Prophet, he said, even if two daughters and in another narration, it seems that there was another Sahabi, who had one daughter said jasola What about even one daughter? It's good that you didn't have a bachelor who said what about law to his bachelor? He's in trouble.

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So I always say to myself, why not? Why not? My mission in this life is to take care of these two daughters and do my utmost until they are married. I'm not sure what the husband will do but why not? do my utmost and see

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gender through them and I always visualize in my mind this I always visualize that I am struggling to go to gender struggling, but the two daughters I encounter them on the gate of Elgin

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and I'm seeking permission from them please open for your father the door of gender. And they are both of them. One is taking one door and the other and they are opening the door and saying football Baba, get inside. I always visualize

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This, and when I visualize that, I say, I'm going to struggle to make them better girls, but better boys, for those who have boys better community, because you will get it in sha Allah, blessed in this dunya and you will get the blessing of Allah engender, this is by way of an introduction, but also reminding you of what we did yesterday. Today we are building

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a fourth block, which is the block of morals. So I began actually these blocks 123 I have thought about them and how to organize them in a very careful way. And I thought I said, First, it's the love. First it's the emotion. First is this confidence between the mob B and the child or between the parent and the child or between the prophet SAW Selim and the child. Then when the child begins to love and accept, you then begin to talk to him or her about a man and Akita and creed and belief. And then when that block is built, again, it's being cemented or complemented with another block, which is the block of worship block of everybody. And I said that these two blocks if they are built

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together, they are not on top of each other, but they are adjacent to each other cementing and supporting each other. But the manifestation of all that is what is behavior is attitude, hence, morals today, the fourth block.

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I think that when we talk about manners, when we talk about edit, when we talk about luck, which unfortunately, some people would like to argue that there is no such thing in Islam as Adam fluc. But when we talk about this concept of a flop and adapt, and manners and behavior, I think that before that could be manifested genuinely And truly, I think there has to be a concept of a concept of belief. And if that is not well ingrained, and situated and built in the mind of the child, I think manners will be pretentious,

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artificial, superficial, cultivated in water, any wave can come and destroy it.

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That's my idea. myopia. I could be wrong. And that's why I said this is the fourth block.

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Now,

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when we talk about manners and o'clock, what can we say immediately, brothers and sisters imagine?

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What is the consequences or what is the outcome or what is the result of a child that have been brought up by someone who Allah subhana wa Taala says

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about him or in neck Allah, Allah, Allah can have him Do you understand what Avi means? Okay. If you look at the Quran, and when when the Quran asks mins, or Muslims to be of well mannered, you will notice that the Quran asks you as human beings as Muslims to have hollow Casson hasn't good manners. Now, this is what you are required to do. What are the means is that Allah subhanho wa Taala is telling you that also Selim is in a higher status than even those who have Allah kasana so any Sahabi any companion any Tabori, any holy person on this earth now yesterday and tomorrow, who you think is magnificent in morals and manners, and has the best of o'clock always be certain that our

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souls are seldom is higher, higher higher than that so much so that he has a flock of Lima, not a person?

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Do you understand now, the impact that this verse could have? We're in Mecca Lala Hello Kim Hasson? No, we're in Mecca, Lala hollow King Avi. And if you look at the word Avi in the Quran, it's always linked with Alma with greatness. The Quran is rbwm Allah is alim, the day of judgment is an avviene de Hellfire is either

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but the morals of aerosol Salim deserve to be on that same level of Allah hence we're in lac Allah, Allah, Allah king of him. Now, imagine that this athlete, this human being is moving on Earth, interacting with other human beings. Do you think that they will be mediocre level in manners? Do you think that they will be artificial? Do you think that they will be superficial? No way. Why? Because the other man is radiating. It's like the sun radiating its heat from miles and miles and miles. We feel the heat. So you feel the other more of that. hollow you feel

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The other of that holyoake

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human beings feel the element of that whole look. But the sun, the beams, the light of the sun is not just felt by the human beings it's felt by the plants. It's felt by the animals. It's felt by everything on this earth. Well, indeed, it's the same with Prophet Muhammad SAW Salim Varma of Prophet Mohammed o'clock is felt by all living organisms. What? Yes, by animals? Yes. By plants? Yes, plants. Yes.

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You remember the Hadees that I mentioned, where our sons are seldom used to lean on the trunk of a tree

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for many, many months before they made him a member,

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and something to step on it to give the hotma

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and Carpenter came and said, jasola, I'll do you a proper member, where the Imam now steps on the stairs and say Salaam Alaikum and sits down and the hook begins before that is also seldom used to lean on the trunk of a tree. Now, you sit now on these chairs, and you will leave these chairs and Patrick and Michael and Monday or next academic term will sit on these chairs, and this chair will witness many people sitting on them. And the chair will be tired and unaware and will be thrown away. But that did not happen to the trunk. Because it was not like these chairs. And the person who was leaning on that trunk was not any person.

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Do you imagine brothers and sisters that this trunk continued to weep after the member was made to rustle sausage lamb out of missing that leaning?

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And they say in the Hadith that anyone who entered the mosque could hear the weeping of that trunk like we today or yesterday heard the weeping of children.

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Imagine yourself brothers and sisters imagine yourself going into the mosque and hearing this weep. Imagine going to the mosque of a Navy saucer and imagine if you are taking to the past the time of asylum and you are taking by one of the bodyguards one of the companions who will say to you I'm going to take you for a trip to messenger Sol Sol Sol and he will go and see the masjid very humble Masjid. You might even enter with your shoes because there is no fancy carpets and you see or you hear a weeping and you say What's this? And he will say this is a trunk weeping. What would you say to the companion? You look at that incident you look at them. I'm not kidding you. This is a hadith

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that is in Muslim and Bukhari. And you look at him standing up and you will ask the companion who is this? He will say you don't know him. This is a muscle cell cell immune prophet. You are his hubby. You say this is our sauce Allah, Masha Allah. And then you see our sauce lm going and embracing and hugging this trunk and the weeping stops. And then you hear our sauce lm saying to the companions, Lola he, if I did not embrace that trunk, this trunk will be weeping, continuing to weep until the day of judgment.

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Until the day of judgment means what means maybe one day you will witness that trunk weeping in 2005, but only because that trunk was embraced by a resource element stopped.

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Can you think about that? So think then think then I'm trying to re rise your aspirations rise your imaginations up? To make it then intelligible? and easy to think about children then raised by the prophet sallallahu sallam, why shouldn't they be Obama, then?

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why shouldn't they be the best of morals then?

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Let's now talk about incidents and some things that are happening on the ground.

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And a seven Malik cut of the line he says I served so seldom I worked for a salon salon for 10 years.

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Imagine when someone talks about his working experience in boots or Sainsbury, or I worked in Cincinnati for two months, we had an idiot manager, we had the silly the salary wasn't good. Now imagine a child saying

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I worked for a saucer land for 10 years, and he never will law he says what law he matale off. He never said to me off.

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He never said to me, why did you do that? Which I didn't tell you to do and why didn't you do that? Which I told

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Do a week or a minute or an hour ago to do who Allah He never told me this. But it's interesting and fascinating to note that nsabp Malik is using a special expression. In fact, he's using a Quranic expression, while ah he makaveli off.

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He never said to me of God, and that is a Quranic expression in relation to who

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in relation to parents. Imagine.

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Allah is saying to you don't say off to your parents, to have hollow cotton and SLM is not saying to a 10 years old servant is in this whole look of him.

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You understand, you understand, you see the twist, the twist is that we are asked not to say off to our parents, because this is our level. This is what we could do to be the best. But also Selim can do even better than that, he can say to the children, anything that is not disrespectful.

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Even if it was the word of can you see the amount of volume

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and there is another incident that is in the book of Muslim where and I said Malik again, narrates this hadith. It says Canon nibio sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in accent in Nazi holo con for Selenium. And he said, Alison Malik is you can see Alison Malik of Yolanda this love. Whenever he narrates an incident, he has to first of all give a background to it or a statement or a comment. He says Helen had the best of manners

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among human beings. One day, you see the story begins. He said one day he sent me to do something for him. And we are not told in the Hadith. What is that thing? Neither Anna's tells you because this is not the point. There is another point.

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And in fact, Anna says, I had the intention to go but not immediately. And he's being honest in that.

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And then I went to do that thing. And on the way I saw some children, and naturally he stopped and played with them. And he did not do that thing. Or at least he did not do it yet.

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Rasulullah saw Salah he says, Then suddenly, I heard or saw Selim behind me, calling me Anis fan of our to La Jolla pack fascinating brothers and sisters, I've actually marked this statement. And again, imagining I'm imagining, he said, For Nevada to LA. Of course he called him so I looked at him. And I saw him laughing. Is this a context of laughter? Is this a moment of joy? Is it a moment of joy when you ask someone to do something, a husband asks the wife, a wife asks the husband and comes an hour later, and the dinner is late or the lunch is not big? Or the dishes are not? Or the nappies have not been? Is this a context of smile or laughter? Or is it a context of approachment?

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And why did you do this? or Why didn't you do that? for an hour to LA he woke up and said Anna, did you go to where I ordered you to go? He said yeah, Rasul Allah, I'm going I'm going typical of children, but also seldom exactly understood that this is exactly typical of children. It's difficult that children forget, it's typical that children are fascinated with other children playing and they look at them and forget everything else. It's typical. And out of this expectation that this is typical, are also are seldom smiled and laughed. Do you know when you become angry, you become angry, when you are surprised, you become angry when you anticipate or expect that once you

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told your wife to clean the dishes, or vice versa, if you are a feminist, if you expected him or her to do, you come and you are expecting the dishes to be but you can't realize that at that time, there are there is friends or there is something interesting that he or she was calling a friend or that she went to a circle or whatever. And you were surprised or resourceful and the fact that he is laughing and smiling shows that he knows the nature of children. And this is exactly as parents what you should come to learn and understand. And when you come to learn and understand that a three years old boy behaves like this, you will never be angry. Six years old boy or girl behaves like

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this. This is typical of six year you will never be angry. It doesn't mean that you become insensitive, or that you leave your role as a guide or as a advisor, but it means that you don't become hysterical and you don't change the moon car or change the wrong with something that will bring or that that will bring a grater on or something that will break your original bridge.

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That you spent years and years in building the emotional bridge, the bridge of confidence, because once this bridge is broken once this confidence is breached, expect anything expect that he will look for alternatives expect that he will lie at you expect that he will hate you. One day, expect all that. Another source I love wanted to love and wanted to smile and wanted to assure him. And I'm sure that this smile had a tremendous effect on us and made them a little bit embarrassed and said jasola I'm going now to go because he saw this confidence that also solemn gave to him, I trust that you're going that's why I'm laughing. I'm feeling safe. I'm feeling happy, because I know that

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you're going, that feeling that is radiated and been through this laughter is what gave him this confidence, I think, to say I'm going now he also Allah sallallahu sallam, it's different than if he raised his voice and shouted at him, he will go, but he will go saying Why did you do that? Allah, Allah Subhana Allah says, Why

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are you

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so seldom smiled, and he went loving more, or salsa lamb. And the proof for that is that he's narrating the story now when he is probably 6070 years old, man.

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And as again, don't be alarmed, he said, I served him for 10 years. This is another narration but it shows another dimension. And as martial law of the line is holding the camera for many directions and bringing us many narrations, if anything, it shows that he said this hadith to many people that I serve are selling for 10 years, what a pleasure.

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And he says he never ordered me to do something which I didn't do. So there were incidents that he didn't do what he ordered him to do for alimony. And he blamed me. And when he's family, he's talking about the lives of others so seldom

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blame me He intercedes to say what to say, leave him alone. Allah did not allow it to happen. And that's why it did not happen. What do you know what also Salim is doing here? Of course, he's educating the wives. But more importantly, he's teaching the child about Canada and Canada, about predestiny not in a way that you will, okay, I will not study and inshallah I'll make, or that Ennis, next day will not do anything and become lazy, but in a constructive way, leave him. It is as if he's saying it's something of the past now. But oh, and it's think about tomorrow and think about the future. But in the past, it's gone. Now. He is educating the household about about other.

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equally importantly, he's not blaming the child. And blaming, by the way, is not a very good thing to do. It makes you unconfident, or it makes you doubt yourself. And I think that when children are being blamed all the time, they grow up. And they pass on this behavior of blaming to their wives, or if it was a girl to the husband, because this is what they have been in the habit of doing blaming and criticizing.

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One of the

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items in that block of morals is drama. And again, I'm sorry to talk about drama a lot. But really, I think, in this society in this time, where relations are being severed by parents and children and wives and husband, we need to talk about trauma. I think this is the this is what moisture is this, this trust in the relationship. This is what what puts the oil in that trust.

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So our salsa lamb was also teaching, not teaching radiating Rama, and they will absorb it and internalize it. And the Hadeeth I mentioned that in previous sessions, but I will mention it now very quickly, and comment on it of the lab and Jafar or the line one of the young boys. He said, I went with him one day, and he entered into a fruit garden and he saw a common and the camel. When when the camel he says when the camel saw Selim, he started weeping. Does this remind you of a trunk? So the camel started weeping. So Pamela, have you seen the sixth sense, where a boy sees sees the dead and the solicitor appear to be dead as well, or the lawyer who owed the psychiatrist I

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think or whatever that

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is missing. So six elements, the boy was seeing the dead and the dead. Were asking for his help. Imagine that a seller is walking and everyone is weeping to him. Imagine he goes, here I come and weeds here. Your sole ally was murdered. years ago he murdered me. And he weeps. The trunk is weeping because he doesn't allow you when you leaned on me and now you don't. And he embraces like the boy tries to help those dead and they're so solemn is is this is exactly what he was doing with this camera when the camera was weeping. I assure you that so sullen did not enter

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At that point in that garden the cabin will not weep with two who, who Tallinn avatar level two Abu Bakr Siddiq, no he's weeping towards us and because he knows that also Salim is the Prophet of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So he weeps and the fascinating thing, and this is the beauty of accompanying great people, not to mention profits is that you will see amazing things I don't think that again, if our beloved Jaffa entered alone into that food garden, he will see camels weeping, but he saw camels weeping which is amazing, because he was with amazing people. And when you are with amazing people, you cannot witness other than amazing situations. So he saw our sauce lm actually when that

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common whipped he saw again and so seldom

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wiping on the head of the camera. Just to tell you that wiping is not just for children, he wipes anything he embraces anything.

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He is an open heart to anyone that wants love and care.

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Because he is you know, I mean, not just in rhetoric or in money either or in segments or in conferences, but in real world.

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So he we he actually wipes the head and then the head of that count and then he asks, Who is the owner of that camel and youngboy comes you see children around the Prophet, I unvoiced comes and says jasola It's me. He said and he says to him also said and he said Allah tequila he had he

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won't you feel Allah in that animal?

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And let you Malacca Colonia in that animal which Allah made you own

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a number Shekar la Anika to JIRA to JIRA, that common complaint to me look this weeping. There is a language there is a conversation taking place by the way. You can't hear it. You can't see it. Abdullah Jaffer did not report it. Before also selling disclosed the content of the conversation. In the same way that no one knew what the snake was telling him. I saw someone probably saying Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realize that they were your grandsons and left. So a conversation is taking place but I know Shaka LA, and NACA to zero. It has complained to me that you starve to death. You don't give it food, proper food to eat. I think you should memorize this hadith and say to all animal

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rights activists that are waiting for you to sign against furs and against killing animals and foxes etc, etc. This is a hadith that shows that a conversation is taking place. Don't tell them that the camel was talking to them. You actually might, might not might for certain you have to narrate the story to your children because they will appreciate camels talking to human beings.

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Exactly because they are children. Imagine you say to a child under common weep and said yeah, Rasul Allah, He makes me hungry. He doesn't give me conflicts or breakfast, or sausage or whatever. I don't know if camels eat these things. But I'm just speaking about the way to narrate it to the child.

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Now imagine Abdullah Jaffer, what is he learning from all this experience? What is he internalizing? He is saying he's internalizing the value of mercy, he is internalizing the value of responsibility that you own this animal. And if you own it, you can't abuse it, because you own it. If you own your wife between inverted commas, it doesn't mean that you abuse your wife. If If you own your children, it doesn't mean that you abused them and abused them. I don't mean beat them, I mean, neglect them.

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If you own your child, this is a responsibility. And this is a duty. But in the case of children and women, it's not just about feeding, but bringing them dealing with them properly and raising your children properly. You see the essence of this hadith and this is exactly brothers and sisters, look, we might not meet in the future, but this is exactly what I want you to inculcate in your way of thinking, to take the Hadith yesterday that literally and understand that literally. But then close your eyes and say, Oh Allah give me wisdom to understand. beyond its literal meaning in a global in a broader horizon meaning in a meaning that could be applicable to me living in London, or

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in New York, or in Africa or in India or in Bangladesh or in Pakistan. made me understand this hadith in a way that makes me feel that it's revealed to me even if I didn't have a camera, and this is the way that I think we should be reading our Islamic texts and reading our religion and understanding our Deen and if we do that, the deen will not be a straight jacket. The Dean will not just be a Friday prayer that he will not be about fasting in Ramadan and wearing fancy dress in eighth it will not be like that. It will be my oxygen. It will be my light. It will be my entire

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life to be a Muslim, based on these kinds of hottie.

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And actually, this is the third comment that I have on this hadith. It shows children for the first time, it shows in fact, the Arabian Desert society, those who don't kiss their, their children, it showed those people that not only children need to be kissed, but even animals have feelings, and even animals if they had the right tongue and language to speak, they will say that we have been abused.

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Animals have feeling animals can express themselves. And imagine for the first time what a new revelation for Abdullah Jaffa imagine now Abdullah and Jafar growing up having children and narrating this story to them and and they asked him you, your father, did you see that we've been coming? Oh, the father, did you hear the camel speaking. But this is not the point. The point is the values that are being taught and learned.

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So rather than sisters, what have we been saying so far, two things that are so solemn, is someone who had Holocaust in the highest standard exalted standard of manners and morals. And then we spoke about the manifestations of this whole carving in dealing with children. And the first manifestation was Rama. And we said that he taught them Rama through many ways, including embracing the trunk and wiping on the head of the camel.

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What is another item, immediate item that our seller would build in a child, the child who is most significant in his life, the parents, hence the item of manners and adapt with parents, we call it bear L. While it ain't being beautiful, being good, treating them with reverence and respect and kindness. I know that you have been probably advised and taught about these things in conferences and in talks, or an In fact, Waka darbuka, Allah tabula

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imaams, talk about it, etc, etc. But still it there is this struggle, this tension between generations and father and mother, and he wants to marry this girl and he doesn't want because she's not from the same tribe and all sorts of problems and tensions and

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and again, because I think one of the reasons I'm not going to now to philosophize things, but again, it's because I think of the lack of this harmonious process that has been taken place, the building of blocks between the parents and suddenly the son is becoming religious, and suddenly, he has wants to change the course of his life and he's becoming aggressive and and maybe the parents are not educated, I am aware of all these kinds of problems, but let me not discuss these problems, because you are the masters in that and you you know, better than me the situation. What I can help here is to try to show you how to salsa seldom inculcated again and made children internalize barrel

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quality, not through rhetoric, but through real examples. Let me begin with Actually, I wasn't planning that because it was it was third or fourth narrative in my in my session, but let me actually begin with it. Because I feel it's, it's dramatic. And it's nice to begin movies with dramatic scenes, and then leave you in suspense.

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This is a dramatic scene to me, that I would like to begin my narrative with, with regards to this item in relation to barrel quality.

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In the book of Ahmed bin hanborough, the line he narrated, or he narrates this Hadith, which is narrated by Abdullah an alpha of the line, he says,

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I will not mention the Hadith in Arabic, because it's quite long, but I will go straightaway into the translation. He said, Abdullah, alpha, we went with arasu sallallahu wasallam. Once and again, Subhana Allah, this is one of the honors that you witness amazing things.

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And a man came and said,

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Jada Salalah

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a boy is dying, a young boy is dying.

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And we are trying to persuade him

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and remind him to c'est la ilaha illAllah. And he says, I can't utter it. I can't say it. Now, notice that.

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Imagine that you are a companion and imagine that you are not a companion but you have been taking again to the past. Going outside demos just witnessed an amazing trunk being embraced. And now you're going and attending a circle. What else

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Amazing things, you're in the land of wonders. And also Salim says,

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Does he pray?

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This is a very worrying question immediately does he pray?

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And please, it's important

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to realize the significance of prayers. This is not our topic. But if I wanted to talk about prayers, in fact, I might mention this hadith as well.

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The shocking news, Yes, he does.

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And then also sell him for that this is a serious case that needs his attendance. He stood up and he went to see that boy and the cameramen around him.

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The Companions, bodyguards associates, those are the people

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in alpha that is that are going to narrate the story to you it's not also sell or sell them does not need to talk. There are 6070 people with mental tape recorders.

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So he went and met the boy and also Salim said, La Ilaha Illa la c'est la ilaha illa Allah and the boy so also Salam said Yana Salalah. I can't utter it. I know it. I understand. I lived for it. I said it every time in my Salah. When I say a shadow Allah, Allah, what a shadow under Mohammedan Rasulullah. I saved more than five times a day. But at that moment where I'm going to meet my Lord, I cannot say it.

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And then someone, a relative of that boy, said to him era Salalah can AR O Allah data. Yara Salalah. He used to dis obey his mother. We don't know what his mother used to ask him for. But that is not the point. The point is that he doesn't listen to his mother. He this obeys his mother can i aku Wiley data. Now look at the following question. Now also Salaam is trying this medic, this prophet, this Rama he wants to rescue that boy, like he rescued that Jewish boy when he was ill. And he said at the last minute Illa Illa Allah imagine a Jewish boy can say Illa Illa Allah and a Muslim boy cannot say la ilaha illAllah imagine that brothers and sisters. Why? Because there is a problem

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called mother

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called mother. So also silence is a highly attuned walidah to his his mother alive. They said yes, good news. Let's go to the mother. They go to the mother. And look at the conversation that takes place between now the Prophet sallahu wa sallam and the mother.

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And again, look at how our resource alum dramatizes the situation. It's not just me who is dramatizing the situation. He says to her.

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Imagine that Hellfire

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with its magnificence is being lit, specially for your son and that your son is going within seconds to be thrown

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in that hellfire.

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But then someone turned to you and say, you may

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intercede.

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Would you intercede?

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Do you see this? He didn't speak to her about the boy. He didn't speak to her about previous incidents. That is not the point. The point is that the boy is dying.

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And you are called to intercede or you have been asked that you may intercede and if you don't this is the speaker now continuing and if you don't want to intercede it's up to you because the result will be burning him while Hakuna

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Arabic has has a hot has a hot impact on the IRS. Hurry, hurry, it means fire.

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A Kentucky shine a little would you intercede?

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Said Yara Salalah.

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Of course I would intercede

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here he disobeyed. He said to her off. He shouted at her. But when a moment of horrific enough and hell comes I would intercede. I would forget the past. I would embrace him. I might even throw myself in Hellfire to protect him.

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Then also sell him said

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then say so.

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Then say, I bear witness Yara Salalah that I will intercede and she says, I shall do

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any ash Favola. I bear witness Yara Salalah that I would intercede.

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And then also salatu salam went to the boy, who Alhamdulillah was still alive and said,

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La ilaha illallah wa the hula Sharif was shadow, Mohammed Abu rasuluh. And he said it

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and he said it. And also Salim said exactly what he said when the Jewish boy became a Muslim Alhamdulillah Allah de cada homina na. Now you can say I used to pray. Now you can say I am pious and holy. Now you can say I attended conferences and and was an active student at the Islamic Society. Now you can say all that, but not before. Not before. When your mother is upset with you or your father is upset with you. This is a dramatic narrative that I wanted to begin my item of validation with and I think that with this narrative, we don't need any other narratives. Do we?

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Well, why not? Give us a more lightening up narrative You made us probably weep, make us smile. Why wouldn't he? I love the allow the life of Russell Salalah Sal and bear in mind, by the way, when I spoke about young people,

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bear in mind that when I saw Salaam died, I was only 18. A teenager perhaps younger than most of you here sitting. I'm talking about the sisters issue that narrated 1000s of Hadith and she told many scholars and many, she was only 18 when also fell and passed away. And imagine this 18 years ago not marrying after that. But being responsible women and educating men and doing all sorts of things in life that are unnecessary and I shadow the law and none of us are so lamp. Look at this fascinating Hadith. He says I intergender

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imagine a child

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interacts with a human being that have seen gender.

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And what would be the question? I mean, imagine brothers and sisters that you go to your child and say, I went to Disneyland. What will your child say? Oh my father describe it for me. Is that right? So imagine so seldom, he says the hell to the gentleman. I went to gender

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to visit

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during marriage.

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The hell to Jenna.

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For me,

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I heard a recital reciting Quran beautiful voice. And I asked

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Madhava Who is this? Who is whose voices that they said to me he says in the Hadith fucky Lee has been said to me, this is hard if not man,

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a companion

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for Karla Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam cada de como Bella. He straightaway said, that is the destiny of someone who's beautiful to his parents, because it was known in the city in the society that the most beautiful companion to his parents was a highly feminine man. So straightaway, he didn't have to ask why. And how the feminine no man is there.

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What can above and beyond me. The commentators say in the locker room, he was beautiful again to his mother. Look at someone five minutes ago who was about to be thrown in Hellfire and look at someone who's happy reading Quran in general, because he was beautiful to his mother. Look at the contrast. Isn't this good news. Now imagine who is hitting this Howdy. Imagine it's hard to

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imagine haritha goes through his mother and embraces his mother and says, My mother, it's because of you that I'm going to gender It's because of you that Allah blessed me with a nice voice to read Quran

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and the mother will say oh, you have to make sure that I am with you during that day.

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And he will say sure, of course imagine how if every man gets married, and he narrates the story to his children. And imagine he says that to his children and the children say Masha Allah. So you are saved because you will go to gender. Imagine now how the children of a highly feminine man deal with their father or deal with their mother. They want to emulate and have the same destiny as the Father. They will do no less with their mother, as Al haritha did with their grandmother.

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Building the blocks is inherited, is carried forward, the Father, the Son, and the

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Holy Ghost and that grant

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Son,

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it is inherited in the community and in the society. And have you heard of the law? I said, and have you heard about the law and then maybe you saw Selim radula. Who Who lamb,

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fatale lamb.

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Have you heard on it, it's this hadith that also sell them so a boy

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and with him was a man.

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So also sell him as the boy who is this, he said, This is my father. He said, then don't walk in front of him. One at a step below. One that is to sit below and don't do anything that would provoke him to insult you.

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Don't make your father a sinner because of you. Now the walking in front there are lots of talks among them. They say some of them said to walk walk in front of him in the night and walk behind him in the in the in the daytime, be a bodyguard basically to him. So don't take it literally walking in front or, or in the back. But the point is, show respect. treat him like your friend. No, treat him like your father, not like your father treat him as a father because he is your father.

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And the final Hadith, or Susana, Selim, this hadith is narrated by a child who's called Abdullah Omar at that time, when he saw this incident, he said that a man came to Jerusalem and he said, Yasuo Allah, I did the big mistake. I did a big sin.

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And when someone says I did the big sin, you can imagine what sin it is. Don't imagine that much because we don't know. But I'm just saying. Big sin means big sin. And companions. When they say big, it's big. And look, companions do sin. That's that's something else that companions are human beings in case you think they are holy men walking or walking on water or something. No, they are they sin and they, they make mistakes, and some of them commit adultery, and some of them drink alcohol and some of them and we spoke about this in the first session, but they repent and they feel the guilt. This is the difference now and they repent seriously. That is that is the difference. So

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the boy said a sub to them and the men are also selling says to him, then he says you're a Salalah it's up to them. Ben Lehman, is there any repentance for me? Look at the resource. lm he doesn't say make ablution and go and make a Stefan hella come in on. You have a mother. Unfortunately, that is unlike the boy that his mother was alive. He said no. jasola I don't have a mother.

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What would be the next question Do you think

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you'll have Do you have an auntie? the sister of the mother? It seems that the mother is so magnificent that anyone associated with her is magnificent.

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The mother is so honorable that anyone associated with her is honorable.

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So do you have a maternal aunt or an auntie or a holla? Good news. Yes sir. Rasul Allah Subhan. Allah be good to her.

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And this is your Toba.

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There are other manners that are also seldom inculcated again and taught to the children. I spoke about the adverb with the parents but there are other edits or there are other manners that the children were taught. One of them is added with your own brothers and sisters. And this hadith that is in Muslim narrated by Abu hurayrah were also sell and said, Whoever points just pointing at his brother to scare him, pointing pointing with an iron or with a sharp pointed piece of iron, or a knife. No mentioning of bombs here. That means this is bad. No even pointing, pointing, even if you joke jokingly,

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but the intention is to scare him or her.

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for England, Mila Catalano, the angels will be cursing you even if he was your own blood brother, from your father or mother. And I've put a small note with my pencil here. What about this brother who pulls the hair of his sister or who beats up his younger brother? Or who does what we witness happening in households? Don't take these Heidi's literally take the essence of them. The essence is not that also Selim is raging war against the use of iron. So you can use plastic or you can use sticks or machine guns. No, he is raging a campaign of awareness against terrifying. So what is he creating here? Do you know what is he creating? He's creating sensitivity.

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He's making you being sensitive to the feelings of other people. And he did this with about oh my asking about his pet. And he did this with the camel. And now he's doing it with a piece of iron. Look at horses.

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Lamb used many examples to internalize to institute the simple

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character which is mercy and care and sensitivity.

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This concept of sensitivity again, being sensitive to the feelings of neighbors, and everybody needs a good neighbor. You know what is being a good neighbor not being enabled from hell being a good neighbor, and I don't think that this is the, this is the

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that this is what a good neighbor in this society means. In fact, Subhana Allah Azza wa sallam is instituting a higher culture of good neighboring

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a higher, a far more higher culture and standard of good neighboring

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you bring stuff from any grocery or any supermarket or whatever.

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Orange and what have you ever thought. And maybe you are writing or thinking in that society of not of smuggling the bags so that your neighbor might not, of course, this is an extreme example, because everyone can go to x and y and buy oranges. We are not in a famine here. But the Hagia Sophia is talking about something that is really very, very sensitive,

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I'm sure is the companion who narrates this Hadith, he says also Salim said, and when you buy fruits, and again, don't take it literally when you buy whatever, anything unless it was a fancy car or something. But when you buy some fruit from a dealer who then give him some, give your neighbor some, you bought some orange, give him some, but if you can, if he says and if you don't want to do that, for obvious reasons.

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trilhas Sara, then bring it into the house in secret, because at that time, by the way, and in the fourth grade imaams I spoke about Medina, the structure of Medina and the the architecture of Medina and how the neighborhoods were so close to each other.

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And how certain in certain buildings one can overlook the inner adjacent house. very humbled housings, brothers and sisters, so asylums house and has an busser he says has an ulcer is a great tablet. He says I witnessed the house of asylum and hustle bustle he was he was told, he says I have to when I enter to the house of auto setup, I have to actually bend a little bit because the ceiling was so low, very, very humble houses. So at first I said one because he's bound to see you, the neighbor. So smuggle it enter it in secret because he's bound to see you. What are ya This is the point out from the ad that I want to bring forward. When I Yahoo Jolla Duca Leah Heba behala, and

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let not your son or daughter, take the food outside,

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to Vex or to show off to the son or daughter of the neighbor, to say, Look, I'm having this rare fruit from Paris or from where, and just eating it in front of him. Are you harming him? are you causing him pain? Are you bleeding him? are you pointing a sharp piece of iron on his face? No.

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But you are hurting him his feelings that is because he might be pulled, and he might like to taste it. And you know what else aerosol Selim is doing. And this is something that you might think is far fetched. But I tend to think that this is maybe one intention. I think aerosol, Selim is trying to bind the society together. So he doesn't want hatred.

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But more importantly, he wants good companionship between the children. He wants them to go to the mosque together, he wants them to play football or cricket together. And to do that, they must not anger each other. They must not make themselves hate each other.

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And if this orange is going to make us lose each other, then we don't want this orange to come in between us. I know that I seem a little bit funny when I give these examples or these parables. But this is what I think. Also, Selim is also doing, he wants to bind the children together. He wants them to continue to be good neighbors, not neighbors from hell. And there are other adapters and one of many, many adults table manners By the way, we have our table manners, beginning with the name of Allah and an eating that which is close to us. But there is one manner that I would like to focus on because I think it's relevant to our society. And that is the manner of your identity, preserving

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your identity, not to behaving in a way that will make you imitating I know the pressure of the fashion I know the pressure of style, and wanting to

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look good and be good and to be like the others not to be singled out. And when I talk about a distinctive identity, I don't mean it in a negative way in an aggressive way, but I mean it in a decent dignified way. And as an example of what I'm talking about, which might bring things clearer to mind, is this hadith which is again narrated by a child, Abdullah Omar on the line, he said, Allah saw Selim saw a young boy, shaving parts of his head and leaving the other parts unshaped call him a marine called him upon call him whatever, it seems that this boy was following a certain fashion or was playing with his appearance as a boy wanting to be distinct and noticeable. And also,

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I seldom said to him, Look, COO, COO, COO, coo coo, you either shave it all, or leave it all, but don't shave part and leave part of it. And I think that again, also Sallam wanted to make the child

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be dignified and have his distinct identity, and not to follow the fashions, and not to be just like sheep following whatever, the magazines and the TV and big brother or whatever says. And number two, teaching the child to be independent, teaching the child to be independent, that I might see someone my best friend, but I have principles, and I have rules guiding me. And I shouldn't be doing that. Now. I've talked about the hair, you extrapolate? The trousers, the skirt, the hijab, the attitude and behavior, the accent, certain words, certain manners, certain attitudes. Are you articulating your identity as a Muslim as a British Muslim? Or are you articulating your identity as someone who

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wants to be like this celebrity? Or like this group? Or like this organization? This is I think what you need to think about when you go and buy toys for your children

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I am not against I'm not against Barbie, I don't know how Believe me, but I don't buy Barbie

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toys. Even if it was the any pink Barbie pink I don't buy it.

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I in fact, I'm against. You might say I'm crazy. And this is I'm against identifying girls with pink and boys with blue if I found something decent, but anyway anyway, it doesn't matter I don't I'm not the one now who decides it's either my wife or now it's recently my daughter. But at least there are principles Barbie no certain celebrity No. Because Barbie will come to the house and her her boyfriend. She will say no, no, my boyfriend is waiting. So the boyfriend comes and Barbie in the summer wants to take her clothes off. What can I do now? So no Barbie

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stuff at all. Only a few