Working Together Guidance From the Qur`an and Sunnah

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AI: Summary © The American Muslim Institute is hosting a virtual lecture series on Islam, emphasizing the importance of working together and achieving pleasing results for Islam. The speakers emphasize the need for a "one and only one" approach, where everyone has a goal of pleasing Allah and working together to achieve pleasing results. The importance of working together in groups and humility in achieving success is also emphasized. The speakers stress the need for patientism and humility in achieving success, while also emphasizing the importance of learning to be patient and avoiding offense. The upcoming women's role in modern society is also discussed, with a focus on helping society.
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bismil your Walkman you're walking

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while a calm Welcome to the first part two the first of a two part virtual lecture series by Dr. Haifa units hosted by the sisters committee of the American Muslim Institute and the Omaha Muslim women's committee. Based in Omaha, Nebraska, Dr. Hayhoe will be taking questions please post your questions in the comments section. This lecture is being broadcasted across various platform platforms. Please keep questions relevant to the topic. And now to introduce our invited speaker we have the Imam of the American Muslim Institute. Eman jemelle dawoodi

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salaam aleikum.

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It is my pleasure and honor to introduce today's speaker, our dear Muslim sisters and scholars. Dr. Heiser Yunus is an American Board Certified ob gyn

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a graduate of Mexican Institute of Islamic Studies at the Saudi Arabia

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a graduate of alhuda Quran memorization school from Jeddah, Saudi Arabia to and founder and chairman of gender Institute and Islamic education institute for women by woman where she teaches classes and seminars, automatics. comentary of various chapters of the Holy Quran, and their practical relevance in our day to day living. Additionally, she offers retreats on key topics that inspire hearts and connections to Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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I had the privilege few years ago to meet her in Augusta, Georgia where I was serving the Islamic center there during her multiple visits, and can tell the great impact she would leave with our Muslim sisters there. She is one of those very few who can speak from the heart and touch the hearts of her audience. Allah Subhana Allah Allah Allah says in Surah

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chapter 16, verse 97. As for anyone, be a man or woman who does righteous deeds, and is a believer with all him or her, shall we most certainly cause to live a good life? And most certainly Shall we grant unto such as these, their reward in accordance with the best that they were that they ever did. I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala that she is one of them. Without any further delay, we would be honored to have Dr. Heiser Yunus speak to Omaha Muslim community about working together guidance from the Quran and Sunnah. Thank you very much.

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Just a lucky man Jamal, we must pantalla make me better than what people think of me and forgive what they don't know about me. hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen everything you heard is from the grace of Allah Subhana Allah I had nothing to do with it. He made it easy, and there is a long way to go and may have lost pantalla again make me better than what people think of me your biani smell our from de la salatu salam ala rasulillah he was happy he woman Wada Allahumma aluminum ion phone I want to find out the Marlin tena inaka semiology without long money how to become an admin I am fat, lb nyak Shah and FC Latisha What do I eat Are you smart or banana to support over Nevada in her data

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will have been hammered on corruption in the current federal hub published by the southern US and the only water of the time really sunny of public polling. It's a great pleasure to be with you 100 level blood amin and as we were saying before we started the program. I would love to have been talking to everybody who's listening to me in person. There's nothing like meeting sisters and meet me meeting brothers and sisters in Islam that what connects us together is the love of Allah spawn Tada. This beautiful religion is now sisterhood. But I lost pantalla plans and was the best planner and he opted for this to be online and hamdulillah I mean since February and actually In fact, your

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Eman German my last trip in person was actually to August where the Evangelion was the Imam before he joined you and since then Subhan Allah COVID-19 started and everything went virtual or online. There's a lot of hype in it I am sure some we are for sure we are seeing some we are not seeing everything comes from

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Elon Musk pantalla is always here. And we asked the last panel and I'm the first one to do this, to ask him that he shows us the goodness and everything he decreed shows us what the heck some of the wisdom behind. And if he doesn't show us this give us severe pain, the certainty that everything comes to us is higher is good. Even if externally it is not an definitely, when we talk about the COVID, everything gets a bringing with it. There is a lot of hype, there is a lot of challenges with it. But every challenge brings goodness as they say in the Arabic language, every man Maha t Maha mean how every test comes with a gift, it's the same word in Arabic, you just change the sequence of

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the letters for hamdulillahi, Rabbil aalameen, may Allah spawn Tada, again, lift this and bring us back better than one we went first to this test. And we can all meet together. Some of you in the American Muslim Institute, I had the pleasure to meet personally, actually, last year in October, when we had our teskey retreat, purification of the heart retreat in synchronous, and they came and visit us and it was one of the best I have attended not because I gave out the villa or I conducted, it was really spiritual, there was a lot of beautiful spirit in it. Although there was a lot of challenges also, including the weather. And some of the sisters remember the challenges we had, and

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hamdu, lillahi Rabbil aalameen. It's all here. So I was asked actually to talk about about a topic, which is extremely important and important in many ways. And it is about working together. And I loved the title. And working together I want to all my beautiful brothers and sisters who are listening to me to think of it not about the masjid only, only the mosque. It's working together in any place. Because as Muslims, we as Muslims, everywhere we are, whatever we are doing, as long as it is halaal it can easily be an act of worship.

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As long as I have my intention, my near to Allah subhanaw taala only, and I follow the footsteps of Allah, Swati Salatu was Salam in what I am doing. This becomes an act of worship. So working together, can be applicable to home. As a family, we work together, as in school, for example, myself in an office, or in an institute, whether it's the mosque, or whether it's gender Institute or any stomach organization, whether I am working in a non Muslim, non Muslim environment, can I work together? without compromising my principles? The answer is usually Yes.

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Reality is different, that the answer is always Yes. The first thing I want to say before I get to the details, to work together, each individual in that group, any drama, has to have a goal.

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What is my goal in this life? What is your goal in this life? in general?

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What does Allah want from me?

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Why I am in this on this earth.

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So the first thing is each individual, each one of us, whether it is a wife, a husband, a child, a daughter, a son, a father, a mother, a worker, a co worker, a president, a simple worker,

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what is our goal? So let's now bring this and let's talk about us as Muslims. And again, this applies to everywhere.

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Our goal number one should be each one, only one and I wish I can see you in life, then I would absolutely have asked you because I love this interaction.

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Number one, and I call it the one and only goal. The one and only goal is pleasing Allah.

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pleasing Allah remember this pleasing Allah.

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If all everybody wherever they are working together, the goal is to please Allah. We will work together very easy,

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with no problems, and now we're going to come to the problems and I'm going to get to what's the solution.

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You all agree with me

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That as Muslim community and I think it's not only the Muslims, working together, as a group is never easy, whether again home, a place of work or Islamic organization is not easy. In this, it brings a lot of challenges, however, are not put out of is sooner sooner the law, what Allah made it as the path as the norm in this life for human beings in general, human being we are called insane in some human being, one of the roots of it is owns, we are a creation of a law, that we find happiness and solace when we are not alone.

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This is part of it, and owns and one of the traditions we know that when saving the other most similar to the earth, Allah send, say, the Hawa for once, because he was alone. So each one of us and even sometimes naturally, we say, am I going to stay alone in the house.

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So being alone is not something natural for us. Unless you reach that level. Each one of us have spiritual connection with a law where you are, in fact alone physically, but reality you are not you are with a law, that's a different level and a different stage. But the average person, human beings, we'd love to be together, work together. And since the last one of what's

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in store instilled in us, it's an inherited character, that we work that we love to be together, made this us getting together can be a form of worship, this hub is right. And I always ask this what is your right upon me, and what is my right upon you as Muslim? And Allah soiree salatu salam showed us this in tune adoration. One of them is right this is in the demand Buhari and Muslim and he said the right of the Muslim upon Muslim is five, every Muslim, every Muslim says that she or he, Mohamad, also a lot she or he, there is five rights between each other, comes five

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are understood and respond to the greeting. It's the right of that person. So when I enter and I say salamati Kuan Yew, whoever in that room to respond is my right. You're not being polite, you're not being nice, this is my right, or do surround, respond to the greeting number one, number two, visit the sick and visit the sick these days. If you text them, call them. And of course, if he can just physically visit them. That's the, the right meaning. On the day of judgment, I will be asked if I didn't do that. Three, follow the janazah that that person, the heard of the dead person, that's for men, for the woman for us. Maybe these days, we can go to the masjid as much as we can and pray the

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janazah or we give condolence now forth each other to Tao when someone invites you, as long as that invitation does not have this obedience to Allah, that's the right of the person to respond, if you can, especially the first one on special occasions. And number five, Schmidt will help us when someone sneezes and they say Alhamdulillah my right if I sneezed, and I said that ham did that my right I will ask you on the day of judgment that you did not give me my right is you have to tell me your hummocky now, may Allah bless you and Mr. Muslim added to these five one more? And he said honestly how you give

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advice. When someone comes and asked you for advice? Someone comes in ask you for advice. You give your best. How about if I don't know the saying I don't know and you really don't know you answered. You guide them to someone who knows. What do you suppose the hackathon software if he or she asked you for advice, you will give them the advice. So visiting the illness, the

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following the funeral, accepting the invitation, responding to their invitation, as I said, and seeing the handling your hammer killer when they

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asked for when they sneeze and say 100 legged or behind

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and in another beautiful Hadeeth are slightly sore toes and

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Have a good companion is much better than a standalone. In case you wonder, and these days with all what's around us, should I stay alone? Or should I be with people the answer, Nora Swati sought or center. And this is heartbeat offers wireless or to snap. Or it may be a saying more of just a hobbyist yummy. It's the word of off companion. But the meaning is, is right, having a good companion, a righteous companion, she or a he who will help me to achieve my goal. Remember the goal, never forget the goal, what we first started, the goal is to please Allah. And this is our main problem as a human being, let alone Muslims, we gradually drifted from the goal of pleasing

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Allah to the goal of pleasing people. What will they say about you? How they will judge me, they will not like me, they will dislike me. rarely, if ever we say what he capital, he will say about me. What he will think about me, is he pleased with me, very rarely, very rarely think of you and me, when we are talking to each other. And when we get upset, and we are crying, and we feel hurts, it's not because Allah is not pleased with me. Very rarely, it's usually people. So don't forget the goal. If

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the companion she or he that I'm spending time with and I want to hear I'm going to just pause a little, little except those I have to be in the company, even if they are not those who have utmost right upon me, that's my parents and my kinship, blood relation. These I had no choice to cut them but I have to change it to please Allah number one

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pleasing them because I want to please a lot so I'm going to see and sit with them. But reality I'm not very happy but that pleasing Allah subhana wa Tada. So let's remember this, we as human beings, creation of a lot, we love to be together. Now coming to working together. And this is sometimes I want and I love and sometimes I have to, and sometimes I don't like it.

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Number one in the goal, and I'm going to keep reminding everybody of the goal because that's the main reason why we failed. When we drift from the goal

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of last pantalla said is

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Watterson will be heavily laggy Jamia will

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hold tight to the rope of a law. All of you and don't want to be groups who don't disperse, don't defer.

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Don't defer, it doesn't hold and here the habit the rope of Allah Most of the scholars will tell you is the book of a lot. So when I am working together, here I am in St. Louis and talking to the sisters in Omaha, Nebraska. My goal is not to please them their goal should not be to please me or agenda Institute. The goal is to please a lot and I'm going to get together with them and throw everything out and I want you all to think of what I am saying throughout me throughout my ego threw out my praise three throw out my appreciation and focus on pleasing Allah is me talking with the sister is pleasing to Allah and doing it but she doesn't talk to me it doesn't matter. But she does

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not value me it doesn't matter. Please a lie. Yeah. Tulsi will hold one out of four. Do not disperse and remember the blessing that Allah subhanho wa Taala

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blessed me and you what he brought us all together by the rope and the hold of the game of Islam.

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This what bring us together this what makes this what should make us bring together enough to say ceremony.

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Enough you you want to please a lot maybe you're struggling maybe I am struggling but that's what we want to do. That's when we want to do and our Swati has said that Hadith narrated by saying no. And it's amazing Satan. Allah is not famous for narrating Hadith but the Hadees he narrates Subhan Allah one of them is and the hadith of signature breed. Were

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our soiree sought to say

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I've taught you and meet all about this Dean and it was narrated by Satan on and this one and he said Aleykum, Belgium ah

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Hold on, hold on to the group

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and all the way to LA hemangioma and Allah has had is with the group and beware of groups and disperse because the shape on the shape on Will you be with the one who is the disperse or another another heavy is the inner Maya woman and animal posse wordly the wolf will eat the loner sheep. That's why sting jamaa number this, stay in the group. Don't be alone.

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So whenever I differ, when we differ a lot, that's natural. Whenever we differ, remember, the goal is me leaving more pleasing to Allah, or staying with the group and maybe I have to compromise

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is more pleasing to Allah is me being alone, I'm going to be the loner, sheep. And wolf will come and eat me easily and the wolf here is shaped on

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or I'm staying with the drama and then I am going to be more causing problems and more uncork causing disperse and shine upon will come even more.

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Which one is pleasing to our last panel.

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And if you look at the rebar that Subhanallah acts of worship, that Allah subhanho wa Taala made it obligatory on us and I want every one of you think of it the five pillars of Islam. And I mean, here the four

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after saying Latin, Salah prayers when we are in congregation more inward,

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work together, standing in the line, if you think of this, my beautiful sisters and if the brothers are healing, listening to me, when we when we stand together, it's not something we always like, right? This person may bother me, this person may transgress against me when I'm praying in JAMA, some people say I don't want to do this because I get so frustrated when I pray in your mind. But what is the goal? more pleasing to Allah? Absolutely. More reward for me? Absolutely. And habitat for Swati salatu salam, as the reward so that we Gemma of Luna Salatin found I found a watershed beside the NY Shri. This is an anomaly Mohali, the prayer in combination, much better than praying

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27 there is another nation 23 times. So whether it's in the masjid, or whether it is in the home, or whether you are in a gathering, what does that teaches me work together, of course, much more comfortable to find my own and online leisure. The mom wants to read too long, I'm gonna read shorter.

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But what is the goal what what is much more pleasing to Allah, even when we read that Fatty, fatty, it's group hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen Allah below the mean is the Lord of the mean.

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Genuine incidents from the later on be my Lord. Only. Same thing with fasting. What is fasting? fasting, why Ramadan, it's much easier because everybody, this is how we sit. everybody else's fasting Gema hold on together makes me stronger, let alone hedge.

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If anything about group and benefits of the group's being in a group, and the challenge of being in a group isn't a hedge, and anybody who went to hygiene, you know what I'm talking about how difficult it is to be with the with those millions, may Allah invite us again to his house, your own army, and how at the same time, spiritual lift, spiritually lifting to see all these millions younger, older, healthier, less, doing the same and having the same goal. So working with the group with the challenge it brings, it brings a lot of benefit. And that's why it was part of what Allah wants from us. And I'm going to give you some of the benefits. What is the benefits? Why do I have

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to struggle to work together? Look at number one.

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When we are group and think of any group, look at the house, and this is easier. So you are let's say if you are the mother and the father and you have three children or you are the daughter that house right. One of you are one of

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Plus, for example love to wash dishes is very common example. And one loves to cook

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but don't like washing dishes one loves and enjoy emptying the dishwasher. The other person is the opposite. So when they work all together and we have five tasks to be taken care of one person will take that task one that one person take the other task at the end of the day, the whole tasks are done. And the whole tasks are done beautifully. And that is why always when you are in a group, the first thing you tell people what is your strength? Where do you see yourself? Where do you work better?

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And I have to say is when we are working with gymnastics you this comes all the time, a lot of challenges are always always I was like I told all my beautiful team, I was like I am not good in this but I am good in that. Let me do that you will do that. So the beautiful when you work together, you know your strength. At the same time you know your weakness. You know your weakness, and you know your

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Yeah, your strength. And our Swati Sato CINAHL said in a beautiful honey. He said the following and I really love this honey.

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He said

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after me This is Swati Sato son. It was on a drama on a Friday he said after me there will be many calamities and much evil behavior.

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Look around.

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This is what he said after me, there will be many calamities and much evil behavior. Who ever you see, splitting away from the drama from the group or trying to create division among the oma of Muhammad.

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Then kill him.

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Kill him for the hand of Allah is within Jamal. And the shape bond is with the one who split away from Jamal, stay together.

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Stay together it will bring much more hair than you are alone.

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Much more hair than you are alone in one of the is that we always remember when we are together and I always think of saying no more sir.

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And you read this in the Quran in surah two apostles when Allah subhanho wa Taala asked satana Moosa to go and invite the people of Iran.

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What did he say to talk with what he said this is Moses, Moses is an OB Nabi

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he said what he How long? Will ofsaa hominy the Santa Farsi Romanian Farsi and you saw Dr. Cooney in the hospital and you can even look at this. He said, he's talking to Allah, say who is Karim Allah. He's the one who talked to him. I said, y'all Allah, my brother ofsaa homie Meili, Santa, he speaks better than I am. For our su who may read and send him with me ridin to make me stronger to strengthen me.

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In the person whom I read, and you saw me halfway, you can even send him with me. They will believe me, I am worried they will not believe in me.

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Work together, don't compete. don't compete. We all have the same goal. We all want to please our last panel, we're tired. So don't feel you're threatened. If someone speak better than you or someone take the more righteous, more right decision. At that moment. Don't feel threatened. Look at the goal. This is all more pleasing to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So more use off.

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So number one is you will find out the talent and then you will use the talent one very good example. And a short lot in our upcoming classes in German the institute starting next month in the area, all the information you find it on our website, we are going to be looking at it. We call the title is the pearls. The woman pearls are on the roswaal ASR two salatu salam, we're going to study the lives of the wives of our Swati Sato center, not for historical point of view. Rather as woman, what were their strength? What was their weakness? How did they live together? And what was the challenges and when you study that, again, it's next month in sha Allah for three months, one hour,

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a week. When you look at that and even as I am preparing

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During each wife of a Swati slot was has a different name or title based upon her strength. For example, a cedar Khadija is the support

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the support, no one gave the support that Allah Swati sought was an unneeded legacy to honeydew they're all the mothers of believers.

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I say the heisha the knowledge,

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the knowledge, this color.

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not see the honeydew to see the hash. Right look at see the soda. The Seder sold at compassionate, giving.

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She was older than the roswaal risotto. Sam cedar is a younger, so she gave her date to say Dyson,

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everyday hero Swati Sato. Sam had one day with one of his wives to be feared. she volunteered to give her day to say the Haitian please Allah preserver Swanee sought to sell and much more beneficial. She didn't say well, it's my day. She wanted to look aceto cinema, the wisdom. She was the one, the one who saw the major issue, and soulful davia read the seal.

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When the Muslims all going for Allah just going so. so enthusiastic, to go, full of enthusiasm to go. And also I said, I said, we're not going, they're all in the home. And they did not listen to.

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They couldn't it's too hard. They want to go to mark after all these years, who gave him the advice. It was she

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she said just your Take off your home, and they all will follow you.

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You will take your home, and they all will follow you. And guess what? They did? Say the hafsa trustworthy. The Quran was with her. So how do you go when you work together? When you work together? Think of this. That's why I give you these examples. Think of this, what is your strength? So I write something and I and I know I'm not very good writer, I should not get offended. If someone says Can I edit it, please do and publish it. Because the higher the goal is to please Allah, Allah will reward me. Allah will reward me Allah gladly. Allah is not like us,

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He will not die heavily mirrabooka will never have hasha that he will treat anyone with injustice. Number three benefit. Number three benefit of working together. And this topic is very close to my heart and some of the sisters knows that it is the test of your taqwa Allah, Allah

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and Allah conscious. And it is the best way to purify yourself is when you work with a group.

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Specially if the group all of them are strong,

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strong had any strong headed, they everybody think they are right. And you are the same. And you come and work together? What challenges what challenges the spring? What is gonna teach you, number one,

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be humble.

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It's okay, if I am not right. It's okay if they are better than me. Because my goal is pleasing Allah, He knows I'm working for him, let them take the credit.

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The credit, I don't know the credit will actually give me something with a law

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could we not because then I'm going to be very proud of myself in this life. And I'm looking for reward in this life. And my I am not going to get anything. And always when you think of humbleness, I always think of sameness with a man. And this is why beautiful is when you read the Quran and you see the examples. So once the eveness with a man, right? He sent it the NGO and this is important in the chapter, the ends when he sent it the that who has knowledge and he said go and get me heard thrown by the thiess when he saw the throne immediately in front of him. So yes, my my choice was right. Yes, my thinking was right and the result is right. He didn't say yes I did it and people

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should praise me. He said Tada.

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This is fun, the blessings

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and the virtues of Allah subhana wa tada my lord Leah Bologna to test me at school across

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Am I going to be grateful or I am going to be ungrateful.

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So here I am when I am working with a group, and it was my idea, but someone took it, someone took it, but the result benefited everybody. Don't get upset don't look for recognition in this life.

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It's worth nothing in the sight of Allah.

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You want to see your law, you will know. I worked for it, you know it was me. And it it's abroad the result I want my reward with you. Your humbleness. Working with the group teaches you, humbleness, test your humbleness, test your humbleness. It's okay to be wrong.

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There's nothing wrong with that. It's okay. It's okay to change your mind. Or someone tells you please change your mind. This is not working. It's okay.

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It's not about you. It's not about me. That's what I keep telling myself. It's not about me. Remember I told you when we start is not about us. It's about pleasing Allah, which one is more pleasing to Allah? Which one will bring more higher? Even Swanee Salatu was Salam when he made the there was when he didn't give the best advice about the poetry in Medina he looked at them and said unto Allah will be only dunya he told the Sahaba you will know better about the matters of dounia I don't he gave them the advice and then one of the companies of yours or not this is a better way he didn't say I endorse or Allah How can you do this? He said you know what, you are no better.

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So it teaches me humbleness number two, which is I think it should be even number one. Is sincerity. work when you are working together? work for a lot only to please him only woman owner. One Oh larrea Bula Hasina Houdini, one of our data Kadena iema. They were not ordered but to worship Allah with sincerity and roswaal he sought to sell also so this is what Zuma called me. Almost to an Abba de la Mahal is unloaded. I say I was ordered to worship Allah morally sideloading

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sincerity. What does sincerity mean? When you say Yo Allah, I am joining this group for you only. I am joining this Masjid for this only I am joining the woman committee. For you only what does it mean? For you only you're doing it to please him only only keep saying the word only capital letters. I do not expect anything from anybody. Only from Allah, they praise me. Alhamdulillah they didn't praise me. Alhamdulillah they think I'm the best person Alhamdulillah they think they I am not the best person Alhamdulillah This is the sign of sincerity that the scholars teaches you. To Salah in the conventional wisdom. You are sincere as a human being to Allah when it is exactly the

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same. When someone praise you. And when someone does not let alone not praise you.

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Bow do bad mouth you in public. Allah knows in your heart.

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Allah knows what's in my heart. So it teaches you sincerity and this is so common. And one of the main reasons we

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get into problems when we work together. It is about me. It's about me. It's not about us. What is best?

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What is best number three,

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working together need and teaches you I'm going to say this together, need and teaches you the gemstone of this Deen I call it patient.

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Patient. Be patient. Patients. Be patient. A sub A sub N i love this hadith of Allah Swati Sato sinner.

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It comes like this. I'm going to read it it was actually this is an Imam Malik. He said Allah Swati Sato Salaam group of Allah unsolved unsolved is the people of Medina who supported the roswaal in his Salatu was they asked us what he saw to us and said Yaga smile a lot. They asked him to give them some give them any money, material, monetary things, and they asked him again. And he gave them so they asked him first he gave them asked him again. He gave them until he nothing else is left. He gave him everything he had.

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And then they asked him again, he says, This is what I will, this is what I would have,

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whatever I have I gave to you, whenever I have I gave to you. And then he said, look at this, and he said, Whoever,

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whoever wants to be, forbear and Allah will help him. Whomsoever wants to be patient,

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Allah will help him also ever wants to be independent, independent, Allah will enrichen whoever is trying to be patient, Allah will make him making patient may get a sunburn, or some beautiful law, or some beautiful law. Whomsoever wants to be patient, a lot when making patient, working in a group. Absolutely test your patient. I cannot think

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of any time I personally what I see around me where people are working in a group, and their patient is not tested. We feel absolutely we are not all the time, but we definitely feel we definitely feel so what should we do? Remember the virtues of patient and I remember, I remind myself all the time, I feel absolutely, but we are human beings, but we need to change and become better. He also more sub Bernie, Allah, you are the one who is patient. That's one of the names of Allah, a sub

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Yama, you are the patient, you are the one who owns this virtue of Sauber of patient and you are the one who owns it. And you are the one who gives it. Give it to me, working with a group. always need to patient patient in which way patient on the people who doesn't work well. Patient on the people who transgress against you. Absolute. People do it intentionally, or most of the time unintentionally, whether by words, whether by action, patient to reach your goal with all the obstacles you plan you did everyone doesn't work. I need to be patient, or don't allow my child, I need to be patient on the

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characters of the others. Not everybody is the same as I am, I may be easy to understand, maybe I am cooked to understand what they need some people they need time, maybe I'm easy, I am cooked to make decisions. Some people need their time were different. But our difference should be complimentary. As I told you in the beginning, the example of the house, so we need to complement each other. And I need to be patient working together need patient. And the last but not the least, there's more but because we are limited for time, and I was asked and I think it's a very good idea to 345 to stop and then I will entertain any questions you have. Last but not the least whenever you work with a

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group and that starts from the family and you go on generosity is extremely needed. You need to be generous, generous in giving generous in not taking generous in your time working for a loss pile which I personally think from my personal experience with with studying and working as a physician and working for the sake of Allah working for the sake of Allah is much more hard. Because online every step, and this is for anyone listening to me, works for a loss pantile including in your home. In every step. A lot will test you. Test your sincerity tests, test your generosity, test your humbleness, test how much you really wants him, test your patient, how much and your forbearance how

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much you're not going to give up. How much you will not give up. The easiest thing. I always say this to myself. And some some people may have heard that from the easiest thing is to give them give up. And I'm going to work alone in my home and I work for a loss Pantanal. That's easy, but the reward is not the same.

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So what we need we need all of us, all of us that share the same goal. Let us all from the morning to the evening in everything we do. And say and not do and not say is to please Allah or all the nanny your law. Are you pleased with me? That's it. I do do Matthew, the whole dunya and what it contains that if Allah is pleased with me what else I want? It doesn't matter what about people? You it's the hardest thing is to please human beings. heard these things to please human beings and as long as

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You are in that path with that goal. With that good luck we'll make it easy. And the last thing I want to share is a statement teaches you and me number one, before you is mean, the humbleness and the sincerity or the amount of Shafi said this statement, he said I would love and wish that people will follow my teachings. But it is not related to me. people follow my teachings. They do it, but they will not relate it to me. They wouldn't say this is an Imam Shafi. It's sign of humbleness, and sincerity. 100 lack of planning is a political animal behind the shadow. Unlike the headline stuff we'll cover today. So a lot to say no 101. And he was happy to see him and cathedra is almost

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pantalla. To accept from all of us, I asked her last pantalla to teach me first to practice what I've just shared with you, where most pantalla forgive all my shortcomings. And last pantalla make it easy for all of us. Any questions?

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So this is the question. In our communities, we are individually motivated to be the best, aka god that's on your screen, and I'm reading it also, in our communities, we are individually motivated to be the best, how do we change this mentality and encourage an atmosphere where we lift others up, and we raise our status as a community? instead? Very good question. Read it again with me, in our communities, communities, it doesn't matter who asked

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every community, we are individually motivated to be the best, I want to be the best. How do I change the mentality and encourage an atmosphere where we lift others up, and we raise our status?

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Number one, and I'm speaking to myself before anyone, you will be the example. You will be the example. Each one of us which is so true, we absolutely want to be the best. I want the best. I want to be the best physician, I want to be the best woman I want to be the best whatever everything and you want to be the best Mother, you want to be the best daughter. That's nothing wrong with that. Alhamdulillah Eleison This is actually one of the beauty of our Deen excellence in everything. As long as that's where it comes. As long as this is my goal, not my goal pleasing Allah subhanaw taala. That's when we separate.

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So I did, I wrote a letter.

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I wrote it. It's neat, and it's the best. And I am very good writer, someone else, someone else took it and said he did it or she did it. Right. But the goal at the end was pleasing. Allah subhanaw taala. The whole community lifted up by this letter.

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Don't get upset

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by the fact that you wrote it, someone else took it. And Allah, The result was pleasing to Allah. Rest assured, some sooner or later Allah will show that you are the one.

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You are the one and that's how we lift the others by being the example don't focus on you. Don't focus on you. And this is the main reason we the egos comes the Eagles comes in this is everywhere. Don't focus focus on you. Be the example of humbleness of giving, of not taking forgiving, pardoning whatever they talk about you keep going into your goal. Keep going in that path and unlock will make it and be patient this needs a lot of patient also.

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What should be our? Do we need a teacher to learn to learn Quran? Or we can rely on our own understanding of what we read. It depends what are you?

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Most of the time in this day and age where people barely know the language of the

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Arab speaking not Arab speaking? Absolutely. You need the teacher.

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Absolutely. You need the teacher. This is the words of Allah. This is the words of Allah and me. I'm not talking about anyone me with my own inclinations and my own desires. What do I want to do? I want the aura to fulfill what I want.

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So I'm going to study it and look at it in a way that pleases me. Not pleases Him. Absolutely with a teacher. And having said that, choose your teacher

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is not

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Someone who speaks well only somebody who studied and before that someone who wants to please Allah not to please him or herself or for monetary

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reasons to collect and famous specially these days followers with social media, you want to please Allah? Absolutely. You need a teacher for the weather to learn how to read it, whether you are memorizing whether to live it to absolutely need the teacher.

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For people who are harsh, rude.

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Okay, for people who are

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Oh, okay, they put this I'll take that question is okay for people who are for people who are harsh, rude to whatever we do, or forget completely, with no respect and greedy to get hold of our hard earned possessions? Can Can I have this question? more detail in this question, I don't think I got the idea. So let's look at the other one.

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Three techniques either to politely disagree with others are so beautiful. This is beautiful question. What is the Adam? There's a huge book called edible FTF the advocates and the manner of disagree.

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Look, and I always say this, where do I get my answer? Look at the sources. Look at the Quran. And look at that. Look at the Quran. And look at the sooner look at the Quran. And look at this one. Right? Look at the profits. One they disagreed with their people that people disagreed with them, right? For example. And this is actually not even a profit This is more in the Gotham and smaller coffee. Yeah, oh me he's talking to them money and local energy. It was the owner nealon Now, what is wrong with you? I'm calling you for safety. And you are calling me to the hellfire.

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And when we didn't listen for success, cool no matter what for we will

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look at this one. You will remember what I am saying and I'll leave my affair store. So here you go. Techniques number one, never, ever, the impolite

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is the person in front of you, she or he younger, old or impolite? Never ever respond in the same way then we are the same. What is the difference?

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Then you say with all due respect, I disagree. This is my opinion. I could be wrong. Luckily ma'am Shafi email Shafi when he disagreed, and he mannschaft What did he say? He said, My opinion is right. But I could be wrong. And your opinion is wrong, but could be right.

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So number one, people again, either number one, number two, always give the benefit of doubt hostname one, give the benefit of doubt. For the others, people will say, Please forgive me, you're stupid, you're naive, you don't know, you know what I always say this, it's much better with Allah to be naive than to be in just a human being.

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Or they're always given the benefit of doubt.

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And number three, they don't have to follow you. You don't have to follow them. You don't you disagree to stay quiet. You get your opinion. And if you are in a meeting, for example, and they're in the meeting this five or six, you're the only one who have a different opinion and your opinion is right. is right. You know what you say you say this is my opinion. This is the reason I think it is right, based on what Allah says Allah alayhi salatu was set up, it's up to you in front of Allah. That's how I always remind myself when I am in front of Allah, Allah who asked me about what I did, he's not going to ask you what you did. So think of it this way. And we are almost at a bit of a

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ticket. There is another class that we are humbled and this is the third class. This is for the youth, boys and girls from age 10 or 11 to 15. It's called there's a beautiful book called 40 Hadith, polysyllabic morals. It is actually for adults, but I'm teaching it to the youth because this needs to be engraved in the youth again, one hour a week. Every week we discuss one virtue based upon whatever Swati salatu salam said, what the last pump Allah said, and what the practice virtuous we are oma of manners. What happened to us what how

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To us, either is number one.

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If everyone is not polite, that doesn't mean it's okay for me to be not polite.

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I'll take the last one because we have only four minutes. What do we Is there any limit for Sabbath? Or what is the difference between tolerance and sub, there is no limit for somebody in Mr. waffle saw the Runa, Jerome v sub,

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because there is no limit for sobor for patient, the reward is limitless. And Allah said this insalata Zoomer in knmi, wafaa sabi Runa as wrong, we raid E sub v, the patient people, those who are patient will be rewarded limitless, there is no limit.

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Now, that doesn't mean

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I'm going to, if I can change the situation, and practice patience, that's hamdulillah if I can change the situation, and I cannot be patient, and I'm disobeying Allah, then you leave.

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So you're working in a community or you're working in a in a group, and you are patient and you're patient and you are patient. But then you find out yourself that you are running out of patience, there's no limit, but this is my limit. And I am starting to disobey a lot. That's the time when you leave, you leave. Because leaving is more pleasing Toma and I always say this to every woman who comes to me counseling about leaving the marriage or staying in the marriage, the first question

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after she tells me everything and I say you ask yourself, where are you more pleasing to Allah inside this marriage or outside this marriage? So absolutely sober is limitless. But everybody has their own limit. When I think when I feel I am not obeying Allah anymore. I am disobeying Allah, that's when I need to leave. Whatever I am doing.

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jsoc malachite and I think it is or we have one more. I think we have one more we can take one more, because there's three more minutes there is more question.

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Okay, I like this. What should we do? What should be our behavior with extremely harsh and greedy relative? This is very nice question. So about working together. Question. Normally, I remind myself it is it's the best not to answer with a question. But sometimes I need to ask because I need to know who is this relative?

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why I'm saying this, because relatives are two kinds. I this is how I divide them. There is none optional relatives. And there is the optional relatives. What does that mean? Non optional. My mother, my father, my siblings? This is my blood. Allah who would ask me, I can't work on them. I can't work on them. Specially the first mother and father, no, Jenna, I will not smell it. without them being pleased with me. The non optional or the distant family.

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If they are very harsh, mother and father, here comes summer. May Allah give you an I keep asking. Don't forget to Ha. Don't forget to ask Allah to keep you patient. I have to be patient with ever my mom and dad do I have to be patient. And it's easy said it's very difficult to do but it is doable.

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My siblings, my sisters and brothers

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a fire if I'm living in the same house, I need to please walk in, in my dealings with them.

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If we are, you know, these days, different places, I keep what Allah wants me. I never severed the relation. Never even if they are the harshest. They talk always negative about you. They are never there for you. Again, when I am in front of Allah and you are in front of Allah. He's not going to ask me about them. He's going to ask me what did you do? He will ask them why you were harsh. The distance,

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the distance what point we all have to be in every family gathering with all the cousins and everything. And you know, you may end up disobeying the law, pull away, keep it pull away. So you have to put the balance. Again, your goal and I started with this and I will end with this. The goal always one never anything else pleasing Allah only in everything we do is up from a lot higher than from the learner body or do I really grow I'm so grateful to the AMI for this opportunity for inviting us we're giving the black platform for gender Institute. I want to remind everybody some of you are already our students that again, we have classes woman

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A woman and we all went to class is all practical is how I apply the knowledge that I am learning to my daily life. We have two on the weekend, one hour each one on a Saturday eight to nine. This is the portals around the roswaal De Soto center in the morning, eight to nine, and the other one is Sunday also eight to nine in the morning. It is this one this time we this is a series of teskey a purification of the heart. This one is going to be since What does it do to me, my family and my community. For the youth group as I shared it with you. It's the moral we need to teach our youth morals that is forgotten. This is what Friday five to six for the girls and Sunday 12 to one for the

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boys. This is taught by me also. We also hamdulillah started organic Arabic by an amazing teacher. The first batch we're finishing shot one in September and we starting the other one all this information is on our website plus we have Quran memorization, and we have perfecting oral reading and Quran reading for the beginners. And we also have to read in Word 200 natural languages and what kind of memory would you all

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like can't hear Rooney Yes. On behalf of the Omaha Muslim community we would really like to thank Dr. Hay for us and the attendees today. I can speak for myself You were really touched my heart when you were talking about sincerity and doing things for the sake of Allah. I think we kind of forget that. And so it was such a great reminder for all communities and for our community to really think about why we do things, why we are active in our community, why we volunteer, why we help out with different sisters committees, it really renews our intention. So we sincerely thank you, Zack. Hello. Hi, Ron, will look forward to seeing you Dr. Haifa and all of our attendees next Sunday.

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August I think it's August 31 at 3pm Central time, so please keep up keep that in mind. For the second part of this lecture series focusing on women's role in modern society. Please join us and sit down while like a marshmallow or light

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