Strengthening Our Families, Strengthening Our Communities

Haifaa Younis

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Bismillah your Walkman your

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handler Vladimir.

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In case you wonder,

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the topic, one of the most common questions, that's probably I personally get I'm sure almost all the Imams and the Muslim leaders and the callers are lost pantalla or even between families is the question about marriage, family, divorce and children in general.

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This is a very common topic, very hot topic, very worrisome topic to a lot of parents, they worry about their children. A lot of parents worry about their marriage, children, the newly couple marriage about the children that's gonna come, are they the young children, the point I'm trying to make, it is something that many people worry about as fat a lot It is them, Yanni, I wouldn't say there is no reason to it, there is a lot of reason to worry about it. Because simply as simple as

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the rate of divorce, and this is not only in the non Muslim, it's in the Muslim communities actually more than 50% Subhanallah there has to be a reason there has to be something either we are missing, or we are not paying attention to. Because 10 or 20 3040 years ago, this was not the case. And this is in the Muslim community and in the non Muslim community, what changed, and that we always have to think of it is what changed, that made the strength of the family and not as a strong good as before. Or let's ask ourself another question, what made this sacred relationship that Allah subhanaw taala mentioned in the Quran, and we are going to come to it very soon became, I wouldn't

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say less secret, because then I don't have a proof to say this, but we don't look at it as sacred. As we lose, you used to look at it. So there has to be a reason what changed. So what I'm going to try today to look at inshallah Bismillah is not what changed. Rather, what make it strong, what make the family strong, and strong, meaning the bonds between the husband, the wife, the couple, the children, the brothers, the sisters, the whole family, and you can talk about the immediate family, and then we can go even to the further members of the family. So where it is, as I always say, Subhan Allah, where is the best place to go? And to start and this is always when I try to learn

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something, and I remind myself is the place to go is the source, the source, the source of the Quran? Our source, our main source is the Quran. And then what after the Quran comes the sooner of Allah Swati salatu salam, and in the Quran is very common and everyone is watching me probably know this, right? And I'm going to put it here on the screen so everybody knows this and I'll put it in English and in Arabic. Anytime you get an invitation for a wedding, most of the time Muslim wedding, you will probably read this verse and I'm gonna put it now in English woman irtg and call Allah call me on for SQL as version. Later screw la her vagina been a con la Mola ditton

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out of His signs

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or from among his size or from his size, it depends how you translate. That means what Allah is going to be talking about is a sign of Allah, sign mean medical creation, forming IRT and hello Calico he Allah created law come to you mean and political from among you as well.

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appear

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why later screw lay her

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to school. This is the word and it's so hard to spell Allah The beauty of the Arabic language one word is so hard to translate one word in Arabic, specially Quranic Arabic to translate it into one English word to give it the right meaning and I will ask everyone who's listening to me if you know the Arabic language, just put any word in the Arabic language and look for the English translation you're going to get a lot of words a lot of meaning. A second because Kunal elaida basically second is a house. Second is a place where people live

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second is a place where people find serenity and comfort

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and tranquility is most commonly you will find that in the Quran translate as tranquility. So from among His Signs You created to you right Haleakala common emphasis from among you, meaning same species as larger pier she or he he to school no later, so you will find tranquility love serenity. For Johanna Bina calm and then he made he made john bainer come among you between you my word, the term word, my word is love. And llama is mercy. These are the two things that's how marriage should be. That's how the family should be build on. In the few that the woman iottie out of his sign Hello Allah co created to mean unfussy come from among you as Raja pair it, escuela la Ha. So you will

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have tranquility wa Jalla been made among you. He my word the term love and mercy, nephew dareka wordly in this meaning, his creation, and why and the tranquility and the love and the mercy in nephew that he can learn it in all this size lakonia tougher code. It's a sign for those who reflect and think,

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what do I learn from this verse, that this isn't sort of to whom What do I learn from this verse? marriages medical family is medical, made of two creation of a law. He made it. He created them. He created marriage, he created the relationship between them. And he made between them, love and mercy. And this all, as miraculous as it is, is a sign of a law.

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Meaning when I go when when we are looking at a family, and we're not talking about marriage, or any, I'm talking after marriage, the family itself became, we are so used to it that we sometimes when we are so much used to things, we forget to look into the reality of it, because we come so much used to it. And I think one of the benefits for want to look at benefits and everything the benefits of COVID

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made us think of the blessings of the things we had for granted. We never looked at as a blessing till Allah took it away from us. As simple as we can breathe without a veil. We can hug each other whenever thought of it.

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So the same thing, when we look at family, when we look at the family, we became so used to it that we do remember it's a sign from Allah, it's a creation of Allah. It's one of the ways I please Allah, this moved away from the equation needs to be put back.

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And if you look at families in the Quran, let's go back to the source. Let's go back to the source. And let's see the families in the Koran that was pantalla mentioned families in the first family ever created, which we all know the First Family Allah subhanaw taala created is

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Adam and Hawa. And when Allah decided that Adam needs to come down and live on this earth, He knew Adam cannot live alone. So he created for him, her husband and wife and they had children

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in their marriage life.

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It was very strong. But there was also trials and the biggest trials is when they disobeyed on last pantalla and when they when problem happened and I want you to look at that. When problem happened. No one blamed the other.

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What did they say color

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They both said Rob banner or our Lord valona and Prasanna. We both have wrong did wrong to ourselves, both fulfill your letter, please forgive us both.

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capitolina

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Robin, I'm putting out what you need to fill in a Please forgive me. And if you will not forgive us, what are Hamner and you will shower your mercy upon us both in our economy in our history, we will be among the losers. So the first family is Adam, Satan, Adam and Hawa, there was a problem. they disobeyed Allah spawn, tada, but nobody blamed the other.

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They both turn to Allah subhanaw taala. And together made the dua for each other

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first step,

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And that, to me, is the most important step in any household.

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Number one, that house

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that home, that seven bedroom home, it doesn't matter the size needs to be the whole house connected with Avi connected with the source of strength.

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I cannot be strong, unless I am connected to something Make me strong, physically in general in, for example, I want to, to something is going to fall on me and I want to prevented, right, I'm going to put something that will is strong, that will prevent me and save me because I am weak as a human being. So the first thing in the household, and this goes to the wife goes to the husband goes to the children, if there is any laws living whoever is in that Noah in this nucleus, the first step for strength. And I will say this to everybody, myself, number one be conducted with the source of strength bar to lie when official Bhutto Billa get conducted with a loss panna hautala. And at the

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end, I am going to give you two examples are actually three examples, stories, which is very nice to have stories that we feel were conducted from a righteous person from a Sahabi a companion and from the rest of the creation, what happens in their home. And some beautiful stories, I will end with it in short what. So here do you go, number one, get connected with a last panel hautala. And I say this to myself before anyone, nobody will protect the house, no one will protect the marriage, no one will protect the children. Except our last panel, we're tired. Whatever we think and we go and we do, nothing will bring benefit and will bring and we see changes unless Allah allowed it. This is

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the first brick

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in the house. If this brick is not there, or weak or forgotten, then the whole house is shaky, is not strong.

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And the stronger the house, absolutely stronger the community. Imagine, think of your homes, your homes are strong. Your children homes are stronger than when you go outside and your children goes out. And these are the communities if every house is strong, the community is absolutely strong. So the first one, the first thing we're going to build on. So when I have a problem, when things are not going the way I want, first thing I say to myself, go back to the source. And this is why when women come to me and asked me

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about their problems, and there is major problems and sometimes it's minor problems. My answer always to the woman when she really doesn't know what to what to do. I always say this, where are you more pleasing to Allah subhanho wa Taala inside this marriage, or outside this marriage, and this should be also to the man Where are you more pleasing to Allah? Let's put it the goal in getting married or leaving the marriage. having children, not having children is only one is pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala Unfortunately, sometimes we forget or sometimes it's not there.

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And I want to share with you some of the stories from the Quran, from the Quran in families when things didn't go the right way. Right and see how they spoke to each other and I'm sure you all know, but maybe we did.

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Not paying attention to it. And the dialogue is always related to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And the first one I always like to think of is actually Satan. And

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so so you saw that hood in hood chapter when he was talking to his son, and the son is a Kaffir is a disbeliever. And when the son refused to be with him, so think of your life and your child, she or he, son or daughter, they don't want to do what you want. And this is very common, right? Look how he said and he knows he's gonna die. Yeah, bootlegger, Camana, my child, come, come with us Don't be with a disbeliever

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when my child go and pray, my daughter don't do that. Right? And your reason is it's not pleasing to Allah. Let a Kumar carefully Don't be with the disbelievers on the sun responded so are we in algebra yasunori with Alma, I'm gonna go to a mountain is going to save me from the water Satan and look at no connection with Allah. Now assume I'm an umbrella. Now similar to my main umbrella, nothing will prevent the order of Allah spawn Tada. connection with Allah. So when, when the relationship is weak,

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my goal is to please Allah spandana. When I am admonishing somebody, or trying I telling them to change something, or don't do something, the essence of it is needs to be conducted one must pantalla that's not pleasing to Allah. Allah will not be happy with us. I say this to myself first. Don't say this, because that's not pleasing to Allah. don't respond in this way. Don't say it's my right. Or it is his right, he's not doing she's not doing look at the how the child is talking to me. Number one, say what is pleasing to Allah. So say, you know, last him, I'm an umbrella, nothing will prevent from a loss pantalla the dialogue is about life and death. That the advice related to

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loss.

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That's number one, I'm going to go not too much in D because there is a lot of examples. And I want every one of you, when you are reading the Quran, pay attention to this. And I think one of the beautiful examples that in the Quran to present a family is one of them is Satan that you brought him because in the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala presented Satan Ibrahim as a child, as a son, and as a father, and as a husband. And also as, of course, an OB and a nation and a prophet and all that. Let's look, let's look at him. He's the son. And the father is a careful, right? strength. And I'm Bree reminding everyone strength is from being connected with a loss. pantalla and when he's talking

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to his father, yeah, other t

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hamdulillah Please forgive me. Yeah, but Tila taboo straight on English. shavon

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shavon on a Canon Law, Rania RC my father, don't obey your law. don't obey shaitan Please forgive me safe on tour. Man. was a

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disobedient conduct with a las pantalla when he was talking to his son, to his son? Yeah, yeah, yeah, booni me off him and me and me. I see that in the in my dream, and the son knows his father is an OB. And the dreams of the NBA is an order from Allah. Then the dream of a prophet is an order from Allah. When he was talking to his son is about Allah. And when he's talking to his father is about Allah when the father said no, right? If you're not going to stop saying this, I am going to ask you to leave. He said, I'm leaving.

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connection with Allah subhanahu wa Tada. So you know, Adam and Hawa They have two children, the stories in the Quran, so that would not lead to children. jealousy. Now look at the family. Now jealousy. One killed the other. One killed the other one that one wanted about to kill. Right? What did this one says? What did he say? related to a must pantalla getting the SOP dedicated to learning if you're gonna put your hand forward to kill me, Matt and Abby busselton. Yeah, directly October. I'm not gonna do the same. I'm not gonna put my hand forward to kill you. Why? In the half alive.

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Hello but alamy I am afraid from a loss pantai

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strength in the family needs to be based on loss pantalla that stronger that relationship with Allah and I'm talking about the parents first, both the mother and the father, do your best. Spend time to nourish the relationship with Allah subhana wa, we spend a lot of time nourishing relationships with others, which is important, but nourishing the relationship with Allah. I don't think we spend enough time we give it the leftover time.

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How do why I'm saying this because the the gauge of the relationship with a loss pantalla is a solder

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is a solder and and look at our Salah how much of our quality time prime time we give to it.

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This needs to change as individual, the more one individual of the house is connected with the lowest pantalla it will have an effect sooner or later. May be huge, maybe minimum, but it will have an effect. Sydney also the story family, saving their home and saving they also family. Lots of problems, jealousy, jealousy, hatred, plotting lining your name it is there.

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When signet iacob knew he lost his two sons. What did he say? What did he say? ash Koba Theo Hosni Illa I am talking I am complaining, I am sure to use the word venting to Allah I am telling Allah, my pain and my sorrow, connection with our last pump dad will say they also became via Aziz the king. And most of you know the story and he came, they came to him and he known and he identify them. And finally he said and also they asked him You are used? He said no. You so yes, I am. What are they? This is my brother. What did he say? That's a three by a chameleon? No harm. Yo federal law.

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Y'all federal law holder.

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conducted with Allah, strength in the family, based upon connection with the strong, strong willed Allah subhanho wa Taala. The wife will fit on. Wife of Iran. There is no every woman who comes and say, You don't know what my husband do to me. I always tell her read the end of sort of to him and see what's the wife of Pharaoh said who is more

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strong tyrant has power and has the authority than pheromone that Allah created. Right?

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When he reached the point that he is torturing her. Absolutely in the story tells you he puts her arms and legs in fourth poles and he asked them to pull it as it was pulling she was smiling because she saw like a cloud coming or an angel coming and he's showing her place in general because of the drought she may not be near the end the cabezon field Jana, y'all Allah build the house for me in Jana. Aim that with you.

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point I'm trying to make is extremely important that I spend most of the hour 30 minutes talking about this, because with no connection with Allah subhanho wa Taala

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then the most important source of strength is not in that house.

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is not in that house. Who do I run to? When there is a problem? Who do I ask? When I need at the end? is Allah subhanho wa Taala I take it all I do it from the beginning. So see, Paragon and and his wife, connected Allah subhanho wa Taala, a Seder Maria, one look at all Moosa and how long the two brothers, Moses and his brother

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read their stories repeated in the Koran. What did he say? There is love between them. And he looks at it and his brother asked Allah pantalla which I do zero min Allah, how can I make give me

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was here and he's like, it's like

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a real helper that will watch to be as he will make me stronger, long between them because of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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So the first step is

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On the strength of the house is connection with a loss pantalla number two. Number two, and I'm not going to go into a lot of details as all of you probably know, inshallah, most of you is actually know that there is the program that we are

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starting this coming

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Thursday with shaquiesha bridges, and it's a five weeks program is about the fundamental of happiness in the house, one hour for five weeks, and he's going to cover all these in details. And may Allah reward him, gave us an honor that he is giving john that is secured this honor. And he's an expert in this he's like most of his workshops for years is about marriage, and happiness in the 80s in sha Allah starting this coming Thursday, so I am not going to go into a lot of details, because he's going to cover a lot, but I wanted to come to two important things and then I'll share with you the story. Number two, is starts the happiness, the strong home, the happiness, the second,

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the tranquility starts by the choice. Who do you choose? Who do you choose to your son? Or your daughter? Or the son, The Man Who do you go and look for? And you Who do you go and look for and who do you say to?

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And our soiree is salatu salam. Absolutely. explained it to us, the woman and and the man and he said in the Hadith, some of you probably you know, either either Hopper,

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the hopper and the hopper.

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Let me just put it here because I don't want to say anything about Saraswati. salatu salam that I am

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not Yeah, here we go. hamdulillah

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either hubub la come, mentor buena mentor alone, Deena Hello, Professor Buju what a facade we will learn to follow the confident TOEFL all of a sudden caveat.

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If came to your mat for that marriage came to ask married marriage of your daughter, whom you are pleased with two things, his religion and his manners.

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Serious

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religion and manners suggests otherwise. There's going to be a lot of trials. A lot of tabulations and it's this hadith always makes me think isn't Dean enough? Isn't religion is enough?

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Because I A lot of us come and says Well, there's a lot of people who they say they are religious or we see they are religious, but then when it comes see their manners and that's why he put this together because sometimes proper religion is proper manner, but everybody has their shortcomings. So we need to look at religion meaning fear of Allah, taqwa of Allah, the obligations are done she or he, she or he perceived the Hadith is about he

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and his manners present would you give him

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and what about the woman What? And he said another Hadith tabula rasa, the woman is usually the woman is

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asked for marriage for four reasons. Her beauty, her wealth, her family or her lineage and her Deen and her religion.

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This is for reason she's pretty, I liked her. She has money could be both or one and family, or

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four. And he said la cabeza de terre by tidak. Choose the woman of the pathogen. Because if I have a man whose religion and manners and the woman has religion, meaning religion means what makes connection with Allah subhana wa tada I have a lot in my life. My decision based upon what Allah say, my not doing something based on what Allah told me not to do the building the second The house is a strong start with a choice. And now you come and I will share this story with you about the choice.

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Among it's a famous are the end the Adi is actually his name is Shai is a well known party and he says I want to I got married to a righteous woman. So I thought marriage and the day of the wedding, the day of the wedding.

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I noticed that my choice was right. So this is the story. He said I found out that my my choice was right. She was religious.

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A very beautiful manner. And I really liked her. So immediately on the day of the wedding, he said immediately I wanted to be grateful to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So I went, and I pray to God to Allah subhanaw taala out of sugar that he gave me, a righteous woman. When I finished my tour card, I looked back, and I saw she is also praying behind me. She's also praying behind me.

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So I said, so I looked at her. And I said, When, when people like when we became alone, I said to her, and I said,

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I'm sorry, I came to her. And she said, she said, Take it easy. Take it easy on me. Then she stood up, look at the woman, she stood up, and she said,

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I am a stranger to you.

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I don't know what you like, I don't know what you don't like, tell me what you like. And I'll do my best to do it. And tell me what you don't like. And I will do my best not to do it. You had a lot of choices in your community to marry. And I had a lot of choices in my community to marry. But Allah subhanho wa Taala chose the that we get married.

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She was talking to him, they one of their marriage, fit duck, lovey.

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beak, a lot conscious in the way you treat me. And remember what Allah said, panela

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for him second model, out ussery Holy sh you hold to them with goodness and excellence, or let them go with excellence.

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So what did she say? She said, I'm a stranger. I don't know you. Whatever you think, you know, someone is not like when you start living with them.

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So she said, I don't know you.

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Tell me what you like, I'll do it. Tell me what you don't like, I'll stay with it. I stay away from it, you have choices. And I have choices. But Allah chose for us to come together. See, it's all about Allah, we came together. So treat me

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have fear and all from Allah subhanaw taala. and treat me the way he pleases Allah subhanaw taala. And remember what Allah said, it's a vs water bottle for him. So can be modeled after three mbsr keep me with my roof, goodness, and excellence, or let me go. So this is all the way this is a man who is absolutely religious and practicing. And he's also fucky is knowledgeable. He said, so I stood up. And I said that

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my beautiful wife, you have said something. If you are going to do and you're going to do it all the time, you will be a treasure for me. And if this is a claim is going to be against you. I like 123 this and this and this, and I don't like this and this and this.

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And he said for 20 years, we lived with happiness. What do we understand?

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Number one, again, I don't want you to think well this is a story. Let's Let's practice it. Number one. Realistically, that we don't know. When the man and the wife come to get married, they don't know each other. It doesn't matter how long they knew each other before more reality hits and when they are under one roof. Things become so immediately you accept this and he accept this I don't know you well, and I don't know you well, let's get to know each other. That's what he is. She told them right? Tell me I'll do my best number two have a lot of both of you. And that's what she's telling him and I'll do my best to do if it didn't work. Then let me go with the way please our last

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panel what odd

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number two story and then I will end up of course with our Swati salatu salam actually saying to say now Abdullah now bass, this is a man say novolog nobis. The 40 the one who are Swati salatu salam

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made the dua for him and he became Emperor oma. He became the most knowledgeable companion and he says look with this

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lacked ASEAN Li marotti committed as a unity. I notify myself to my wife, Laci beautified myself

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as she beautifies herself to me as I need

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To give her her right, she needs to give me my right.

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Agree let's translate it to reality strength is when I look at what I need and what's my right and what he needs and what he wants his right so when I am not in a good mood and I don't want someone to ask me what's wrong with you? And I don't want to answer that's why when I like in my right this is the same for him both ways any what the reason I brought the story of Satan Abdullah Nablus because he brought a beautiful principle in the Quran, Allah when Allah de la Hina be model, they have the right, exactly the same as the husband has the right upon them

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in simple in beautifying the same way he wants you to be beautiful, you need to be beautiful for him and vice versa. The other story is it's about St. nahi Subhan Allah in St. Louis, he really loved Seder papilla. And he said one day and look when his brother says,

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Show the love, show the long, good word, even if you are not in the mood to say it. As Kenny motiva saw the good word is an act of good deed. Even if you think he or she that they will not appreciate or maybe they will not feel it. Think of the connection with the last panel with Tyler and cutting up labor good word, strengthen the relationship, let alone a smile. So say you're at

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one time he entered. And he saw Seder for dinner. Right? And, and he wanted to make it up for her. He wanted to make her happy. She wants to make her happy. And he saw swac in her mouth. She was doing swac. And so you know he was a poet, was a poet. So he said, he talked, he didn't talk to her. She was not very happy with him. He wanted to make her happy. So she was doing this talk. She didn't talk to her. So we didn't talk to her. He talked to the sidewalk. And he said also work. I see that you had the honor of having her mouth.

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Aren't you swag afraid that I will see you.

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If you were someone that is able to fight, I would have killed you.

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However, nobody else has done what you have done. Nobody else came to her mouth, except you. Of course she smiled afterward.

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Good word, good word. Whatever is it. And as a last resort, or ceramsite Yeah, to her current net ohakune. Lemon mouth. Don't belittle any good deed, even if it was a smile, a smile. So when they when it is when the atmosphere in the house is tense. And this happens a lot we all live stressful life very, especially if they're both a couples work. And there's a lot of responsibilities when it is tense. One of them has to be like saying it, this is why I brought the story is how to make the atmosphere a little bit more. Relax, one of the couple has just started and the person who starts will be will be rewarded more, I can find look at my rewards with our last pantalla. If I look at my

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book, I don't look at he didn't do it. Or she didn't do it. I'm always the first one to do it, then it will be difficult. But if I look at what is my reward with Allah, the focus, the goal is to please Allah spawn Tada. I am going to start and look what he said about when he saw her doing some work. So good deed, small good deed in the house to please Allah, the house will live in peace. Last but not the least. And I want you to sit and I'm going to read this story to you from say neurosurgery software setup. So one way there is and this is a handy little EMA command.

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And he said one time there was a disagreement between a CDI shop. And the last one he sought to us, Sara, this is his wife, the most beloved wife that tells you this happens in the best homes. Right? So he looked at her and he said, we don't know who he is. And he doesn't say who did who started it. What was the issue? Was it say the height.

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So he said to her, who you will be pleased to that I call to listen to us and judge between us.

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So

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Hello, blah. Now he is a human being on a Serato setup. So he and his wife had an issue.

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And she was not happy. So he looked at her and said, Okay, let's go and call someone to, to say who is to be blamed. This is a raw Swati Sato

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and he looks at her and says, will you be happy? If I call Irma? Say, Norma, may Allah be pleased with him? She said, No.

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I am afraid that he can be very tough. Say no more.

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And he said, Okay.

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Do you want me to call a ball? Bader? I've already done one of the 10 people who are given Jenna. She said, No, he loves you. And he's gonna give and he is going to judge the way that pleases you.

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saw

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when I was reading the story, I was like, Subhanallah, this sci fi show how strong she is actually this coming Saturday for those of you who were with us in the class, about the poles around the Roswell De Soto center this Saturday, we're talking about her, may Allah be pleased with her, the most beloved woman, the most beloved human being to roswaal a site or center. So Pamela, and look at her. So here we go again. This agreement husband and wife this agreement, right? And he said okay, let's call it's obviously he could not please her. Right? And she was not giving it giving and so we need a third person to say who is wrong. So you Is it okay, if I call Omar say Norma said no, I'm

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worried he stood off, okay. You want me to call say no, Baba? Of course. She said, Abu Zubaydah. She said no, he loves you. He's gonna judge you the way that pleases you. He said, Okay, let's call your father Abu Abu Bakar. She said yes.

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Okay. So vasarely santosa called Satan, Abu Bakar. And he entered and he looked at a networker. This is the the prophet of humanity, the most beloved man for Rasul Allah to Allah subhanho wa Taala, right? So say the Buddha entered, and he looked at her, say, Dasha, and he said, Do you want to talk or do you want me to talk?

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And she said, tickle me Allah, so Allah, you speak out Osama.

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Look for what you said, to kill him say speak out also La Ilaha. But don't say anything but the truth. She's now dealing with him as a husband, husband and wife. As a networker stood up, about to hit her.

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Because she said to roswaal a saw to Samuel speak but don't speak but the truth

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that Saraswati saw to us that he knew anything about Swati psychosom nothing say now we'll work on her father, but this is a roswaal he sought to Sir, he's about to hit her. That's harder than the mama and and she actually is one of the smartest woman she actually run and hide and hid herself behind the Versace site was her. So her father stood up to hit her because she said to her, Swati santosa speak but don't speak about the truth. Subhana Allah will have a swallow Isa to sit and speak anything but the truth. So of course they double back and got upset. So she ran behind a facade he saw to a sinner. So now as a networker, Saraswati is tied to a center and she is behind

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him and out of Swati sight of Sam looked at Satan that will Bucher alayhis salaam to Assam look what he said. He said that will not come hakima Lemma drunker more a diva. On a medical coma a diva we call you to judge we did not call you to discipline leave us you will not be able to help us.

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He looked so she is behind him. He's over Swati sought to Assam saying that he is not happy with his daughter.

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And I saw this thought or Sam looked at him. And he said, We called you to judge we did not call you to discipline. This is his daughter. So leave us then when when he left, right, so say the eisah moved away from the back of a swelling site or center. So that's why they start to some looks at her and said

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you were just behind me. You hate yourself so close to me.

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And now you run away from me.

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She smiled a little sweaty his thought was Sam smiled. Ben say now boubakeur entered again. And they were laughing and he said now you don't need me.

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Tell me what made you laugh? Like you told me what made you not happy?

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What do we learn from

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In this panel, what do we learn from this? What law when I was reading this, I was like Suppan was, number one. It is Salatu was set up.

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And he set out to Sam, he is our example. And what is the example he gave us? What is the example he gave us. And this can be, the woman can look at the example of a grocery store to Sarah and says, I am going to be like him, or the man can be like grocery store to sell, and I'm going to be like him. Number one, patient. Number two, get a third party then say I'm a rusada santosa Why do I need another opinion? I know I am right now.

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Number three, he let her choose. Let her choose patient,

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let her choose. And then when the person who came to judge tenara, Swati salatu salam felt that this may make the problem even worse, he stopped did I leave?

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And then he took the opportunity of something she did to make her laugh, and to change the subject.

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What I'm trying to say is these things, we read them in the books, but have we ever even thought of them,

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let alone try to practice them when the problems start still in the beginning,

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not when it is too late. Because when it is too late or last pantalla allowed the couple to separate what yet a federal or only local msrt what kind of law who ESEA and hakima. Allah said this was what the Nisa and if they got separated, you only level coolamon Sati everyone, Allah will enrich them from his vast richness, meaning he will probably give them richness whether it's a spouse or something else, what kind of law Who is your hand hakima and Allah vast and Allah is very wise. But I'm talking in when it starts. This is the examples Sade nalli and Rasul Allah has a lot to set up when it starts, one of the couple has to be the one that is wiser. In that moment, I will say this,

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what will make me say that will please Allah, what will make me say that this is written in my book, The love of the law. If these homes if our homes is build or build on the love of Allah pantalla the love of Rasul Allah is sort of tossed around and is not built on the love of me and I our problems would be much and much less is not going to disappear. There is Sahaba who got divorced, there was problems between the wives of roswaal a Software Center, but the solutions and the escalation is much less and there is always always a lost pantalla coming in, in the scenario meaning when did one when there is this conflict that person who's connected with a loss pantalla Allah will protect them

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in that time. And this now come to my mind tog Rafi Allah for a heart, it should know a lush pantalla in time of ease, he will know you have enough roswaal a saw to sir He will know you at the time of difficulty meaning when things are good, when when everything in my house is 100 lack of blind me go into the way I want. I need to obey Allah even more.

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Because this will pay back when I am going through difficulty. Yeah, difficulties should when I am going through difficulty Allah would come to my victory and to my help and make things easy. You ought to be I mean you're be I mean I asked her last pantalla your beautiful beautiful our second your Allah egil butala Second Age arbutin muslimeen. Second, make the homes of the Muslims a source of tranquility, tranquility, love, mercy, make it your Allah. Smart when are when you're looking at us from your majestic place. When you're looking down at us. You see, these are sources of love, your love, and your obedience, not my love, and I want and and he should do she should do. It's all

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should revive around the last one time. And if that's the relationship between the husband and the wife, imagine what the children will be my last pantalla makers of those who listen to the word of admonition and follow the best among them. How will I seek refuge in Allah that I remind you of something and I don't do it to sacrum Allahu Allah Subhana Colombo behind the eyeshadow and

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I stopped hirokawa to Buddha and there is a message from Chef asobo just

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to everybody and if you can just wait and listen to what does

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this mean your Walkman you're walking I'm

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Sarah monokuma rahmatullah wa barakato Madiba sisters on behalf of Jenna Institute I would like to invite you to a five week special course starting this October 1 in sha Allah Allah once a week with la azzawajal the title the fundamentals of happiness at home under the current circumstances everybody's really worried about the relationship between parents and their children the children among themselves and and everybody stressed out along stand at hand a lot of damage our Dean has so many resources for us to find that peace and tranquility and comfort with each other I want to share with you inshallah, to Allah, the meaning of happiness at home as we can find this in the Quran and

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the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I designed this course for the brothers and sisters whether they're married or not, whether they're getting married or don't plan to do it anytime soon, everybody will benefit from it inshallah terracotta so we're going to talk about love and marriage. For Muslim perspective, what does it mean exactly? How do you do that? How to do it, try it if there's any way you want to do it, right? We're gonna talk about the foundations of a successful marriage and shout louder now, whether you're already in a relationship, or you plan to have one inshallah zildjian how can how can you make it right in La azzawajal. Also, citing the

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Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam for that, then we're going to talk about what really breaks relationships, what causes people to lose interest and decide to leave or even break, break marriages. Because knowing what is wrong, help us inshallah to avoid vanilla sojourn to establish that which is right in the light of Allah.

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The first session inshallah will be about family and marital life of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam what is the best example for us then the Prophet sallallahu wasallam I want to learn from his example. So I can bring happiness to my home in sha Allah Allah azza wa jal And finally, we're talking about finding peace and tranquility at home. We have a few tips inshallah practical tips

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on how to do it at home and how you can find happiness at home. This class is very practical, so every session is shallow data we're gonna share with you a few practical tips on each subject we also going to share with you some readings and activities and follow up in shallow data and hopefully shortly we'll have enough time to ask your questions but Neela I want to invite you to register for this class again the fundamentals of happiness at home. Go to Jenna institute.com register for the class in shallow data Hope to see you also particular vehicle as salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.