Time Management Toolkit – Practical Examples with Guest Speakers

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The speakers discuss practical examples of their day, including learning a language and studying a specific subject. They emphasize the importance of personalized dedication and finding one's own way to achieve success. The speakers also emphasize the importance of staying at work and decluttering one's life. They recommend decluttering one's life and setting clear goals to achieve success. The importance of setting clear goals and organizing one's life is emphasized, and the segment ends with a brief advertisement for a program on gender issues.

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As salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah while he was Sahih woman wah wah ma Luna myinfo. Now one final Bhima alum Tana in NACA semiology will do our Lama Nia on the weekend named mulayam Wakabayashi one I've seen latesh but what do I use my obon Allah to superluminova is her data no habla nama don't Karama inika Intel hub for me shortly sundry ways silly. Only one of the 10 melissani of kamakoti Santa Monica rahmatullah wa barakato. Desert Malachy for joining us Tuesday program seven o'clock St. Louis time. This is part two of the series we started last week, which is about time management, the toolkit as we call

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it. And just to let you know, this was actually a request from one of the viewers she reached out to us and says, Can you please talk about the subject especially for us woman we always find ourselves are running around and we don't have enough time. So panel line we all have this sort humbler umbrella mean last week what we talked about, we talked about what is time and why time is a blessing as Swati salatu salam said near my tiny mortal wound on fee market hero Amina NASS also had to wait for all imaginable hottie narrated and Satan Abdullah have now thus the Torah Swati Salatu was Salam said to blessings, the son of Adam does not know the value of it. And this is actually one

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is health, and two is time, Asato for all free time and health. And we went in detail about that, and how we need to look at time as a blessing. And whenever we have a blessing that means it's something will bring us higher, bring us good is something we have to take care of it. Use it, not abuse it and not wasted. Unless pantalla also reminded us and I send said this also last time, yeah, Johan livina amanu lateral he come on while you come well Allah to come and decree all who you believe. And Allah said this is sort of monarchy upon the hypocrites and the verses number 10. Yeah, you're Latina. I'm an all you who believe all believer. laterally come, don't let the following

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distract you.

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And wailuku Don't let your wealth and your children distract you. From the remembrance of Allah. Woman your file vatika for like 100 hosue whomsoever does that meaning.

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Focus is wealth and money. time is spent on wealth and money at the end, these are are those people are the losers. And the next verse is what have you Omarosa on our spend from what we have given you? Men probably at the Komodo firehole before death comes to someone then he will say, or biloela Horton Isla, Julian Felipe, Oh Allah. Oh my Lord. Just give me a little bit more time. Why can you give me a little bit more time for a Sunday I'm going to spend and I'm going to be of those who are who spend who does charity, while communists Salafi and I'm going to be of those righteous people. And number 11, Allah subhanaw taala says, What are you asking Allah who nificent Elijah, Jeremiah,

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and Allah will not give any more time. When the time for death comes in. See how many words time came in. Don't let your money Don't let your wealth distract you. From the remembrance of a loss pantalla time management, the time management is where one thing should not be on the expense of another thing, and especially when that thing is a loss pantalla and my hereafter and the last thing we said last week, you have an item in nama into em, son of Adam, you are birthdays, for the hubba, hubba, Babak if one day

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pass part of you has passed and Hassan was received and it has anniversary sender, we are basically days when days move. Now we are to 2120 2112 days ago or 2020 part of my life has gone in nama into Iam, we are basically days. So we went on last week that we need to look at time as a blessing and everything I do everything I do in my mundane daily life. It needs to change to be something pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala. That's the principle. Now what we wanted today is practical examples is this is really possible. Sr hypha is this is a talk or this is reality. Can this be my day

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Life, can I do it, or it's something I read and listen to. And when it comes to my daily activity and my daily applications, I find it almost impossible. So what we opted today to do Subhan Allah, I wanted to share with you all, everybody real examples, now it was a key on a lie ahead, I'm gonna start saying this, we do not, we do not elevate anyone above our last pantalla. And we do not praise anyone, but our last pantalla. But couple have a good deal friends of mine, I know the students agenda Institute, some of them actually are part of Jeanette cityu team, who are ordinary woman, who are also have other things in life to do mother, grandmother professional studying. And at the same

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time, they did find the time and the balance to do study about almost pantalla, practice Bismillah and some of them even teaching. How does that happen? How could they do that. And we opted for practical examples. So if and this is how I say to myself all the time, if a human being can do it, then I can do it.

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If a woman can memorize the Quran, then I can do it. If she can study and learn a language, let alone Arabic and the Quranic language, and I can do it. And I say this to myself, and I say to all of you, because Allah Subhana Allah did not give any one of us anything different than the other, meaning we all have a brain, we all have two eyes, we all have two years, we all have hands, we all have an ability to understand. And we all have most important 24 hours a day. A lot did not give some of us 28 hours a day and some 22 everybody has 24

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and these are real examples. And also in between I'm gonna read to you a letter I just received before the class in about 30 minutes. It's actually came from Indonesia, which is one of our also team but I did not do very honest, I did not expect the latter. So I'm going to start and this is

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just by the way, I'm looking at the screen. I'm going to start with a sister who is very dear to me. Actually, I knew her I know her for more than 21 years, used to live in St. Louis for a long time. Just moved recently to Chicago grandmother.

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A revert to Islam

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learned the Tajweed he now she is memorizing. She's also a teacher. And she is not 20 years of age. And I'm going to put her on the screen and I'm gonna welcome sister Yeah, sweet 16 Yes, me sit on it. Kumara McCullough Barakatuh I know she is with us. Yes, she is said mid.

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unmute. Yes, me?

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Alhamdulillah Oh, Blimey, how are you my dear Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah. I'm doing well on hamdulillah. Exactly now for joining us, while Yaki Jazakallah Hayden for inviting me, Masha, it's my pleasure she

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shared with us and what do you want to tell the people who are listening to us?

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So there's so much to say. That's Tuesday that is five What did you get us five minutes?

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Yeah, Alhamdulillah horrible. I mean, the subject is

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is very, very important.

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And hamdulillah I am anyway for those who do not know my name is Jasmine.

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I am a student at Jenna Institute.

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I am I started I was I was the one of the first ones who started studying at the Genome Institute. I did my Ted read first

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panel on my journey was kind of tough but Alhamdulillah with the last help you can do if you if you put your mind to it, you can do just about anything.

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With the help of a loved one, right, I finished my year Tajweed two years.

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And then I started teaching I got my certificate for teaching graduate. So I started teaching at the general Institute. I taught there for a few years and then as Allah will I

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had to move which was a very sad and painful thing for me

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because they the gender Institute is just in my heart I yeah, I was there from beginning when it started before even started. So after that after teach after I moved here actually before I moved I started the hips program and so then I have to move so also korona happened so we are doing online so I'm doing right now online, the hips program. And I I just wanted to say to everyone

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that Gemini Institute is a blessing from Allah subhanho wa Taala that Allah subhanaw taala gave it to us and that we should be grateful to Allah. And for me myself, I am grateful to Allah first that Allah subhanaw taala gave me this opportunity that he chose me to learn and then I wanted to thank Dr. Haifa Mashallah the founder of Genoa Institute and that is also a special person to actually the special people that I want to take it that is a shaker Karima and she is Masha Allah she is author of 330 books that we study that we use in Jana Institute's

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she's a very beautiful person and Michelle are very

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she's of course a happy day teacher

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so and then there is also I wanted to change my teacher who was a 16 year old and I married

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a beautiful kids Mashallah Mashallah

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she I don't think I would be able to do it if it was not for her patients. She was very patient with me.

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And then

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I am so grateful to our last one my tailor that Allah subhanaw taala give us this opportunity. Not everybody gets this opportunity. So I my advice to everyone, everyone will be pleased. I take this opportunity and use it because we will have to answer to our last one artola why it was there it is an account of your door and you didn't want to do it. Now as far as as far as being capable of doing it. You know, I hear many times it says I cannot I can't remember my name. I can't remember what I ate yesterday. I can't remember anything. No, don't let this Don't let shaytan deceive you don't do this.

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Everybody can do it. Like Dr. Haifa just said before, we are all we all have a brain, we all are capable of everything is just that. It's it's the hard work and it's dedication. And it's a Nia and also it's Alaska due to Allah subhanaw taala if you ask him, he will give it to you. So I am I am very grateful. And I also like I said, I suggest everybody please take this opportunity, please. Because this is for our rock era, not only for here, but it's for the mayor

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Jackie la carious. me so if you want to the main point, which is what our program is, is the time now I know very well that Michelle lots of articles your your wife, your mother, your grandmother, you are hamdulillah Grameen in memorization. You also teach and I don't know about what you are in Chicago, but I know very well when you are in St. Louis, you're also involved in a lot of social work and helping people so the question comes in, how do you do that? Where is the time? What do you say to this person who looks says I don't I really wanted I just don't have the time.

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Okay, so the time spent a lot time really it scares me. When when I and I think about it because Allah subhanaw taala he swears by time

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when when Allah subhanaw taala swears by something, then that is something very, very important for us.

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So I always think you know how when we ask people, are you ready? Are you ready to die? Usually everybody says no, I'm not ready.

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Why not? And when are you going to be ready? So I think that if the I kind of imagined myself, What would you do if the Angel of Death comes now? What would you tell them

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the time does not belong to us. The time belongs to Allah subhanaw taala but we have

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control of how we use the time that Allah give us. So the first thing I would say to everybody and and many people disagree with me, but I from my own practice and from the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam is that you go to sleep at night right after OSHA time

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you pay for and you go to sleep, then you wake up for the Nike I'm late as everybody know that there is no, there is no success in in your

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achievement in this in this school, when comes to your dean to you a man unless you get up for the hygiene unless you pray the omelet. And we know there's so many Hadees that he says it's a it's a light on the Syrah it's it many not to even go into that because we need a lot more time. But so if you were to get up, and you you play at that time and you talk to you talk to your Creator, and you talk to them with the with the searcher sincerity, that you know he's listening to you. And you ask him for everything that you need, then you do your fudger and then the if you stay awake, the blessing of the time is in the morning. I whatever I wanted to. I do my studies, I do my

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memorization, I do preparation for my highlighters, everything is done in the morning.

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Once the morning passes, the time really doesn't have much blessing after that. It just goes too fast to get too busy. But for you to build your Eman you need that time alone with Allah subhanaw taala. So the key is one, go to sleep after Russia. Get up for tahajjud make lots of God make the connection with Allah subhanaw taala is color to give you a blessing in your time.

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And when you have that connection, you just don't feel like it's like you have you have no worries you feel you feel free. You feel

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I can accomplish anything. I have no fear I have no noise xiety I I am energized, energized. I can just keep going and going well because I got that in the morning. So this is

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beautiful I I hate to interrupt, but just because of the time. So from everyone that we're going to have today, and that doesn't mean everything they say it applies to you all but pick up one thing from everyone and look at your life. Look at your life and from from Sr yasmeen. If somebody says I can't sleep after Asia, I have so many other things to do. After federal I have to go to work I will take one word, ask a lot to put Baraka in your time. Ask him ask him any also dude in this quick to record that you are doing and you have no time to do more because the baby is crying or you're really tired because you have to work long hours in your suit ask Allah to put Baraka in your time

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and you will be so surprised how much pantalla will open it Subhan Allah, my next guest and it's also gives me a great pleasure to have her with us joining us from Texas. Actually we knew each other a while ago and then Allah subhanaw taala put us in a separate way. And then we met two years ago or three years ago and the most beloved place to Allah pantalla in Makkah, and it was beautiful, amazing. I can't every time I now remember. And somehow we had amazing discussion. In the first time we met and then in front of the door of the haraam Cipolla for a long time and Allah pantalla since then, continue to bless us with this beautiful relationship and even more she's also one of the

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students Mashallah in Geneva Institute gives me great pleasure to have SR Shamim joining us Mashallah. Tamara Kala from della if not Dallas, from Austin. Handling I got it right. Welcome Shamim. It's a pleasure having us. wailuku Sarah.

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Hey, thank you.

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Same thing shimmy Majid Tell us.

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Tell us about tell tell everyone who you are. I know you're a physician, young and a mother. But tell more. That's, that's probably the most Those are probably

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probably the most important to students and

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I am a radiologist and I work from home and that was kind of a honestly a change that had happened right before that trip to home.

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For me in 2018 and at the time it was very nerve racking for me but it has proven you know very nice for my work life balance overall as a mom

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Mashallah a lot of cola New Yorker but I can tell you I love the weather here in the winter.

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So what made you so you're a professional you're a radiologist born and raised in the United States beautiful to children which I know Mashallah tomato cola. What's made you study? I mean a lot of people will say what do you need to study um, I would say my journey really began when I was in college and then in my next kind of growth spurt of learning was more in my 20s and at this point, I would just consider myself inshallah a lifelong learner in various capacities. And I think a commonality in in pursuing studying has been at various times company or times of stress or just something that would inevitably draw one back on a journey towards Allah which I believe by design

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is not pursuing some element of knowledge becomes integral for moving forward and now as a mom, I feel more responsible for staying on top of it.

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What do you Shamim is actually studying Quranic Arabic with us which is not easy whatsoever Mashallah. She is also memorizing the poor antibiotic come with a private teacher. So the question should be where do you get the time back again to the same Where do you get the time?

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I'm going to if it's okay with you backtrack a little bit to why started studying the Quran? Yes, you know, and

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I always had a goal of memorizing the Quran kind of in the back of my head and actually when I would commute from residency home to visit my parents I would listen and this would kind of be in the back of my mind, like one day I'll memorize but it was never something I sat down to do. And I remember at one of shamel stars retreats. Sister Azra told me her son in law memorize during residency and I remember how did he memorize for and during residency is insane. And then I read this book by a woman who was a compilation of biographies of other women who had memorized and one of the lines that really stuck with me from that book was that you can go from someone who would like to be would

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like to memorize the Quran to someone who is memorizing and from that my goal just shifted right then and I always keep in mind that head do that when you die you can recite score at an ascending Jenna for as long as you can recite and that always is they're moving to me and then one of my friends once said to me, she's cultivating a relationship with the Quran now so it's her friend and once her kids grow and leave she doesn't want to find she has to now establish this new friendship that will be an old friend. So I'm memorizing the Quran has been probably the most effective way for me to connect with the poor and you know, throughout my life as a non Arab speaker you know,

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translations really are very hard because the Koran is complex to just kind of try to read from front to back like a novel it doesn't read like that's all pick it up, put it back, you know, or try to do like one page a day you know, inevitably that just goes away because even fluency for me improves when I've memorized the surah as opposed to just trying to pick one from scratch and just open the book it doesn't come naturally. So now I literally find that I will sit with a daily I'll take it with me to a coffee shop with my husband and I are going out, you know, I'm marking it up and I feel like I'm now a student of the Quran and a really interactive manner. And then you know,

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just doing that, you know, I have to kind of go word by word sometimes and I'll look up different dictionaries to find a meaning and you know that in general I'll kind of want to know more about the sewer like why was the sewer revealed or what was going on in history at the time or what was going on in the life of the profits that I sell them and so you know, why, you know what, it's kind of like its own reward, just the fact that you can see the results of something tangible when you pursue memorization because you know, you start not knowing something and then you know, within four weeks or six weeks or eight weeks now you can check another one off, like I know the sewer now it's

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kind of amazing.

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so for me, just an I started really seriously in the pandemic's, for me, it's kind of vacuum has somehow turned into something really productive for me. And

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as far as

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what you were talking about, how do I how do I manage the time and find time so probably this was something you said so what did the pandemic freed you from that now you find out you have time that you gonna be memorizing the what a blessing, what a blessing look at the COVID which is May Allah subhanaw taala your be I mean lifted up, but see how Allah pantalla

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In this test how much pantalla needed a gift for you? Yeah, show me how what would what free doing in the in the pandemic?

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You know, I

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I, it's not that the pen pandemic itself freed me, I would say I, I kind of set the goal in Ramadan. And I may do in Ramadan for it. And then things kind of started to fall into place, you know, somebody sent a message about, or I said, one of my friends has a nonprofit here. And it was like, you know, this parent teacher is looking to teach young girls. And I was looking for my own daughter. And then I just emailed her and I said, Well, could you listen to me a couple days a week because I memorize a loan. But I found it's very hard to stay accountable. So I'll kind of you know, have this metal, you know, list of the things when you were asking about time. And you know, one of

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the things my husband always says is, he hates it when people say, I didn't have the time, I'm sorry, because there's never enough time for everything. So it's basically saying I didn't make it a priority. So over the years, I've realized that nobody will carve out time for me, I have to do it myself. And nobody will set goals for me, nobody will tell me what will make me happy, what my priorities should be in life will only be getting more complex. So that's not to say I'm not grateful for the support systems I have in place. But I mean, at the end of the day, you are accountable for your own time, like we've been talking about. So one of the with sister Jasmine just

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said has proven true for me as well, in that I study before and right after fudger. If I'm going to be effective, sometimes I'll be able to revise as far as meetings go or you know, if I'm out at a coffee shop or something. But overall, the heavy bulk of the memorizing, for me happens in the darker hours. And again, another thing is that because of my work schedule being kind of in the three to 8am time, it's which is not every day of the month, it's like 10 days, it has given me kind of a

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a reawakened sense of the importance of sleep and how you do have to factor sleep when you set your goals. And it doesn't have to look like what everyone else thinks it needs to look like. Like in my case, I can't wake up at five to revise or add if I'm going to go to bed at 11. So that means I can't just sit in the evenings and watch TV with my husband, I go to bed at eight or nine.

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And other things that I have found effective is just

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having someone recite to me or just being accountable for a class. So in my case, signing up for that Arabic grammar class was very helpful. And I think that's where it comes down to most of us would say wow, like there's an I would have been the first to say this to even before I was like, I don't know, 90 minutes a day like, but any of us could take a tally since this pandemic began. Like I mean, we have all been watching shows on Netflix, like binge watching. And I think if any of us averages how much TV I'm sure you haven't, but I can tell you, I still found time for a lot of TV. So in spite of that, I probably could have taken another class.

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I will say I mean it has been challenging for sure it's challenging, but I'm just more I just you just become more efficient with your time when you have to be because you have somewhere else to be right and so if you have to sit at your computer because you know i mean i enjoyed the class, I think that's part of it. And if I haven't I probably wouldn't have kept coming back to that class but I really sense of community and I felt it really helped with my memorization, just those little bit of grammatical boosts that I was getting really made a difference. So the sacrifice if I want to summarize what Shamim said, is number one, Allah gave me the opportunity because we all have it. And

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we have to look at it as an opportunity. So unless pantalla changed her time, work time, made it three to eight and not daily. And then somebody else would have said you know what, okay hamdulillah so now I can rest now I can sleep more. Now I can watch more, but unless pantalla put in you Yeah, show me that. You know what, that's the opportunity. Take it remember last week we said the overtime comes kubla hams take advantage of five before five. And this is how you are young before we get all free time before we get busy health before we get sick, poor before we get rich and then like before we go there before we die, then people would have said I would have taken something else. Another

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class. No, take the word of Allah pantalla the conduction of the Quran a few things I picked up from what Shamim said is number one, you need to put the goal to yourself, nobody will do it. Nobody can memorize for me. And Allah who will ask me only I love this is like you take control of your time and your goals. And where are you with the Quran is where you're going to be in Jana. You're calling the hamlet Quran the Hadith, which you

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mentioned is that each will be said to that person who carries the Quran it's usually meaning the person who memorized your current word. Go up read an ascender you will reach as the last

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memory verse you have read or memorized so what a goal 100 lacquer Oh Blimey, this teaches me and all of us if we want to do it we can do it because this is pleasing to Allah Allah will make it happen but I have to sacrifice after sacrifice from what I enjoy and what I watch and all these things but does it towards the to show me at the end inshallah nothing delay yes it is and I feel yes you know how can I my child to do something that I am not doing myself right you know, I cannot push her to memorize she doesn't see me do something right I mean, you cannot lead by example that abstract like or otherwise it kind of sends this message that you know, you have to memorize because

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you're a kid and then once you're done with x, you're done right? But I mean she will see like you know, even though I'm an adult, it's still something that is still a goal for me as an adult. So

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you know if I could say a couple other things that maybe that have helped. There's is one book I would recommend, it's called what successful people do before breakfast and it's similar and talks about what you were saying there's 24 hours in a day, but it really like makes it more extreme, like how many hours are there in a week, you know, and has some really good time saving tips in there. And then another thing would be just decluttering your life like Marie Kondo style because less stuff means less stuff to manage and less managing of a house is just a lot of time freed up

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absolutely I love the dish I mean I'd love to say ask me but again time because we have two more thank you for your May Allah reward you and by Allah Subhana Allah and again I'm gonna save Shamim can do it. Everybody can do it. Right? Yes, me. Thank

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you. My next guest. Our next guest is actually joining us from South Carolina hamdulillah her Grammy for the internet. Y'all be the crown jewel Minh. She is also a dear friend, originally from Turkey. And Allah subhanaw taala made me meet her in the airport on our way going from LA. And then everything else became history. hamdulillah Blimey, she is a vivid of every student of Jeannette Institute, not in the memorization in case you say, well, it's only memorization. No, she is actually a student of knowledge. All the classes we gave I don't recall any class or course I taught sister who did not join. So sister Oh, welcome. It's pleasure to have you with us. May Allah join us

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in person euro biani. Same thing. Tell everybody who is sister

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Sarah Monica Rahmatullah Rivera capital. Thank you so much for having me on this program. I'm humbled. And I'm honored to be as part of the examples. I'm really, really humbled with my example. If somebody today can learn one thing from my life experience and what I have done, and I will be, I will be blessed with that, in sha Allah, may Allah reward you for bringing us this opportunity. And time is the most precious

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possession that we have, we actually don't possess. It just it's flowing through our fingertips, it's flowing through our lives. Every second is gone from our life.

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Time is our life. You know what, give certain time on earth. And when that time is up, we're gone. So it hamdulillah I'm thankful for all the time that Allah gave me on this earth so far. 100 Allah, I'm thankful for today that I met you sister ifa.

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I am so grateful for everything that I've learned from you.

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I am Yes, I'm originally from Turkey. And I moved to the United States. And if I always say this, if I haven't moved to the States, I probably would still be in my misguided ways and would be oblivious to many of the things that I know now. So I thank Allah for bringing me out of that environment and bringing me to a non Muslim country to learn my religion. So panela 100 100 line up behind me.

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Why did I start studying because I wanted to learn Islam better. I wanted to learn Islam better, so I can be a better Muslim. And I can be a better human being. Because learning by itself is not enough. It has the effect our character witness to make us better person. Better luck. So that's why I started studying. But the other final reason that I started studying was because that I found myself to be the most knowledgeable in my household, which actually, I didn't know anything. But my husband was new to Islam. And of course, children didn't know anything. And was what literally is, I knew

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I was trying to teach them from what I knew.

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So when I moved to the United States, I learned the very first things I learned the difference between the cultural practices

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and the actual Islamic teachings.

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When I came to that realization, I was astonished that all the things that I knew to be right, I wasn't so sure anymore. Now, it's never been challenged, like it was in this non Muslim country by people who really don't know. So

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a lot made me realize and accept that I didn't really know, my Islam, I was ignorant. So Allah sent opportunities to learn our way. Now love to love learning in our hearts. And Allah gave us the ability to practice, what we learned is a couple.

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So I was raising four kids at a time, full time job, doing Masters in Business, very career oriented, businesswoman, very goal oriented, everything, you know, hardcore, corporate world.

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So, actually, COVID girl taught me a lot of time management skills.

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What Islam taught me was, as you've been talking about, so rightfully, that time is a blessing.

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We should be grateful for the blessings that Allah gave us.

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How are we grateful for the blessings is by using those blessings in the way that is pleasing to Allah, or using those blessings for hire. So if time is blessing, that we should use our time for doing good honor.

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when we are grateful, also, that Allah will give us more. So the more we are grateful, by doing good deeds, the more Allah will expand our time for us, the 24 hour will feel like 48 hours.

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we should all look at ourselves and say,

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let's look at our lives. Am I really using the time that Allah gave me is a blessing pleasing to Allah?

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And only after that, that we can actually do a soul search?

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Just like I did,

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pretty much, right when I attended one of the shake Mofaz retreats, I believe,

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I questioned myself, I said, Why am I here? Why am I on this earth? Why did Allah create,

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I had to go back and look at my life, and see if my life was on target for the purpose of my creation.

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And, you know, I have to warn you, my dear sisters and brothers, if they're only on the line, that when you do that, I found myself shedding tears and making Toba the remorse of all the wasted time, my past and all the misguided behaviors and my past, you know, you it was just overwhelming. So I think I just became more committed to use my time in a more efficient way. Back at that time.

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what's what's kept you going? Yeah, or this is from 2007. We started our classes, you continued, we had journey together. You joined us when I went to South Africa, of course in Makkah, and then all the classes but I the thing that really is, for me, is amazing. Since 2017, when we when I came back from my studies and started the classes, every class, your name is there. And this is Islamic courses, Islamic Studies, you name it, there is test skier, there is fear. There is we talked about many things, and including the upcoming one that we are starting next week, What kept you going because a lot of people have this drive. They start you know, the New Year's resolution we all talk

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about. And then after a month or so, something happens and we doing a twinkle and then new things gets less and less What kept you going that you can share with everybody. And hamdulillah what keeps me going is I see the results in my life. I see the changes law.

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I see our last one that are not touched by life with the knowledge of itself.

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where do you taste that sweetness?

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You cannot go.

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I want to know what Allah hospital No, I want to know the book Allah, I want to understand his message for my beloved.

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If you send me an email, text message, I would read it over and over to understand what you're sending to me because I love you. And I want to understand what you're saying. So, for years in my life, I igni collected the message of the Quran, and what Allah was saying to me what he was communicating to me, and so many of the Sahaba we, you know, lost their lives trying to protect it. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it's such a such a blessings, the message we have, so the love I have for the message of Allah and the changes that I'm making in my life is what's keeping me going. So pan Allah, may Allah put in our hearts, everything that Allah subhanaw taala puts in

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sister or his heart so pan Allah Subhana Allah don't say it is not me Don't say the Sahaba lived 1000s years ago, this is somebody who's living with us. And well, what about the time? Yeah, you're, you're again, you're a wife, you're a grandmother, you're very active in interfaith and in your community, and you study. So what is the time you want to tell everybody? Alhamdulillah Actually, it's easier now. It was harder before when I had a full time job.

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When 2006 when I went to Hodge, I was at the height of my career in the corporate world.

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Yeah, and

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actually, I had a big promotion, and I was moving into a new position. And so I was able to negotiate, you know, my month off. Otherwise, you know, in the corporate world, there's no, it's not possible to have that much time off, in sequence, you know, so you can take two days off one week off, but you know, the whole month in the corporate world is very, very hard. So I was able to negotiate that and I was able to loveless me with a little Hodge

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Sister, I came back from Hodge.

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And I was reorganizing my purse to go back to work.

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And I came across my driver's license.

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And I looked at it.

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And I looked at the picture on there.

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And I said, I am no longer this person.

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This is not me.

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This is not me.

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I don't want to go back to being that person.

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I'm changed now. I'm a different person. So I'll get back to work.

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My, my heart was in Mecca.

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It was so painful, is career oriented. I was as much as I loved building my career and you know, going up on the corporate ladder, and the whole nine hours,

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it meant nothing more.

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Nothing. All I wanted to do was to study worship. I wanted to live like I live. When I was in Mecca, and Medina, what do we do over there for 24 hours, dedicated all our time to worship Allah.

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Their little distractions. I love that.

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to the shock of my most of my family, I quit at the height of my career,

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in my life, to study in Islam, to understand, to learn about Allah, and understand his message.

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And hopefully,

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when I said to myself was I said, I want to work for Allah. It's got better retirement benefits. Yeah. Yeah.

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Yeah, don't be me. Since you made us all cry. Exactly. Now.

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I want

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I wanted to share some of the time saving mindful tips. I don't know if we still have time. Yes. Yes, Yes, we do. Go ahead.

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of time. Yes. Why to be concise. So the very first thing is, like I said, it's a blessing and we need to use it accordingly. We need to be mindful of the time passing, visualize it as water running from a faucet.

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Okay, time is running like water runs out of the faucet. And us doing good deeds, that is pleasing to Allah is to have a bucket under that water to collect it. No bucket, no water. You're wasting your time, just like you're wasting water.

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So just help yourself visualize it in this way to understand that wasting time is almost like a said.

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set clear goals and be sincere in those goals. Have Said

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and share your goals with others to support you in those goals, announced them. So to actually that motivates you to actually stick to those goals.

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Set your goal to get closer to Allah and earn his pleasure. ask Allah to help make the world as as trust in Allah. Be positive, say I can do this, Allah who will help me? Yeah, Ibrahim Ali Salaam said, I am going to my Lord, and He will help me. If that's your king.

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When I met you back in that airport, yes, wait.

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I was so impressed with your Yaki. I was so impressed with your determination and your energy, you know realla give us all the same five of your key

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goals and break them into smaller tasks. And make a priority list schedule and stick to it. Progress check at night and refresh your to do list in the morning. Keep a calendar a journal, make a schedule, create a daily routine for yourself and stick to it.

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Check it every morning and remind yourself start your routine all over again the next day. Sign up for classes. Exactly. Good company.

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Commit yourself. Do not give up. Don't say I don't have time. I can't do this. I don't have energy. Do not make excuses for yourself is one of my favorite teachers say don't be a lawyer theorists out right? They

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listen to the shaytaan. You mining yourself when you feel weak. keep reminding yourself about our Hera. Visualize yourself on the day of judgment in front of Allah, while they're weighing your good deeds, do you want to have more with these on the Day of Judgment,

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visualize your MS on what's going to be in their

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CV shows you're watching, or the Quran you memorizing, or the tough, serious study.

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eliminate waste, this is one of the biggest things in the corporate world eliminate waste, what do I might mean that by that, do not waste your time, stop the waste, sleep less.

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be organized. You know a lot of times when we go to do something, we're looking for things looking for things, and two things are not in place. And then we waste time we organize in the corporate world we say place for everything. And everything is in this place. When you do that, we will minimize the time for setup, right?

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So multitasking, you can do laundry while you're cooking. And you can ask children, you can you can delegate, you can ask your children to fold their clothes and put them away themselves. You don't have to be Superwoman to do everything.

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And one of the ladies that I was doing heart with I'd never want to forget she's a big scholar. Now. She told me she said I'd rather have a messy, messy, messy house

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not have a high level agenda. That's what's

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so karnala keep your priorities. And if this is all a huge change for you, and your family rejects it, don't worry, they will get used to it. And I love that this Be patient, be patient, Allah will help you jozankei level higher and I will just reiterate from every organization has an hamdulillah many of you are writing it. And this is honestly Allah is my witness, not because of generosity because I lived it is definitely enroll yourself in a class, whatever you want to study, you want to memorize. You want to learn how to be you want to learn the deen and I did this by the advice of one of my teachers when I was there for my children. And they said you're very busy work and you do and

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there's a lot of distractions, unless you are in a class committed the class and you will see how much pantalla will put Baraka and I will say this to everybody, absolutely commit yourself hamdulillah these days and I say this number one when we are in front of Allah pantalla while leyenda de de la who we will have no excuse when Allah who asked us Why didn't you study, you turn your head anywhere in the world that has classes 10 years ago, 12 years ago, before I moved to Saudi to study there was none of this none at all. Now you pick and choose which one which place which class which time who's the teacher at hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen give Do yourself a favor.

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Absolutely and I say this also and I said this to myself and everybody else you are you are worthy. You are worth it. To learn about Allah Subhana Allah and let alone Allah is absolutely Subhana worthy way more than worthy knowing about him. So absolutely Jackie now here we are all Mallory, where do you made all of us cry, but I think your your, your advices were to the point. And again, if we can do it, if Shamim can do it, if he asked me, he can do it, we all can do it. I'm going to bring our last beautiful last but not the least young girl who actually works in behind the scenes every Tuesday to bring this

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program to all of you. But she is also much a lot about our color, one of the students of gender Institute, and I actually noticed her in my class she is she's been with us, I think a year now in our weekend classes, asks amazing questions. And then immediately whatever I am seeing in the class, it's summarized, it's on the chat for everybody else and really caught my eyes. And then Subhan Allah, Allah brought us to be one of our team. And now she's also want to study more and again, every class of gender Institute, she joined us young mother Alhamdulillah, her Blimey and students of knowledge gives me a great pleasure to have honeymooners with us, honey. Joining us from Dallas,

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Texas, honey in Santa Monica, for regatta

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I'll come to your program.

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Thank you Jacqueline handleless great honor to be here and with so many beautiful sisters I'm sure a lot of awesome tips that they've been giving us Michelle law. So handled our last semester I took the pearls class to Dr. Haifa about the wives of Russell Salaam and there are mothers so I was you know the main driver behind that is Chawla males kind of make us males kind of make us feel of gender. And if we if I you know, when we go there if we want to know our moms, right? No one doesn't know their mom's name. So I thought was really important to take a class on the moms on our moms, the wives of the messengers who also follow orders.

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Another reason why I really, I'd love to be a lifelong learner. for Islam especially, is because we're so lost a lot. So Allahu alayhi wa sallam said he who follows a path and quest of knowledge alone make the pathogen easy to him.

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Mitsubishi aima sallallahu Lucha de Pon Elgin, that's a long Hadith, but that's part of it. So when you wake up in the morning, as sister he asked me and said, then you're memorizing your Quran, or as Shamim said, when you are doing it in the morning or as

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origin just said, when you make it and don't waste your time for other things. Remember, you are paving your path to Jannah is not about just learning here. The path to gender, you are paving it yourself. Exactly. Now, hi, for reminding us this one year. You're learning how do you manage? You're a mother, you're a student, you're a wife, right? You have parents who you take care of also I know that and you are a student how do you do that? hamdulillah So first and foremost, you know, my advice to anyone want to accomplish anything not just seeking knowledge is because truly love how Lola was 11 now there's no mind power except for with Allah. So we wouldn't even be able to get out

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of bed in the morning. We're not for less pandas might and power. He's always all powerful and as us the Almighty, so an amazing time to make that, as some of the sisters mentioned before, is right before the event unfolded. So that's the last third of the night. There's actually a beautiful Hadees that says,

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that are supposed to last and I'm sad I'm getting etc. boneta Baraka was Allah kondalilla in a San Antonio Costa del Sol de la hold many of their own infest fest ajibola man Yes any fathia Omani money itself attorney for outfitter, which means when is the last Thursday night, our Lord the blessed and superior descends every night to the heaven of the world, and says there anyone who invokes me that I may respond to his invocation? Is there anyone who asked me for something that I may give it to him? Is there anyone who asked for my forgiveness that I may forgive him? So there's the son of the Heidi's but there's different definitely prime times for that and it's really good

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ideas. I'm going to say it again, because I want you to all to feel it on law, the majestic descend in his in his majesty and he is looking around and saying anyone wants to ask me so I can give him any once asking for forgiveness. So I forgive him and we are sleeping. And then we say we don't have time. Then we don't we say we don't have Baraka. We didn't ask for it. Jackie local for reminded us. Yeah, ask ask him. suparna. Yes, definitely stuff one and the most important and critical step inshallah is this.

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Continuous you can continue to ask and on almost the fullest plan data is the one who gives us a monthly and then like plan your day around the obligation. So we have our five daily prayers. If you plan on going to the mall make sure that you you know what you're going to do about prayer arrangements or any kind of trip that you have, you're planning to go you know, wherever just make sure that you have a plan for prayer and then never undermine undermine the smallest deed or even a second worth of goods so merciless also said

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someone asked him, What is the most what act is most pleasing to Allah Subhana Allah so Allah said I'm sad that which is done continuously even if it is small. So you have a lot of Duomo in Collette which is the most beloved deed is the one that you do with constantly even if it's a little Don't be little a good deed you will do it constantly you read one idea every single day Don't say it's only when I are way better than you read the one Jews in Ramadan only May Allah reward you beautiful honey was

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photo thank you so much is that okay? They're males males one that increases knowledge and

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just to to emphasize on that last point that I made that you know even if you're just commuting you know you have a cold and turned on that can impact your life so power any any small bit of good that you do can make a huge you know, you don't know what the deed is that was pans out It looks up from you. So just keep on cranking out those good deeds in sha Allah and I'm reluctant to accept from us and males panda increases knowledge or Bonanzas. Nana yo biani Rob busy me I was putting on a busy Elma and last one said this is sort of bajada only do in the Quran. That Allah totara Swati salatu salam to teach us to give more. Only one walk or visit me in my yard and say, My Lord, give me more

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knowledge. The only one give me more nothing else. Subhan Allah, may Allah and that is our qumulo hanging on everybody. It's really, and I'm gonna put sister Shamim without baby. salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah. Look at this.

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She is also memorizing Quran, Masha Allah, Allah 100 la hora Blimey, it's beautiful May Allah reward you all. I am not going to read the letter today because I really want to read it with and give it a lot of time because it's a beautiful letter I will leave it to next week inshallah. So we give everyone is due like May Allah reward you all Subhanallah I honestly learned a lot from everyone. And it's again, if they can do it, everybody can do it. ask Allah. This is my takeaway from what I heard from the sisters. Number one ask Allah subhanaw taala. Number two, make it for our last panel without number three, make it a priority. Number four, organize yourself. Number six or five. I

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don't know where I am. Think. What are you doing? Why you are doing it? It's pavement to your agenda. Seven.

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be organized. Join. Put yourself in a class with one teacher with a whole class but sit down on a team is what I tell myself sit down on the table and study like a student. We studied for dounia for a long time many things that study for our last Ponton does akmola hire me a lot he wanted you all to panic a lot more behind the shadow.

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stuff. Furukawa to bully someone now LSAT, number one. He was happy to Sleeman kathira May Allah reward you all