Aisha (RA) – Mother of the Believers #15

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I shall. I shall.

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I shall I shall

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she was

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peace be upon him. We

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are amazing father.

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I will let him in a shape on era Jean Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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He saw that he was seriously angry. Why look, the Tamil ehsani of Cabo Kohli.

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This is a Salaam Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. And welcome to this the 15th session of the life of Ayesha about the allowing her mother of the believers.

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In the last session, just to do a little recap, we began the session talking about the topic of envy, and how to overcome envy. And then we went on to talking about the slander of Ayesha or the law and how the incidence of the if as it is known,

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just one moment

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incidence of the risk as it is known.

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we mentioned that, you know, they were on the way back from a one of the battles much of but it was studied, and then,

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you know, I shot a deal and had lost her

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necklace, she'd gone far away to answer the call of nature. And then she lost her necklace. And so she was kind of looking for it, and she was a bit away from the rest of the caravan. And so the caravan moved on, and moved closer to Medina, on the way back to Medina. And

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without Ayesha, right, because she was very light, she said, and people couldn't tell if she was in her hold that you're not right.

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And so

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they had picked up her hold edge, which is like a little roll. It's all carrying.

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I don't know what to call it.

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Yeah, so she.

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So she had

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been picked up, although they picked up the the holidays, which used to be on the back of a camel in which she used to sit, thinking that she was in it and they moved on. And one of the Sahaba safwan been moto. He was he happened to be behind the rest of the

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rest of the caravan. And he noticed somebody had been left behind. He went closer to see and he found

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it shenana asleep on the ground.

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And because he had seen her face before,

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before the verses of hijab were revealed. He recognized her and he said, You know, he exclaimed a Hola Hola. Hola, Bella.

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I think that's what he you know, he explained in that Illa he was in a Nigerian. That's it. And that's all he said. And he indicated to her to, you know, to get on to his camel. And she did and then he just led the camel to join the rest of the caravan. And as they got closer to the rest of the caravan, what happens?

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Who can tell me what happens?

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I can mention in the chat if you'd like.

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As I get closer to the caravan, who had who notices?

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Who is the key person who notices that they're now joining the caravan late and his mind becomes alive with evil thoughts and ideas.

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If you can mention the name of the person

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does anybody know

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I can't see any comments.

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Okay, so yes, exactly.

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Sister Monica, of the lobbying obey even subtle.

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Exactly sister Khadija, right? So I'm the loving obeying the law, the head of the hypocrites. Then when I feel born right ahead of them enough, we've gone in Makkah in sorry, Medina.

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He fit he realizes that this is his chance to start something really nasty and really big against the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam because he has just recently been censured by the prophets, Allah salam, and by Allah, via verses of the Quran revealed about

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some of the terrible things that he had been saying and doing right.

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So he wanted his revenge. And what does he do? He thinks, let me start a rumor. Let me slander.

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My mother, Ayesha Avila and her. And, you know, in slandering Ayesha, he was slandering the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam right? Because who does this slander hurt?

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The most, I mean, of course, it hurts the person who is slandered.

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But, you know, when a wife is salon did, and the husband feels it, right? If a wife is even just insulted, or, you know, somebody says something negative towards her,

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often the husband will feel it even more than what at least it will, he will. It will present itself more kind of, obviously, in her husband than her. And that's because, you know,

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husbands have a natural sense of protectiveness, and jealousy towards their wives. And because Allah, Allah has created it thus that, you know, our husbands sense of honor, is

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through their marriage, right through their wife, and our sense of wholeness is in our husbands as well, right? So

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all of these things are interrelated. And when a community stops caring about their sense of honor, that's when, you know, all sorts of

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negative social practices and promiscuity and that kind of thing become prevalent in our society when honor no longer matters. Of course, on one hand, you have people who go to another extreme, right? Where on a, you know, oh, if my, I don't know, if my daughter's seen talking to somebody, you know, they will get violent with them or stuff, Allah, you know, things like that you hear about these kinds of stories.

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You know, that's one extreme right? That's not that's not what's meant.

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When we say honor, or sense, either

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way era, which is, you know, sense of protective jealousy

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that we have, and, you know, the, the sense of reputation and honor that we have, that is a noble thing. You know, that's a noble thing. That's not a

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something that is about, you know, overprotectiveness and violence and no, that's, that's when people take it to an extreme. Right.

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So there's that one extreme is, you know, taking it to such a level that you, you know, get violent, and you start, you know, basically not even allowing normal types of interaction and normal types of behavior. On the other hand, you know, there's the other extreme, which is not caring about one's honor. Right? That is also an extreme, you don't care about your reputation, don't care. You know, if people are considering you, in a negative way, that also is a bad thing. So, as Muslims, we care about our honor, we care about our reputation, we do our best not to be seen in situations or in places where our honor could be accused of anything, you know.

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Even if that thing isn't held on, sometimes you have to be a little bit extra cautious

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in order not to give the wrong impression to people. Right. And that's not a bad thing. You know, some of our scholars when they used to advise us, as students about you know, our behavior and things like that they used to say, look, student of knowledge should not be seen in certain places.

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No, it's not because those places unnecessarily Hold on. But

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it's just not befitting of a student of knowledge to be seen in those places. So, I remember once I was near a cinema, and

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we were looking for somewhere to eat, and, you know, the people who I was with, they said, Oh, we just pop into the cinema and get some dessert. Okay. And, you know, I felt very uncomfortable doing that, because

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even though there's nothing wrong with walking into a cinema building and buying a desert, right, technically, there's nothing wrong with that, you know, just the associations that are with, you know, the things that we associate with a cinema, movies, music, you know, going for entertainment, etc, you know, all sorts of movies that are out there, you know, some promiscuous, some with showing promiscuity is showing all kinds of philosophies, etc. Um, you know, as a student of knowledge, or a scholar, or as a Muslim, you know, you have to be careful, because you, especially as a student of knowledge, you wouldn't want to be seen in certain types of pieces, because, apart from your

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reputation, people can see that as permission giving, right? So when they see you, in certain visiting Oh, so and so goes to the cinema, right? or so and so does this or so and so does that, right? And so,

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in a way, you have to be extra cautious because of people's misconceptions that can, you know, come up. So, anyway, I was mentioning that because, you know, so Pamela mother, I share this situation happened where, you know,

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she didn't do anything wrong.

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But look how people think, evil people, look how they think. They'll always try to create something out of nothing, right? So, and even if you're careful, you know, evil people will try to make something out of nothing. And that's exactly what happened without his shirt or the liner. So we had reached the point where

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she was walking with, so she had they had all returned, and she was not feeling well. And one day, she didn't even know that there were rumors going around, right. And one day, she just went out of the city to you know, again, to answer the quote of nature. This is how they used to go to the bathroom in those days. And she was walking with Mr. And Ole Miss that was walking, and suddenly she tripped and she said,

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Miss the hubby ruined. she cursed her son, Mr. Right. And

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I showed him I was really shocked, like, you know, how could you? And she said, you know, how could you abuse a man? or How could you say something bad about a man who took part in the Battle of mother if she said to her to her Mr. Right.

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I was really surprised. She said, Don't you know what they said?

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And basically, because her son missed that was one of the key people who was involved in spreading the rumor, right? This is why I missed that was cursing him or saying something bad about him. And when I showed it on her look at her nature, her natural inclination is to defend right? So when she immediately defends Mr.

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Mr. He realizes this little girl she doesn't know. She doesn't, she doesn't realize what's happening. And so she says, Don't you know what, what they've been saying?

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And then I shut it down her says in this in the Hadith, then she told me the rumors of the false accusers. So Pamela, and obviously came.

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Like, it was a big shock to Russia, or the law, right? It was a big shock to her.

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She says my sickness was aggravated. And when I returned home laws messenger came to me, and after greeting me, he said, How is how is she How is that go? Right?

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And she said, You know, I requested him. So now by now you can just imagine. I showed it on her is feeling sick. She's already ill, and now she's feeling really sick. You know, that feeling you have in your guts when somebody feels like a gut punch, you know? You just can't believe

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Leave how terrible the situation is that suddenly befalls you. You can just imagine actually the land her.

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She's ill and now she's hearing that oh my god the whole community is talking about me right?

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In such terrible terms, right? And so she says to also Lola sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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allow me to go to my parents house and

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and she said I wanted to be sure of the news through them. And so she said, Allah's Messenger allowed me and I went to my parents and asked my mother. So notice, by the way that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam up to now has has not mentioned it to Ayesha, right. You can see the the gentleman leanness and the chivalry of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says that his wife is ill, his wife is not feeling well. And so he's avoiding the topic, but you can see it's still has affected him, right. It's still affecting, you know, his sense of equilibrium.

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At the same time, he's very wise and he doesn't bring it up, right? It doesn't want to make her worse, feel worse. And so she thinks, you know, who and so Pamela is natural, isn't it? Especially if you have parents who are, you know, God fearing parents, when they are decaying from them, or decaying, and they're believers. You just want to go to your parents, you just wanna you just want to ask them what's really going on because

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so Pamela, that you don't have anyone in this world, who is a well wisher for you, like your parents, you know.

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And you can see it Shana Dylan, her, she just wants to go to her mom, basically, and ask her. And she said, I asked my mother, what are the people talking about?

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And so now you realize that her mother knows, of course, and she said, Oh, my daughter, don't worry much about this matter.

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And she said, you know, by Allah never is there charming woman loved by her husband, who has other wives who has other, you know, the husband who has otherwise, but that women would forge false news about her.

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I said, so panela other people really talking of this matter.

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That night, so now, you know how shadow kinda knows. It's not just Mr has not mistaken, you know, now she knows that, Oh, my God, even my parents know about and even my mom is telling me that this, these rumors are flying. And, you know, people are slandering me, right.

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And look at the wisdom of Oman as well, you know, she's kind of saying, she's trying to make her daughter feel better. And kind of saying to her, look, this isn't. This isn't a strange thing. You know, this happens.

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When there's rivalry when there's, you know, unfortunately, when there's jealousy and competition, and then people, you know, create rumors about other people.

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And, you know, I was just thinking about that the other day that it's a bit like, and it's especially the case when you are kind of a celebrity, right? When you're somebody who's a little bit more famous than the average person.

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You have people who love you, and you have people who really hate you as well right. Sometimes the love is extreme and also the hatred is extreme. And so, you know, you can see that there are people even in our popular culture, when somebody is famous or somebody is even just a bit prominent, people are kind of scrutinizing them even more and the jealous people will try and find any fault, right? And just jump on it and just try and ruin that person's reputation.

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So, Oman is trying to make her daughter feel better right and just say look, this is not the first one this is ever happened to you know, this is something that

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is happened.

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But of course I shall Dylan ha feels terrible now. She says that night I kept on weeping and could not sleep till morning.

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In the morning, Allah's Messenger called Ali bin, and Osama bin Zayed. Okay, so this shows you that the prophets are seldom really considered Ali and Osama bin Zayed to be family, you know, because you wouldn't talk about stuff like this with somebody who were first of all, you wouldn't talk to anyone about something like this. But if

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You did is going to be people who you love and you consider really close right and who you consider to be people who really want the best for you.

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And so I Lee, of course, that's the cousin of the prophets of Allah when he was Salaam who grew up in the prophets house and

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Sam ovens A this is one of Zeb

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All right, they've been had a thought and they the was the prophets. adopted son, right? So

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you can see some I will have the, he'll be a little bit like a Grand Slam to profits or lesson, right?

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And you know, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam really loved summer, you can see that he really held him in high esteem, even though he was a young man. You know, he quickly became a military General, right? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam called, or sama and Ali.

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he did that when he saw that there was no revelation coming, right. So now he feels kind of in the middle of nowhere, right? And doesn't really know what to think, or how to deal with it. So he called them to, for counsel, about divorcing his wife, Ayesha

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sama bin Zaid said, what he knew of the good reputation of his wives of the prophets wives and added, oh, Allah, His Messenger, keep your wife, for By Allah, we know nothing about her but good.

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Leave in a bit. Olive said, Oh, allows messenger Allah has not has not imposed restrictions on you. Right? And there are many women other than she, yet, you may ask the female servant, who will tell you the truth.

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So here, I Li, you know, and he's not doing this out of any kind of negative

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thoughts about each other, that I'm here. He's simply stating a fact to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam that if this situation is getting too hot to handle, it's too difficult. And, you know, you, you know, it's kind of your relationship, you feel like, you know, you can't go on with it, then, you know, Allah has given you lots of options. He's just trying to make the profits lesson and feel better, right? But look at the line who he also adds.

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He also adds that, you know, if you really want to be sure ask somebody right? Who like a seven, right, the slave or the seven obey shadow Ghana, who

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will know about what she's like in private, you know, the, who comes to the house and who goes and he, you know, she will know what kind of person it is with regards to our relationship with other men and people who, you know, may or may visit.

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And shimo if there's anything like strange or anything to declare, she'll tell you. So, the prophets Allah solemn

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calls called on Buddha era, he was I shoved it on his servant, okay. And, and, and she took an oath

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to, to tell the truth. And so

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the prophets that allowed him to send them said, Oh, Buddha, did you ever see anything which roused your suspicions about her about Ayesha

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Nabila and her? What I said no, by Allah, who has sent you with the truth, I have never seen in her anything faulty, except that she is a girl of immature age,

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who sometimes falls asleep

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and leaves the dough for the goats to eat.

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Right. And so this kind of shows you, first of all, how young Ayesha was how innocent stroke, you know, naive, not naive in a negative way. But in the sense that she's she's young, and she's still young, just, you know, we've all been like that, right? When we were younger, and you start cooking or you start doing something for the first time you burn things a lot, right? And you, you you overestimate and you underestimate and you don't pay attention. And so, what I was just highlighting that, and she has to mention this, she feels she has to mention something like disclose anything that she might know, you know, so that's why she mentioned that, you know, she sometimes falls

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asleep and

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the when she's in the middle of kneading the dough, and then go We'll come and just eat

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This is not very attentive in that sense, right? So, so Pamela, it kind of also shows you house how innocent eyeshadow dilemma was right. Um,

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and I think it also indicates to us that this idea of character reference is a very good thing, you know.

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And typically, we do this before marriage, and I was encouraged us to do it. And brothers that when they're going to get married to somebody,

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and I don't know why people find things like this awkward, they think it's very kind of unromantic, or, you know, a high, you know, is too picky or something. But if you were going to go for a job, or if you were going to hire someone, you would get character references, right?

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That's just the norm.

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You know, even when you're going to uni, when you're applying for uni, they want two references from other academics, right? Who will say yes, this person is somebody I know. And there'll be a good student, etc. Right? So if that's the case, for things like jobs and applications, and to university and education, then what about marriage? Right. And I think it's a very good practice, when you're considering somebody for marriage. And when it gets to a serious stage, and you're seriously considering them for marriage, that we actually get character references for that person. Right. So two people, typically, who might have traveled with them,

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spent time with them living with them, for example, traveling, we've done business with them, or had some kind of ongoing dealings with that person, you would get contact them, you know, and ask them questions, or ask them to write a character reference, and especially if they're practicing Muslims, that that's what you would be looking for, you would want

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the person to tell the truth, right. And that person would know that they, they're allowed to even backbite in the technical sense of backbiting, in order to disclose to you anything that they know about that person you're considering for marriage. And I'm just mentioning that here. Because, you know, it's interesting that, you know, the, the profits and loss of them went to Butera as a witness. And we should also benefit from that kind of practice, right? Of

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if we are checking someone out for marriage, or for anything important, you know,

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we should do a character reference, we shouldn't be shy about that. Because believe me, people can look so good and seem so amazing, and blah, blah, blah, right. And I know, for example, a sister who,

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when she was getting married, then, you know, she was like, sort of smitten, right? She, she couldn't see anything wrong in the person. And her parents were not so sure. And then when they got some character references, they found out some things about that person that were, you know, basically, the sister would not have been able to live with, right. And she wouldn't have known that unless she got those character references. Because having a few meetings doesn't really tell you much about the person, right? They can always put their best face forward in those meetings.

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And that's similar to an interview right, a job interview, you can't really tell what that person is like, the best thing is to go straight for character references, if you can, okay.

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So but IRA says about her that, you know, anything negative about her

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on that day, allows messenger, ascended the pulpit and requested that somebody support him in punishing of the love and obey.

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Laws, messenger said, who will support me to punish that person who has hurt me, by slandering the reputation of my family?

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By Allah, I know nothing about my family, but good. And they have accused the person and he's talking about soft one now, the man who was accused, you know,

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in this situation, they have accused a person about whom I know nothing except good. And he never entered my house, except in my company. Right. So So Pamela, so you could have sort of feel the profits pain here, right? People have and you know how rumors spread, right? Initially, a rumor can be very vague and then well, depending on the evil people who are spreading it.

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They can add so many details and make it seem so real. And, you know, so Pamela and then before you know it, it's as if people are talking about it as if there are facts in that rumor, right? When actually all it is is somebodies conjecture, and they just made it up and they just spreading it. And, you know, and because it sounds like it's credible, you know, maybe because they've added different details and embellishments to the story.

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People just take it right.

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People who don't have Taqwa, take it and they spread it.

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You could feel the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his pain here. And I think the pain is also due to the fact that not no verses have been revealed to clear her name yet.

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So you know, that puts the profits at a loss. And I'm in a very difficult position, because obviously, he he's just kind of, he doesn't know how best to handle this situation, I think. And, and that's not, you know, a negative thing. It's just that for the Muslim community at that time, that was the first time something like this happened. And it's only after this that, you know, the punishment for slandering innocent people was established, you know, the punishment of, of false witness, and, you know, whipping people for lying or for awful, making a false witness statement, right?

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against somebody honor or reputation. So, you see that, here, the Prophet salaallah salam is asking for support.

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Okay, and he even defends soft one, you know, you can see because he knows him, right. And he says, he's only ever come to my house with me. It's not like he's developed a relationship or anything like this, right. And also, and, one another thing to point out is soft one, you know, he was a very pious Sahabi. And he had not even been married until this point.

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Allah knows best if he got married. But he died in one of the battles Shahid, right later on, so he was a really pious man. So for this to have happened, is really the prophets of Allah time could see this really doesn't make sense. And it and it, and it, you know, he could see that the innocence of all those involved.

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so I've been, I've got up and said, Oh, Allah, His Messenger, by Allah, I will relieve you from him.

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So here, the prophet SAW, Selim hasn't explicitly said who the person is who, you know, needs to be. He wants to be dealt with.

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But everyone knows, everyone knows who he is. Okay? They will know it's the Leben obey. So sad bit odd says, oh, Allah has messenger By Allah, I will relieve you from him. If that man is from the tribe of us, then we will chop his head off. Okay. And if he is from our brothers, the hazaragi, then order us, and then we will fulfill your order. Okay, so what you have to understand here is that

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Abdullah bin obey is from his approach, right? And so you know, that there are these two tribes in Medina, right. Before Islam yathrib, there were two tribes Ulsan has Raj and they will constantly in battle with each other, or, you know, the head, a lot of you could call beef with each other from from centuries or from, you know, decades or generations, you could say, right. And

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so, you know, now that they were Muslims, they were brothers, and they became the unsolved.

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But still, you can see that, you know, because of that tribal society and the nature of that tribal tribalism of that Arabian society. What I've been saying is, if the person who you want help against,

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you know, the person who's done these started this launder, if he's from our tribe, those, then we'll deal with him, we don't mind executing him, right? Because, you know, he's our responsibility. But if he's from the other tribe, and he's kind of trying to be careful here, because, you know, he's not saying then we'll kill him. He's saying, then you have, if you order us, then we will. Okay. Because again, he's kind of he knows that that's not the norm in Arab society, right? It wasn't anyway the norm that you know, that you would

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deal with somebody from another tribe, because if you were to do that, then that tribe would consider it their duty to seek revenge, right? Of course.

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These lines are supposed to have been kind of removed at this point. But you know, they were recently out of that period right recently from that period of Jamia. And so he said this,

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you know, he's being careful.

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Then sogdian Ababa, the chief of the has Raj, okay. And he says, and before this incident, he was a pious man, he got up,

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motivated by his zeal for his tribe and he said, By Allah, you have told a lie.

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You cannot kill him and you will never be able to kill him. On that save been who they got up and said to Sabino brother By Allah, you are a liar. We will kill him, and you are a hypocrite defending the hypocrites. Okay, so things like getting heated, right? So basically, here, what's happening is that

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Sargon Wilde says, yada, yada. So Lola, and everyone knows that the person who the Prophet wants to deal with is from the 100 tribe. Sad, meanwhile, is from the house. And he says,

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if he's from our tribe, we'll deal with him. And if he's from the other tribe, then tell us and we'll deal with him. And at this point, the husbands start feeling, you know, sensitive, right? And sidespin obata, who's the head of this? tribe gets up and says, No, you're not going to deal with him. You can't kill anyone from our tribe. Basically, he's saying this, right? Because his sense of tribalism just suddenly got stoked, right suddenly got peaked. And

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then everyone started shouting, and you know, people are like, you can't do with him. He's out from our tribe, right? And

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And so then, from the OC side, they said, well, you're just defending the hypocrites, so you must be a hypocrite on the look. And I says on this, the two tribes of oats and has Raj got so agitated, and we're about to fight each other. While Allah His Messenger was standing on the pulpit.

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He got down and quiet and them till they became silent, and he kept quiet. On that day, I kept on weeping so much, that neither did my tears stop, nor could I sleep.

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In the morning, my parents were with me. And I had wept for two nights and a day.

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Till I thought my liberal liver would burst from weeping, she says,

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while they were sitting with me, and I was weeping, and I'm sorry, a woman asked my permission to enter. And I allowed her to come in.

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She sat down and started weeping with me.

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So for Hannah law, you know, I remember one of my friends remember this incident, and she said to me,

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like have a member of our family had passed away, and I didn't visit her. Okay, and I should have visited her. She was my friend. She had a death in the family. And I kept procrastinating. And I didn't visit her until a lot later.

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And she said to me, You know, I wish you had come. I wish you had come like, on those early days when

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that member of my family had passed away, because I just wanted you to sit with me. I was feeling sad. I was crying. I just wanted you to sit with me, you know? And she said, You know, like that the hadith of Ayesha.

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It's upon Allah in the slander of Asia, I should have been so hurt, she's crying, she's crying. And the lady comes from the outside, and she just wants to sit with it. And she just sits and cries with her. You know, and my friend said to me, that act of sitting and crying with your fellow sister who is feeling pain, that in itself is a type of comfort that you're giving her, you know, panela you can see that the I'm sorry, lady, you know, she came in, she felt so much sympathy for our children and what she was going through, she sat down and began to weep.

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While we were in this state, laws, messenger came and sat down. And he had never sat with me since the day they forged the accusation.

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No revelation regarding my case came to him for a month.

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So it's like, you know, suddenly there was silence in terms of the revelation, which probably added to the tension, right.

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he recited the Shah hood,

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and then said,

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Oh, Arusha.

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I have been informed such and such about you.

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I have been informed such and such about you. If you are innocent, then alone will soon reveal your innocence. And if you have committed a sin,

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then repent to Allah

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and ask Him to forgive you. For when a person confesses his sin and asks Allah for forgiveness, a lot accepts his repentance.

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When Allah has a messenger finished his speech, my tears ceased completely. And they remained not even a single prop of it.

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Now, before I carry on, so Pamela, this kind of shows you that

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Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam was hurt he, you know, he was in a very difficult situation. He,

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obviously you want to believe his wife.

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Nothing had come in terms of

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to exonerate her yet. And, you know, these rumors were everywhere. So, look at the way he treats I showed the nanhai in that he even though he's her husband, and obviously,

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you know, a wife committing a sin, if if a wife had committed a sin would be such a devastating thing for a husband, right? It would have been devastating, and yet, a sort of loss and a loss and even some treats are

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not as his wife, first and foremost. He treats her as a servant of Allah, first and foremost. Do you see? Because if he was treating her as merely his wife, you know, husband would say something like, you know, if you've committed this sin, and, you know, I can't believe that you would do that to me type thing, right? You know, I'm just, I'm just kind of highlighting to you how he was not being a selfish person at all in this situation or at all thinking about his his own self. He was actually thinking of her as a servant of Allah. And he said to her, that

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if you're innocent than Allah is gonna exonerate you. But if you did commit a sin,

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then repent to Allah and ask him for forgiveness. And Allah will forgive you. It's kind of Allah Subhana Allah Subhan Allah, Allah, Allah Salaam.

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You know, he wanted, he cared first and foremost.

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He kept first and foremost about saving us from the hellfire. Right?

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And even in this situation, he cares first and foremost.

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For eyeshadow the line has

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standing with Allah. Right. So Pamela, shows you how much I sort of lots and lots of them. He knew his priorities, you know, he cared so much about his own mind cared so much about his wife, his wife as a servant of Allah and her standing with Allah and whether Allah, Allah would forgive her or not, if, if she had committed a sin.

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But Subhana Allah.

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Ayesha is upset obviously with this, right? And she says, I requested my father to reply to Allah's Messenger on my behalf. My father said by Allah, I do not know what to say to the Messenger of Allah.

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I said to my mother, talk to Allah apostle on my behalf. And she said, By Allah, I do not know what to say to Allah messenger.

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I was a young girl, and did not have much knowledge of the Quran. I said,

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I know by Allah that you have listened to what people are saying, and that has been planted in your mind, and you have taken it as truth. Now, if I told you that I'm innocent, and Allah knows that I am innocent, you would have believed me. And if I confess to you falsely, that I'm guilty, and Allah knows that I'm innocent, you would believe me? By Allah. I don't compare my situation with you except to the situation of use of his father who said for Southern Jamil so patience is most fitting against that which you assert

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And it is Allah alone who can help

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whose help can be sought, right?

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So she, she mentioned that I have grown right.

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That, you know,

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you use of LA Times father

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when he was completely helpless, you know, he didn't.

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He didn't, he couldn't bring use of back. His sons were lying to him his sons were basically, you know, had taken

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use of away and you know, and then

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I believe this this comes at the point later, right when, again

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he loses his son. Binyamin, right. So, anyway, yaku buddy salam, and she had forgotten Yahoo's name. She said, the father of use of

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who said, you know, patience, all I can do is be patient. All I can do is be patient and all I can do is ask Allah for help.

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So, Pamela, all right.

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She says, then I turned to the other side of my bed hoping that law would prove my innocence.

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By a law I never thought that a law would reveal divine inspiration in my case, as I considered myself too inferior to be talked of in the Holy Quran.

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Pamela, I had hoped that allowes messenger might have a dream in which Allah would prove my innocence. By Allah mas messenger had not got up and nobody had left the house before the divine inspiration came to Allah's Messenger. So the overtook him the same state which used to overtake him when he used to have

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any, when the revelations to come right,

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the way he was sweating, so much so that the drops of sweat were dripping like pearls. Though it was a cold wintry day.

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When that state of Allah apostle was over, he was smiling. Okay, before we go on,

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you see how Allah subhanaw taala brings, and I think this happens to all of us, this will happen to all of us at some point in our lives.

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That even though we might have a good reputation, we might have people around us we might have a good life, right? certain situations will come up in life.

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You know, especially if you're somebody who loves situations will come up in life in which you will have to lose your sense of dependence on everyone. You have to lose that sense of dependence on everyone around you.

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And it will be it will feel as though the rug has been pulled from under your feet. And the only thing you have left to rely on and to land on is your tawakkol your reliance on Allah subhanaw taala it can see that here I show that Anna is experiencing that. She can't turn to the messenger she can't turn to her mom, she can't turn to dad.

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You know, she doesn't know she doesn't have any thing anyone to turn to except Allah. Right?

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And you know, Subhana Allah, it's one we face those situations when we decide, you know what, I'm just going to rely on Allah.

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Sometimes at that point, when you decide that you're going to have to look good, exactly, at that point, the help of a lot comes. Exactly at that point. He was waiting for you to get to that realization, right, waiting for you to get to that point where you lost your sense of power call on anything else. It's upon Allah. And this is what happened to our mother, our Asia or the Lana.

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I'm just gonna finish this section. So now, when she had decided she made she just relying on a lot, she just turned away from everybody.

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Suddenly the revelation came.

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And when the state when that state of Allah's Messenger was over, he was smiling. And the first word he said,

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was Ayesha, thank Allah for Allah has declared your innocence. My mother told me to go to Allah as messenger.

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I replied,

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by Allah, I will not go to him and will not thank anyone but Allah.

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So Allah revealed

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Verily they who spread the Splott the slander or a gag a group amongst you. So then that's when Allah subhanaw taala revealed the verses exonerating actually going on and we will read them in sha Allah next time.

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But here you can see, she's mentioning you know how the verses were revealed and look at our shot of the lion has sharpness, you know, she's very precise. He's like, no, no these this these rep this revelation came from Allah it didn't come from the Prophet sallallahu sallam. So I'm going to thank Allah. Allah is the one who exonerated me, not anyone else. So Pamela, and then she says, When Allah gave the declaration of my innocence abubaker who used to provide for Mr. Bin firfer for he was his relative said, by a lot, I will never provide Mr. with anything because of what he said about Russia.

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Okay, so, in other words, I boubakeur and you know, Hamdulillah, some of our relatives, some of our parents are like this as well. They provide for lots of members of their family, right? Because they're generous, they're wealthy, and they, they they care about everyone's well being. So Walker was one of those people he used to actually provide for this Mr. And his family, right. And when he heard that, you know, when he realized that it was a lie, and that Mr. had been a key person, and Allah revealed verses about punishing those people who had been spreading the rumors,

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including Mr.

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Brubaker said, I'm not going to give them a penny after today. But then Allah subhanaw taala revealed more verses of the Quran Chapter 24 ayah, number 22. And let not those who are good and wealthy among you swear not to help their kinsmen, those in need and those who left their homes in a lost cause. Let them forgive and overlook.

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Do you not wish that Allah should forgive you?

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Indeed, Allah is off forgiving, Most Merciful. And after that, I will Booker said yes, by Allah. I like that Allah should forgive me. And he resumed helping mister whom he used to help before. There's one more paragraph

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in this

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Hadith, she says, Allah's Messenger asked Zainab bint jash right, the prophets wife

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What do you know and what did you see? And she replied, Oh Allah as messenger I refrain to claim hearing or seeing what I have not heard or seen by Allah, I know nothing except good about Ayesha. Ayesha further I did Zane up was competing with me in her beauty. And in you know, her love for the prophets, Allah cielo, yet Allah protected her from being malicious. Because she had the core, she had piety upon Allah. So I'm going to end with that this week.

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If you have any questions, please do post them. And I'm just going to mention a reflection here. And that is that. So Pamela, you know, in situations like this, where so much pressure on every member of the family and or all of society in a way, it's then that the true nature of people

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comes out, you know?

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And here we see look at abubaker you know, his natural feeling is I don't want to give this person who tried to ruin my daughter's life.

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any money right? But then as soon as he is prompted by Allah, what does he do? He continues doing that. He continues, because he wasn't doing it for Mr. He was doing it for the sake of Allah right. He gives him money for the sake of Allah. So that hasn't changed. So he would continue doing that. Zina, she could have this could have been her chance, I could have been a chance to say something negative about it, Chateau de la. She had nothing stopping her except her taqwa. her sense of duty to Allah Subhana Allah, her consciousness of Allah. So even though she was a rival of eyeshadow, Ghana, she would not allow anything but the truth to be spoken. So panelized there's so much for us

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to learn from this entire story. I mean,

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Subhanallah you know there's so much but, you know in Charlotte, time is limited.

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So let's see what people are saying. Got one more minute.

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hmm. Hadeeth regarding the bn resource, no, I didn't get a chance. I'm afraid.

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We're gonna write that down again, as a reminder for next time.

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Okay, any more? Is it possible to listen to the previous episodes? Yes, it is. If you're new, please go to the iluminar YouTube channel, you open our Cardiff or Fatima barkatullah YouTube channel. And I've been posting all of the previous there's a playlist there. I show plus playlist and we have videos one to 14 all uploaded. We could also go to Muslim Central

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where I have a podcast fighting over patala podcast on Muslim Central and every week the audio for this class is posted there. or wherever you get your podcasts you can find that one. Okay, so does that Camilla Heron

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Sorry, I have to leave now. You know the time is up.

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You're not gonna fare and you know, it was quite an emotional episode. I think this one's like really, you know, when you really empathize with our mother I show you see scholar she went through something very big in this situation, you know, and inshallah I will look that up. And if there are any things that I said I would do, and I haven't done, please remind me because I'm very sorry for my have forgotten. Some one or two things I might have said, I'll find this or I'll ask about this. just reminded me please, you can email me contact at Fatima Charlie, I'm going to wrap up now. Jessa Camilla Heron

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subhanak Allahu morbihan. Nick ash had to Allah Allah Allah Allah anta stuff to be like a Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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