5 Lessons from Aisha (RA) – Being Me Legacy Tour
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graduate with two Alinea degrees, the first from us and salaam Institute where she was awarded a distinction by Sheikh Mohammed Akram nadwi. She's also graduated from the Ibrahim college seminary with a specialization in fifth. She's married with four children. She's also the author of Khadija, mother of history's greatest nation and currently authoring a book about Aisha Radi Allahu and her. She's been a key contributor to the discourse surrounding Muslim women in the West contributing to the west Minister fate debates, documentaries and live shows for this BBC, The Times of faith section Channel Four and is the Islam channel. She's a she presents the popular envied podcast which
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Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I should have been to a be Bakr, Radi Allahu Anhu. We will walk in her footsteps to gain lessons from her. She was only more money Mother of the Believers, wife of the prophet, a scholar and daughter of the first Khalifa of Islam Abu Bakr, Siddiq idealo. And so sister Sandra Faulkner Welcome back to the legacy tour online. Thank you for coming back again. You know, last time you were here, you shared a very contemporary story that of Ella little little Collins, Malcolm X's Little Sister, sister in February. So now you're taking us all the way from the 20th century back to the seventh century. We're very curious to hear about this famous
companion of Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah's choices blessings be upon him.
Because I love hearing Salam o alaikum Dear sisters Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah.
I fought in talking about our mother Aisha, what are the Lana Mother of the Believers? That one good way of doing it would be to just focus on five lessons from her life, you know, because there's so much we could learn from her and her life.
For so long, a lot of people don't realize that our mother Aisha Lana, she was just 18 years old when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed away. Which means that the majority of her life she actually lived after the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, she was about 67 when she passed away. So
I think it's about 58 TGT that she passed away. So you can imagine like that's a very long life, Masha, Allah and so much happened after the death of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
And yet, most of us probably know more about her life.
During the life of the prophets, Allah Allah willing Salam because of course, that was very important. That was the most important time of her life.
But I've distilled five lessons and the reason why I've been focusing on other issues, I'm actually writing
a book at Isha about Amada Aisha. And it's, again, a children's book similar to the book Khadija.
But this time, you know, very, so much information that it could be put in that book, you know, so much that we know about actually and much more than we know about Khadija because, of course, Khadija Dylan had passed away in the time in Makkah. And in the Moroccan period, there wasn't that culture or need to convey had needs and to kind of preserve Hadith.
But of course, in the Medina and period when Isha lived,
there was so we know so much more about a mother Arusha.
So five big lessons from her life. The first lesson that I would say,
and I've tried to make these a bit different from Khadija because of course, we could say about most of the all of the great women of Islamic history, we could say about them, they were great and devoted wives, right.
But I think because I've already mentioned that in the life of cobija, I'm focusing on slightly different qualities in this session. So the first lesson or quality that we could really learn from, from my mother, Aisha is to be a keen student, and teacher.
You know, I actually did, one of her gifts was that she was very curious.
She was very observant, she observed when you when you read her Hadith, she noticed the little details. So you could talk about people's emotions, you know, those are quite feminine things, if you think about it. And so we were really lucky. And we're really blessed that we had somebody as
and articulate as a mother actually, to convey that to us.
And it was because she was so curious and willing to question and not afraid to question that we have so much information in her Hadith that the scholars of Islam had been able to benefit from. But also it was her willingness to convey that information, right. She not only learnt, learned the most intimate details of life with what I sort of love and messenger of Allah, the model for humanity. But she also made it her life's mission, to convey that knowledge, right, in order to preserve the sunlight to preserve that, that legacy.
I think one of the things qualities that she had was confidence. She wasn't afraid to ask questions. You know, sometimes as students, we, when we're at university, for example, we feel like, we feel a bit in awe of the system we feel in all of our teachers, professors, etc. So that might stop us from asking questions, or that might make us think, you know, who am I to criticize or question what's being said, But you notice about the shadow, the Lana that if something didn't really make sense to her, she wasn't afraid to say, But doesn't the Quran say this? Or, you know, like she she was willing to question she was willing to ask, follow up questions to make sure she understood
something properly. And that's something we can all learn from because the scholars said there are two types of people who won't be able to seek knowledge properly.
One is a person who's too arrogant.
And the other is a person who's too shy.
Why? Because if you're too arrogant, you won't want to ask questions, because you'll be too embarrassed. You'll think, I don't want people to know that I don't know the answer. Right? You're too busy thinking you know, I want to look good in front of other people. So you might ask questions.
If you're too shy, you'll be too embarrassed to ask questions. What if my question sounds stupid? You know? What if somebody laughs? What if I'm the only one who has this question? You know, these are the sorts of things that people sometimes think. But actually, in my own experience, if when you ask a question, however basic, it seems,
nine times out of 10, a lot of the people in the class had the same question, but they were just too afraid to ask, you know, and if you're the one who's asking the questions, you're the ones who you're the one who's probably going to understand the thing the best, once it's explained, right. So I think that's another thing we can learn from our mother actually, she was not too shy, and she was not at all arrogant.
The Sahaba like Abu Musa, for example, he reported that we never had a problem, occur to us, the companions of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but that we would ask Aisha and find that she knew something about it.
Right? So there was no topic that you could go to Aisha about, she would know something about it. Which shows you doesn't it like what a keen student she was?
One of the scholars of the past he said, when she was faced with something that she did not know, she was not able to stand without learning more. Right? So she wasn't just like, okay, whatever this person has told me, I'm just going to accept it. She wants to know more, she wants to make sure she understood fully.
And also then as a teacher, because that's important, too, isn't it? It's all very well absorbing and learning a lot of knowledge. But passing it one is another thing, right? And our mother actually did that very diligently. She was not afraid to.
To teach, she was not afraid to correct people even right, there are a whole collections of her corrections of the sahaba. So issue is that they had expressed an opinion about that she knew something else about what she felt that they had misunderstood. And then she corrected, but she did it with the best other, you know, she would always say, for example, may Allah have mercy on abracadabra, maybe he didn't hear the whole story. This is what happened, right? May Allah have mercy on such and such before she corrected them, so she wasn't doing it in a harsh way. Right.
Number two, lesson number two that I think we can learn from our mother Aisha is that don't let your work compromise your values and your hijab, for example, right?
If you think about it, the Mothers of the Believers, they actually had a harder or a more kind of,
what could you say?
A higher, a more conservative, more higher level of hijab, than the average women, you know, they were expected. So the rules for them are different, right? Nobody was allowed to marry them. For example, after the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. They became the Mother of the Believers. They had to live a very austere life, when they were with the prophets, Allah, Allah when he was salam, even though he could have lived a more luxurious life because he chose as the messenger of Allah to live a very simple life, they have to accept that as well. Of course, he gave them the choice, and they will accept it, including our mother, Aisha.
But in terms of in terms of
hijab, they had to
have an extra layer when they were in the presence of non Muslims. So for example, it wasn't enough for them just to be covered and their faces covered they did use to cover their faces as well. That's one thing we know about the Mothers of the Believers.
But they also had to be either behind the curtain or some kind of other extra
covering, you know, so for example, when they were traveling on a camel, when they were traveling, going on holiday or going anywhere,
they had like a how the G which is a, it's like a tent, almost like a tent structure on top of the camel. And they would be inside that, you know, it wasn't enough for them just to be in hijab, and niqab etc.
That was their hijab, basically. And originally the word hijab in the Quran does mean kirtan doesn't it means that extra layer that they had to have
and so that meant that of course that's like and some people might consider it to be like an extra hardship right.
But Alma the action or the Lana
she maintained her hedgehog with the best in the best way, while at the same time, too.
Teaching 1000s of Hadith, right over 2000 Hadith she was the second most,
the second greatest narrator of Hadith.
So this shows you this is a lesson for us as Muslim women, you know, sometimes you hear Muslim women say things like, you know, I might have to compromise my hijab because of my work, right? Or they might try to turn down certain things or feel like they have to westernize or they have to, you know, expose certain parts of their body, etc. In order to almost fit in, right.
But if somebody like her mother, Aisha could do such a great service to Islam, whilst maintaining her hijab, it means that we too can do that. You know, in sha Allah, we just have to have the conviction and the will and our hijab, our values need to be non negotiable in our minds, right? Everything else isn't negotiable, our hijab our values, our modesty, our dignity, that they're not negotiable. So I think that's another thing we can learn about our mother Aisha that she was able to do all that she did, without once compromising her hijab. The third lesson that we can learn from the life of armor by Chef is how to recover
from failures from things that seem like failures and how to be willing to change.
So we know that after the killing or the assassination of man, or the Lando Okay, and obviously, we don't have time to go into the whole story here. Please go and look it up, you know, if you want to you can listen to I know chef Iasa body, for example, he has. He has lectures on the whole history of this.
After the killing of man, or the Lando,
the Sahaba, they felt very strongly about bringing the assassins of Monroe Delano to justice. And many people believe that those assassin some of them had hidden in the army or the
the army of ally under the law and who who was now the Khalifa. Right. And of course, the great companion ally and a Delano. He wanted to bring the assassins to justice as well. But he wanted to wait a little bit.
Because he had just become a leader of the state and he wanted to settle some things he wanted to solve certain things out. And he was facing rebellion from some sides.
But the main reason for the Rebellion was that people were upset that the killers of man it seemed had been able to run away and had run away maybe to Iraq, or within the army of Isley. On the other hand, no. So many of the Sahaba felt so strongly about it. They decided that they would march to Iraq,
to make a protest, like a protest, you know, to make a big, kind of symbolic gesture to say no, we want the killers of man or the animal to be brought out. And we want them to be brought to justice.
And to have the brother in law's of Aisha DeLanda who were the Aloha, then obey the law and Zubin Halawa, they are both great. So how busy Are they from the 10 promised paradise. They came to Alisha de la and her who happened to be in Makkah of the Hajj.
And they said to her, you know, you are seen as a symbol. You are the Mother of the Believers. If you come with us on this journey to Iraq, then in sha Allah, people will see people rally behind everyone, we could bring peace in the Ummah, we could crush the rebellion and just kind of reconcile between the sides because we will have brought the killers of man to justice. And so actually the law on her was convinced. And she began the long journey all the way to
to Iraq. And on the way there.
We know like 1000s and 1000s of people when they saw the whole dodge, remember how that was very symbolic. It's it must have been marked in a very specific way. So when people saw her camel and her whole Dodge, and this is like a generation now, many of the Sahaba were not there anymore. Now it was the target in and they would have seen you know, her going, they would feel so emotional seeing our mother Aisha
You know, part of this protest part of this March. So they all started joining, you know, so 1000s and 1000s of people joined until by the time they got there, there were like 10s of 1000s. But we know that on the way I shattered the law on her.
During the night, she heard some the sound of dogs barking.
And this reminded her of something that the Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam had said to her, so she quickly asked her companions, she said, Where are we? Where is this place? And they said, it is.
I think I know Oasis called how up?
And then she said, Oh, no. And she said, I don't think this is going to be good for us for anyone. I want to go back. She said, I remember Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Once when us wives we were all together with him. He said, what will be the state of one of you when the dogs of house will bark?
And she said he obviously he had mentioned it in a negative way. And so
she wanted to go back. And she pleaded to them to go back, she realized she didn't, this would not end well. And everyone convinced her to carry on. They said no, yeah, or more than 1 million years, you will help conserve reconcile between the Muslims through this action of yours. And so she realized she couldn't go back. And she continued.
And of course, this eventually, because of some misunderstandings, you can look them up in Sharla. It led to the first clash, first big battle between Muslims. And her intention had never been for there to be a battle.
And no, I had no had it been the intention of value at the law angle, but because of a misunderstanding, because of the trouble caused by some of the assassins of man, or the law and who, between the two camps.
Unfortunately, it led to this terrible battle. And many Muslims were killed. And eventually, you know, the camel of our mother, Aisha, with the Latin Hall, or the Latin heart was, you know, either hit or its legs were severed, and it came crashing down onto the ground because she she actually went right into the middle of the battle with her camel as a symbol to stop everyone from fighting. Subhanallah it really shows you the bravery of our mother Aisha, when she saw that people were fighting she wanted to stop it and she went right in the middle just to, for people to come to their senses. When they see that the wife of the Prophet SAW Selim is in the middle, she could get hurt.
And indeed that did end the battle.
The battle ended and earlier the land was sent our issues Brother Mohammed bin Abu Bakr to come and take a shot out of the whole day to make sure she was safe. And he did that. And then Ali Abdullah animal had a mother Aisha accompanied by the noblest women from his own family and some Gods all the way back to I think she went to Morocco, as it was Hajj season again.
All the way back home basically.
And on that way, I think her mother Aisha was very sad. And all throughout her life, she always regretted this. She always regretted this. And she remembered the verses of the Quran where Allah subhanaw taala had said to the wives of the Prophet Walcot enough Hebrew ut Kona Wella tuber Raja Sabha Raju, Baba Raja Helia Tula
and stay in your homes,
stay in your homes, and do not display your beauty as it used to be displayed in the days of Jai Leah.
And this was a verse whenever it came in the Salah. She would start crying, because she felt that this was advice that she wished that she had followed. You know.
Now any one of us if we had faced something like that, you know, any human being when you face something and you realize that maybe you made a mistake or you feel that you should have done something else or you had the best of intentions, and yet it ended badly. We would feel like giving up, right? But our mother Aisha she just changed her direction after that. She had decided not to be involved in political things anymore.
And she decided I believe she was following the ayah that follows the the I just mentioned which is which was sort of Zab is number 33 in which Allah says to the wives of the Prophet, while the quarter nama Utila
feeble your take when I mean I did Allah he will hikma Allah says to them and recite what is what has been recited or rehearsed in your homes of the signs of Allah, the Ayat of Allah, and his wisdom hikma, what is the hikma? hikma is the Sunnah, right?
And I believe that she took this on board. And from that time onwards, instead of allowing that
negative incident to make her give up or not to stop doing anything fruitful or to feel like she has nothing to contribute. Instead, she just changed her direction. And she's she doubled down on doing what she believed Allah wanted her to do, which was to preserve the sunnah to make sure that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sunnah was preserved and hence Islam was preserved.
Lesson number four and five I will do quickly. Lesson number four, respond with dignity, to hardship and injustice. When the hypocrites spread rumors about our mother Aisha, during the time of the Prophet SAW Selim, it wasn't devastating. She was just a teenager. Right? She was a pure teenager. And
unfortunately, some of the Muslims had also indulged in the rumors, but we see from the behavior of our mother Alisha that she responded with dignity, even afterwards, when some Muslims were punished for spreading the rumor. And of course, Allah subhanaw taala cleared her name from above the seven heavens right? In Quranic ayat, even after the Muslims, some Muslims were punished, she never liked their names to be mentioned in a negative way. You know, even though they in a way that had done something against her. So, for example, Hassan bin forbid, he had been one of the one of the land who he had been involved in the rumors, of course, he
repented and he was punished for that.
But I should, I should, nephew says, I should disliked to have Hassan mentioned in a bad way in any criticized in her presence, because she used to say it was he who said
for in Obi Wan where a leader who is the leader of the Mohammed in mink comb will call she remembered some verses that because Hassan metallic was the poet of Rasul Allah right. She remembered some verses he had made and she said, you can't say anything bad about somebody who's made verses like this. Because the verse means
it means I put forward my father and my grandfather and my own honor to shield the honor of Muhammad from you. You know, subhanAllah such beautiful words, you know?
And so I share the Lana's and never criticize him because he said these words, which was so important, so So Carlos, you never held grudges against people. And the fifth.
The fifth lesson is use your talents to serve Allah. Another shout at the ANA, she never had children, right. But you can tell that she really loves children. Because what she did was even though she didn't have children, she still focused on the youth. And she managed to raise orphans. Many of her own nephews and nieces, right, who then became some of the greatest scholars. So she, she couldn't be a mother, but she could invest in youth in another way. Right. And she did that very diligently. Some of her famous students passing been Mohamed, the son of her own
brother, who was assassinated later, he became one of the greatest football out of Medina. Right. Ottawa, Bina Zubair, who again, was her nephew, right, became one of the greatest football hall of Medina. She had female students like Aisha Ben stole her. Again, she was her niece, and I'm Robins, Abdur Rahman, who was a great student of hers and the scholars used to send
people to go and learn from her. And one of the scholars said about her, she was a boundless ocean of knowledge. These are the type of people that actually the lamb had built. And just to end, you know, she used to sit in her home, she would have the orphans and the children in her first rows, learning from her and women as well. And then she would have a curtain and then men would be able to sit behind the curtain and listen to her speak. So look at how our mother actually shared with us the resources that she had.
And to be honest, there are so many more lessons I could mention but I've just focused on these five
May Allah Subhana Allah reward mother Aisha and I do hope that we internalize these lessons from her life does happen allow her and Subhana Allah homo behind the cashew Allah Illa Allah and still a funeral cover to be like
the Zack yellow Ferran Masada Fatma I think you shared. So many things that are you know, sometimes you think you know, story, but you share things that I've never heard before. I feel like researching it now and looking it up. And I think your book is on this topic to write your writing about I shared yellow Anna. So maybe we can find more information about the story of Aisha de la one hand your book? Am I correct? Definitely in Charlotte, so just just look out for the book, it should be out next year Inshallah, published by learning routes.
I'm sure you could do different sessions based on so so many points are just on her life. Right. But I, you know, you shared Okay, I'm going to summarize, I think I missed one point, like you said, One was to be a keen student, and teacher, right? Which it's so true, the thing that you said about being curious, observant, asking questions, because what's inside your head is not inside everybody else's head. So you need to just, you know, have the courage to be able to ask, it'll help everyone grow together, right? And then don't let your values be compromised. Right? That's what you said, yeah.
Do your work without compromising your values, without compromising your values? Right. And, and especially if your job I was, especially for this job, right? And that's so true, because there are situations where, you know, you feel like you just need to blend in, you know, and make everybody happy. But it's not. That's not, that's not our point, right. The point is to make them happy. And then you talked about responding with dignity. I know, I'm missing one point, responding with dignity, that, I think whenever, you know, just treating everybody with dignity all of the time. It's not, and not holding grudges, that was part of that as well. That was part of I think, you
missed number three, which was
recover, recovering from failure.
And being willing to change, you know, recovery, willing to change after a failure after something that set you back, doesn't make you completely wither away, it makes you just change your direction. That's it, ask yourself, What does a loved one?
What's the next move? What's the best move now?
Failure doesn't mean it doesn't mean the end, you know, it doesn't mean you're completely you can learn, you know, find out what went wrong, and you know, fix yourself from that. Right. So, very good advice. And then you said, use your talents and resources.
Right, yeah, use your talents to serve the cause of Allah so, and never feel that your situation is, like disadvantaged. Like my mother actually said, she was not a mother, for example.
Obviously, I'm being a mother is one of the key ways to be able to build another human being right, or to convey Islam to the next generation, etc.
But that didn't stop her from doing that same thing, which is conveying Islam and teaching the next generation and even mothering because she raised some of her own nephews and nieces. She, she used to take care of orphans and gave a lot of attention to her students. So
I am being resourceful. You know, sometimes we sit and we say, Oh, I could have done this if I had this or if I had that. But instead of thinking of it that way, you just whatever I have, let me use it to the best of my ability. And if you think about it, we're talking about seventh century Arabia. She didn't have as much as maybe what we have at our disposal. But yet, you know, she had such a great impact on all of us with especially with the knowledge that she's transferred over to us. So I know you didn't you cover these topics a little bit but not really but I have a question that's come in that I'd like to ask you.
One is obviously the you know what story what story if I showed the Allahu is not covered without this controversial question, right? That she, she was victimized, she is victimized as a being portrayed as a little young girl who got married to Prophet Muhammad SAW Allah Leyva Salam at a tender age and she's villainized by, you know, Muslims and non Muslims.
And you mentioned the conflict so I won't go into that.
But, um, so she but she's tremendously loved by all of us. Can you touch upon this controversy for us? Yeah, sure. I mean, there's actually a very good infographic that you can look up from the Yaqeen Institute Yaqeen Institute, if you just look up union Institute, the age of Artesia something like this, you'll find the and it really explains in a lot of detail, I think, in a very good way. I think we'll start the north the night she was one of the people who put that together. And, okay, so with the, so the age of our mother, Aisha, when she got married, I guess that's what the issue is.
To be honest, nobody really brought this issue up until modern times, relatively modern times, right. And it was brought up by people who wanted to, you know, cast aspersions on the profits of our salon. But, you know, it was 100% normal in that time.
And even today, in certain places, you know,
for young people to get married, right, for people to get married when they're very young. I know, I think my own grandparents in India, you know, they were married when they were teenagers, it's normal, like young teenagers, not even older ones. And there are places all around the world where it's fine to get married, you know, when under the age of 60, and even now.
So we shouldn't be looking at the past history, through the lens of our current norms. You know, that's called presenteeism, it means you're using the lens of today, the norms of today, to judge the people of yesterday, when that was the norm for them, you know, that was the norm for them. What they used to do is when a girl, a girl would be best betrothed for marriage, for example, even a boy could be betrothed, Yanni, before she married, the Prophet SAW Salem. Aisha was due to marry somebody else, you know, that kind of shows you that?
It wasn't a controversial thing at all.
And what would happen is, they would sometimes they would do the Nica, right? Same as actual dinner, they had the Nikka. And then when the they felt and the parents felt that the girl was old enough and mature enough, then they would have you know, like what we would agents are called The Rock City, right? They would, they would then start to live together. And so our mother Aisha began to live with the Prophet salallahu Salam in Medina.
Even though they were married, then the guy took place in Makkah. So that was the norm in that time, you know, we don't see in our mother Aisha didn't her the profile of an abused woman. You know, if anything, she was the one he was like strong personality, you know,
she could shut anyone up. Really like, once when one of the wives came and complained about something I think Xena but Jash that everyone was always giving gifts.
To the Prophet SAW Salem on the day when he was with Aisha with Alana. Right.
And I should have been on how I answered her with such strong words, you know? And then I've looked to the Prophet SAW Salem, you know, can you look what she's saying? She's being so sharp with me. And I saw Allah said, What can I do? And she's the daughter of Abu Bakr. In other words, you know, she's, her father is an eloquent man. She's an eloquent girl, you know, and she's able to answer anyone back. So
she didn't have the profile of an oppressed person at all right now. That was the norm, then it was the norm all over the world, by the way, even in the West, even in European countries, right?
People had shorter lives.
Like, if you think about it, if you I think the life expectancy at that time was 30 something or 40.
If your life if we knew that everyone was going to die at about 14, right?
Don't you think we would we would make our childhood shorter. You know, do you know what I mean? Like because we feel okay, and your life is at 70? You know, we think okay, let's elongate childhood as much as possible, right.
But in that time, life was short. You know,
you grow up quickly. You even people probably had their periods earlier. And that is really the marker for a Muslim of adulthood, isn't it?
So, now, fast forward to today. That doesn't mean that you have to do that now. You know, because it's not the norm for our times.
All children are for people at a very young age to get married.
That's okay. Right? Doesn't mean we have to translate the norms of that time to our times. Maybe young people in our times are not ready for that. Right? In fact, I think a lot of our especially boys are not ready until they're willing to their 20s. Right. Do you know what I mean? Like times, we've elongated childhood from, you know, childhood to the late teens to the 20s to I think sometimes even in the 30s. We're still children. So childhood Hi, I was looking at Osama bin Zayed he was leading an army when he was 18. He was leading the army, like, Hello. Do you know what I mean? It's a completely different timescale to us.
Our kids can barely look after themselves when they're 18. Right. Like, let alone lead an army. You know, it's also reflective of our psyche.
You know, we, it's okay for people to have boyfriends and girlfriends, and maybe even get pregnant, but it's the minute you put the marriage logo on. Yes, exactly. You know, controversial. See, this is another fallacy, isn't it? That's another fallacy of our times. Yeah. Yeah. Like Britain is used to be the kind of place where the, with the largest teenage pregnancies,
just boyfriend teenage pregnancies, right? In Europe.
Subhan Allah, you know, so you can see, you can see that
there's a double standard there spearing?
I think that was a very comprehensive answer. Was that a Fatma? Because sometimes, even with our you know, as Muslims, sometimes you see things written online, and you hear stuff. So you become a little bit confused about these topics. So it's good to, you know, get ourselves, you know, more a Balanced View, and an overall view, right of the whole situation and not blow it out of proportion. We have I have another question.
So, because, well, I guess this is building on from the last question, but maybe I'll leave that part of the question. Now. We're, we're confused by a complex legacy, are you but what's her greatest legacy? What would if a young listener was listening to the story of Aisha versus an older sister? What would they take away from her story?
That's difficult to see what's her greatest legacy? Yeah. But if we want to say the thing that
the thing that impacted the most Muslims, you could say, was definitely her
understanding and conveying the Sunnah. A preservation of the Sunnah, you know, I would say, but I would say there's another side to her that we don't often look at, which is how a bad that
you know, because it's very easy to point to something that something public that someone does, and think that was their greatest legacy. But when you read about her the way she used to worship Allah long Salas any money that was given to her because the state used to give the wives of the Prophet stipend, right, she would give it away immediately, like to different causes, you know, even poor, her poor students or
Subhanallah sadaqa, right. She used to try to make hudge all the time.
Why? Because you know, so allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
that the hut the jihad for women is Hutch. Yeah.
No, since he, since he said that to her, she made it a point to go on hudge as much as possible. You see. So there's that side of her that we don't focus on. Because in our times, we really focus on the outward, you know, like, public success or public. So public service, but I think the bedrock of any Muslim is really what they do in private, isn't it?
Yeah. So I don't think we can ever discount that. And the fact that she served or sort of lots of Allah Salam, all those years, you know, she was the one whose house he wanted to be in when he was in his final illness. That's not just an honor. That's also a huge responsibility, because that means she was
serving him, you know.
It's not easy to serve a nurse, an ill person, right.
Subhan Allah so I think,
yeah, what's astounding is like you mentioned that she was only with Rasul Allah for eight years of her life.
and all this knowledge is coming from those eight years. Subhanallah
Yeah, about nine years. Yeah. Yeah. And,
and, you know, it's all the stories and even in the conversation that you're sharing is just makes you are so blessed that 100 Allah, we have his history that is documented. And it's almost like as you live through life, it's a gift that keeps giving and you keep learning more and more you think, Okay, I've learned and now there's more to learn Subhanallah
Yeah, and I don't think we have any more questions coming in. I was just checking the questions and monitoring them. But there's lots of comments, people are enjoying the talk.
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I'd like to thank again on behalf of being me, Canada, the legacy tool group to start the Fatma burka dilla for taking her time and presenting to us more so
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