Advice to Students of the Meanings of Quran
Channel: Haifaa Younis
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This was not supposed to be like this.
This is I arrived four hours ago.
After 24 hours of flying, so it was supposed to be see the place say salam Molana hurry, see some of the sisters? Can you give a talk? I was like, okay, to the to the teachers. Okay. It's time to be this. So please forgive me. And we need to finish by four. Because I have another something else to do. And then I definitely need to sleep. I think you think so?
Yeah, especially with the jetlag.
So what I want to talk to everybody is the following is a reminder. And I'm going to start with something I felt this morning. It's always when you feel and we speak from the heart, how many of you show me hands, whether you are in your name, whether in your in,
in the Sahara, whether you are in this one that you feel really you're blessed?
I don't want you to hamdulillah to all say it.
And I was like, how are you and hamdulillah you're complaining from A to Z?
Honestly, so this morning, when I was having breakfast in the in the hotel Subhan Allah, Allah, again, has reason for everything. So for some reason that it took a long time to get the food.
So I was looking around me and I was seeing people just jumped back the breakfast area in the hotel. So there was two kinds of people was people were sitting, being served. And there's people who are serving. So I looked around and I got to be
you I am not, you did not make me it's not me. You did not make me among those who are serving the others serving is beautiful. But you know what I'm talking about.
At the same time, most of those who are serving others, I can't my assumption. I don't think they are Muslims. I don't know they know you, your Allah. And then I looked at the people who are more fortunate are being served. And they're absolutely living in
most of them. I will say at least my assumption, but I'm not judging people. It was I was talking to myself, that these people were you know, enjoying the weather, enjoying everything. And I said to myself, Why me? And this is to everybody. Why you he chose you to know Him,
to serve Him, to want to learn about him, brought you here brought you MSG, why you
one you what is the difference between me and those people? Nothing could be they are much better than me as a human being.
What, why are they kalima that Grace of Allah upon you is great. Allah said this, to whom? Torah swattin salatu salam, he said this is Surah to Nisa, Chapter woman go and read it.
And he said that to him whenever there was a blogger or a cover of metal, it was not for the grace of Allah and His llama. Lohan mythos. Yamato refer to Minho. Yo have the look, some of them would have made you go astray.
So you need all to think of this. I say this to myself, every time we live, or we interact with the we're not living in a Muslim country when everybody around me is Muslim. So why me?
Literally, I was looking around and I was like, Yo, how can I be grateful to you?
You didn't make me need an EAD. On the contrary, I'm the person I'm sitting on that chip waiting to be served. Why? What's so special about him? Nothing. The person who's serving me Does he has or she has less than me. Or I have more than her. I'm not talking about money. I'm talking about what Allah normally creates people. So number one, that you all have to remember. And keep reminding yourself before you remind anyone before we give lectures and talks to everybody, not to bind yourself why you
And then when he chose me, what is he expecting from me?
What is he expecting from? I want to hear it.
What is he expecting from me? I want to hear it anybody.
What is he expecting from me? To be grateful? And how I'm going to be grateful Alhamdulillah the one we say it, tip of the tongue. We don't mean it. We don't even know what it means. Right? Is like the same as a sha Allah. We don't know what it means and we use it the wrong way.
The first Alhamdulillah the first real meaning of Al Hamdulillah is what you feel it
is you feel this.
You don't come to the masjid and start complaining. The Masjid is not clean. The Masjid is busy. The Masjid Is this the masjid is that then you are you have no idea about the new hammer.
That's number one. You feel it you feel you have any hammer? You haven't you need to feel the name of Islam. What does it mean to be a Muslim? Why again, you let alone a practicing Muslim, or a devoted Muslim are amazingly Muslim.
That you give up your beauty and you start dressed the way it pleases Him. You gave up a lot of the other women are doing because you want to serve Him. You need to feel it. Number two,
gave it to you. You didn't do it. You did nothing special about you or me. It is him.
It's all him
for wisdom. And he's lucky in the wise, he decided that Saara and Meriam and Mohammed and he felt are Muslims.
And not only Muslims by name, or by Allah, rather Muslim by devotion. This all happened less than a week ago. Absolutely. Less than a week ago was all on WhatsApp.
Honestly, this was not part of the program at all. In fact, they invited they asked me to do another talk. I said I can't because it's very tight schedule. And subhanAllah because Cape Town is very special for me. And I had to come and meet some people. And I was like, Okay, we'll talk to the teachers. But then this is this is the nearmap
this is the reason I'm saying this because I want you to feel the need.
Because we could have easily made it only for the teachers. No one of you know because they are right, they reached out to me says tomorrow's program sold out Sisters of begging to attend. They said find a bigger venue. And they said there is a we can't
the point unless you feel it.
You will not appreciate unless you know who gave it to you. You will never be grateful to be grateful to you or start seeing yourself in this. And that's the biggest problem. When you start feeding it is you
it's your effort. You're smart, you're hardworking, you gave up this and that we do this all the time with our children
with our children when the children come out very successful mashallah we don't say Allah subhanaw taala put the put the baraka, I've got it. Oh, you don't know how much I gave up for my children? That's it.
And again, if not, Allah is a Rahim, veal hain, the Merciful, He would have showed you what it means when you depend on your own efforts. So number one, be grateful of where you are at this moment.
Be grateful for this masjid for this carpet.
For the fact that is a place for a woman for the first day gig with the main masala for the woman.
This not everyone does that. Second, what are you going to do with this number?
What are you going to do with this number? That's the question. Those of you who have memorized the Quran, what are you doing with it?
Those of you who have learned word to word of the Quran, what are you doing with it?
Those of you who finish two years of dollar 90 or four years from here, or wherever you took it? What are you doing with it?
And don't tell me I am teaching.
And I say this to everybody is the worst advice I was given. If you're studying Islamic studies to teach, don't do it.
Because that's for yourself.
That's not for Allah.
And if you're going to focus on teaching, you will never change.
Many mothers asked me this question a lot of the students, some of you we have some students from South Africa and gender Institute in our year of knowledge. And I always say this word. A couple of things. I say I'll share it with you. But number one, I said don't use what you learned today in the class.
If you go home and start preaching your husband and children, they will not listen to you. You know why? Because you haven't practiced with it.
You don't need to open your mouth. unless Allah wants you to open your mouth, practice it.
Let them look at you and says, I want to be like her. And you didn't open your mouth. And even better when you don't know who that person is.
Who that person is, they look at you come to the masjid, they see look at her. Wow, look what she put the shoes.
Look when she entered so quiet.
And she took the corner. It didn't care where she is. Standing doesn't have to be in the front. And I have to leave because I
and you and Allah and somebody in the back is watching you, let alone if it's a young girl, she loved the way you dress. And the way you are talking to Allah in in your Salah, you didn't know any of this. And then you leave that woman 10 to 20 years from now, you and I are dead. And she will go back and says it was that woman in the masjid? Who made me love this deal.
At the same time, don't be that woman
who will make this girl never comes back again to the masjid. And a lot of us do that.
True or False?
We start preaching. How dare you come you do like that? You were like that? Your sonar is wrong. Your hand is not there. And you become the Mufti.
Don't do that.
Don't do that. A lot of the families suffered from two extremes. When the mother start climbing, and she wants to apply everything on the spot in her boom.
You're ruining your house
and your marriage action
or the other way around. She has nothing to do with Dean let them do whatever they want to do. I've seen both. Both is not what Allah wants. You will learn
you practice establish connection with Allah subhanaw taala. So when you want something from him, he gives it to you on the spot. This is a true story two weeks ago, I was told two weeks ago this woman went to Fajr on July and the Imam as you probably most of you know the Sunnah in Joomla is you read in the first row calm said in the second row column A in Sally's two chapters in the Quran. The first unit you read the prostration the sewer, and the second unit that insan the human so at the second Ruka there's a verse which is I love it personally. What Allah subhanaw taala describe that people have done but he this is very unique description. It's not like they perform salah they am an
action. Right? Well we'll try Munna pom and a hobby skin. We attainment, what a senior. So they feed people feed he was used the word your pom pom feed, although they love it.
They love it, but they feed who do they feel risky, poor or needy way a team and orphan Mr. Palmer who beat Missy and weigh a team I was CEO and captured. This woman said the following
true story. She said the Imam was reading it as never, I've never heard it before. And I was crying like a baby. You know when you feel I'm sure you all have some of this. And she said I made dua to Allah in my Roku and not even Insitute mikli one of these people.
make me one of these people. Which basically the meaning of the verse is, is that you do things to people, although it is hard on you because you love it. But you do it and you don't want anything from anyone. Now normally doing come Jezza Shikara we don't want any reward or even a word of gratefulness
the same day.
It's amazing how to restore. She said the same day. There is this woman who I helped her unconditionally. Something nobody will do
it you said nobody I couldn't even tell my family because they think I'm crazy. Honestly,
unconditionally for a tongue. And that day she did something from that woman.
And that woman said you
did you get the point?
And then she said when she said no of course I was
And this wasn't a text message and she said I
I was about to say something and I remembered my draft.
And I said, he answered you,
he answered you should I said nothing. I said exactly lovely.
You want to be that person.
You want to be that person. And unless you are appreciative, and you see the name
of Allah subhanaw taala. And you have this connection with Allah, this is what I want to do all
whatever is done studies you study whatever Quran you memorize, inshallah you have the turntable, it is never done. Unless you are connected with Allah,
the real connection, it is all information
and you will not impact anybody. People will not listen, including your children, let alone your husband, let alone your brother and sister. What Allah wants from me and us two things, do it for him only learn resuming composure and when I show Cora I don't want you to praise me to say thank you, well, if it wasn't for you, whatever, whatever you really care, make dua for me when you don't see.
Then that's hope that's true.
That's real. Number one. He wants to see that you're sincere.
And you're doing it only for him. You're coming here to teach only for him. You're coming here to learn only for me, you're coming here to do fundraising for a stomach relief. It's only for him or for Helene arranged all this only for him.
And he will test you. I want you to memorize this word from me. He will test you with every single word you utter.
And the smart and the Lucky is the woman or the person who will know the test. Number one you know it's a test like the story I shared with you. And number two, you pass the test. So number one is do it for Allah we don't do it for anybody. Everyone around you, all of us are the same.
We all created from dust and we are going back to dust you have the MCBA idea.
And you even call it Nakaba which is the proper Arabic word of it. You know what's Nakamura mean? Kabbalah she put it under the ground
that you will meet one day your name on Where I will die could be here. And then we will end up with being names it
and after 10 years who's gonna remember
30 years old remember even your most beloved people? Good if you remember them into
so do it for Allah he will never forget Omar Khan or Buka NESEA your Lord will never forget
never small big difficult is needed but you did it for him. He will never forget it. Oh my camera brokenness number one and number two, so number one you do everything for Allah subhanaw taala
from A to Z including getting married
you all will look at me so I get married for Allah. Yes.
You don't get married because you love that person. That's for you. What do you get married because all your friends got married? That's for you. Or you got married because you want children? That's for you. That's not what you get married for him?
Because that's what he loves us to see. Men or woman same thing having children don't have children because they will take care of you when you're old. How do you know they will outlive you?
How do you know they will be in the same country these days?
How do you know they will really take care of you even in the same city. Do it for more. Learn how to floss sincerity. Learn we don't come to that when I score. So if you can walk today Masha Allah Baraka lot of this beautiful number, and I didn't show up.
And you know, I landed in Cape Town, and just called me and says, Amira, I'm so tired, I can do it.
If you get upset,
if you got upset, then you're not here for Allah.
You are here to see another human being.
Yeah, you have to remember this, how the class is extremely difficult. You know why? Because one of the scholars said, and I think it's a mouthful, but he said because we have no share in it.
My neffs will not have any gratitude or gratification. How many of you will be so happy and show me hands when you cook something and you put all the time
But whoever was on that table, look at you and tell you Wow, this is the best you've ever done.
You're all laughing. It's true. I like white. We love to be
appreciated. noticed. But that's not for a while.
And imagine I get noted, and you get noted, and you get to gratitude gratification, I get, he doesn't.
And he doesn't.
The One who created you and me, gave you this budget, gave me that wherever we are sitting, gave me the knowledge, but is it tongue gave me the sound gave me the ability gave you the ability to hear and to focus. And I forget
one number to do everything with the sun excellence.
I told them, This is why you see them, they were they were rushing. I said, if you told the people, we're going to start to fortify, it needs to be to fortify.
It can be 246. We are deceiving people.
We are deceiving people. We don't pay attention to this. It's a one minute or is it a big deal?
So when you are in that class, how many of you are online students?
How much are not too many 100 number. But if you're an online student, and some of you if you are with us in general Institute, you know this, you know what I require from the students and I say don't do it for me to do it for me that number one is gone.
You need to be absolutely dust. Well, as if you're gonna go to the class
to you need to have this special place in your home, where I call it the knowledge corner.
Like you have kitchen of living room, right, your bedroom, all of us. I need you all students have knowledge, learning, still learning starting the journey of knowledge. One place in your home, you call it knowledge corner. That's where you sit. And you give 510 minutes, one hour, two hours, whatever Allah knows, to him, only to learn his knowledge only to get my point. See what I'm stressing on. Only only because you want to be his servant, only the perfect servant only. Not I am perfect with people. And then when I am alone, Allah knows what I do.
Excellent. Excellent. So learn to do things with a person and start with being on time. Start to being discipline starts being neat. Start being organized, all these all these we are getting so spoiled, so spoiled that we even forget these words. What is the big deal? So what and I kept reminding them to do what did you tell people? What time you're starting?
Yes, we need that. And this applies to when you get invited.
I don't know what's the trend in South Africa in Cape Town?
I have no idea but I hope it's not what I hear somewhere else. So the invitation come at seven someone called me says don't you come at seven o'clock? I was like it says seven I said yeah, we said seven so people will show up at nine
because if you put nine they will show up at 11
and being on time by the way
it's an Islamic
is Islamic one
a hub will MIT Allah a Salah to Allah Octavia the most beloved de to Allah is Salah on time. On time. This deen is all about time. Right? What did Allah made an oath in the Quran? Time Well,
right? When do you pay your Zakah? When do you pay your zakat anytime? What has to be the leader when you go to Hajj whenever you like, what has to be the time when you first come alive? When you like in the winter when short days now?
Right? Why? Time?
Time and we didn't start going south as Muslims. One of the reasons is I think there's many reasons but the ones I at least what I'm seeing is when we not putting a lot number one in our life
people pleasing ourselves pleasing, pleasing. One and two when we don't care about time.
We don't care about time.
So if laws, do everything for Allah subhanaw taala and do it with excellence. Again, nobody's perfect or fail or feel tired. Sometimes we're not, but that doesn't meet the trend.
You want to hear people telling you you're always on time what happened today?
You're always like very beautiful what happened today?
That needs to be your no one, three, because I'm talking not only in the house of Allah, I'm talking the place of knowledge, respect the knowledge that you are learning. And teachers respect what you are teaching. Otherwise you know what will happen? We will take it away from
he will take it away from you and Allah doesn't take knowledge. Take the knowledge. How does he take knowledge?
I want to hear it. It's a hadith of rasa is
when Allah Allah,
Allah does not strip knowledge strip, lacking inside and when desire.
You will lose your score. And you just lost one of the biggest disqualify less than two years ago that if you pass one and a half years ago, Malinois I had the honor of meeting him.
And he wasn't old.
And he's not someone who's going to come very quickly. Replace.
I again, I met him Subhanallah one time, what an impression he had.
So unless you're grateful, and you need to know why 50 So many people got cold. Why, hey,
you're not asking the biller, you're not questioning our wisdom. But you're saying that well, what are you teaching?
So ladies of Cape Town, you really need to value what you have.
You really need to value what you have, Otherwise Allah will take it away from
and even you don't have to travel outside. I mean, again, if you go to the other parts of the country in South Africa, you'll see the difference. In I've said I felt it every time I call I was like, No, I need to go to Cape Town. I really mean it. There's two things in Cape Town. It's unique. You don't know what you because you live here. It's usually the people who come from outside number one the beauty
the beauty of Allah creation, of course they have a mountain if you look at it, okay, what is it? You don't even look at it as like our today's call today's whatever the beauty of Allah,
the beauty of the ocean.
That's beauty unless you again, value it connected with a creator, we grateful the weather, he will take you out of Cape Town. And why you in Cape Town
number one, and number two, the the
plethora of knowledge in this small city, why this a small city. And why keep down you know, up till now, when I was coming, it was like what that is Muslims in South Africa. This is how I was told honestly, in the States as Muslims in South Africa.
And I said Muslims you need to come and see.
But again, the if you are not, if you don't value your scholars, if you don't treat them with respect, if you don't value the institutions of knowledge by supporting as an individual you study, you can't study support someone to come and study and if they need any kind of help, don't think always of money, any kind of help you need to be number one to come. And when you come again value where you are and take care of it.
And this is the famous which most of you I'm in Cape Town and most of you follow Imam Shafi when he forgets the knowledge what was the advice he was given
Chicago to eat our Kia so
I complained he's saying it's Imam Shafi was a phenomenon in many things, especially poetry. So he said I complained to my teacher Wakita
forgetting this emotion for our children, and elderly, so he guided me and advised me what review again Steve early that's what we do.
That's when we see on the outside partially letter K Mahasi. You should stay away from sneeze
What is since has to do with memory, or memorization, then he explained it to him.
And he told me that the knowledge of law is light.
The knowledge of Allah is light. And the light of Allah will never be given to assimilate.
The light of Allah will never be given to a sinner.
And I don't want to take too much of time because again, I hope you all had the papers if you have any questions, so at least we can all benefit from each other. The biggest sin we do, students, students are flawed. How many students who have knowledge in this room? Show me how it's okay. humbler? And how many teachers in this room? Teachers are teachers, like studied, and now they are teaching? Like, you know, what is the biggest sin we do? Students have knowledge and teachers
it's one word who can tell you
sort of the diseases of the heart.
I think I heard that.
elegance along studying in government.
And when you sit with other people, with other ladies, please forgive me and telling me I'm wrong. You will look down at them internally,
and you will damage your family.
And a week ago, or two weeks ago, or a month ago or a year ago, you're not even praying.
And now you look at people who doesn't play down.
Or in your spouse, or your children or your family. Don't be arrogant. It will burn the knowledge. So I call it
arrogance, we burn the knowledge.
We burn it
the sooner or later on what we strip it away from.
So don't forget sincerity in everything you do in life. Do it for him only honesty, and this is me. He's the only one who worth doing things for the love. Everybody disappoint us. Can anyone in this room? Tell me you've never been disappointed in a human being?
What am I talking about? Right? Where is this? lets me go to that country or that city or that house?
Have a lot of are disappointed
as he ever disappointed?
Then why do you do it for other people?
Why do you focus on people? Why pleasing people is the most important thing. Why this is even harder? Why do you disobey Him? to please others?
You disobey Him to be like the others.
You disobey Him because you don't fit
Learn this concept of only one. Number two, do everything with excellence. And don't do it for people. Sometimes they don't deserve it. You're not doing it for them. Same concept.
And number three, don't be arrogant.
Whatever Allah gives you say this to yourself. And I say this all the time to myself. I don't deserve it.
One way I don't and none of us do.
He chose and what he wants and expect from you and see is that I am grateful.
And I feel I don't deserve it. Now and up for this Savior Musa said to Allah said number six Karim Allah is the one who talks to Allah you know that. And he said to me, how this is beyond you when he says your Allah How can I be grateful to you? And you are Allah?
How can I?
And what did Allah say? No, YOU ARE WE grateful?
Yeah, Musa Al and now you are grateful when you will feel you can never be grateful to Allah for everything he gave me. Don't tell me I don't have a house. And he didn't see it. We don't tell you don't have children. You didn't see it. Don't tell me I'm not married or have my husband or my husband passed away then you didn't see it.
You need to deeper strengthen your relationship with him. Talk to him better who cried?
Then you will be great.
But if you still see the outside, you know the the cover
and you didn't go deep. Then you missed a lot.
It is a common man who doubt it's only a few days, how much left? How much left?
Mr. Almighty been a city now suddenly Saraswati saw two sentences said, the age of my ummah is between 60 and 70. So how much time left? What is 40? Or 20? So 14,
you're, you're 55. So five to 10 years, and you're still struggling? And when will you change?
When I always say this to myself, not to anybody? Don't you say this to anybody, but yourself. Give me a deadline.
You know, people always work with deadlines. I have people always tell me, give me a deadline, I work much better with deadlines, especially those people in business. They always do that. Which is way of discipline actually. So I say to myself, Okay, give me give me a deadline, when I'm going to dress properly. When I'm going to perform my son out in time, give me the give me the day. I will work on that day. When will I pray properly?
Why would I stop seeing people and see him only? And do things for him only? Mommy, May He make us all your OB me live this field, practice it before we die. And then we say to him, you're a lot of good young.
A lot of good Joan. Now you
can now carry much more color. When we were all in Morocco.
As a last resort, you know, the believers at the end. He said that we were that person and what he can or her says Your love send me back. Send me back. I want to do with
the idea. Why don't
you give me another option, another opportunity another time. See, I will do. I am paraphrasing what you're allowed to say.
Strong kala name.
It's a tip of a tongue.
It's a word. And if we put you back and Allah certainly another place in the Quran, we'll all do the hard one. What
Allah said this isn't a noun. If we will send them back then be the same.
And they are liars.
Don't be that person. Take opportunity of what we have changed. Stop the change today. Focus on yourself. Don't focus on anybody else. Whatever you learn, you know nothing is way more. Focus on him. Please him. Do things with excellence as much as you can and remove this elegance from the heart. Dig in your heart you'll find it right there and remove it out and always ask Allah subhanaw taala to make it easy to make your servant make dua for European panicle among the shadow under
a stuffy rocoto booty Excel Allah Allah said no Mohammed, but earlier, he was planning to still make a deal. Hello, we have 20 minutes. So anybody has a question? Did you get the Yes 100? No. This means you didn't find smaller.
Another small thing My name is
I am an animal still.
What's your advice? Look at the questions and see see how I don't want to use the word. What advice do you have for me?
I am thinking of becoming a muslim.
there is what Yes. Okay. There is a
there is anonymous. Okay.
What do you tell a non Muslim who was thinking on becoming a muslim I had this.
Three weeks ago was my neighbor after
I started tearing going I said something about the stem. I don't remember what I said.
And I know it but I didn't want to say it and she said I'm thinking
immediately when she said this. I was like how difficult is this?
Talk about a woman in her 60s established husband, children. She's going to become a grandmother. What changes? What I will say to everybody by the way that is Muslims in this room when used to convert.
I will say to revert because we're Muslim by
do it as I told my neighbor and I'm gonna tell everybody in this room. Just do it.
You and Allah when they come to us,
I can tell you how easy he will make
because you're giving up
you're giving up everything for him. This is very difficult. You don't know this into anybody any labor in this room.
You felt it on law. It's very difficult. The holiday season is coming. Now the disaster because now it's customers, I get this question every year.
What do I do? It's my mother. It's my father. This is my brother. It's my sister. They're very good human beings. They're very nice.
They love me. They accepted me. I mean, it really gets hard. We don't know what this means. See the near mouth Allah, the blessings of Allah gave us and we don't even think of it.
Do with my dear sister.
And I will be jealous of you. Number one. I don't know the woman by the way, she put her name but I'm not gonna read it.
I'll be jealous of you. Why is that? Because the moment you become a Muslim, you're better than me and everybody else in this room, because we are all sinners in this room. But once you accept Islam, all the sins are gone. Don't tell me what you did doesn't matter. You didn't believe in Allah doesn't matter. You started. You did this. You did that. I don't want to hear it. So it doesn't matter. The man came to Botswana. This officer was like I did this. I did that. Everything that is major. He said that this time we are the mama Kamala Estelle will destroy everything that before it. Do it.
One number. Don't think what will happen tomorrow.
We will never let you down.
This famous story of Sita Hunter, which keeps me going in life. You all know the story. But let's see it. So the system will use in case you didn't have not have not heard that before. When you see the huddle, the the wife will see netball he came to Monica. And Monica had nothing because nothing desert.
And she had a baby. So yes, my breastfeeding.
And he and she was here with him with baby. Sad, Raheem start walking desert. She calls him
Where are you leaving us? We can look back and tell her that's a father and a husband. This is a beloved wife. He didn't look back. Imagine this. You will make a big scene with your husband.
If he wants to travel for work, you make it a big deal.
He didn't three times. She didn't. He didn't answer he can't. It's hard.
And then the smart woman, the wife, the servant of Allah.
She said, Oh Allah America we have Allah ordered you to do that.
He didn't. He said yes. She doesn't go. Go. Allah will never let us down. And isms and that you just had some of the best.
So do it. My dear sister one. Number two, you need support from the Muslim sisters. That's where you come?
Because you will have the obstacles don't worry about it. I'm not delivered them. But what obstacles I had. Number one is me. Don't blame anybody.
The number one reason why a woman doesn't work for a job is because
it's very hard. Look at yourself in the mirror. And what did I do? My hair?
Me. So we need to help her. I don't know if you have a new Muslim group here, or I'm sure you do. Because every place has it. But do it. And don't hesitate. I had this debate three, four weeks ago with a young person who's looking for happiness.
And she thinks it's come up do you heard of the happenings?
And I looked at her we talked talk to my friend I said listen, I lived a little bit longer than you
and I have went through a lot of experiences will lie and I said well I was sitting in his house on the floor I said waterlogging wherever you're gonna go and look, you will never find happiness outside the stone. If you find it, that's my number. Call me or take my job out
nothing because happiness is here. Any material thing you will get you will be happy temporarily. A week or two a year and then next. So do it whenever
Have you done it's a pleasure to have you here Allah brought you here for a reason.
Honestly, what brought you here for a reason and made this happen for a reason and gave you the courage to write?
Those of you who have children or even
sometimes spouse or sometimes siblings, child grew up performing solder. Then he went through tests in life, lost the job extra stop performing solder stopped as well as not going to the masjid. How do I encourage him to return to Allah?
That's a tough one.
In general tests, is what's what is the hikma or the wisdom of us going through difficult times?
That why do we go through difficult times? Why not like is rosy and everything that I want happens
to learn how to double one
because he loves you.
And he wants me back to him. He gives me everything. I don't go back to
we usually don't we usually go back to a why time off.
versity look at your DUA when you have an exam tomorrow.
Look at your DUA on your May Allah protect you all going for surgery tomorrow, or you're gonna go and have a baby tomorrow.
Usually, when you're tested, we go back to Allah. But when we have life, give us anything we're too busy, distracted. So the first thing I will say to this again, depends, there is no one answer fits all. Depends what is the relationship number one between you and your child. If there is no relationship, then you're not the first person to speak. They will not listen to you. After it you have to find the right person to speak. What you do as a parent, whether it's a mother or a father, or both. What do you what is the best thing you do for this child?
Do ha sincere from the bottom of your heart is your child. You don't want to see your child in the Hellfire
nobody wants. So number one you do
a lot of a lot of darts and see in the middle of the night in your schedule. When you really feel sad for your child when you're crying. That's the time number one. Number two find someone to talk to this. He's a boy, he's a younger man, find a man to talk to him man to man talk. If this is a show your boyfriend stock to have a one to one. And number three, which is the most important one. It's very difficult. But reality Nicola tidy when
we're looking at my idemia shop, you will not go to you will not guide who you love. Love we're going to who was that? He said it told us why we sought to sell. So this is very difficult, but it's not unusual.
The book actually I was reading as I was coming in the plane was discussing the reason that people are leaving Islam.
You may not see it here much that in Cape Town.
But if you live in the West, it's a huge issue. However, there's a study about that. Every person leaving Islam one person is getting to Islam, so don't worry.
But the point is, it's a big test. It's a challenge. Because doing is very beautiful. And to practice is done, you have to give up something and it's hard to give doing.
Ask anyone who doesn't want a job. Why?
Why? Because she wants to look beautiful, and covering your hair. It's gonna take away from your beauty. Don't deny this fact. Then you are not reading total hijab is the easiest thing I've ever done reading.
Then you didn't do it.
Then you didn't do it. Or maybe you did it when you were 1314 You didn't do it when when you are in your point I told him so. Jana is surrounded by what we don't like to do.
Everything we don't like so often. But this is Janet have to pass this obstacles to open the door. The keys is everything I don't like
wake up for 5g Who wants to wake up
at 4am in the morning
But that's the key. And I love my coffee at 10am in the morning
I want to fast that's the key. So this is how it is it's test it's actually this is a test for the parents report the voice or the dollar test for the parents. And for the parents I'm gonna say this it may sound harsh
What did you do?
What did you do at a loss this year that does
I always say this to people when they come and tell me my children are going astray I said get haram out of your house and don't think of haram alcohol and whatever
we don't look at what we watch a TV as how long because we can know
the series I know what you're watching Cape Town but I'm sure there is
no longer free see people are not dressed properly. You walk on the beach and
walk on the beach and you see people may Allah subhanaw taala cover no no because our hearts became dead dead for the dead meaning we don't deny the disobedience of snapshots knowing that
there's more choices
Give it to me I didn't know I was taking my tongue because I think okay
my husband has entrusted the bank bank account I want him to stop
or change to Sharia banking. He doesn't want to what do I do make dua
to grip creature your your husband's can do not. They will not take it from
those who anything. You said that once. And center nicely. Hollis done. Make dua make sure you don't deal with interest, not necessarily.
bank account, you have a credit card and you pay the minimum of the credit card that's worse.
Have you taken a loan to study? Have you taken a loan to buy a house?
If you take a loan to buy a house and you're telling your husband to do this, then your police will give me a hypocrite you're living in a house full of rebar and you tell your husband to stop the rebar? Let's assume None. What do
you say that once we explained it to him Don't say anything anymore. They will not listen to make a lot of dua ask someone else to talk to you.
And discipline was very hard because that's the wife we are living school as our Swati salatu salam said say it is a man Allah Almighty Your time is going to come on my own mind you and me. Even those who will not deal with riba say receivable turnover. Even those who will not deal with Reba period, they will still be touched by it's just
it's amazing. How do I have? I love the question starting by how do I know husband know Hamdulillah? How do I overcome historical deficiencies to to achieve ultimate high?
Oh, that's part two of the question As salam Alaikum I am.
I can't read what is it? I am
grateful Hamdulillah I am grateful Alhamdulillah for Islam, and mostly that I was not born in the generation of my grandma and my mom, but I carry they're deficient. And this inhibits me from reaching my highest goal.
While I had no idea what the question
what deficiency mom and grandma had.
What, I don't know. Please do. Forgive me. Whoever asked what I really didn't know. And one thing I will say Don't say negative about your mother and your grandmother.
They raised you
I'm sure he didn't mean it this way. I'm sure he knew this way but it's clean this way.
Do speak negative about your parents. You know what I say? Lama for the conference number forgive my people they don't know. Yes. I posed the question two times.
To summarize, but I'm gonna say anything
You mean a party that
I have to remember I'm in South Africa.
But what deficiency they have.
can you explain it to me as a foreigner coming from abroad?
do certain things that you would just resort to.
And so I find myself I carry the same things, even though we close the project, the legacy.
And somehow, actually, that it happened in here to me and the past,
was helping me
the first thing that comes to me is, she's treating me differently. Because of my skin color. Yes.
You know what? I will say that, okay.
We call it self aware.
You have no, you didn't meant it anyway. Because I am so
conscious about it. So you looked at me this way? You didn't mean you didn't even look at you. You were like just thinking something and your eyes? Oh, she looked at me this way? Because I am.
Am I correct? This is what I will say, you know, what is the best part in South Africa?
Or the best person in South Africa?
We need to learn from Nelson Mandela
was black. How did he do it? Literally, there's a beautiful interview of him with the Nightline, Ted Koppel look at it. Go, you will find it on YouTube every time. You know what it is.
When you look at yourself, I don't know his what what made him the amazing things you do. But look at yourself as the following and you will never will never will fail. Look at yourself as the servant of Allah.
And the servant of Allah, his goal, her goal in this tribe is to do what is to serve Allah. Don't blame your parents. Don't blame your parents. That's what they know. That's what I say always about my parents. That's what they know. But I'm better. He blessed me better in which way I will do Beloved. But he blessed me with this knowledge. He chose my skin color is how I say to myself, he chose the way my mouth is or my eyes, or my nose, or my height or my
In alas and Ohio.
He said it in the Quran, Allah is the best credited true or false. So when I look at myself, and I'm not talking about you, because I had the same question from a youth, but in a different way, but goes to the same thing is the self esteem, self esteem, it was ingrained that if you are this nationality, or you have an accent, or this skin color, or this gender as woman, then you're less
true. So you have a woman, you have the skin color, and your group grew up in a country where everyone is reminding you that you are not the same. Am I correct? At that time? How do I find this? Id again? That's why I told you there's no peace outside of this religion. You connect with him? And Harlock the Creator? Do you have a choice in how you look? Do I have a choice in how I look? Is he going to take me accountable because of my skin color? Or, or because I am short or tall? Connect with him in a kinda coalition earlier. On the contrary, I will say because of this, I have to prove to people that everybody is wrong.
So whenever whenever I'll give you an example, when I applied for OB GYN in the States, and I of course Muslim, obvious Muslim, actually, it's not the OBGYN The state it was in England. I was going tomorrow for the exam. were five people. I was the foreigner who were not foreigners without nationalities. And it was an oral exam. One of the toughest exams, those of you who have studied in England, you know that it's part two. So the day before in the hospital, they were doing mock exams for us, all of us five, two women and three men.
And at the end, the examiner who did the mock, he called him I will never forget this is more than 20 years ago. He called me to the room, close the door. And he said listen,
you need you should pass tomorrow.
If you didn't pass,
because you're different and I'm not gonna tell you the words he said
and guess who passed?
I couldn't believe it. And he was right. Because that's the perception.
So, on the contrary what I say to women especially woman because after this you are a woman
to this I am a woman.
This Allah subhanaw taala put you this is the obstacle or ACTA Mala Oba, that's your healing.
Can you do it? Absolutely you can, who's going to make you do it, when not you not your ability or your beauty, not your education, it is him. When this comes, when it comes, just think often and away this one one of my two as I always say, we are going to have we knew that you are strong enough to hold on to this and be the people that you will be the woman that 50 years from now will be the other Nelson Mandela. And he had way more obstacles denuded. I still remember I'm sure you have visited his, the museum you visited, read, read what is written and you will learn a lot will not Allah will never let you down. You just have to work on your relationship with Allah and you will be
the strongest woman and I always tell people who will never let you be dumb.
Little People go crazy when I say this. Yeah, it's like you really tough. And I say you will never let me down. They look at me. I said Why will he let me down? I am opening. I'm doing everything to please remember, you will never let me down and if it didn't happen the way I wanted, because not the best for me.
And never make it easy for you.
That's the question.
Okay, in short
I'm just going to answer this not to answer practical steps to remove arrogance from our heart. I did a series on YouTube you all know that you achieve our agenda Institute YouTube. And it's undermining also I did one hour about elegance is the obstacles to my it's a series called The obstacle to my path to Omaha. And one of them is actually was elegance because it's a huge obstacle. Hi Nicola homologue, a handicap shadow.
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