Attaining Inner Peace In Times Of Trials Uk

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hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah. All praise due to a law may allow us peace and blessings beyond the last messenger of Allah.

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attaining inner peace,

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in times of trial

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speaks about or addresses

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we as individuals,

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as a community

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can achieve the equilibrium

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the balance

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which distinguishes the believers from the disbelievers.

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Allah describes us, as Martin was at

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the middle

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the nation that has the balance,

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that is

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in harmony with a laws creation.

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Inner Peace

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is an expression of this harmony.

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And there is a particular Hadith from Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam.

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in which

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he laid for us

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the foundation for the equilibrium.

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The foundation for the equilibrium

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was exemplified

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Islamic Maxim

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when, when

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the winwin Maxim

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was expressed by Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam

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in a hadith

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narrated by sohaib even

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in which the prophets wa sallam said algebra one amaryl men in America who law higher

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the affair of the believer is amazing.

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The whole of his life has beneficial

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Walesa, luckily I had in a moment

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and that is only in the case of the believer

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in a Saba to Surah Shakur, Africana highroller.

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When good times come to him, he is thankful and it is good for him. When the Sahaba to the raw sabara for can hire Allah and when bad times befall him, he is patient, and it is good for him.

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This is the winwin Maxim

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as divinely revealed,

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it addresses two essential elements in human life necessary to achieve the harmony, harmony within the individual harmony within the family.

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balance within the community within the nations.

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The two key elements are gratitude and patience,

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gratitude and patience. When good times come to the believers

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they are thankful

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and as such they're rewarded

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and when bad times before them, when trials before them, they are patient

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and they are rewarded.

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is praised in the Quran and the Sunnah

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in many verses and in many hadiths,

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just to mention

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one from each,

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from the Quran in surah Ibrahim

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Verse seven,

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live in Chicago to La zedan nakum. If you give thanks, I will give you more.

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The more thanks you give,

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the more you get.

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And from the prophet SAW Selim,

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he said,

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any servant who is blessed by Allah and says Alhamdulillah that is thanks to Allah will be given better than what he has just received.

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My name Allahu Allah I begin near mutton for call Al Hamdulillah Ella cannon lady Otto, who asked Allah Mima have

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any servant who is blessed by a law and says Alhamdulillah will be given better than what he has just received.

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On the other hand,

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the opposite of gratitude, in gratitude

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disgraced in the Quran and the Sunnah.

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There are many texts, which speak against it, which warn against it.

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In the Quran, that in gratitude is even referred to as Cofer

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A form of code for code for Namah.

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Allah says, in the same chapter that we looked at Abraham, verse seven, while in cafaro tomb, in other Elijah deed, but if you disbelieve, indeed, my punishment will be severe. If you give thanks, I will give you more. And if you don't give thanks that is, if you disbelieve, you don't recognize what I've given you. Then my punishment will be severe.

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And from the Sunnah, Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam said in a hadith narrated in Santa Ana Timothy authentically

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man lamarsh Quran nasce lamea escuela

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whoever does not thank people

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does not thank Allah.

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One who doesn't thank people does not thank Allah

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cannot thank Allah.

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much of what is given us is given through people.

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Allah chooses people

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as the means by which his mercy, His grace, his beneficence is bestowed on us.

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So by not thanking those people, were in fact, not thanking a lot.

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Though some people will say our shoukry law, thanks belongs to Allah. These people are only means. However, the prophet SAW Selim told us we must thank those people too. Yes, we have to believe ultimately, it's coming from our last man to Allah. But we must thank people when Allah gives us things through them, because that is a means of encouraging them

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to continue to do good.

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Allah will give us whether we thank him or we don't thank him. Human beings will give us if we thank them, but if we don't thank them, they won't give us

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that's the nature of human beings. So in order to encourage them to continue to do good,

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we are obliged to thank them.

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On the other hand, patience

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also has a number of supporting texts in the Quran and the Sunnah, praising it.

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We can find in Surah Baqarah, verse 155, will enable and accomplish a man on how fuels jewelry will not consume mineral oil amphis was similar art, whereby she saw beauty in and certainly I will test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruit, but give glad tidings to the patient. Give glad tidings to the patient, glad tidings of what? Of paradise

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and from the Sunnah, Prophet Mohammed Salah Ahmed said in a Hadith, which is narrated in Sahih al Bukhari

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My or it I hadn't a thought and a thought on hi Ron. I'm in a Sabra. No one has been given a gift better or vaster than patience. No one has been given a gift better are vaster than patience. This is why patience is mentioned as one of the keys for success in this world and so alasa

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illallah Dena amanu, Aminu solly heart what also been Huck, whatever So, this summer

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all human beings will fail in this life, except for those who believe in the law.

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call each other to and do righteous deeds call each other to the truth

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and call each other to patience, remind each other to be patient.

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And on the other hand,

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impatience its opposite has been disgraced in both the Quran and in the Sunnah.

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In the Quran,

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Allah describes the human state as an impatient state saying, we have their own insanity sharee da who will hire Buchanan in Santa jhula.

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Human being praised for evil in his prayers for good.

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The human being is forever impatient.

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In his impatience, he prays for evil in his prayers for good

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instead of waiting,

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instead of being content, his impatience leads him to pray for what he thinks to be good, but in fact, it is evil. Allah didn't give it to him, because it wasn't good for him. But he is demanding it give me anyway.

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I know what's good for me.

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Is impatience.

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Is is destruction

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from the Sunnah.

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There is a narration

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reported in both Sahih al Bukhari and Muslim as soon as tirmidhi Abu huraira related that Alliance messenger said,

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Any man who calls on a law

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or woman who calls on a law in prayer will be answered.

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Any man or woman

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who calls in a law in prayer,

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their prayer will be answered.

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It is either granted to him or her in advance in this life.

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It is either granted to him or her in advance in this life, or stored away for him or her in the next life

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is either granted in advance in this life, or stored

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for him or her in the next life.

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As long as there is a condition

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as long as he or she does not pray for something sinful.

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As long as they don't pray for something sinful, or for breaking family ties.

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Or for breaking family ties.

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mother and dad are upset with son or daughter. And they prayed to a law

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to break those family ties not accepted by law.

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And as long as he or she is not impatient,

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as long as he or she is not impatient.

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When the companions of the Prophet SAW Selim asked him, How is one impatient with regards to da

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How is one impatient He replied, by saying I called on my Lord, and He did not answer my prayer for me.

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I called on my Lord, and He did not answer my prayer for me.

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So one who expresses this

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will not have

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Prayer answered,

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impatience in da

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will cancel our laws accepting that law. That is how serious impatience can be.

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We all

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know as Muslims, that gratitude and patience are basic principles, which each and every one of us must develop.

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They were exemplified in the life of Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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When he prayed at night, till his ankles were swollen, and his wife, companions asked him, Why are you doing this to yourself when ALLAH is forgiving your sins of the past and the sins of the future? And he said, What? Shouldn't I be a thankful servant?

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Shouldn't I be a thankful servant?

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This was the way of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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When he went to carry the message to tarrif

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relatives of his they're stoned him, chased him out of the city and stoned him.

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stoning him until blood, clogged his sandals.

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And when he was given the option to have that city destroyed,

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what did he say?

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Perhaps they would come may believe in people from their children.

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He was patient, you and I, if that happened to us, we would have told the angel Yes, wipe them out.

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But Prophet Mohammed says alum

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looked positively into the future, saying perhaps a believing people would come from among them.

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So gratitude and patience

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should be a part of our characters. as Muslims, it should be practically demonstrated in our families.

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It should be practically demonstrated in our communities.

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On the world scale,

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there is so much which could be said about the importance of gratitude.

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Muslims today unfortunately,

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with wealth,

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they have not shown gratitude.

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Instead, that wealth is used to enjoy, so busy enjoying that they have forgotten that this is from Allah subhanaw taala. So they squander that wealth,

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and all kinds of corruption

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instead of using it, to spread the word of a law

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and to relieve a lot of servants in the earth.

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in times of difficulty when it comes, instead of depending on the believers,

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they depend on the disbelievers.

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They make the disbelievers their friends and their allies instead of the believers.

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This is in gratitude and impatience on a international scale.

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But taking it back down to the individual,

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how does one develop gratitude?

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If we are by nature,

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on thankful, thankless,

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we have to be reminded, even as little children, we have to teach our children to be thankful. Otherwise, you give them something they will take it then they're gone finish. They got it. That's what's important. I got it. But we have to teach them, train them raise them to be thankful.

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So how do we if we have reached adulthood, and we don't display proper gratitude in our lives, how do we bring it into

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Lies because we need to understand practically how we can change ourselves to make a difference. Well

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for gratitude fundamentally,

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it involves recognition of our laws favorites, as the law said and soon

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as the law said in store

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Omar become mania Martin Femina law, whatever blessings

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you have, are from Allah.

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Whatever blessings you have,

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are from Allah

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in Surah Al ahzab verse nine yeah you're lilina amanu owes Kuru Nia moto la de la come Are you will believe remember a laws favor on you.

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Remember, a laws favor on you.

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It's a stress on reflecting on the favors of a law

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and from the Sunnah of

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Prophet Muhammad sallahu wa sallam had said,

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on the row element as Fela min comb will attend loo Illa men who come

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look at those who are less fortunate than you or not those above you

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for who are aggi Darrow and lattice deru Nia Mata Loya Aleikum,

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it is better for you, in order that you do not deny what Allah has blessed you with.

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Look at those less fortunate than you those below you and not those above you. It is better for you in order that you do not deny what Allah has blessed you with another narration the last element said, if you look at one who is above you, then look at one who is below you. Because we can help it. We stole this generally don't look to those above you. But we can't help it. Somebody drives by with a new car

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is nice.

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But the problems are seldom said knowing that this is our nature, you see that new car, go look in their old car, and your car, you know is in between, you know?

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So though our nature will cause us to look at those above us problem told us always whenever that happens, the remedy for it. So it doesn't go into our hearts. And then drives us

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to want whatever anybody else wants has. This is what the society is promoting. Look at what we have look at what the rich and the famous have so that we don't feel satisfied. We don't feel contented with what we have, even though what we have is much more than many people in this world. But we are driven to want to have what they have.

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So we get credit cards, we live on credit and it's a

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Unfortunately, many Muslims are caught up in it.

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On the other hand,

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patience, how does one gain patience?

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This is perhaps the more difficult one.

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Gratitude we've been trained to be grateful as Muslims, our parents reminded us growing up etc. But patience, this one is most difficult.

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Because it is not just recognizing something you have to do something.

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Recognizing a laws favor, makes you grateful. But what do you do to make yourself patient?

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Most of us we say well, you know

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how there are some people you know who are very patient you say they've been blessed by Allah.

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How do I become patient?

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In fact,

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Western thought, promoted impatience

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that we don't be patient.

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When things upset you what do you do? control yourself and be patient no fly off the handle.

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explode, get it off your chest

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as they say, because if you keep it inside, you know it's boiling around inside there, it's going to hurt you. So better you let it off, let off steam explode.

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neurologists studying the effects of explosions of this type on the brain found that

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it isn't better to get it off your chest, because every time you explode, small capillaries, small blood vessels in the brain burst.

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They burst and you can see an angry person, you can see all the veins and everything sticking out next. So you can imagine the very small

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blood vessels, very small ones with linings very, very thin. Sure enough, bursting in the brain. It's not good. So what the prophet SAW Selim said latok

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Don't get angry, he was right.

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And if you're angry when you're standing, sit down.

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And if you're still angry, lie down.

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This was the advice of the prophet SAW Selim.

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Don't let it out. So how then does one become patient?

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In a hadith

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by Abu Seidel, Audrey

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found in Sahih al Bukhari

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the prophet SAW Selim said,

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My IATA sub bar, you submit your whole law

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Maya sub bar, you Sabir hula

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whoever feigns patience, he pretends to be patient.

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A law will give him patience.

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This is a prophetic formula. One might say this is hypocrisy.

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You are pretending to be patient and exploding inside.

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This is hypocrisy. But the prophet SAW Salim said no.

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You pretend to be patient, knowing that patience is what is best what what Allah has commanded.

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struggling with it.

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Then, eventually,

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you will gain that patience.

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In another narration

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from Ayesha Yolanda, she calls the prophet SAW Selim is saying in a humble Amelie La La he my Dharma, what in call, indeed the best, most beloved deeds to a law

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is the one done consistently or constantly, even if it is small,

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the one done constantly consistently, even if it is small.

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practicing patience,

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pretending to be patient,

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done on a continual basis, consistently, it will create in the individual patience, ultimately.

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And this is a general rule for all of the various characteristics that a Muslim should display

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all of them.

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It is a principle addressed to patients, which is among the most difficult of characteristics to develop. But it's a general principle for all

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generosity, for example.

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This is difficult. Our nature is to be stingy, to keep for ourselves.

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But if we pretend to be generous, we force ourselves to do acts of generosity.

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At first, it may feel very

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contrived, very unreal, you feel fake, phony, counterfeit,

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but doing it continually, regularly, eventually

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Law puts it in your heart,

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and so on and so forth.

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So even when we come to prayer,

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when we hear of

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Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam and his companions, praying and crying in their prayers,

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and we ask ourselves, why don't we cry in our prayers? How does one cry in his prayers?

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something missing in our lives,

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we cry over a lot of other things.

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When you get a new car,

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and those jealous people around, you see it and they come out and they slash all four of your tires, you come out, you break down into tears,

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very easily

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over material things very easy to cry,

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but to cry for a law

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and prayer,

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this one we find so difficult.

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So how

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we do it by

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forcing ourselves to cry,

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forcing ourselves to cry artificially,

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not bawling, you know. So it becomes a scene that you're showing off to people, you know, people hear you in your prayer room, not like this. When you're on your own. When you're praying to try to get up for tahajud, then

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try to force yourself to cry.

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Try to think about some things in our lives, which we are ashamed of something we know Allah knows about, we really shouldn't have done it, we feel bad about it. And by

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pressing ourselves, eventually, some tears will come.

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And if we do this, on a regular basis, we tried to do it from time to time consistently, then our hearts will soften.

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So all of the characteristics, which we tend to think that was the Sahaba you know, we are

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2006. UK

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How can you expect this from us?

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reality is that Islam is Islam.

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Islam is Islam 1400 years ago, 1400 years hence, it's the same Islam. Everything that was possible in those days, is possible now and will be possible in the future.

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It is only for us to follow the guidance. And to do it.

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Inner Peace is what the world seeks.

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We have it

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if we only take it, it's been given to us it is there in Islam.

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we are living the same search as the non Muslims. So we seek the inner peace from the material things around ourselves. If I get a big car, a big house, kids, lots of money in the bank, I will be happy, I will find my inner peace. Reality is no

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it will not come from these things.

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Inner Peace is something it is an affair of the heart.

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A person can find inner peace, with nothing having nothing of the material world.

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Yet the inner peace is there.

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what we need to come away from or come away with today

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from this presentation

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is a practical approach

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to developing in our lives. Gratitude and patience,

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gratitude and patience which should be manifest

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in our families

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in our workplace.

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are places of study

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everywhere that we are, it should be there with us.

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But for that to take place,

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we have to make a change

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that requires change.

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We cannot continue the way we have

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done up until this point,

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a change has to take place in our lives.

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These points that I've mentioned, gratitude and patience is something that I'm sure you have heard 1000 times before.

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Maybe not exactly in the same way that I presented it. But you've had lectures on patience. You've had lectures on gratitude. And now I gave you a lecture on gratitude and patience.

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we have to ask ourselves,

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why did we come here

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today, and this conference?

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Did we come here for entertainment?

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Many people go to conferences, for entertainment, to be entertained.

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We have a new speaker coming, we have a different speaker coming, whatever. He's going to entertain us.

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Spiritual entertainment.

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But nonetheless, for entertainment.

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Some people come to socialize.

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Meet people we haven't met for the last few months or whatever good to see them sit around, eat meal, chat about life and things, etc. socializing.

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Some people come because of peer pressure.

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All my friends are going, I gotta go. I don't really feel like going. But since everybody is going, I may as well go to.

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Some people come to conferences for what? For romance.

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There are people who come to conferences for romance.

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Maybe they might see a sister

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or meet a brother who has a sister.

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So they're coming to the conference for romance to get married.

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Other people come

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in this case, for example, to see BP

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who's BP

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below Phillips.

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We haven't seen him for a year, you know, let's see what it looks like. Now. A year later.

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Come to see the speakers there. I saw him

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heard his lectures and I never seen him before I got a chance to see him there.

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Some people come

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because they know that the conference is a good thing. So they've been doing a lot of bad things. So let me go do a good thing to erase some of those bad things.

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And then some people come to boost their he man he man is low. When they come they hear the speaker etc. A man comes up rises. They're around other people who are keen, etc. They hear them speaking good speaking things about Islam etc. that boosts their Eman.

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So people come for a variety of different reasons.

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But reality is, if we didn't come prepared to make a change,

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this evening will be a waste of time.

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This evening will be a waste of time.

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time wasted, which will be asked about on the Day of Judgment, your time and how you spent it.

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time wasted

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if we didn't come prepared to make a change.

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Without that

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we practice what the psychologists call obsessive behavior.

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obsessive behavior, what is obsessive behavior

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where you keep doing the same thing.

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While expecting different results,

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you did the thing, you didn't get the result, you should have gotten, you did it again, you still didn't get the result you should have gotten, you keep doing this thing over and over again,

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a different result. But in reality, if you keep doing the same thing, you will keep getting the same result.

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They also call this banging your head against the wall.

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This is a syndrome banging your head against the wall, the wall is not gonna break, your head is gonna hurt every time you bang it on the wall.

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This is called obsessive behavior.

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psychological disorder.

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This is what we are displaying.

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We come to conference, after conference after conference.

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And we go back unchanged

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the same way we were before the conference.

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During the conference, yes, we felt this way in that way. But after the conference, we're back to where we were

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till the next conference.

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Isn't this obsessive behavior.

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The only way out of this

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is change.

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That is the only way for us to change. But what's the problem about changing? People say change takes a long time. Rome wasn't built in a day

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takes a long time to change.

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You can teach an old dog new tricks.

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Leopard doesn't change his spots.

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Hawk has a statement basically saying you can't change.

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But reality is that we do change.

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We change in other ways.

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And in fact, change is instantaneous.

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If you think about it change is actually takes place instantaneously.

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Because there is a moment in time

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when you either started doing something you weren't doing,

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or you stopped doing something you were doing.

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It was a moment, a moment in time. Prior to that moment you used to do this thing. After that moment, you no longer did it.

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Prior to that moment, you didn't use to do this thing. After that moment. You now do it.

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You can remember when you started doing this particular thing. So change itself

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is instantaneous.

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So what is it that takes time?

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What is it that takes a long time? If it isn't changed? What is it?

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Tell me

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preparation? Yeah. Getting ready to change. Making up our minds to actually change.

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Getting away from saying I'll think about it, inshallah.

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Sometime one day.

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This is what takes a long time.

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This is what takes a long time.

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The day when we decided to grow our beards.

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It was that day, we stopped shaving. Stop using the razor finish. The grip beard started to grow.

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But to decide that we're going to stop shaving. That's what took time.

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So many things working against us. Parents saying you don't look good.

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at your workplace saying no.

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That's not professional.

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The wife saying it's uncomfortable stubble.

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Everything around you

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saying don't.

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But you reached the point where you said, Well, this is what the prophet sallallahu wasallam said,

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I have to obey Him.

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And I'm going to do it. Regardless.

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This is what we have to walk away with today.

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We have to walk away with a decision to make a change in our lives.

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To make gratitude and patience, reality,

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to find that inner peace

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Our hearts are touched, when we hear the Quran

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whereby our eyes filled with tears, when we pray

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whereby we truly fear Allah taqwa becomes a reality.

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my brothers

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to help us

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on the way

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and this principle of change applies

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to all of the things that we have to do.

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It is the same principle we have to look at when we consider ramadan

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ramadan, which is around the corner, preparing for Ramadan. I had a talk

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which I was supposed to give today on preparing for Ramadan, but it's the principle is here.

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It's the same thing.

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Same thing I was going to talk about

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Ramadan to Ramadan.

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Have we changed?

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Is there any difference?

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We pray more during Ramadan but as soon as we come out of Ramadan, it's the same we're back to where we were. obsessive behavior.

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obsessive behavior, we keep

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banging our heads on the ground.

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And in the end,

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it hasn't changed us. Though a lot smarter. Allah said in a Salatin hand, in fact shall Moncure indeed, Salah regular prayer, prevents evil speech and evil deeds. But we are cursing, swearing, telling lies, slandering, evil speech continues, and our evil deeds continue

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all of this because we have not committed ourselves to change.

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And Islam is about change.

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I lost my dollar said in the law, Hello eromanga. Coleman had a euro mabie and fusi him. Indeed a law will not change a people.

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The condition of my people

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until they change what is in themselves.

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That is about change.

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So we have to change

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our attitudes.

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We have to change our habits.

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We have to walk away from this conference with a clear commitment to change

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to change in accordance with the Quran and the Sunnah.

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So we read the Quran, pondering over its meanings,

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not reading it ritualistically in a parrot fashion.

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We seek knowledge sincerely. We seek to find out about the religion

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because that knowledge

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is the foundation of the faith. Without proper knowledge,

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we will be subject to the tricks and the traps of Satan.

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There are many sincere people in this world

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but sincerely a straight

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seeking knowledge is

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an obligation, the opportunity is here.

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We have this Masjid in our midst. There are programs prepared

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lessons that we can take advantage of.

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for us not to do so is ultimately only to harm ourselves.

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And we need to reflect on death.

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We need to reflect on death. Proverbs are Salam called it, the destroyers of pleasures, the pleasure destroyer.

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When we reflect on death, the pleasures of this life, lose their allure. They're not so beautiful anymore.

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So, we need to go to the graveyards.

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We need to follow the dead when we come to the masjid when somebody is Salah. janaza prayer is being said, Follow them, go to the graveyards, get the reward, get the spiritual benefit.

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And we need to be in the company of the righteous, those who are patient, those who display gratitude in their actions, who fear a law.

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So it can rub off on us.

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And we need to do as many righteous deeds as we can.

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not considering any righteous deed too small to do.

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Nor considering any sin

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too small to be considered.

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novice as Alam said, er Come on Mohawk karate noob beware of the score and sins, the little sins.

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When we say it is only a small sin, I'm doing so many other good things that small thin allies have for him.

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But what we may consider to be small,

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a law may consider to be big.

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So, my brothers and sisters,

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I asked you this evening

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I asked you to make a commitment along with me.

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commitment to change.

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All those

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and we are here in the house of Allah.

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All those ready

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to make a change.

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From this evening onwards, a real change

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in their lives in our lives. Sisters and brothers. Raise your right hand.

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This is before Allah subhanho wa Taala

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I asked a lot to give us the tofik to make it happen.

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barakallahu li calm