Qada & Qadr #3

Bilal Assad


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The Preston mosque website or their Facebook page, press the mosque is also called a formidable mosque. And,

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you know, if you need to review an update yourself, so you understand today's lesson, you have to go back and listen to those other lessons as well.

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Just in case you might have some other questions as I talk, than we would have answered them in the other lessons.

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Some people they listen to a talk a lecture or a presentation, and it's only part of a big series.

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And then they're left without the answers, and some people miss out or they don't bother to listen to the whole information. So I urge you Inshallah,

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today, I'm going to talk about the relationship

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between Kadar

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and what we call dua

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is the horror,

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And a few other questions in between them. Questions that people get confused about when I think about fate and destiny.

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The first thing I want to introduce today's topic with is the following.

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My brothers and sisters, Islam

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came to teach us that a Muslim uses his intellect and his reasoning.

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Islam did not come to us so that we can close our eyes

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and not use our minds, our brains.

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Quite the opposite.

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It is when the time that people used to worship idols and put their trust

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in celestial planets, statues, deities, Islam came and stopped all of this nonsense. When people used to believe in hism, isms, bad omens, they see something they say this is a bad omen. They see somebody, something happens and they say it's because of him or her.

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They used to do little things is to buy talismans and do little tricks.

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And if something happens, they predict what's going to happen next.

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There's a name for it in Islam called Play era.

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It's done in many forms even till today.

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There are people call themselves psychics, tarot readers, palm readers. There are people who still believe in zodiac signs,

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astrology, they look at the stars.

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And I think that their parents during the year, tell them about their future with a personality

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born in January, or this born in February or that, and he talks about personality. This is like 10 10,000 years ago, a lot eradicated that threw the property with him and yet people still do it. And these are people highly intelligent, in areas of science or maths or engineering or they, they invent they, these people fish, and they still believe in this stuff.

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It's like the humans always want something to try and predict the future. When this is impossible, you cannot predict your future. Nobody knows the future My dear brothers, sisters,

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and even among the Muslims today, I'm going to touch on this where they put heavy emphasis

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on Supernatural signs.

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Too much emphasis on dreams. Too much emphasis on

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you will know that it is the harder for example too much emphasis.

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Too much emphasis on

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relying on Allah's Will God and not doing anything themselves.

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Too much emphasis on God will heal me without resorting

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to medicine which Allah created for us.

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Muslims today have kind of fallen into these traps as a result of ignorance, lack of knowledge about Kadosh Kadosh and belief in Allah what it means

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and mixing it with other past beliefs Greek theology, astrology,

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the ancient Babylonian beliefs

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They mix it with other religions, Buddhism, Hinduism, sometimes.

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Such as when somebody goes to the grave of a saint, they call him a saint, we don't know if they're a saint or not. And I think that by calling upon that dead person, they're going to help them in their life. When I forgot that same dead person, even if they were a saint,

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and when they were alive,

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they got sick, and I couldn't prevent the sickness from themselves. They died, they couldn't do anything about that.

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They had problems, they couldn't get rid of those problems. Yet these people go to them to say, Help me get rid of my problem. When they died of those problems,

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there are people who believe in good luck charms,

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charms, they hang them up. And they believe in them that they will help their future or they tell them something about themselves.

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The list goes on.

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So we are here in sha Allah,

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to give your brains and your hearts, rest and A's

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and to bring you back to reality.

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And that Islam is not about illogical always, there are some illogical things such as the way we make will do. Why would you wipe over your sock? Why would you clean your feet when you lose, you will do these acts of worship. There are spiritual side of it. But they have nothing to do with predicting your future. deciding your fate. Based on that you make decisions in life.

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You wait for a coin, or a feather, or a dream catcher, or a blue, the blue eye that some people wear or even the Quran they put the Quran through pouches and we're around them or eight and kursi some people believe if you wear it, it's somehow it's going to do something for you. That's like the example of having a headache.

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Headache. And then you buy Panadol from the pharmacy, you keep it in his pocket and wrap it around your neck, is your head are gonna go if you wrap around Panadol around your neck. Can you imagine someone that would be a sight to see someone believing I'll rub the Panadol around my neck and my headache will go. Same with the Quran. Yeah, he was sent down so you can recite it, read it and learn from it. And a lot of people they memorize the Quran, which is amazing. But they forget to understand the essence and the teachings and the message that the Quran has. Everything in Islam is precisely real.

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We use our brains, we use a range of reasoning, reason to reason as I mentioned more than 30 times in the Quran, using our brain, using our intellect,

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believing in cause and effect to the laws that Allah created in this world. And if for example, if I say, ask you, or if you ask someone

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who's hungry, or thirsty,

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go and drink if you're thirsty, go and eat if you're thirsty, and then they say to you,

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Allah has already written and decided my food and drink in my life.

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So if he has willed it, the food and drink will come to me. And then they don't do anything. Can you imagine someone saying that? There'll be another site to see. Wouldn't it be pretty foolish? No one will say that in their right mind. Yet, they'll say, I'll just wait for Allah's Cadore uncover and then they don't do anything. Or if something goes wrong, they say

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you know, they don't they don't look at what they did wrong at all. Or whether they did right. Some and this this happens to some Muslim populations these days where they just sit down do nothing anymore. Not productive anymore. Don't seek anymore. Everything got to do with materialism and dunya they put it aside completely. And some people some Muslims have resorted just to rely on Tawakkol just rely on Allah. Yeah, you just rely on Allah. What does relying on Allah mean? Relying on Allah means that you take measures as well. You research you investigate, you do your part, you take steps you seek advice, you learn your research.

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You use your brain, all of that is part of Tawakkol all of those parts of relying on Allah, Who created your intellect who created the means, who created the medicine who created the knowledge who created the physics, Allah created that why so you can seek it and use it.

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But we have to wait for something because human beings nature we gotta wait for something out of this world. And when Allah shows us something out of this world, the more we see it, we get used to it and then we no longer we forget that it was a miracle. The mere breathing of oxygen is a miracle that Allah created but we don't pay attention to it. Why? Because it's now normal to us.

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We have to wait for something like what they said to the prophets bring down the angel

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was bring down God bring down. The many miracles happened before and they died off with them. We have hamdulillah the Quran with us. And it's full of guidance and reasoning fe. So a Muslim lives their life in between taking precautions, using their intellect, taking steps learning and getting advice and coupled with that, they never forget to rely on Allah with it. They never forget to have worship, they never forget to make dua, they never forget that nothing can happen without his will. But at the same time, you cannot do anything without his will. And that all cause and effect is part of his will too. So keep going. Allah says, What Kalia Malou say oh Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam say

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to them Malou act, do move for say Allah Who I am Allah Karim. Allah is looking and judging your actions. Say Allah, Allahu Allah, Allah is looking at your actions, actions are all part of the process, the whole cover everything. So my brothers and sisters, I thought I make that introduction very clear.

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Next, I want to talk about a little bit the laws of conditions and causes since we have introductory introduced that in Arabic in the Sharia, it's called a speb. The reasons that things happen, that we can use common sense to predict.

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If I put my hand in the fire, it's going to burn. If I starve myself and don't eat, I'm not going to get nourishment. If I am thirsty, I drink. If I don't, I'm not going to get quenched. If I don't learn, I will stay ignorant, and so on. If I don't seek I will not reach.

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So the question that some people ask me is this

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If cutter is written and decided, why bother to take precautions and pay attention to causations?

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Why? If I'm going to fall in that hole, why should I even think of not walking next to it, I'll go walk next to it. And if it's written on fall

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these are all sites to see on there. They're just foolish.

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I will drive my car and I will not pay attention to the road or the steering wheel or anything. If I'm meant to crash, I'll crash

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is that right? I want to get married. But I'm not going to search or do any investigation or ask. If Allah wills it. She'll come to me. He'll and she's thinking the same nobody comes to anybody after.

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Yeah, we have to seek and this is all part of God's causations and precautions are part of God.

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Allah wrote causes and precautions as well. Allah wrote decision making actions as well. All of them together coupled. You can't understand the icon but Allah does this is his work.

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Medicine, for example, Roscoe. Salah salem said yeah, they said to him, yeah, rasool Allah or Atia adware net, Adobe, her yeah rasool Allah, you know, medication that we take for the purpose of helping us heal and treat us to treat us what we'll call Nastasia nostalgically be her and spiritual healing that we seek.

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Are they enough?

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What does that mean compared to Qatar? Where does this fit and approximate I've said I've said

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here I'm in Cuadrilla. This is part of Alaska. Medication medicine is part of Alaska.

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And the classic story of amaro the Allahu anhu, and the Great Plague of MOS you heard of that one? We probably repeated that so many times during COVID the plague of MOS

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at the time, Vamana Delano, he was the Khalifa. And there was another great companion among the 10 promised paradise aboard Baden matura.

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He was in charge of the people

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in our MOS in greater Syria, and the plague erupted and spread.

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And Amata the Allahu Anhu he made istikhara he asked Allah subhanaw taala for counsel and guidance, and he went there. But before he got there, he asked about the state of the people of IMLS. They said to Him, they have a plague on

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And it's spreading. Then he camped outside and got up in the morning and said, Nobody enters and nobody is allowed to exit.

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I will obey that Majora one of the great companions of Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came out and said a Ferran mencoder. Allah here Omar.

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Are you running away from the will?

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And predestination of Allah Allah?

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He hadn't entered yet. Amara, the Allahu Anhu said lo Colonel min Lee at aka albida.

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I wish someone else would have said this statement other than you, meaning I don't want to embarrass you, Ababa, you're among the scholars. I wish someone else would have asked this

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question that was not really thought out. Well, yeah, about albida. Now I'm a fellow Roman coder. ilaha illa, Catarina, yes, I run away from one color of Allah. And I enter into another color of Allah. This is all part of the process. He took the action and the cause is an investigated, and the fact that he made that decision and went there. This is also part of COPPA, Allah had written Omar will make the decision on investing and do the right thing. And they will save him from that and go into that there's all part of God. Do you understand my brothers and sisters? We don't eliminate one and accept the other. It's all together for you.

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The next question, Why has God made me this way? Some people ask, they get frustrated, something goes wrong in their life, something.

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They're created a certain way. They have a particular personality. They're either male or female. They're a particular color. They're a particular height. They're a particular look. All these things? Why did the Allah make me this way? They blame it on Allah. And what's funny, is that when things are going the way they want it to go,

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we often don't ask,

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why is Allah making it all good, then we don't think about that. We don't think about the good but only when the bad happens.

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My Dear Brothers and Sisters in Islam, we accept the way Allah made us.

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There is a reason for that and the purpose, some people say Why did someone so die of my family and I kept I was alive, why not me. Some people, they say that we say to them, because Allah has written a purpose for you, there's a need for you to continue living. When your time is finished. When your need in this world and your cover is done, then you will return back to Allah. But the fact that you're still living, it means that you are still needed and you're valued. You have a purpose in here.

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And that is why there was also a Salam said, There is nothing that happens to a believer except there is good in it. And they never assume of Allah to do an action except it has to be good and there is a blessing.

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Sometimes we say Why did Allah do this to me? Or Why did Allah allow it?

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But we fail to ask the question. Again, when things go well.

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And when we seek the pathway to successful action, we don't say Allah, we say we did it. I'm happy. I'm good. We don't question anything.

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My dear brothers and sisters, sometimes it is our doing.

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Sometimes I Why am I in this situation? Why did Allah put me in this situation? If I go back, you go backwards, follow your steps. Sometimes you got to look at did you put yourself in this situation? But now

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some people can't accept that. Look at your own actions. Allah never wants bad for us ever, ever. Sometimes we blame Allah. And there are verses in the Quran where Allah says call who I mean and they

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say to them, it is from yourselves. Yes, it is called that of Allah meaning Allah created the means for it. But you made that decision. Not Allah you made that decision. You chose learn from it.

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And there was always blessings in learning from our mistakes and teaching others this is how we grow as humans brothers and sisters.

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So a Muslim is never should never be pessimistic.

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What's pessimistic?

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Assuming negatively, about our future or about our cause, or about the reasons, Muslim finds a way to think optimistically, you can't get into that habit in sha Allah.

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My brothers sisters, there is no pessimism in Islam.

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There are no such thing as bad luck charms. bad omens are

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As I started my talk today

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sometimes some Muslims, they put God, they put they get Qatar, they, they assume Qatar, and they force it into a situation.

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And they themselves say, Kadar did this journey, I had no power myself. They interpret it their own way. When there is nonsense and no common sense,

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like when the example of when we you know a person wouldn't be it wouldn't you can't imagine that a person will drink poison and say that after they got sick or vomited, or died,

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and then says this was the color of Allah.

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You did it to yourself. Allah Amelie wrote it and knew that you're going to make that decision, but he didn't want it for you.

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Had you chosen not to you wouldn't have.

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So my brothers and sisters, law, there is no PR in Islam. There is no pessimism in Islam. And there is no such thing as basing it on Supernatural imagination imaginations and fantasies that we make up.

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Sometimes, a person is very desperate for something.

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And all the common sense around them tells them

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move away. Don't do it.

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And sometimes they want to do something.

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And they just want to do it right. So everything's, then I look up into the sky and see a cloud, a cloud.

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A cloud, you can make 1000 different images and pictures out of it. Isn't that right? It's an illusion. They see something. Say ah, that's my sign.

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How do you know that was your sign from Allah?

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See cloud a cloud.

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Let's say they saw a picture of a dog. Allah that's like that beautiful dog I saw the other day. This is a sign Subhanallah

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a young person is walking down the street. Stops looks on the other side. Says Hola.

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That's the girl of my dreams. There she goes.

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She vanishes

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he looks at the ground he was stepping on a 20 cent coin. He picks up the 20 cent coin he goes this is my good luck keeps it in his pocket goes to some shop coincidentally sees her there again. It's the good luck coin. The 20 cent coin 20 cent coin the Aussie 20 cent coin is good luck charm

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probably basis on that goes and ask for her gets married even though every sign about her is no gets you into a toxic relationship.

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there Dean is gone. Let's say oh the other way around so that sisters don't think we're picking on them. Sister does that with these charms and these good luck and bad luck and omens and Muslim never goes by that? Yeah. I'm just giving you general examples. And that's for everything else in life. I'll try to shake from salem said that basing things on on theory. Basing things on good luck or bad luck circumstances or actions or any kind of voodoo or or or whatever supernatural things that people do is Chinook. You're making * up with Allah because you're putting that power in this thing that it's going to predict your future

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psychics, palm readers, all that rubbish.

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My brothers and sisters, the next question is, if everything is written and decided by Allah, how come we make dua?

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What is Da Da is basically

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praying to Allah speaking to Allah calling upon Allah for many reasons, either you request something or you just want to speak to Allah. Or you just want to thank Allah or you just or you feel you want to complain your worries and sadnesses to Allah

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or you want to just want to get close to Allah dua is done for many reasons. Its closeness to Allah in every way. And Doha is worship, our entire Salat is up.

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And when we pray to Allah, anytime you want to call upon God, we also call it prayer. The DUA supplication calling upon Allah connecting with Allah.

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So the question is, if everything is written and decided, why do we need to ask Allah? Why do we need to call upon Allah? Just wait

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Don't let it happen.

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You see brothers and sisters the answer again, Allah willed, Allah willed and wrote both things, that what's going to happen to you and that you're going to make dua

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he knew in the future, something's going to happen or not happen because of your choice of what you did. And he knew you're going to make dua, and that's going to

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correct a pathway or do something or bring you something or some other course is going to be shaped because of the DUA that you made to Allah. Now you might be thinking, what I have the power to shape things No, you're doing dua, meaning you're calling upon Allah. So Allah is shaping things, but he is the one who's deciding if he will accept your DUA or not, or put it the way you want it or in his way, or give it to you now or delay it till later, or reshape it in a way that he sees fit. So at the end of the day, when you make a DUA, you are not really shaping anything, you are using the cause that Allah gave you, which is a gift, Allah gave you, this gift to make you feel like an

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individual who is good, who is blessed, honored, valued by Allah, and so that you can turn to Allah and get closer to him. And I'll explain a little bit more in sha Allah. Now what is my evidence that dua

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has a role in in Canada. In fact, the Prophet peace be upon him said

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in Dwyer young filming man as a woman male Amiens dua can benefit can benefit you. Whether it is for something that has already been decreed and came down from Allah, and it will benefit you against anything which has been decreed but it has not yet come down, had not yet happened.

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Follow a coma about Allah Hebrew. Salam said oh worshippers of Allah. Make dua dua has an effect on predestination.

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Hell, the Prophet peace be upon him also said

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he said, lazy to filler on Maury, Ill bear

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nothing increases in your lifespan your age, except I'll be I'll be remains when you do good on to others, but especially your parents. And another Hadith it says those who are dutiful to their parents, their lifespan may be prolonged in goodness, and those who connect their family ties. Their lifespan is affected, it goes longer. Another Hadith says that if you connect your family ties and you're good to your parents, then your risk your provision is increased and blessed.

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your route de cada Illa dua, and nothing repels Kadar predestination except for dua.

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How does that make sense?

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Doha repels predestination, your lifespan that was written for you, when you're in your mother's womb.

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If you're good to your parents, suddenly the world is changed and your life is longer. Your is what you're supposed to get in your life, your provision your sustenance, suddenly, because you're good to others, good to your parents family ties, you get more how does that make sense? Again, the answer is in color itself. It was the color of Allah that dua will change the original color hell. I'll give you the statement of the scholars. They said and this is based on the Quran that there is a preserve the tablet, the book of decree, we call it a law calls it in the Quran, Allah hell muffles. In that book of decree, it is with Allah no one knows what is in it in it is written every

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single thing that will ever be, and it was written in there 50,000 years before the creation of creation, the Hadith in Bukhari and Muslim. However,

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the angels are given duties and orders that come out from that book of decree in a manner befitting and known only to Allah. When these angels take let's say, for example, a person's life is to a person is to die on this date.

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The book of decree, the book of decree has released one quarter and the Angel of Death carries that order to go and take your life. Then Allah Subhana Allah releases

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the final quarter. So let's double A double quarter from the book of decree. And an order is given to the angel. Saba, Kolkata. The other quarter has beaten this quarter. I

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I've written for this person another lifespan.

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So if you want to understand technically this is really to Allah subhanaw taala it means just to encourage you that yes you're doing

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your goodness to your parents, you're connecting your family ties and general goodness on to others when you sacrifice and commit for the in a way that pleases Allah.

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What was meant to happen to you can be changed.

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But it's not really changing. It just means that Allah had two destinies for you. And he suspended he held one Destiny based on your action. Why? To show the angels to show the angels the magnificence of this beautiful worshiper number two, to lift your value by your own hands on a day of judgment he lifts you and says this person made light and connected with me and relied on me. Why would I not? Sir, why would I not give him our no honor him or her but the other person just didn't do anything relied on themselves. So I left them to be I left them to their own actions into the world. That's it but today they have nothing. Also to make you feel that you weren't you have a

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relationship with Allah. It's a two way thing. It's a two way thing. Allah wants you to feel connected to him to two way thing that's why Allah says we're either sir Allah Kariba the Omni if my servants asked you about me, for India Kareem I am always close or Gee Buddha to die either done I will respond to the person who calls upon me if they continue to call upon me. Allah wants you to call upon Him all the time. That is the relationship the two way relationship between you and Allah. And Allah has given us this gift that I will change while I had made the decree but I've held it

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based on what I know you're going to do. Do you understand?

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Rasul Allah Allah wa salam also says,

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Mansour, Raha Anoop SatoLA, who Feteasca he o Yun ser la houfy authority, he fell jasola Rahima the Hadith in Bukhari and Muslim I just said it before, whoever would like that his lifespan be expanded, and that his risk and his provision be blessed. And given more than let them connect their family ties.

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Now, you might be thinking what happened to medicine and being healthy and doing exercise and taking precautions because doctors give us advice that, you know, there's studies that show that certain parts of the world they live a healthy lifestyle, and studies have shown that they live longer, and these ones live shorter. That's also true by brothers and sisters. Again, all those circumstances are part of Allah's cuddle. They're all together intertwined. But added, added to those reasons is Donna. And being good to your parents, and connecting your family ties, just like medicine, heels, Allah has created other non tangible Yianni things that you can't know you can't touch them, you

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can't feel them, like acts of goodness to your parents are also a healing and a medicine.

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Do you understand, and truly, if you even if you look at it scientifically, and medically, people who have a connection with their parents in their family are happier overall than anyone else who has cut off from their parents or they live in a relationship that is toxic, or cut off and so on. Even if it's toxic, they say get out of it. But still they're not they wish that their parents were connected. And honestly, when you have Allah and when you know that Allah is telling you, whatever you do good I will preserve it. I know everything you are doing. Suddenly, you're not only relying on your relationship with your parents, even if it's bad, you know that so long as you are doing

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good, your heart is at ease your soul is at ease your mind is if you're a believer in Allah, why because you know, your connection with Allah is stronger. And the fact that you are doing this for Allah and it's never going to be lost, nothing is lost. Nothing is lost. Some people that are in a relationship with their parents is lost. It's as if they've got nothing else left or with their loved one their girlfriend or their boyfriend or their wife or their husband, or their friend or their children or their whatever it is. When your connection with Allah is stronger, you are able to work through the pain and struggles in life more effectively and better than average and normal

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people my brothers sisters, you can that is that side as well. So both

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beautiful Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he says Lyocell codons are what we are utterly journeyman, obeying Allah or they were Sena

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Rasul, Salah Salem. And this hadith is in Sofia new measure and Tirmidhi. He said that when you make

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the corridor, the corridor that is meant to come down, and your DUA may halfway

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In the sky, and they begin to wrestle each other,

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they begin to wrestle each other, one of them beats the other and the other one is repelled. The stronger your DUA, the stronger it is against the primary coder which brings the secondary coder

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that Allah already knew. But because of you, because of your work because of what you did, Allah gives you that control.

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So, why do we make dua anyway, the, the beauty of it is this, it is as a means for having a relationship with Allah, connection, love, hope, humbleness, and all of the emotions between you and God. Number two, dua itself is a created reason and means means to your provision. And what will happen for example, when we said don't eat and drink and it will come to you're going to say that's absurd, same the diet, don't make diet and expect no make dua and things will come in sha Allah. Number three as a means as Daya is a means to seek from Allah his extra bounties and gifts to you. It becomes having hope in Him and acknowledging that from him comes everything with Da there is a

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means of empowerment. And that's why it also SallAllahu sallam said, Milan Yes, Ella, young Bali whoever does not ask Allah, Allah will be angry with them.

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Because by making dua, you're acknowledging that Allah is the Giver, he is the bounty giver. He is the one who gives everything so when you don't it's as if you're saying Oh Allah, I don't really trust in you. You've given up on him Allah gets angry with that ask me Come closer to me. He says how beautiful. It was also Salim said there are people who don't get the diet answered because they hasty, they hasty. They want it now.

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They're impatient.

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They say there are salah, are they these types of people who says yes, they go hell. He said,

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he or she comes to my door. First time, second time, third time, fourth time, nothing happens. They give up and no longer make dark.

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Maybe early Allah subhanaw taala says to you Don't be hasty, it may be not good for you right now.

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Just wait.

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Your prayers, my dear brothers sisters are answered

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all the time. But instead of saying answered I'd rather use the word responded to.

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They weren't be exactly as you Willdan wished, in fact, the great companions and the scholars used to say, if I don't get what I wanted, I am even happier. Because what I wanted was going to destroy me and my desires are great. But because Allah is in control of my own desires and wants, this is true. Amen. To really give your life and your

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your entire everything your destiny is with Allah subhanaw taala while doing what you can, and relaxing that Allah is on your side.

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My brothers and sisters

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Allah did say in the Quran, Wirkkala buco, Madera oni, Stingy obey Allah.

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And your Lord said, Call upon me, I will respond to you and sort of the sort of warfare How will they respond to you in the way Allah wishes and not how we wish. Number two, when Allah wishes

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and not when you wish. So,

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what in the way and also when, number three,

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so long as you are not asking for something forbidden haram

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such as cutting family ties, harm upon somebody. And number four,

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so long as your body and your entire life is not nourished all your life with haram.

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Haram consumption after consumption, haram drinks haram food haram wealth that you live by. That's a very important point my brothers and sisters.

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But even that can be reversed with repentance to Allah and changing your ways and watch what happens.

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Now a lot of people they think of DUA and goodness from Allah in materialistic things, money, food, clothing,

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you know, the soulmate house, car, job, no.

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These are temporary enjoyments and they come and go

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and they are not real happiness. They are not really that they help you. Yes. And you can ask Allah for them but sometimes Allah Subhana Allah gives you success in hell in here.

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In here, strength inside of you determination, you know, all entrepreneurs and experts of finance and money, they always tell you, it all starts with your mindset. Am I right or wrong? It starts with your mindset. Where does the mindset come from, from within a psychology a healthy psychology that's within you. That's what all those pantalla helps you with.

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And some people might say, Well, you might say, well, even non Muslims have a good psychology will say yes, but you see men, when things go wrong, when all doors are closed, they still have an answer to get out from. Whereas a disbeliever doesn't believe in Allah or anything. Wallahi my brothers and sisters, I've seen some of them become empty, commit suicide, destroy their lives, they don't know where they're going anymore. Because the hope is gone. If the hope in this world is cut off, at least the believer still has hope of the Hereafter, we still have hope and we know why we're here. But the other one has no hope. And sometimes even the disbeliever who doesn't even believe in Allah,

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when all doors are closed, they themselves find themselves calling upon God.

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My brothers and sisters,

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there are three ways Allah responds to your DUA. Number one, by actually giving the thing being asked, number two, or by warding off a harm that would have otherwise afflicted the person or number three, or as gifts, gifts, awaiting the person in the next life, which is the best form of being answered. Allah Subhanallah this hadith is a Mr. Muhammad. So this is how it works.

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Let's also SLM as we said, he said How amazing is the believers affair? Allah decrees nothing for the servant except that it is good for him. That's what the prophets Allah Salam said.

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Last two questions.

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If everything is written and decided, why make istikhara

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is the Hara is the torah is basically a prayer of seeking counsel from Allah. Or in other words, a prayer of seeking guidance on a decision that you are about to make. You don't know which way to go.

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You want to make a decision.

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One way or the other.

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And you would like Allah's counsel and guidance. There's a prayer for that. It's called istikhara.

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by you,

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in Sahara Buhari, there is a companion named gerbil or the Allahu Anhu who said

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the Prophet peace be upon him used to teach us that is the harder

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the way he taught us the verses of the Quran

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that's how amazing it is. And here are its words. Basically, you make will do

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and then you offer to other cars

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other than the compulsory ones or not, first of all, go to Austin McGraw berry shirt. Any other two cars, they can be the sooner

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and then you finish Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah and you lift your hands up, oh, in your suit, God can do it.

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You can do that. And then you say,

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I'll say it in English basically starts off Allahumma in the US, the hero cobia will make our stock a little cubby Karateka. But you can say it in English, oh, Allah. Verily, I seek the better of either choice from you,

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by your knowledge, and I seek

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the ability from you by your power. And I ask you from your immense bounty. For indeed you have power. And I am powerless. You have knowledge? And I not I know not. I don't have any knowledge. The only I don't know you are the Knower of the unseen realms. Got up to here. Then you say, Oh Allah, if you know that this matter.

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Let's say it's a marriage. Let's say it's a job. Let's say it's buying something. Let's say it's selling something, let's say, even tying a shoelace. You can use the quarter for anything. It's not just for serious matters, it can be for anything. So

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if our if you know that this matter is good for me, with regard to my religion,

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with regard to my livelihood, and with regard to my religion to my hereafter, and all my affairs

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and with regards to all my affairs,

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then decree it for me, make it happen for me.

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facilitate it for me, give me the means and the facilities to go about it.

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And grant me blessing in it.

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Give me blessings, through it, and with it,

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then you say,

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and if you know that this matter is not good for me with regard to my religion, my livelihood, and the end of my affairs, then turn it away from me and me away from it, and decree for me better than it wherever it may be, and make me content with it. Make me what content with it, this is the problem. This is the problem that last part and make me content with it. The other problem is that if you want it and you desire it, and the only reason you're doing this, the Hara is hoping

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you get the better deal based on what you want. This is a problem as well. If you just heard all the words of this the hara and I read them slowly. If you understood these words by the brothers and sisters, this is what you are saying to Allah and you must be in line with that meaning.

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But unfortunately, we take the first part and reject the rest of the part. So when you come to do and it's the hara, my dear brothers and sisters, it means that what you want, you have to put it aside

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and you are ready to accept whatever Allah brings out of it. Now, we have another problem.

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A lot of people put their trust too much in istikhara. And then they get so obsessive afterwards, with little nitty gritty, obsessive signs. And it makes them crazier if they were already crazy. Makes you go nuts. How weird and I come to the show, but this even drove us crazy. Yeah, it's the harder is not like that. It's not some voodoo or some special divine sign that's going to come down from heaven for you. That's not how it's the Hora works yeah, habibi.

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Some people they assume that after they make us the hara, they don't have to do anything. Don't ask. Don't investigate. Don't get advice. Don't research. Don't do anything. Just wait for God to give you that sign.

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Habibi, there is no sign to see or to touch or to feel from istikhara I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry if I disappointed you.

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But there's nothing in the sunnah to tell us. It's the hara has to do that. Some people think you've got to see a dream. Am I right? Everybody, nearly everybody thinks once you make this the Hara.

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They want to sleep early that night because they think they're gonna see a dream.

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Then I wait.

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After they see a dream, try and find out what it means. What the heck does it mean? What how are we going to know? You go even crazier?

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Which way do I go? Then Now you sit down the Shaitan says oh my god, I did this to her. Allah is not even helping you look, you're happy you're going about it the wrong way.

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You just read the words.

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It means you're asking Allah, that if it is good for you.

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Open the path for me.

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Make it in a way

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that I can go ahead.

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And then

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if it completely closes,

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that's it. It means that this decoder worked. So long as there's an opening to it keep going.

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Will there be difficulty? Yes. Will there be some obstacles? Of course, probably from the obstacles, you're gonna get a better result. Embrace it.

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Did you not know that freedom and obstacles are both part of your success.

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Some people they make us the hara thinking that they've got to ask a chef or some guy or some person they think is pious.

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I don't know maybe they see them wearing something special. Looks like a saint or a kind of monk or something like that. So making it harder for me. Wallahi there are people who believe this. There are people religious they fear Allah they pray five times a day they've been to house they abstain from all the horror and what do they do? My istikhara is with my shake. My chef's gonna make my sticker and I'll wait for the chef to see a dream. You know how many times the shaitan

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tricks you left right and center with this. Sometimes let's say for example, marriage,

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a good sister has come along

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a really good one.

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And you have followed the steps and found out and asked about her and looked at her social media page or the other way around. Sisters looks at the brother sister, women. They are the best at looking social media.

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Your pages guys, I'm telling you

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they know better than us don't even compete with them on that.

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Alright, so fix yourself first then ask for a girl. Like fix I don't mean go wipe off your social media but well are they got ways of finding a history from 100 years ago? If you lived 100 years? I don't know what it is about him. I ain't going there man. You guys don't play that game.

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They will know the history of your

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Sisters Brothers, daughters, nieces, nephews,

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daughters, account. Brothers and sisters. Anyway, just bit of a humor.

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When you say you're asking me for marriage, she's a good girl. Good. Someone's compare. We've done all the research. I've got to ask my shake. Well, I've heard this. They go to the sheriff the sheriff says no, because of some dream he had.

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And then she says no, or he says no. Subhanallah is that what the prophets Allah Salam said, Where did you get this from?

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Doesn't the share also get nightmares? God the shaitan coming to share his dreams and also make up the whole dream is a shot perfect. The shot could have eaten a good meal that night his wife made for him and went to sleep on a very heavy stomach.

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And his dreams are all over the place. He's still a human not to make fun of sharks. I was a biller. Yes, they are insha Allah pious and great that your istikhara is you you make this the credit union Allah didn't Allah says, say again, we'll call it a Bucha Moroni estas Reblochon. Allah says, Ask me, and I will respond to what suddenly we got this Catholic tradition. Go to the priest and confess your sins and go to the this is the same tradition. Yeah. I'm not saying you're a Catholic or Christian, but we'll take it from them.

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On what basis

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so my brother and sisters is the harder you make it.

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Now, here's some tips about istikhara.

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The scholars generally tell you before you make the istikhara.

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Research, investigate and seek advice first. So you see something an opportunity, and you consider the opportunity, but you haven't made your decision. Before you make the decision to go ahead, you are considering it. Empty your heart and to your desires and say, Look,

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I am ready to accept any outcome insha Allah and I will do everything in my power. I will do all the materialistic stuff that's needed. I will ask I will seek advice I will learn and then I will make my istikhara all of it not just one. After you've investigated, researched, considered, and you've done your whole thing, then finally saying hamdulillah I'm pretty happy so far. Or I'm not sure. Now it's time for me to make the istikhara make your esta hora and rely on Allah afterwards this thing, okay, let's see, insha Allah, I'll keep going the way I was going. And by the will of Allah, only the best outcome will come out of this. That's how you do it. Or you do the opposite. You do this

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the harder first, once you've considered and then do your investigation, do your research, seek advice from wiser people do all that. And then insha Allah keep going and see how it goes and shout Allahu taala. But empty your desires, like don't sit there and say I wanted

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sometimes, and it's the well, it's not just for marriage, it's for anything, anything but let we're just using marriage because everybody can relate to it. Most people do that for marriage.

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And I know several young people who did this the horror and put their trust too much in it and then waited on some divine supernatural sign. Keep waiting, keep waiting. It's your fault. You keep waiting and you keep doing that. They come to us give us a headache and we say can we go and research please? And then what happens? After everything is shown? They see

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every common sense about them is stay away.

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Stay away. But they want him why maybe they've been going out in secret. Maybe you're too attached already. Maybe because of your desires. Don't try to mix the two

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remember sometimes we cause it and then we wait for this the hara and we ignore it ignore all the red flags all the signs everything like clear everyone around us. Every wise person says don't.

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But no we do. Then we fall into problems. Yeah, and then we force it and sometimes the opposite. Do

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that brother. He's got good character. He's got good religion.

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His Instagram is fine. His parents hamdulillah have raised him well. You've gone to see how he is with his with his Metro with his sisters. He treats his sisters well they love him. They're not

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frayed around him. He's not abusive. He loves his mother, his mother loves him. And this is good sign insha Allah for you, the person is honest. You've asked about them, your father, your brothers up your mother, you've asked about him, they seen what his background is, you've done all that stuff, all those checks, you've looked at yourself and thought, can we be compatible, you've ticked all the boxes, thought you know what hamdulillah

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and then you make an SD Hara. That night, the shaitan doesn't want you to marry that person because he knows you will have a good life, or probably get closer to paradise together.

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And then decides to muck up your entire plan.

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There are three types of dreams My dear brothers and sisters, they are not my words that are from the Prophet sallallaahu Salam, and I'll finish it with this. The Prophet sallallahu wasallam. He said that there are three types of dreams, the one that is from the Shaitan to play games with you, and the one from the knifes your own subconscious mind and the one from Allah.

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They said Dr. Rasool Allah, about which dream is the saw that the truthful one and the right one. And he said some things he said, number one, the more righteous you are, the more righteous Your dreams are. And they're not mixed with other nonsense. The less righteous you are, the more mixed they're going to be. So you might get drained from Allah. But it'd be mixed with your subconscious with your, the shaitan, and all that stuff. And there are dreams, he said, sometimes, towards the end of time we live in the end of times. Now, he said, towards the end of time, there are more righteous dreams than ever. He also said the person who is normally honest and trustworthy in their

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speech and their actions, as a personality, as their character, they are more likely to see righteous dreams to if you are honest, you'll see on his dreams, sometimes also saw Selim said in the depth of the night, some people it can happen after pleasure, it can happen in the middle of the day. And it can happen for a non Muslim or a disbeliever or a bad person. It can Pharaoh and saw a dream and it was true. And there are a lot does it for wisdom, but generally, this is how it happens. But brothers and sisters, most of the time, we see dreams that are from our subconscious mind, or from the shaytaan.

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The Shaitan comes in, and maybe that night will tell you show you that that person in an ugly form, you wake up terrified, and you see I don't want to marry that person, even though all the signs were good. And you're just you're just you just stopped yourself from someone righteous. Sometimes your subconscious mind. Let's say you already love that person. You already decided this, the heart is not going to work for you. If you've already decided, you'll see a dream. You're going together. You're going into a gate that looks like paradise. You both got wings, you're flying. And then you say well, look at that.

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We both look like unicorns.

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You wake up and go I can't stop thinking about her or him.

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Is that the is the horror or is that before the is the horror you've already made up your mind? And you've already attached and we've been talking you've already been you know, some people up to Hanky Panky is

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some people already. You know what I mean? Lots of messages and

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you know, memes and don't know what did it hurt when you fell from heaven? Oh, come on. Stop your sleaziness.

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Stop this craziness, brothers and sisters is the harder you have to empty those emotions and not make a decision from before and empty your desires make this the harder before you do something. Okay, that's how you rely on Allah subhanaw taala.

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so we said, let me repeat this, the hara does not mean you're gonna see a dream necessarily, or asking a chef necessarily, or divine signs necessarily, or divine feelings. But there is something about your heart. If you find a consistent feeling in your heart that is positive. And you have taken all the proper measures, and you've done it is the harder this is even an extra good sign. But if you find the consistent, negative feeling, right, then you need to investigate more. But don't just rely on one without the other. Okay? Sometimes people have a mental illness and they've always got a negative feeling. Some people are going to mental illness and they've also always got a

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positive feeling about everything, even the bad things. So you got to check yourself to make sure that it's not something that you've carried on from before that, you know, it's just now it hasn't been always before but this is too philosophical and psychological for me at the moment. So we'll just stop there and shout Allahu dialler and I think for today, we will end our third class on Kadar and Kadar I hope insha Allah today, you have benefited and learn something new. And I hope in sha Allah I was

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I tried my best.

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Whatever I made, if there was a mistake from me it's from myself not from Allah and whatever was good and right is from Allah subhanaw taala.

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Make dua for us thank you for listening. Well sal Allahu ala Nabina Muhammad while early he will be