Connecting with Kinship, an obligation forgotten

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Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah

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Alhamdulillah Allah Dr. Donnelly has a woman, Lena Tatia Lola and hadden en la Amato Fukunaga, laka Samana La Bella, when I wrote to be la him in Cerulean fusina I will see you at a marina Mija de la hufa 101 may usually fell into g de la jolla murshida washa de la ilaha illallah wa hula shriek Allah wa shadow Ana Mohammed Abu who are pseudo, our Salah who Bill houda dealhack luthra who Allah de Nicola de pollo, curry Hamas Rico Allahumma in Nana shawanna who Bella Gabriella Amana one also had oma waka for La Habra. hilma will jaha definitely he had he had to Italia clean

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your code will have Kosova Hannah who would

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have been

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what up hello hello de Luna be here.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala

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says in the Quran,

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Fear Allah.

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Fear Allah

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that you

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talk about you ask yourself about you ask him things one of ham, fear a law in a ham.

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And when a law speaks about a taqwa

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and his fear, subpoena with the Allah

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and then the mention of our ham.

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Allah wants us to pay attention

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to this very important thing called a Rahim.

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What is a Rahim?

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Allah rahem brothers and sisters.

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And the linguistic meaning of it means the womb.

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The Chalice, the place where we were all in at one point before birth is the vessel

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that hosted us

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in our mother's body,

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but it symbolizes kinship,

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family blood relationship.

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And Allah Subhana Allah to Allah

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symbolizes the word of Rahim and salitre Russian

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and His Messenger sallallahu wasallam.

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And when we hear the word dragon,

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it means kinship.

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That will Cordoba.

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And how important is that? Why is that important?

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And what is the degree of importance of connecting

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with the kinship

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in Islam

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and the Hadith that is narrated in both al Bukhari and Muslim

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Rasulullah sallallahu you send them says,

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llama Holla Holla Holla Holla when Allah subhanaw taala first created the creation

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permata rhyme.

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The rahem stood up,

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approached Allah subhanho wa Taala

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Han Allah, Allah Subhana Allah said man, man is a word in Arabic says what what do you want?

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And r Rahim said to Allah

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and this is an authentic hadith had a comma if he became a PA

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I take refuge in You from being cut off

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this kinship came to Allah subhanho to Ireland and said I take refuge in You from people cut me off. Now pay attention to this importance.

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And Allah Subhana Allah to Allah answered

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and I thought Gina and Assalam and masala key or actor among kotaki

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would it satisfy you that I will connect those who connect you and I will cut off those who cut you off.

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And as the lemon was so lucky one UK Parliament tataki

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call it Nam?

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And the Rahim answered Allah. Yes. Paula fedeli kalecki that will be for you.

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kinship has a right in Islam. Well attadale kotoba hubco Allah says,

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Give those who are related to you their rights.

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They have rights.

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In the verse that we repeat almost every Friday in the La Jolla, Monroeville adley 171, Italia il coda.

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Allah commands justice

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and to connect with your relatives.

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This is not just socializations

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brothers and sisters, this is a duty and obligation, a religious duty.

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A very important one.

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And indeed Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam made it part of he man.

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Men can i mean he will be law he was young man after failure Sir rahima those who believe in our law on the Day of Judgment, let them connect the RAM, let them connect with their kinship

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with their relatives.

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And in the Quran, Allah Subhana Allah made it very clear in more than one place and the the delille the shower head on that in the Quran are many

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in the meta that Karuna Alba Latina una delay while I am Kunal mythique one Latina saloon Emma Amara La Jolla usul Allah praises those who connect with Allah commands to be connected. What does that mean? The FSC Rhonda translators, the interpreters and the Quran, unanimously almost agreed that that is what is to be connected is the hem is the kinship.

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And the opposite to that.

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Allah says Allah xenium Kaduna de la him embody me 34 on Amma Amara Allahu be here use Allah what you've seen a lot. And the opposite to that.

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The transgressors can disconnect and cut off what Allah commanded that would what it should be connected and that is the the ties of kinship, the ties of brothers and sisters.

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In an agreed upon Hadith Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and I'm just reiterating that so we all understand how grave This is. Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam said last

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quarter You're

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the one who disconnect, who cuts off the relationship.

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This kinship of relatives will not entertain

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and those who connect with their relatives, they will have the blessing in this life and in the Hereafter.

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In Hadith narrated again in both al Bukhari and Muslim these are all solid, authentic hadith brothers and sisters. A man came to us Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he said dulany emaline you kill an iljin called a terrible de la will lead to Shrek the Shia or to Kim Salah or to T Sokka wa salam

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You do the basic obligations of Islam. And connect your Rahim you intergender.

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And in another Hadith in Al Bukhari and Muslim men have the a user Allah houfy after a while you barakallahu fear is failure seraphina those who want their life to be blessed, and there is

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their wealth, their sustenance to be blessed from Allah, let them just connect with the with their relatives with a kinship.

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This is the benefit of connecting

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of keeping the ties of Iran. Rahim is so sacred.

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Brothers and sisters, it's not something that we should take lightly. This is not just a socialization duty, it's a religious duty

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before Allah subhana wa Tada. So, how do we do this? This is how important it is, but how do we do it? How do we go about it?

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There are several ways many different things.

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First of all, if we know that we have relatives, in need,

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we should help them

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the will quarterback term I will miss a key

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they have a priority for your for your health for your charity. If you have

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charity to be given and you have a relative in need, that is the person who is most worthy of your help before anyone else.

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have trouble find

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the closest and the closest to you are the most worthy of your help.

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And then if someone

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is in trouble, not necessarily financial

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and you have a way to help them out.

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Your LMS set the free to me

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what the free to kind of be

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the messenger salani or send them said men for Django meaning carbon for jajuan who called me Cora Bo Mel piano aka makalah sallallahu wasallam those who lift a calamity of this dunya upon a Muslim, any Muslim any woman Allah will lift a calamity upon them on the Day of Judgment so how about if that Muslim was that believer or that person was a kin was a relative

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that's even a higher priority and inshallah higher reward

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then to actually connect with them,

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to visit with them to smile at them. And if the sama to fewer Jia haka saga,

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the smile in with you brother in is a charity, and whose most worthy of your charity, Accra bowfell, Edna FL Edna, your relatives.

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You start with your parents with your family, and move on and on and on, you expand the circle.

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And then

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this probably are the obvious things that we all know.

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But there are other ways of connecting with our brothers and sisters. That dilemma emphasized on

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one possibility

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and to tolerate

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their harm and their injury.

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Families have trouble.

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families may have problems

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and all families can have problems.

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to tolerate, to have him to have solver

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to be that person in the family

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that will accommodate

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that will seek

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the hierarchy Catherine najwa, home in lemon Amara Ba ba ba ba ba ma Rufino Islam been a nurse.

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That's where hire is that's what goodness is

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to tolerate peace

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Even if they harm you,

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and to avoid any conflict.

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And conflicts do occur

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in families

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and sometimes their

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social conflicts sometimes their financial conflicts.

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And one of the things that

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can create family conflicts is the issue of inheritance.

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Inheritance can break families apart.

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Inheritance can put enmity, well he has a bill and some families can separate the brothers from a brother and a sister from her brother.

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in some

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ways and in some cultures, we don't

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follow the words of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah

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and the guidance of His Messenger sallallahu he was sending them in dividing inheritance.

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We create other ways when he has a villa and that put Rift and enmity

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be the one that will avoid that be the one that will call

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to the Quran and Sunnah in inheritance. And to avoid that, in your progeny in your children, have a year have a will.

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That clearly states that your inheritance will be divided based on the Kitab Anderson and there will be no conflict.

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When Allah is the judge, there will be no conflict.

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Connecting with the kin brothers and sisters.

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is not if your relatives visit you you visit them. If they smile at you, you smile at them.

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If they love you, you love them.

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Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam said in this hadith in Al Bukhari, lacell vasiliou, Bill McAfee.

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The Watson The one who can next with the rahem is not the one who treats equally

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that's just social, normal social behavior. Someone smiles at me I'll smile back at them someone visit me or visit them back. If someone gifted me something, I'll give them something back. That's called McAfee

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to be to have equal treatment. So lasagna Selim said lace and wall syllable McAfee.

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That is not

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exactly connecting.

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That's not selected as it's defined in the malware cell. The true definition of Al wassell unless either Rahim who was Allah when there is a problem, when that kid kinship is cut off, that person goes in connects it, he fixes it.

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He takes care of the problem that is and wasa Allahumma makes all of us have those alasa linear bellami

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nathanial la jolla COVID core and loving Murphy hibbett it secret Hakeem akula matters mount stuffer La La Vina de la confianza Mr. Curry

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please come closer and fill in the gaps inshallah.

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi agema in

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in Sahih, Muslim Abu Dhabi Allah and narrated that a man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he

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was telling was still taking selling the messenger sallallahu wasallam

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something about his family. He said your Rasul Allah in Nicaragua,

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a senior home town any

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new la him when you see una la

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una LA.

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I have relatives.

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I connect them and they cut me off.

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I do good for them, and they hurt me and they hurt me.

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I'm patient with them. I tolerate their harm, and they in

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crease their harm against me.

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So he came to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said what do I do?

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So Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam said, Let encana matter cold. If what you're saying is true

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for kenema to stay home will melt, as if you are feeding them

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the hot

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They are the one at wrong You're the one in the right. Well a is a Luma camino la de la, la him and Allah will send you

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your back, who will back you against them.

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May Allah Allah will help you keep doing what you're doing.

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Don't worry.

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Don't Don't turn your relationship into enmity.

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Never change

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the sea, Iran in the Koran there is a famous story

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to illustrate

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number one, how hard it is to do this

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and how the believers deal with it.

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There was a man named Muslim

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and he was a cousin of Abu Bakr and so do karate.

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And then the famous incidents have occurred

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where our mother I was accused

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of something that she is innocent from the UK.

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And some people

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spread the rumor and spoke about it.

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And one of them was Muslim.

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And Muslim was a poor person.

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And Abu Bakar was in charge he took care of Muslim and he was given him a regular allowance for him and his family.

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To be taken care of.

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And then Muslim goes on and spread a rumor against the daughter of a so deep and the wife of Rasulullah Salallahu.

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Abu Bakr hears that

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and he gets angry, not because I chose his daughter is because Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam

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How dare you?

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So he made a vow, he said you will not get it from me one more time. You will not get anything from the house of Abu Bakr

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and then Allah Subhana Allah revealed

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while I tell you, you know, fugly minko masa, and you tune in corbeille Misaki kotoba Wilma Sakina when Maha jury she said Lila well yeah foliose

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la buena Yasser Allah Allah, Allah Allah for Allah.

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Allah subhanaw taala revealed the special verse in the Quran for this.

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And Allah said,

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Those who have richness they have extra

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and the professor who said this was revealed for on for Abubakar as a guidance for us

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to take care of the poor to Mohajer in the Messiah keen

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and let them forgive and let them forget.

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Don't you want a lot of forgive you?

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Allah, Allahu Allah.

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Allah Allah for over an

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hour, Becker said offer to us.

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I forgive and forget.

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And the he didn't just restore the allowance for Mr. He increased it.

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He gave him a bonus.

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This is the true connection. This is the true kinship.

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It's fabulous. He asked for the lady Bina kobina Hightower twin.

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Brothers and sisters, we may all have problems within our families. But these problems are not going to be solved by pushing people away by cutting off relationship. It's our ability here.

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Take the examples of a Sahaba

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take the guidance of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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I will conclude with this last Hadith.

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Mohammed came to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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and he said has to be added. I held his hand and said yeah Rasul Allah.

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Burnie before vanilla math. Tell me the best of deeds.

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So Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam said jacoba Sandman Pathak well Ottoman Hara mK wafaa Mangala MK

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sunman katatak

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what are three manhatten neck? Wow.

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Yeah, aka

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connect those who cut you off.

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Give those who don't give you

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and forgive those who transgress upon you.

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This is the connection with our

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We ask Allah subhana wa Taala to make us of those who connect of those who forgive of those who be the example and the model of filetto Rahim Allah homophily momineen mina and Muslim in our Muslim at Allah here in humble and wet in Acharya molana semi on Corey vomity without a belt de la la parte de Marana via marimba Daffy. Vanessa was the nebula he could say was the lesser become a minion. I mean, he was insane. For

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