Ali Albarghouthi – The Necessity of Good Character & Lofty Manners

Ali Albarghouthi
AI: Summary © The lack of manners in modern society is a fundamental belief, and it is crucial to convince people that they are at the top of their manners. The importance of good manners, character, and reputation is emphasized, and the need for people to be truthful in their advertisements to avoid confusion and confusion. The importance of good manners is emphasized, including being prepared for unexpected events and being prepared for unexpected events. The importance of good manners is emphasized, including being a good person, being generous with people, and being kind to others. The need for good character is emphasized, and the importance of learning to be patient and love one's actions.
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Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah while early he was sahbihi wa salam ala Malim Nama and photo now and fan of Mr. Olympia now was eating a menorah Bella al Amin are benign nada de Cracow. srikalahasti balletic.

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So there's a little bit of noise in the back Shall I just either close the doors or losses

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so the topic inshallah of tonight's lecture is lofty manners. In in macadam, Allah Maha Sinhala,

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which we know is something that is definitively Islamic.

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That is definitively Islamic to have good character.

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And it is absolutely an Islamic to like character.

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And the challenge, really of stalking about this topic is, in addition to it being a topic that had been revisited before, and you probably have heard it before many times

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is that we live in a world that is largely unmannerly. That is it lacks manners, the world around us, it lacks manners. So how are you going to convince anyone who lives in the world that you need to have noble character in a world that lacks nobility,

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where if you want to get ahead, you need to be unethical and unmoral

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you will meet that is, you know, if you want to really succeed, the advice whether it is explicit or implicit that you're getting from people around you, and from the vibes that are around you is not you need to cut corners and lie and cheat. hide the truth.

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Right? Isn't this what big business does? Is it how do they dominate, they take you know, elbow small businesses out of the way. They crush them if they can, and they hide the truth and they manipulate. And that's how they get ahead, and they become dominant and they monopolize. So all of us receive the message that in a world like this, if you want to compete with people like those, you have to be like them. Otherwise, do you want me not to be a wolf? In a world of wolves? I'll be devoured if I am a lamb. If I'm a good guy, I will finish what first or last?

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Last, isn't it?

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So how do you want me to be a good guy in a world that does not recognize goodness? You want me to have good manners, right?

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Where, you know, the use of profanity propels you to fame.

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Right? If you're obscene in your gestures, in your language, you're propelled to fame, you become famous. Now you look at some of the people who are famous. And they use these profanities, people like them, and they shower them with gifts, and they have millions. And so again, the message is that the more obscene you are, the more that people will listen to you.

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If you have want to make friends or you want to integrate yourself, or you want to seem edgy, relevant, if you use that, then yeah, people will listen to you. But if I am quiet, and if I'm humble, and if I modest, and if we don't speak unless there's something good to be said, then I'm strange in a world that doesn't welcome these things. So is this purely an academic meaning above all, we were just talking in the masjid about having good manners, few people and then when we leave the masjid, we forget about it, because it doesn't work on the outside. Is it that? Well? Of course it isn't. But how do you convince someone that it isn't? How do you convince them on that it's

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That's really is the tricky part, not the rest of it, how to gain good manners and what it's gonna do to you. But how do you convince someone that you should have good manners and that, indeed, you will finish first if you have them?

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It's because if you allow yourself

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and then those around you,

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to debate be debased and to acquire the worst of manners, you will suffer because of it and your children will suffer because of it. When the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi wa sallam came into Makkah, and Arabia in general. They had some good qualities, right? We can't deny that. But they also did what the oppressed the orphan, and the widow and the weak, and they raided each other and they enslaved each other, and they buried a newborn female, and they dealt in usury, and it was an oppressive society.

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That's what happens when you allow these things to spread. And when you adopt them and you say

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Oh, what's wrong with that? Because you will create a world that will devour you and oppress you and your children. You will not be able to survive in such a world.

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Some of the prophets all Islam comes to this world, and they have such bad manners and bad qualities in them. In addition, some also some also some good qualities, we can't deny that as I said, and the thing that distinguishes the Prophet sallallahu wasallam was what? Why did he stand out?

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How he dealt with people. So in Makkah, he was known as El Amin.

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And they knew that if Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam spoke he always speaks the truth.

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known what what does that tell you about the sad society that people used to do? What? Not key? Yeah, lie not keep the word all the time. Why was he known as the honest because the rest are not as honest. Right? Or he was stellar in honesty, like he's absolutely honest. So that he stood out when the dat was started,

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you know, a Buddha was not a Muslim yet outside Mecca, because he's not from Quraysh. And he heard about him. So his brother was going to McKay says, meet this man. And tell me about him when you come back. So he comes back to him. And he said, Wadjet Torah junonia movie mCherry Mila Waiuku Lucia and Lisa B share, he says, I found someone who commands good character and good manners. And he's saying something that is not poetry, or he couldn't classify it, meaning the Quran

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that's the impression that he got macadam will UCLA.

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When the Prophet sallallahu Sallam first steps into Medina.

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Okay, Abdullah Abu Salam who was Jewish at that time looking again and waiting for the Prophet

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of Islam.

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So he says, I went to look at him. And I look at his face for RF to another Jia who lay said what he said I knew that his face is not the face of a liar.

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Right when we when we discussed you know the proofs of the prophethood of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam before we discuss that hadith, that sometimes you can tell on the face sometimes, right? That that is the face of a liar.

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And sometimes you can tell that that's not the face of a liar. Okay, when you looked at the face of Mohammed Oisin, before anything else, he knew that that the face not the face of a liar. How you are actually translates on your face. People could sometimes see it.

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Okay, crooked, just from his face crooked, or just from his face honest.

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So the beginning Oh, and then he said and then for me too. We are cool. Yeah. Yohannes

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automaton we're actually Salem was a little bit lately when nashoni Enter total genitive he said he's the first thing I heard him say, oh people feed meaning feed the hungry

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well after Salaam and spread this alarm and pray at night while people are asleep you will enter Jannah peacefully. So you will see that Salah was linked to what either these are the first commands when he came to Medina, Salah was linked to salaam was linked to feeding people that his character.

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In Islam we don't have that kind of imbalance between Masjid outside the Masjid. I'm out inside the masjid I'm orderly. Or when it's time for MacBreak now then we can break our fast. When it's time for a mother now then you call the event. Then you pray. There's order in the life of a Muslim. You step outside the masjid complete chaos. We're not like that. Or lying is haram inside but it's halal outside. We don't do that. It's in domestic, I'll be honest, outside Muslim, when I sell, I can lie. We don't do that. So it's immediately linked in Islam.

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And the more that you contemplate it, you know you will find that Allah azza wa jal makes these connections repeatedly in the Quran, or itella. The you can see will be Dean, have you seen the one who denies the Day of Judgment?

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For that he can levy you earlier to Walla Walla army miskeen. What are the features of that person who denies the Day of Judgment?

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Yet only a team he's harsh with the orphan and does not recommend the feeding of the poor.

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Its lack of character, lack of luck, lack of empathy and sympathy for some from someone who does not believe in the Day of Judgment. That is their reality. That is their reality.

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for eternal Masoli.

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So Allah azza wa jal said again see here the link says Woe to those who pray Alladhina home, Ancelotti himsa. Home those who are neglectful of their salah, those who show off and prevent Small Kindness where I am now own on my own. And my own is what they give examples of it, which is that somebody needs a pot from you. So you lend it to them. Somebody needs a hand. So you give you help them something simple. He says even that they stop it.

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So he says there's a connection between those who disbelieve in Allah azza wa jal and mistreat people.

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Right? You see it there.

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You know, in Surah, again, Surah Al Madatha, one of the earliest sources to be revealed

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to tell you that this was inculcated early on into the minds and the psyche of Muslims. And it should be as we read it, called Luma silica comfy soccer and what put you in hellfire Kaudulla akumina mousseline who are not among those who prayed

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what I'm not gonna be able miskeen and we did not feed the hungry.

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Well, could Nana hold on malha Ileen. I will use to speak falsehood with those who speak it

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well could Nanoka they will be on me Dean and we used to deny the Day of Judgment had to attend Alia cane until death came to us.

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So you say for instance, you know, so what is wrong? If I'm, I'm sitting with my friends and they start engaging in Haram and I start engaging just speech I'm talking about. They speak about haram. I speak about haram, what's wrong with it? They listed that as one of the reasons why they went into jahannam. That is now hold on. malha Aileen Bill Barclay, these we speak falsehood with those who speak it. So if you are with those who are speaking falsehood, you will be doing what?

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At least consenting if you don't leave you consenting.

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And after consenting, you do what you start repeating the same things.

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And if you say these things, you will attract those types of people around you.

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And imagine if you attract the worst that is if I speak in profanity. Well, you have the righteous around, you

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know, will you have angels around you?

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I'm serious. Don't we have angels around you? This is cool. The angels will actually run run away from you. When you engage in profanity. Whom do you attract them?

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The Sheltie.

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You're chasing away the angels and saying what's the harm? If I say the F word? Just expressing anger or being edgy or funny? What's wrong with it? Well, you say it but the angel that is supposed to be around you says, I'm leaving you can in even in a sense in a setting where Abubakar Radi Allahu Anhu was in dispute with someone and that person was hurling insults at him. And the Prophet SAW Selim was sitting right, that person hurling insults at Abu Bakar Abubaker was not saying anything, but he got angry. Then you hurl insults at that man back? The Prophet left of a buck of said why did you believe all prophets of Allah, it says as long as you're quiet and Angel was

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replying on your behalf.

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But once you started hurling insults, he left and a shaytaan came and I was not going to sit in a place where they cheated on his presence.

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Right? So what do you think is going to happen when you engage in these things? The shaytaan will be around you. Then you say oh, there's no Baraka in my money. I'm feeling anxious and depressed. I'm having nightmares. I mean, this is way too much for me. I need to take antidepressants, and I need to take this. That is you're bringing all this to yourself, and you see what's the harm?

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We're doing it to ourselves. So going back to these ideas from the Prophet sallallaahu Selim, from Allah Azhar agenda and what the prophet had said, early on, they're linked, they really linked together.

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So why should we bother even thinking about good manners?

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It's, first of all, let's think about it in these ways. First of all, one of the easiest ways and I'm not saying it's easy, but easiest ways to enter Jannah

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is to have good manners, good character.

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So, the Prophet sallallaahu Selim says ma'am in shade in Earth color, filmyzila name and personal Hello. There is nothing heavier in the scale than good manners.

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Were in a radula Sahiwal who local Hassan Diablo odorata Sahibi Salatu was Siyam he says the person who had good mouth has

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Good Manners can reach the level of a person who fasts and prays at night.

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What is that hadith telling you? That is, you want your scale to be heavy.

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So what is the heaviest thing the prophets Allah sent me saying among the heaviest that you can put there good manners.

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And he said that even if you don't fast a lot, meaning God, you know of course Ramadan is an obligation. So this is a given that everybody is going to fast it but outside of Ramadan, maybe you don't fast. Outside the obligations you don't pray.

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And at night, maybe you don't pray. But it's possible that if your manners are good, you can reach the level of someone who fasts, a lot of voluntary fast and praise at night. You could climb to their level, just by having the best of manners.

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And he said salatu salam In another Hadith

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called the aniseh He won't be based in fear or baldy generally methodical Mira our okay number HEPA. So it's the three parts this hadith has, I guarantee a palace

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at the periphery or the sides of Jana, for someone who leaves disputations, even if he is right.

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So we're going to explain each Hadith bit by bit, because this hadith has three parts. So the property says I'm guaranteeing a house, a house or a palace

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at the sides of Jana, what about the agenda, Lehman teracle? Mirror if you leave, argumentation, and disputation, even if you are right, meaning that this is a person who realizes

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I'm right, I think I right, I know I'm right. And the we have this shower in us to prove ourselves right. Right, and to defeat our opponent, right? We have this shower to prove ourselves. But then that person says, Well, what is the benefit of arguing?

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It's only going to add friction.

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And it's only going to cause the other person to be angry. And also I'm going to be angry, and then ultimately it is going to lead to nothing. So I'm going to be quiet, even though I believe that I'm right.

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So they don't say much. And they don't argue. So they're not argumentative people.

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That is a character that the prophets, Allah Islam said that if you can master this, he guarantees for you a house, a palace in Jannah.

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And think about how valuable that will be if we were to apply it among Muslims, or even if non Muslims were to apply it. Have you seen politicians and those, you know, different camps on opposite ends? How they talk to each other today?

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Right, how they don't seek excuses for the other? How do they argue for the sake of argument and defeating the other person? How they talk past each other and they demean the other? Have you seen politicians arguing? Right? And they're arguing to do what so when

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now not for the sake of the truth itself, but just for them to win.

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But if rather than that they remain civil.

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And when an argument, right, went south, they decided I'm going to stop. And they don't insult the other and they respect the other and they refrain from mockery and what have you. And they don't dispute when disputes are not necessary, and they're not blind and partisan, then a lot of these things can actually be solved. They can meet in the middle, they don't vilify the other.

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So if you simply don't argue, the other person is less likely to argue.

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And if you don't argue the other person is not likely to be upset and hold on to their opinion, just to be stubborn and spite you.

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Okay, so that's the one.

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Well, another one and I guarantee a house in the middle of Jana. He was salting Jana Lehman Tara Cal Kariba. We're in kanimozhi Her if you abandon lying, even if you're just kidding.

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So that person who now is higher than that's first, the middle of Jenna says promise Alison says don't lie at all. Period done. Even if you're just oh, I'm kidding. Well, I'm just making a joke. Or you know, you know, no, I'm just trying to be funny. It didn't harm anybody. He says, No, not at all. No lying at all. You have a guarantee from the Prophet sallallahu wasallam that you'll have a house in the middle of jinn. And again, think about

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it, if we act like that,

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you say that, okay, I'm not going to sell something right expensive and claim that you're selling expensive. And claim that, you know, I'm not making a lot of profit and lie about it just for the sake of few dollars, I want a house in Jannah.

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So you'll be patient, I won't lie about the reason why it was late, and make up, make make things up. I won't lie on you know this, and I won't lie to that or to get ahead or what I won't lie I won't live simply won't. And if you do that, in what you sell in what you advertise if companies stopped lying, then we can trust them again. Right? If those who sell products sell products, and they are honest, they will tell you, you know what, you don't need a new phone.

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Your phone is okay.

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If there is truth in advertisement, you won't have a beautiful woman standing next to the product that they're selling. What's the connection between the two?

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But all I can you mean subliminal messages as you can get what you can get her if you get that thing.

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Okay, that's the feeling that they want you to have, psychologically, the feeling is that drink Coke, okay, or Pepsi or whatever, so that we don't single logical, you drink PPOs and kexi. And then you will have what fun, and you'll have friends, and you'll have excitement, and your life will be better. And all of this and this is all false. If they were just true in their advertisement, maybe we'll buy their products may but they will definitely will not be as rich.

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So the bottom line for them is what line.

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But that's not how we are supposed to be. And you know that we're suffering as people as masses, we're suffering because they lie to us. And yet you say I also want to be a liar. I also want to perpetuate what the politicians and the businessmen are doing talk to us. That's what you want to do. What do you want to say I want the world to be different.

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And I also want my hereafter to be different. So I want a house in Ghana for the sake of being honest here, I'll do this. And the third thing he sets a lot to sell them. And I guarantee our house at the highest level of Jannah for the person who has good manners, and that includes the first and the second of course, plus other good manners is if you have that at the highest level of Jannah.

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And those who say that the love the prophets, Allah, Allahu, Allahu Allah, you're setting them

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and they miss him and they want to see him and he sets a lot he was sent him in a hadith in hubback Amelia WakaWaka mini imagination yo Malkia Matthew Hussey nakoma halacha. The people that I love the most and will be closest to me sitting next to me on the day of judgment or those who have good character.

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That makes sense, right? Because he has that. So whom he whom would he want to be around?

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Those type of people, so you want to be close to them. Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam you have good character, you will be close to Him and He will love you. If you imagine if he were to see you today, he would love you.

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And you say you were in a baja de la yo other cool minimalist and yarmulke, Mateus welcome laka and those that I hate the most among you and will be furthest from me on the day of judgment. Those are bad character.

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So when you lie you distance yourself from him when you cheat you distance yourself from him. When you're unkind, you distance yourself from him. Are you Salatu was Salam. And that totally makes sense.

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So it puts you in Jannah

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and it takes you to the highest levels of Jenna. And also compared to other things. It is easy.

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It is easy. You know so there's a hadith where the prophets Allah Salem tells a Buddha

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or the Allahu Anhu is Shall I not tell you about the best of deeds and the easiest on your body to do? He said Yes, oh prophet of Allah. He said, horsnell Hello to Toulouse summed he said, good manners and to be quiet

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for extended periods, meaning not to talk unnecessarily. So good manners, what will assault you will not meet Allah as noted with something like them.

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So the one who's quiet all the time and they think about what they want to say before they say it and they don't indulge or engage in gossip and backbiting and all of this the old find them down talking as much

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but the prophet is always in me saying this is easy. Why? Because it's simply being quiet.

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But I realized also at the same time that it's not that easy.

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Because our settings that's

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What we do,

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a lot of times we sit and we backed by, we sit and we gossip, we sit and we talk excessively about the dunya. And there is no mention of Allah azza wa jal, so I understand it to be difficult. But the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is saying that if you practice it, it'll be easier and easier. But you need to want to do that. And personal hope is easier than having bad manners. You say to yourself, I'm going back to that question.

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How would I get ahead in this world? If I have good manners, and I am a normal person, and everybody else is the opposite. Everybody else cuts corners and lies, but you want me to be a good person? How will I get ahead? People will crush me I will be eatin how. And we say, first of all,

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that the dunya is in the hands of Allah azza wa jal or is in the hands of people.

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Allah xojo Do you believe this or not? So do you believe that those who have power and those who have money they provide for you, Allah provides for you? Allah has, so do you believe this or not? So if you want something that Allah has, how do you get what Allah has by disobeying Him or by obeying Him? By obeying Him? Are we making sense so far? Yeah. So you say so I want Allah to provide for me and I want baraka for myself and baraka for my family. Are you going to get that by lying and cheating? Are you going to get that by taking people's rights and saying that this is yours? I say pit getting that by crushing people says no, that's not going to happen. What you're going to get

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from that is that yes, the short term you will get more money. If you try and lie and cheat and cut corners and yes, you will get engaged in Haram, you will get more money, but then money will lack Baraka in it.

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And that money will bring its own burden with it.

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No, an addition to that Allah azza wa jal will take from people's heart any love that they have for you. And they will be surrounding you waiting for the minute that they can take that money away from you. Because you compete a dishonest Li and you will attract this honesty to you. All the dishonest around you the cruel the criminals around you. We're waiting to see you took that money this way and we know how you ticket and we're going to take it away from you.

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It will be dirty money.

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It will be

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untenable achievement, it will not last.

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And Allah azza wa jal, you know, you know, through a hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, where he said that, if your main concern is the dunya, Allah Azza did will scatter this world so that you'd have to work hard to get it. And even when you get it right, you will only get what already had been destined for you nothing more.

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So Allah will make you toil for it. Because that's the only thing that you want where as a person who wants the akhira

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Allah will bring the dunya to them

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and not in ways that will tempt them and distract them and harm them.

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So a person may say I want a million dollars.

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Yet Allah azza wa jal says it's not good for you. You can run after it but it will make you miserable. But if you trust me and you make the akhira your objective, I'll give you maybe 1000 or 2000s but that will be enough for you in ways that Allah will make it so that will be enough for you and it will not distress you

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see, sometimes we think of risk only in terms of money

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only in terms of money, but isn't health it is yeah. And isn't peace of mind but it's

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so what what happens and what about reputation good reputation

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right? You'd have a good honor you have honor among people that when your name or name is mentioned Subhan Allah Masha Allah a good brother May Allah as a did this and that Masha Allah a good sister may Allah this and that, give them this and that. That good reputation is not the risk.

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It's this peace of mind to be able to sleep at night. Without nightmares without anxiety, living without depending on antidepressants without feeling that suppose Well, I don't want to live anymore.

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Isn't that a risk?

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That's a risk.

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So don't think about it only in terms of money Allah as it can provide for you in so many different ways. So when we're talking about good manners, we're talking about something that

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is easy to do,

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and will give you this dunya and will give you the love of people. You don't want do you don't need to use profanity to have people love you. Be humble, and be courteous and be kind.

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And don't harm people and they will love you.

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It is in the fitrah

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of you of human beings that if you are kind to them, they will love you.

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And if you engage right in in criminal acts or in evil acts or in wicked acts, a part of them will hate you. Or if they don't express that, you will see it in the fact that they don't really trust you.

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Anything that is built any kind of love or bond that is built on something that displeases Allah as though gel collapses later.

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If if your friend will only like you, because you're going to drink with them, later that friend will turn against you.

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And if they're only going to like you, if you smoke drugs with them, or take drugs or whatever,

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then they will eventually turn against you. That's not a bond that is built on something that is lasting.

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You just wait for it, you just wait for it, you bitch, they'll betray you or you will betrayed them, wait for it, you will kill them or they will kill you, you just wait for it.

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Because the shaytaan is in the middle and the shaitaan does not allow any bond to continue between people. He'll break it and you will never be friends. And if you don't believe that, test it out. Up to you. You go ahead you don't believe it, test it out, build a relationship on something that Allah hates and wait for what's going to happen. And then when it happens you say okay, now I see with my own eyes, that the so on so that I thought was my brother or so and so that I thought my my sister is my enemy now.

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Just wait and see.

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So it's something that is easy to do compared to other things. But we need first of all, to do what to value it as something that is special that something that we need

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and to ask Allah for it.

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To ask Allah for it. And in one of the doors of the prophets of Allah Allah He was sitting them

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was Allahumma did he ask any manual Lophelia DDS and he elante Allah guide me to the best of deeds and manners you're the only one who can guide to them.

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What a nice shot well, I'm early Well, well, lucky lucky. So in the end and protect me from the worst of deeds and manners. You're the only one who can protect from them.

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So the for asking Allah for it. So if you have a bad habit say Allah my tongue is used to lying. Protect me from lying. Yeah, Allah azza wa jal, my eyes used to looking at the Haram protect me from doing that. Yeah, Allah azza wa jal, you know, I'm used to earning I earned from haram protect me from doing that. Yeah, Allah I, I quickly become angry very quickly. Allow me to control my temper. Ask Allah azza wa jal for it.

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The next step that follows after recognizing that it's important.

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And second,

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asking Allah as urgent for it, is to take steps towards it. And not simply say, and not just simply make dua and forget about it. Or to say, I was just born like this, and there's nothing I can do about it. That's false. You can change.

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And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says,

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Well, my yellow sock burn, you Sabir, hola the one who seeks to be patient, Allah will make him patient.

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And you say, Well, how can I become patient?

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You say, all of our character and manners are built upon a bed of a bed of worship.

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They're not divorced from it. And not simply I'm going to try to be patient

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and just go without any direction or map.

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You have a better when you pray. It will teach you patience.

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Is it easy to make up for failure?

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No. Is it easy to sit in the masjid and wait for Salah? No. If you don't have that habit, it's not easy. Is it easy to pray behind the Imam? And it could take maybe five minutes 10 minutes? No, it's not always easy.

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But if you can find yourself to the act and say I will do it and you train yourself. What are you learning?

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Patience and self control.

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Fasting is it always easy but everyday you're saying

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What I'm going to do this, what is that teaching you?

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Patience, that you can master your own impulses and thoughts. I want to eat No, I want to drink. No, you have mastery over them and it teaches you to become master. By the help of Allah as I just said, that's practical patience. So when you're learning to be patient, you're learning and through Islam, through the ibadah, through Allah azza wa jal and through whatever Allah azza wa jal has sent His Prophet

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that's how we become patient. You want to say something, but you hold your tongue. You've learned how to control it, you want to you know, subhanAllah, express your anger, but you step back and say, Let me count to 10 Before I speak, let me make although before I say something, let me think about the consequences you are learning to become patient.

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And he said also salatu salam in a hadith similar to it in the millennium obita alum.

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Knowledge happens through learning.

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Very basic statement. But he says what, it's gradual, isn't it, you're not going to just become knowledgeable overnight knowledge, you need to learn it, meaning sit and learn it. In the Millennium will be talent in the mud helm will be the helm and being forbear me a forbearing person, a patient, forgiving person, is by practicing it by trying it by pushing yourself by controlling it, then you have become a habit, you develop that habit. And that becomes a second habit.

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Well, may you start if you're a four hula and the one who wants to be chaste? Allah will make him chaste.

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You know, we under honest and chastity, right? You staying away from the haram? You say it's so hard in a world that is unchaste in a world that is so vulgar. i You just turning a turn on your phone and there's vulgarity immediately, right. So in that world, that is Volga, how do I become chaste? He says if you want it, if you seek it, Allah will give it to you.

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You will find ways you'll ask Allah for it. You'll find ways to avoid it. You will be stronger when it comes your way you will find ways will mean your Stephanie you have any Hila and if you want to become

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Ronnie rich, dependent on Allah, not people. Right? If you want to be that LUNNEY Allah will make you so so that you don't need people, Allah azza wa jal will suffice you.

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But it needs what it needs actions and it needs that you do want to be that person and you go after it.

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But again, right, why would you do all this for what?

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For Allah azza wa jal

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because you say, this is a way for me to be in Jannah.

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You do it because your Salah and your CM and your call Quran and all of that will not bear their fullest fruit until you have this character.

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Well not bear the fullest fruit until you have this character. We understand very well the imbalance if you see somebody who's praying and fasting, and they have terrible character, you see, where's the connection? Where's the fruit of your Salah? Where's the fruit of your Quran? Is this how the prophets Allahu Sydenham behaved so when they asked about the character of the Prophet whether they say can hold a whole Quran his character was the Quran.

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It means that when he read it, it affected him. When he read it, you could see it in his humility in how he walked in how he spoke to everybody. You can see it in his honesty in his care that he had for people.

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How could you have this compassion for people? If not, through the Quran through the Sunnah. Doesn't Allah as a to say about the prophets Allah Azza wa sallam that he is Rama, Mercy to All. And if you love him, you're supposed to be that mercy to everybody else.

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As he is an ollie, Hema, I need to hurry you soon Ali can be more meaning are you for Rahim that he said about the Prophet sallallahu wasallam that you have, you have received a Messenger from among yourselves.

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He is distressed if something bad happens to you that if you're in trouble, it distresses him. That's the level of care that he has. As he is an ollie he managed them How do you soon alikoum worries about you bill more money in a row for Rahim very merciful with the believers.

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There where did that come from except from his Eman? SallAllahu wasallam so if you have

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Imagine you have Islam is not just only I pray and I fascinate this and that okay, what's the consequence of this?

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So the prophets all he said when he defined the Muslim and Muslim woman, Solomon Muslim families anyway, the the Muslim is the one whom people are safe from his tongue in hand.

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Does that mean that that Muslim doesn't pray?

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Does it mean that he doesn't fast? No. Does he read the Quran? Absolutely.

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So why did he highlight that part? When Salomon Muslim owner, if he is safe, they are safe from his hand and tongue.

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Because that's the culmination of it. That's the end of it. I can't read the Quran and go and steal. I can't.

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I cannot read the Quran and Go and Kill. I can read the Quran go and lie Haoran Juno forbids all of this protects me from all of that. So you read it, and you become the best human being on the face of this earth.

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And that's the balance that we want to have because some people they say as long as I'm a good person, it doesn't matter if I don't pray or fast. We say no.

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The whole look that luck that the prophets Allah cinema talked about includes everything that you owe to Allah and to people.

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Salah is part of your luck.

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And fasting as part of your lap and avoiding Haram is part of your lap. If you think about it, when Allah when Allah azza wa jal had forbidden Zina and punished for it. Isn't that isn't that character? So So Muslim women feel safe? In a society like that? You your sister, your mother, your daughter feels safe? Because Allah azza wa jal gave them that safety, that character, and a Muslim man will you know, when he sees them, he will look the other way. And you see Allah's protection because he knows this is haram, I'm looking the other way. That's luck. This is hello is in it character. Not saying that, okay, just let's let's just mingle freely. And the consequence of that

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is sexual harassment, rampant sexual harassment, and in some societies, non Muslim societies, and I and it could be, you know, high in Muslim Societies as well, I do not have the numbers with me. But what I know is that in some non Muslim countries and societies, the numbers are staggering of how many women get harassed in the workplace.

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We're talking about 70 80% of women in the workplace get harassed.

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And we look at that society from afar and we say, wow, they have great character.

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Right? Because they say hi and hello, and they're outwardly good, and we're not denying that they have some good qualities.

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But you look at his whole society as a whole promiscuous alcoholic,

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sexually harasses people oppresses the weak but behind a curtain there is oppression there's some justice no question

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judicial system what have you but also there's also oppression.

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Okay. And we say we're impressed and we say that society is more rollers that society you know is kind of what have you, they have something but they like a lot more. Okay. And the more and more that you see it the more than more that you realize it. So, we want to be like the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and have that balance, we have the worship and we have the kindness we have the luck and inshallah I will conclude by by emphasizing what we can consider to be, let's say the basis of all good character. So that an all everything else emanates from them. So first is patience,

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patience, and if you have patience, you have control of your anger, if you have patience, you don't hurt other people, if they hurt you, if you have patience, you will

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await explanation before judging someone you must have patience and this must be developed.

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The other one is not harming people.

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And the third one is being generous and kind of the basis these are the basics. So, and some, some of the some of the defined it like that by the Luneta work a full other autolock autowatch. They say Bevill Luneta. You know, horsnell holotape is by the Luneta being generous with people.

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We're careful other withholding your harm. What Allah Cthulhu G having a beautiful smiling face

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This is that those are the bases of good manners. So if somebody harms you, you don't necessarily harm back.

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And you definitely you don't introduce harm to people.

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So the basic, good manners. So even Subhanallah when you're leaving the misdeed, when you're coming into the masjid, with non Muslims with Muslims, you avoid harming anybody.

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Because if you do, by, they're either going to take you or take it from you in this dunya, or in the earth here. So our good character, our manners are connected to how we are with Allah as a soldier. So you harm no one. That's one second, you try to help everybody. And be generous with them, generous with them physically generous with them with words, generous with them with in thought as well. You don't suspect, you don't think the worst? You pray for so and so. And you're not happy when they're miserable? Or sad when they're happy? Being generous with people? But of course, right? How do you achieve that? If you're envious

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if you're thinking about the dunya alone,

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why do we fight over all of these things? Right? Because I mean, why do I hate my brother and my sister, because they have the dunya. And I don't

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write, they have money, and I don't they have wealth, and I don't, they're famous. And I don't have the dunya basically, not in its all of its manifestations, and I don't, but if you love the akhira, more than the dunya, you wouldn't care about what they have, more or less.

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And then envy will diminish significantly

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and will be redirected to the earth era, you will compete for the earth Iran not for the dunya.

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So being generous with people and then being kind

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when you talk to people when you say salaam to them, when you ask about them being kind. So if you can be good, you don't introduce evil.

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But we want insha Allah unit to be as good to have as much good character as possible. And not think that if I do it, then I'm going to get less of this dunya No, you can get more of it. But if Nilla Azzawajal more, the more that you need. And Allah Azza double protect you. And if you need to get ahead, Allah xojo will push you ahead.

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Right. So just a few thoughts sha Allah that I had about

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personal hook and oh, yeah, wanted one one thing inshallah that I wanted to conclude with.

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Anyone, okay, and Rahim Allah, He says, a dino hosted on Heroku law. He says, Dean religion is entirely good manners. The one who has better manners than you is more religious than you.

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I want to remember that when I gave a hotbar. And this I promise you this is the last thing once I gave a hotbar. And I said in that hotbar, I said that we are talking about al Qaeda and the importance of al Qaeda and what have you.

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But also, we have to remember that good manners are part of al Qaeda.

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And that if your manners are not good, your Aqeedah is weak.

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And so brother came and he asked me afterwards, he said, Okay, this, this is the first time I hear this. Who else said that? Right? Because he wanted kind of documentation and validation of that statement. He says, Okay, I like it. But who else said this, that al Qaeda.

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And manners are connected, if you had bad manners, there's something wrong and missing from your Akita.

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So I told him how I basted what I base this on. That is your activity includes what your arcade includes believing in the rights that people have on you. And what you owe them is in it. So believing that the rights of a Muslim brother on you and how you should behave with them. That is part of it, that is in it, because this is something that you believe is in it.

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So if you don't act according accordingly, and you mistreat them, does not mean that that belief that you have is strong or weak, was weak. If it lacks application, it means that that belief that you have is weak, you may have it, but it's weak. So that means that that al Qaeda is what weak.

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And that's what I based it on.

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Then Alhamdulillah and that's the benefit of being asked questions like that. So I went back and I did a little bit of digging.

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And there's an audio from

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shekel Albania Rahim Allah And is she excited hinfo zan where they say that when they ask them about the Akita. So what is what is actually the mean or what is equivalent to al Qaeda. Both of them said the same thing. They said Al Qaeda is basically a man like when we discuss our feeder Now previously, the name for it was Ayman al Qaeda is a man and Eamon is Al Qaeda.

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You can go and check it out.

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So if we just take the word Al Qaeda, we announced that it's equivalent to Eman right? Okay, it is equivalent to even take that word Al Qaeda away. Now, if we say, if you have bad manners, then doesn't that mean that your Eman is weak?

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That's clear, right? Yeah, and if that's true, then that means that your Akita is weak because Aki does EMA.

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So when we're talking about Arcada, and the importance of having the right belief about Allah azza wa jal derive a belief about the prophets who sell them the destiny, the different you know, groups and what have you. But you can't neglect the fact that you also have to believe in the rights that Muslims have, and that you owe them things and that you should you know, stay away from gossip or stay away from backbiting or stay away from Miss judgment and staying away from lying and fabrication and staying away from mistreating your Muslim brother and Muslim sister in addition to everything else that is included in bad character. So Akita is not simply only something

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theoretical, it's everything that you believe and also you apply, we're responsible for liable for all of it. So that's why it's important and this is why in sha Allah, it's always a timely subject. May Allah azza wa jal, makers of those who have good character and may Allah azza wa jal allow us to improve our character and leave our bad character behind me Allah but Allah mean join us in close proximity with our prophets of Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam, and make us worthy of that station and may Allah azza wa jal protect us from anything that will distance us from that station. May Allah xojo and make us of those who reformed their character and the character of those around them. May

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Allah as the Jamaica's of the people of Jenna or not of the people of hellfire and mean, so inshallah if you have a couple of questions related directly to the topic in sha Allah, we can ask them before in sha Allah, we conclude we can answer them before we conclude the show and you don't need to have it you know, but if you do, yeah, go ahead. It comes salaam

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