How Can We Be Patient

Ali Albarghouthi


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In the face of difficulties and tragedies and afflictions and hardships in life,

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one finds it

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really difficult to maintain patience.

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Whether the hardship is personal, or it's public.

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is hard to come by.

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How do I maintain my patience

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with continuous affliction? How do I stay strong and steadfast? How do I fight off the whispers of the shaytaan and the doubts that enter my life?

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How do I stay strong in Iman and not falter? Like so many have? Because I don't want to be a casualty of this affliction. If I want to survive it, how do I survive it?

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How do I continue to get trust him? Subhanahu wa taala?

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How do I continue to be a person of faith

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and a person of action? upright and principled in a world that is unprincipled and faithless. How does this happen?

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Because you feel at times that you've reached your limit, you've reached your end.

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And when you talk about patience, we often don't understand what patience is because people sometimes understand patience

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to equal passiveness

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meaning, not do a thing.

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They understand patience as surrender.

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And they don't understand even if they understand the importance of patience, how to be able to draw on this unlimited supply of patients to counter that seemingly unlimited supply

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of hardship.

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And you encounter an ayah in the Quran that sort of exemplifies that

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the extent and the desperation and the ultimate help that comes from Allah subhanho wa Taala where Allah said had either status or Rasul

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Allah No, no han cut Cody. Whoo. I tell him not sunnah.

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Well, he karate Lucara could do.

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Well, then no unknown cut could do.

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It says, When

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the messengers

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have reached the level of despair.

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And they believe that they meaning their people have denied them, have rejected them, the believers have rejected them and denied them. That's according to one of the Feraud.

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And another one

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that they have been lied to.

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They think that

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and that is amazing because it tells you that even the messengers of the prophets of Allah, Allah Salatu was Salam, all of them and they are infallible, the best of believers. But the intensity of that persecution of that pain, day after day, that it seemed so endless, that because of their humanity, and they are after all human beings, a thought starts to creep into their minds and hearts, despair.

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Maybe I will not see the victory of Allah, maybe these people will not be punished.

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Maybe this is it for us. And they of course they repelled that and they fight it and they restored their Eman, but it does tell you that that thought enters

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And if that happens with them, it happens with us. And they think they think that they have been denied meaning that they start to believe that the people who say that they are believers are not believers of an otherwise how do you explain the delay in the victory of Allah and that continuous affliction? The maybe these are not believers do they claim to? Or maybe a thought comes to their head, like our minds and hearts? In my own the truth? Is this right? Is the promise right?

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I thought, a passing thought.

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So we asked these questions.

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Is it worth it to still have Iman? Is it still worth the fight?

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Should I continue to hold on to the truth and pay the price? Should I sacrifice so much and am I willing to sacrifice so much? And if I begin to sacrifice will I be steadfast or will I panic? Do I have what it takes all of these things?

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And if we don't have patience, then we have nothing in life.

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And listen to it the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam said in the Hadith where he said what Allah and the masala Maha Sabha were in for Raja Malik Kuru were in a man city you saw a says A No, I firmly believe that victory is coupled to patience and that with hardship, there is relief.

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And with difficulty there is ease.

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That is when you know this from Allah subhanahu wata, either that Whatever hardship you find whatever comes your way he had coupled with the Subhana who were to other out of His mercy, there is also there must be use. It has to be a will come.

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And if there's

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a distress that you will feeling personally or the old mother feeling it if there is curb, there has to be Forge, there is a promise.

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Now what you need to see all of that is the first which is patience, which he said to me he is Salatu was Salam. He says victory is with patience and patience is with victory.

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And the interesting thing here is that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not specify the type of victory here

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to tell you that as long as you are patient, you will victorious by the will of Allah azza wa jal because victory is not a one type.

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And if Nora Rahim Allah He said, commenting on this hadith he says, What are they Ishmael? Will Jihad Ernie?

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Do you have enough see what you heard will?

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Meaning this victory covers two types of jihad, the internal Jihad and the external Jihad because you are engaged in both of them. And you need both of them you need an internal Jihad without which there is no external jihad. And you need an external Jihad without which you will be weak on the inside you need both of them.

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So he said to the haimo Hola that victory is true for both. That is if you are patient with Allah's commands, and patient to stay away from the Haram, if you hold on to that type of patience, then you're victorious. You will win by the will of Allah azza wa jal

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and if you are patient with adversity on the outside,

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with the persecution on the outside and you hold on to Allah's commands, you don't transgress them.

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You are patient, when he needs you to be patient and your patient when he commands you to do what he wants go would require sacrifice and you give that sacrifice to Allah azza wa jal, for his sake is that when your patients like that, then you have won the outcome, then the final outcome does not matter. Because as long as you are patient, you're victorious in the book of Allah azza wa jal, and you're victorious in the Sunnah of the messenger, Alayhi Salatu was Salam.

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That's the victory that is hard to maintain the victory of patience. Because we are now people who look at specific results and we say, unless we see this, otherwise, we're defeated. We're not those type of people. We're the type of people who will say we submit to Allah azza wa jal, and we'll do His will. And he does whatever he wants with us. And he plans whatever he wants SubhanaHu wa to honor. That is our victory. Our victory is our belief in our victories, our surrender to Allah azza wa jal, not a piece of land not a little bit of money that you have, not a reputation that you're trying to say

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If your victory is a victory or that Allah is pleased with you, if you have that, then you have won and your enemy has lost.

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Your enemy has lost because remember that there is going to be a final judgment, wherever we would be brought before Allah azza wa jal, and those who transgressed will be punished for their transgression, and those who have suffered boo will be awarded for their suffering. So the idea here is not to limit yourself to what is happening today and tomorrow and the day after tomorrow. The idea here is to connect yourself to the rope of Allah azza wa jal that no one is ever able to cut between you and him. No one can cut that between you and him unless you decide to cut it.

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But the patience that we need is a patient that relies on basic beliefs in him Subhana who were to Allah, the first of them is that Allah's decision is better than our decision. And Allah's plan is better than our plan. And what he Allah has to happen he Allah has to happen for a wisdom that exceeds our limited expectations and view. So you trust him SubhanaHu wa to Allah, understanding that there is benefit in this even if you cannot see it, there are blessings in this even if you cannot see it, there is reward in this even if you cannot see it.

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And I'd rather be with what Allah decided and what he wanted rather be with my own plan and my own decisions, because ALLAH knows and we do not know.

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To understand that

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when you are patient when you are tasting the bitterness of life around you, when everything around you, you're disillusioned with everything that you see

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you're unhappy with what everything in your life, and it's bitter and it's difficult yet you maintain your patience. And that patience means that I'm not gonna complain about Allah subhanho wa Taala I'll submit to His decisions, I'll submit to his decree, Allah wait his reward Subhana who are to Allah, and I'll go along with what he wants from me. I'll do what he wants me to do, and I'll stop when he wants me to stop. It's not up for me, to me. It's not up to my emotions. It's up to Allah azza wa jal, I will not complain.

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I'll believe that what comes next is better. I'll always remain hopeful, helpful. So when that happens, he said Ali, his Salatu was Salam wa sallam, and if somebody at tecra, who halen cathedra, he says, know that being patient with what you hate has an enormity of goodness in it.

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When you know that, when you are patient with the bitterness that surrounds you, that there is plenty of good in it. Your circumstances will turn upside down

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from a

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expression, or a feeling of helplessness, a feeling of hope, a block of power,

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a feeling of oppression,

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a victory from Allah Hazaragi.

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That is this moment that is bitter and impatient in it. Allah is blessing me.

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And Allah is elevating me. And if I were to see the consequence of that, on the Day of Judgment, I would not wish for anything else to have happened. I would wish for the same exact affliction for the same exact trouble for what Allah decided, because I would have seen that in it how much Allah would have given me and everybody else who was suffering, and we would all say we would not have wanted anything else but this the Allah because now we see why you did it. And now we see the consequence of all of that, so that becomes like cold water that extinguishes the flames of a burning heart that cries out why is this happening? Whether it is to the Ummah or to me? Why is this

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happening? Why am I continuously suffering? As Allah as you're listening to my dua? Does Allah even care about me all these thoughts that creep into our minds? We push them back by saying, I trust Allah azza wa jal, and I trust the messenger Alayhi Salatu was Salam, and believe their words and what they have said to me, and I understand that, sooner or later, I will see the consequence of that patience. I just need to believe in Allah azza wa jal.

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I need to believe that this is not everything.

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I need to believe that

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a wrongdoer does not escape the wrongdoing.

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And the wrong does not escape.

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The reward from Allah has

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a bird

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That is killed unjustly. This is in the Hadith.

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If you kill a bird, not from simply eating them just for play

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he says yeah oh Julian Allah here. So tender Yo Ma Yama he will plead with Allah azza wa jal, he will cry to Allah azza wa jal he says, Look at this human being he killed me not to eat me just for play, ask him why he killed me, the bird a little bird.

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And then that human being has to answer that question, why did you kill him?

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Because he had no right over it.

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How about all that we see around us.

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If think Allah azza wa jal Allah that go

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but what is important is how we are.

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So you have a patience that is needed from all of us. And that patience begins with the internal patience, the internal patience with halal and haram, the internal patience with trusting ALLAH SubhanA who are to Allah, the internal patience with Salah

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with dua

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fasting with Zika with staying away from the Haram

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imagine with me if somebody were to ask you to boycott a particular product what will give you the patience to boycott that product

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our religion teaches us patience Salah after Salah after Salah will do after odo after will do

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when you fast. You are in the university and college of patience.

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This is how you practice it every single day.

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When you want to give money you're practicing patience because you say to yourself No. My neffs myself one something no I'm going to conquer that and be patient with it's called not disciplined and I will give to Allah azza wa jal. So you're trying to conquer yourself every single day, you see a haram and you say I'm going to look the other way. You listen to a haram, I'm going to listen to something else. But Matt, now that we are practicing patients every single day. So now when you're asked to or expect it from you, or you decide I'm going to bike boycott this product, and some people will say no, I can't and to attach to it. I depend on it. I'm addicted to it. And part of my

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habit, if we can stop this, and I'm not asking you that it's an obligation on you to stop it and presenting it as simple and simply an example. If we can stay away from this, how do you expect us to do greater things in life? To stay away from more necessities? When when we speak the truth? They come and tell us we are not going to have access to a B or C or D?

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How will we be patient with that? Unless we have graduated? From the patience the school of patience that's in the Quran and the Sunnah of the messenger? How do you Salatu was set up.

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So unless we practice it, we won't have it. And unless we rely on Allah azza wa jal will find that we will falter.

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And we will waver

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to ask Allah zodion are hamara hai mean to sue the hearts of those who are afflicted and those who are in doubt and those who are in pain and to show us relief after distress? And to show us if these are after hardship? A hula holy ha That was the federal law do you want to confess the who?

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hamdulillahi rabbil Alameen Hamden Kathy rumpy, even O'Gara can fee who also Li was salam ala Rasulillah he Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salam.

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This is not supposed to be an academic exercise in patience. So we talked about patience and the importance and patience but then what like, how do I actually be patient? Be more patient? How tools can I have

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to say you, Allahu Allah. And first of all, understand that patience is based on belief. And the more you know, the more patient you can be. The more you understand Allah, who Allah is what his book is about the message in the Quran. The more that you read this sunnah, the more that you digest this, and it's firm in your heart, the four patients you will be because Allah azza wa jal he gave an example that Allahu Metha and and Kenya Madame de Baca, Shara tiempo, Yeva, a slew Hatha, but Allah I've given the example of the good word as a good tree is foundation or firm. So those foundations are firm because the word itself is firm in the hearts of the believers.

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So if you have those roots, then you will be able to bear fruits throughout your body throughout your life. But the first thing is

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to know what Islam is to study it to learn it to attach yourself to it. Also, the Quran Gallica linworth better behavior.

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This is about Muhammad Ali his Salatu was Salam that the Prophet Allah said, We have sent the Quran the way that we have sent it to stabilize your heart to give it comfort.

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So we need this stuff beat.

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How do you get it? In theory, we need to be more impatient. How do you get it every single day in the face of an onslaught of whispers from the shaytaan and advertisements from the helpers of the shaytaan that tried to convince you otherwise, how to how do you push back? What's your daily regimen that allows you to be strong? It's the book of Allah azza wa jal. You have to hold on to it and you have to read it and you have to use the messages that is in it and the power that it gives you to overpower the shaytaan

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to overpower helplessness, cynicism, surrender to the world that seems to be too powerful, far too powerful for us to change. This Quran gives you power. So you have to read the Quran every day. And you have to engage in the Dhikr of Allah subhanho wa Taala especially when you find yourself weak, especially when you find yourself in need of extra strength.

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You then need to attend fifth Bucha with karula cathedra Allah Allah come to flow. He said subhanho wa Taala that you know, be steadfast be firm and remember Allah Allah, so that you may be successful. So when you need that firmness, then dhikr of Allah azza wa jal is needed. And don't take that lightly. Oh, we've heard that before. Don't take that lightly. Because you will find it in the Quran. You will find it in the Sunnah Wallah attorney fee decree he said to Musa and Harun Allah He must sit down you're gonna go meet Pharaoh. If you're going to panic you're going to panic when you meet somebody like Pharaoh alone defenseless. What is your weapon? He says well that attorney

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fee decree don't stop remembering me. Along the way when you're there keep saying whatever you can stuff your Hola Hola. Hola, La Quwata illa biLlah Subhan Allah wa Al Hamdulillah. But this is what you say every single day when you find yourself weak. Just like when you are hungry, and your stomach grumbles and pear says, Give me food and you feed it. When you find yourself in pain, in spiritual pain in emotional pain. That is the time for the Dhikr of Allah azza wa jal because you will feel better after that, and you will be stronger because of it.

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And you will not lay your arms to say to the army, come and cut my head. I'm done. No, you will say I'll continue to fight for the sake of Allah azza wa jal. I'll continue to be patient for the sake of Allah I believe in what he's telling me. So the vicar of Allah azza wa jal and if also never, never, never forget dua, you will find it in the book of Allah azza wa jal that when they need it, Allah azza wa jal, third bit of Domina plant our feet firmly in the face of all this hardship, plant our feet firmly so you are being tested, all of us are being tested in life till we die.

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So we need that firmness in Iman we need that support from Allah xiaojin And he Subhana wa Taala He told His Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam was there, he says, Be patient, when our sub broker illa biLlah your patience is because of Allah azza wa jal. You can't be patient on your own. You don't think that you will not be able to handle everything that is happening to you and me on our own. But Allah azza wa jal says we'll spare yes be patient, but understand that patients come comes from Him subhanho wa taala. So ask him for it. Rely on him for that. Say Allah um, i my i am at my wit's end. I haven't have power anymore. I don't have energy anymore. I'm almost in that state where I'm

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desperate. You're a bill Alameen so I asked you for your help. I asked you for your support. I asked me I asked you for those sperm feet. I asked you that a would see that relief? I asked you that this pain would go away at asked you that you would show me the wisdom sooner or later what happens that even if I don't see it, give me the trust in New York will allow me to ask and engage in conversations with Allah as though did don't surrender to doubt. Don't surrender to weakness. Know that Allah zodion had given you the tools to overpower your enemy. The shaytaan trembles because of that tools that

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Allah has really given to you, you call the event the shaytaan runs away the shaytaan. But other people don't know what to handle how to handle what to do with you call the dam, the shaytaan runs away, you call it and kursi he cannot approach you have the tools to defeat the Shavon.

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So use them

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and ask Allah azza wa jal for more and more of his patients because we need that.

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And it doesn't stop with patients.

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But also you could move to the stage of reader.

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Yes, now I'm patient. But now because I see Allah's reward and what is happening, and they see that Allah is behind it. And I see that there is benefit in it, whether whether it's visible or not, and that it's better that it happens rather than not in exactly the way that it happens. I'll be content.

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I'll be pleased with Allah's decrease. I will not be be a bitter about it, I will change and combat injustice for sure. But with things that are beyond my ability, I'll be pleased with Allah's decree.

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And you can even climb up to the level of gratitude for bad things that happen to you in Me, you lose a house, you lose a job, you lose a child.

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And imagine be grateful, because you understand that what happened to you is not an affliction, but an enema from Allah azza wa jal, when you can see the bad is good, because Allah is behind it, then you will be able to thank him Allah subhana wa to Allah for every single thing, and then there is no room for sorrow.

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You pick yourself up and you continue and you march towards Allah azza wa jal

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to ask Allah Allah Allah Allah mean or hamara hai mean we asked you are up to give us patience and gratitude and contentment with your decrees we ask you your bill Allah mean to alleviate the suffering of Muslims throughout the world was horrible al Amin to clewd them and feed them and protect them from their enemy horrible. And I mean, we asked you you will either mean to show us Your mercy on Earth. We asked Europe and Al Amin to repel the evil of the evil doors and to disgrace them on Earth. We asked you all but Allah need to forgive us all of our sins, we asked you to elevate us in the dunya and in the air that we asked you to make us of the people of heaven, not of

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the people of hellfire to ask your parliament to protect us from the whispers of the shaytaan the doubts that we have in our hearts we ask you to make us of those who rely on you who love you and who love your messenger under his Salatu was Salam more than they love our their selves, who as you are but Allah mean to give us power against our addictions of things that you hate and give us power. You're horrible Allah means to do the things that we're supposed to do but we are not doing Allahumma Mahama fildena at Marian what he said a Muslim you know when Muslim at Allah engine mustafina Mina Muslimeen if you call him a Kenyan, Rabbil Alameen Allahu Allah was at the warfield.

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perfetta Hi. Welcome.