Acquiring Success Through Your Parents

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Acquiring Success Through Looking After Your Parents By Sh. Alaa Elsayed

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The segment discusses various personal and cultural moments and events that have occurred in the past, including personal struggles such as lost loved ones and family, lost loved ones for reasons such as personal reasons, and the struggles of protecting loved ones and parents. The segment also touches on the struggles of protecting children and the struggles of protecting parents, as well as the importance of men acting with their parents in various ways.

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How can you be nice?

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She was the first sound you ever heard in your life was a heartbeat.

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First Vision you've ever seen in your life was a beautiful smile.

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First thing you ever touched with her gentle hand

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for sound you ever made.

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First hug you've ever taken

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when you were afraid you ran to her.

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Her bosom was a source of nourishment for you.

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Her lab was a source of comfort for you.

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She said seen death to give you life.

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She's gone hungry to feed you.

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And she's gone thirsty, to quench your thirst.

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sleepless nights to make sure you're asleep happy and tight.

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devoted her life to make sure that you are who you are today.

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She ran right and left to make sure you get the righteous spouse.

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She would laugh when you laugh. She would cry when you cry.

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She would give you life. Even if she doesn't have any.

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She would give your heart to wipe your tears.

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It's the same hand that bathes you and fed you cleaned you changed you.

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It's the same hand the wipe the tears off your face.

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covered your eyes to shade you from the sun.

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It's the finger that you held on to heal comfort.

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There's only one creation that would love to see none other than you better than the art.

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It's the father that worked part time, full time over time, nighttime all the time to put the food on the table,

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roof over your head, clothes on your back.

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Maybe even your father did not have a chance to finish education.

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But would do anything to make sure you do.

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There is no other creation than your parents that would do that for you.

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Any other relation would go south or sour. But not your parents. They will still love you unconditionally.

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You will remember the day

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that you heard your wife says Honey, I have some good news. The doctor told me I'm pregnant. You prostrate to a lot to thank him. You place your hand on her tummy. You feel a kick.

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You hear a sound. You start talking you pick names you pick colors, you paint walls.

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You can hardly wait to see her beautiful face. You'll never forget the day she came to life.

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Because of that day you were called the mother or father.

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You won't forget the day she ate solid food for the first time.

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And you won't forget the day she called you up or mama for the first time.

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And you won't forget the day she walked in her own feet with open arms a beautiful smile that made you forget the misery of the world.

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And you won't forget the day she walked away from you to go to school will allow you to remember that day.

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This is the only time you'll understand what parents actually felt like

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the Quran actually gives you a visual a picture that allows them hanout Allah vividly made sure that you understood what they had to go through.

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Hamada to mohanan Allah

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you know the sound what? what some of the scholars as if allows aparthotel is trying to tell you you were not there. When you

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Mother carried you.

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But it's trying to give you a visual as your mother is walking. What was the sound she made in difficulties.

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A fire chief is telling a story, a true story that is, he says we received the 911 call.

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We rushed to the house at some fire.

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tried so hard to open the door.

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We used all our means to get to them before.

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But by the time we opened the door we only saw a mother hovering over her child. Her fingers were burned down to the Boone's trying to open the door after she found out it was ever too late. She cannot do anything for children. She hovered over them she's still covered them knowing very well that they were all die but she still had the power in her to make sure that you're protecting her children.

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These are the same hands that allows them hi now Jen love Yoda says what fubu more thy wings in humility and humbleness. lahoma Jana has done live in a Rama

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Rama camara, bionis Avira.

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Lower those wings lower those arms as if you flew in the group. If you raised those arms, as if you're trying to fight says lower them in humility, lower them in humbleness. And remember the time they took you under their wings.

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There was a story that a woman heard there was

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an army coming.

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She had her ailing mother with her.

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She did not forget and ran away.

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She carried her mother on her back. Her mother could not walk

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till she got tired to get away from the army the invading army that is

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after she got tired she did not leave her mother behind and ran away. She turned her mother around and can hurt his stomach. And she did not forget that her mother carried her in his stomach.

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After she got tired, she placed her own feet beneath her mother's feet so her mother's feet will not touch the hot desert sand till they get away.

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You remember the story of a man that is taken his son out with him?

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An old man now pushing a car that has clean

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arms or shaking is getting old.

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stumbled over a rock

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and the cart tipped over. The clay pots film old broke his child now is hitting his own father.

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And the people around them are hovering over that child trying to beat him up. What are you doing to your dad? That dad comes into the aid of his own child that is hitting him since they leave him I hit my own father. In that same place when I was young.

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Kamata Gina to Dan as you do will be done on to you.

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You understand that your benevolence to your parents is a story that your children will write on your behalf.

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There was a man that came to complain to Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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about his own father has taken too much money from him.

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So prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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told him to bring his father his father now I'm being summoned by Prophet Mohammed Salah us alum. Come here to explain yourself. Your son is complaining about you that you're taking money from him.

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you bleed out a slam sent by olanzapine Oh gela. He wrote our main focus about some art from the seventh heaven to be descended upon Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam to be asked a specific question.

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asked that man. What did he say with his tongue

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had the

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lamb test

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he talked to him

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Have something that his own ears did not hear.

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So when that man came,

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Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked him, What was that speech that you said within you?

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That your ears did not even here? Here's what law he, my in my ear man in you. My belief in you is increasing every time. None of us heard nobody's around. But you knew I was talking to myself about my son. I did not even say it out loud. I was talking to myself, pondering reflecting about what I've been thinking about my own son.

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He says, Yeah, Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, this is in the tabari.

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He says,

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well, who are the eyes? Welcome to an E. FF here.

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I was strong, and he was weak. I was rich, and he was poor.

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Now that I am weak, and he is strong, and I am poor, and he is rich. He helps me not he knows me not.

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So Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam grabbed his shoulders of the his son and shook him two narrations one says, and Luca, Leah big. The other narration says, And luckily

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after he heard what he heard,

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he says you and your wealth is for your father. And the other narration says, you and what you possess is for your father.

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You remember with Allah subhana wa Jalla Allah

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gave us one measuring stick to compare.

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When he says Oh, Rob Durham, Houma Kamara Bayani Samira, Allah have mercy upon them with us. As they raised me when I was young,

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you will never know till you have of your own.

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This is why Mama Mama Rahmatullah la he says you're supposed to make this dry in every salon. He's so adamant about it, between the two such This is even if you miss it, you make sure you sell as his opinion amatola Allah.

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Allah subhanaw taala is reminding us the greatest sin that he will not forgive. He forgives not on Judgement Day.

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In Allah Allah,

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Masha, Allah forgives not the act of sheer ascribed partners on to Allah, and he forgives anything else other than that to whomever he wishes.

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And he repeats the same word in

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the greatest act of oppression is the act of shooting. And he uses the same word Wayne jahad, aka they're striving

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for you to commit the act of shooting

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and not do not obey them.

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There is no videos of the creation and disobedience of the Creator. But he still went out for a booma for dunya Makarova accompany them

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and do righteous deeds endlessly as long as they're alive.

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Do you remember the nights that you went to sleep

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in the car, on the couch

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somewhere other than your bed, but when you wake up in the morning, you found yourself on your bed covered?

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Who got you there

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who stayed up at night to make sure you go to sleep? Who got up and fetches to prepare the food for you so she will not go to sleep on you will miss your school

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who carried the nights over the days to make sure that who you are today.

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I wish life was in my hand that would give her more.

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But I know that the life is in the hands of Allah subhana wa Jalla Viola

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I wish I can give her my heart. I wish I can give her the smile to wipe her tears. I wish I can spend everything I have to make her happy again, make her young again. As I remember she used to come with open arms. And now she comes with a cane.

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You remember your mother when she used to carry you?

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You remember your father when she used to carry you

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but now there is a time

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For you to be carried

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and time to you to carry

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I remember the day

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that I received a beautiful story a true one indeed.

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The link opens up a close up on a face a man called Abdullah

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the interviewer is asking him

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Oh Abdullah

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what would you do then if you knew then what you know now

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the camera opens up

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and you'll see that Abdullah is quadriplegic he's paralyzed from the neck down.

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The first word he says Amani wishes dreams I wish, I hope.

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The first wish he says an extra delay he says,

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I wish I can prostrate to Allah once

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because he can't. And he says if Allah subhanaw taala granted me this wish.

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I do not want to be raised again. I want to die right there and then

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and a second wish he says I wish I can turn a page from the Quran.

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And the third wish he says on a day. I wish I can run to my mother with open arms, hug her and kiss her and see Rob Burnham Houma, Kamara, bionis Avira.

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You remember the man that came to give the baotou Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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He says I came to you to do that. But yeah, the Pledge of Allegiance. I want to become a Muslim. I want to make a judo migrate with you.

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But I left my parents crying.

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He says go back and make him smile. Like you made them cry.

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says if you make your parents smile,

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they go to sleep happy or smiling because of you. If you die that night, there's one gate or two gates of heaven waiting for you.

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But if you make your parents go to sleep angry or are crying because of you.

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And if you die that night, there is one or two gates of Hellfire waiting for you.

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Well, I have seen grown men come cry in my office. My parents died and I wasn't good for them. I wasn't good. How do I get them back? You can't.

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You cannot get your parents back.

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Even Jihad for the sake of Allah. When a man came to Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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He says I want to perform Jihad with you or messenger of Allah.

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He says Your parents are alive.

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He said yes. His fee him if

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you can go ahead and performs Use your head with your parents. Because I want to fight with your messenger of Allah. So what do you want these I want Jenna system malgin

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do you want gender?

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There is gender.

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If your ultimate success, according to

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the one that we're talking about today, all over today, those who distance themselves away they were distant away from the Hellfire

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and they were attained heaven. That's a true ultimate success.

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So if prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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told you there is Jenna.

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How many of us

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know their favorite color? How many of us look at them and smile. How many of us have a meal with them? How many of us spend time with them and how many of us put them in a

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SR home I don't want to deal with you anymore.

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La Jolla Hanuman invited authority.

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He used to be one of the best, benevolent his parents. But his mother complained.

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His mother complained he doesn't eat food with me.

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He was asked How come?

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You know what he said

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I fear that my hand will reach for a morsel of food that my mother looked at in my hand, we reach for this morsel of food. When my mother looked at it, I would reach for it before my mother reached for it. I would be up to my mother. I will not be kind to my mother.

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Have we forgotten?

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Have we forgotten what they've done for us?

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They devoted their whole lives for us.

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Everything they're all about was for us.

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The moon moved for us. They brought you here for you.

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They didn't even speak the same language.

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They were made a mockery of.

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They had jobs that they were not proud of.

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But they made sure that you grew up to be who you are today.

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Your homework for tonight?

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Before you go home.

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If your parents are alive,

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you better call him on the phone. Or better yet, go visit them.

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Kiss the hand that raised you

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kiss your mother's hand at Bayview.

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Casey mother's hand shaved you kiss your mother's hand that carried you

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and kiss the forehead of your father that had this sweat pouring down to make sure that you are who you are today.

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At the lab Nirmala de la Noma again said that a man Kim. He says I carried my mother couldn't do let her be a role model. I was her mode of transportation I carried on on my back.

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I made the love with her.

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I beat her. I cleaned her. I fed her. I changed her. I've done everything that she's done for me.

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I have paid my debts.

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So Abdullayev Nirmala Delano says La la la la la, la la casa de la de ne by Allah you have not paid the death of your mother, not even with one labor pain that you had to endure to give you life.

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He says How come?

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He says can a TIFF alma mater

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alma mater

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les Susa

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because she used to do what you're doing for her, and she would hope that you'd still be alive and you're doing what you're doing for her and you'd hope that she would die. They're not the same.

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It's time for us to put a smile on their face.

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It's time for us to walk the talk.

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It's time for us to understand that the second reason of creation waka Dora Buccola taboo lie ya.

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Allah, Allah Allah, Allah tala Roma wakulla moto LAN Karina workfit La Jolla. hadoo limonada wakulla Hama Kamala Bernice Avira

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allows them hi now gela Viola decreed that none should be worshipped except Him and be good to your parents.

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And if they reach an older age with you, one or both.

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look after them.

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Do not even say the smallest utterance of words or a sound of discomfort or discontent the word off

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and ask Allah to have mercy upon them as they raised you when you're young.

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your own future is written by you.

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As we mentioned, the

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Your children will tell the story of your benevolence to your

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parents. My time is up. I'm going to leave you again to repeat the homework. When you go home tonight, you kiss the hand of your mother and the forehead of your father. And every time you pray you see or a bear hug mama come out Kamara. bionis Avira I ask Allah subhana wa jal if you're allowed to make us among those who listen speech and follow the best of it. waka Juana hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salam ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sahbihi wa salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.