Issues of Marriage #11

So that's hadith most of that's different. That,

that can be seen as a weak hadith

in general,

depending on who the tabi'i is. But the

tabi'i

says so he points out a specific person

or he says there's a he says that

it was a person amongst the prophet alaihis

salam alayhi who told me this, but I

just don't remember who, then there's a different

way of of looking at that. Hadith, depending

on the tabiyeh,

it is seen as either authentic or reasonable

versus waif, but, that that's just like a

little nugget from Musa al Hadith.

It's not not a, you know, this hadith

has a reasonable standardization because it's other Hadith

that

has Shoah head for it, meaning there are

other examples for it. Within the issue of

marriage, this is still what I'm talking about

for the next maybe week or 2, then

I'll cover a few more hadith on this

issue, on this topic.

This man said, Qalam,

I heard him one day saying,

taban lizhahabiwulfilba.

Basically, gold and silver.

There's context here that is missing that this

man did not pick up. He just heard

the prophet walking away saying, No, gold and

silver. Gold and silver this and gold and

silver that.

I went and Umar Khattab was with us,

the 2 of us walked. This man from

the among the Prophet alaihis on Sahaba.

Called,

So our own khatab would ask you, he

followed up to Prophet 'alaihi wa sallatu wa

sallam, Jair Rasulullah, you said, you know, you

cursed dahabu filba.

What do you mean? Like, we don't you

you never you don't usually do this. So

why why are you saying that?

And he walked

He said,

Apparently,

he was frustrated with something someone was saying.

Something to do with a bit of a

materialistic approach. He was frustrated with some degree

of materialism that he was witnessing.

So it bothered him. So he said something

something So and so, vaha Abu Fabbah.

And then the guy who was hearing an

Nawal Khattab, they they just heard him say

this on the way out. They didn't actually

witness the context. They ran after him alayhis

sala. There's a lot of things to learn

from this hadith. I'm not gonna waste you

too much of your time. They ran after

him and said, You Rasoolallah, we heard you

say this curse word that doesn't like you're

saying so and so that Abu Fardah, what's

the problem? So he didn't actually explain to

them He

just said these three things.

So it's not lisaanun dhakir,

wakalbunshakir, no, lisaanun dhakir.

So in Arabic when you put fatahrulmusub

on a word, there has to be some

reasoning for it. And most of the time

it's either like a harpusheba bifirk in the

in the in the comes before it or

there's a fiyal and it's some of urbihi

for it to make sense. So in this

case,

well, Allah understands how the scholars have understood

this and this is what you take from

the context of what's being said. The prophet

alaihi sallahu alaihi wasallam is actually saying

like what you should ask for, what you

should be happy with, what you should be

hoping Allah gives you is

a tongue that is embraced and engaged in

the remembrance of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

A heart that is satisfied, that is grateful

to what Allah will get.

And

a wife that will help you get into

akhirah. And that's all you need.

He was upset with the materialistic approach people

were showing. This is back at his time,

alayhis salatu wa sallam, when people know nothing.

People know

nothing.

People had nothing. I can't imagine how you

could be upset with any materialistic approach at

that time. There was What material existed? Like

people barely had shoes, people didn't have bathrooms,

there was no running water, electricity wasn't even

talked about. This is not even he was

upset with people focused on the Abu Fibbah,

walking away saying, What if Allah subhanahu wa'ala

grants you

a tongue that

has the privilege of remembering him?

And a heart that has a privilege of

understanding his blessing so is grateful and you

have a spouse that helps you make it

to aqirah then what do you want?

Wealth and money and material? Yeah.

That's how we thought alaihis salatu wa sallam.

It shows you what he valued really. I

love this hadith because it just shows you

what he really valued. This is the value.

This is what matters in life. Are you

someone who's blessed with the ability to know

God to the degree that allows you to

remember him? So your tongue can do dhikr.

Yes. Do you understand faith in a way

that allows your heart to be in gratitude

for what you have? Yes. Do you have

someone a companion on the on the way

that will take you closer to Allah not

farther away? Yes. Then you are very rich.

Then you are the richest of the rich.

This is the you're the wealthiest person alive.

And

understand why

you're correct, alayhis salawat. Alright? I understand makes

sense now that he said that. It's like

it's like what we

Something to think about. Having a companion,

that will help you make it to to

to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is more valuable

than probably anything you'll ever have

in this world. So so if you have

one, be very happy. And if you don't,

look for one, so you can be very

like the rest of us here.

like the rest of us here.