The Ideal Muslim Family In The West

Abu Bakr Zoud


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AI: Summary © The importance of marriage in Islam is emphasized, particularly in the context of religion where men are encouraged to pray and wake up their husband. The speakers emphasize the manners of Islam, including the importance of women being recognized and spoken for, healthy marriage, and protecting one's own family and community. The manners of healthy marriage are emphasized, along with the need for a thorough approach to preserving one's health and family. A fundraiser for their brothers and sisters in Turkey and Syria is also mentioned.
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hamdulillah help Alameen wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah while Ali or sabe Germaine, All Praise and thanks belongs to Allah subhanho wa Taala mails the peace and blessings of Allah and be upon His servant and final messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. A store follows My dear respected Brothers and Sisters in Islam. aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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What hamdulillah it is a blessing from Allah azza wa jal that we meet once again. We ask Allah subhanahu wa taala. In the same manner, he gathered us in this worldly life that he gathers gather us in the Paradise fusion method nine. I mean, my brothers and sisters in Islam, today's or tonight's lecture is titled, The Ideal Muslim family living in the West.

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The intention of tonight's talk

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is to discuss

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a Muslim family that resides in the west facing contemporary challenges and difficulties and tribulations and Phaeton. How is this Muslim family going to survive?

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This is the idea of the lesson. So then in sha Allah, Allah what I intend is once you leave at the end of this lesson, if Allah azza wa jal gave us the ability to finish this lesson that you walk away, having refreshed understanding of what is going to save a Muslim family, amidst filth and garbage and Phaeton, an evil that surrounds it.

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First and foremost, Allah subhanho wa Taala

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said in the Quran in surah Taha Jawad

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Johan knows so in a holla connect calm and carry on

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with your Anelka I'm sure Uber walkabout Elita Allahu

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Allah azza wa jal you said,

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oh mankind, we created you from male and female. And we may do into shallow shallow means nations what Kabbalah? Kabbalah in means tribes so shallow, this is bigger than Cabana, sharp is a tribe will come a sharp is the nation will cabana in our tribes

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and tribes. They consist of families. So you have families.

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Many families make a tribe, many tribes make a nation.

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So at the core of a nation at the core of society is a family.

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If the family unit is healthy, and upright,

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then the entire society and the community becomes healthy and upright.

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And if the core of society which is the family is corrupt and ruined and destroyed,

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then a very logical understanding would give that the entire community and the society would be corrupt.

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And it would be unhealthy. And Allah subhanahu wata, Allah said in

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when Bella don't pay him to be in the lobby, we're levy humble fella who Illa Nicky there. Allah azza wa jal, he said, the good land, land that is good, the soil is fertile, it's healthy, it's pure.

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Then when you put seeds in it, those seeds would grow really fast and healthy into trees providing fruit.

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Allah saw him said, Well, let me hold off. And if the land is damaged, the land the soil is not fertile. It's dead soil. There's no nutrients in the soil itself. You put seeds in that what happens? Allah azza wa jal says, now you're lucky that if the seed was going to sprout and bring out something, then it's with a lot of difficulty, not hardly anything is going to come out. And if a tree did somewhat come up, it won't grow its normal size, and it won't produce healthy fruit. And

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the idea is, if the family unit is upright, and healthy, society flourishes and it thrives. And if at the core of society, the family itself is destroyed and corrupt, then the entire community and society suffers as a result

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of my brothers and sisters in Islam, we know that the solution to every family problem they are all solvable

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by before a family comes into existence, and he's always said that the prevention is better than cure. We all know this

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We even in our Islam, in the case of Allah, Allah USA, Lim said Lao ball or whatever. But all this is a principle in Islam. low bar means every single effort must be made to push away harm before it arrives. The idea of prevention before the cure, then enemies Allahu alayhi wa sallam said, Well, I'll be wrong, meaning every single effort must be made to remove the harm once it has arrived.

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But the believers are encouraged to avoid the harm altogether before it arrives.

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And so family issues and family problems, they are all resolved, and they all may be solved before a person establishes a family. It all happens with the intention when he wants to get married.

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All of these issues may be solved at the time of marriage. And so each and every single one of us must ask himself,

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why do I get married? What's the purpose of marriage? This will be beneficial for those who are not married yet. And also for those who are married to refresh these intentions.

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Why do we get married

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some people, he gets married because Allah his parents married and this is probably the way in life. His friends got married. His neighbors are married, he fees to remain alone. He's the only one among his friends are married tied him to get married because of that.

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Some people they marry because he has a desire and need to fulfill. That's his only reason for getting married even what's the difference between a human and an animal in that case?

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These are not intentions of marriage.

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When a person wants to marry, he must understand that marriage is a worship.

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Marriage is a worship

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and every worship must be accompanied by intentions.

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And so the correct intention when a person wants to marry, he intends in this to complete his Eman as in the visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned he intends is in his marriage to raise a righteous family to raise children that worship Allah assertion. This is a huge intention in marriage, to raise righteous children, and to increase the number of the members of the ummah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and as a result making the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam proud of you on the Day of Judgment. Because in the visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, there's a way you will do that route for me MacArthur and uma Nyoman clear. In the Rizal Allahu alayhi wa sallam

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instructed and recommended and said marry the loving fertile woman and have children because I will boast of your great number before all the nations on the Day of Judgment. Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wants to be proud on the Day of Judgment, to say, look, this is my followers, the sea of people. You see, these are all my followers. Not just any number of other Muslim and Muslim what a Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam means by Miguel from become I want to see great I want to see you great in number. Great number. In other words, true followers, those who actually were raised upon righteousness and piety and follow the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. These are

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the people that are maybe some Allah Allah un Salam would be proud of not just people that increased numbers and have no true adherence to submit the Marisol Allah Allah USA. These are distant from an ISA Allahu Allah, your Salah on the Day of Judgment. So this is a purpose in marriage. You marry so that I want to make it nice Allah Allah you are saying I'm proud on the day of judgment and I want to raise righteous children for this cause in this purpose we even in in Eben measure, sunnah apne measure. There's a narration that in the be sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Marry the loving fertile woman, have children, whatever fell out to so we do what he do not blacken my face on the

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Day of Judgment. Meaning have as many children as you can and raise them upon Islam and upon Eman so they can be true followers on the day of judgment, and I can be proud about this matter.

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So you intend this? You intend the righteous family so that you earn Allah azza wa jal is pleasure.

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The righteous family My Brothers and Sisters in Islam is always saved from Phaeton and from evil and corruption.

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The righteous family is valuable

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in the sight of Allah assertion, Allah He is valuable. If you look at the story of Luke barley his Salam in the Quran 1000s of the people of Lupe I know you Salam that were practicing the sin of homosexuality, when the punishment of Allah subhanho wa Taala was coming upon them to destroy them all.

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Allah azza wa jal he spoke about the family of loop. He said, family budget fee hell of a

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minimum minimum, we found amidst corrupt people, one believing house and that is the house of lope and his daughters. Mr. Social said Hey, Raj Nam and Cara he had made a million men are Muslim in Allah azza wa jal.

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He saved the family of law, took them out to safety. Once he was out, the punishment came a righteous family is of worth in the sight of Allah azza wa jal, there is value to this family in the sight of Allah assertion. He saves them from his punishment. He saved them from Phaeton, he saves them from corruption and transgression and rebellion.

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And this is why, if you were to observe the dua of prophets in the Quran, you will find Ibrahim alayhis salam saying probably middle Salah him, My Lord grant from among the righteous, give me children that are righteous. He did not say unbearably well done. My Lord grant me a kid aligning kind of kid lol do. He doesn't want any kind of kid. So he says, Give me from the righteous I want the righteous child. He was sincere and honest in his door and Allah azza wa jal gave him money last summer in allihies. Sara was how come the generation that followed of righteousness?

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Zachary Allah is Salam would say Allah be happily will the Doom cavalry Yatta by yerba believer, my Lord, give me and grant me a generation that is righteous, not any kind of just kids like this. I would righteous kids. This is all going to begin from the start from your intention, it's going to begin.

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And according to what the intent they will see.

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The mother of Madame Alayhis Salam, she would say, are beaten in order to like MFE buckling him how long she was pregnant. She would say My Lord, I have donated whatever is in my belly for your service. As soon as this kid comes out, he is going to be free for your service. Wow.

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Wow. Maha means freedom to hurryin Freedom, meaning you will be free of all the activity. His only job is to serve you and worship you Oh Allah. And when the child came out, which was Maria Melania, salam, she went and sat in

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a debate in mock this

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and she worship Allah azza wa jal for all her life.

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These were people that were true in their true in their intention, and Allah gave them what they intended.

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So the intention of marriage, Teres righteous children,

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and these righteous children will be of benefit to you, especially when you die. In this life, there are benefits and when you die, as individual Allahu alayhi wa sallam says when the son of Adam dies, all his good deeds come to an end Hello us and you can't read anymore. You cannot come to the masjid anymore. You cannot see Subhan Allah anymore.

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Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said except one of three things. And he mentioned from them a righteous child that makes diet for his deceased parents. And that parent benefits immensely from that. Where is he in his grief? And he's benefiting a river of herself that is flowing into his grief.

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When the be sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said about rejean Raising righteous daughters.

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He mentioned that this is a means in how a person enters the paradise. The bee sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said many Tullia mean heavy he'd better be shamed for accidentally hitting the Quran Allah who said Ramana Now

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anyone who was tested with daughters they test he was granted woman daughters and he raised them upon Iman and Islam and righteousness, then they will become a barrier for him from the hellfire. As a result he enters the paradise.

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These are the intentions will never be Salam. Ala your Salam says we're in MA liquid limited in Manoa and according to what you intend to get,

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but you've after the real and the righteous intention, now that you have these intentions in your heart, now that you know why you want to get married the next step

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Is to actively look to marry.

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Now you want to get married.

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You want to fulfill these righteous intentions you have through marriage

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and so on Nabi SallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam at this moment of a person's life.

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He advises to only marry the righteous person. If we're speaking now, as an advice to a young Muslim brother, the young Muslim sister is coming after the brother,

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then for this young Muslim brother, and the V sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, in a general statement, to government herba Bucha barely however, there has to be holy moly, how many do you have for me that it didn't deliver to that? Maybe some Allah Allah He was so let me give a general fact and he said women are married for four things. He said number one for her looks for her beauty of prettiness. Well, it has to be here for her lineage is coming from a noble family, reputable, famous family. Will you marry her? Sometimes she's married for her money.

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What do you do? And she's married for her, uprightness for her piety for her religion. Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam put the religion at the end. Not because we should put it at the end, but he is speaking about how people's attitude is towards marriage. So he mentioned beauty first, because this is what people prioritize. When they go to look for marriage.

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They prioritize beauty over all other matters.

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The second thing that people prioritize is

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reputation. If the woman didn't look that pretty, but she had a reputation, she came from a noble family. His family is respected in the community. People wouldn't care about the look. But you know what, she's coming from this family. So as a result, this will give me some kind of value in society. Let me get married.

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That's how people marry. When he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Willie Melia the third thing that people prioritize for her well, so let's say there is a woman that is not so pretty, doesn't come from a really reputable family. But she has lost her father died and she inherited millions. For example, Allah the brother doesn't care about how she looks at where she came from. He's got money will marry. If you know she's looking for a low barrier. This is how people up.

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And then in the visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam said, when he did he had, that's what people put up their hand. So now, I mentioned that at the end, and she is married for her religion, for her piety. Then in the be some Allahu alayhi wa sallam After he said this fact,

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he gave important advice to the youth to the young Muslim men.

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And this advice of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is coming from a man

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who and maybe some Allah Allah He was salam, who is full of mercy and compassion towards his own man, his followers. What Allah here oximeter, Allah and by Allah and the recent Allahu alayhi wa sallam is more compassionate and merciful upon you than your own parents are to you. We move many in our own for him, Allah azza wa jal said, he said, Follow Follow, be there to de meatery But they are there any number of narration for Alleyn can be there to Dimitri, but they are there. And the reason Allahu alayhi wa sallam said to this young man 4444 means restored Reese to the woman of piety and religion, grab it, the word fall for it implies a war. It implies victory and success. It's like

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everyone is running to one thing and you're the one that grabbed it. And finally, I've got something that I'm proud of rush to it. In the reason Allahu alayhi wa sallam didn't even say, choose the righteous one, marry the righteous one, he didn't use these words. He said run to restore, grab it, and make sure it doesn't slip from your hands and have a good grip on it. Because you will have got something that you will be proud of. And you will be victorious among many that wanted the same one.

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This is the word that the be some Allahu alayhi wa sallam used the form of the other word FileMaker FileMaker commit, commit to that one, and nothing else. It's like don't look at anything except that.

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Let everything else be secondary. If it comes, if you're a woman of piety and religion happens to be pretty unwoven at this bonus of these are the main things because you don't want all these things fade away. Well, looks every single day a person goes backwards in his looks. And you don't get pretty every day. Unless

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You go in kilos and kilos of makeup, will plastic surgery and even all that would look fake and you'll get pain of it and the day you die you'll look disgusting.

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So looks at going backwards everyday.

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Well, it comes it goes.

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Reputable family, perhaps this family becomes humilated one day they do something out of the ordinary and it drops.

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There's only one thing that continues to increase and rise and that is the dean of a person until he dies and meets Allah azza wa jal

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problems today exist in marriages. Because the youth the young boys haven't taken the advice of Rasulullah salAllahu alayhi wasallam seriously.

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Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that in the hadith of I shall obey Allah who I'm at the high yellow, little puffy goon. This is happening in the midst of Allahu alayhi wa sallam said, These are the words, choose wisely when you put your sperm into your own level of income.

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Meaning don't put it anywhere. Put it in a righteous woman.

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Meaning the Hadith means choose the mother of your children wisely

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and that is going to be the righteous woman.

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Allah subhana homodimer Allah in the Quran stressed upon the importance of marrying a righteous woman.

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Listen to this what Allah azza wa jal says, he says well I am I don't mean to hire or membership get in one of our Szybko now this is hire worker Rasul Allah. This is the word of Allah associate himself. He said, Amma to

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a female slave. You don't want a female slave means a female slave. Most likely could be not so pretty. Doesn't come from a she's a slave. She is owned by someone. A slave.

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No wealth, no looks.

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Not coming from any reputable noble family. That's a slave.

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Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said the slave that is Mina. She's a believer has Eman and deed.

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She is much better hyaluron but

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then a mushy Deacon. A disbelieving woman, what a washer but gone even if the disbelieving woman was to impress you in all matters, if she was to impress you in her look, in her lineage, in her knowledge in her work in her wealth, whatever it may be what people see as gold today and this is it. Maybe some Allah Allah Allah is telling you that female slaves that no one would care to look at would be better for you to marry. Because of her Deen.

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Then a woman with no deen and he ticks the box on all things that people want in this life in marriage.

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Oh my god, Allahu Anhu. He says

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nothing benefits a man after faith in Allah as much as a wife with good character, loving and a fertile wife, she's able to conceive. And then he said at the same time, nothing harms. Amen. After disbelief because disbelief harms you this life in the afterlife. Nothing will harm you. After this belief, as much as a wife with evil character and a sharp tongue.

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Every single person that married a righteous person knows the goodness that came out of the marriage. And in the end, every single person will realize they wish they had married a righteous spouse and spent the rest of their lives with them. Sooner or later they'll learn this lesson. At the end at the end, this is what people will realize.

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And if you are sincere with Allah azza wa jal, looking for the one of the Allah azza wa jal will satisfy you with her in every aspect of life. I give you a story. There was a brother

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who wanted to get married.

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He was growing up as he was growing up, he was impressed with his cousin

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was permissible to marry the cousin.

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So he always saw her pretty and he always intended to marry her because she looked pretty.

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When they grew and became of marriage age, he engaged he was he got engaged to her. He said, But as I got to know her even better, realize that she doesn't have the she didn't have the old shed was the looks that I was impressed with.

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So the brother said I was turned off, and I was disgusted in marriage, and I just pulled everything off, and I call it off

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And he was turned off marriage completely because he was sincere with Allah He wanted a woman of the

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ease went by. he renewed his intention. He wanted now to get married. And he conditioned upon Himself that I will only marry a righteous pious woman nothing else.

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So he began to make intense dial in hash in out of it Mustafa in his prayer when he's fasting when he's traveling in his salah. Wherever he is, he's making it or Allah, grandma, righteous spouse, a righteous life, a righteous life.

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He said, later on, Allah has gifted me with a righteous life wasn't so pretty as my cousin, but I need to be true to my intention. He married them.

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He said them the days go by. And one night, we were sleeping.

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And all of a sudden, I happened to open my eyes that night.

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And I saw in the corner of our bedroom, my wife standing praying, she's praying at night.

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He said, and by Allah, I never ever knew that she was a woman who prays the night

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she would come out quietly from her bed, like who said, Pray, finish, go back into bed. No one had a clue.

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He said, I saw that look. And it just like imprinted in my mind. And I closed my eyes and I went back to sleep.

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He goes afterwards, every single time I would be out in society, in the marketplace, at work wherever I may be. And I saw a pretty woman.

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The image of my wife praying would flash in front of my mind and my eyes and I would be disgusted with anything I saw. How could that replace this

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is turned off. Allah solution satisfied him because he had the right intention. He married the righteous pious woman

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and he chilled his life doesn't care about looks anymore.

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What woman is going to replace a woman that is praying up if this is gold? What didn't even know she prayed.

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Subhanallah according to your intention is what do you get?

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For I tell you when a Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said for me that he didn't hold on to the woman that is righteous and pious. Take his advice. Wallahi take it.

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Reasonable Allahu Allah, Allah azza wa jal, he said and maybe you owe their bill mini them in unfussy him. That's an AMA Quran surah Plaza.

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Which means that the believers must love Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam more than themselves. Meaning take his advice more than what your old knifes wants you to get married.

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And this is the same that applies to our young sister

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when she is looking for marriage, listen, my young sister and listen, our D fathers that are sitting here that are fathers two daughters that are getting ready to marry them off

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have been

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requested to marry on selama.

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So I'm selama

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she walked up to Abu Dhabi

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and she said to him Allah, He made me look upon her to Europe. She said oh Abu Bakr you're a man who should not be rejected in marriage.

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What I keep Nicola who don't care if you're a disbeliever

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and I am a Muslim woman.

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And it is not permissible for me to marry you. However, Obama,

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if you become a Muslim, I will make that my mark. And I will not ask you for anything after that.

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Listed my young sister Listen, listen.

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I'm sorry, I'm sorry. This is almost too late model the hola Han welcome setup. I'm Celine.

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She was presented with Abu Bakr, who was a mind man of good character, but at that time, he was still a disbeliever

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know the righteousness around him.

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But he's praising his character. He's got perhaps He's a family man. But no, do you know what I want this person.

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Later on, he accepted Islam. And she married him. And that was her model.

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She then fell pregnant almost too late. She gave birth to their child to their son and their son got sick.

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And from time to time upon how would come to the home and ask how is our Child How is our son? She'd say Missick is getting better until one day she said that hamdulillah

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his his his matter has become stable.

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He died, or he died that night. But what she means is that he's stable, meaning he doesn't move anymore. And that's the dead person is motionless. She didn't tell him he died.

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So he entered the house and she had put him in the corner and covered the baby with the child with a blanket.

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And they slept together that night, and did what the husband and wife do. After they finished this, she she also named set the husband number one, what would you say? I will pull down if someone borrowed something from us.

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Then we went to him and said, Give us our item back.

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does that person have the right to be upset? Doesn't know it's my item, give it back to me.

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She said to him, then Allah azza wa jal has taken what belongs to him.

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The child he gave us what's something for us to borrow more to get back? Pamela, incredibly intelligent woman. This is how she broke the news too. He became upset.

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He went into the sallallahu alayhi wasallam that night. And he said to me, Allah saw that

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my son had died. He was in the corner and I was sleeping with my wife and she never told me until after that.

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Maybe some Allahu Allah He was salam said bellick Hola. Hola, como fi hobbylink woman, Leila. May Allah bless what you did that night.

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she gave birth to their child Abdullah

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and the child Abdullah had 10 children.

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So they had 10 grandchildren.

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All of them are all the end all memorize the master plan and some of them were under eaters of Hadith.

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Some include like is Huck Eben Abdullah Habib he was the Sheriff of Imam Malik,

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which may live in Abdullah Abdullah bin Abdullah and so

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all of these righteous family because of this righteous woman

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and that she remained adamant on her intention from day one,

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and her righteousness and her intelligence and how she broke the news to her to her husband. And because of her righteousness and intelligence she gave that the dua of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for May Allah bless what you did that night. And from that night, righteousness produced light to the wall produced now currently right now, almost Suleiman Abu Bakr there in the grave. And until this day, we read the narration of the grandchildren. And we continue to say obey Allah Amora hammer home Allah and all of this. They're sitting in their grave, earning reward. What did they do?

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Honesty with Allah and a sincere intention and acted by that intention. River of Hazara flowing into the grief

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campaign these my brothers and sisters in history to the one who marries blindly. The brother goes for looks, doesn't care about religion. Two years later, not even now. Today, it's a few weeks later, a few months later, or the sister who doesn't care about religion, marries blindly.

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And she's after two three weeks at her parents house complaining.

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That's when the be sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also advised the young sister and he said to her evasion a governmental Bona Dena who will hook off as a Wushu. If a man with the with piety, righteousness, and good character comes to you, then marry him off.

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Marry him off. If you don't do so, in letter, follow the confit. Let them fill up. If you don't do that, there'll be a huge fitna on Earth officer donatien and huge corruption on earth.

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This is the word of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Subhanallah today

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if two men came to your doorstep to ask for your daughter, one of them is wealthy man, CEO of some company making millions. But let's say the same person has no clue about his Deen while salah. Sometimes he attended Juma or no, no nothing.

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And another man comes. He's got some

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righteousness, attends the masjid seeks knowledge, but he has a humble wage is living from week to week. Walla unfortunately, the vast majority are going to say one

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person number one no worries later on. We'll teach him

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later on we'll get him to pray. That's alright we can we can deal with these matters later.

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You do that? That means you rejected the advice of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam

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what comes out out of that marriage

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and hustle and bustle the Allahu Allah He said the wish if not accompany a tequila,

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marry or Dora to a person who feeds Allah

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and his righteous and his pious. Why for in Colombia, because if you love the yo, yo,

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what a bobblehead let me have limb here. And if moments because this is normal if moments in the marriage, there are problems and he hated her,

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then he will not a person.

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That's the righteous man. Even if he does come across a problem with his wife, at least he will not oppress her, and will continue to give her her right. Shabby Rahim. Allah said, look at this even worse, he said, Monza was your carry matter who mean fell asleep in October.

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He said, Any man who marries off his honor, meaning his daughter, to a corrupt individual, then he has severed the ties of kinship.

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And the one who suffers the size of kinship is caused by Allah azza wa jal.

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So if the brother is intelligent, and took the advice of Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alayhi, wasallam, and married the pious woman, and if the system was intelligent, and took the advice of the messenger, sallAllahu, alayhi, wasallam, and informed her parents and said to them, Listen, I will not accept anyone you bring my way, unless they are pious and righteous, only then a family will prosper and flourish, and society at large will thrive and it will grow. And problems disappear.

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Once now the marriage of a couple of married. So we went through all that now and Hamdulillah, we found righteousness and they both got married, husband and wife and congratulations and each of them is pious of Hamdulillah. Now, there are fundamentals, about six fundamentals, that must be observed throughout the marriage, for this marriage and for this family, to remain righteous and grow and be a positive addition to society. Listen with me and understand.

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Number one,

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and must lead

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every single marriage must always always remain every second of the marriage must remember this huge banner responsibility and musalia.

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Both the husband and the wife must know that they are responsible

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and that they will be questioned by Allah about their responsibility on the day of judgment. And maybe some Allah Allah you are Salam, he says could look on our Alma School do not lie yet. He said all of you are shepherds. And all of you will be questioned about your flock.

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Then he said, What are you fee and leave it here, Lauren, and the man the Father, he is a shepherd in his house and he is responsible for those that are in his house, his wife and kids.

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There is some Allahu alayhi wa sallam they said one model or two fee Beatty, so she held our ear to ear muscular tone Allah Yeti, and the wife the mother is also a shepherd in the house of her husband, and she will be questioned about the flock and those who she was responsible for in the house.

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Must Oh,

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you know the word must own.

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Today, when the word my school comes, people are excited, and why they saw my school is my school. And I became a manager. People get excited with this word. Give a manager of the bank, a manager school, a manager in the masjid time, something.

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The word must school. It's actually a terrifying word. Allah it's a scary word. It's a word that implies burden and difficulty and struggle and suffer and pain and agony.

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Must all comes from the word saddle.

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Meaning if you are in a position of muscle you're responsible, you will be questioned. There are questions that are coming.

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And if questions are coming, there is a question. Someone will be questioning

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that Allah Allah is the one that's questioning

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Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said let us look at the map the normal parameter updates around autobio the visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam said a person's foot will not move until he's questioned about four things.

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These are about you only you your youth, your age, your time your wife, what you did with them how you earned your money, and this is already terrifying, you know,

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after these personal questions about you. The next batch of questions are the responsibilities. Those who are you those who you were responsible for wife, children, wife will be questioned about her husband and her responses.

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have to do with him and her children. It's coming.

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And the one who is questioned, must prepare us must prepare. Don't you dare leave the world unless you have answers for the questions otherwise in serious trouble.

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And then in the peace of Allah, Allah your celebree emphasize this matter at the end of the Hadith. And he said Allah furcal Nakamura and whoever schooled on our end, by Abella, Sol Allah who understood from the beginning of the Hadith. Why do you have to repeat these words again? Because at the end of the Hadith, he said, again, all of you are shepherds, and you will be all questioned about your flock.

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This is called emphasis. He's emphasizing the importance of this mighty task.

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And maybe some of Allahu alayhi wa sallam said, as in the hadith of Mark Lavinia, Sal, Mammon Abdeen yesterday he leveled our Eternia moto yo Miyamoto Allah Shira, Yeti, Illa haben, Allahu Allah, He Jana, and the Beast of Allahu alayhi wa sallam he says, Man, I mean up,

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not a single person. Yeah, and every single person that Allah azza wa jal gives him a flock and he becomes responsible for them. If he dies, the day he dies, and he has betrayed the responsibility, he did not fulfill his responsibility.

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will be deprived of entering the paradise

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as a first entry, and he he could be a believer, but he will die. He will be deprived entering the P Paradise from the first of the people.

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If there is punishment for him, he has to go undergo all this and later on, perhaps after a while he is brought out if he still has Leila and LeBron is out and he enters the paradise. Why would you put yourself in such a situation? That's the first fundamental in marriage that you need to be aware of Alma Scalia.

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And I settled the Allahu Anhu he narrated. He said that the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in Namaha said, you know, kulula in hammer stone, he said, each and every single Shepherd will be questioned about his flock and those who he was responsible for his wife and children.

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Have you ever gone by er, he'll be questioned? Did he uphold them fulfill the duties and responsibilities? Or did he reject and neglect his responsibilities?

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At the US laws, you run Ali Beatty and the man will be questioned about his family. That's the end of the Hadith. He will be questioned about his family.

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What are you going to say?

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What are you going to say? Are you good to see y'all Lola I had a terrible way.

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What is the wife going to see? Ya Allah Allah He I had I had a horrible hospital

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didn't lock really send you a prophet?

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who advised you marry the one of the

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were you gonna blame on the day of judgment?

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And you're not only responsible for your family's food and drink and clothing and housing and taking him to the doctor when they get sick. And taking them to weekend soccer, or football, or kickboxing, or Karate, or whatever it is. You do these but Jonnie these award winners.

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People think this is it. People think that's it. That's my responsibility. I need to feed and I need to call and I need to shelter and I need to entertain the kids. And I've done what I have to do it hamdulillah I'm ready to stand before Hola.

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Hola. Hola. Hola. Hola. Hola. Far away from the reality. The greatest thing you will be questioned about on the Day of Judgment. Concerning your responsibility to your words, your family is their Deen

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Allah azza wa jal, he said, I'm going to shahada Ilhabela gouvernement. Allah says, Were you there when He was dying? No, we weren't there when Jaco was dying. Okay, if you want to listen to what happened when he was dying,

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if How about we are gooble Note death presented to our group. He's in his final moment is about to die.

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If all anybody he met that will do them embody

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his kids around he says to them, my kids, what are you going to wash him after I die? Allahu Akbar.

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I think these children are righteous anyway. Among them are prophets like Yusuf Ali and Sam, what is this question? He's not asking what are you going to do with my wife after my death?

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He said who are you going to worship after my death? Meaning he is concerned for the religion

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and righteous children answered and they said Nabu ilaha illa. Ibrahim Ismail is a non Muslim. We're going to worship one lot and we're going to remain submitted these kids

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This story teaches you that you are responsible for the righteousness of your family until the very last moment as you're still on your deathbed dying.

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That's why there's something called the will, you know, we'll see. We'll see that we'll see after right before your death. What do you think we'll see is about?

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You so many people think that we'll see is about money.

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We'll see I need to put it out how much I owe people so that when I die, my family know who I owe, and they distribute these things. That's a small part of Dorsia.

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The main part of the rasiya will see a means advice. What is your advice to your family?

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We'll see you begins by writing Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim, I advise my family to stand firm upon the need to establish their prayers every day.

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To command to obey Allah, socials, commandments to keep away from the prohibitions. And I advise my wife after my death 32 Allah's commands her the law says this is the main part of a lawsuit.

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Now why because you're responsible so that when you present on the Day of Judgment, oh Allah even my last moments of life I wrote the Torah

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Look, man of the Allahu Anhu in solitude man in the second page, yeah, Bono he led to Shrek beloved, my son, don't commit ship. You have been a claim of solid, pray my son pray. Yeah, Buddha, you hear Good day, my son do this. He taught him a lot either.

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He taught him manners. He taught him worship.

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And that's the advice that Allah stored in the Quran, nothing else. If then what's the most important advice to the children in the responsibility, a deed that sort of kept in the Quran? When Allah praise this scenario? Instead of he said, What can I do select yours again.

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It's very lovely he Salam used to encourage and instruct his family upon the prayer and a second. And as a result, Allahu was pleased with him. This is what Allah who would record in the Quran of fathers and how they executed their responsibility with their family. This was the responsibility, a deed of Salah and their Quran, and their relationship with Allah. Everything else is nothing. Everything else goes.

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Allah azza wa jal in the Quran, he said, Oh, and Fusa como Alikum. Now to save yourself and your family from a file. How you going to do that by teaching him a deed.

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That's how you save yourself and your family from the file.

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Subhan Allah, teach them.

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This is a responsibility. For those who have daughters teach them Malaysia,

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teach them a solid.

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For those who have boys and daughters, as long as teach them about the corruptions and the evils of this worldly life, especially social media.

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Teach them, teach them, tell them don't dance on this stuff. Don't flip from reel to reel, don't post and upload garbage.

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And they're responsible, not the novela my kid is third out of loss control. Rather they do what they want.

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Subhanallah and I'm strangely surprised by a brother we saw many years ago, his daughter was in high school.

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And she wasn't of those who would wear the hijab.

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he said, I don't force or pressure my daughter to wear the hijab. Or even until she's convinced

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this is what he's what he said, I don't force her to wear the hijab.

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I'm not going to force them to pray and do all this when they're convinced. And they feel like this is right. In all give him that space that freedom by so I said to him, brother,

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if your daughter who's in high school, came to you tomorrow morning said Dad, I don't want to go to school until I'm convinced. What would you do?

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Would you say yeah, no, no worries. Don't sit in your room and relax and take time and think would you like to do and we'll do what you want.

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What you're going to force her to go to school.

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He laughed. He said to her, there's a difference between the two of them. I have to force her to go to school. This is her education career. There's life this.

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I said to my brother in law, he of course there is a difference between the two. Of course there's a difference, but you didn't know which of the two was more important. You do.

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Subhan Allah is what happens.

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People like this did not understand their responsibility concerning the right

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interest of the children.

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If a child got sick, as a parent, you rushed him to the hospital, to the doctor, the best of medicine up whatever it takes

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all of this and it's good. You have to do this.

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But the sickness of body, when the body gets sick, it's good. wipes away sins of the person. The worry that the parents have it wipes away the sins, it purifies them, and what's the maximum that could happen? The maximum that could happen, this child will die. Now I will humbly allow.

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Everyone's dying anyway.

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But when the heart is diseased and sick, and the child doesn't have any Deen, no righteousness, no solid, no Quran in his life.

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Why isn't the rush?

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Why isn't there a rush in the parents to rescue this kid? To rescue this child? Why? Meanwhile,

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what's the worst that could happen? The worst that could happen is a disease seeker. He dies upon this he dies upon

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a terrible state.

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He must in this life and in the afterlife.

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And you're responsible for this?

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Well, hold on, let me learn.

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This is the first obligation you need to know your responsibility.

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Teach your children on

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a solid. You know, I was having a chat with one of the brothers today.

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And, you know, when we send our children talk or at school,

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and the kid comes back crying, I don't like my teacher. Hello stories. I'm gonna take him out of the Glasgow chef is horrible. Get him out.

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But then, when we take our children to school, and they begin kindergarten, the mother standing out there she sees her son crying.

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She's crying as well.

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Leaving and she goes

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and the school is not oral schools good. Leave him but the actual Heather will never send the mirror again.

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Why? Everything is just flipped because we did not understand and musalia responsibility.

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So do you be questioned about the his Quran you will be questioned about the Quran of your child now.

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There is a man that came to obey Allah on one complaint team said they are not my son is a terrible boy. He doesn't listen to me.

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So I'm about the Allah Han who did not rush to judge he called the boy over he said come your father's complaining.

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He said they are all what is my right over my father. The Allahu Anhu said to him that he chooses a righteous mother for you

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that he needs you a good name and that he teaches you the Quran. He said they are not my father. Choose an unrighteous mother for me. He gave me a horrible name that meant something about food.

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And he did not teach me the Quran.

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Overall the Allah Han walked away

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this is what you may try yourself deal with.

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Now, Imam saloon Have you heard of him before? Mohammed Allah, he was from the main students of Imam Malik.

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He was told a man has seven children. And he did not enroll them in any online course. They asked him Yeah, amen. There's a brother has seven kids did not put them in any class. Saloon all the Allahu Anhu said he must be imprisoned the Father.

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According to Simon,

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how many should be present from among the Muslims around the world? Many

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well hold on aporta 11.

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The second matter my brothers and sisters in Islam,

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the fundamental

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of a righteous family

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is for the couple, to encourage one another upon the worship of Allah associate. This is a fundamental marriage

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must must must enter I am saying must.

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I will share with you husband and wife must encourage each other to worship Allah especially today people complain be complaining. A wife would see Allah my husband doesn't get a professional. But you better the Why did you marry someone that doesn't get a professional? Why?

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What am I going to do? I know I'm kind of coming for in the morning wake him up for you.

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I complete

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Have a

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Subhan Allah

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and the result Allahu alayhi wa sallam said, Allah Allah he will then call him in a lien. For Salah a cover Murata who

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Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, may Allah have mercy on a man who woke up at night and prayed and woke his wife up when this is the word of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam do not imagine and look at me saying, think of Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam telling you

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a man who wakes up at night, prays and weeks his wife up and she prays that he wakes up to pray, if she refuses to get up, He sprinkles water, sprinkles water

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on her face.

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Such such a person Allah has mercy upon and Allah who will have mercy upon a woman who gets up at night and prays and wakes up her husband to pray and if he refuses, she sprinkles water in his face.

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Allah bestows His Mercy upon them. hadith is teaching that husband and wife must encourage each other upon the worship. I will say you know, the Allahu Anhu lyrics that the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, is that a perversion of Alumina lady for Salah also Allah Kathleen is yummy and good enough is that good enough that a lot. Maybe some of Allahu alayhi wa sallam said if a man woke his wife up at night, and they prayed to like together bus, what Allah he will not take 10 minutes they will be considered with Allah from among those who remember Allah much both the husband and wife.

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And these are not only words of Rasulullah Sana Sana let's look into his house and how he dealt with his own advice. And maybe some Allahu alayhi wa sallam he used to pray at night. And when it's the time for winter, which is the last pair of the night,

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he would say to I shall obey Allah who I'm gonna call me for our TDI Aisha, get up and pray with the Dr. Aisha. Come on, get up.

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Time is running out and she would get up.

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Even earlier on the Allahu Anhu narrates

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that in the visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam entered upon Ali and his wife, Fatima, which is the daughter of the Messenger of Allah Allah Allah Hirsi

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Ali says for a covenant is solid maybe Salah Salem woke us up for the prayer. This is the end of the night.

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Then interviews on asylum went back to his house and he prayed the long prayer.

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I think it'll be Allah Han who says phelim Yes Milena. He said he did not hear us moving. Yeah, and he went back to sleep.

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Fellowship he came back

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he said all Manna for suddenly get up and pray something of the night. So allinone Allahu Anhu said

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I got up what an adequate and he was rubbing his eyes

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What a cool and he was saying Ali you will see

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in Now ALLAH Eman of saline lemma Katha Allahu Allah.

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We only pray what Allah has written for us why Nama and fusuma via the lefur inshallah Ania Bathsheba Asana our souls are in the hands of Allah if he wants if He wills you wake us up.

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So then interviews are seldom turned away. And he began to hit his hand on his time. And he said, Man was only 11 Khattab Hola Hola, Anna, we're only going to pray what Allah has written for us or shall excuse. He says what colonel in Sarawak philosophy in general. And the human being is always arguing and he walked away. The idea is he's encouraging his family These are his children.

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So not only the wife will encourage your children to pray as well. Wallahi

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the husband and wife encouraging each other upon the worship plays a positive role in the upbringing of children. They see their parents encouraging one another upon the worship, what do you think how do these children how are they raised? Man? What do you think?

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Well, Allah He a person with no intellectual till now.

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Husband and wife, praying, encouraging each other, learning with each other what the children are going to follow.

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And not only in worship, in prayer and fasting, but also encourage the wife to give sadaqa wife encouraged his husband to give sadaqa teach your children of silica now this is very important, because this is a great character that a person must be nurtured upon otherwise

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Our chef tells us about a man who was never taught generosity. No one told him generous, not even his parents.

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And the only they see about him that his friend taught him a soda can and the virtue of salt, hundreds and hundreds of eight and a hadith. And he said to me, brother Wallah, I knew that I had it in the eye, but I can, every time I put my hand in my pocket just comes out there because no one taught him.

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And this is something that must be taught.

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The third matter, it was the first time

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the muscle years irresponsibility was the second one.

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Husband and wife encouraging each other upon the worship of Allah azza wa jal number three, and while military has named

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the couple of dealing with each other with the very best of manners,

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Allah and I would have loved to put this at the beginning.

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And the reason why Allahu alayhi wa sallam said, hey, you know, come hydrocone Ali, you are not only famous Hadith we all know.

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He said the best of you to your family. The best of you are those who are best to their family, and I am the best to my family.

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Oh my god, the Allahu Anhu. He said, the foundation of a man is his intelligence. That's your foundation. And his honor is in his religion, and his manhood is in his character. The movement is young, the more men who do have the less manners you have, you become like a woman, the Honourable the Allah on whose word manners or manhood

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no manners for a man is womanhood.

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Look at an incident between the NABI sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and Khadija obey Allah Juana. When in the midst of Allahu alayhi wa sallam was given way. And this was the very first time he heard that when he came down from God, and He was shaking and shivering and scared. And he entered the house and he would see the Isha Isha, I'm scared. She did not say to mama, it's not my problem. Go deal with your thing.

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She encouraged beautiful manners. She said to him all Rasul Allah, Allah who would never humiliated because you're someone who looks out for other poor after the needy, you entertain your guests, you maintain ties with your blood relations and so on. He's praising and telling him you're a man of good character. How can that be some Allah Allah said

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good manners with each other. I want to share with you a hadith, beautiful Hadith. Perhaps never heard it in your life. Listen to it very carefully, is the hadith of Abu zar. And almost Allah, probably Allah one homage by the story goes, that there were 11 woman that gathered in Makkah, and I shall obey Allahu anha was with them.

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And they had promised that he shall be Allahu anha that we are going to speak about our husbands, each one of the 11

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If he's good and worthy of praise, we're going to praise him. If he was not good or not worthy of praise, we're going to speak the truth in the reality of who our husband was and his character and manners. So each one of them spoke something, some praised, some did not praise some honey, whatever the hospitals the reality the truth, until we come to the very last woman, the 11th woman, she spoke. She says zushi observer in honor observer. She says My husband is observer. Would you like to know who I was at our house? She says an SM in Holly and although he he filled my ears with gold, but he was about to fall off with how much gold he had put on her II woman I mean sham in our body,

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and he filled he filled my limbs with meat, meaning he fed her to her full

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what the Shani familia had EFC and he honored me so much and he pleased me so much that I became so proud of myself and so happy of myself.

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We're here the NI fi earlier who they met in be shipping for Gianna reefy Lee Sahil in what are we to know the EC in Winona pin. He found me among a family among a family who reads cheap meaning I was in a for poor family. And he married me and he moved me to a family. That was the only that owned horses, camels cows. So moved me from poverty to a wealthy expensive, luxurious family.

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In accord with Allah Akbar, when I live these with my husband, I eat speak whatever I want, and he not once insulted me insulted me or put me down in my speech. Well, I'll go too far. When I lived with him, I'd sleep and I'd wake up in the morning and no problems. No one ever told me anything

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What a And I would drink I would drink until I am full. Yeah, Annie, this is what she said about him. Then she said, As for the father of my husband, he was 123. As for the mother of my husband, she was 123. She's just crazy. And as for the daughter of my husband, she was 123. And as for the slave of my husband, he was 123. What did you see in her life? But this is where it gets interesting. Right towards the end, she said, however, one day, it was a season in where the cattle were being milked.

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Everyone's got their buckets and the weather, they call them the bucket. Everyone's got it out walking, and they're going to knock their cattle.

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So my husband walked out of the house that day.

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And he saw a pretty woman with two beautiful children.

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And she was milk that woman was milking the cattle and her two children were playing with her.

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So his eyes fell on her and he loved her. Then he divorced me.

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And he married her.

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Am I married after him someone and he was good to me. But he does not compare to my husband or Mozilla. She said all this. When the visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam heard this, he said, You shall obey Allah who I'm

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going to Lucky. Lee calm to Lucky Mithila Zara and Loomis over in Walla Walla Mata lucky. He said the Irish Irish because he heard over 11 woman, he said, from over 11 I am to you like how Amazona was to his wife, except that he divorced her and I not did not divorce it. But you know, what makes startles me in this story

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is that see what happened to that woman? Her husband, who was the best of manners with her. She cannot compare him to anyone.

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She went through what she went through after hospital had seen the woman and even divorced or remarried.

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How did she praise him after that incident had happened? Now?

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I find it almost impossible. If a woman today came to me and had the same story and praise the husband in this manner. I tell your wife possible.

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Omaha I want to believe her. Because some the only this woman could do this. This is a woman special. But I tell you something. The real question is what did Abu Zahra do?

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That she can never ever, ever forget her good treatment. Even it was difficult upon her that he divorced and did what he did. But like she couldn't get herself to say anything bad about him. Not a word bad about him.

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The question is, what did he do?

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What character did she see from him? What manners did she see from him?

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Then even if he hurt her in that, I can see a scene but what about him?

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This is what I mean my good relations.

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Jonnie even the rest of Allah Allah you know salah,

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I shall be Allah who I would drink from a cup. And he would, I shall the Allah one has to drink from the cup. She would eat from a specific place of the meet. When the visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam on purpose will eat from the same place she ate, and will drink on the same edge. She drank from why? Almost on what does it cost anyway? Good manners. Good manners.

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Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would travel with an army, a shell of the Allahu Allah is with him. Then he tells the army go ahead move in front of us. And then he says tie it should come with MarySue

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meaning outside sport is permissible for women. But they need to make sure that no men see him.

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Outside post spot for women and how it's practiced today. It's all wrong in the presence of men and cameras, and it's not luck. I have never saw salon sports. His wife is playing sport in outdoor no problems. But you want to make sure there is no men that are looking. So he said to me Go ahead, go promise. And then he would race with a Shelby Allahu on her. And she beat him

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a while later minis after they're in the same situation. And he says to her litoris

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and I shall be Allah Who Anna refused. She said have the hammer to lamb. She put on some weight and you don't think waiter now I

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wonder what does she mean by we put on some weight a few 100 grams.

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She put on some weight. Then under be some Allahu alayhi wa sallam raised her, and he beat her this time. And he said that's one for one. He remembered she didn't even remember

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things but they're good manners. Are you want to be some Allahu alayhi wa sallam did that? No one can dare to say I don't have time. Who's busier you are.

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Everyone has time. And not only with Aisha but all these wives feels like this hen Sophie or may Munoz Xena will have some all these wives that treat them in this manner.

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Even he's dealing with the children was magnificent, fantastic. Let me sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was once giving a hookah imagine hobo hobo to Joomla

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Joomla is very sensitive online. We it is a serious event. He's giving a hello Abu Dhabi Allah Allah narrates that enemy sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was giving a humpback whale Hassan old Hussein the two grandchildren of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam entered the Masjid. While email coming in Saudi Ramadan they were wearing a red dress.

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Yam Shani, where the theologian. They were walking in the masjid and causing chaos, jumping from one person to another kids.

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Then in the recent Allahu alayhi wa sallam came down from the member. Imagine he stopped the whole home but he walked down. And he went and he carried them and he hugged them. And he said sobre como su who is never an unwelcome hola dokkan fitna. He said Allah and His Messenger have spoken the truth. Your children and your wife are a great fitna to then he said to the Companions novel to either have been, I looked at these two kids of mine walking running around.

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He says, phenom US Bill, I wasn't able to be patient, there kappa to Halevi all of our to human until I stopped my hotbar and I went down and I carried them.

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The hope Holman, I know one of us in his house, he's too busy on his phone, come carry his kid.

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When he's crying, come get him.

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And he's on his phone.

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Let me send them lend me spell SubhanAllah.

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Even unassailably Allahu Anhu narrates that the believers when they enter the paradise.

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He says, as the men the believing men in the Paradise, there's a wind that blows from the north, and it strikes their face, and they address

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and that increases them in beauty.

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They become huge, beautiful, and prettier than what they were just before this wind, her colossal gifting the people of the paradise. So they go back to the families in the house, their wives,

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and their wives would look at them and say, Allahu Allah,

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Allah, I will say to them by Allah, you look beautiful today. You've increased in your beauty.

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And then they the men would say to the wife, one two, by Allah you two as you've increased in beauty and prettiness.

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And I'm sharing this to tell you that it is from the qualities of the people of the paradise to say to their spouses, you look beautiful.

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Yeah, Annie, why is it not good? Or why is it embarrassing? Why there's a third person feel it too heavy to see it the spouse in this life?

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What does it cost? What's it going to take from you if you say

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but this is called a HELOC. This is called manners. The Allahu Anhu said man who does manners

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for a person to see to his wife you look good for the wife to Lucy to the husband. You look beautiful today. Even though he's Babs been working the last 10 hours and he comes dirty and messy.

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Now, this is a great fundamental in a healthy marriage

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now. And so if we were to follow the line of these Hadith and these incidents and stories and relate them today, when the brother sits on the table and eats his food,

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pick up the plate, put it inside the kitchen, no problems. What's it going to take? Five seconds, one line, Max 10 seconds. But this is a cloud. This is manners. It would be appreciated if you consistently do this.

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Food was good hamdulillah just like Malala who fought you cooked? What does it take? It takes good manners takes manhood as homophobia Allahu Anhu said

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but I'm

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Fortunately, today, we have controversial topics, like, is it obligatory upon a woman to serve her husband? Why is this question out in mind why?

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This question only comes when there is no overlap?

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Otherwise, what's the point? Why this question for why? I believe 100% that a wife will happily serve her husband? If he has impeccable manners? I believe so.

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No, no doubt, no doubt, then there's no need for this question. And you've navigated the controversial topic of today. I will not even answer it.

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Now, I remember once Allah, Allah He I remember this. A father, husband, he called me

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and he said the brother of Allah I don't I met my wife.

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Too much.

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I've spent 1000s on home, taken out the holidays, further in the best restaurants, clothes, bag, shoes, cars, we build the biggest house and she's still not happy. Wow, what do I do?

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I didn't know what to say at the time.

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But I remember that a.

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Allah azza wa jal said, rasool Allah Allah Allah, Allah Yoson in the low un*ed. They may feel out of the Jamia unmet lift, they may not Bluebeam

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Allah azza wa jal said in the Quran, if you do need to, and spend the one of the world upon the Companions, you would have never brought their hearts together.

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Money really doesn't buy happiness. While I came in Allah Allah Verbena it is Allah who brought the hearts together.

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That's what really happened.

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You know, look, politicians today. They want the votes, they give money, take for your vote. But then these people sometimes deal with them. Sometimes they're against it. There's no real love. No one votes for a politician really loves you know, doesn't happen that way. So money and so you think you are going to buy your wife's happiness, telling me you have spent the new spent and you've done, what you wanted to purchase for happiness and satisfaction and pleasure with you. Allah tells you Nabi SallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam, and

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if he was to give the money of the Lord to the Companions,

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it wouldn't have brought them together.

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It is more who brought them together even do what Allah is pleased with a boy who will bring the husband and wife together.

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Now are we up to a

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few more minutes

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and then I'm going to conclude with one, one. Number five. My Brothers and Sisters in Islam, healthy family and upright family must stay close to almost close to Islamic centers. They must have a huge and a deep relationship with the masjid and be a part of the Muslim community.

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And the beast Allahu alayhi wa sallam he says in the hadith of wildlife in general the Allah Allah in the shape Allah the

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shape on is like a fox.

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In the shape on

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Sorry, sorry, hadith is in the shape on and it will insert the candidate Bill runner. Yep, who share the theater when they're here. Now the words in the visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam is saying Chopin is going to act like the fox. You know Fox, when he sees one sheep away from the flock he runs through it takes it and goes away. We shall upon does the same thing to Benny Adam. If there is no slums in a community and a masjid and they're strong and made together, these are protected, they protect each other. If there's one person away from this community decides to go away SharePoint is going to attack him heavily.

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A healthy upright family cannot abandon the masjid in an Islamic environment. And you know the enormity of the Allahu Anhu he used to claim to us suffer and he used to say oh Allah.

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You said with Rudy, especially black when you said Call unto me and I shall accept an answer you were in Nicolet only fool me out and you do not fail to be true to your promise. When yes or no come I had the Tony ill Islam Allah transia hominy had that off anyway and Muslim and Allah I asked you, in the same manner that you guided me to Islam that you do not strip Islam away from me until the day I die of a normal OB Allahu Anhu said this diet. It's a beautiful diet, but it must be followed with action. So if you want Allah azza wa jal to preserve your iman and your deen then you need to make this thorough and at the same time you need to put absolute

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With effort to preserve your Amen, you cannot wish for safety for your event and then take a path that is other than safety. A path that is safe that will continue to guarantee your Eman is among the believers and in the masjid and around gatherings of knowledge, do everything you can and have firm belief that the result is in the hands of Allah has social and in his hand alone. You know, I'm going to conclude with this sometimes there are families father and mother and say I did everything I can with my kids. But

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he turned up a drug deal. She turned up on him she doesn't want to speak to us ever again. She wouldn't married some non believer

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and they feel very horrible about themselves. What do we do?

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I'll tell you something.

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You know, Imam Malik, Muhammad Allah.

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He had children.

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He had a daughter,

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who had a son, his daughter was an intelligent girl.

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And she was so committed to knowledge. And she took after her father, and she learned the hadith of Anwar many Hadith to the point where Imam Malik when he used to enter the masjid, and deliver lessons. This used to be a special gathering. And boy who will Imam Malik would make also before he came and everyone sitting like this boots on their heads. And there is Allah Allah your synonyms hadith is being shared. And one man would be sitting and he would be reciting the Hadith and the entire attendance is listening. Will Imam Malik's daughter is sitting in the room behind a wall and she is listening to the Hadith that are being recited

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if the recenter makes a mistake, she locks the door. Imam Malik only Allah Azza wa Hamer Hall would immediately say, Stop, repeat the Hadith. He had no doubt of the intelligence of his daughter and that she was smarter than all of them.

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As he's doing this, once, his son he has a son was walking in the back of the restroom carrying a pigeon and hiding him.

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He loved pigeons. He was playing with pigeons. This is some

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Nellie let her in Anita Hill here. His daughter is but Hadith when people are listening to other guys playing with the birds.

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So he said something very important Allah right then and there. He said,

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Adam, Adam Allah, let addable

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mad. Well, Allah Lahainaluna eBay will omad he said true discipline comes from Allah assertion, not from the mother, not from the Father. And all goodness comes from Allah, not from the Father, not from the mother, but that you think that Imam Malik abandoned his son and never taught him and never fulfilled his responsibility towards him. Love Allah. Lima Malik would have spent days and nights with his children, all of them together equally. Like him. Discipline comes from Allah not from the parents.

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So to have children is a gift from Allah. To have children that are righteous is a great gift from Allah assertion. Never ever ascribe the righteousness of a child to yourself. You had nothing to do with it. You're only a means through discipline comes from Allah assertion when you learn this lesson and understand it.

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If you've done all you can your children and you put that effort and you spent that money on the education and teaching them proper Islamic manners and deen and they turned other than what you expected. Al Hamdulillah discipline comes from Allah. Whoa man in the visa Allah Allah your Salam couldn't even guide His own uncle

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in Nicoletta demon, Tolkien Allaha demon you

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know Alayhis Salam, a prophet, meaning he's a role model when it comes to being a father. He couldn't even guide his own son, one of them died upon disbelief. Now Cavalli, he's Salam, a father and a prophet, a role model.

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11 of his children rebelled and wanted to kill their brother.

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Then later on, they made the Taliban came back at the Maliki salaam, first of mankind. One kid kills the other rebelled. Man, Adam, Adam, Allah. Discipline comes from Allah you need to do what you can do and that's it. Don't blame yourself afterwards. Otherwise, you'll find yourself losing your indeed.

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On a whole nother level.

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Ask Allah desertion, to grant us righteousness. Ask Allah azza wa jal to preserve our marriages Ascom borrows social to preserve our children, and to nurture them upon Iman and Islam and righteousness and piety. Ask him subhanho wa Taala to forgive our sins and

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my shortcomings in Julio veliko colorare are some Allahu wa salam O Allah Carla and Amina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi, zhi Nene, my brothers and sisters in Islam. Just one announcement before we make that comment we'll pray immediately.

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Tomorrow night, there is a fundraiser for our brothers and sisters in Islam in Turkey and in Syria. Of course you've all heard the news of the earthquake and another one as well. What a whole lot of water Illa distress and calamity upon calamity difficulty already struggling with poverty, and now homelessness and lost lives and loved ones they couldn't bring out and bury yet. So it is really chaotically so Giselle Mala How are brothers from merciful group have organized a fundraiser you're encouraged to come tomorrow night I'll be there inshallah shack behind us and we'll be there. Shift Command a boomerang, also from Sydney Alisha will be there as well to deliver some words of

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encouragement, reminding us all of the virtue of a sadaqa the virtue of looking after brothers and sisters that are going through an extremely difficult time. So your presence over there will be much appreciated. When we ask Allah azza wa jal to grant them relief to grant martyrdom to those who have died from among them and to grant

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healing to those who are injured and wounded. Allahu Allah SallAllahu wasallam obala Karla and Amina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi as you might