What’s in a name
Channel: Abdurraheem Green
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a Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. Brothers and sisters, thank you for joining me again for another Facebook Live here tonight, Thursday night, every Thursday night in sha Allah.
I'm going to be talking tonight about a story a story from my life.
Why did I change my name. And the reason that I've decided to talk about this is because a couple of times now, on my personal Facebook page, so you're watching me on my official public abdur-rahim Green Facebook page, but I have another Facebook page, which I set up really, back in the days when no one even knew what Facebook was. I mean, you know, Facebook was a pretty much a new thing at the time. And but I heard a lot of people were connecting with their old friends via Facebook and stuff like that. So I thought, well, that's a great idea for me to be able to get in touch with my old friends from the past. But they're not going to know me as Abderrahim green, they're going to know
me as Anthony green. So I set up my Facebook pages Anthony green, thinking that some of my old friends might get in touch with me. And then inshallah I might be able to give them some doubt that was my idea. Now, lo and behold some people who are my friends on my, you know, personal Facebook page, you know, saying what happened to abdur-rahim, you know, why are you abdur-rahim? Sorry, why you Antony, what happened to abdur-rahim? Now, you see, the thing is here, brothers and sisters, why is in a name anyway? And what is this thing about changing your name? Is it really even important or relevant to change your name when you become Muslim. And there is a very important lesson in my
story that I want all of us to benefit from in Sharla tonight, so let me tell you the story. When I first became Muslim, I,
I when I first became Muslim, I was living in London, and I used to go down to the London central mosque, and I made some friends there are hamdullah very nice brothers very good brothers. And but they were like Moroccan, mostly they were Morocco and Algeria.
And, you know, they used to say this thing is they couldn't say my name, you know, like, how do you say your name? Anthony Anthony, right? That we they just couldn't say my name, Anthony. And they kept saying, you know, you need to give yourself an Islamic name. And I said, I don't want to change my name. Why do I need to change my name? No, no, it's good. You should change your name, it's you should give yourself a nice name, a good name. And they kept on going on. And the main thing was, these were my friends. That's the reality. These are the guys that I was spending a lot of time with. I was hanging around with Al Hamdulillah. They were very good, beneficial influence on me, Al
Hamdulillah did a lot of good. So the main thing was these were the people I was very close with at that moment. And they kept insisting that they had a real problem trying to say my name. So what they really wanted was an Arabic name. That's what they really wanted. So eventually, they made suggestions and how about this and how about that? I said, I'm gonna choose abdur-rahim. That's what I like. They were saying Abdul Rahman. But I said, No, I want something a bit different. abdur-rahim. That's what I decided to call myself. So then I became known from that time on amongst the Muslim community as Abdur Rahim, Abdul Rahim green. So everyone's called me abdur-rahim amongst
the Muslim community. And you know, even my dad and my brother. You know, some of my family call me abdur-rahim, some of my friends, I don't know.
But that's the name that I've been known as, but I've never changed my name on my passport on my passport. My name has stayed Antony green. On, you know, my birth certificate. I never went to a special office and by deep hole, change my name, my name on my passport has been Anthony. And my mother has never agreed to call me abdur-rahim. She always calls me aunt, which is the nickname she used to get give me or Antony. She's never agreed to call me abdur-rahim. And actually, really, the reality was, my mum was upset that I changed my name. What's wrong with the name she said, that I gave you. That's the name that you are when you were born. I gave you why, why do you have to change
it? And there's a really good question that why there is absolutely no justification from the Islamic point of view from the point of view of Sharia to change your name. Absolutely. No, there is no necessity. Let me give you a few names Fatima
Hamza. Zainab Ayesha
Abu Bakr, of man, Ali,
are these Islamic names. They're not Islamic names. They just happen to be the names of people who are companions of the Prophet.
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and every single one of them who I mentioned, was at one stage, not a Muslim. They were born with those names. They were names given to them by their pagan, Arab mothers and fathers. They were the names of Arabs, they were Arab names given to them by pagan, idolatrous, Mushrik parents. So they're not Islamic names. They became, they just, they were Yes, they were great Sahaba but the only named the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the only names that the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam mentioned is a Hadith. He mentioned, this is a good name,
Al Hadith. And another name I forgot. And he said Abdullah, and Abdul Rahman. These are the most loved names by Allah subhanaw taala, Abdullah and Abdul Rahman. And by the way, though the father of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was called Abdullah. It shows by the way, the pagan Arabs believed in Allah. They believed in Allah. They believe that there was a creator of the universe they believe that Allah sent down the rain they believe that Allah caused the crops to grow. They believe that Allah controlled the universe, they did not dispute they were not atheists, they believed in Allah subhanaw taala their problem was that they worshipped others along with Allah. So
the only names that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam insisted that people had to change when names that had sugar in them, like Abdullah chumps, the worshiper or the servant of the sun, or Abdullah Kumar, the worshipper of the moon or Abdullah Oza. Was, was one of their idols. So meaning servant or slave or worshipper of Al Azhar of the idol. So if someone had a name like that, then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam insisted that they had to change that name. Otherwise, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the only other types of names that the Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam insisted that people change were not insisted, but when he did, he told people to change.
So if a person had a name, like herb like war, or a name, that had a bad meaning or a harsh meaning, then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, would tell them to change that name. So otherwise, the you know, the best names as well the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the best names The Prophet said, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam are the names of the prophets. Now,
I don't know anyone who had a name that was an Arab name that was given to them by their mother, that was from Arab, pagan, whatever, that they decided to change their name to Musa or ISA or Suleiman to make it more Islamic. Now, that would be really Islamic. But they didn't do that. Now, as you see, the thing is here, brothers and sisters, this is ignorance. Actually, this is ignorance. A lot of us have ideas about what we think Islam is. And you've heard me go, if any of you have been listening to my lectures, over the years, you would have heard me go on and on and on, about the difference between culture and religion, the difference between culture and religion, and people get
very confused, especially if religion is very, very intimately linked into your culture, like in Pakistan and Morocco, and all over the Muslim world, Indonesia, Malaysia. unhemmed, I don't want to mention every single country, if I didn't mention your country, forgive me, it's not the name of the countries that's important. But all of those lands where Islam has been established for a long, long time, all of those lands,
culture and religion is very, very, very, very intimately linked and connected, okay? But not everything that people do. And not all the practices that people follow are actually from the religion and this is where people get confused, because Islam allows us in Islam, you know, Islam, allows us to keep our cultural practices. This is what Islam allows. Islam allows us to keep our cultural practices, as long as those cultural practices do not contradict what the religion teaches. So the name Antony, what is bad about that? If I had the name, George, actually, the name George, I looked up the meaning of the name George, probably the future king of England. The name George
actually means Hadith. It has the same name. It has the same meaning as the name which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said it's the truest of names, right? And it really means farmer, the one who cultivates the Earth. This is actually what the
The name George actually means has exactly the same meaning. So why do you need to change it? Why do you need to make your name sound Arabic and therefore it's Islamic. This is the same confusion that we have brothers and sisters. This is why we come to countries like England, we go to countries, you know, European countries, and we build mosques. And those mosques we think have to follow a certain format. We think it has to have a dome and it has to have a minaret. There's nothing in Islam that says a dome and a mirror. There's nothing in Islam. That's just cultural civilizational symbols, the Mosque of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam did not have a dome, the most of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not have a minaret. It didn't. And since we have loudspeakers these days, or even you can't use loudspeakers in these countries. Why do we even need domes? Why do we even need minarets, we've got air conditioning. So the domes were built to help cool the building. We don't need that stuff anymore. But these are just cultural things. But the worst thing is, is that when we when we come to Western countries, and we build these mosques, that really look like they've been taken from a completely different culture, a completely different environment, and put slap bang in the middle of
wherever it may be. And then, of course, people feel alienated, of course, people feel that they're being invaded and the things they're being taken over by all these Muslim Muslims. Yeah. And they don't feel like coming into those mosques, because it looks strange to them. It looks alien to them, it doesn't look like a place that they're going to feel welcome at all. And this is not just anecdotal. This is something I know, people have said. And if you study architecture, you will realize that
there is a whole philosophy about how you design a building, you can design a building to make it very imposing, you can design a building to make it very warm and welcoming. You can you know, there's a whole there's a whole way of designing buildings to influence people and how they interact in that building. But we don't think about that. So all I'm trying to point out brothers and sisters is a very, very important thing. And I want the lesson of this. Now I want to bring this back to my mum. Because at the end of the day paradise lies at the feet of your mothers. I want you to remind you of that brothers and sisters, Paradise Jana, lies at the feet of your mother, meaning in serving
your mother and being kind to your mother and being good to your mother. This is a route to paradise. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, may he may His face be rubbed in the dust may His face be rubbed in the dust, may his face be rubbed in the dust, the one who either one or both of his parents reach old age and he doesn't enter Paradise by serving them. You know, when your parents reach old age, it is one of the easiest ways for you to enter Jannah by serving your parents by serving your parents, especially when they reach old age. Okay, you know that Allah has said in the Quran don't even say off to them don't even go like that. That's awful. Like,
don't even make a noise like that to your parents right? Now. Why am I saying about my mother? Because until now my mother does not call me abdur-rahim. My mother calls me Anthony. What? Why did I upset my mother?
I didn't know. That's the reality. I didn't know. And
I have no problem with my mom calling me Anthony. In fact, anyone who wants to call me Anthony, I don't have a problem with it at all. It doesn't bother me whether my name is Anthony Abderrahim or any other boy, you know, bro, whatever name you want to call me. It doesn't bother me whatsoever. You know, but what bothers me is that until now my mum is upset. And this reminds me of the truth of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the Hadith of the Prophet, where some people have returned who had gone on a military expedition and one of the companions had received a wound in his head. And in the nighttime, he had a wet dream and he needed to take hosel and he asked the Companions
Yes, I mean, the battery's running out on this now says low battery. Okay, and he asked the asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and no sorry. He asked the Companions, the people around, he was asking them
what do I need to do? I've got this wound in my head. Do I need to take a hustle? And they said, Yes, you have to take a hustle. You know, you've had the wet dream. You have to take a hustle. But he said I'm afraid you know, like of my injury. No, you have to take a hustle. So he took a hustle and water from the hustle entered into his head and it because of that he died it killed him. Right. And when the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam heard this he said something very harsh and the prophet could say some tough things. He said you killed him may
Allah kill you. You kill him. May Allah kill you, you kill him, may Allah kill you. If you don't know, then ask the people who do know, if you don't know, ask the people who do know.
And this is how ignorance okay? I mean, no one's been killed in this particular instance. But is it worth upsetting my mother was it is is the status of my mother? Is it worth upsetting her to change my name? I don't even want to do it anyway. Well, you know, at the end of the day Alhamdulillah whatever, it's from Allah subhanaw taala.
And you know, people know me as Abdur Rahim. But if you want to know why, my you know, my non official Facebook name is Anthony green if you happen to be a friend of mine on that page. Well, now you know the story of how I changed my name. Oh, here's another interesting thing I just want to add
one day, we were watching a movie with the brothers in the movie, you probably will heard of it. It's called the message.
And in this movie, the message the actor who plays Hamza is who? Antony Quinn, right? And the brothers rule going on Masha, Allah, we love Anthony queen, right? I said, you just said my name. And this is after I had changed my name, right? And you know, like, everyone now knew me. As I said, you just said my name. That's my name, Anthony. So why didn't you tell us and Tony queen, like so. In the end, they could say my name perfectly well anyway. And here's the funny thing is that most of the non Muslims, like most of the people are not Muslim that I interact with. They can't say my name. They really struggle. They really have a problem saying my name.
Abdul, can I call you Abdul? They say no. I said you can't call me Abdullah. My name is Abdul Rahim. It's just embarrassing. But now I I don't say that anymore. I say no, I say you can call me Anthony. As you can call me. I'm gonna him what Anthony? What's easier for you? Anthony? That's fine. Anthony's good. You can call me Anthony, if you want to, because it doesn't change a thing in Sharla. It doesn't change me being a Muslim. It doesn't affect my level of Eman. It doesn't affect my level of Islam. What does it affect? Really, in reality brothers and sisters. So please, don't speak about Allah and His Deen. Without knowledge. It is not enough to say, Oh, we intended good.
Oh, yeah, we were just trying to do the right thing we were we had good intentions.
You know, this is you know, just having good intentions is not enough. You need to make sure you have knowledge and you have understanding. Because the things that you do have the things that you do, and the things that you say, have an effect. And when you say this is halal, and this is haram and you should do this and you shouldn't do that. Actually, you're giving a fatwa, you're giving a type of ruling, right? You're actually saying what is pleasing to Allah and what is not pleasing to Allah? And in this case, what evidence did they say it was more pleasing to Allah for me to change my name, on what basis but you know, the boys were young, we were young, they didn't understand
their knowledge was limited, their wisdom was low. And this is the problem as well brothers and sisters of not really appreciating and understanding the wisdom of our elders. Right and I'm all for mashallah these young brothers and sisters, these YouTubers these guys coming up speaking about Islam and but I just My advice to you as listeners, and to them as people who are teaching and preaching don't make the mistakes that we made. Don't talk about Allah and His Deen without knowledge don't give fatwas and rulings about the religion
and you don't really understand the full depth and the full scope and the full the full potential consequences of what you are advising people with right
so anyway, that's it for me tonight brothers and sisters very, very simple. The story of how did I change my name or did I change my name?
And I haven't Hola. So when you call me I'm gonna Hema Anthony. It's all right by me. Anyway. So your brother in Islam, saying to us salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah. Please don't forget to share this video. Because sharing is caring. And you never know who might listen to this video or might benefit from it and who may stop doing some stupid thing that we're going to do or may start doing some Great Good Thing Alhamdulillah and be inspired by it. That's what it's all about. Inshallah, I will be with you next Thursday. Inshallah. I hope I have reception because I'm going to be up in Scotland all the way in Boonie. Scotland.
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