Dealing with Difficulties – AbdurRaheem McCarthy

Abdur-Raheem McCarthy

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The speakers discuss the difficulties of dealing with difficult situations and the importance of learning the principles of Islam to avoid similar experiences. They also touch on the history of Islam's use of the word " Subhan" and how it benefits various individuals. The segment covers three stories of positive experiences that have occurred in history, including a man who lost his finger and eventually found success in a job, a woman who was punished for being in poor situations, and a woman who lost her finger and eventually lost her life. The importance of positive behavior as a source of good for Muslims is also discussed, along with the process of training and learning new things at home.

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But your brothers and sisters in Islam?

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How many times in your life? Have you planned for something? Have you worked so hard to achieve something? And it didn't work out? In fact, how many times have you stall for something and plan for something? And the complete opposite of what you want it to reach happen to you? How many difficulties have you faced in your life.

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And there's no doubt

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from the human nature is very difficult for us to deal with. When we've worked so hard to achieve something, and then we fail or we don't reach our goal. Or even worse than that, we think that the complete opposite happens if what we want to achieve, we go through some difficulties. Maybe we lose a loved one, or someone who is dear to us ourselves, we become very ill. Perhaps the job we work so hard to get that one day, the media, our boss calls us and says I'm sorry, we have to let you go. And it's, it seems to us to be the worst thing that could have happened to us. No doubt this is difficult to deal with.

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But we look at

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the Islamic way of dealing with these issues. When something that we don't want to happen happens, something we dislike happen to happen happens. What we want to happen doesn't happen. The difficulties the calamities the troubles that we face, no doubt this is difficult. But look at how Islam teaches us to deal with these these issues.

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And sorter Bacara

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verse 216, Allah subhanho wa Taala and pay attention to this amazing iron. This is one of the Quranic principles that we need to focus on. And if we understand this principle,

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and then this principle becomes part of our life. Meaning when something like this happens and we put into action, it's going to become so easy for us to deal with the difficulties in the calamities and when our plans don't work out as you want it to. Allah subhanho wa Taala says in this verse was an Takuro who che and we'll walk you through Leko that perhaps you dislike something and it is better for you

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what I said to a bush as

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well who play roulette who was sent to him Bucha who shadow lecom that perhaps you decide that you'd like something you love something but it's actually bad for you. Well lo who Yala mu one two letter Allah moon and ALLAH knows and you don't know. Look how Allah subhanaw taala is this iron? Wallah? Who yeah Allah mu one two letter animal and ALLAH knows and you do not know you don't know where the good is? Why Santa crochet and will who are Hallo lecom that perhaps you dislike something you don't want it to happen, but it's actually good for you while sentry Bucha Yan will who is Sharon lecom that perhaps you want something you love it, you strive for it, but it's actually bad for you will

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law who yalla mu one two letter Allah moon and ALLAH knows and you do not know. And the same, meaning the same principle came and sorted. And he said in verse 19, when Allah subhanaw taala said, as Antequera who che and warrior J, I don't know who he hired on cathedra that perhaps you dislike something, but Allah puts a lot of good in it for you know how many times in our lives. We didn't want something to happen, we planned but actually,

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maybe a few weeks later, a few months later, a few years later, you say subhanallah there was good in that for me.

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And when we train ourselves

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and these white Qurani hear these principles that come in the Quran, the objective is for the Muslim, to constantly attach his heart to Allah subhanho wa taala. And when one of these things happens in his life, he immediately puts it into action. So when a calamity comes to you, a devotee comes to you, all you are planning your business, all the investments you made and it didn't work out for you. You see, perhaps there's good in it. Perhaps Allah subhanaw taala is gonna give me better. Allah knows and I don't know immediately we put it into action. How easy does it make us make it for us to deal with the difficulties and the calamities that we face when we put this type

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of principle into action? And all throughout the Quran? Allah subhanho wa Taala gives us

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examples.

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If you look at the story of Musa Ali Salam, when his mother was ordered to throw him into the river,

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he imagined

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the mother being ordered from Allah subhanho wa Taala to throw her beloved baby into the river.

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What type of good do you think? And inside she's thinking, where's the good in this? How could there be any good in this will law who Yala mu one two letter animal and ALLAH knows and you do not know

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when Allah subhanaw taala commands us to do something

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will order to do something will order to leave something we don't know where the wisdom is, Allah knows and you don't know what the good is for you. Allah is your Creator. He is the hacky, the all wise, he knows what is good for you look at the story of use of La Silla

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a young man

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who is the son of a prophet, to be a prophet himself. And what happens, he's thrown into the well.

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He's taken into captivity and made a slave later, falsely accused, spending

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up to 12 years in prison.

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Subhanallah where's the good in that? Imagine, you're taking from your beloved mother and father.

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You're thrown into a well, you're the son of a prophet. You're going to be a prophet yourself and you become a slave. You're falsely accused of something you didn't do. And you spent all of these years in prison. But look at the outcome of the story. Look who we became, look how he benefited the people and look how his story even till today benefits us and benefits all of the nations who came after him. Ali Salam

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Subhanallah an amazing imam of this ummah.

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Al Imam, a circusy, who is from the great scholars of the Hanafi madhhab.

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The ruler

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of the town that he was living in.

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He had

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a captive

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who had fallen into his ownership and he ended up marrying her before she had finished her menstrual cycles, which is something is forbidden in the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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The Imam was asked about this by the people and the people heard about this. They know it's something that's not supposed to happen. So they asked the man what is the ruling of this?

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Now here he knows the ruler has done this, but this is halal and haram. This is the deen of Allah subhanho wa taala. So he said this is haram. It's not permissible. And the person who does this, his neat guy is ballpen. His Nikka has marriage contract is not valid. He went against the Sunnah. It's not permissible. And then he got his Boulton it's not valid.

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The ruler hearing this became enraged. How could he pass this fence? What? What he knows that this is something that I've done. Okay, this is the dean. It's not up to you, not to me. But he was enraged. He took the mamas service circusy and order that he'd be put in prison, were in prison in a well put him in an old well

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as a punishment for him. And the fact whether he issued which he sought to be against him.

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imagined being in a well and staying in a well for how long for about 10 years in prison. Where's the good in that?

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Any good in that?

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His his great Imam cut off from his family cut off from his students cut off from teaching and benefiting the OMA.

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Some of the students would come to the top of the well, and he could hear them and they could hear him. And he said, Can you explain to us this book and a very important book and how he fit. So he started to explain to them and he started to have them write it down for him. He'd speak up and they write down his explanation for him until he finished the famous book called El mob zoo in the Hanafi FIP, which is one of the most important books and how does he fit and one of the most important resources resources for the Islamic Ummah. All of the methods go back to this book to benefit from this book, which came out in 30 volumes printed today and 15 volumes, two volumes, each volume 15

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volumes or 30 volumes of amazing, amazing fit as he was put into the web.

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When I said into crocheting, or highroller calm, that perhaps you dislike something and it's actually good for you. Let's see what's he going to do? Just sit around and be sad all day. This is the situation I'm in. I'm going to benefit from it to the best of my ability

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Even Subhanallah some non Muslims, who are put into situations like this, look in the modern history that we live in Nelson Mandela 27 years in prison for nothing he didn't do he didn't commit any crime.

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And look at the situation

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of the prison that he was in, and the hardships and the difficulties that he came, but he was patient. And when he came out, look at the revolution he had in his country, a country that had apartheid that we didn't even think was possible in the modern world. I remember when I first time I went to South Africa, and I go to a school. And they say that the kids that are Muslim kids in the school now they're the first brown kids to ever study in this school. Subhanallah and they said you're the first one to ever speak about Islam in the school load.

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Here's a person who was imprisoned 27 years where's the good in that but look at the good he did for his his his country when he was released. So the person we don't know where the good is. This is the principle that we need to understand. Even if it's something that we see as being a great calamity. A great difficulty. We can't see what a good is we have to look for in shallow taller you will find it.

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When one of us becomes sick, one of us three faces some type of grief or difficulty or calamity.

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I want you to pay attention

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to what is happening

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as he came in the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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When the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us in the hadith is unassailable clarity,

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that either are the law who will have the Hadron you'll see Minho? That if Allah wants good for the servant, that he makes him face difficulties,

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that he faces difficulties, he faces calamities. This is a sign that Allah subhanaw taala is testing you a sign that ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala loves you.

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An amazing story

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that happened to one of my friends, who is a general and the Sudanese police force. And he told me this story himself that

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he was on a flight from one of the smaller cities to the capital of Sudan to Khartoum.

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And he said, I reached the airport. And being a ranking officer. He said, I have my own driver, my own land cruiser that can drive me to the capital. But he said back in the day in the 80s, he said the roads weren't the best. So he said it was you know, it was a bumpy ride. So I said, I'll decide I'm gonna take the plane instead. He said when we got on the plane,

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two teachers,

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they got on the plane, they said, these ladies need to travel. They have something very urgent Khartoum, regarding education, they we need two seats, if someone can give up their two seats,

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and they can let these ladies fly. And we'll put them on the next flight.

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The general told me he said that there was a man next to me, and I told him yella, let's go. He said, You're coming with me. He said he saw me in my, my police uniform. He was shy, but he's like, What is this guy to take with me? I don't want to go, I want to fly. I don't want to, you know, have a car outside window where it will go in my car with my driver to her to.

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He's thinking he said the guy with him. Like, what is this and I don't want to go in his marburo to have a flight easy flight. I'll be there an hour. Anyways, he said I was a bit shy. Because the policeman has asked me to go with him. So he said, we get off the plane, me and this guy and we go to my driver, and we drive the car to him. He said we reached out to him Subhanallah we hear that the plane crashed.

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And everyone on board dies. It's a panel. And here this man is upset. He said the whole time he's like, you know upset with it with the police officer for taking him with him. But it wasn't meant for you to die. So perhaps you dislike something but this is good enough for you hope that you're still alive. Allah subhanho wa Taala gave you another chance. Another story similar to that a man who went to the airport and was waiting for his flight and he was exhausted running around you know how it is before you travel and do all the last minute things. He was exhausted when he gets to the airport and he fell asleep. They're calling him calling his name out mister so and so Mr. So and so.

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And he's not hearing anything. He's in another world sleeping. He wakes up looks at the time. Flight is gone. He becomes enraged are screaming the anger and then Subhanallah he hears that later the flight also went down 300 Plus passengers that were all of them dead. So Pamela something you dislike you miss your flight but it was good enough for you. Allah subhanaw taala gave you another chance. And we see these type of stories time and time again. One of the amazing stories that they mentioned in the books of history was about a king

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who had a was era Minister, that anytime something negative would happen

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and it's very important now one, this principle we're talking about today. It's teaching us how to always be positive. This is the Muslim Muslims always positive.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said adjuvant the Amana movement for in Umrah who kulula who hailed the promises and he said that it's wonderful the affair of the believer because it's all good for him.

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He said No, Saba, who, if he is something good comes to him through Sabo faith, Shaka Fergana, Fado. Lo then he's thankful and it's good for him. What else Oh, shut up, if something bad happens to him, sober the caliphate, although

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he said if something bad happens when he's patient, and that's good for him. If something good happens, he's thankful and hamdulillah something bad happens. He's patient. So the affair of the believer all of it is good. All of it has failed Hamdulillah we always have to be positive as Muslims always positive.

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Here in this story, this minister always would say anytime something bad would happen, the out of the holy faith

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that Allah who perhaps it is live here for good, the unholy thing.

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So one day, they went out on a hunting trip, and this King used to always like to go hunting.

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So he got injured, he fell into a hole and injured his finger very badly. It wouldn't stop bleeding. And then the loss of blood and the infection on the finger, it started to spread to the rest of his body. So the doctor said, We have no choice but to amputate to cut off your finger to save the rest of your body.

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He became very angry and didn't want to cut off his finger. But then he felt in his body that it starts to spread. And his minister said to him, I'll only fail, perhaps that it is for good. He became even more angry said how you want my finger to get cut off. He said where's the good in this? How can you say there's anything good, and my finger being amputated. And he ordered his guards to take his minister and to throw him into the prison? And he said there for several years in prison. And as they took him to throw him into prison, what did he say? Lana Holyfield, perhaps is for good. So he's about to be thrown into jail. And he saved perhaps is for good. Some years later, on another

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hunting trip.

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The king and his men was surrounded by some locals from the area who were savages who worshipped other than Allah subhanho wa taala. And they would sacrifice humans to their statues.

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So here they feel the king, the king, he usually eats well, Michelle is a big guy. So it's a good sacrifice. So they take him and as they're about to sacrifice, and they notice that he's missing a finger. And you can't sacrifice they said to their statues and to their gods. They said we can't sacrifice something that's not complete something that's insufficient. He has his finger cut off. So they freed him and let him go.

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As he came back, he remembered his minister who used to always say to him, le Allahu Allah, hey, there perhaps is for good. So he ordered that he get freed from the surgeon from the prison. And he brought him back and he said, Why do you always say this? How do you know this? And he said, Why did you say when you went to prison, he said, Hamdulillah we always know that there's good and what happens even if we can't see it? He said, Because if I hadn't been put to prison, he said, it was very good for me, because they would have looked at me, perhaps the minister was well off to he said, they will look at me and they would have slaughtered me and sacrifice me to the statues. If I

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was with you say said Hamdulillah. Allah saved you with your finger. And Allah save me by putting me in prison when hamdulillah so you never know where the good is. You always have to be positive as being a Muslim. An amazing Hadith

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from the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, which was narrated in Sahih Muslim, that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, and movement in Bowie, Clayton Wahab, an alum and a movement advice with equaling faith, that the strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer. And both of them have good the fact that they're believers, both of them have good but the one who is strong meaning and is an easy man, meaning his actions even in his body, when he was strong, he's more beloved to Allah subhanho wa Taala and then the one who is weak.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, then told us

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that we should seek the assistance of Allah Now how does Allah Mayan power to strive for that would benefit you?

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Wala dodges and do not let sourness come to you.

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When I saw the cache,

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and if something bad some trouble comes to you, as you're striving

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as all of us are striving this life, all of us are trying to do the best we can do. All of us are striving for that which benefits us and our family. Pay attention to that.

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Ready? He said fina saw Bokashi if some trouble comes to you,

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low underneath and to gather together Lackawanna kiddo Kevin, don't come say if I didn't like this it would have been like this. I wish I hadn't done like this. I wish I wish this as we always do when something bad happens he said don't say if I had done like this or like this, it would have come outcome would have been like this or like that. He said but say but then Allah will mercy if I say it is the decree of Allah, and as Allah has wilt.

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And then he said Allah Salatu was Salam wa ala Taku lo for in Hello TAFTA Baba che upon he said don't say lo don't say if because this if opens up the door for shape on if this if that this god that Allah Masha, you can't change the when the cutter happens. It says Allah has decreed and as Allah has wilt

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Subhanallah I remember last summer, I was in Ireland,

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on my way to Scotland to attend a conference. And I had done my preparation mashallah Tabata Cola, I thought that it was very good. I was very happy. Probably the most prepared I've ever been for traveling, I wrote everything down that needed to take with me, all the books I was going to have with me. And as I was traveling, my bag was ready a day in advance, no Latin lastminute.com preparation and Hamdulillah I went to the store to buy some food and things from my family. And I bought some pencils that I used to write on my books as I travel, I have to travel quite a distance to reach their bus and, and by plane and by car later. So I said I'm gonna benefit at least from

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reading during this time, inshallah wouldn't want my pencils as I came home.

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And we unloaded the bags, I couldn't find my pencils anywhere. And I started to become very angry.

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Even though I know these principles are sharp, I should know this right? My young son comes to me about six years old at the time. And he says to me, other Aloma Shavon is the teacher, he reminded me the same thing that we're teaching him. But once again, I'm not seeing the good because I went out and bought these pencils especially and everything's 100% prepared. And now I can't find my pencils. I'm gonna go knock about right on my books. So I was very upset. And I'm looking for the Hey, where's the goodness? So I'm trying to be patient. I'm trying to listen to my son but then Allah

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and I'm looking any in places I came to a box that I had on my desk, and I said I know you didn't put it there I said look anyways, open up the box, knowing that pencils are not inside just to check because I couldn't find them anywhere. And what is there on top of the box, my passport?

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Allah Kuba. After all the preparation, I would have traveled two and a half hours three hours from my city to the airport. I would have found that my passport was still there. I'm there. So even though I didn't find the pencils in the end, I found that was much more important was the passport. So all the time? Yeah, when we have to train ourselves. When something happens it didn't go the way we want it. We say it's not going Aloma Scheffer right away. This is the process of Miss training us we remember the eye right away whilst untape crochet and we'll clean all that perhaps you dislike something but it's actually good for you was to hey boo che and while we're showing them that

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perhaps you love something, but it's actually bad for you. Well, lo who yeah Allah mu one to let Allah moon and ALLAH knows and you do not know. We need to train ourselves as Muslims that these principles that were being taught in the Quran and being taught in the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. There's not just Manuma information that we have, that is something that we put into action, and Wallahi through mo Allah He, if we put this into action, dealing with the difficulties in the calamities, it's going to make us some of the most peaceful people will be peaceful inside. And even difficulty comes hamdulillah there's no stress, no problems, because as

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long as we're doing as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us in this hadith, we mentioned here in the end, how does Allah my info was dying Billa to that you strive for that which benefits you and you seek the assistance of Allah as long as you're doing those things. You're striving and seeking the assistance of Allah if it doesn't turn out the way you plan got that Aloma Chapin it says Allah is the pre knows will cause and that perhaps it's actually better for you. Not only Hey, always remember this, my dear brothers and sisters will Allah He it will make dealing with the difficulties in the calamities that happen to us. It's like so easy and so peaceful, and were

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removed from us so much of the stress that we're facing, and people don't realize, how do we do I need to go to the doctor, read the Quran. Read the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and you will find all of the hay and all of the guidance you need right there and you will relax and you will be successful and dealing with the difficulties and the calamities because they're going to come. There's no such thing in this life as the peaceful life that's 100% without any problems, any calamities all of us are going to face hardship. Life is tough.

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