The Prophet And His Relationship With The Youth

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In the hamdulillah

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nomadic monastery known as the Pharaoh,

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when it was a villa Himanshu Areum fusina sejahtera Marina Maria de la sala de La MaMa Yulin Fela Heidi Allah, a shadow Allah ilaha illAllah hula hula Sheree Kara wash How do I know Mohammed Abu rasuluh yeah you Hello Dina I'm an otaku la haka to party. Mouton. Illa one to Muslim moon. Yeah you Hannah Sakuraba como una de holla Kaku me nuptse wahida wahala comin has our jaha Baba. I mean humare Jalan kathira when he says

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what up in La la de Luna v well are

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in aloha con la cumbre Kiba yeah you holla Xena am an otaku la ku Colin sadita useless welcome Mr. la comida coma hola como de Nova calm, warmer up la hora Sula, hufa defassa fossa. Now the man about

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the kurush the Mexican army

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was approaching Medina.

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And so the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as it was customary, he used to consult the companions, he used to consult even the general people. So after prayer,

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he informed them and updated them about the current situation and he said, the army was coming.

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And they had left Mecca.

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And so

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he wanted to consult with them and ask them on whether they

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should

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stay and fight in the streets of Medina when the Mexicans come or go out to meet them.

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And so,

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they were two camps, two groups, the elders, the elders,

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they

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wanted to stay in Medina because the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam formed them. He had a dream. He has a dream that he brandished his sword.

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And then

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it cracked

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or broke.

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And then he brandished it again, and it came back.

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And then he brandishes saw it again. And all of a sudden, this there was a chip on the sword. And he put his hand inside his

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armor.

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And then, so this is all of course in his dream. And he saw that there was a cow that was slaughtered. So he interpreted the companions, he interpreted the meaning of the dream that he had.

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And

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of course, he interpreted that this was interpretation how the battle was going to come going to be. And then he said,

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As for my hand inside my armor, that's an indication that Medina will be a strong fortress for us. So I feel we should stay in Medina. So behind Allah, how strong is it? Remember the dreams of prophets, the prophets and messengers are from Allah subhanho wa Taala. It's not something that is made up. It's a part of actually

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revelation because the Shelton cannot affect and come into the dreams of the prophets and messengers. And so this is what the prophets I'm informed them, but there are some youngsters, some of the youth they miss the opportunity to fight in the battle, but

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they missed the opportunity to find the battle buddy, so they were very zealous. They wanted to meet the enemy. Remember in the battle, but it was not mandatory for everyone to go. They did not go to fight the Americans, they went for the caravan. They only way for the caravan. But Allah subhanho wa Taala made the battle happen when the Meccans came, but then intention was not to fight. It just so happened that's what Allah subhana wa tada decreed. So there were many people in Medina who did not participate in the battle by the who really wanted, they missed this opportunity. So these especially the youngsters, they wanted to show what they could do.

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They and they knew also the virtues of fighting in jihad, fie sebelah and the virtues of being amongst the people of

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a budget. So they did not want this opportunity. They did not want

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to take the chance that the people of Mecca would somehow somewhere

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Return would not intimidating. So the youth they want it to go out to meet the enemy.

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And they it seemed as if they were the majority.

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It seemed as if they were the majority but the the elders, they agreed with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to stay in fight in the streets of Medina Why? So that others can join also you can stay on the rooftops, you know your area better, and you can attack the enemy. But some of them they were saying that you know what, we didn't do this in Jamelia. We didn't do this before Islam, why would she? Why should we allow such a thing to happen in Islam. So this is some of the proof of the youth. And now and so the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, after consulting with them.

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He listened to the youth.

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And so he went, he said, okay, we will go out and meet the enemy, we will go out and meet the enemy.

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And so he went home.

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And he put on his armor. While he was in his house,

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the elders were scolding the youth.

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The elders, were scolding the youth.

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And they were able to convince

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most are some of the youth to change their minds. And so then they after this, give and take, they said, okay, it when the Prophet some of them comes back out, then we, when he comes back out, we will

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tell him, that we want to fight in the streets of Medina, we'll wait for the enemy to come, we're not going to go out to meet them. And so

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the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam comes out, with his armor ready to go. And then they tell him that, you know, we've changed our minds, we changed our mind, we decided to go with your suggestion. In other words, the opinion of the elders, right, the opinion of the elders.

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And so

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the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam then said, it is not appropriate for a prophet, after he has put on his armor to take it off. And until Allah subhanho, wa Taala, has decreed in this affair. In other words, either were victorious, or, you know, or we meet the enemy. In other words, he's not gonna change his mind.

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So he was firm. And by the way, this is a lesson, a tangent here, a lesson in leadership, a lesson in leadership, once you have made your decision,

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don't waver and don't change unless some of the variables have changed. You know, I teach, sometimes I used to teach when I'm doing a lot of administration, but I used to teach at Islamic school. There's an Islamic school in Seattle. And,

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you know, it's, you know, in Seattle, it's similar to here, right? We get a lot of rain, we get a lot of rain. So we have a lot of rainy day racists, like Pete, they killed the kids, they can go out, you know, when it's time for break and recess. And so every time we go out, before we go, I asked him, so one day, I said to them, I said, Okay, you guys.

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What do you guys want to do? You guys want to play football?

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As a class, we don't play football, or we play basketball. We can play football or basketball, your choice. And I want to see hands, who wants to play football.

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I know you guys wanna play football right now. But I'm like in class, during the class that he wants to play football. So a group raised their hands, and they said they want to play football. Right? They want to play football. And then I said, Who wants to play basketball? So, you know, the guys who like to play basketball, right? They raised their hand.

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And it seemed right when I was looking at it, the majority of the people,

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the majority

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wanted to play basketball.

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They wanted to play basketball. It was a nice day outside. But you know, more people want to play basketball. And so before we go, of course, I'm gonna go and take a basketball and we have a gym. So I go and get the basketball from the closet. It was from another nother area outside. So I came I come back. But while I was gone, while I was gone, those who wanted to play football. They were the minority, right? So they're the one there's one very influential person amongst him. He's able to convince the other guys and he What does he tell him? He said, Listen, we live in Seattle. You guys all know that right? It rains a lot. It's not raining outside.

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It's a nice day outside. We can play basketball anytime, whether it's raining or not. But you can't play football every day.

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You can't play football.

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Every day, does that make sense? It makes sense. It makes sense. And a lot of them they said, Okay, yeah, you know, the people who, who don't care too much. Or maybe they like it, it makes sense. It made sense to them. So another he got a couple of more students to be on his side. So I come back and what do I have in my hand?

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I have a basketball, I have a basketball. And it's nice outside, it's not raining, we're gonna be playing inside. But most of the people said they won't play basketball. And so the brother, or the students, he said, was dad.

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And

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the majority of us now want to play football.

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Right? The majority of us never play football, you still have a couple of people, they don't care about football, they just wanna play basketball doesn't matter. And they don't care if it's raining, Sunny, doesn't matter. Basketball is always taught. Number one. So I'm in a dilemma. What do I do? Do I go and go get a football? Forget? Okay, you guys in the majority? Did I go and get football? Do I do it? If I were to do that? What would happen? I would lose control of the class. Why would I lose the control? Why would I lose control of the class? Because there are some people who still want to play

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basketball, and they'll never change. And so if I went and got a football, they would know, that's unfair, we already chose. We already chose basketball, right? So I said no. And we said basketball, we're gonna play basketball, I don't care how sunny it is outside, we already made the decision. It didn't. So I don't change. But if there's a variable it save, it starts to, you know, something happens and we can't go outside or we can't play basketball one or the other. Okay, we can make our decisions accordingly, or somebody has already taken the basketball, okay? Or somebody has already taken the football one way or another, they will then enforce us in one way or another. But don't be

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firm when you make your decision. Otherwise, you lose control. So the Messenger of Allah has a whole message right now, the youth and the elders, there's a conflict. And the elders now have convinced them that you know, they should stay but at the beginning, the first decision was to go out. So if he would have said, okay, since the majority, most of you guys want to fight in the streets of Medina now. Okay, we'll do so. All the other guys, those who really still wanted to go out, they would say,

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we already chose the other one. Right? So this is a lesson in leadership. And but

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what is the main lesson here? It is what happened after we have during and after what happened during the battle boy,

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when they went out, and they fought,

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what happened? The Muslims suffered greatly, because the archers did not listen, or they were not obedient to the orders of the prophets on the loudest and to stay on that mountain to stay on the hill. And so that was the reason why, because of their disobedience, there was chaos that occurred afterwards. And the Muslims suffered greatly in that battle.

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Right. And one of the reasons also,

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the reason why I'm the lead no babe, necessarily one of the reasons why he mentioned why he did not want to join was because he said, The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Muhammad listens to the youth. He doesn't listen to the elders.

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Mohammed listens to the youth. He doesn't listen to others. Why are we going to risk our lives

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because of some zealous elder, zealous youth trying to bring this out to the battle because he didn't want to go anyways. He wanted to fight with the streets of Medina so he wouldn't have to join. He could stay locked the doors itself, and he wouldn't have to worry about anything, that he was the leader of the hypocrites. He had another reason but that's the reason why he mentioned. He said, Well, Mohammed, listen to the youth. Okay.

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So we know what happened in the battle

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afterwards.

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Now imagine this in our massages, I want you to imagine something like this occurring in the massages, the mom listens to the youth and then there's afterwards as a calamity as a result of that decision. Right? What do you think would happen?

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You see, you shouldn't be listening to those youth. They don't know any.

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Next why you have to consult Why do you have to consult him? What do you have to speak to them? Forget it, leave them alone.

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But what what did the Messenger of Allah Salaam do? Listen to the verses that were revealed afterwards? concerning this decision, Allah subhanho wa Taala says

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la mina shaytani r rajim.

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30 mera

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naam la healing

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fabu mean how ironic for one home was done feeling at home was weird

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for you

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In

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Killeen

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because of the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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from Allah subhanho wa Taala you were kind to them.

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You were easing kind to the kind to them. Well, I couldn't afford one of olive oil called lumen Holic. If you were harsh and coarse towards them, they would have run away from you. The Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam did not play the blame game afterwards. He didn't blame this person and that person he didn't say oh when we shouldn't have left Why did we Why did you guys have to suggest such a thing and and so forth? We already decided I even saw a dream. No, he was very kind to them in his within the way that he spoke to them. When I couldn't afford one volleyball fell below him and how like, Whatever has happened, fight for it.

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For good, forgive them was stuck in fear, love him and ask forgiveness for them. And then you know how some people when something happens? What do you say? Next time Next time I'll never listen to you next time. We don't need to consult the youth anymore. Right? Next time Forget it. We are enough the board is not enough with the board. We will make the decision. Look when we listen to them. Look what happened. What is the loss of a handclap Allah say? Why Shall we

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continue to consult with him. He didn't tell him Oh, they made this mistake. Forget it. Don't listen to him anymore. Don't consult with him anymore. Consult continue to consult with you.

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Wish I went home Phil amor. For either as anta when you have made that conviction for what kilala law, when you've made your decision, then put your trust in a law and go forward with it.

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Make your decision firmly and put your trust in a law consult, consult with the elders consult with the youth consult with the people because the more you consult, the more participation you're going to get from the people.

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And so consultation is a part of how we deal with things. And as Muslims, we have to be fair, see how the Messenger of Allah sallallahu tweeted the youth. They are important in the battle, they are coming with over 3000 people lives are at stake. And he's consulting the youth also.

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Not only is he consulted, he listens to the

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analysts, not only does he listen, he has a dream that tells him that you know what, you should stay in Medina and he still listens to them.

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He still listens to the youth.

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Why? Why? When you look at our communities,

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our massages, or Islamic centers, Islamic schools,

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we build these assignment schools, it's not for us, we're gonna be gone, elders, we're gonna be gone. It's for them.

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So you have to bring them in also in your consultation, put them on board also, and help them out so that you can raise the next generation to organize things properly, and take care of things. And you know, you have to realize if when you look at the Muslim community, what's the age group of the community? And the Muslims in general? What's the age group? The majority of them are youth. Right? So if they are the majority, then why are our activities

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geared towards people over 3540 years old.

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Most of the activities right now are geared towards maybe the elderly, a lot of places, a lot of

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institutions and so forth, when they have activities that's geared for those people, but the majority of the people, the youth, and at the same time, also half of the oma half of the community. They're women, and why don't we have half of the programs for the sisters and for the mothers also,

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why? We're also not being fair to them, because we're not listening to them. That's why you don't listen to them. If you listen to them, they'll say, you know what, we need some programs also.

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Right? Why is it only the guys over 40 years old? Already? That's how they get 80% of the programs, and they're only 20% of the people?

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That's not fair. So see the wisdom of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam in how he treated the youth is something that we should learn from

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another. So how did the Messenger of Allah sallallahu teach to you? First,

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he taught them to be balanced. He taught them to be

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to be in the middle path to take the middle path. And by the way, when you say balance and middle

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We're not talking about compromising in our genome. Because when you follow the Quran and the Sunnah correctly, you adhere to it, you extremely adhere to the Quran and Sunnah you won't fall into extremism.

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Why? Because the Quran and Sunnah is the most balanced, the more you hold on to it, the more balanced you are.

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The more you hold on to it, the more balanced you are. And that's why in the you, the youth, generally they have a lot of zeal, right, as usual, you see, they have a lot of zeal. So when they want when they put their mind to something, they will do it, they will passionately go after it. Right? And so you have to,

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you have to use that energy or shift that energy towards the balance way, not not one extreme, or the next. That's why

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some of them they came to the Messenger of Allah came to Ayesha rhodiola, one is asking about the,

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the

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eba, the worship of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam asking how he was. And so they heard about his prayers, his fasting and so forth. And so they said, you know, this is the Messenger of Allah, as well as normal people, we should do much more than that, right?

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And so

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it says, if they thought that they should do more than that, because they're regular people, and he's the prophets of the lunaire. So whom Allah has already forgiven his past and future sense. And so

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when the Messenger of Allah sallallahu, one of them said, so one of them said, you know, I'm going to, I'm going to pray.

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I'm going to, I'm going to pray at nighttime, I'm gonna stay up at nighttime and not sleep for the rest of my life.

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Every night, I'm just going to stand up in prayer. I'm not going to sleep.

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So he devoted himself to night worship. The other person says, You know what, I'm gonna pass every single day. I'm never gonna break my fast meeting every single day, he's gonna pass every day continuously for the rest of his life.

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And so the third person said, you know, I'm not going to get married. I'm not going to get married. Why? Because he thinks that you know, you're getting married, you're gonna get busy. You're gonna have responsibilities and you're not gonna have time to devote yourself in the worship of Allah subhana wa Tada. So when the Messenger of Allah Salaam heard this, he was very angry.

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So these were three, use the three men who came to Isla de la. And so he said,

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Surely, and the most God fearing of you,

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and the most done sharing of you, but I,

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I, I pray, and I go to sleep. And I fast and I break and then some days I don't pass, and I may I get mad, I marry also. Men are Atiba. And so Nettie follows me, whoever does not follow my sadhana, my way, is not happening. Because this way, the sun has the best balance of ways. And so

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in order to teach the Prophet Solomon when he was with the youth, he's very compassionate and nice to them. But the same time, one of the things that he taught, was he taught them to be balanced, and then something that's very difficult, you know, when the most difficult, you know, one of the Messiah, when the students are asked when the Messiah, what's the most difficult idea to follow?

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That's a good question. Right? as a chef, what's the most ideal, what's the most difficult idea to follow?

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You know, what he said?

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He says, You know, I think the most difficult idea to follow is that Ethan was the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, in earlier of the colic,

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Buddha, when he was a sorry, a Buddha, when he used to always he was very devoted, used to always fast, used to always praise at nighttime used to always pray, and he, his wife, she didn't she wasn't dressed, were very well very, very nicely. And so the situation reached the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam. And then he called,

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she told the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. And he called over and he said, in Arabic, Allah,

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Surely your Lord has your Lord has a right upon you. When le elica Allah

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and your family has a right upon you, when nearly enough sick alike upon and you yourself have a right upon yourself for equality.

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So give each person who deserves a right the right agency. So it's that balance. That's difficult. In Islam, you have worship, then you have family, and then you have yourself Take care of yourself also. Take care of your worship your connection with Allah, your relationship with Allah and then your relationship with the

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A family also. And then also you yourself, take care of yourself also. Take care of yourself also yourself you have rights upon yourself also. So that's the teaching that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam taught. And it's very important when it comes, especially when it comes to the youth also, why?

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Because

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the reason why many people go astray while you have groups that are strange, because they don't look at the whole of Islam. They're not balanced

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in their in how they learn Islam, they take a part of Islam and say that's everything. So there's a group of people who say, you know, what Dawa is that Dawa? If you don't go out an extra amount of days, man, you're not a true believer.

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And doesn't matter your your, your wife, Allah will take care of them. Yes, Allah will take care of them, you know, go for this amount of days, right? And Dawa is everything. Donna was it?

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They forget about

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Islamic economics, politics, all of that together. It's all a part of Islam, also al Qaeda everything. And then there are some people Mashallah, Mashallah. Very good. Right? But when it comes to the o'clock when it comes to their manners, you say la ilaha illAllah they caused mischief all over no type of wisdom or anything. They've taken just certain parts of Islam and say that's it.

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And then there's a group of people Mashallah they want to establish the halifa

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and that's it Jihad fi Sabine Allah, if you're not with us, then you're not against us, right? Something like that.

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And then that's it. I mean, that's it. That's Islam.

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That's it. That's Islam and you start studying about a badass worship, you start studying about will do and prayer, right, and the rulings related to hail and so forth. And they say, you guys are studying from odermatt Hazel in the past? The scholars of Hayden ethos, I was.

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I was not part of your deen. All of that is part of our Deen. You don't belittle any party taken as a whole.

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Once you take one part and say that's everything, that's when you go astray. Because you're not balanced.

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You're not balanced. And especially with the youth, they have this zeal and they'll take it one way or the other. And they don't take Islam as a whole all of that is important as key that is important. Manners is important. So they have some people have good manners, Mashallah, but they don't worry about it. That doesn't matter. Only these people go around the grave, I just leave them alone. Just call them that in a call come back, tell him to come back to the masjid. And then they teach certain things only certain points only. And that's it. You stay with him for 667 years, you're just going to learn a few points. Every time over, over and over again. That's only

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take it to the next level. All of that. That's a part of the deen. Yes. That was a part of the

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struggle in the way of Allah is a part of the deen is a part of our religion. aqidah is a part of our religion. Manners is a part of our religion. All of that is our religion, not just one part. So you don't just look at one part and whoever's not in that circle. He's off the edge now.

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He's way off. You know, we don't hang around with it. Hey, look at his shoes. Look at his above don't talk to him.

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No, no, they've taken that part only. And they forget everything is about that. There's just a few surface issues. Just a few surface issues. When you ask him really go in depth.

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Right to surface issues you take and you run away with it and say that's Islam. That's when people go astray also. So when it comes to the youth,

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you have to teach them but teach them with kindness also. And, you know, our, our model should be

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women who may Apolo robina it Neff adonia has Anna was will accurately Hashanah, Latina Gabbana.

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This is the believers to ask Allah give us the goodness of this life and the goodness of the hereafter and free from the hellfire. That's the balance. The balance in our Deen and the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was very kind to the to the youth and he respected them also and he listened to them also. But at the same time. The youth also

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the youth also have to learn manners.

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They use also they have to learn manners, and that's what the prophet SAW the Lola said Lisa min Malema waka, Kibera Nola Muhammad

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sivanna He is not amongst us, those who do not respect our elders, nor have mercy upon our youngsters. So you're not amongst us if you can't if you don't respect the elders, and you don't have mercy upon upon the youngsters. So it's a two way thing. And so what is this? One of the things that we forget that we need to teach also the youth, and how the prophets have taught the youth was he taught the manners.

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When the first thing you have to teach, you have to teach manners also, because once you teach manners,

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right, you know, your children, when you have children,

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if you can teach them

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to respect you and listen to you, then you can teach them anything after that. But if they don't listen to you from the very beginning, and you're not teaching them, what else are you going to able to teach them in, they're not going to listen to you. They're going to speak to you just like, Bart Simpson speaks to Homer. Right? Because that's where they're learning the matters from. Right. Just like how Bart speaks to Homer, that's where they're learning manners when they speak just like that. So watch it every single day. Right, isn't it? And so that's why you have to teach them manners first, from the very beginning. And that's why the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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was very kindly, but at the same time, he didn't, it isn't just

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he did not just teach them you know, in regular settings only.

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You know, sometimes.

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Nowadays, especially you have the hobby, he gives my show, the mom gives a powerful lecture, fire for goodbye. And arrows, Mashallah. Then after that, you don't see him till next week, right? He's with his wife, he's doing this thing. And then you don't see him till next week. But how was the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He taught them the theoretical part. And then he interacted with them. He ate with them. He joined them in their activities.

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He was with them. And he traveled with him also. And that's why and so these are the things you can teach them also doing these activities and during the times you're with them. So that's why the profits of the lohana he was set him when he was writing behind when Abdullah Ambassador was riding behind the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam, the Messenger of Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, some turned around, and Abdullah, an ambassador as a boy, the young boy at that time, and he said, Yeah, well, I'm a young boy, in your limo kalimat

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I'm going to teach you a few words. I'm gonna teach you a few things.

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For the later digit to jack, he said, Take care of your obligations, our law and the law somehow will take care of you.

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And take care of your obligations to Allah subhana wa tada and you'll find a loss of handling.

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In other words, if only if you take care of your obligations, Allah somehow will take care of you. And so he's teaching him to read but when is he teaching him?

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Is it a formal gathering? In the masjid or former gathering in the house? No, they're writing he is there on either there on a donkey.

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And now buses behind. So this is the perfect time. You know how some parents they say, Oh, you don't have time to I don't have time to spend. I don't have time to teach my children.

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Well, you know what, when they're in the car, start teaching them speak to them ask them questions. This is you have you have time with them instead of having them fight each other behind you?

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Right yelling at each other?

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You know, so and so Mohammed just hit me with a with a pen. And they go Stop it. Yeah, I'm driving right now you guys could stop bothering me. Right? Now speaking, speak to them and teach them you have you do have time. And when they come and you're washing the dishes, maybe ask them a question, son, do you know who the Buddha

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and so forth. And so keep on doing that find those little little timer there to teach them and remind them of Allah subhana wa Tada. You don't have to have a specific setting and specific time. That's why and also the way you speak to them also. speak to them and kindly in a nice way. Be fair with them but speak to them kind of in a nice way. Listen to how the prophets of Allah Harrison spoke to more than the Java rather the youth. The time of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said Yama, Yama, voila, he in Neela a book a while. By Allah, I love you.

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But I love you.

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You don't have too many moms who are resolute children and saying little kids, some of the wildlife I love you.

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But imagine you said that to the young kid. How does he feel?

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How do you feel? How do you feel?

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Good, right? When a mom loves me, right? And then now since he loves you, and now you love him back. Hey, tell me what to do.

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Now he's willing to listen. But look at the way he spoke to him. He said well law he swears by a law. He swears by one law. He in

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Knee low book by law I love you. It's not like I love you.

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I love you.

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Like, you know how many emphasis is that? Well law he, he swears by a law in knee. That's another Tokido another emphasis

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will lie in Nilo head book. That's like, you know, an Arabic you're

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speaking about the beauty of the Arabic language, you know, the beauty, the Arabic language is the emotions are inside. You don't need explanation mark.

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You don't need punctuation marks in Arabic. It's inside the words The structure is built in. You can read the emotions will law he Nilo his book.

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It's in there, you can say

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I love the

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book.

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Well law in new book.

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Look, how many how many emphasis is he saying that you will get one

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or two more either no Java. And then he says

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let me give you an advice. That's

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equally solid Sala. And the whole Allahumma inni Allah.

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He said by Allah, he said, Oh, I'm gonna give you an advice. Okay?

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Don't ever don't ever abandon after every prayer this dawn.

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Allahumma inni Allah. O Allah helped me in your remembrance may help me to remember you. Were sure Crick and helped me to be thankful to you, personally, but it can help me to perfect my worship of you. Oh Allah. So do Don't ever forget to say this do I at the end of the prayer. When is the end of the prayer. The end of the prayer is doober kusa. Allah is when you finish before you finish your

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diet. And then before you give your salams that's the time to make what

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you make you make me do it data that you want. So you supplicate before you give your salaams Aloma a Neolithic cricket, wushu, cricket, mercenary, bodytech. And so that's the time and so he's teaching who more eyes but look at the way that he's speaking to him. He speaks to him in such a nice way. And then listen to how also how carrying the profits of a lot of them was towards the youth.

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Malik Nora rhodiola one who said,

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I know Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was no shabbaton matakauri Boone. He said we came to the messenger of a loss of the lioness and why we were youth of similar age. So they This is a group of youth. A group of youth came to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for Indonesia, in La Jolla. And we spent 20 nights with him 20 days with him. So this is like

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sort of like a small conference 20 days, 20 days like a camp for camping trip, but they came to the prophet SAW them to learn from him for 20 days.

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And he said, Well, Canada Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Rahim Allah Pika, but he was very merciful, unkind.

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We found what's the first look at this? Look at the youth. What are they? How are they describing the Prophet sallallahu wasallam they are describing the prophets on a lot isn't right away the first word merciful and kind, and nice.

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That's how he that's how the youth that are describing the Prophet sallallahu wasallam we found him. But you know, sometimes nowadays, some of the elders right, some of the uncles they come to the masjid, you see this face, you know, the problem is always had a smile, you see this face?

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And then you're

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like, immediately when they see the uncle companies can ask him, he's gonna yell at us or something like that.

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But the Prophet Solomon was not like that. You know, some people think that's the face of piety.

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seriousness, right. But he was always smiling, especially towards the youth. And so for one, and he stuck that

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in so we thought we felt that we start sort of

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missed our family's number. They left their families for 20 days. Now, there was the prophecy of them. They're not from Edina, they have come to visit a group of youth that come to visit the Medina. And so what did the prophets of Salaam do? He noticed that in their faces, and so he's concerned about them. First, Elena and Elena, Amman, trockner, Medellin. So he started asking us, who did we leave at home and how we were doing our condition Subhana Allah so he saw the interfaces, he says, Hey, you know what?

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How are you guys doing? And you guys miss home? And so he's asking because he's concerned about them. And so we told him, we told them, we told them we miss home and so the prophets of Allah hunter Harrison said Irina alikoum Fatima.

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See him while he moves from Morocco, Morocco. He said,

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return to your family and stay with him a timofey him stay with him while we move on wherever you learn from me teach them also and order them to do the things I have told you to do. Order the muscles teach them. So he's telling us to go back. But look, he's concerned that he's asking. He's asking them, Hey, did you guys miss home and go home?

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He's concerned. He's not saying, Hey, you guys, you're here. If you're serious. Come on, don't worry about your family. You gotta sacrifice.

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You know, you're always with your family anyways, only 20 days, you can't add 10 more days.

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Right? When he saw that they missed their family. He asked them he's asking about how they feel. He said, Okay, if you go home, go home and whatever you learn, right? That's

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it. And so, hello, Alan, when they came, they intended to stay much longer than that. But when they started missing home a little bit, he said, just go home, go visit whatever you learn enough for now. So he didn't say he wasn't harsh on them. You know, you gotta finish this. You gotta at least a month. No, you miss home, just go wherever you leave it there. They can always come back later on. But go home. I know you guys miss home. No, you guys miss your family. So he's worried about them. He's always taking care of them. And this is how the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was he was also concerned with the youth. Those who did not, do not have

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not married

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neighbor also helped them to get married. There was a companion by the name of July,

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July. Now July.

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July

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was a companion who let's say he was short. Not only was he short, but he wasn't so handsome. You know? He wasn't too handsome neither. Not only that.

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his lineage was not you know, really high, like all the others, right? So you know, somebody like that it's a little bit difficult to get married, right?

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So he comes to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam seeking help.

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seeking help. And so the Prophet was on helps him. And he goes to the family.

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And he says, I would like your, your daughter. It goes to the Father says I would like your daughter to marry you know, there's somebody in July, if I think it would be good, if you allow your daughter to marry you, lady, right? And so the husband or the sorry, the father says, Okay, let me go speak to my wife, right?

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Let me go speak to my wife. So he goes home, and he speaks to his wife. And so this is the whole conversation is about their daughter, Mary and you lady. The daughter is in her room, but she's listening in on the conversation. And so the mother says

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Mahabharata Rasul Allah has some viral July be

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the Messenger of Allah Salam didn't find anyone by July be

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the other people who were better than you leave you have come in, we said no to them already. He couldn't find anybody that

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no one else by July beam.

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And so the father when he heard that from his wife, he was about to go back to tell the Prophet so maybe somebody else, you know, maybe somebody else, maybe not this time or so. The daughter came out

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when the conversation is finished.

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She came out of her room. And she said to her parents, to redo entero do

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Umrah

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are you going to do reject the order of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and she read an Iowa Khalili movement and well, Amina is a tabula rasa.

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It is not appropriate for a believer male or female, that once the Messenger of Allah has decreed in an affair, that they should have any choice in it whatsoever. Subhana Allah, look at the man of this young lady. This is July be not handsome, doesn't have lineage. It's not rich, nothing.

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Maybe Dean, that's all nothing else. Nothing else. But it was because she wanted to follow

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the orders the suggestion of the Messenger of Allah.

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But the point here is that the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam would help the companions, especially those who are in need, those who wanted to get married, he would help them they use, he would help them. And so this is how, you know, their concerns. These are the things that they're concerned about. So help them and make it easy for them also, and that's what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. He said, Yeah, I'm not sure about Minnesota, I mean, come on. out.

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Which, oh, companion of or group of youth or youth, whoever is able to get married. But if you're not able to

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write was you're not able to, then let him pass for it will be protection for him. So, you know, think about their concerns and if you can't help them, maybe help each other faster, remind each other too fast. Maybe every Mondays and Thursdays, you know, tell the people remind them, Hey, you know, we're gonna have a thought in the masjid here, you guys, you know, especially guys that are not married.

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You guys should be fasting come join us make it easy for them. Right help them out, you know, and sometimes, you know, J maybe, you know, the families who come together also to help them out and think about the conduct concerns also. In fact,

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one time the Messenger of Allah Salallahu alaihe salam

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you know, in the battle hardened up when the most difficult battle, when they were digging, also digging the trench. It was, you know, for four days they were digging a trench and everyone in Medina had to dig the trench. And from morning until night, they would continue to dig the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam would assign certain areas and when the battle occurred, they had to man the trench area to protect so that the protect Medina so that the non Muslims would not be able to enter Medina. So everyone had demand. But you know what? With the youth,

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some of the youth particularly those one youth, he just got married, but he was just married.

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And so, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also knew that he had just gotten married. So he sought permission, you know, to go back to his family. He sought permission to go back to his family and the prophets I'm allowed him to go, allow him to go. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was always concerned with the with the youth. And the way he spoke to them also he didn't spoke them in a harsh way. He didn't speak to them in a coarse way.

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Even when they came with questions that were in our time, who would say wow, how dare you ask such a question, right? There is a companion. How do you think it'd be one without the other one? Abu mama Albury. He said that the Messenger of Allah Salam said, No, he said that.

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Amen. In the Fatah, Shaban at an OB Salalah a sham they use came to the Prophet some of our lives and he said Yasuda law of messenger of Allah, then leave is Xena.

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Give me permission to commit Zina. I was a bit learn.

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Imagine if a youth came to the mom and said, Mom, you know, just allow me.

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Is there any way out? You know, we're living in non Muslim country? Yeah. What do you think? What do you What happened? Oh,

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where are you coming from God? What are you talking about? He probably scream and yell at him. How? Dare you ask such a question. He's asking allow me to come in sooner. fornication, allow me to come in for an occasion. What did he say? Look at the way they spoke to him. He said,

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Come here.

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He brought him close.

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Just that let me speak to you.

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He didn't yell at him. While

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he lowered his voice. He didn't. Hey, look, guys.

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Come here. And so he came close to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and

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they sat.

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Look, they sat This is look at the manners here. You know, hey, let's sit down. And let's talk about it. Let's sit down and talk about it.

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That's the caring nature of the Messenger of Allah. And then he said, to hate poorly ohmic.

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He said, Would you? Would you like it for your mother? If something like that, you know, fornication or adultery, somebody to commit that with your mother? And she said no. And so he said, Well lie, that law will lie. jargony law. He said me, I lost my sacrificing for you. In other words, this is a way you know, of emphasis. And he said, the prophets have said willingness and ability or willingness. We have been holy Mahathir. He said other people didn't want that for their mothers also, you know, they don't want that for their mothers also. And so he said that he said, Would you like it? If you had it? You know, would you want something like that for your daughter? He said, No,

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I wouldn't want print for for my daughter. I will message them. And also people don't want that for their daughters also, and said, Would you like that for your sister? So no, no, I don't want somebody to do that with my sister. Lisa, then would you like that for your

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art? says no, no, I wouldn't want that for love. You don't want that for yourself in the same way. Other people don't want that for their daughters also mean they want proper marriage then

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What people bought around with sleeping with other people. So then he understood, but look at the way he spoke to him in a nice way, even when they came with, you know, sometimes he's they're concerned about certain things. But you know what?

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They don't trust even the man.

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Right? They don't even trust the mom.

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The mom is like,

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he's in a different world. He doesn't understand them. And so they don't go to him with their concerns. And when they don't go with their concerns, then they don't come to the mustard. They don't come back to the dean. So you have to be someone that people trust. People trust. And especially you know, when you're a parent, dealing with a, you know, Prophet Yusuf alayhi salam. When he saw the dream, who did he go to?

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He went, Prophet, Yusuf alayhi salam, when he saw a dream, the dream that he saw, who did he go to?

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He went to his father, yeah, but to any writer had Ashura, Kalka where shumsa will come or at least he

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said, Oh, Father, I saw 11 Star 11 stars, the sun and the moon are prostrating to me. When he had a concern, who did he go to? Yeah, but he said, Oh, my dear father, and then he says, Yeah, boo, nice. Oh, my dear son, look at the way they're speaking to each other in such a nice way. But the point here is profit use of didn't go to his friends.

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He didn't go to other people when he was concerned. Because the person he trusted the most was his father.

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But many of our children when they have problems, did they come to us?

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They use when they have problems they come to us. If they don't have someone to come to who they're going to go to, they're going to go to their friends.

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And if their friend says do not allow me to give it he goes I you know,

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do you think it's good to commit Zina? Right. Do you think it's good to give me fornication you know, sex before marriage? He says, dude, man, you still a virgin?

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Right? Now you can look down upon him, right? That's putting more pressure on him. Dude, how old are you? 15 to 15 dude, man, I wasn't at 12 years old man. 12 years old. I lost my you know what?

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Right? They're proud of it. Those are the people who they're going to go to if they don't trust you.

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If you don't speak to them nicely, you don't speak to them kindly. If you don't follow the example of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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So these are just a few examples of how the Messenger of Allah Salaam dealt with them and how kind he was towards them. Furby mathematics mathematik minella Hill intellia home. While Quinta foghorn valleys are popular

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because of the mercy of a loss of how you are kind to them,

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if you will, of course, harsh, cold hearted, they would have run away from you fat for whom Be merciful kind to them, forgive them when they make mistakes was done for a lot of home and ask make do it for them. ask forgiveness for them, which will home filament and also consult with them also. When you have something, make them feel important. Consult with them. Then they'll come back