Channel: Abdul Nasir Jangda
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And the basic premise of the discussion is trying to find balance and manage a relationship with the last kind of Watada.
In the world that we live in today,
amidst all the distractions, all the different preoccupation, preoccupations, everything else that we have going on in life, how to still find and manage a relationship with the law, and to have some level of comfort that we're doing right by a loss of autonomy.
Now, this is a really, really important and necessary discussion. But it's also a very interesting one.
Because this conversation, I will present some things from the text directly from the text itself, from the Koran from the book of Allah, from the life of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam in his beautiful teachings. So there will be certain things that I will present today to you in this discussion that we're going to have that are, if you want to call them that are established, that are universal, that are timeless, that are static, meaning it's something that allows parallel data set, and it's applicable throughout time, regardless of time, place, situation, circumstance, culture. And there are some things that are observations from the life of the Prophet sallallahu
sallam, which again, are universally applicable and apply to us and are applicable to our lives regardless again, of who we are, where we're at, and what's going on with us.
But there are certain things in this conversation in this discussion that are very unique to us. And there are certain things that we're dealing with today, as Muslims, particularly younger Muslims, living in a party in a certain culture, not just specific to the United States, global leaders culture today, but even more relative more specific to the culture that we live in here in the United States that naturally presents different unique challenges, not necessarily more challenging. I wouldn't take that line of thought personally speaking. But nevertheless, it does present certain unique challenges. So to start off this discussion, what I'd like to talk about first and foremost,
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this is from pseudo anonymous pseudo number six is number 153. Allah says what other demos definitely make you doubt. However, serraglio says, This is my path, Mr. Lima, and this path of mine, that ally is saying that he has laid out for us. He says, Mr. Leeman, it's very strange, it's direct. It doesn't have any distractions. It doesn't have any. It doesn't allow you to stray away, it doesn't have anything that will derail you. And it's also very noble, very upright and very consistent, which basically is an expression in Arabic to let you know that, that not only is is good for you, but it's also very easy, it's natural. It'll come naturally to you. Why people stop
So then I was asked what factors to just follow it, just kind of roll with it. Let it take you where it takes you. That's something very interesting. First and foremost, we have to understand that Islam and his way of life that has been prescribed to us is something that we are programmed for. There's that word in the Arabic language in a word that the Prophet of Allah Swanson used, and that is using the Puranas that is a word fitflop. It speaks about the natural disposition of every human being, the inherent nature of every human being, the spiritual foundation of every human being. And that fitrah that is instilled within every human being, who can use
the light at the photon Asada. Allah founded us upon his fitrah, he built us on his finger, and he laid that foundation within each and every single one of us, that is something we are naturally inclined towards. And that's something that when a person tries to refuse and resist, a person only harms him or herself, they only make their own life more difficult and more confusing and more, more more complex.
But it's kind of going with what's natural, what comes naturally to you. And so this way of life is slob this sohrabi was stuck, even though I'm speaking about my path, that is strength that is consistent to something that is geared something that is very compatible with that nature that allies instilled within us. So when you kind of live your life according to this guidance, and you have a roll with it, it's very natural. It's very easy. It's very accommodating and feels like this is what you should have been doing all along. Why was I resisting this? Why was I refusing this? The second I got on board with this the second I got with the program highlights
So let's do Cisco with it for a little bit, put your faith in the previous session I talked about this concept, put your faith, put your trust in something,
you got to at the end of the day, anybody who tries to live life completely independent of any type of faith or trusting anything, is only deluding themselves and deceiving themselves, you are putting your faith in something, when you cross through the intersection, you're putting your faith in the fact that the other person is going to respect the stop sign, and they're not going to run it.
When you take your car off tonight to go get a bite to eat, you're putting your faith in the fact that, you know, people are going to be responsible, even though it's a college town, and then Saturday night, people are going to be responsible, and they're not going to get behind the wheel of their car drunk.
You put your faith in something that's a part of human life we get escaping.
What we're being asked by a lot to do is put your faith in something that is superior to anything else that we've ever seen or heard or ever interacted with. And that is what
put your faith in. What would you rather put your faith in chance people circumstances situations? Would you rather put your finger on one very simple, easy question.
And so a lot of our time is equipped to do so follow this path, put your faith in me put your faith in my path that I have laid out for your losses.
And then almost paradisus, when that hits me or Sue Buddha, for the federal public lands me
and don't follow the dozen different paths and alternatives that will present themselves to you.
Don't get distracted. One of the primary qualities of the prophets of God, Ibrahim Ali Salaam.
And something that we have also been advised to do for the VA is to have the quality. And he had even with classical Arabic language literally being somebody who is centered, somebody who is focused and somebody who's not distracted.
Somebody who's not distracted
at writing classical Arabic, if somebody whose feet were like, like, you know, very like deformed, almost like a deformity, like their feet were like, severely turned into like cloth. Right? And so when that person would walk, their feet would kind of come back towards the center, like his toes, were pointing towards the center, they would walk like that, they would say the logical action of a man who walks towards the middle. Because normally when you walk your feet point outwards, outside, your toes are pointing outwards. But when his feet are turned in like this, and his feet pointing inwards, they will take off from any walk, he walks towards the middle, a man who is centered.
That's the concept. That's the idea to be focused, to be centered, to not be distracted, to be honey. So Allah says, Don't get distracted, but to power up will be calm and serene. Because we get distracted, two things will happen. Not only will you deviate from the path, not only will you lose your way. And this is a very basic concept of faith that we have to grasp, we have to understand that a loss doesn't lose anything when we lose our weight.
Sometimes there's this notion, this idea of Islam suffering, and the religion losing strength, and becoming weak in numbers, and leaving the last part of our data, we have to be very clear about the fact that we do not have the wherewithal, it is actually supreme arrogance. It is a horrible form of arrogance on behalf of this very, very humble human being to think that he or she has the ability to actually harm or lost power in some way, or that God Allah Himself Almighty, He has some need for this human being absolutely not. That is the height and the peak of arrogance. But we have to understand that lies independent of us. And this way of life, this Islam, this religion that we
live, is independent of us, does need us, we need it. So we have to be very conscious of that fact. So Allah says that when you get distracted and you deviate from the path, not only have you lost your way and you'll suffer because of that you'll stumble around and you'll struggle to find your way but you will also become divided amongst each other your energies, your efforts, your strengths, your talents, your ability, the support structure that you provide for one another will also be lost that equal masafumi healer and the code to support that that is exactly what God has prescribed for you, when he has emphasized to you why so that may be hopefully possibly
you will learn to live a life of God consciousness you will live to you will learn to live in a matter where you are constantly conscious and aware and conscious.
into the law of God and how you live, how you are living your life. That's the basic premise of our discussion here. Following that path, not only technically, let's talk about what is that path, finding our way back to a lost path. So that's the path. So don't do it. Let's say that's my path. Right? So now, what is exactly that path? And what does it involve? And what does it incorporate? What's going on here?
So the very first thing I'm going to do is I kind of like to take the
approach kind of from the bottom upwards, meaning, I'd like to go ahead and dispel a misunderstanding, if you will,
which is an issue is something that we need to talk about. Because a lot of extremism is rooted within the same issue in this problem, but nevertheless, is not generally typically speaking is not the issue that we deal with today. Especially it's not the issue the majority of young people are dealing with today. All right. But I'll start with this issue. This problem, this is a little bit more kind of
straightforward, and a little bit tough as well.
The very first thing that we have to understand is that and I kind of alluded to this in the other session that we just completed, that there's no guilt in Islam.
We're not taught to live a life of guilt.
We're not burdened with guilt to begin with. That's not our basic premise. As our foundation started.
We're not told to live a guilty life, we're told to live a God conscious life. We were never told to just walk around feeling dirty, and feeling guilty all the time. That's a very unhealthy attitude. It's unhealthy spiritually, which leads to it being unhealthy emotionally, and mentally and psychologically as well.
It's social, it's spiritual deprivation.
And so we're not supposed to be guilty, we're supposed to be God conscious. It's a very different concept,
to feel connected to a lot to think of a lot to be aware of a month, but there's no guilt that's involved. And when sometimes people fall into this trap, fall into this problem and this issue of living a life of guilt,
they oftentimes will assume a very extreme attitude and a very extreme position,
where anything remotely having to do with any type of physical pleasure, or emotional comfort, gratification,
anything that is enjoyable or pleasurable, in this world, in this life is something that is very, very bad, it's completely evil, and I need to completely abandon all.
And we have to be very clear, we have to understand that that's not at all what Islam has asked from us. That's not a demand that Islam needs. And that's not a position that Islam takes, we have to understand that.
The Quran talks about this.
In surah, number 57.
is number 27. Was terracotta addresses this and talks about this, when talking about the nations of the past,
the nations that came before us, the people that came before us. So the people who received the message before us how what approach did they take us some of
that then we followed after them with some of our profits and our messengers. What a failure we reserve any money ever. And we also followed with a son of the son of money. So the Prophet Jesus also came afterwards. Well, I think now who's in G, and we gave to Jesus regains it is an excellent device, divine scripture revelation eg,
Allah says that we put in the hearts of the people who follow them, who follow Him who listened to him,
and follow his lead in his example, in his teachings that we instilled within their hearts are all potential. We put compassion, mercy, and we put compassion, love and mercy within their hearts.
We put compassion and mercy within their hearts, but then allows her with other talks about what they did with it. So what I was saying here is that we said the prophets we sent them messengers, we sent them the Word of God, we gave them guidance and instruction on how to live their lives. And that's what they were supposed to do and that we put within their hearts love, compassion and mercy for one another, that learn to also how to interact with each other and how to live a very practical human life.
Now, they went ahead and made a major issue.
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market have not had a
loss Rotella says that they went and
came up, be the literal word is like innovated, which means that they invented they came up on their own with a concept and an idea. And that concept in that idea was completely divorcing yourself, separating yourself isolating yourself from any type of a social experience from any type of worldly pleasure.
Literally, like a riot would be like what we call a monk
that they invented this concept. And this idea, they made up this concept in this idea,
but they made it up
was that we didn't tell them to do this. We didn't obligate them to do this. We didn't tell them that they couldn't get married. We didn't tell them that they couldn't live in a house. We didn't tell them that they couldn't have friends and family and socialize and hang up. We never told them to do this stuff. This was of their own accord. They did this through their own motivations. We never asked him to do any of this stuff.
It wasn't when we asked him to do if
we told them to seek the federal law.
That's a very interesting word, if the law was to seek to find a way
to live life and within living life, to seek out and find within that the pleasurable life
within that experience of being a human being.
Now also something very interesting. He says, from our our reality,
that that life of complete,
you know, separation from anything that is human or worldly, that life, that lifestyle that they came up with being a monk, separating yourself from everything.
That lifestyle that they came up with, they made out we didn't tell them to do it. Even they weren't able to live up to the standard that they set for themselves. You know why? I'll go back to the point that I made first, because it was we weren't built to live life like that.
A lot enough programmers we were not built to be able to live life in such a manner. They weren't able to live up to the standard.
They took certain oaths.
They made certain promises. They had certain convictions, but even they couldn't live up to the standard they set for themselves. Why? Because it was an impractical standard. We have to understand that this is not this concept does not exist within our religion within Islam. The process of this says that integration now.
There is no concept of divorcing yourself from world from the world and from worldly life within Islam, the process of settlement and other narration, speaking to
a loved one I knew a very beloved Companion of the Prophet peace of blessings. He said
that he had to own lucky. He said, Do you know what being a monk in myeloma is? You know what devotion to God and divorcing yourself from the world? Like if there is anything close to that or like that, you know, what the philosophy or the concept of that for my own love for my followers what it is all I'm doing? He's asking a student, his friend, his companion, I'm gonna be with who he goes, You know what the concept for us is? So let me tell you, he said
it's having to leave your home for the sake of protecting your religion like they left. They went to mudita
he said he had it striving in the cause and the path of love when need be. He said it was so it's fasting in Ramadan.
He said what Salah it's praying five times a day.
Well, Hajj, it's making the pilgrimage to the gods, a mecca, performing the rites of Hajj once in your lifetime. Whether
it's going and visiting beta lion visiting the house of God,
like these acts of worship, that a person is particular about who regularly schedules in their lives. That's the concept. That's the closest thing that we have an Islam in the teachings of Mohammed Salaam, it's up to being any type of a monk and separating or divorcing yourself from worldly life and worldly pleasures and these types of things. That concept just doesn't exist. We have a very practical approach to living life.
That's why the Prophet of Allah Azza wa sallam he says in the next video who deity serrania when I get more into when honey bill honey finger Ji somehow he says I will
sent with, with the concepts that you might find in Judaism or Christianity, I was sent with this Deen this way of life given to us by a law that is focused and dedicated towards Allah. And then he talks about something he says, what does that mean? At the end he, he says, I swear by the one who will hold Muhammad's life in his hand. He says, the whole world consists of enough
to live your life, have a family have a job, get an education. But when you take out a morning, or you take out an evening of your time, and you dedicate that morning, or you evening to a lot into the cause of a lot, and then the obedience or alignment striving to establish the religion of Allah, that is better than the whole world, and whatever it contains, will not feed up. He says, whenever possible, to soften over the halal meat so that the city that's another, the prophets allottee seven says that this way of life is a practical way of life. We don't necessarily strive for quantity, we strive for quality.
There's a certain quality, that quantity that is a minimal requirement. That's fine and dandy, but at the same time, we strive for quality over quantity.
But profits, a lot of them says standing and praying and the first line of the prayer. Now what do you got to do in order to be able to pray in the first line? Number one, what do you got to do?
You got to show up on time, you got to show up early, you got to get there before prayer starts at the very least show up a little early. What's something else you got to do, in order to be able to frame the first line?
you got, you got to show some initiative, right. If you get there early for prayer, you know, typically what happens in a budget. Everybody's way too cool. For first roll.
All right, because we have the same attitude that we do in class, to sit back,
sit in the back.
So you got to show up early, I'm gonna show a little bit of initiative.
There we go.
So you got to show initiative. So when you do show up to the break early, you go straight up to the ferns, and you sit down and you park it.
Now, when you're sitting in the front line, because there's people bring their soup and things like that, you're obviously not going to be able to have a conversation and chit chat with somebody.
next to you, there's a guy brings enough.
Right, so that's not really gonna work out too well. And I think that you're sitting all the way in the front and you're checking your
means you're gonna have to discipline yourself, you're gonna actually have to sit here and
write. So it's a little bit of a commitment. Would you agree? So
you got to have the decorum sitting in the front row. You can't like do the layout lay down sprawling thing in the machine, right? And you're in the front row, like laying down outward, right? So you can't really do that. So you're gonna have to have a little decor, they have to make a little bit of a commitment to show burly show a little initiative to practice a little bit of like, you know, dignity, self respect, a little bit of decorum. All right. So you have to make a little bit of a commitment to very minimal commitment. Let's not joke about it, right? I'm just trying to lay out the picture here. It's not like it's going to be the end of your life, right? It's just a couple of
minutes early, extra, just kind of just find a way to do something productive with yourself for about three, four minutes. That's what it means.
But if you can meet that minimum commitment,
quality, you can make the minimal commitment out of your day. The profits or licenses What am I having a fist soften over that standing in the first row of the prayer.
The prophet SAW some says cable midsole adhesive, Tina, Senator, it is better than somebody praying for 16 years.
Imagine praying for 16 years non stop continuous, by the way, is that humanly possible? Of course not. He presents
that look at that the process of is comparing this act to something that is not even humanly possible, something we're not even capable of doing for praying for 16 years straight. That's not physically humanly possible. But he said just by any chance through a miracle through the you know, some type of gift, some supernatural powers that you have. All right, you're a mutant. You could somehow find a way to pray for 60 years straight non stop. That person who just showed up a couple of minutes early and practice a little bit of dedication, devotion to the prayer to a lot
His rewards are greater than yours
in that amazing
so first thing we got to understand is this concept doesn't exist in a swamp of guilt.
This is an extreme attitude that is very unhealthy.
where it's like, sitting like talking with somebody someone's
like What's wrong with you? Everything okay? But you have a conversation with another human being. You know, the problem is is that I'm used at barbecues with the Sahaba
Yeah, the Brits, a lot of Assad
and he's like, anybody got a camel to spare?
Right. BBQ worked a little bit differently back then. I just kind of shocked the sisters. It didn't come wrapped up in a nice little pretty package from the grocery store. Please Like anybody got an extra cavalese
bring it over. I bring Bessie with you process.
I took my daughter to the stockyards. I live in Arlington, which is Dallas Fort Worth. Fort Worth is like this really historic town so they got that Fort Worth stockyards where the goddess livestock and all this stuff when you're not a cow. I was like, You know what, that's gone.
recall a cow food. Right? That's kind of problematic first day of school. It's okay.
You know what's important what matters.
But nevertheless, so
my train of thought here so
the process as
the pre answer, take the camel outside
It's very interesting procedure of how you slaughter our capital, but I've actually done it myself before humble, right. So
but so they sacrifice the camel. They sacrifice the camel. And then they cut it off. You know, cut out like some nice cuts of meat. Little Big old fire. The barbecue that they grilled it. They cooked it over the fire roasted it over the fire. And then they ate it. Like Rob, like seriously? very hands on this ate a steak.
Right? They got into it. And when they were done, and they washed up their hands. You know, everybody, everybody shook hands. It's a good time
to throw on the lock and then said okay, somebody call about an hour. And
like, did you invite the brother to come give a Hanukkah during the barbecue? No, they had a barbecue. And that was okay. The prophets a lot. He said he would hang out with his family.
Why? Hang out with his family? You play with his grandchildren?
What was he doing? Playing with his grandchildren?
moments with your spouse?
What was he doing? sharing an intimate moment with his spouse? Now like, Come on, let's go read some of this here together.
No, I mean, it's a very real approach to life removing the guilt. It's ridiculous, preposterous. It's a standard from our Oh.
It's a standard. We are not physically humanly, psychologically, spiritually. We're not capable of living up to it's impossible. There's a burnout factor. There's an unavoidable, unmistakable, inevitable burnout that comes with trying to live life in that way. And so every single person who's ever tried to live life in such an extreme fashion has eventually burned down. I've seen it time and time again for my entire life.
But he taught us to live a very Happy, happy, healthy, full life, lifestyle. And like I said, this type of attitude and mentality of living with this guilt constantly. Either it'll result or it results in three different things. Two things classically one thing that is very even somewhat classical, but it's on the center stage right now, with the political climate, the global political climate. The one of the consequences of trying to live this type of impractical, extreme lifestyle is either a person will try to commit to it will try to live it will burn out eventually.
All right, or will burn everybody else around them and be be basically left by themselves to live a very lonely miserable life where they basically end up hating themselves.
They hate everything. But they just feel like this is how we have to somehow reconcile, we have to find a way to live their life. And it's really critical that alternative option. The second consequence of that is when there's a guilty attitude, or somebody tries to live their life with this type of guilt, they realize they're somewhat intelligent, they have a little bit of common sense. They realize that's obviously something I can't do. That's impractical, I can't do it. So then what's the only option available that this is the issue, but I can't do it. So
I mean, I can't do it anyways, I can't live up to the standard anyways.
So forget about,
let me just have a good time. From data help I'm doing Anyways, I'm a miserable, pathetic, sinful human being, I might as well have a little bit of a good time while I'm at it.
And then they decide to completely, completely leave a life live a life that is devoid of a love and have any spirituality in Islam, because Islam is just not practical, I can't do it. And the third consequence, which I said is a little bit more center stage right now, is this oftentimes can manifest itself,
it can result in a very, in the development of a very extreme mentality, almost militant, extreme mentality. And that's a common observation amongst a lot of folks, a lot of people, or I shouldn't say a lot, it's a very, very small minority, but amongst those people,
who develop a very extreme militant mindset, and have a very bleak outlook at the world,
and what everyone and everything to die,
either conform or die, that those types of people, the majority of those types of people, usually have that type of a very bleak outlook on life, and they're so miserable, that that's the only outcome that's the only consequence that they that they could come to. That's the, that's the that's the outcome that they come to. So that's the first thing removing the guilt, we don't have guilt.
There's no, there's no monotheism, there's nothing like that, that just doesn't exist within our faith, when it's, it's not, it's not a part of our being our part.
That's the first thing I wanted to set, kind of a foundation for, I wanted to talk about, so that there are obviously two different realms, there is dunya. And there is
something very interesting is that
the actual antonyms, or the pairing of words is actually
dooney. So if this world
is alive here after life after death, do me as your life before death, as your life after death, deed and jr are not exclusive of one another. They don't clash with one another, there's no conflict between being and doing it, we have to understand that being is a way of life.
And the alpha is how you implemented your name in the video.
So there's no conflict there.
And so the true teaching of Islam and the life of a believer, he doesn't have to pick and choose between the two. But the dunya becomes the Dean of a believer. That's how we're taught to live life, that let your junior also become a part of your team everything and that is that we might define as dunia. As worldly life can become a part and parcel of our Deen
we just have to be conscious of how to implement it and understand it. And I wanted to first present to you have a couple of really quick examples. And then I'm going to share with you a few basic things that we can implement. And a handful of things that we can implement, like basic guidelines that we can implement to turn anything from this dunya into the
sort of our whole life becomes r&d.
So first, let me show you a little bit of an example, a very fundamental comprehensive iron rod, that details like the fundamentals of the religion to us is an ayah I have a 177 from Surah. Number two, I am number 177 from Surah. Number two
was kind of agenda says nice and bibra. And two, what do we do
there is the highest level of piety bid is the highest level of piety.
And so it was part of what they said below. piety is not that you simply turn your face towards the east and towards the west. ritual things. That's not piety.
That's not the realization of your faith that's not living Islam, living a life that is pleasing to Allah. Rather what is piety what I am going to build up, it's to believe in the law
is to believe in the law. So first and foremost, it's faith. All right, when you're going to ask them to believe in the
Last Day of Judgment, when we're actually getting to believe in the angels Rokita to believe in the divine scripture, the books that God has revealed,
when they begin to believe in the prophets. So first and foremost, it's faith believing in these articles of faith. That's common sense obvious that goes without saying.
Now look at the realization, the practicality of the faith that Allah speaks about, what's the very first action outside of faith that he talks about? Well, I tend to believe that
it's to give wealth based on the love that you have for a love to your family members, to be good to be generous to your own family members, and family. All right, what else does it talk about? When we attempt to take care of the orphans, social justice, social values, bettering society? What does that mean, to help the poor the needing to destitute like homeless people, hungry people, starving people, people in severe need? What would I say be the traveler, somebody who got lost on their way and trying to help them out and facilitate some type of ease for them? What's that mean? Somebody who's begging and asking for some food, taking care of that will fill up helping slaves earn their
helping slaves under earn their freedom, one of the biggest issues and problems we have a growing problem globally, in, in society, as humanity, the problem that we have today is the rampant you know,
just the out of control, like growth of human trafficking in the world today. Because as economic times become more and more difficult and stressful across the world, Human trafficking is becoming a bigger business. It's a Muslim cost to put an end to this type of loan.
That is, that is an Islamic cause that's something that is talking about letting people live as free, independent human beings.
Then Allah says, what else well
established your prayer and give charity, but then it goes back to what but the idea and keep your word in your promises when you make them? When somebody made a promise, they should keep their promises.
All right, so we see that when a lot of speaks about what is faith, what is piety, what is a slob, he talks about family, he talks about social values, he talks about ethics, and morals and bettering humanity and society, helping the society that we live in, and serving the needy, those people that are struggling. So these are Islamic values. So we see that Islam is not asking us to divorce ourselves from the world that we live in, is rather telling us to engage with the world that we live in, to be involved with the world that we live in.
Now wanted to talk about a few basic things that we can implement. So anything that is a basic human need human reality,
like family, friends, society,
neighbors, work, job, business, all of these things, what can we start to implement, which basically takes that same thing, and turns it into Dean turns into a part and parcel where he turns it into an act of devotion to God, the same things that you would do as a normal human being, but it can't become an act of worship, there's a few things you have to keep in mind. First and foremost, most basic premise goes without saying that which is impermissible is impermissible. We got to be able to, we gotta be willing to at least respect the boundaries of rules. And let's be really honest about a simple fact. Sometimes, because we're not thinking clearly we become overly emotional, we
might feel that the restrictions of Islam are too many. absolutely not true. Very basic restrictions.
Very basic restrictions. Couple of things, you can eat a couple of things, you can drink a couple of things you're not supposed to engage in and outside of that everything's all good and gravy.
The robot is wide open, don't drink this, don't eat this, don't engage in that, outside of that have a good time.
The the things that are forbidden are very few in number.
So first and foremost, respecting that, which is forbidden, realizing and recognizing those boundaries, staying within those boundaries, that's the first thing. Now what you are doing something you're engaging in activity that is generally speaking, it's permissible, it's okay. It's a part of life, like earning a living like having a job, like you know, being involved with your family, having friends and hanging out and social activity. There's a few things to keep in mind. Number one,
it's about the intention.
And yes, in the in the actions are based on the intentions.
actions are rewarding.
And yes, that means exactly that. Now, people often become very defensive.
Oh, brother, if we go take that, you know, what if people are doing something obviously wrong, and then they just say, oh, by the good intention? No, that's why the very first qualifier is you got to first recognize the boundaries, the rules and restrictions that have been laid out by a lot is
that which is forbidden is forbidden. That which is obligated is obligated.
We're talking about outside of that, by the way, what are the obligations of the religion?
praying, how many times a day?
See, when you don't answer a question like that to kind of where you
feel like it's Sunday school.
How many prayers in a day everybody? It's like man, two, five times a day,
bro is hard. Right? Let me let me explain. For some talking to the person who has trouble praying five times a day. If you're already paying five times a day, you can do more, you can do extra or poverty, you should try to do more. That's fine. I'm talking to the person who's struggling to pray five times a day. It takes a minute to do will do.
And now more than four minutes of your time to just basically pray your phone. The basic part of the prayer.
All right, I don't want nobody to get, you know, all twisted and bent out of shape. I'm not telling people to abandon their should not return and Oh, brother wants to supply budget. I'm not talking to you.
I'm talking to a person who's not praying five times a day right now.
Everyone's got different levels. All right, we consider it. Okay. somebody's not praying right now. They feel like prayers, too much to handle minute of your time to make the little four or five minutes of your time to offer to the gods and project for and go on for about three and a half million for your show.
Let's start somewhere.
That's five minutes five times a day. That's a total of how much
you will die education.
Five minutes five times a day. How much time is that?
Anyways, that is 25 minutes. All right, that's 25 minutes of your time. That's like watching a sitcom.
But a sitcom you sit down and you watch it all at once. Right? You watch an episode of a TV show all at once. Right? If you take out the commercials, how many minutes is a sitcom?
There we go.
We can take time to watch the TV show and we can make time to watch SportsCenter over and over and over
then we can make time 25 minutes not even all at once. split up into five parts. That's it. That's all it takes.
That's all it takes.
That's what allows obligating masses to fasting once
that's it, recipe 11 months, eat as much as you want. I don't recommend it. I don't advise it it's very bad for your health. But hey, knock yourself up literally.
is only if you qualify
your college students or people you probably don't qualify
for a job right? So but you understand what I'm saying how
obligated to do
few other restrictions outside of that inside of that.
Then number one thing to keep in mind is intention What is your intention? Let me share one example with you the prophets of Allah body was set up
in a heavy from Sahih Muslim without all the above it says that the Prophet told me
he said Don't ever look down on any act of good
widow and Huckabee what
he said even if it's simply just smiling somebody when you meet them
just means a little pleasant
not being like scary looking all the time.
Like being religious right now. Typically to a lot of people sometimes it means to like just be scared to be angry and upset with everybody
right? Ever seen ever dealt with angry so on
Right, because it goes,
right, and then you respond to him. He's busy talking to somebody else or something. So he didn't hear you saying something about him. So then turns back he goes
to you, right. So that's
the process of says, Don't ever look down any active good any active reward. Just be simply meeting your brother with a nice pleasant face smile at people.
Right, which is, that's a that's a good deed. That's a good deed, the process of another narrations is what the lesson will be watching.
For you to just simply smile at your brother, and smile at him and be nice to him. It's so nice.
to just be pleasant when you meet people, it's like giving charity. It's salopettes reward, a very lengthy duration, which I won't go all the way through, I'll kind of get to the point. But the prophet somebody said, you know, actually, some Sahaba came to the prophet SAW Solomon, they said to them, there is this,
that when the prophets a lot, he said, um, you know, gave the rewards of giving charity, when he told the companions and will soon as about the rewards of giving charity, some of the poor Sahaba said, came to the process. And he said, all the rich people out there, man, they're baking, they're getting all the reward. As portfolio, we can afford to spend any money in charity, we have nothing to give. So we're losing out over here. The process. You got to know each step, bro. You got to know the stuff. He goes into lots of ways to earn reward. There's lots of ways to give charity. He was giving them some of the examples. He says that every time you make a speech, you praise God, it's
charity. Every time you say some highlights charity, every time you see a lot more fun, it's charity.
Charity every time you see an item Alliance charity.
And then he says that telling somebody encouraging somebody to do something good charity, helping somebody of when something that's bad charity, and this really gets very interesting. He says that very interesting. All right, this is run out for the marathon session, the profits a lot. Someone says having physical intimacy with your spouse
Sharing physical intimacy with your spouse getting physically intimate with your spouse, physically.
All right, it's charity. We're not talking about having a nice conversation here. We're talking about going a little bit past that. I just want to be clear here because you understand how shocking
because typically speaking, this is a ruling effect. Make no mistake about that, after you engage in physical intimacy with one spouse now we know about that bunch of single people. But typically, you might know the ruling, after engaging in physical intimacy with your spouse, what do you have to do?
Part of fifth is what
you have to take a you have to know who's in the bathroom purification, you have to cleanse yourself before you can pray. But the prophets, a lot of them here telling the Sahaba that sharing the sharing an intimate moment with your spouse is charity, you get reward for dropping money in the donation box, ching ching
in more than one way.
They were literally shocked just like maybe people in this room have a question. They were shocked. They said, O Messenger of Allah.
So you're trying to tell me that I basically engaging in like fulfilling my desires
and fulfilling my physical desires. And I get rewarded for that.
And the prophets of Allah Salaam said, Well, if you were to go and fulfill that desire in an inappropriate way,
outside of marriage, would that be a sin? set dates and yeah, of course, it would be okay to doing it the right way. So reward.
That's a song. It's about the intention. It's how you approach it, respecting the boundary and then having the right intention. The prophets of Allah talks about in an authentic narration of Massoud, I'm sorry about the a lot of mine, this is him so when
he says number two Ragini Allah
when you spend money on your family is charity.
So when I go back home, if I take my you know some gifts for my family, but keep a gift from my wife or I take a gift for my daughters, or after school on Monday when I take my daughters out for ice cream after school,
That's all charity that's
I'm eating ice cream.
you know, you have to see the beauty and how we live in this way of life that has been given to us. And literally the list goes on and on and on.
Number two, so first of all, know your intention.
This and we talked about first and foremost, respect the boundaries.
Number two, know your obligations, which you are asked and obligated to do. And number three, have the right intention. If you can put those three things together, you're eating, you're sleeping, you're spending time with your family, you're hanging out with your buddies, if you're hanging out with the guys, I'm playing ball when you play basketball tonight. All right. And if your intention is to be in good company and to avoid bad things that might be going on, on
Actually, my travel buddy actually
knows about that.
So when you're trying to keep good company, you're playing ball.
Like you're playing ball, it's a good time, It's lots of fun. All right. And then when you're just simply doing it to be in good company and stay away from some bad activity.
daughters are foreign too. So I have a very different idea of what y'all do all the time. Right. So but whatever it is
some charity, that's a practical way of life is so practical assignments. And so that's those are the basic guidelines. Now a few things to hold on to like I said, so I hope it kind of is redundant, but this is what the what would an Arabic is called the cruel hotspot and after you mentioned something generally speaking, I respect the obligations that are put upon us then specifically I'd like to mention something from that
because the difference between saying my intention is good and I do everything for a while I do everything to please Allah saying that and living better students are things you got to back it up
so I can be living my life however I want I don't ever prayed for the competition aka the competition apparently to me means go back to sleep Go back to sleep. Right
means continue to watch again continue to watch the game right if I live my life in that way. Like Bro, I have good intention hunger, love soccer baby all the time.
That's that's a false claim now.
And so why is most basic.
And even outside of that outside of just backing up what you're saying? salon is the primary means of way of maintaining your relationship with the law. I said this in the previous session, I'll say it here again, the profit.
summarize it best. He said when Kappa does so it will do. For the lady half of your whosoever will be irresponsible about the prayer will be more even more irresponsible about everything else in his or her life. Why from a nice coffee? Or be a goofy? Because somebody who doesn't have the decency to be good to his Lord is master Allah, the One who created him feeds and maintains him sustains him provide for him, then how Why would you ever expect that person to be good to anybody else?
That person hasn't shown any character, a person has some substance. So the thing that we really got to be particular about is our song. And like I said, there's varying degrees. If you're struggling with it five times a day, take that minimal recommendation I just gave you and start somewhere. If you're already breaking that down to me. Now let's try to add a little something to that.
Trying to make time for an extra two accounts.
And once you get there, let's try to focus a little bit more on your quality, endless LinkedIn your reputation a little bit, let's add a little something to it. But those that's for varying degrees for varying levels, wherever you're at, you can continue to kind of push yourself a little bit harder, a little bit higher.
The third thing that I want to talk about here is
finding our way back to a less path.
A less kind of another one of the three first things he taught us to do about Serato stepping before I even taught us to identify the optimal stopping before he told us how to live on South Island was something before he taught us how to walk on set up into something the first thing allowed us to do was
what comes first. So not gonna need an attorney or something which will come first
Sunday school question which one comes first?
That's what comes. First we ask them, just ask Allah, Oh Allah, I'm trying to do the best that I can. Or like, you know, my heart's in the right place. I'm trying my best to have lunch. It doesn't have to be some form or
talk to a lot means watch a lot converse with a lot when somebody is sitting there. And he's growing old and his wife has become old and they're feeling lonely. And they're staring death in the face. He didn't sit there and say, Oh, God, please bestow upon me some offspring. I mean,
it's at the beginning of sort of idea. He's probably in the
So look at me here. My bones are falling apart.
Will shadow rock shoe shaver, my head is going white.
A lot every single time, Lord, every single time I ever asked you for anything, you always took care of.
Getting to the way in
he just talked to God. He seemed to say, Look, my pronouns are falling apart.
My hair is going white, I'm dying here.
I just want a child.
I want somebody that I can pass off my wisdom to.
I want somebody that can carry on this legacy. He talked to him, he cried. He spoke to him. That's his personal, intimate, it's honest, open, pour your heart out in front of the CEO. Well, I you know, I want to be a good person. I'm trying my best to be a good person. I am a good person.
I'm struggling a little bit and kind of managing and balancing everything all up. But you can make it easy for me.
you know what's the one who are guaranteed that is always accepted and never rejected, you know what it is?
It's a draw for guidance. Where do
we ideally need to offer guidance is never rejected by a loss.
So we've gone through a lot and asked a lot to facilitate to make it easy. And remember the rule of asking for each other is
in a heartbeat. Imagine
that the profits upset Monday Muslim Yes, any law you have the body, somebody who doesn't ask Allah, Allah is actually upset with that person is angry with the person who does not begging does not ask for a lot. There's a beautiful poet airpo which is a lovely up though, in darkness, wha hoo. Either mahina use
that Allah is actually angry with the person with you when you stop asking him while the human being when you asked him is upset with you. But why is upset with you when you stop.
And then finally, remember, believe for the
while there is we talked about the balance and that there's no separation between the two for the believer, but at the end of the day one after the other is better. And we live for the opposite I would strive for. And when when that difficult moment comes in your life where you do have to choose one over the other. You got to make that critical choice in that critical decision. Always give preference.
Because you won't you won't ever regret that decision.
Really appreciate everyone's patience and focus and time and also apologize to the organizers.
Right now, we're on a little bit of a timetable. So we're going to start
to practice everything.
Right now, we're on a little bit of a timetable. So we're going to start